Pinkys CORNER

Marriage is often filled with dreams, hope, and expectations. For many couples, one of those dreams is to have children and build a happy family. However, for some, months turn into years, and the joy of welcoming a child does not come as expected. 

The journey of waiting for the fruit of the womb can be one of the most painful experiences a couple may ever face.

At the beginning, people ask innocent questions like, “When are we coming for the naming ceremony?” or “When will you give us good news?” The couple may smile and laugh, but deep inside, those questions can sting. As the years go by, the questions become more frequent and sometimes more hurtful.

Family members may begin to put pressure on the couple. Some parents become impatient and start suggesting different treatments, prayer houses, or traditional remedies. In some cases, relatives blame the woman alone, forgetting that fertility challenges can involve either partner. 

The woman may be called names or made to feel inadequate, while the man may face criticism for not having a child to carry on the family name.

Friends can also unknowingly add to the pain. Every baby shower, child dedication, or birthday party can remind the couple of what they are longing for. While they genuinely celebrate with others  which I personally have experienced several times  they often return home carrying silent tears. Sometimes, friends stop inviting them to certain gatherings because they don’t know what to say, leaving the couple feeling isolated and forgotten.

Neighbours may gossip and spread rumours. Some whisper that something is wrong with the couple. Others offer unsolicited advice or make insensitive comments without understanding the emotional burden the couple already carries. A simple greeting can easily turn into a painful conversation about children.

Behind closed doors, many couples cry, pray, and struggle with disappointment. They may spend money on medical tests and treatments, travel from one hospital to another, and search for answers that seem impossible to find. 

The emotional stress can affect their happiness, confidence, and even their relationship. Yet, despite all the pressure, many couples continue to hold on to hope. They support each other, trust in God, and believe that their story is not over. What they need most is not judgment or constant questioning, but love, understanding, encouragement, and prayers.

As a society, we must learn to be kinder. We never truly know the battles people are fighting in private. A couple waiting for the fruit of the womb deserves compassion, respect, and support  not pressure, gossip, or blame. Sometimes, the kindest thing we can do is simply stand with them, love them, and allow them to walk their journey with dignity and hope. But NO . our society often chooses to make life even harder for them.

May the Lord answer everyone (myself included) who is patiently waiting on Him for the fruit of the womb. Amen. 

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