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UNBELIEVEABLE BUT TRUE
I got married a few months ago after dating for a short time.....My mother in law is Godsent and the best thing that ever happened to me but my father is outwardly like my mother in law but he is making passes at me..
I thought i was imagining it but it isn't imagination.
He has done everything to let me know and now i know..
I told him that i would tell my husband and he said my husband would not believe and that if i try it, my marriage would be destroyed.....He is correct. My husband dots on his father and telling him such would be disastrous.....
The family will tear apart and probably unite against me..My mum in law would hate me for trying to spoil their home.
So what do i do? Should i avoid going over to their house when there is family event? what if they come visiting? I dont know how to handle this and need advice.
My husband is a good man and i dont want anything to break my marriage. He is God sent after several heart breaks.
What do i do....Stella please dont give your funny bad advice today...
This is the worst thing that can happent o any woman but hey there is hope...become military like in your marriage and stop being weak...look him eyeball to eyeball and tell him that you are unavailable and would rather kapi than have anything to do with him.....Avoid being alone with him and when the whole family is gathered, act shocked after a fake phone call and begin to tell them a story of your friend who just called to say her father in law was asking her out and she wants to tell the whole family and that you advised her to report to her mum in law...watch reactions and it will help you know if this is a serial one and everyone knows....Add that there is a juju in your village that kills father in laws that attempt it and that you are so happy you have a responsible father in law.......try this and see!
Lol @ Stella's advice. Makes sense though
ReplyDeleteWith today's technology and the internet age, it's hard to understand why you're still saying your husband won't believe you unless he sees evidence. Simply record the incident and share the evidence. That would clear up any doubts.
ReplyDeleteFather in-law? Are you sure he is your husband real father? Things dey occur o
ReplyDeleteMy advice is, try and make sure your phone is on standby recording whenever you are alone with him. Start saying things like... please sir, you cant do this to your own biological son who adores you so much. I love my husband and can never imagine cheating on him not to talk of with his own father. This is a taboo sir. why are you trying to frustrate me out of my very young marriage. Is there anything I did wrong to you. you are like a father to me and that is how I see you.
Make sure you give him room to talk so the recorder can pick whatever he says
You cant stop attending their family events because your mum in-law may not be happy with that and it will end up putting a strain in your relationship with her. Just make sure you don't give him any eye contact and nothing brings you in a close contact that will give him room to talk with you. Always be in your husband company when he is around. whatever you chose to do, don't be rude to him or insult him because the heart of a man is dangerously wicked. you might not know what he is planning from his end. You need to be safe and be alive
ReplyDeleteYour chronicle just reminded me of a big secret I have chosen not to reveal to my aunty. my aunty brought me to Lagos so I will do everything to protect her marriage. Her husband who is a pastor was making advances on me till one day I was sleeping and this man came to start kissing me. Me that never knew any man then. my aunty is the kind of person no matter what you tell her, she will still remain in that marriage and you will be the one that will be thrown out
ReplyDeletePoster, make do with this information as you please. Informing his family will do you no good since you haven't had a child for them. you will end up loosing your marriage
Hmmm. Same happened to me years ago. My aunt's husband almost raped me, he tore my clothes but thank God he didn't succeed. Never told anyone about it cos his wife loves him and that would have tore the family apart. Be was actually a very good person but I don't know what came over him. He begged me and never attempted it till he passed
DeletePoster start keeping evidence, keep records it will vindicate you in the future
ReplyDeleteThis your matter tie gele.
ReplyDeleteHe confidently knows that he would feel no consequences for the act he is performing, hence his boldness.
Can I tell you something?
This man will use any means available to get into your pants.
Could be grape or jazz and even turn it against you.
They might even be a family of weirdos.
Your sure bet now is to record whenever he comes talking about it again.
First play the recordings to him and tell him if he does not stop you will play it to your husband and MIL.
There is nothing prayer cannot handle, since he is hell bent on destroying your peace, pray that God will cause him to lose interest in you.
ReplyDeleteYou will be surprised how God will answer your prayers.
Avoid visiting except if necessary. And never be alone with him, except when unavoidable. In such situation, find a way to record your conversations, and when you have gathered enough proof, tell your husband: showing evidence.
ReplyDeleteTry record it the next he acts like a dog.
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ReplyDeleteYour father inlaw's behavior is wrong. For now, never be alone with him. If there are family gatherings, stay where everyone is.
My dear keep a private record. You may never need it, but it is wise to have it.
When the time is right, prayerfully consider talking to your husband. Don't present it as an attack on his father, simply tell him the truth about what has been happening and how uncomfortable it has made you feel. A loving husband will protect his wife. A marriage built on trust is stronger than one held together by silence and intimidation.
I pray God grants you wisdom to handle this difficult situation.