One....Two...threesome....
Na wah!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE.
THREESOME
Hi Stella.. I am an avid reader of your blog. My story is very short, I have been seeing this guy for some months now.. We really love each other.. Some days back we were talking bout what we wish we could do and I said I would love to try a three some(not that I really wanted to), but now he insists that we must try it at least just once.
Says he's going to get a guy before the end of this week and after that we would get a girl.. Stella as adventurous and fun has it sounds I cant imagine him making love to another girl in my presence and i am sure it's going to ruin our relationship.. Please guys advice me.. And please Stella post my story please it's really important.. Thank you.
you wished for a threesome and he is about to make it come true?why didnt you wish to be a bride? Sex and everything it stands for is disrespected when you involve more than two people in the act.
I dont care how crazy you are,if you love yourself,please dont do it.
And please be careful of men who make your wildest sexual fantasies come true...ask yourself if he would allow this fantasy play itself out if you were his wife.....selah!
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NARRATIVE TWO
A SPOUSE WHO BLOWS HOT AND COLD
Dear Stella and Blog visitors,I am having issues with my wife and i have spoken to her about some of these issues a couple of times, but that itself is one of the issues - my wife hardly treats my concerns as priority so long as I have not started screaming my lungs out on the matter.
Besides, not paying attention to my concerns until I become visibly upset, here are the other issues:
- She mostly avoids body contacts except when we are going to have intercourse. The few times she initiates body contact, it can sometimes feel forced and aggressive like - "you must have this or else". She is stiff about me initiating a spontaneous hug or kiss. If I try to kiss her for example, she will turn a cheek at me or if I walk up to her in the kitchen and put my arms around her she puts on an air of "please be done quickly", and if I should linger with my arms around her for more than 5 seconds, she quickly lets me know she wants me to back off. It isn't because I have a bad breath or body odor because I have asked and checked. Besides, I'm pretty high on personal hygiene. Interestingly, when I give her pleasure in bed, she wants plenty of kisses and also wants me to hold her all night if possible. This makes me feel like I'm only wanted for specific things and outside that, I should keep my distance. When I do keep my distance, na so so complain about me ignoring her I get!
- When we are not together, like when at work, she will send chat messages with hugs and kisses, telling me severally that she loves me and misses me. When I am with her, the hugs, kisses and love talk all dry up. I am a bit of a romantic and I really want to be looking into my wife's eyes when sharing such moments. It means less to me when I only get to receive such via a cold app on a mobile device.
Are these behaviors normal in some women? Will it ever go away or get better? What ways can I help make a difference?
OK people, please be mild mannered in your responses. Looking forward to hearing some useful insights. Thanks guys.
Your wife sounds like someone that lacked love while growing up or has suffered some kind of abuse which has shut down her emotions.This is deep,please stop getting upset at her coldness and try to melt her heart.
All the best dear.
One man's meat is another man's poison. Ok will read. Comment
ReplyDeleteThis is so me! I. Ve never had a serious relationship bfor n wen I do,i end up being dumped or cheated on. So most times I don't know hw to handle a spouse tht is romantic. Am still waiting to be found by the way....
DeleteP:1 : ntorr 4 you.
DeleteP:1 - talk to God about it.
Stells,ur response to the 1st poster is perfect!infact u said it all,no need to advice her.
DeleteI hope poster and her bf are not druggie's,cos na them dey like try dose kind of things in the euphoria of heroine,cocaine or rochie'.
Poster 2,its possible that ur wife is shy of expressing love,but it's there!dose kinds of pple are even shy of calling their spouses pet names,watch it?maybe she's dat type.u just have to teach her and bring her out of the closet.
I totally agree with stella,dont get cross with,try and inderstand her and talk about it.i hope this will help you.
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Op 1 yipeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. DO IT, DO IT, DO IT! I'll give you tips. Front door and back door. Oh yeahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Thank me later
DeleteOp 2 Have you spoken to your wife in the manner which you wrote to Stella. If you convey your feels to her the way you have done, i dont think a good woman would continue to remain cold. Goodluck
Poster 2's case is the only treatable topic here.
DeleteDude what uv narrated is that of a woman who gets highly irritable at the sight of u. It has happened to me before.
In my own case it was a guy I dated as a spinster, I loved him initially, was fond of him, we were always together. In short he loved me in the greatest measure possible...more than I did him. But I noticed that I was getting choked by him. Yep. He was always in my face, touchy touchy and he started to irritate me.
I knew it was I who had the problem and I tried so hard to repair the feeling but failed until he noticed my gesture was full of resentment of him.
Even in bed I didn't want to be touched. I started to feel bad but couldn't help it. Mind u I was not cheating, cos some people may attribute your wife's behavioral deficiency to extra marital affair. No.
I later realised that I am not the kind of lady that likes clingy men. I am not attracted to passive men. I liked tough challenging men that would keep me on my toes. Not aggressive or abusive o, but men that won't really send but still love me anyway. So this guy was extremely passive and I became irritated by him. And eventually broke it off which nearly sent him to an early grave because he never expected it.
So sir, could this be you too? Perhaps you are too much in her face? Let her beg for your attention. Give her a mild punishment as a rebound to let her miss you even when you are physically present. I have learned to miss my man even when we are together. Yep. Try it too..give her the I don't care attitude and don't quickly revert at her first complaint.
If all else fails then your issue is a compounded one that only she can explain. Good luck
Poster #1 is not my issue here........ don't know what to say to her.
DeletePoster #2 the only person that has dropped a comment I agree with a little bit is Sisi Eko. I was exactly like your wife. Nobody should curse me out ooooo! I dated a dude a long time ago, he asked me out for almost 2yrs, I used to be repulsed by the sight of him, but he kept throwing his money at me, and I overlooked his irritating face, then we became normal friends...... anyways 2yrs later he's crying and telling me he's always loved me & he'll do anything for me. So I moved from friend to girlfriend. In his head he had won a trophy, I loved him bla bla bla. But lord I couldn't stand him, if he moves to kiss me I freeze, I don't even participate in the thing he noticed later and stopped (with him for a year and I never kissed him, it's amazing the dude felt I loved him), when he wanted to make love ahhhhhh I had to prepare myself mentally for it, I would close my eyes and try not to think of the act or see his face, then when he wanted to try other positions in my head i'd be like who the hell told you you're entitled to that??? I hated being touched or cuddled by him, PDA's were forbidden! Don't even fantasize about it. Simple truth was this, when I had a big monetary request coming I became a different person, ahhhhhh I would be hyper romantic send all the loving text msgs in this world, call him a billion times a day, let him touch me or cuddle for a part of the night (no day time tomfoolery) the day he's in town (we lived in the same state, but he worked somewhere else) I make love to him like an olympian (but still with my eyes closed, because no matter what was about to come my way he still repulsed me), I ensured that my request would immediately follow my Oscar award winning performance, so I don't have to keep up the charade for much longer, and then i'll go back to my normal repulsed self! I was happier away from him than around him. I stayed with him because of what he could offer & when he couldn't offer more I woke up one morning in January and stopped taking his calls. It almost killed him. Basically I was with him for what he could give me, but I never liked him (I never cheated). It's funny because we were genuine friends b4 we started dating, although he was my "rich friend that ensured I always had cash". Poster #2 just take a step back and examine your marriage, those her lovey dovey periods, see if they were accompanied by a request of some sort, or if after those loving sessions your heart was always filled with love and generosity that you felt inclined to bestow some huge material thing on ur wife!!! Because I have a strong feeling your wife is exactly like me. In that case she'll never love u. The love will only come when she keeps seeing material things. So u see with you saying you'd rather have her say those lovey dovey words while u guys look into each others eyes........ haaaaa you're asking for too much because when she's infront of you no matter how much you give her, her repulsion will be staring her right in the face.
First poster, yours is a case of be careful what you wish for. Oya drag your ear and repeat after me :YOU BETTER DONT DO IT.
ReplyDelete2nd poster: I am too embarrassed to say this but I am exactly what you describe and stella I DID NOT LACK LOVE. I Am not just a big fan of PDA, I might send the flirtiest text but when I see you I will just be looking like 1 okan. I'm even glad I am not the only one.
No be PDA na, even inside d house,shes cold towards him
DeleteLmao....na real one okan
DeleteMake I read comments
DeleteOh my gosh me too..its soo embarrasing..my ex actually called me frigid.jeeeez..lemme wait for comments oo
Delete@poster no2;nothing is wrong with your wife..some women are not just the "sex" type and likewise most men. Just try to understand her and definitely you both would live happy together..just dont take it to far that she might be cheating or doesnt love you etc..its just in her nature and no matter how much "kisses nd hugs" she sends to you via social apps;she might just remain "there" when you two are together..respect her feeling alldsame..#good-luck
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@MARTINS ABOY
I respect your honest contribution. Its obvious your husband understand you and I pray ur contribution help the man complaining o. Oga just thank God for your woman o and please enjoy every moment she tend to give you attention. Hopefully she will change some day.
DeleteI am also ashamed to say I act exactly as the 2nd poster. My hubby has tried all and now calls me stiff. I have to say Stella is right, I didn't grow up in a loving home and when I see people laughing or very happy, I sometimes wonder what is wrong with them.
DeleteStella, nothing is wrong with poster 2's partner jor. Im sorta like that and i didnt get abused neither did I lack love. Dude, its normal. No give urself headache.
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DeleteMartins it is not only about sex. It's a general issue as he narrated. It's kind of complex cos I was like her too.
Deleteyoung lady. u got wat u asked for< u dont use such comments to play wit ur bf.. JST TELL HIM U DONT LIKE IT AND DAT U WERE JOKING
ReplyDeletefor scenerio 2....it's simple, your wife is cheating on u n u re obviously irritating her....she wasn't like this from the beginning na...read d writing on d wall.
ReplyDeleteHaha @ anon.
DeleteThis is so me. Feels like it's my hubby writing. I know it's wrong but it's like there's always something holding me back.
I love being on my own. Hate body touching.
Even now. I derive so much joy sleeping alone. Always happy whenever hubby is not in town.
Gbam!
DeleteMay God hav mercy on ur soul
DeleteOh pls anon. His wife might not be cheating. U pple shd stop saying things u Dnt knw. Yes! Poster I am just like ur wife. Attimes d cuddling cmes at d wrong time
DeleteExactly! Wifey may be tired and irritated from house chores and all.
DeleteDear anonymous, na your type they break homes. See how fast you came up with that messed up reply. May God forgive you. Alakoba oshi.
DeleteI just knew people would conclude that she's cheating. Lol.
DeleteThreesome or orgies are for sexually adventurous and trust binding couples.
ReplyDeleteLife is too short.
Sometimes, you dive in
And explain later.
Ok bye!
Madam threesome, you cause wahala, you are running away. Tell him to give you N5 million and you will agree to the threesome lets see what he will say.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, initiate discussion with your wife am sure something must have happened to her before. she is trying to make herself relevant to you. Abi she be sister mary
Lol @ abi she be sister mary.
DeleteMaybe d man has given this type of atitude to her before so she is just paying him back in his own coin
Madam threesome ur wish had been granted but trust me dat guy will never marry u after this dirty act, do he would watch his friend bang hell outta u and u expect him to put a ring on, u are a dreamer, can't understand y some women are so stupid, after all d advice on this blog u still want such stupid adventure, if u are looking for adventure y not go to Sahara desert.
ReplyDelete@2, I think ur wife had emotional problem, stop stucking her, allow her miss u, do less romance am sure she will come to u, but u knew all this before u married her abi.
Am nt sure he is "stucking"her
DeleteP1...u r a fuck toy to him now..by the d time 2 guys r done digging ur insides, u will know dat what is good for d goose is not always good for d gander. P2 if ur wife doesn't like it, come naaa..hehehehee let's swap roles..(kidding) anyway talk to her...if u guys wanna live like queen Eliza n Philip, no wahala.
ReplyDeleteSome ladies are just naturally cold when it comes to display of affections...Yes they love you but are just not affectionate...I know this cos i have a friend who's like that...To get to them you have to be 100% a playful person..
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ReplyDeleteYou need to dump his black behind, he will not marry you.
He is looking for an ashy. Will he allow his. Mother or daughter do such? No
Nuisance somebody.
I hate it when men try to impose their perversions on women and pass it off as no biggie.
Borrow Husein's legs and bolt.
N2
Maybe she is not so into you.
Married you to become a Mrs
A woman that is attracted to you will not do all this to her man.
#note: maybe being the operative word.
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Your comment on the 1st post is so not on point, try and reread the write up.
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Hmmm...dis one pass me ooo
ReplyDeleteShuoooo aunty stella sumtimes I just wonder hw u get d right thing to say at every issue,poster 2 u got ur answer.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, you say your guy loves you but you don't seem worried about him wanting to share your body with another man. And have you played the scenario of how he will ask the other guy to come and have sex with you? Will he describe you as a woman he loves? I don't think so.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, your relationship is over.
Poster 2, buy your woman a vibrator. Suck her nipples while she's using it. Thank me later.
Lol vibrator ke? I bow for u o
DeleteBusybody, the guy didn't complain about sex, he said hugs, kisses and touching his wife. Romance is different from sex.
DeleteAnon 2:19, ur head dey there. Poster 2 I can be like ur wife at times to my hubby expecially when he made me angry. Pls make sure u guys have good communication in ur marriage and pls be patient wth her. She will come ard. Good luck.
DeleteIf the poster 1 marry that man na to begin do 3some with house girl for house. Nonsense
DeleteNarr 1- Please do not try it, it might cause problems for you in the future. Be wise
ReplyDeleteNarr 2- Your wife probably passed through some form of abuse etc rape,rejection and these has instilled fear in her.Please talk to her and let her know your concerns maybe she'd open up.Also commit your relationship to God.
It is well
Ahhh!!! Rape ke....lol. Fear God ooo!!!!!!! See as you they talk am like say you they talk about butter. Hmmm, it is well. Poster 2, na you sabi the kain reply you they find. Lol
DeleteNarrative 1: You're a fool. God forgive me, make I backslide small. You're retarded. Your madness is out of this world. Who jokes with threesome as a fantasy. In fact you're sick, deficiente!
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2: Take it to Jesus. He has the solution.
number one
ReplyDeleteu are daft
#teamDec14
ma dear aunty stella has said it all.....
ReplyDeletePoster 1- A man that loves/cares for you won't encourage you to do such. Sounds like you won't mind if it were a man that is being invited but you cant imagine another woman with your man. Girl pls dont try both else you lose the man.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - Show her more love, dont do what she doesn't want. she will warm up to you later.
Lastly, abeg SDKers, i dey beg biko. As in i seriously dey beg and hustle for votes. Make una vote for boo and I. I be ur own person for here o. http:/woobox.com/dymgeb/vote/for/5292277. Thank you all.
Poster 1 u r not a girlfriend, some whore b thinking they r main chicks, seen a whore who said and I quote, I gave him everything and when I was leaving his hotel room I met some1 going into same room.... he for wait for u? and u wll be consoling urself saying I suffered with him ooh... don't get it twisted u r just another of his numerous bitches, fuck ooh na so them h
DeleteTo no 1 I wonder what you were thinking? How on earth do u think a man will be okay to have a guy make love to his girl right in front of him when we know how they find it hard forgiving infidelity issues that didn't happen in their presence Abeg just tell him that U were joking and u can even form anger unto say he agreed to such a thing. @ No 2 continue showing her love and also try talking to her to let her know how you feel about the whole stuff and also try to know her own feeling with time everything will be okay
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ReplyDelete.
This one strong....
*GLO BRING 3G TO KONTAGORA*
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
N1: Jesus come already.
ReplyDeleteThe world has spoilt finish.
Gosh
For crying out loud : this guy has no respect for you. For him to be that serious, he must be cheating.
Both of you need Jesus.
We are still talking about abstaining from fornication and your now doing three some.
Wow
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N2: Oga, really talk to her. And pray about it. And be patient. You can ignore her and when she starts complaining, you open up to her. That way, she is receptive. And ready. Remember we all have our baggages and so be a bit patient.
You sound like a good and faithful man.
I wish you the best.
@ Poster one: DON'T DO IT. Why in the world do you even have such fantasy? I don't mean to judge you but if you respect your body as a woman, one man on top of you pounding away at your flesh is more than enough! Two guys at a time? Like are you for real?? The women that do that nonsense get paid a lot of money for it - Its called PORNO.
ReplyDelete@Poster two: Your wife has built walls around her probably as a result of her past or her upbringing. Take time to slowly tear down those walls. It will be worth it. He who has a cap has no head and vice versa. Some women will kill for their husband to be that romantic,
You have no idea the type of sexual fantasies people plan and execute in this world. Threesomes are common fantasies, some women have gang bang fantasies, rape fantasies(seriously) not to talk of all the bdsm fantasies that exist.
DeletePoster 1: Hain, three some for boyfriend matter nd u dey fear, *Slaps you* does he feed your family? Abi wetin dey fear u? If he request for anal, I gux u wld mail stellawi again. Wot you won't accept in marriage, don't accept in relationship. Kapish?
ReplyDeletePoster 2: your wife like midnight romance, you know, all doz kain peeps dat likes making love in darkness.
*I don waka abeg*
*Ayah Shehu*
See enjoyment......narrative 1......I hope d guy wen dem go bring come no go tear your yansh....that your boyfriend no be better person at all.....which kind levels?
ReplyDelete@Galore
Hope he wnt even film d act with a camera, poster 1 be wise, this ona fantasy sef I no understand y u wNt threesome , he wnt marry u n evenif u dnt want marriage, he might blackmail u later, use ur head
DeleteTo the second blog visitor, just take her out often, go in a romantic vacation with her, watch Romantic comedy movie alone in the. Also you need to adjust with your romantic gesture. Maybe u like that one "u know what i'm talking about" too much and she is tired. Ladies are not that difficult, something must have happened in the past.
ReplyDeleteAwwww...narrative two seems like such a nice husband..have you tried talking to her about it, was she like that before the wedding?
ReplyDeleteNarrative 1, be careful what you wish for, coz you just might get It all plus some you don't want.
Poster one, that's so crude. Better walk out of that relationship now. What is it with people? You aren't even saying that you can't do it because it's wrong, rather, you can't do it because you can't stand him doing another girl in your presence.... I can't deal jare.
ReplyDeletePoster two,awwww, I love romantic men.....Ok, let her know this is how you are feeling. There is power in communication. A quick example, When I gave birth, my husband didn't hv sex with me for a month, because I had ceaserian section. I could see the hunger in his eyes so when I was ready, we continued our sex life. I think the baby was making me too tired that my sex spirit was weakened. In the third month, he sat me down and told me I was sex starving him,that when we have sex, he feels I'm just waiting for him to come, which was happening to me at that time and I told him I didn't know he felt that way, and now, he tells me, yes, my wife is back to herself.
What I'm saying is this, maybe she doesn't know you feel that way.
Mrs D....In my own case my hubby was scared sex will affect d surgery sire..After 2 months fa! I almost raped him...na small e remain..lol. I just explained to him as the doctor using plenty medical terms that we can get back in the sack o. Sharply sharply sef
DeleteSo true Mrs D. I remember mine too o. I also had CS for my first. I won't forget one night that my sis came to help me out in the house. I think my baby was just 2weeks old at the time.
DeleteBut unlike u, me I wanted sex badly o. So my plan that day was to leave the baby with sis in the other room while hubby and I knock ourselves out.
But for some reasons my sister and the baby slept off in my bedroom. My hubby and I's... so for my mind am like we can go to another room but realised we had other guests around. was angry.
So me I sha laid down with sis and the baby and hubby came and joined us on the bed o. Yea it's big enough. Na so I was using style to get my sis to leave the room, this bitch refused to understand lol.
Meanwhile I was high like mad I don't know what came over my hormones that night. I refused to answer her questions, gave her attitude tire, even said ah, this bed is somehow I wanna stretch out, forming being inconvenienced.. rather than my sis to get up, na my hubby kukuma say let me leave u ladies on the bed I'll go downstairs. I was like no boo u can stay, he said no let me allow u stretch well. Home boy didnt get d message bcos on a good day he chases me around for it. Dayummm no show. Ok bye
Eyyya...pls endure....I believe she will get better....I think she prefers phone chat sex than the real deal....so u too chat her up.....
ReplyDeleteIf una don dey inside una room..as u dey for ur own corner of bed...pick your phone and send her message like:
Husband:....hi sweetheart
Wife...... Hello love
Husband......I want us to have sex tonight
Wife...... Let's do that via the phone pls
Narrative number 2
@Galore
@Galore u dey craze bwhahahhahahahahahaha.
DeleteEyyya...pls endure....I believe she will get better....I think she prefers phone chat sex than the real deal....so u too chat her up.....
ReplyDeleteIf una don dey inside una room..as u dey for ur own corner of bed...pick your phone and send her message like:
Husband:....hi sweetheart
Wife...... Hello love
Husband......I want us to have sex tonight
Wife...... Let's do that via the phone pls
Narrative number 2
@Galore
Hahahahahahaha @Galore I have tried so hard to ignore this your madness but it just gets worse everyday. Funny you having telephone sex in the room. Lol
DeleteA woman that loves you will find a way to show u. If she doesn't show u in anyway then that's the real issue. My dh smokes, I'm disgusted with the lingering smell Whether or not he brushes. BUT I love him and show him in many ways but kissing.
DeleteGive her cold shoulder treatment till she breaks. Don't be harsh but teach her a lesson else you'll be a slave in your marriage.
Women ehn we are too selfish
@poster2... I am not married tho but i have a feeling she might be shy or sumfin.... dts y she is only comfortable during sex and when she is at d office... was it like this from when u guys strtd dating?if it was then no point complaining...just keep trying ur best to make her do those things...hopefully she will get there..
ReplyDeleteposter1...Do not try it...i repeat dont dare! why would someone that wants a future with u want to jeopardize ur relationship that way? Tell him u were only kidding abeg!
@xclusiv
poster one: please can u explain wat u mean by ' not that I really wanted to' ? sister please don't deceive yourself, you want to do it and anything you say here won't Stop you. another thing I noticed in your write up is that you can't stand seeing him making out with another girl in your presence but u can make out with a guy in his presence? girl all I got to tell you is JUST SAY GOOD BYE TO THE RELATIONSHIP the moment you agree on it. am kinda pissed self, he asked for a wish and the only thing u wished for is THREESOME!?. when u can wish for a Ferrari! *opens eyes*
ReplyDeleteStella has said it all
ReplyDeletePoster 2: You have to take your time with her,don't scream at her. She probably wasn't brought up with showing love physically.
For example, I have never hugged my mum or kissed her head,it sounds awkward to me.The first time my mum hugged me for passing my uni entrance exams, I felt like entering into the ground,it was somehow i cant explain.Whereas stuffs like that is normal to some of my friends.We were wired differently
Just try to take things slowly and gently.
Poster1: Too much porn and sex movies dey disturb you.You and guy shld get a life. Any man planning such an act is definitely not a responsible one. His lack of self- respect, honour and dignity is obvious and it clearly reflects who you are too. A whore.
Very irresponsible man wey want threesome nd d poster sef I no understand ur ways
Delete#1 abeg do d 3some jare...I don do 2 guys n one girl,2 guys 2 girls(swappin partners) but I never do menage a trois wit 2 ladies b4,I go like do am(just to fulfill righteousness abi na evil fantasy I go call am)...babes,as long as ur man wants it..do it jor,but an average naija guy go bail on u wen it's time to settle down o,but ur man cld be different sha
ReplyDeleteBitchplis adviser of d universe
Delete@ poster 1but why wld u av mentioned sth like dat well all d same try to avoid it cos it just going to destroy ur relationship @ poster 2 u need to be patient $ try to figured out d problems. Probably she's going through some trauma or she's been disturbed by psychologically. I wld suggest counseling
ReplyDeletetake her to MFM for deliverance. mbok.
ReplyDeletePoster One
ReplyDeleteThreesome is cool, especially if you are the adventurous type. Its on my bucket list but I would advise you wait until you are married. The christian sisters here would advise you against it. My advice is live and let live. I suggest two girls and a guy, outside nigeria and should be on your terms.
Poster 2
I am like that too, I only like body contact while I am it. I am also a talker. I can send messages for Africa. But when I am round the person, I shut him off or I get engrossed with my phone or laptop. Communication is the key, talk to her and ask her what her reasons are, then start touching gradually not for too long. Touch her hair, peck her on the cheeks and forehead, grab her ass. After awhile she would get used to it. If she doesn't, she is probably not that into you. PH GAL
N1. Hian! I'm against threesomes(twosomes' sef is complicated enough). I thought wishes in serious relationships will include spiritual, financial and familial progression. Are you sure he loves you? I thought when a guy loves a woman there'll be an atom of jealousy at least. This one he's willing to share.......?
ReplyDeleteN2. I'm as confused as you are. Bloglord will know better
Poster 2...your wife loves you.
ReplyDeletePoster 1...why don't you add an animal into the threesomes making it three and half some.
Nwa nzuzu.
I can't deal mehn
I miss the queen...Linda
Jayem dear...where do i send your kisses to?
XOXO MYSTERY
Yes o. I miss Linda too. Nnem Linda u never finish ur xmas season? Loolz. Xoxo my blog "crunch" how body?
DeleteQueen and Boss Linda!!!!
DeleteNne wey u naa????
Stella pls if u have Linda's contact Biko check to make sure she's ok abeg
poster 2, try and sit your wife down and ask her what her problem is and how you can help her. Don't forget to knee down and pray for God to intervene. .............PEACE
ReplyDeleteN1, any man that truly loves you won't want to share you with another man, you mean he has agreed to bring in another man and he will be present while the other guy is ducking you???!!! Are you a runs girl? I ask because no decent girl will agree to that. Yes be your boyfriend or hubby's whore in the bedroom but this one pass MOI. N2, i am tempted to tell you your wife doesn't love you. I hope say she no dey cut show for conner?
ReplyDeleteFirst poster. If u know wats gud 4 u, u had better opt out of dat stupid arrangement. A guy dat can stand another guy sleeping with his lady obviously has no love/respect for her.
ReplyDelete2nd poster. There's a diff btw loving sum1 and being in love wif sum1.
Ur wife is not in love wif u.
Trust me, wen a woman is in love, she can't hide it.
It's possible she loves him but not used to that kind of display of affection
DeleteNarrative 1. You must be a Very Foolish Idiot. Nonsense bastard. What won't we see on this blog. Anumamu.
ReplyDeletePoster 1- your wishes have come true, now it has turned a problem.
ReplyDeleteYou see why they say careful what you wish for?
Tell him you were joking and can't share him with anyone else.
Poster 2-some things about you annoys her hence she is faking the love. Its easier to love from afar and DTS wehst she is doing. Try to meet her needs, understand her feelings. Give her love, comfort, affection and appreciate her efforts as a wife(and mother if u both have kids)
Do all these sand the love will be 100% original. From far and near.
All the best
For once i dont agree with u.. Poster 2... There's nothing wrong with ur wife i had the best of childhood, never molested or any of the stuff i hv read here am jst not a touchy touchy person.. unless am in the mood to mk out DH keeps his hands to himself.. i guess some of us are wired like that.. since u have talked to her and she hasnt changed well jst add it to ur list of 'for worse'..
DeletePoster 1.. Enjoy ur threesome.. u asked for it.. hope u know that relationship has no future bcos both of u are not serious.. unless u intend to be swingers..
Anyway I shouldn't say more because I have said it so many times on this blog and always happy to reiterate it whenever the opportunity presents itself. I am open to receiving innuendos and satires of any kind because I am trained to be a crap doler and receiver. It bothers me NOT. As for the other obnoxious attitudes you mentioned, BL, you and I know that a lot of us who visit this blog have disparities in our missions here. Thanks to GW who nailed that into my brain a while back and it stuck in my head. If u like switch to anonymous to carryout pranks...i no send u. Like I keep saying, this blog sweet die. And I enjoy it thoroughly.
DeleteAll hail the epistle writers...if you don't like the comments skip the hell over it. Even Ronalda is under attack these days. Lol. Oh and my dear Mrs Zulu too whom someone says is my "alter ego"..ahahahahh.... there goes my "ass kissing" ...So you see, these ass holes have no reasons to pick on anyone. Once you tell them your mind na to follow you remain. Cowardice at its peak.
Abeg Abeg abeg...like Stella said, insulting anyone doesn't mean they'll give anything. if you like call me a promise and fail na una sabi. Nigeria keeps promising and failing too so wetin? At any rate God in heaven sees this particular aspect, but I really don't give a gram of fuck (excuse me).
I know who I am and I know what I am capable of doing. Ain't nobody got time to prove shit on a faceless blogosphere. Like my grandma would say, a person who does not believe in, or trust a mortal that they can feel and touch and see, such can NEVER believe God who is immortal and invincible. Therefore, BL, let it slide and let's catch some fun ok? This matter is dead and gone!!
***shines teeth***
All i know Sisi Eko for is her intresting writting skills....
DeleteSisi Babi!! Why u dey rant na?? Who come be BL again??
Whatever it is should just go, ohk?? Lets all live in peace#
Joking ke? He would know it is a big lie....but try your luck. ..hehe. Let me tell you though, no man wants to have a 3some with his wife o....no man! especially with another man? u must be crazy girl!!! A crazy guy that even likes you would say a lady, and never a man....NEVER!!!! That guy doesn't love you....Be warned, and like BlogLord said, theres no future there...A stupid ex of mine fell in love with a girl and 2 times of having sex said no more sex till marriage....but the girl was busy knacking someone else and he got to know just by a stroke of luck. ...and so I asked him how he was able to handle not having sex even though he loved and desired her....and his answer was " because I wanted to marry her" Imagine....so I said so u fuck girls u don't want to marry anyhow eh? Now this is a mega player. ...Anyway jiri ire gi guo eze gi onu. ...use ur tongue to count ur teeth.
Deletetruth be told poster 2, your wife doesn't really love you....I was that way with an ex. He irritated me when he did all those stuffs, but when he was away, I sent messages and all cos I knew i'd hurt him by pushing him away..My mind was somewhere else, and the only time I was myself was when he made love to me cos I always pictured my lover was him..I liked him, but not enough....I'd even lie that i dont like cuddling...but with the one i loved. ..e remain small make I enter him rib cage sef. lol. I could be wrong about your wife though. like Stella said, she might have lacked love. ...Good luck. ..
BlogLord I greet you
Stella what happened na? U posted only the second part of my epistle to BL. Thus making me sound incoherent. Abeg leave my comment o. Na the season of talk ur mind we dey biko. Anyway it doesn't matter any more.
DeleteBL I read your opening remark on that post and I was just smiling through. I think my own rant go long pass ur own sef. You know what dear, now I suddenly realised that the core Sdkers that made me an addict have simply vanished. The reason isn't far fetched, the presence of some of the newbies, (which is not a bad thing by the way because we want Stella to grow), have simply diluted the originality of this blog with some obscure mannerisms. I dare say. I am happy to be picked on here...more-so misconstrued. I'm even happier to be perceived a 'fraud", laughable, I know...nd whatever else. What do I really care? My own is that whatever happens here people should learn to be TRUE to themselves first, then perhaps transfer transparency to others.
DeletePlease una help me ask one accidental anonymous person that has been speaking for Nuvi since this matter ehn. The person (I know who sha) kept pondering on the number of times Nuvi sent me a mail, how she take know?? And also said matter of factly that sisi eko kept ignoring her...how she take know again oo ??
There's a difference between trying to reach someone vs reaching them and them ignoring u. Because of this babe I was refreshing my mail like every hour, but dem say I dey avoid her. I dey owe? Lmao! Even Nuvi herself didn't know what I wanted to give, yet someone said, sisi eko pay Nuvi the money? Lmaoo. People should alleviate themselves of cheap bickering and unnecessary drama because some of us are adults.
Threesome is always fun bt d aftermat dats wat hurts so b careful. Remember not al naija men v brains to kw is jst to spice ur relatnshp up.
ReplyDeleteTake break frm work n travel wif ur wife...do romantic fins 2geda n renew ur vows afta sex since datz wen she is happi. Sumtymz women like dat v bin so abuse dat dey v no emotion anymore,she might nt tell u al abt her past bt plz mak her happi den u wil enjoy her.
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Poster 1...kpele ur own o..how can u tell ur guy u wish for a threesome and then u say u didn't really mean it. .God don catch u now..u better run for ur life if he's really serious about it. .just know ur relationship will never remain d same. .my fiancé used to be very wild and all that. .so some weeks ago his friend was telling him he had a three some. .I now asked my guy if he had ever done that. .He said he had never lied to me about his sex life and that he never did it and never wished for it cos he likes his privacy very much. .so that ur boyfriend na friends with benefit he go be soon if u guys do that. .abeg come and gist us when it's happens o. .
ReplyDeletePoster one, there is power in spoken words, what you wish for yourself is coming and you are regretting, for Christ sake , your bf ask you question and what came to your mind immediately is threesome, infact you are gone. Run to God and seek his face before its late,
ReplyDeletePoster 2 Biko hold your wife, I don't know is she the shy person? Some women are like that but I tell you, as time goes on she will stop, again sit her down and let her know the things that makes you unhappy ok, I believe she will change. Good luck
Poster 1: For daring to even mention the word"Threesome" as one of your fantasies, that guy may never wife you unless you both don't live in Africa. All he sees in you now is a sexually crazy girl with whom he can fulfill all his fantasies. When he is ready to settle down, he will look for a reason to dump you so be wise. If I were you, I will vehemently stand against the threesome ish and even threaten a breakup if he insist on capitalizing on a careless joke to defile your relationship. Don't you dare I repeat don't you dare succumb to that dirty act infact insist it was a joke and even feign anger if he dares mention it again otherwise be prepared to kiss him good bye after the act has been done.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:She is not crazily in love with you as you are with her. You know the things that make her happy so try to do them often. Take her out, hold her hand in public, make her know you are proud to have her as a wife. Don't stop with the romance but make her understand that it will be nice if she too could pay a little attention to your needs. If she has a best friend or someone she listens to confide in that person. Hopefully she'll realize how much you love and want to please her and start reciprocating.
Poster 2, pls let's swap spouses, your wife is just like my husband, infact, my husband is worse, while I am just like you.
ReplyDelete@poster 1, I don't know how some people think a times, you would like to try threesome? You no dey shame? U couldn't think of being a bride like aunty Stella said or think of something good to strengthen your relationship. I guess its not a serious relationship for you to have thought abt having three some with ur bf. What advice do you want us to give you now? Huh? Mtcheew
ReplyDeleteAbeg, this narratives pass me o. Make I siddon read comments. Stella , abeg shift for me.
ReplyDeletefunny how both cases relate with me....lol
ReplyDeleteDear poster #2
ReplyDeleteI think your wife is a shy person who only get her confidence when she is alone ie when you are not there, or perhaps she doesn't know how to display her romantic affections towards you.
Do you both make love with the lights out? Because I know such persons get more confidence in that manner.
While she's been romantic via phone ask her why she don't display it to you physically. Good luck.
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poster 1, are u normal at all? of all the things in dis world to wish for, u wished for a threesome? now ur man wants it? May God forgive u o! meanyl if he truly loves u like he claimed, he wldnt listen to u. my 2cent tho...poster 2, like stella said, dont get angry, try to show her more love and i tell her how she's making you feel.
ReplyDeleteStella you nailed it..My attitides towards my partner is exactly like that.Bimpd
ReplyDelete@poster 1,u can take this to the bank;if u grant the 3some wish with another guy ur relationship's a wrap.If u do with another girl,that's all u're ever gonna be good for.
ReplyDeleteCan someone tell these political parties to hurry up n conclude their primaries?I'm spending too much time in the car with my driver than I need to.
What about telling ur driver to get down and u drive ursef? Just saying
Delete@Olumide d gay guy...stop showing us that penis....I know it's not yours.... Yours is so tiny
DeleteThief thief
U don go thief another man Prick
@Galore
Poster One u are really crazy, 2moro u will come her nd disturb BV's dat the guy dumbed u after the 3 some.... Secondly you worth nufin to that guy.
ReplyDeletePoster 2.. I don't know o.
@ poster 2: am thinking your wife is a shy person,just show her more love and she will blend with tym.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1: U'll only become a sex object for that nigga. He won't marry you. A guy that's crazy about you wouldn't want to share u sef. U better flee.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2: It's not every woman that knows how to show emotions. The fact that she dosn't express it physically does not mean she dosn't love u. Her upbringing and background may have contributed to her stiffness. Just take things easy with her, let her know how u feel, and also try to always make her feel comfortable around u. ask her what she wants when it comes to romance. She can't change at once but it's going to take a while. Just be patient. Allow her open up gradually at her own pace. When dis is done u'll be suprised she'll even make the first moves sometimes.
Am exactly like this, Omg and the guy am seeing keeps complaining, stella you are right. My emotions got shut down after a bad break up, but i do like him a lot etc but he feels i am distant and but i don't know how to let him touch me or kiss me for long sigh! I am working on it though.
ReplyDeleteAt sup wit dis threesome stuff abeg,dat wat I everynow and then,why will a gurl ever wish to share her man,or share herself with anoda man,na wah ohhh
ReplyDeleteNa only you waka come for this one oo...
Delete@Miss wildfantasy, My darlyn no try am o!
ReplyDeleteMme Stella you too bam! The same advice I'll probably give narrative Num two is exactly what you did. You need to talk deep with your wife to probably let out what's holding her back, from what I read she obviously loves you but reacting to past event in her life. Talk to her, she need to let go of whatsoever is holding her from reciprocating your touch. God help you both.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, haven't you heard the saying 'be careful what you wish for'? Well u got your wish. Please, for your own good, do not ever have a threesome!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: I agree with Stella. I don't know how long you guys have been married/it's been going on, your wife probably needs some time to get used to that.
Poster 1# you got what you wished for but be rest Assured after that experience you relationship will definitly suffer setbacks
ReplyDeletePoster2#i agree wit stella......she probably lacked love while growing up hence she doesn't feel comfy when people show her love physically,stop getting upset and show her more love or see a councellor
N1, what better way to make the "ask and it shall be given" sentence meaningful. That's why it said one should be careful what you wish for. N2 could she be catching all what she is not giving you outside? Just thinking very deeply. God will heal your marriage sooner than you expected in Jesus name, amen.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm.
ReplyDeleteLet me just read comments
Poster 1: OYO is your case here!!! A large number of us have sexual fantasies but it most inappropriate when you reveal it to a not so liberal minded brother...
ReplyDeleteAs best sexual fantasies are only and may only be fulfilled with a total stranger that way you both can decide to pretend amnesia after the "act".
If you give in to this said BF, your. R/ship ll be over be4 it even begins ( I could be wrong tho) Burh wiv an african man, I def know it ll be over....
Learn to fantasize in your head. Good luck to trying to convince him you are over the fantasy.
Poster two: this describes me right here.... "short attention span"
Gist2: ur wife is unemotional. It's not an abuse.
DeleteIt's just d way she is. She has repressed her feelings and feels safe if she bottles them up. A bad relationship may have caused. Maybe she was head over heels with a guy loving and kissing him and he broke her heart in an irreparable way hence she has shut her heart to feel anything/nor express anything for u
Gist1: this is a case of be careful what u ask for because u just might get it.
Tell him u were joking and u r sorry for saying what u never meant and u won't be comfortable with such.
If he insists then tell him he should have sex with d man he wants to invite as u will be busy sweeping the house of the Lord
Shiloh has started. Oya run there
#1- if you don't want to do it insist, is not a do or die thing... # 2- maybe there's something about u that irritates ur wife or something u did or still does either talk to her.. 5737 1349 7440-mtn
ReplyDeleteI will go with Mrs Dimoko on this.
ReplyDeletePoster one,how can u even suggest such a thing to your man.porn movies has destroyed the minds of our youths these days.
You think someone like that will want to settle down with you?
Poster 2 ..you come across as a nice man.some women sha..you guys should go for counseling please.I am sure there is a reason behind her action.Goodluck
And she could be insecure
ReplyDeletePoster 1;Instead of you to be happy that your dream is about to come through,you are there complaining. Calm down and have fun jor. He even wants threesome with a guy,how lucky you are! He should pick the guy and you should pick the gurl. Nothing dey happen.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
@poster1, he sees u as a sex tool..@poster2, it's either as stella said, or ur wife is a tease....or robot like me.....bt I only go into machine mode when I don't like u..so check well #lol
ReplyDeletenext you hold or hug her and she starts complaining, don't let her go. Instead hold her further. Hold her so close to you. kiss her and wisper sweetness into her ears. make her get emotional. make her feel guilty.If she insists on you leaving her, leave her and look for something to occupy your time. Maybe FIFA 14, gardening, laundry. let your communication beee free of romance. She'll look for you.
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Poster 1 I once had a friend whose guy wanted a threesome, she told me about it, I don't know exactly if she was asking me to be part of it but I gave her a piece of my mind and stopped being friends with her. Some actions would make even the wildest of animal cringe. Abeg tell him it was a joke that u didn't expect him to take it serious and be careful of that your boo.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 it comes down to her personality but just make it a habit to always show her affection in public and have a date night fix a day of the week u guys just spend time together, if you are consistent she will loosen up.
Post number one and two..your problems is from another planet...
ReplyDeleteSon of Solomon
Poster 2; your wife doesn't love you. She loves someone else. She can't imagine doing all the lovey dovey things she did/does with her love with you. I don't knw how you can make this work o. All the best.
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
Poster 1: ur bf is just being insensitive like my ex. He has always wanted to try the 3-some but couldn't say it...u just gave him a way to do it. Poster 2: your wife can xpress her love for u in ur absence but finds it difficult to do so in ur presence coz she feels it's not necessary. Keep showing her love plz
ReplyDeletedull nigerian bitches are the cause of their own misfortune
ReplyDeletedont u know two women licking a mans dick and balls is the ultimate pleasure
better go and watch some mojo to get in the mood
later you will say you want louis vuitton
u think bitches that get louis vuitton are boring in bed?
Big K. Seen
DeleteShuttup your disease infested mouth. Your mama follow for "dull Nigerian bitches"? Is it by force to suck deek? Both parties must be willing to do it. Sex isn't only for men. Women have a right to enjoy sex as well and consent to whatever sex act. If your girl is boring in bed, that's your fault homie. Find ways to bring out the freak in her. If she no free and its a do or die natter for you, find another girl that's willing to hang her leg on burglary proof, lie down on top gas cooker, suck your seek till it evaporates and so on and so forth. For once in your life, use your brain.
DeleteHuh?...what is this one saying biko?
DeleteN1:You don't have a problem. You got what you asked for. You ought to be happy and not whinny,abi you just wan send mail.
ReplyDeleteN2:Like Stellz said, this goes deeper than it seems. I think with TLC,some patience and time, she'll open up and get less frigid in that aspect.
3some odikwa very risky... well u got what u wished for
ReplyDeletePoster 2, shower ur wife wiv plenty of love n attention... talk with her to know what d problem really is and then work towards fixing it
This poster just spoke my mind. The only time my wife allows me touch her is when we want to have sex. She was not like this before though as we have been together for over 10 years with kids , but now she resists my touch, hugs, kisses. I just don't get, later you women would start ranting that men are cheats and dogs.
ReplyDeleteWhen a smallie who knows ur value begins to do all that,she'l be saying 'my hubby cheats,every man is a dog' bla bla bla'...
DeleteAnon 3:30 ve u tried to talk to ur wife? Pls always bear in kind that good communication s very key in marriage.
Delete1st Poster, just a boyfriend fa! Smh.
ReplyDelete2nd P. You have a 'fair weather' wife, lol
Poster 1. Why smelling the food you won't even eat. You even have the effrontery to say it sounds adventurous, na "O Y O" you dey o.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. How long was the courtship?, if short, it could be possible your wife is shy and believes Sex is an obligation she must perform well for you.Try to work on the communication I.e ask her to call you by name, go naughty with her in terms of talking and the rest. I believe with time she will overcome it.
Talking from experience, when I was dating DH to say I love you on phone na gobe, hugging wahala, to call him by name self na war. But now the name be like express road for my mouth so with other things too. It's well
Elijah told elena in a movie called vampire's diary that "be careful of what you wish for" first poster, how can you wish for something that is immoral and devilish as a 3some? I believe you've learnt your lesson about the things you wish for. Stand your ground and say no to what your man wants to do. Make him know you never meant any of what you said.
ReplyDeleteThis is also an avenue to ask questions on this issue and others concerning the future in marriage. Don't do what you'll regret at the end.
2nd poster, please be patient with her, discuss how you feel with her and watch how things gets better. She maybe suffering from something silently. Find that out
Poster 1, are u a 'p' girl? Why wish for a threesome wen u aren't down for it? Am sure u musta done it b4. If u wnt d relationship to continue, beta turn d table arnd by making it seem as if u just wnted to test ur guy, dat u r nt d kinda girl to do such weird tin. Poster 2, pls tend to ur wife wit luv, she needs all d luv she can get frm u to b able to ova com all d no-body-contact tingy. All d best
ReplyDeleteHello my people,
ReplyDeleteI am a regular BV but just that i have not commented on any issue here. I have been out of job for some time now and it has not been easy for me and my family, please I need a help for a good job opportunity. I have HND Distinction in Public Administration, B.sc 2.1 in the same course and credit in MBA finacial management.
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God I thank u... So finally I can comment with an I'd.. After all d spiritual battles I fought.. Kai!! Dis God can answer prayer eh... Tank U Jesus!! I'l praise U forever!!
ReplyDeleteI'm super happy!!!
ReplyDelete1. Becareful of what you wish cos you might get it! You've gotten your wish now you're worried...Smh for you
ReplyDelete2. Please show her more of the romantic you.....she's def going open up, I think she's the secretive and shy type that loves putting up her guards,despite the fact that she enjoys all you doing to her. #speakingfromexperience#
Stellastica,how far??? Not been commenting for some time now cuz of this annoying phone,and I no fit dey burn my money on top android say I dey buy data.Anyway,I've been reading.Ehen,to the girl that suggested Threesome,u well so?? This reminds me of uni days when one of my lodge mates told me she had threesome abi na foursome sef with her bf.She invited two of her friends over and they gave her bf a mind blowing sex as a bday gift.choi!!! I told her that even my corpse will never agree to such madness!! It's bad enough that when you sleep with someone,you've somehow slept with all the ppl they've been with,imagine when that other person is there,mbanu!!! I'll never try such.I asked the foolish gal how he did it.She said he used two condoms for the three of them,I shock!! Nne,put your foot down and tell him you don't want it.That you were only joking and just wanted to see his reaction.Abeg,don't do it.If it results to the rship ending,then it wasn't meant to be.He should be satisfied with only you!!
ReplyDelete2nd narrator,hmm I only feel that way with guys I'm not sexually attracted to,had one like that.too nice,but I just couldn't bear the thought of him even holding my hand,not to talk of him even trying to kiss me.I'm a very romantic person but his touches repulsed me so much.I had to let him go.Anyway,I think yoir wife is a bit frigid.Like Stella said,maybe she isn't used to such display of affection.Why not try and teach her?
Ehen like i said,my phone is misbehaving so lemme say this while I Have the opportunity to,don't know when next the foolish phone'l allow me comment.Who is that bargar that called The General's wife's marriage a sham? Who born you? Why are you so full of hate? Can't you see it's occupying space in your heart? Pls,let go of it so God will find it empty and fill it with joy and laughter.Ehen,Stella about your sunday give away,I've been keeping quiet since and una dey win recharghe cards and being lucky enough to be chosen for giveaways...ehen,if you know u've won anything on this blog,biko,ejo,shift make ppl like us wey neva see anything win since enjoy small na.lol,na joke I dey o b4 una go bite of my head.Ehen,who I wan hail again sef,Manna Bee,how are you dear? Bloglord,I see you and your rant on today's IHN,I totally agree with you jare! Iphie and TGW,kee ka eke si anya anwu for una side? Jayem,Chizoba and Mystery,kee ka une mere? Ndi onu ojoo of SDK blog? Alloy,even though I no understand you,I still troway salute o.Genny Baby and her epistles which I've started enjoying,how market? Hehehehe.Lemme sign out here.
Poster one. I won't add further to what Stella has done
ReplyDeletePoster 2 I have a friend who complains of exactly what you are going through, but in this case, it is the man who avoids body contact
She later found that, he wasn't really loved by the person he called mum. So that translated to his behavior.
Pls try to get to the bottom of this, to understand why she is this way, and then you can take it from them, you can't solve an issue if the cause is unknown, all the best
okokobiyoko
ReplyDeleteLol! that word. ..u be real villager
DeletePoster 1. Na wa for you o, I couldn't help but notice the fact that you seem not to have a problem with being shared by 2 men, you are only concerned about sharing your man with another woman. All I can say is, never ever start what you can't finish.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Your wife seems to be the type that isn't used to public attention probably because of her upbringing so she is mostly comfortable when you are seemingly alone in your bedroom. Give her time, go slowly with the romance and talk to her about how you feel.
Narr2,there is absolutely nothing wrong with your wife and do not pay attention to anybody that would say she's cheating cause thats how i am too. When i was still dating,i would tell my then bf how i missed and want to be with him but when he comes visiting,i would become cold like they hit me with a stick. That is how she is and what you can't change,you have to learn to live with it. Narr1, you see how your uncouth mouth don koba you?@xoxo mystery keep telling you all that sex aint food but all her advice has been falling on deaf ears!Lol.
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ReplyDeletePoster no 1, all i can say to you is this, never evre find yourself in a room with two sexually aroused men, d outcome could b one you'll regret for life. As far as am concerned, any man who doesnt mind sharing his woman with another man doesnt love that woman. Be warned!
ReplyDeletePoster no 2, talk things over with your wife and b patient with her, am sure she will come around, na woman nau....
N1- that's why the say be careful what you wish for... Don't do the 3 some!! It'll certainly lead to the relationship collapsing...once you allow this, be ready for some other weird and abnormal requests.. Just make it clear to him that you are totally against such idea. He would stop bothering you about it when he realize you are stern about 3some NOT going down
ReplyDeleteN2- Your wife's situation is definitely deep rooted more than you thought... It is possible that she is naturally like that or she had been a victim of sexual assault in the past.. Dont compound the issue at hand by being mad at her...try to unravel the problem by having a heart to heart conversation with her. Ladies love it when their men pay attention to their feelings n emotions.. Let her know what you've noticed over time and that you are there for her if she wanna address it...you might get some resistance initially from her but let your genuine concerns and sincerity shine through... She'd understand this and eventually open up... Therapy might be needed depending on what her situation really is... Good luck brother
oh well cant speak for her but myself. ny ex was in ur shoes. it wasnt aboutvhis breath being bad or something. i just cant say it's for any reason. i just get pissed for no reason whenever he tries to hug or kiss me. we ended it on dis grounds. i loved him dearly but couldnt figure out what was wrong. i'll advice u reduce d body contact ish, give her space and she'll long for u. try it! #my opinion#
ReplyDeletePoster 1,u wished upon a star n it was granted.poster2,what you have described about ur wife sounds like the kinda thing one would do when not in love.its exactly the kinda stuffs I did when I was in a relationship n discovered I did not love the man.but am suprised though,didn't u discover all these b4 marriage?however express your concerns to her,tell her exactly what she does that u are not comfortable with.tell her you crave hugs and kisses cos you re romantic.demand answers in a subtle manner,she might just open up.
ReplyDeletePoster1,let me assume this isn't a serious relationship, u can do ur threesome if u have always fantasised about it but Dnt expect him to marry u tomorrow ooo, poster 2 Mayb she had a terrible upbringing or suffered abuse, I believe she has bottled up issues and emotions, try talkin to her without makin it an issue, tell her everything u posted here n how u feel n how u av been tryin to reach her, hopefully she understands nd adjust, she might even tell u d reason she's cold, let her know u love her n will b there for her n she's free to tell u anytin, buy her gifts n take her out to spice up d relationship
ReplyDeletePoster 1, if you plan to having a longterm relationship with this guy or marrying him, don't do it. To be honest with you, in my opinion any Nigerian man that's willing to do three some with u while still dating has absolutely no plans of marrying you. You're just someone he's screwing till wifey comes. Sorry if I sound mean but let it hurt now rather than later. If you're just dating, having fun with no intentions of him being or horse band, if you wanna do three some, do. Its your body so you treat it as u like.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, this seems like a tough one. Maybe your wife behaves like that during certain times. Maybe she has her days where she just doesn't wanna be touched. I have those days so its sorta understandable. If its something she does all the time, then I think something is wrong. Since you've already tried talking n it didn't work , y not try counselling? It sounds like a psychological thing to me since u said when u guys kpansh she's very lovey dovey.
Poster no 1, I don't have any advice for you. Poster no 2, pls try harder to get her to talk to you. I had such problem before after my ex broke my heart, until someother guy that loves my silly came to my life. He had his own dose of my cold emotions but was patient enough to be the one running away from the over dose tender loving I am dishing out to him. You need to be patient ok. While at it, pls let her know how you feel.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. You like adventure abi. You are pushing your man to your fantasies.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. Your wife is the shy type. I guess your wife is expecting a beautiful gift from you and you have the means of providing it for her. She may be the shy type to ask you for it. So, the next time you tried to hold her in the kitchen also try to ask her for wish i.e to make a request.
Poster 1. Pls tell dat ur boyfriend to go get a life n get serious. Poster 2, I don't knw what to advice. I love a very romantic person and I can't understand why someone will be stiff to who he/she is in love with not to talk of ones spouse. Oriegwu. Maybe the holy spirit will intervene in your matter. Keep praying.
ReplyDeleteI love the answer u gave her aunty Stella, instead of her to ask to b d bride! Oloshi
ReplyDeleteThis hoes ain't loyal.
ReplyDeleteposter 1 u are an ode...u wanted threesome now he has agreed and u are complaining..biko stella pls some people are the architects of their own problems...did u want to have a threesome with a man???and u thought your man may like the idea of u sleeping with another man??? don't go and marry oh..be fornicating up and down...kmt
ReplyDeleteawe poster 2 what a lovely man u are....the fact that she sends u those things and kisses shows that she really does yearn for it...speak to her about it and tell her it bothers u the way she behaves..it is very interesting the new things u will find out about people everyday no matter how long u have been together...perhaps she has been hurt before or something else that creates that barrier...but pls be patient with her... and just keep giving your love to her regardless...with time, she may just warm up and open up to it...I say this because I am like that...it is not because I don't crave love but because I was abused when I was a child by different men close to my family and I still can't get over it till now and I am in my 20s...so it kind of gives me trust issues and makes it difficult for me to open up to people and also because I grew up in a cold environment where expressing emotions were not the order of the day, I have become like that too...and I am working on not being like that so I do not make my husband feel the same way your wife has made you feel
The wife de do shakara, she de enjoy am, she just de pretend
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ReplyDelete@poster 1,after doing it,u think u re gonna have a great relationship? smh.youthful exuberant.@poster2,I think u shud b patient wit ur wife.I have a frnds lik her,while speaking wit her,I found out dat from previous experience, she had always been starved of affection from someone who initially showed her affection n she thinks withdrawing now wil prevent her from hurting wen I bf dumps her.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Forgive me but i don't think u were joking with the threesome ish (like i was there sef). Pls fill us in on the activity when u eventually succumb.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Stellz has said it all. it could be from her background. She probably expresses herself deeply in bed or via txts. Meanwhile, have u communicated the issue (in bed) with her?
N1 - if the guy dumps you tomorrow nah..u would come with another narrative but which respectable girl in her right senses would want to share her body with two men at the same time (even one sef na work). U asked for it nah..... what advice do u want again???
ReplyDeleteN2 - Give it time and show her love. She sounds like an introvert who doesn't really know how to express herself or her feelings. With patience and love, i believe she would warm up to u with time and then the long wait would be worth it.
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ReplyDeletePoster 1, Stebabes has said it all and even added SELAH. When bible say Selah eh... Mean say talk don finish. Poster 2: simple, just discuss wit ur wife, or better still introduce her to d blog, let her read it. Sure she may not be seeing things ur way. Maybe she is frm a hyper religious bckground. The is still love b/w you both, so its easy for positive change.
ReplyDeletePoster 1;d truth is u have lost dt guy, doing it or not will not change abything
ReplyDeletePoster 2; maybe u are d type dt ur kissing and necking always ends with sex,so she only allows u to touch her when she's ready to go all d way,so check ursef very well,then talk to her
Poster 1 u got ur wish y complain.U made dat wish so u alone can correct it
ReplyDeleteSpeechless.poster 1...U suggested threesom so why are u complaining now.U alone can make d right decision urself
ReplyDeleteThe fact that you suggested such an act shows that you have a depraved mind. It sounds thrilling and adventurous but this is an orgy clearly forbidden by God. We are all sinners but we should try hard to avoid some things.
ReplyDeleteDo not allow yourself to be controlled by unbridled passions or you'll have yourself to blame in the end. Please respect yourself and the Holy Spirit who lives in you.
I'm sure you heard the recent story of a gay man who stabbed another in a hotel room in Abuja after their sex act, you never know what is lurking behind vices like these. Be wise.
poster1...As u lay ur bed,so shall u lie on it.
ReplyDeletePoster2...ur wife was raped wen she was young.
I see nothing wrong in fantasizing about a threesome but people usually do that before they get married and they don't do it with the people they eventually get married to or wanna get married to.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't advise you to do it though. Too many diseases out there and if you are a Christian, it is against Godly principles. Nigerians are very hypocritical. It's funny how some people who cheat on their spouse and sleep around for $1000 a pop will justify their actions but condemn a threesome because they've never done it.
I've never indulged in a threesome and will not do it. I will never advise anyone to do it. And, I won't condemn you for fantasizing about it. Do not do it with your boyfriend...he will hold it against you and you may feel guilty afterwards.
poster one, your wish is abt to come true so my dear be glad.
ReplyDeletePoster2.maybe u too dey like fuck fuck nd wenever u get close 2 her na fuck dey dey ur mind.dat kind thing wen e too much dey quick tire us!
ReplyDeletePoster2: Your wife isn't cheating on you, far frm it......but, its likely that she isn't inlove with you. She probably married you outter pressure frm her people 4her to settle down with a man and u bailed her out......I see her struggling to be a good wife to u by trying to sexchat with u and doing all dat flirtiness over chats but its all a cover 4u not to figure out dat she's not dat into u.
ReplyDeleteShe must have thought dat she'd fall inlove with u along d line afta marrying u....but, somehow it neva happened 4her as she jst can't bring herself 2do these tinz with u. This is ur struggle now, bros.
Inother to manage this well, u need to forget abt d PDA things cus they'll only irritate her d more....pretend 2not b dat interested in her and u'd av 2do a lot of ignoring. Let her b d one complaining for ur attention b4 u give it to her, dnt let it come cheap 2her agn....while at it, surprise her once in awhile with nice gifts and take her to nice places to stir her interest in u. You have 2become completely unpredictable and manly, this way who knows, u may eventually get her to fall inlove with u.
She obviously didn't marry u outter love and overdosing her with it isn't gone change her heart....u need to withdraw and make her yearn 4u b4 u then show her crazy affection and then withdraw it until she misses u and on and off like that.....dnt be readily available emotionally and even sometimes wen she yearns 4it dnt give it too quickly let her sweat 4it abit.....I know why I'm saying all these, bn there b4.....this is d only way u can help her and help urself. I know she wishes 4things 2b better but d way u're goin at it isn't helping out and she can't help herself.
Poster 1: He who gathers ants infested woods,invites the lizard for dinner.
ReplyDeleteTell your boyfriend you aren't interested anymore in fulfilling the sexual fantasies,it starts with something you think you can take part in,before you realise it,you've dug yourself deeper into what would warp your soul and kill the spirit.
If he won't accept your decision,simply walk away,it is better to offend man than God.
Poster 2: It is hard but please be patient with your wife,seek for ways to understand what makes her behave that way,tell her how the atitude hurts.That all you want is to make your marriage enjoyable.May God grant you wisdom.
Poster no 1: ntorr, ibu ewu! U got wat u wnted hw can u tell a man u want a threesome? Were u high on Sometin? Nd from d way u sound am sure u dn't mind it wit two guys it's just wit anoda girl u can't stand. Mschewww! Come on goan tell him u were jst kidding nd can't stand anoda girl avin him or anoda man avin u.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: awwwww! *hugs* nd *kisses* I can smell d love u av 4 ur wife. Other bv's av said it all I think she's bin hurt in d past or Sumtin or she's jst shy.
Yes. I have a chronicle too. A husband that thinks his sperm is gold. Anytime we have sex and the sperm comes out of my vajayjay, he always complains. Nonsense. As if I do it deliberately. Sometimes I think he just sleeps with me so he can impregenate me.
ReplyDeleteYes. I have a chronicle too. A husband that thinks his sperm is gold. Anytime we have sex and the sperm comes out of my vajayjay, he always complains. Nonsense. As if I do it deliberately. Sometimes I think he just sleeps with me so he can impregenate me.
ReplyDeleteNa wa o. Which kain response pesin wan give here? *moonwalks out*
DeleteN2: you just described me.
ReplyDeleteI find it difficult to respond to romantic play from hubby despite the fact that I yearn for it.
Most times, it's like something is holding me back, sometimes I just want him to persistently chase me.
Guess am not used to PDA cos I didn't grow up with it.
When am not around my hubby, I send him msgs but when I see him, I find it difficult to embrace him.
He even asked once why I don't hug him when he comes back from the office. But I just cant.
Just keep trying, she will come round one day. I pray I do.
2poster,,
ReplyDeleteMy wife is like that,but its all started after she gave birth to our child,,she started turning cold to my hugs nd even when on bed sleeping,no holding nd even to have sex to her na wahala,,but its was not as that when we never got married,,so i stoped hugs nd holding her but i fellowed ,monitors all her movements till i find out she was sleeping with a friend of mine when ever i left for work and she always calling me at work to know my location,,now she begs nd asked me for a permison before she can even kiss or hugs me,,imagin once in loves,,some woman using there own hands to destroyed there beautiful home
Gboaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!
DeletePoster#2: I am this way sometimes. Do you have young kids around. My husband like to do some kind nonsense play in front of the kids and I don't want my 4yr old trying to touch another child becos mum n dad does it. So I jejely move away. Also are u romantic when you want it? With time n understanding you will work things out. Comunication along with prayer will work magic!
ReplyDeletePoster#2: Oniranu, ur wish have been granted. The only hold you have on the guy is sex and all you will ever be is a sex toy if you keep this up.
Poster No 2, I don't think your wife suffer from any abuse or not been loved when she was young.
ReplyDeleteI will advice to have a heart to heart talk with your wife, it could be she have some resentment towards you or any member of your family(and your kind of involved) and she hasn't forgiven you fully that anytime she remember, she kinf of feel cold towards you OR have you put on weight recently or something changed about you that irritates her once in a while?
There must be some underlain issue with you rather than anyone else for her to be switching her affection towards you.
Wish you best of luck.
Just give her time. You will both be fine.ciao
ReplyDelete@ madam 3some. I think your problem is you want to be adventurous in bed and your boyfriend also feels since you guys are always doing it each time you are together why not just accept your offer.
ReplyDeleteP2, please i have few questions for u. Do u help out with some chores? Do u ask about her well being, how she spent her day n al? She might be tired/stressed while ur tryna b lovey dovey, thats y you'd notice she gives in totally when yall are making out cos sex serves as a stress reliever. Pls try to keep up with ur wife's wellbeing and pamper her too. If she doesn't give in, then she might be cheating (avoid this as a thought pls) Just my opinion.
ReplyDeletePoster Nos 1. Since you want to hear the truth let me tell you. You suggested the threesome, he is now telling you he will be game, he will bring a guy, then after a girl. Okay listen, since you said the guy loves you,its either he is putting you through a test to see if you will agree or he is not really in love with you as you think. Men can only have threesome with someone they don't really care about. He even suggested a guy? Hmmmm please go ahead if you want him to dump your ass soon, Just don't go ahead with it please.
ReplyDeletei hardly comment but i had to because of poster 2....your wife loves you but she doesn't know how to show it...she is not acting that way because she's cheating or anything like that...it is totally normal trust and i feel like some ladies don't like clingy men ...i don't know if that is the case here but trust me it's totally normal...i have the same problem too.. i don't really show how much i care about my man but deep down i know i love him with all my heart..so it's nothing to be worried about. however, sit her down and talk to her about how you are feeling.
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