Ladies when a man tells you that he is dating someone else,is that a crime?
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
TEARS OVER LOST LOVE
Good day Stella, sure you are good. I am back again with my chronicle o,hmmmm. lol.
I read all the comments concerning my parents not letting me grow and i heed to some of the advises. I spoke to my parents as many commentators said, I want to start going out but i dont have friends.....The queen and boss of SDK, I have attended a club(Rumours club) as you said, its too stuffy with smoke...I almost suffocated,lol, thanks anyway.
Now to my story, there is this guy I really like since childhood. Our moms have been friends, we attended same schools until, we changed schools and lost contact cos we had to move to our new houses. We liked each others company then, I remember his best friend asking me out with a love letter but I refused.
I didn't hear from him for 3-4years until he sent a friend request on Facebook...my heart was filled with joy and laughter...so we kicked it up!
I HAVE ALWAYS PRAYED FOR HIM!!
We exchanged numbers and chatted almost everyday..I was falling for him. Then I gained admission in a university in the west while he was in a university in the east but we kept our friendship on a low key, because some of our mutual friends kept asking if I was dating him and I said no...but he has not asked me out!!!
Fast forward to 2011, he was on holiday in Lagos and he insisted we hang out, I agreed and we went out. He told me about the years we lost contact,his private life and a lot of things, I had nothing to say to him because I haven't dated anybody since we lost contact. So after lunch, we went to his place, He tried to kiss me but i refused because I was so naïve. That was how that day ended, since then we haven't seen each other but we kept talking and chatting.
He has not asked me out, but i love him.. I called him last year and told him my feelings he was happy but he said he was seeing someone else which broke my heart and I regretted telling him my feelings first. So i decided to make our chat strictly formal no lovey-dovey chat anymore. I was always formal with him and he noticed it.
Recently, I noticed he is always trying to be loving and caring and I remain strictly formal with him because he said he broke up with d older girlfriend but i still love him and I don't want him to know.
Fathers day, he sent me a wish to my Dad and boyfriend... But I wasn't comfortable with the wish to my supposed 'boyfriend'(which i don't have) and i told him, I felt pregnant with such wish and he apologised...then I said something like, he is always trying to find out about my love life and he got angry with me that he does not care about it, its none of his business and I broke down.. Right now, he has not even chatted with me and i didn't sent him any message too.
I feel I have lost a friend and my first true love.#crying for days now...
MOVE ON...OYA!
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
.....WHEN HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF
Hi Stella,
I had sex just once and got pregnant at the age of 14 when I was playing Mama and Papa with a neighbour who was 16yrs. My parents were very strict Christians so abortion wasn't an option. I learnt the hard way and grew up too fast.
So i had my lovely baby girl at the age of 15. She never wanted for anything. Her grand parents from both sides were always ready to satisfy us. I was scared of men. Never went into relationship after that 1st trial. Fear no allow me until this year (19years later) April when I finally agreed to date someone and he knows about Baby Girl.
My baby is 19years and in her 2nd year in the University. She just came home pregnant from school. See me that's trying to go into a relationship as a single mum, how do i now explain to the guy that I am going to be a single grandma at the age of 34yrs???
My mum is having a wonderful time laughing her heart out. Please I need to hear from experienced people ooooh.
Thank You
You must have shut out your daughter as well .......
Those of you who have daughters,try to be their friends and stop chasing them away with rules and regulations.this is what happens when you dont have a one on one with darling daughter.
Oh well,the deed has been done,get set for Grandmotherhood...ask your mum for tips.
Jesus fix it!
ReplyDeleteStella pls post comments on time.
********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
Poster 2 I'm 34 and don't even have a bf sef. I know how you feel but just leave all to God he's going to fix it. Forget society they only criticise.
DeleteNo 1 I join Stella to give you that slap! A guy has been hanging around you for years and has never asked you out and you feel you lost your first love? Which love?? You were in love with yourself! He had the boldness to attempt kissing you and he hasn't asked you out yet? Why have lovey-dovey convos with a casual friend. The guy is trying to get the 'benefits' of a relationship without formally being in one. Thank God you were too 'naive' to kiss him. Keep being naive, you hear? It saves. Work on your self esteem.
DeletePoster 1, face your studies. Forget the guy. He don't want you. Be a good girl. Don't get FAT. Dress well and sexy. Smile often. A guy will notice you soon.
DeletePoster 2, your mom is laughing but the situation is not funny. She is glad that you will feel the same shame you brought her. But how did you start fucking at 14. Na who teach you how to fuck at such a young age?
Sorry to say this, you have not been a good mother to your daughter. You should have groomed her well so she will not make the same mistake you made.
My advice :Get close to your daughter and teach her some things that will help her in life. She must not get pregnant again unless she is married. As for your love life. Good luck.
stella, pls we will like updates on these chronicles like the one from yesterday that the girlfriend wants the daughter away from them after marriage for few years and this grandma at 34... It will be nice to have a where are they now a year from now
DeleteAnon 22:16, Amebo wetin you want carry update do? Go find better work.
Deletebuwahahahahahahhaahhaahhaahha
ReplyDeletethis second chronicle sha
abeg, abeg, i need to laugh with your mum......... the thing funny die
Make I join u laugh abeg
DeleteOga money ,u no go write epistle today.....
DeletePoster 1-that guy would not take u serious,see the way you were pushing yourself to him.. You better l forget that boy,before he would take advantage of your feelings n F**k u or give u belle n dump u...
Poster 2-i know u feel very sad,but u would have explained to ur daughter aboot how she was born,which i doubt u did cos u had your baby's dady family support..
But your daughter is a stupid girl,she no wise at all (sorry to say ) when girl are wise n t think she is in uni..
At 19 yrs while i was also in 200level (few years ago ) knew mysef well,i always think about the suffering my mum was going tru to see me n my siblings in school,you dont open your legs anyhow for any body.
At 19,i had above 100k,having my second upper firmly seated...chai !, saving money from toasters and investing it
@Money makes..... I like ur comments oo.a mixture of sense and nonsense but still turns out so informing and realistic.
DeleteU just need to change dis ur yeye name my friend,its part of the nonsense I am talking about.lol!
@poster2,like criously could this be wat d spiritual pple call demonic repitative patterns.?and why is ur mum even finding dis funny?dis is an issue dat's probably coming from her roots.
U,ur mum,ur daughter and granddaughter to come all need Jesus.yes maybe deliverance.#i go spiritual on dis#
Wth!
My oh my QueenBee u re loved. Ur comment has it all,this is rilly a generational curse,dey shud rilly go spiritual on it thru Jesus,not juju.
DeleteN1, u are living in a fantasy dream land where u are wishing d guy is ur bf. Wake up in reality n move on. Can u imagine putting ur life on hold for a guy dt is living his life. Gals pls stop being stupid n try loving urself. N2, shit happens, just support ur daughter d same way ur parents supported u then. It will be well. Ask her who d guy is, n if d guy is willing to take up responsibility, den u don't av a problem.
ReplyDeletefor real she get Belle obi it runs in the family's blood why so?
ReplyDelete#GODWIN™
Poster 1 if I give you backhand slap kini gbogbo rubbish.
ReplyDeletewhy are you always single you get disease abi men don't call you?
Poster 2 WOW what the hell, were you sleeping or what let me not say you're a careless mum for letting that happen but you are mbok.
God grant your daughter a safe delivery and congrats on being a grandma at 34 you and your daughter plus grand child would grow up like sisters and post pictures for us to envy in some years to come
My dear Shut your mouth if you dont have wat to say
Delete@ poster 1 its so simple move on he isn't urs, if he loved u enough he would have long professed it, thank God u didn't sleep with him that day, u wud have regretted more, forget him biko
ReplyDelete@poster 2 sorry I laughed I won't lie, at the part u said ur mum were laughing, that part was funny, its a serious matter I won't advice abortion the deed has happened, the fact the u had similar experience would have made u draw her close and keep lecturing her, so same incident won't happen, hmmm this is heart breaking.
Nna mehn,poster 1 is so childish....
ReplyDeleteInstead of you to look for a bigger fish to date,you are here crying foul because of a riff raff small boy...
Mtcheeeew....
If you really want to enjoy clubbing,go with bigger boys and drink lots of champagne...get high and you are good to go...
Poster 2,
Take her to a doctor that will perform a D n C on her biko....
This is my opinion and don't come under my comment and say how abortion is a sin...
Lol
Delete.I like the part of "go to club with big boys"
Wow.. All your comments make me wonder d kind of person u are ND what u will tell your children. Nawa o
DeleteLol...u just said my mind but...
DeleteYes o! Abortion is murder the same way using a condom is kidnapping and both na sin..... But na who holy pass?
Deletequeen queen, dis ur advice na wah......
DeleteThank u ma,u hv said d honest truth,except u don't mind being a grandma @ your age. If d belle Neva go far look for a safe means. If u want her to keep it den show her 100% support. D mistake has bin made,a lot of ppl made dis exact same mistake in 100L many sef will Neva tell deir mum's. Na bcos ur daughter love u dts why she told u
DeleteFor the first time in history,am saying take that daughter of yours poster two n let her do,D N C but i guess it is too late for you to have found out,
DeleteSo
Let ger have the baby,she MUST GO TO class normal with the pregnancy(cos u wont pay for her to have an extra year.) n let her take undertaken that she would graduate with a good grade.
Be a stubborn mum,,you foolish daughter isnt suppose to get pregnant for one idiot that dont know how to use a condom.
She wants to be a mum,she would be a mum but a schooling mum
Just negodu,she is lucky -my parents are not hers...
The threat of locking u up in police station for days would make u think 400times
(No be empty threats,dey don do ama before )
Linda Eze, you are so honest and open minded. Some hypocrites will tell you how D&C is a sin but they have done it many times and will still do it 2moro. There is nothing funny here. The situation is dire.
DeleteQueen Linda,i go with u on this but fear no let me talk am since dats why I already listed the granddaughter inclusive for the deliverance they all need in my first comment.
DeleteCos chai,dats a big disgrace and embarrassment!single grandma at 34.lmao!
Or better still a fairer option is to quickly marry off the gal to d man responsible,well hope he's a man and not a boy they were playing daddy and mummy with like her mum's story.
....btw I still can't understand why ur mum is finding dis whole sh#t funny instead of bowing in shame.hmmm
Poster 2,plz forgive me but ds chronicle of urs just made me laugh for 15mins,,,wishing u d best#single grandma. God will help u.
ReplyDelete34Years about to be grandmum,chai sorry ooh.......its a pity
DeleteAny man that want to marry you would think you can not be a good mum,if u can not watch your only daughter..
If u now have more wetin go happen....
Just accept her,get to know the boy responsible n maybe he has plans for your daughter
1st poster
ReplyDeleteThis seriously sounds as if both of u are childish..whats wrong with you?
Both of you don't know what u want esp the guy. If the guy likes you, he would let his intentions known instead of using back-door route of trying to kiss, and the later say ""oh well, its not like we are dating now".
If he doesn't make his intentions known in plain terms, please take Ur two left legs and move on..You'll find another best friend..
2nd poster
I'm sure u r not thinking of an abortion for her..just accept her and the baby and whoever really loves you , will love your baggage as well..the deed has been done already.Congats on being a grandmum at 34..
Poster.1,let me spell it out for u:
ReplyDeleteLeave him ALONE! He doesnt even send u!
Poster 2,Eeeya,I get how u feel.Buh dere is nothing u can do about d situation now.
As long as u did ur part as a parent and u know,it's not ur fault dis happend,den rest easy.
Sometimes,Life throws us stuff we dont plan.
Keep looking unto GoD.
AnD dere is nothing wrong wit u bn a grandma @ 34.
in years to come u wil see it.enjoy ur life sexy.
u have had it rough for a long time.
So now,pls shut d negativity down and LIVE!
HUGS!
WELL. JUST NEDODU. LOL. GRANDAMA @34.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1, ABEG FASHI THAT GUY, HE JUST WANTS TO USE YOUR HEAD. HE DOESNT LOVE YOU, HE JUST LIKES YOU AS A FRIEND. IT IS BECAUSE YOU HAVE GIVEN HIM THE GREEN LIGHT THAT IS WHY HE WANTS TO JE N M BE
WELL. JUST NEDODU. LOL. GRANDAMA @34.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 1, ABEG FASHI THAT GUY, HE JUST WANTS TO USE YOUR HEAD. HE DOESNT LOVE YOU, HE JUST LIKES YOU AS A FRIEND. IT IS BECAUSE YOU HAVE GIVEN HIM THE GREEN LIGHT THAT IS WHY HE WANTS TO JE N M BE
Lol, narrative two;single grandmother of a single mother.
ReplyDeleteI guess she needs you more now.
Poster one,maybe he has been in love with you for years too,but didn't know how to tell you either, hence his actions and his reaction to your statement.
Why don't you just tie your legs and wait, if you're so in love with him.
He might just ask you out.
On the other hand, if he doesn't, biko move on, life is too short.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 1 your narratives no really serious shaa..recieve another slap from me ‘‘pah!
ReplyDeletePostee 2 this life get as e be, I guess you should just move ahead with your life and allow your daughter to move on with hers and also support her as best as you can. Shekina! Buh let her not drop out from school o. she should try and graduate so that she would be able to take care of her child. THE FUTURE IS BRIGHT THE FUTURE IS ORANGE.
Lol.
Delete..which one is the future is orange again
Yes ur daughter would continue schooling with the pregnancy, when I was in school,my coursemate gave birth today and write exam the next day
Delete@1, love is not by force so look else where.
ReplyDelete@2, grandma @34, ain't u lucky, u will be a great grandma @54, Wao congrats, like mother like daughter.
Nawa for u..which kain talk be this
DeletePoster 1: ur childishness is nauseating, pls don't ever send in any chronicle again till u r all grown.U r complicating ur life urself.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: My darling being a grandma @ 34 ain't a curse only considering the circumstances.I have often heard,that when a child is born out of wedlock, in one generation it often continues generations after.I hear it is even in the bible"BUT I NEVER READ AM".Do not shut ur baby out afterall in Yankee her mates dey marry.Ur job now is to see d baby daddy if u rnt considering an abortion.know who d dude is but do not pressure them into marriage.Ur mum shudnt b laffing nw cos it's a shame to her sincerely, bt she's laughing cos nw ur baby has dished to u what u dished to momma.Talk with ur mum n know d way forward.Wetin concern rship concern ur pikin? U both r adults, if he doesn't wana b a step grandpa he shud move forward.
P1. If U like that guy, make out wt him, have an open mind while datin him. But Don't bank on him.
ReplyDeleteU r like a new point n kill, n he will try all his skills to see if he can achieve somt. *lip sealed*
He'd say finally, I'm outta d frdzone, pls don't hurt his ego by draggin him back to d frdzone.
P2 Mama n papa at 14. Na lie o!
Well, e don happen, ur mama no kill U!
Support the child too
O boi! Grandmama at 34. Oh mehnnn. Any new guy go flee o!
All da best...
No, its not a crime to me cos whether he tells you or not, there is always a side chick. Most of we girls know this fact but we always pretend and shout "cheater". In the end, it all depends on if you want to be the other girl or the main chick.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 i have a bucket that needs water, i will give you my address so that you can put your tears there.. ewu raise to power 2.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: It is a pity that parents nowadays dont tell their daughters whats up. we always drive them with if i hear say you get pregnant, i go kill you. No so my late papa dey tell us ooo..
your mamam too no try at all. they laugh at you. anyway congrats ooo. just like in daily news that the mother that was just 32 years became a grand mother. i relate you them. your granddaughter don get great grand mothers and fathers.
No comment today cos me sef need advice. So lemme read and c if I fit advice myself via pples comment.
ReplyDeleteBtw Stella I like ur advice on mother and daughter relationship....
Olori, abegi send in your chronicle anonymously. Let's advice you. Don't go into depression. Life is 2 short.
DeleteChoi..which kain thing be this na?
ReplyDeleteLet.me.just read comments... This chronicle don dey vex me.I swear....we go advice una finish.. Una no go bring feed back
ReplyDeleteLet me wait for in house news comments upload
A beg @SDK do that sharply sharply
@Galore
Hahaha stella with her advise to poster2. Ask your mother for some tips!
ReplyDeletePoster1: please work on your self esteem. Once dat is done patiently wait for a right boyfriend to come.
Poster2: sure if Your daughter get married to who is resposible for her pregnancy, sure you have no problem. Or did she tell you she does not know who is responsible for it.
And Stellz mami, I love the new header.
ReplyDeleteIt's cool in a subtle way. Nice.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Stella for life, dis your slap and (Oya move on) get me laffinggggggggggggggggggggg, you have said it all GBAM
ReplyDeleteposter 1-guess you still in school...come on go and read your books and leave matters of the heart...
ReplyDeleteposter 2-mmmm,it runs in the blood
Poster 2... Lwkmd. @ poster 1 ure still actin like a baby... Even in ur common sense u still dnt hav sense. Dats all I hav 2 say.. I'll check bak and read comment
ReplyDelete@ poster one,you are just a jobless mofo!!!
DeleteCongrats @poster two!
Poster 1: seriously, are you sure you are okay mentally? Mtshewwww., abeg u can cry ur self to eternity.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: congrats, I am sincerely happy for you. The deed has been done, so show love to ur daughter the same way your parent did. As for your boyfriend,well let him know of the situation that is if you are both in a serious relationship, if he is still interested fine but if not don't beat ur self about it,another will come. Your priority from now on is your pregnant daughter. Cheers.
Nka dikes very serious
ReplyDeletePoster 1: Sweetie sorry to say this but you sound like a teenager (childish and immature). I think what you feel is not love; it's either a crush or infatuation. Go out more, mix up with good people and make new friends. Idleness and boredom makes one have stupid ideas and thoughts. There's nothing to cry about dear. Anyway if he wants you he will come for you. It's always sweeter for a guy to chase a lady you know #winks.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Eyahhh! The Lord will see you through. Children are blessings from God.
Chai! Na wah o!
ReplyDeleteGrandmother at 34? Well,thank God for ur life. Some 34yrs old don't even have a child.There is still plenty of time to make things right.Your daughter has to go back to school after the birth of her baby,beg ur mother to take care of her greatgrand child while you sort things out with the man u are in love with.
ReplyDeleteLol@ first poster, Stella u be real craze lol.. See slap! Choi! I no fit advice again cos Stella don woz u slap, poster2, u were not close to ur daughter that is y u are going to be a grandmother by fire by force, if u had drew her close to u nd teach her things do she dsnt end up like u, it won't have e fed in pregnancy at 19! Anyway the deed has been done, it's either ur guy still accept u or not, u no go kill ur sef
ReplyDelete*taught her things , *it won't have ended in pregnancy
DeleteReceive strength Poster 2, poster 1 that guy is not serious pls receive sense....
ReplyDeleteChaiiiii... @ poster two! The good LORD is ur strength. Amen
ReplyDeletePoster 1: You are just lonely forget the voice in your head telling you, you are in love.
ReplyDeletePoster2: Your case isn't new as most girls born that way usually end up repeating their mom's mistake. I don't know if it's probably cos of the trauma of not being raised by both parents in an atmosphere of love, which makes them fill some sorta emptiness they intend to fill with sex. I just don't know. But since,its already happened you got to support her and don't start thinking you've failed as a mother. Cos there's only so much you can do
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DeleteEeyah poster one you are blindly in love. Thank God he didn't sleep with you it could have pained you the more. P2, grandma @34? Are you broken or are you happy? Oh well, I had my son at 21@ my first contact with my first boyfriend (now late) in fact I have finished secondary school @17 a virgin and promised to stay till my wedding night but shit happened and I got pregnant after my first contact. Its so painful, i mean so so painful because your same experience is repeating itself in your own very eyes which shouldn't be. I can't imagine my son telling me he did it with a girl and she's pregnant. I will just black out and tell him to play me Chris Brown's don't wake me up. I will see myself as a failure and blame myself for it, well maybe if the baby comes. You know baby brings joy. She will have the baby but your family needs to break the strongman of generational and ancestral curses. It is well.
ReplyDeleteU finish second sch as virgin, mk we clap 4u abi wetin? Don't u c virgins in dia 30s? Hoe! Beggy beggy
DeleteUr family nids 2 brk ur own curse too, make u fit find husband marry. C who dey giv advice? Aunty gwe approach 40
Deleteposter 1:receive sense; poster 2: receive strength. Chronicles today got me cracked up.
DeleteAnony 18:56 and Anony 19:00,same person.
DeleteWhY are u this vile???
AS if ur life is any better.SAD thing!
Miss Ess,howdy boo?
LMAO @ Chronicle 1- Omode lon se'e. You sound juvenile. Focus on being an entrepreneur. Get your mind off boys, try and invent new things, make money, travel the world. And I said "boys" because you sound like a child.
ReplyDeleteChronicle 2- OMD. No be evil pattern I see forming so? Na wa o. Nothing to do apart from pray for her safe delivery. Ko ju yen lo.
hahahahahahahaha,the first poster reali got me laughing,hahahaha, then to see Stella's e-slap increased my laughter,babe move on,get a life na,haba!
ReplyDeleteposter 2,I love ur story,being a grandma at 34yrs is fun,ur cute baby girl is 19yrs,ur story is intresting. you will still find love and your daughter will be fine,she should birth the child,I pray she finds true love too,I pray she doesn't feel lonely for long bcos being a single mum,I Dnt know anytn abt it but it can get lonely sometimes.
Chai Stella, haba NA u harsh die,I culdnt stop laughin,see d hot slap,chai,poster 1 move on, n d second poster,I no even knw wetin 2 talk,speak wit her
ReplyDeleteNarrative one -you still a baby ,grow up dear.
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2 -arent you lucky being a grandmother at 34 .just like european women.
Narrative 1 Please move on!
ReplyDeleteNarrative 2 This one is a serious case of what goes around comes around. Just forget dating it isn't meant for you(lool). who would date a 34 years old grandma maybe a widower or divorcee. wish you all the best on your new journey! Chai
N poster 1 ur 26 if I can cleary remember ur story, chaiiii, Move on jare,men plenty kip searching
ReplyDeleteChai Stella, haba NA u harsh die,I culdnt stop laughin,see d hot slap,chai,poster 1 move on, n d second poster,I no even knw wetin 2 talk,speak wit her
ReplyDeleteThis is the same thing I always tell my eldest sister, she does not talk to her daughter. Her daughter tells her she's crushing on someone na beating go end am. Thank God for my mum and us who she freely tell her problems cos we don't judge her instead we advice. Poster 2. She has to give birth to the child just as u gave birth to her. Poster 1 please concentrate on your studies you don't know about relationship yet. Free him and move on
ReplyDeleteThis is serious.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, how old are u? If you below 19, then no qualms, as your immaturity could be attributed to your age. But if your 20 and above, I so feel like giving u a blinding slap at childish display from your writeup. Isn't it obvious? THE GUY ISNT INTO U. So move on. Simple
ReplyDeletePoster 2, This is the part where I would say, Jesus fix it (in Em jay's voice).
Poster 1
ReplyDeletehow old are you anyway? ??
Grow up joor.
your akuko na agbakasi aru.
Oriegwu
Poster 2: is the pregnancy iss generational or what ? 15? 19?
Hian!
Ask God for wisdom on how to handle the issue.
your 34 and would soon be a grand parent ??
Let the man know. He may stay or may leave.
finally pray againstt the trend and train your daughter better. Okay ?
So her child won't carry belle toom
poster 1....how old are you people again? cos from what I read up there u pple have no business in relationship. set your priorities right first and leave boyfriend matter. poster 2...i know how u must be feeling now,u may be wondering where you went wrong with her and all that. believe me,she knows she made a mistake already n is disappointed with herself. This is a time to draw her closer to you and bond with her. If your supposed suitor can't deal with it,let him go..family comes first. find happiness first. You will find love again. I have an aunt who remarried as a grandmother and she is so happy in her new marriage. draw your daughter closer now. God help u all.
ReplyDeletePoster two pele, talk of history repeating itself.
ReplyDelete@poster 1 u need Stella's auto reset slap...receive brain in Jesus name.
ReplyDelete@poster 2,ur story is touching and all I'll advice is that u embrace ur daughter like ur parents did. Ur supposed boyfriend is so not accepting the girl with pregnancy so just forget about him already. Be the best grandma or coming grand baby could ever ask for. So work hard, and enjoy life with ur family. As d youngest grandma in town :-) be happy *e-hugs*
Haaay! Stella stop! What kind of response is that to the 2nd narrative? You CANNOT blame her for this! There is an exception to this your rule. "One on one with daughter" Many of us don't have one on one with our mothers and we ARE NOT pregnant! I don't even know what to say to you.
ReplyDelete"Ask your mum for tips" abeg chill out!!!!!! No need to be rude.
Thank u ooo,I no even mind stella. It isn't by whether u do heart to heart talk with her or soul to body talk. Children wld still b children. D girl was just trying to experiment and experiment spoil,no b d mama fault @ all. Kai dis kind of talk is what makes girls runaway to all these baby factory to deliver,dump d baby in gutters, have very unsafe abortions, bcos dey don't want ppl to judge deir mothers and themselves. Kai stella I pray make u no see dis kain tin oo... Poster it isn't ur fault,b grateful everyday to God dt she told u,what if she did a secret abortion and died Nko or perforated her womb and she becomes infertile,abeg no let what ppl say disturb u. Also pls be a grooving mama,u r letting dis situation define u.
DeletePoster 1 please move on. The guy might be trying to take advantage of the soft spot you have for him (since he now knows) to chop and clean mouth.
ReplyDeletePoster 2. The Lord is your strength and wisdom.
hmmmmm i am scared for u poster 2...... honestly speaking what goes around comes around. just talk to her . i can imagine how your mum felt when you got pregnant even though i am not here to judge u, it is well with you.
ReplyDeleteposter 1 how can you love someone you have not had time to connect with? how old are you please ? get a grip of yourself abeg.
xclusivxter.
1. Brace up and let things flow. Move on like nothing happened though its not easy but try. If he's meant for you, he'll come back but this time, make him realize you are not in any relationship. If he's still interested,he'll ask.
ReplyDelete2. Let your man know what's up. The deed has been done. Pray also for God's mercy so in future, your daughter won't have to go through all you're going through now. Let this not be a trend in your family. Abeg pray.
So in ur full 33 yrs on earth, u've had sex just once and about to be a grand ma? Chei! As in just onceeeee???. I dont even know weda to feel bad for u or not especially as i have nothing to show for my 13yrs of having plenty sex at 31. Atleast you'd be a grandma in a bit, so be thankful.
ReplyDeleteIs sex an achievement ni? Mtcheeew
DeleteP1: You are too naive! You lack experience in handling relationships , and by relationships I'm not referring to the bf-gf type. You need to put yourself out there . Try and make new friends expecially with the opposite sex. You don't need to date any of them, just be platonic . You need to study men to understand the way they think and behave, and a good way to do that is to have them as friends . You may find that along the line they'll become attracted to you but it shouldn't deter you. In fact, it'll help you figure out things about yourself that makes you desirable , your pros and cons etc. I won't advice you to start dating for now because you'll be a victim of emotional abuse . You may fall into wrong hands and end up hurt . You need to mature emotionally and learn how to love yourself first before you try to do the same with another person. From your narrative it seems you fell in love with your friend based on his proximity to you. If you keep falling in love like this you will fall for anyone . I'm sure if you sat down to write down good reasons why you love that guy you would end up with a blank sheet . Take some time to figure out who you are and want you want. If you stand for nothing you'll fall for anything . Regarding your parents, I don't think you should follow their every command . They are there to guide you and protect you but sometimes their holier than thou attitude may affect you and make you antisocial . Nigerian parents don't want their daughters to date but expect them to get married ! I wonder how they expect that to happen. The worst part is some of them dated their husband's before getting married . Mtcheew ! Please dear, heed your parents advice but use your head . Try and build up your self esteem because men can spot your type from afar! The so called friend started getting on your case after you told him how you felt about him and after his relationship ended. Was he ignorant to the fact before ? I bet you he's still seeing that girl. Receive sense !
ReplyDeleteP2: I can't fault you for what happened to you. I fault your parents. Most Nigerian parents don't give their kids any pep talks when it comes to sex education. Sex is like a taboo or something that that's too embarrassing to talk about . The only thing they tell you is you are a woman now! If you lay with a man or allow one to touch you, you'll become pregnant! I'm happy that you did the right thing by keeping the baby. But your ignorance has affected your child . Did you educate her sexually ? Did you have that conversation before she left home for school? Most women in western countries place their kids on birth control when they turn 18. I wonder why we can't do the same here? Sometimes religion and moral lessons fail because kids like to experiment at the adolescent stage . Your daughter has her whole life ahead of her . I don't think she should be a mother right now .
My advice ; she should have a DnC. I'm sure some people won't agree with me but that's my opinion . She lacks that emotional maturity to raise a child at this age, she needs to focus on school without any encumbrance and not be held back by a kid. In your case, you had your dad to act as a fatherly figure in her life . Will the baby father help out? Is he a student as well ? How does your dad feel about having another child in the family born out of wedlock ? Will he help out as a father to his great grandchild ? These are questions you need to answer. You don't need to take my advice but I hope you consider it
Too long abeg! What is this?
DeleteI just finished cutting onions and trying to read this sermon with teary eyes just incensed me.
Stop it!
Awwww your reply to narrative 1 brought tears to my eyes... I didn't write in the narrative but your reply to it made me realise something in me that I need to work on as well.
DeleteAt 29, I've never been in a serious relationship yet I pray to be married. The truth is at the moment I feel embarrassed to call myself a virgin cos I've always dreamt of marrying at 28 but somehow and somewhere in my youth and growing up, I got confused and scared of dating (yet prayed to be married).
It's still a learning process for me as I look back now and despite my level of education and exposure to living in a fast paced city, I feel I've only acquired knowledge but neglected wisdom...
E-hugs dear for your reply!!!
@ anonymous, I'm glad I inspired you and I hope the narrators feel the same way. I hope you find the right man. Don't be embarrassed. It's not how far but how well.
Delete@ quicksilver : sorry about the epistle, I guess I got carried away. I didn't mean to bore you but it wasn't mean for you, so I won't 'stop'.
Poster 1, polish Ur English then go find love. This una story dey too childish.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, no comment. Ur mum is even laughing??? Does it run in d family??? OK, I commented.
Thank you Joy!!
DeleteI couldn't believe what I was reading,
he sent me a Father's Day wish for my dad and boyfriend... I told him I felt pregnant at his wish..."
What does that statement even mean?
I used to boast to my non English speaking friends that because English was our Lingua Franca, we had no problems with the language, but I don't know what kind of English children speak nowadays.
Stella you de try oh, reading all this disjointed e-mails...
Anyway, I was still laughing myself silly at the "SLAP, oya move on", when the second narrative sobered me up.
I don't even know what to say. Let me say what we used to say back in school.
This too, shall come to pass.
Poster1......receive slap and konk. Monkey..
ReplyDeleteposter2....congratulations. ..u just won a trophy.....u shud b in d guiness book of records
Poster 1...u sound childish,sorry!!!
ReplyDeleteIka wu nno tata...afo ole ka idi??...is he d only man on earth??imagine?...I can't bother my head over dis ur chronicle abeg...wen u are mature and can get a strong grip of urself emotionally,then can u engage in a meaningful relationship with a "SINGLE GUY"...Imagine sending u a father's day message for ur boyfrnd??? Love umuntakiri na ewem iwe..cant deal abeg,,,!!
Poster 2: Am sorry to say this buh I feel a bit disappointed in u...Won't judge u for gettin pregnant at 15 cos we all make mistakes.There's a chapter in every one's life they don't read aloud...Am angry with u cos u have failed in ur motherly duties...it's true @ times that life gives us hard nuts to crack and plays very tricky games on us...Ur daughter's pregnancy @ 19 is like a vicious cycle re-anacting ur own life like a slow motion movie replay before ur very eyes...
May God help u cos u will soon be a grand mother...The Lord is ur strength, Amen!!!
Forget abt men for now and strive on being a good granny to ur unborn grand daughter or son as the case may be...E-hugs!!!
Hahahahahahahahahaahahahahahaa poster two your chronicle cracked me up real good! Y'all will be totally fine.
ReplyDeletePoster one: errrrrr * scratches head .....me I dunno ooooo
Narrative 1) u will be d first to shout" men are wicked if he fuck and dump u. Please move on ooo jare...... Crushing on d wrong guy is d worst disease ever.
ReplyDeletePoster 2:be prayerful,this is becoming a pattern I knw of a family when they marry they get pregnang for other men outside,as in the grandmother got pregnant for her ex-lover,givin birth to a bastard,same thing happened to the bastard child,and it has happened in 4 generations.its evil pattern of the blood,be prayerful so u dnt becom a great grand mum at 50.fight it now so it doesn't linger
ReplyDelete@Poster 2 Ahahahaha she is laughing Aspa great grand-ma things,and for you to know how it feels to do mama when not taken for auditioning.
ReplyDeletePoster One. Until you tell someone how you feel about them, they just might be watching the off screen with u and even move on to the powered screen with cable network. So acting like a drunk monkey is not lady like. Aim for ur prey. Hint him with the right answers and make him want you.
Enough said smalli
Narr2) ain't u proud to b d youngest grandma I'm town.......... I understand ur feeling but d did is done already....... Ask ur mum for tips.
ReplyDeleteAt least no b papa and mama play ur daughter take carry belly.
@poster1 : double Mtcheew
ReplyDelete@poster2 : does getting pregnant out of wedlock run in your family?
You don't have a choice, after all the guy u are about to date have no intention of marrying you yet!
He will know the truth, so you don't have to hide it.
But why did you let your daughter make the same mistake you made?
You didn't caution her n be her best friend who she can confide in!!!!!!!!
Hmmmmmm
Funny stories.
ReplyDeletePOSTER 2, You and your daughter shld go and tie your tubes(joke). On a more serious note, I wont advice she keeps this child o. I hope this will not be a generational thing.
ReplyDeleteThe fact is whether you accept it or not, ur daughter is sexually active. Do not think after dis mistake she will stop having sex. To prevent being a 2nd time grandma or even great grandma for you at 50. Take her to a gynaecologist. Both of you need to be on birth control.
I know ppl will say God forbid, but believe me if she still has a bf, chances of it happening again is very high. maybe she no like condom sef.
open ur eyes to reality madam.
Poster 1, wait for S n M u will find love, Poster 2, a guy that loves u will love you even if you are an ancestor, just look Good, smell nice and keep being you!
ReplyDeleteIn respect to yesterday's chronicles.
ReplyDeleteMost of you are advicing the man to leave his girlfriend if she can't tolerate his baby, points i think you dear poster should know is this;
1)she only asked for a few years.
2)she didn't hide her feelings.
But from the advice,stella and most people gave you,its seems the only option is to call it quits with her, but what most people don't know or fail to comprehend is that all fingers are not equal. Your level of tolerance might not be same as mine. Dear poster,what exactly do you want? A wife or a mother to your child? If you want a wife,then do as she wants but if you want a mother,please break up with her and continue your search for a mother for your daughter.
In life,you can't eat your cake and still have it.you are a divorcee with a baggage. Maybe you should repropose to her and with this words, "please will you marry me and my daughter,as a wife and a mother to her"? Its not easy to make sacrifices.it should be her decision and not your a command. She didn't say she won't be a mother but that you should give her sometime to come to terms with the circumstances.
You know, i think you should ignore all these "saints" in stella'blog,wait until it comes for them and you will see that every woman wants to be a mother first to her own blood and not to someone whose mother is still alive. Give her few years to come to terms with it and willingly she will accept the child with love. But if you decide to leave her for all these "saintly write-ups" up there,you will definitely get the one who wouldn't mind having her in the house but will not just hate her but make you hate her too.
I am a woman and i know the power of woman and speak from experience.
No woman wants to share her love not even with her daughter not to talk of another person's.
Ur senseless, wicked soul Dts Wat u r
DeleteI'm sure he wants a wife that would be d mother to his child. Stop trying to justify this, I know u are entitled to Ur opinion and shit like that but what us wrong is wrong. There's no sugar coating it.
DeleteThat's y she's not the right woman for him, u dnt consider d little girl in ur comment ma
DeleteGod bless you @zion
Delete@ zion, at last someone's thinking rationally. Y'all are quick to labelling his gf a bad person but wat until ur in ha shoes. Therez absolutely nothin wrong in being honest. @ukbiss,Easy on d curses! U do not agree wiv him/ha shudnt give room 4 such vile words.#Easydoesit#
DeleteOmugwoship beckons!
ReplyDeletePoster 2 lekwala! Get set to be a granny. Poster 1 u just reminded me of a guy I fell for but he had a girl friend. Guess what? I movvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvveeeeeeeeeeeeed oooooooooooon. Don't contact the guy again. Letting him around you will only leave u in emotional turmoil. U don't want that! Wear ur red lipsticks and look sharp!
ReplyDeleteStella hehehe. That was mean. Poster doh! You no give her warnings with your story? Take Stella's advice and start getting ready to be a Grandmother. Happy Grandmotherhood!!!
ReplyDelete1- you deserve more than an Eeee slap, give me ur house address .... Coming asap for the real slap!
ReplyDeleteP2- But Why ? ?
Chukwu Abiama ! ogogo ya na akpu na ala
Without wearing an oversize royal regalia
Drag seat, sit down
Let me order for Pop Corn Corn, Ice cream,
Expectantly waiting for comment....
Looking confused at the thought of
SingleGrandMotherhood @34
Lmao @dt resetting to factory settings slap wt oya move on kai stella u won't kill me haba mai haka?
ReplyDeletePoster 1: But why? Why would you tell a guy you love him? These are African Men you are dealing with. Immediately they know they have someone like you in their lives, they will try and use you. Please forget the guy fast. Block his number so you won't receive his calls and please spend time to build your self-esteem. Gain some confidence being single, have loads of harmless form and develop your career. My dear, remove your focus from the 'Mrs' title and do something useful for yourself. Most of all develop a tight bond with God and please make an impact on other people's lives. Enjoy your singlehood, because when you marry, there will be lots of limitations. God bless!
ReplyDeleteGrand mother to be ....I don't want to blame you but I have to....how close we're you with your daughter ? How often do you sit her down to talk to her so she can lean from your mistakes? Did you even teach her anything about dating ? You can't do anything about it . You will soon be a grandmother and I don't see that standing in the way of you dating just tell the guy the truth
ReplyDelete1st poster I don't understand your story .
Poster one why did you tell him about your feelings if you dont want a relatiomship? The least you could do when he coming on to kiss you is take it eady with humour, that said, dont give up on him a little chat will not hurt or cheapen you, goodluck.
ReplyDeletepostet 2 at least your daughter is am adult n should decide what she wants, pls dont put pressure on her tnx.
Just here to read comments
ReplyDeleteI have still not recovered from yesterday's chronicle.
DeleteYou mean you want to dump your daughter for your babe.
I can be a bitch and all that but even I wouldn't make such request to a man that I claim that I love.
That lady is not better than your ex wife, she is actually a cold blooded human being.
She studied you for a while and I give her 100 for being a perfect pretender. She met you as a single father then you started blabbing about your ex-wife and how she always carries over her anger bla bla (Now the babe realised that if she must win your heart , she must learn to explode 30 percent of the anger and swallow 70 percent until she marries you(she doesn't carry over anger...Lmao, akuko idi na oba)
Secondly. ..she knows your daughter is your favourite person so in as much as she detest that relationship, in order to win your heart, she pretended to love her...and she succeeded in winning your heart.
Now your mom and your sister are obviously influential in your life and must have grown accustomed to your daughter , they wouldn't mind taking of your daughter , now your scheming babe knows that so she played into their hearts and must have hinted the arrangement to her...of course your mom wont mind, she loves your daughter and hates your ex-wife so any woman is a saint and acceptable so far as she kisses enough ass.
Now after achieving all these and knows she has you in her palms and you are not going anywhere, she decided to show you how she truly feels starting from the one that bothers her most...your daughter. She doesn't want that competition or you loving your daughter more, she wants you all by herself. Now, if she says that outright, you will know she is a jezebel so she did it in a subtle way. If you agree, your daughter will never come to your house anymore.
And she is not real,
If she is real, she wouldn't date a single father . She wouldn't spend all these years with you just to tell you this. She would have been real with you when you haven't invested your emotions on her.
What to do? Show her you are in charge. Show her your daughter is your priority. Use reverse psychology on her. Start acting like you can live without her, reduce the calls , let her wonder what is wrong, let her think she is about to lose you. Let her think she hasn't fully won your heart yet. Two things will happen.
She will start all over to please you and will be ready to accept even your ancestors or
She walks.
Now if she accept your daughter, still watch her like a hawk.
But if she walks, go and give a testimony.
If you ask me, the person who should be in the position of accepting anybody should be your daughter. Your daughter should be the one to accept her and not the other way.
Enough of this epistle...just dump that bitch.
Women meet a community in their future husbands house because of the love they have for the man, they accept an entire community as their own till infinity talk more of one daughter.
Today's Chronicle. ..my hand dey pain me abeg. You guys don't have problems at all.
XOXO MYSTERY
Xoxo mystery. You have said it all. Yesterday's poster, if u don't have sense, come and receive it from this comment.
DeleteBless u xoxo mystery, women marry men with his family members staying with him, y is sisi kpelebe misbehaving
DeleteN1, wake up and move on abeg.
ReplyDeleteN2, no comment
Oh my God! @ poster2
ReplyDeletePoster1 let the guy go u guys aren't meant for each other. Poster2 the deed is done already take it as it is
ReplyDeleteJust here to read comments
ReplyDelete@Poster 1, you seem to have self esteem issues... Work on that ASAP before anything else......... Poster 2, why is your mum laughing her heart out??? Could it be that there was something you were doing wrong in terms of your daughter's upbringing which you were warned about??? Because it beats me on what's so humourous about the said situation
ReplyDeleteStella dnt i jst love u? Kai that slap should reset p1.
ReplyDeleteP2 congratz in advance
Poster 2, did your mum give birth in her teens too? Seems it's a family thing. Your mum would be great grand mother soon. Na waa ooo. Children of these days and their love for prick smh.
ReplyDeleteposter 1, u need to stop dat first love ish...am pretty sure the guy doesn't love u to the extent u love him...hence no serious thing going on between u two. I think u should open ur heart to other people.
ReplyDeleteposter2, it's a pity ur daughter has made history again...u should learn to talk to her more often.. young girls need their mothers love and care....its a pity that this is lacking in our Nigerian society as parents think young girls should only be taught how to cook and take care of the house. the world has changed...and the sooner we realise this..the better for us...moreover, the influence of friends and wanting to know how it feels to have sex is very rampant as this is portrayed in social media and even on d tv. pls try to build ur family starting from ur daughter...u have to tell d new boyfriend about it tho...let's see if he can handle such baggage.
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteRecieve Stella's slap in good faith.
Chai poster 2 that's serious but the deed has been done. Congrats in advance on ur early grandma(ship). Or would you rather she aborts cos of your relationship ambition? I thought as much.
ReplyDeleteLol, narr 2 is really funny. Just take it easy dear. You don't have to mention it to the guy. Que sera sera
ReplyDeletePoster1.what kind of baby love story is this
ReplyDeleteopen your eyes Pls
Poster2.why is your mum laughing
Stay strong
Poster1: move on biko it's not love it's infatuation. Knock it out NOW!
ReplyDeletePoster2: at least she got 2 19 but I urge u 2 do ur research b4 asking her 2 keep d child. I.e, who's d dada? What does he do 4 aliving? Is he ready 2 b a husband n fada? Most importantly is she ready 2 b a mother? And if d guy in question is not ready is she ready 2 b a single mum? If No pls help ur daughter 2 flush out that tin n guild her through. #myopinion#
Poster 1.....I have no words for you.
ReplyDeletePoster 2....Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.OMG!!!!! I don die!! I love your Mum jare!! Is that how una use to do in your family? hehehehehe
Poster 1 sometyms luv is not always wah we want it to be. Its clear he doesn't feel the same way with you ,you shouldn't force love ,if u love someone and they don't love you back, be contented the love grew in your heart.
ReplyDelete@ poster 2 LOL....m so sorry i had to laugh.but trust me its quite funny and serious at the same time. Would implore you seek to know the father of the unborn child and try to seek reasonable solutions from there.Trying to create a hostile environment by castigating your daughter or looking down on her wouldnt help. The deed has been done and you just have to seek to be the best grandmother you can be. For your new found partner, explain everything to him and he should be able to be a shoulder to lean on and also help in this circumstance if truly he cares about you
ReplyDeleteNawa oooo..fix it jesus...
ReplyDeletePassing by, no comments today.
ReplyDeletePoster2, how I wish I ll b a grandma @ 34, I envy u dear,
ReplyDeleteOk!! I want to make it official and for the record.I have been an anonymous ardent reader of this blog SDK. So now, I want to make my ID official and for the record. from now on I shall be commenting as "Nwadi Uto 1 of Sdkblog". beefers back off! I am here to stay.#rollseye#. I love you guys.
ReplyDeleteBack to the matter on ground...
P1- I know how you feel.loving someone and the person does not love you back so hurting.buh I wil advice you to forget about him..bury urself in other things that you love doing like reading,hanging out with bestfriends,acquire a skill and the likes..with time I promise you will get over him and you will find Love again.my 1cent
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DeleteOya, go to d bank with dis comment and cash cheque. Mtsheeeeeew. Oshisco
Delete'Slap'
ReplyDeleteOya move on!
Had me laffing like a 'kolomental case' for almost 30mins in public!
Anty Stella, my love for u na Jackie Chan!
Poster 1, receive sense! Lol
Poster 2, the Lord is ur strength.
Mr money makes....... I thought you are an expert in women affairs.Why don't you say something reasonable.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, it will be alright o! Tell mumsie that no wahala, she will be a great grand mother!! That at this rate the prayer point will be for her to see her great great grand children o! Which is possible, if your mum is early 60s, even if this baby has her own baby at 25, your mum will be a great great grand mother in her mid 80s!
ReplyDeletePoster 1, let it go! We all had childhood fam friends that we liked. Problem is you let yourself get emotionally vulnerable. He is obviously not ready for anything serious.
Poster 1: I read ur post and all that came to mind was "she's such a child" from all indications u dunno what u want abeg. Ur still acting like a baby! Grow up!
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Eiyaaa, doh my sister... nxt time, draw ur child close n give dem good advise.. may God give u the strength.
@XOXO MYSTERY, You are a correct babe. No man or woman should abandon their child or children.
ReplyDelete#2, Support her in every way. The deed is done!
ReplyDeleteNarrative number 2: i no how you feel, cos i kinda know somone with such story. the only thing you can do is to make your self happy and not lat it make you sad
ReplyDelete