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JEALOUS MUM
I think my mum is jealous of my marriage.
I think my mum is jealous of my marriage.
I noticed she is always quiet anytime i tell her how nice my husband is to me..sometimes she will be like I should enjoy while it lasts and that it’s because my marriage is new and very soon he is going to change. Why will a mother say this to her child??
WOW......who hurt her? Your dad? Your mum is bleeding on you and you need to tell her to her face to stop it....Even if your marriage will not last, it should not be coming from her....Tell her that you will not be sharing any more info with her cos of the things she tells you....She is not Jealous, she is wicked!
You don't need to tell her you are going to stop sharing stuff with her. Just stop and withdraw the information you give her.
ReplyDeletePls help her talk about her failed expectations of her marriage so she can heal and move on.
Maybe she's traumatized and wish she had what you have with your husband..
ReplyDeleteStop telling her about your home, since you've noticed how she responds to it..
Stop telling her about the blessings in your life then. Na wa!
ReplyDeleteWow!!!
ReplyDeletePlease dont share anything about your marriage with her again.
May God protect and bless your new home.
Gen Z, Gen Z, Gen Z!! Everything must not be framed as jealousy. Your mum is probably scared for you. Sees the loop holes in what you are saying (the ones you are not seeing yet because you are in love) hence she goes quiet. Or she has seen men change so much and she's afraid for her child and makes those statements so you could apply caution. It is out of concern and love; her approach might be wrong but you can communicate that to her patiently rather than framing her jealous.
ReplyDeleteSometimes children think they know too much. Relax and let your mother know her comments are robbing you off joy and you prefer she see things from a positive stand point than her experiences.
Even if her mum is scared, it's not enough reasons to project her frustrations please
DeletePoster stop sharing your joy with her and start affirming that you marraige will get sweeter as the years goes by, the marriage and sweetness must last in Jesus name
What a mother
Honestly poster, you need to be careful of this your mother. I can see through her.. she is not good at all. Why will she say such a thing?
ReplyDeleteEvery mother prays for the success if her daughter's marriage.
Don't tell her anything about your marriage again and keep her at arm's length. I can see my mother through her.
May God keep and bless your marriage
Hope say you don carry the same eye see your future oooo. Its the conviction with which you speak of another's situation. Seer!
Deletei will say you should stop telling her anything about your marriage, love her from far but keep your marriage out of your discussion. She is not happy in her marriage and feel that you don't have a right to be happy with your marriage.
ReplyDeleteWhat is the need of telling family members and friends details of how your husband treat you? i don't think i can talk more than we are all doing fine and my husband is cool with me and keep moving. Too many details brings alot of issues and them say, you say at a long run. Be private with your marriage please and let them see how you are looking in that marriage than talking too much.
Start telling her bad things about your husband then. You too try and be keeping some good things about your marriage to yourself. Some mothers sef🤦🏻♀️
ReplyDeleteShe feels all men are like your dad.
ReplyDeleteHaba!
ReplyDeleteTell your mom to stop projecting her negativity and insecurities on you and your marriage.
Maybe she knows a secret about your husband that you don’t.
ReplyDeleteMaybe her words come from her own experiences, disappointments, or fears. Your mom has seen things that make her cautious. Whatever the reason, refuse to let fear overshadow the beautiful things God is doing in your home.
ReplyDeleteThe same God who brought both of you,together is able to keep you together. His word declares, What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder(Mark 10:9).
I pray that God will protect your marriage from every negative word, fear, and discouragement in Jesus name 🙏
May God fill your home with unconditional love, peace, understanding. May your marriage grow stronger with each passing day and remain a testimony of God's faithfulness.
Thank you for this. Men fit don show am shege pro max and she is projecting her fears unto you. Have a heart to heart conversation with her and if possible, you both should pray together. Instead of confessing her fears, she should confess positive things over your marriage.
DeleteOn another note, you are newly married, and I understand the need to brag about everything, but pls don’t.
Your mum may be reacting due to what your dad might have done to her and thinks yours is going to be that way. Did you meet your husband through your mum or someone close to her? Hope your husband don't usually have a private moment of conversation with your mum because there might be something more to this her statement
ReplyDeleteI dont think she is jealous. She doesn't trust men. There are women who have turned cold due to their past experiences and have refused to be impressed or moved by men no matter how good they are. Those women are traumatized beyond measure. They just don't trust men or believe anything they do and she might be in that category.
ReplyDeleteI stumbled on some of them on YouTube . They are broken and they have written men off completely even if the man walks on nails for their sakes they might just roll their eyes and yan because they are waiting for him to show his supposed true color eventually
Some of them said almost the same thing your mom said in the comment section of how their men moved heaven and earth for them, did a lot but changed later on in.
But what they don't know is that simply because they experienced it doesn't mean it will apply to others.
Stop telling her because your mind gets polluted.
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DeleteYou said my mind. Thank you for helping me type..
DeletePoster read this.
Exactly, guid your words around her.
DeletePeople tends to push their own experience on others. She may have enjoy this much care from your dad at the beginning of their marriage and he later changed. whatever it is, she shouldn't put her trauma or push fear into you. A mother should support, keep encouraging her child even when she feels things will repeat the same pattern and always pray against her child going through what she went through
ReplyDeleteYour mum sounds like a lot of BVs here! Always quick to dampen the mood, and tell women who have good/great marriages that they are delusional or naive!
ReplyDeleteMaybe she married a koromoto man and now feels that all men are like him.She's not jealous, it's her trauma talking
ReplyDeleteNawaoo,see mother talking to her daughter like this 🙄
ReplyDeleteNne withdraw some gist with her abeg
Don't reveal anything good that happen to you again
It could be jealousy, but it could also be your mum speaking from her own experiences and disappointments in marriage. Sometimes parents who have been hurt or had difficult marriages struggle to believe that a relationship can remain happy long-term.
ReplyDeleteInstead of assuming the worst, try not to share every positive detail of your marriage with her for a while and observe. If she consistently dismisses your happiness, compares your marriage negatively, or seems unhappy whenever things are going well for you, then you may need to set some emotional boundaries.
For now, enjoy your marriage, appreciate your husband, and don't let anyone's fears become your reality. A loving mother should want the best for her child, but sometimes personal experiences can cloud the way they express it.
Who knows what she observed about him
ReplyDeleteStop telling her about your marriage.Becarefull.lf you like be doing she's my mother and ignore her.She will break your marriage.
ReplyDeleteShe has trust issues. Must be trauma from her past. Just reduce the things you tell her that's all
ReplyDeleteSo this poster does not know the type of relationship her parents have as so many strangers are now pointing that out for her.
ReplyDeletePoster u too get mouth . Must you tell all.
ReplyDeleteHello Poster,
ReplyDeleteLet me sigh fess; mmmmmm......
Believe me, you sound less troubled by your mother's words than by what they might mean. A parent is usually the person we expect to celebrate our happiness, not cast doubt over it. That makes her remarks bite.
She may be speaking from old wounds rather than jealousy. A painful marriage can leave someone expecting disappointment. It is equally possible she is simply cautious. You cannot conclude from a few comments that she wishes your marriage to fail.
Whichever, stop looking for reassurance from someone who consistently dampens your joy. Share less about your marriage, and if the comments continue, tell her calmly that they unsettle you and ask her not to make them. Then let your marriage be judged by how you and your partner treat each other, not by someone else's history or theory.
Sometimes the kindest boundary is keeping another person's fears from becoming your own. Be more discerning...