She also questioned why some Christian men believe church sisters do not deserve gifts or thoughtful gestures while being pursued.
She said: “This is a very funny topic, but it is one that we actually need to discuss.
Why do church brothers think church sisters don’t require gifts?. What about this low-effort thing you put into wooing or pursuing a woman?.
Church brothers would say, "God told me you are my wife. God sent me to you".
God can send you, but using spiritual language to mask emotional laziness is a distortion of God’s character. Saying, "God told me you are my wife", is not an excuse to bypass intentionality and practical effort."
Tonto Which one be this? Did the sisters complain? When they are busy gbenshing the main Pastors who gifts them things...LOL
I know plenty Pastors using the word of God to gbensh sisters...talk about that instead...LOL
Sis you slept with many Pastors, did their wives call u out? List dey o
ReplyDeleteAny woman who believes a man who said God 'told' him she is his wife is a fool. That's the call card of lazy, low effort men seeking to avoid putting in the work to properly woo a woman.
ReplyDeleteI'm shocked there are men who still use such dirty tricks and I am even more shocked there are women who believe that.
Stella you are saying the opposite.
ReplyDeleteShe didn't mean those that 'gbensh'. What she meant is those brothers that don't woo or toast a woman, instead they use this words' God told me you are my wife ' to toast women.
What she is talking about is toasting not gbenshing .
And nothing is wrong for a brother to be in a relationship so far he is ready for marriage
Stella you don kukuma scatter the remaining table
ReplyDeleteYour red pen is the real gist
Tonto is right.
ReplyDeleteChurch brothers either as suitors or spouses always do the barest minimum in every aspect including intimacy(in marriage).