During a conversation about the hidden financial weight that marriage can place on men, Freeze pointed out that some unions come with extra layers of responsibility, especially when the woman is the first child in a family that is not financially stable.
He explained that in many homes, the firstborn daughter often carries the emotional and financial burden of her parents and younger siblings and when such a woman gets married, her husband may unintentionally inherit those obligations.
Freeze didn’t mince words, stating:
“As a struggling man, don’t marry firstborn daughter from a poor home unless you are extremely wealthy.”
Responsible first daughters are indeed blessings to the family. I am a witness to this and can boldly say that they are usually strong and hold siblings together. My eldest sister exhibits that leadership trait. May God continue to bless every hard-working woman out there, and most especially first daughters. They are the pillars of the home.
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Freeze is low key encouraging Gold digging men just like himself.
DeleteNa who get money con get conscience dey carry family along. In my own family na our third son God blessed first and he took care of all of us including our first daughter.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you Fan.
DeleteIn my own case, it was our first daughter that God blessed first and she took care of all of us.
My sister you are right oooohhh!! My story looooong.
DeleteFor my family, na the 3rd born. 2 before am, 2 behind am. And e get money. But for wiaaaa??? If e give you 1 naira, you go do thanksgiving. Very selfish, even outside of money. You go beg am "give me this contact make I submit CV or proposal". For where? E go frustrate you until you stop asking. Like, you will feel rubbish for asking repeatedly and chasing up and down. I come think say abi e just likes the attention.
If no be say I dey hardworking, I for see weeeeing. Because that year wey I ask, na so so family drama: "everyone should work hard for their money". Money wey na marriage you take enter am? Na so I wash hand oh tell am "sorry oh". I give am space, think my life. Na me never see rich man marry make e package and connect me abi? Isokay. I wish you well.
As I dey hustle, ppl think say na im dey contribute to my progress, not knowing say na me and God. So I just focused and gradually, things are looking up for me. I know she is feeling bad that she did not help when I needed, but I also believe say na so God want am, so that I won't feel indebted to anyone. Because I can be too grateful for little things sometimes.
Now she don dey ask say make we collaborate "we are all entrepreneurs at heart" talk put here, talk come there. I no say *pim*. And you know say when you don do public display, you no fit reverse wetin you talk. So e no fit go meet pops tell am to convince me. E don see say I dey make progress and e wan distract me with capital wey e no carry come that time wey I dey beg. I don tell God say I would rather continue my small operations than to tie myself in anything wey go cause me family drama again. Next agenda na to buy house put my parents (in my name of course), as she no gree do na. Then I secure my own, then relocate abroad and put mine up for rent or air b n b.
My people, focus in life oh! Make them no use you write poem. It has taken me longer, but no problem. We move regardless.
Adviser isonu,hope you're not a father to a girl child? Such myopic opinion. 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteYou might not like him but there is absoulute sense in what he said especially to we men.
Deleteto *us men
DeleteAlways yarning dust.
ReplyDeleteSon nko?
ReplyDeleteMake una shaa no make anyone go do pass him/herself shaaa
But some men are looking to make a difference in the world. Not everyone stingy and selfish. To assume that every Nigerian man is afraid of responsibilities is too much, speak for yourself.
ReplyDeleteInternet is meant to destroy families this era..... I pity who dey pick advise there 🤦♂️....
ReplyDeleteAnybody fit make am later
Anybody money still fit finish later bruv!!!
You no quick talk oh. My husband don marry me😂
ReplyDeleteYou go fear advice 🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteSome men are gold diggers. First born men from struggling families. Some 9f them look for wife that is financially settled then doeant take care of tge wife instead uses his money to care for his family only
ReplyDeleteWhat about First son's.
ReplyDeleteAnakogheri.
ReplyDeleteSee mindset!
ReplyDeleteWhy am I not surprised! 🙀
A man that turned his back on his own biological children can't be kind to anybody.
Wicked soul.☹️
Come to think of it, why will parents transfer their burden and responsibility to their first daughters
ReplyDeleteWell, I have seen last born daughters do much more than first born daughters, these things are not set in stone!
ReplyDeleteThank you.
DeleteWhatever suits him
ReplyDeleteWhat about first born sons??? Is it not a two way thing? So a wife should not be wary of a first born son Abi??? Double standards.
ReplyDeleteSame goes for men as well. I married a first son and he was more responsible for the mother than his first sister and last sister as a middle child, in the early days of our marriage and he was very supportive of me as a first daughter as well. It is about understanding. Everyone is now pulling their weights and their mother is enjoying now, than before though she is unsatiable but, everyone knows their boundary now.
ReplyDeleteOga freez what do you have to say about the current administration? Marriage expert. All of you are now mute
ReplyDeleteSo first born daughters from struggling home no suppose marry abi? Always yapping lubbish and nglidients.
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