*Sad sigh*
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
SERIAL ABORTIONIST AND THE CONSEQUENCES.
Good day Stella,I'm really troubled and would just go straight to the point. I'm a young lady in my mid twenties (25yrs),graduated last year ending from one of the universities in the eastern part of the country and I am in a very confused and troubled state and would really need advice from you and your blog visitors.
I got into a relationship with this guy during my second year in school and it was good initially.
He was my best friend,treats me nice like no one has ever done before,he didn't have much as he is from an average family but he tried to give me what he could afford. I always advised against dating guys in the same class especially age mates but I don't know how I ended up agreeing to date this guy. Probably because we were close from 100 level and I really liked him as a friend. I refused to date him initially because I didn't want to lose our friendship if things didn't end well. So we started dating though I always tried to hide it from friends.
My big sister was very much against it because she is this type that believes that money first in a relationship so I never listened to her as I had a different belief.
He could do anything for me even though he knew I wouldn't for him as he was bent on proving his love to me. I also fell in love with him but I know he loves me more.
Problem started about a year later when I got pregnant and had to do an abortion. I'm the type that feel bad after having sex. My biggest mistake was not moving on after that. He begged and I didn't blame him completely. I blamed myself too and that was how we continued and said it won't happen again. A year later,same thing happened making two abortions in two years. I broke up with him. He kept begging and apologizing and I foolishly went back. No one else knew about this because I'm very secretive and hardly trust people. He was like the only friend I could talk to about anything.
I later graduated but he didn't because he had an extra year. I kept breaking up and coming back because he'd persist and not give up. Other guys were coming but I turn them down because I don't know how to double date and no one understands me the way he does. I always feel bad and think less of myself because of the abortion thing. I feel like I am not good for any new person so I better stay with him. We have sex almost anytime I visit him so I decided to cut down the number of visits but it doesn't seem to help.
He keeps begging me to wait for him as he is sure I am his wife. He has been saying this from the beginning and I used to just laugh it off because I never thought we would go this far but now it feels like I am stuck. We are still in the same state because I didn't relocate and haven't gone for service. I used to fear that he may end up making it later and find someone else to marry but I think to an extent he has proven that the chances are less likely.
We have been on/off but you won't believe that somehow within last year ending and now I have had two more abortions making it four. I feel very bad about myself. My self esteem is down to zero. My spiritual life is almost dead because I feel dirty and unworthy. The entire relationship killed my spiritual life because he is not a religious person. Now I can't seem to move on anymore because I feel it is too much. How can I even tell another guy?
Who would accept someone like this? The other day you made a post asking about our take on what and what not to tell spouses. I desperately want to agree with not telling but I'm not sure I can do it. This is too heavy for me. What if there are problems later? So I thought I just have to tell and this brings me back to where I came from; what man would still love and want to marry me after hearing such and that's how I remain with my bf.
Please I really need help before it is too late. Early this year, I promised myself it would end for good but I keep tagging along. He doesn't give me enough space to really be away.
Stella please don't just sit and read comments today and BVs please don't cuss me, I've cussed myself enough. Please advice me on what to do. I've tried everything I know but it doesn't work. Should I continue? How do I completely avoid sex because if I don't,I may end up having more abortions which I never want to again? Should I break up once and for all? How do I go about it to ensure it is definite? How do I stay away and cut all ties as I am overly attached emotionally and psychologically now? Please don't just tell me to receive sense and move on. I need details on how to go about it.
Another question is, If I eventually move on,should I tell the next guy? If yes,when and how should I do it and if no, how do I ensure it doesn't come back to haunt me? And most importantly, how do I forgive myself? I don't know how I messed myself up and got myself here in the name of love. My self esteem is down to zero. I had tried to be good though I wasn't a virgin before I met him because I was molested severally as a kid.
My friends and i used to say we'd keep ourselves till marriage (I didn't tell them I'm not a virgin). My friends did and are all married now. Along the line I got convinced that I wasn't a virgin and there's no difference between me and other girls who aren't so I gave in. I don't want it to get too late and be over for me. I know I've been foolish but please help a troubled soul. I can't sleep. Help me regain my sanity. Thanks as I await reasonable advice and comments.
Wow!
You are a nymphomaniac!
You need to start by tying your two legs together or if theres anything like deliverance from sex,please go for it ASAP and stay away from him whilst you get yourself in order.
I dont know what else to say about this!
May God heal you IJN.
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
HUBBY'S FRIEND IN LOVE WITH HIM
Dear Stella, I will like some advice from BVs on how to handle this my issue. God bless you.
There was this lady I knew as my husband's friend before and while we were dating. During my NYSC she even helps my husband buy my stuffs and send it over to my place as I was outside Lagos. After service we got married and their friendship still continued. I was not bothered for once. During my wedding she even shared gifts. Everyone knew her.
After I put to bed, she was owing my hubby some money . We needed money at the time, so my hubby called her up and she said he should meet her at a place to collect it. My hubby told me we should both go and see her just to stroll. She never knew I was coming with him. Immediately she saw me I could read all her disappointed expression . Since then I knew she wanted something more from my hubby. But DH wasn't seeing it.
I started snooping through my hubbys phone and saw nothing implicating but she'll always ask if he has eaten, if he is home, if i was there before she could call. After a while I decided using my Hubby's phone to chat with her pretending I was him. Na there càsala burst. She confessed how she's been in love with my hubby right from the scratch but he never noticed her. He was always on my Mata. Ridiculing her to be buying things for me. How she purposely stopped dating her bf cos of my hubby.
Infact so many stories. I was dumbfounded.
I haven't addressed the issue with my hubby. Because after deleting all the messages, I kept snooping to see if my hubby is also a party to it. I realized she was in her own world.
I sincerely need advice on how to handle this Mata. I want to cut all ties BTW them but don't know how.
Kindly help me before I misbehave. My hubby is the most sweetest thing. We love ourselves. How do I make him see that his most trusted friend is in love with him.
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Hmmmm.....You dont need to ask Hubby anything now before you make him curious about finding out how she feels.Just frown your face whenever you see her LMAO!
Or just ignore her or if you want to hit the nail on the head,invite her over for a talk and tell her you were the one that chatted with her and you want her to know that your hubby is not interested.
That should do it...lol
Will read comments.
ReplyDelete********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS*******
This girl, u are too daft. U never have anything to say. Lagos dullard
DeletePoster 1.... Condoms don finish for market??? Hian.....4 abortions! Tie ur legs biko... break up and don't tell the next person ALL, just tell him u have had abortion....dont say no, and say it was a mistake..lol....
DeletePoster 2....i go with stella's advice....call her privately, tell her u were the one that chatted with her, u r sorry, but she shd move on and u wouldn't tell hubby about both the chat and the talk. Talk nicely.... and really don't tell hubby, just gently tell him during jokes that he shd keep away from her as u think she loves him and it would be really uncomfortable for her when he keeps going around her... all the best...
Poster 1: even if you can't abstain from sex, why didn't you buy condoms or contraceptive pills, u claim you are a graduate and don't know the right step in attacking from unwanted pregnancies!! Way to much abortion for a 25 years old lady. You have to tell whoever u find after him once you see that it's getting very serious like engagement!! But don't tell him 4 oh, just say 2..... because 4 abortions will scarce even the strong man and he might feel u can even be pregnant again!
DeleteStella ur comment for poster one is too harsh. This girl is lost and needs help.
DeleteSome of us were once foolish before we became wise and strong.
Poster 1, I understand u completely but only u can free urself.
Until u surrender to God completely, this relationship will destroy u. U have to start going to church and hearing the word of God. Pray to God to break the relationship totally. Change ur sim card. Totally avoid the boy, he won't marry u. He's using ur weak point against u. U tell him ur secrets, ur fears, ur everything. He knows u like the back of his palm.
Now until u change, u cannot be free from him. Show him that u can be strong. He knows u are weak!
It's only when u draw close to God that u can achieve this. Choose life or death? Don't forget he's taking u away from the path of life already.
Pls fast for three days.
Poster 2, do wat Stella told u to do.
Anno 16:22,sit on ur middle finger,or hang do we knw u re really pained.
DeletePoster1,leave d broke ass nigga,if u must do,use codon biko.
Poster2,follow Stella's last advise.
Poster 1: God's grace is sufficient for all your sins but you have to be genuinely repentant and most of all ask for the Holy Spirit to help you keep away from this guy as in cut all ties.
DeleteI agree, I honestly don't think he'll marry you. He is a man, what does he have to loose if he doesn't vs what you have to loose.
Also there is something about keeping secrets the devil sometimes uses to his advantage against us. Find someone you trust, a spiritual mentor (ideally someone older and hopefully more mature), tell them, pray with them and allow them put you in check if you try to go back.
The good thing is you have realised the sin and are sorry about it. God is sooo amazing that he gives you a new slate however the Bible also says and I quote "should we continue to sin that Grace may abide"
I wish you the very best and I pray restoration to your life and body in Jesus name Amen
B
Poster 1 loves sex...*sigh* I rebuke girls like that IJN
DeletePoster 2 - frown your face whenever you see her o.
Haba Stella she is not a nymphomaniac, u misunderstood her plight. we can't judge others because they are different, we sin differently. That is hers and we all have ours, bvs stop the attack and insult, let him who is without sin be the first to cast the first stone. Poster 1 God is all u need to overcome, until u begin to love God as much as u love ur boyfriend and would not want to hurt him, u wil never be able to leave him or stand on ur ground about not having sex. Same u r determined to make ur boyfriend happy be determined to make God happy. God will see u tru ds decision.
DeleteI got pregnant at d age of 13, aborted it, was given to one man to marry still at a very tender age. *wipes tears* I ran away, I entered d streets. It's been tuff for dis pretty girl. It's been very tough!!!!! To be continued.....
ReplyDeleteThought twas your narrative initially.
Deletesorry dear..
If life gives you a lemon, make a lemonade out of it.
Go and sit down joor...
DeleteYou are not the first and won't be the last...
Some people have seen worse than you...
13 years ?
DeleteLike seriously
I doubt
Shut d fuck upp u fool,attention seeker oshii.
DeleteOdi, you got pregnant at d age of 13.What manner home do you come from?
DeleteOdi the ode woman!
Delete@poster1 : you are stupid and I doubt if you where created with common sense!
@poster2 : please call the stupid woman and talk sense into her.......den set a trap 4 her n when she falls,make sure you teach her a lesson she will never 4get!
But make sure you hubby knows about everything.
All will be well. For you to write this, you have strength. Odi, God is with u. #SpecialBigHug.
Delete@queen linda, where shud I sit on? R ur laps soft enuf? I still admire u all d same. Thanks ceetee
Delete@Odi...hmmm, now I understand why u call itself that messed up silly girl! Tough life, but ur alive, means there's room to change ur story, learn from ur past & plan for a beautiful future. Wish I could speak with u...
Delete-Teddy.
Viv in your high and mighty holier than the pope's state u call d poster stupid and doubt if she was created with common sense? Wow! D way some people cuss others out is terrible! She asked for advise and in your very stupid mind u just offered one? Bitch!!!
DeleteI think you just made this up. Fine story line though.
Delete@odi, it is well with u and very soon u will share ur testimony.... all these Lord's and queens of Imebush , if u don't 've any advice or don't know what to say, pls shut up....
DeleteChronicles…brb
ReplyDeletePoster 1;; since you can't abstain from sex, you can't use condom too because I guess you trust him alot to be faithful hence no fear for HIV , please get another contraceptive. An implant , Iucd, pills or Injectibles .that's how married women (and civilized young women) prevent getting pregnant .
DeletePoster 1- Nobody is perfect every body has there own skeleton. But your ability 2 pick yourself from the floor tell yourself d truth and move on makes people distinct in this life, so dear 4give yourself and move on if you truly love your beautiful future ahead of you..u were ignorant now u are wise receive sense
DeletePoster 2...don't event dat Psycho 2 ur house if u are home alone.
*dont invite
DeleteI know this is unrelated. But someone (anonymous) posted this interesting story under "Dating same person and how male and females react".
ReplyDeletePlease be patient with the grammatical architecture. It is quite interesting.
This comes my story
I hate my life and hate the fact that am uneducated.
my mates were going to school although my parents poor
but I having opportunity to go to school coz I works in a big shop as sales girl I was paying me 50k with my ssce.
I have one big man widow man that give me money.i now fall in love with one poor boy call Churchill
who use my head so much but let forget that one I go send it as chronicle u wouid pity me.na me train am for school mu friend aways waring me
I keep malice withh her now she's graduate and in ph she working.
me use my money to train this boy he no marry me he say he no marry illetrate..
But about this subject here.i meet this banker in ist bank he told me he like to date me we start dating so at the end
one day
He call me that his sister come from benin to stay so I go to the house to greet her
he told the girl me am his gf she smiled at me.
Later she wouid ne calling calling me up and down and say she wants to see me she is broke she want this and that and me u wouid be giving her money trying to make her like me
She say she want to make her her brother no give her money i want go ask her brother why she say no he wouid vex.
To cut story short that's how she taking money from me oo
til she want to go she say borrow me 50k I say too big I borrow 30k she say she go give me bf she go.
To my suprise I go to the house I no see her again
he say his sister left I say ah ah what about my money she no tel me he was shock he say u give her money why na he call her then shout at her...
then I call her she started laughing at me that am a fool that his her bf that if I think she's going to laugh at me.or fight me that am a fool an illetrate they both agree he be fucking someone in her absent.
When he said am an illterate she agree so he dont cheat about that
she just play along to deal with me omg I was shocked.
I started shouting at the boy he too started begging me that he would pay me the money that he won't do it again that he don't want the girl again but his forcing him that's why.he even told her am his gf them no even lash
.but he didn't pay me the money evryday he wouid be saying that his srry sorry no money back...
So me I plan for the girl u gave my brother the girls number to call her as a maga send her credit of about 2k then send her 5k to come to another town so she won't suspect ekppoma my home town then I ready enough girls and boys .
We waited for her and got her I beat her very well I naked her then I lock her in station I calculate my money up to 150 to pay the boy came to bail her I told police his owing me too 250k I have teller I have been paying paying for him they lock him too.one big man help me they both paid me put together about 200k befor leaving thag cell.
I hope u can read my English and learn your lesson and decepline yourself.
Hahahah.
DeleteI must confess,my head and eyes hurts in a bid to understand what she wrote.
Abeg ds kin english pass me.
Aldo i understood what she was trying to say tho and it serves d girl and her bf right for being locked up.
Bt abeg the person dt wrote this shld just stay away 4rm pen and paper for a while *phew*
Money blaaaa,
DeleteI saw the comment too,it should have been a post on its own.
Hilarious but heartbreaking. Lol
This will definitely derail this post. It is hot!
Illiteracy is really an ailment but I still understand her story and had a good laugh tho
DeleteVery interesting ....... babe u get mind oooo chai I love u already. ........ jst keep being u......
DeleteChoi!!! This story is epic... I read the English wella.
DeleteWalahi. I love the way the girl handled the matter. Forget English, the story sweet me die. Still laughing fucking hard
DeleteHahahahahahahahna,thiss made my day.
DeleteLmao this lady ehnnn don't even know what to say sef
DeleteHuh?..
DeleteDope lady dope story.
DeleteOmg!!!Kikikikikikimikikikikikiikikiki
DeleteThis girl might be an illiterate but I so love the way she handled this matter.
Choi! And Ekpomma na bad place gaan
So fake! Bombshells aren't even consistent. Started out spelling fine and then slowed down, nice fiction tho
DeleteIts not late to be educated.
DeleteWhat a way to end the day. Wise babe.
DeleteThe chronicles is here
ReplyDeleteHi poster 1...
DeleteIt's a shame this is happening in a civilized world... I know how u feel. Do not tell anyone not even a pastor.... Go to church on a day without service. Lay on the altar pour your heart to your creator, promise never to do it again. Be purely repentant of your sin... Wipe your tears.... Fast and pray to God to give you the Grace n might to stay out of sin... Break up with the wicked soul cos he would never marry u..... Process your papers n go for service.... Start life again as a secondary virgin... Take your time before going into any other relationship n make sure your next would be a mature relationship of likelihood of settling. Be honest to him Buh never tell him Uv had abortions. May God help u. I see u truely love this guy Buh fear of breaking up n him becoming successful won't let u. It's time to act mature. May the Lord help you n give u d Grace to conquer temptations.... AMEN....
P1: 4 abortions and probably counting if u don't walk away now....Hmmm. God is so merciful.
DeleteThis is what u will do: make a fresh start. By making a fresh start I mean u getting rid of anything or anyone that takes u back the past that u so desperately want to get rid of, and that includes your boyfriend...
Will it be easy? No. It will be the hardest thing you will ever do but when u know u are doing it to save ur life, ur future and ur sanity, then u will definitely fight for it.
Can u do it alone? No. U need Jesus all d way but until u invite Him to take over ur messed up life, u are solely on ur own and ur feeble human strength won't take u far. U will keep going back to ur past and to ur boyfriend and that means more sex, more abortions, more heart aches and restlessness.
As long as u hang around ur bf, because u both are sexually connected, it will be difficult to resist him. So, don't just turn to God for help, u have to also take drastic steps by cutting off every communication with bf.
Before u do, u can text him and tell him in strong terms that u both need to let each other go. That u want to move on with reasons. This pain u feeling now isn't worth it. Oh! The beauty of living the Jesus life! U must experience it!
No matter what, don't go back. I won't be easy but with God by ur side, it's very possible.
Ur past becomes past when u yield ur life to Jesus and guess what? Ur abortions won't count any more cos ur sins are forgiven. And whichever man that wants to settle with u will love u just d way u are irrespective of ur past.
It's good u indulge ur future spouse on anything that may jeopardise ur marriage before u get married. Be assured that the man who will love u for u will choose u even if u have had 4 abortions. God can do it. As long as u have put ur past behind u and opted for a fresh start in Christ.
Personally, I can't do anything without God. He is my ability and He will be urs too if u ask Him now!
With deep love for u, God's grace as u turn to Him and not man.
U can check out articles on relationships on my blog mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com. There is so much u will learn from there I promise.
P2: Depending on d kind of DH u have, u may end up putting ideas into his head if u tell him. For some other DHs, they will just laugh over it and keep their distance from her.
So since I don't know what category ur DH belongs, follow Stella's advice and let her know u know. It will keep her in check .
Cos as long as she still thinks it was ur DH she was chatting with, it will embolden her to make her move on ur DH. As much as possible let her keep her distance from ur man. Protect ur asset. *wink*
Choose righteousness.
Mitchelleobatu.blogspot.com
Poster one you don't have sense. So must you get pregant every time you meet with your supposed boyfriend who is your supposed husband to be. Birth control is very cheap you have no excuse. Women on this blog annoy me, they always force you people to do everything, to take prick, to fuck, to take oath, to keep pregnancy, to abort. You keep giving things you shouldn't cos you feel that will keep a man and in the end you lose. Are you a chicken? Always getting pregnant. That guy won't marry you and if I knew him I'd tell him not to marry you. You lack the mental capacity to make good decisions even for your own life.
ReplyDeleteStop having sex abstain or protect yourself. You people don't even fear diseases anymore, tomorrow you'd come on this blog and be begging for money to treat one disease or the other.
Poster 2 over to married people.
Harsh, but 100% agree with u, for once!
DeleteBefore you all go on with your advice on your 'birth control pills', I want to bring your attention to a 26 year old woman who had stroke as a result of excess intake of contraceptives. Don't abuse the drug and don't underestimate it. Life is a risk, you can f*ck but abstinence remains the best.
DeleteJesus fix posters one and two (in Emjay's voice) no offense meant.
ReplyDeleteStella why not posting my comment na? Please post I beg you. You dnt know what this means to me.
Please dear BVs, who knows a private hospital/doctor(s) in calabar that handles infertility issues? Or even the contact of a traching hospital specialist?(although I'll prefer private)Please kindly drop the name of d hospitals and possibly contacts of doctors under my comment or kindly mail to me: virtousladyme@gmail.com. Please treat as urgent. God bless you.
Poster 1 just ask God for forgiveness. All this abortion for on and off relationship. Jesus fix it.
ReplyDeletePoster 1- tiie ur legs like a mermaid! Since sex isn't ur calling stop it, ur own sex leads to pregnancy bcos u like skin to skin and u dnt use condom. neva u tell ur bf/husband that u av had an abortion b4 cos any Lil problem 2mao,it will be ur fault.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: just do what stella said, call her for dinner or lunch, open up and tell her u were d one she was chatting with and I bet u she will b so shocked and she will start avoiding ur husband!
Poster 1, MOVE ON.
ReplyDeleteAnd you don't have to tell anybody about your past except it poses health risks. Have a thorough check up done at a good hospital to ensure you can carry a child and move on with your life and close your legs.
Nappyhaired.com
Poster 1, just negodu your life.
ReplyDeletePoster1, move on cos wit 4 abortions dat guy won't marry u . Nd u don't need to tell a new guy about ur past abortions wit old guy.
ReplyDelete"Mk" wake up from ur slumber! Ask pips wit 5 abortions or more they r happily married wit kids sef
DeletePoster 1,
ReplyDeleteYou see why I don't advise girls to date chewing gum student boyfriends...
And am sure this poster will be the first to call RUNZ girls unprintable names...
Most RUNZ girls are better than you because they don't beleive in all these nonsense yeye love...
They only love big fish that has some $ to spend...
Poster,just give your self some brain and move on!!!...
This your school boyfriend will never marry you...and don't ever tell any new guy you met that you have done countless abortion...
Oriegwu oh!...
Akuko umuazi...
Poster 2,
No curse for alarm yet...
Continue monitoring them...
Make sure you gather enough evidence before confronting hubby...
Poster one
DeleteThe only thing i am very sure of is that your boyfriend will not marry you. He will not!
You are just a lost child.
Just sit down and read comments both positive and negative,it will help you.
Just remember this,God is ever forgiving.
Dust yourself up and forge ahead.
Decide today to practice secondary virginity.
Your lack of self worth/self esteem stems from your childhood which you didn't shed light on.
You will be fine,it is not the end of the world to have this hanging on your shoulders.
Liberate from that wicked boy. Yes I call him wicked because he has watched you go through this painful procedure 4times(give and take) and still claims he loves you..
Someone will find you worthy,don't worry your head about what to divulge and what not to. It is your decision to spill all if you want.
And if you took care of yourself very well during your procedures,i don't think you will have fertility issues,God willing.
That boy will not marry you.
My mother will say, u r fertile like me. One touch even hug go give u belle. Don't mind the people yabbing runz girls. As if they can do what the girls r doing. If I see a runz babe, i'll hail her wella. Coz it's her life and toto. If they use her for ritual, na she sabi. E no concern me. If her runz pay, na she sabi too
DeleteP1 u sound like a small girl..
ReplyDeleteKeep ur legs shut or start using a condom...
U r not d worst anyway so drop d guilt trip..
USE CONDOM IF U CAN'T clost ur legs...
P2 it's good ur hubby is not a party to her fantasies..beware of her, she can kill u codedly...
Do not tell ur husband ant d message either, u can either talk to her or ignore her n guard ur home against her. Pple like that dey craze...
Poster 1, But I thought Gold circle is 40 Naira?i guess u r the category of girls that say "condoms irritates me" I guess abortions dnt? May God forgive u and keep your type faaaaar from me
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Pay someone to date her and distract her from your hubby
This narrative 1 reminds me of my discussion with my ex last night. He was asking me if I've eventually had sex since I didn't with him and if I'm seeing someone now. I laughed and told him nope. He asked when last I had sex and I told him close to 10years now which is my 1st and last for now. He said I'm not normal and I'm not human that I should ask my female friends. I told him that most of them are virgins na there he give up. Babes, u can do it except if u're nympho maniac like stella said. The ur legs together and pretend to be a mermaid. And pray that u'll have kids in future. 4abortions at 25?!!! My official sdk "Jesus fix it" goes to you
ReplyDelete....my 1st official......
DeleteWhen they can't understand why you are disciplined, they call you names like abnormal,immature or archaic.
DeleteDo not cave in.
Nothing will happen to poster 1...some people have done 20 abortions yet they are married with kids...
DeleteShe is only fertile...
I have read some chronicles here were by ladies who married as a virgin are ttc (my prayers and respect to them) ..... we should please watch d way we judge , we are not God...... about 4years ago I was surprise wen my step sis told me her best friend jst deliver a set of twins..... dis babe den if she embrace man na belle go enter d next thing na abortion. .... then I was still a kid but as dem code am reach I can still remember almost 15 times dat she had an abortion.... she got married 2013 and gave birth to her twins in 2014....just dat is not good to encouraged anyone to abort......
DeleteLinda that you did 20 abortions and finally got married with kids doesn't mean you have escaped God's punishment.
DeleteRemember God forgives every sin when you are repentant but that doesn't mean u will not serve the punishment. Even if what u display on this blog is not your real life....God will judge you for every person your comments on this blog have misled.
After forgiveness, then judgement, then punishment...which scripture???. Pls dont start heresy here biko.
DeleteLinda,so are u encouraging her to continue? Wat if she stops getting lucky and dies while at it?wat if she aborts d last child from her womb,wat becomes of her future?dats dangerous u know.d gal sef it's like she's not strongwilled!she seem cowardly to me and d guy just pushes her mumu button,and her legs opens!
DeleteWell for me,all I will tell her is to cut off totally from that guy or from making love unprotected,since her body is magnet,there are pple like dat dou.
Poster2,d best thing to do is to call up dat lady for a one on one chat.the thought of u knowing wassup will break her heart and she will give up.
Poster one buy condoms!!!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteAnd keep ur secrets to yourself, you don't tell people such. Move on!!!!
Poster 2: don't t!!
Poster 1, Firstly u need to let go of the past. Nd forgive urslf. Ask God sincerely for forgiveness. I feel u need to stay off sex for sometime probably like 3-6mnths, u knw 1 easily take in after a previous abortion and why do u get pregnant after sex? Don't u get protected or something I don't understand! Get dt silly idea of no guy wud luv u aside ur boo, my dear some secrets are better buried far away in d hrt! Shut ur mouth u don't need to tell any new guy whose intent is a serious r/ship! Let it be between u nd God, if truly u r sincere nd repent he will not forsake u. I knw a lady who did more nd she is married 2dy with children, no be everything person dey talk!
ReplyDeleteU need space now, free ur guy, abstain from sex, ask God for forgiveness, forgive urslf nd den healing wud come. All d best
Poster 2, don't knw what to say, u just need wisdom
Hian! How can my husband have a female for a friend? Which kind rough play be that? Poster 2, you need to have a face to face talk with her. Kill that friendship now. Na from clap dem dey take enter dance. Inukwa female friend.
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ReplyDeleteI don't understand you oh the only thing that will stop you from getting pregnant is when you stop having unprotected sex apart from sex and abortion do you have any other issue with this guy?
Poster2 so you will tell your DH you used his phone to chat with his friend? You better go with Stella's advice
Poster1 am coming back for you
Poster 1 shebi you two idiots are allergic to condoms upon all the awareness you are still having unprotected sex and abortions silly girl.
ReplyDeletePoster2: Are you afraid of your husband or your own friend? Stay there till she carry belle
Real allergic to condoms. Lol
DeleteThe friend is the husband's.
DeletePoster 1................So condoms and other contraceptives are for what? So you didn't learn your lesson the first time
ReplyDeleteMy dear u're wicked abeg, Its your fault only you open eye kill four children and blaming it on love.
It has happened already
Just move on and try and forgive yourself
His mercies are new every morning and remember
GOD LOVES YOU NO MATTER WHAT.
How did she kill 4 children?..
DeleteMtcheew..abeg shut up!...
Brown suga,Can you swear that you have not done an abortion before?...
All these hypocrites on this blog sef...
Linda please fuck off
DeleteEverybody is not u
Madam adultery/fornication
Even if it's not your life for real that you display here
God will judge you for some teenagers that your comments have misled on this blog
Don't mind brown suga na she do am pass. Every body na born again for dis blog
DeleteShe is wicked, really? Wow! Dunces everywhere i turn
DeleteShut up @Richbee. Berra fear God.
DeleteFor your info, the few that say the truth (which is so bitter) are bestowed with grace not to go astray. Pray for such grace.
After fornication and adultery, then what? Mtcheeew. Empty lives.
Yes, I am pissed.
The advice on this blog is just ridiculous!
Poster 1...ur level of stupidity baffles me.
ReplyDeleteIt's funny how u think u might end up having another abortion and u think dt is all there's to it,did u know that u could as well lose ur life?
I bet dt never came to u albeit I'm wondering how it is dt u still have a uterus after 4abortions wooow God is indeed merciful.
Trust me this bf of urs won't end up marrying u,u think he is as silly as u are,u think he wld want to end up wv some1 dt wldnt give him a kid later.
Nne u r just so naively foolish.
If u like sex dt much can't u use a condom or take an after pill? I doubt u can cos ur stupidity runs deep within.
U are a graduate and 25yrs of age bt yet u think like a punk dt hasn't seen d 4walls of d university.
My advice for u is to keep doing abortion o,id be mad to tell u not to have another abortion...Stupid girl
Poster 2---i have forgotten what i read. 4give me,i was so livid wv poster1 dt i can't seem to remember ur narrative
Hahahahaha
DeleteA million likes......I dunno how someone can be this stupid in this age and time. its really baffling. All this chronicle posters will just be intentionally annoying somebody.
DeletePoster 1... please move on and God will help you. You need to tell it to Jesus and then keep your legs together. the guy do not love you but allowed you to kill the seeds that God has given you in your womb. I hope you never kill our next President in your womb.
ReplyDeleteTell your problem to Almighty God alone. It is very well. i wont curse you because most of us have done worst things.
Poster 2... since your husband is daft not to notice why dont you keep it to urself. stop giving yourself HBP. That shows your husband is really a good man. Dont bring up what you cannot handle. It is well with you too.
poster 1,I don't get u.u didn't say d guy is a bad person.I was expecting u to say u denied him sex and he left u.You are d cause of ur problem,y don't u tell him that you want to abstain from sex and see wat he will say.Do u think if u dump him,u won't abort for the next person?it takes two to tango..But I guess u want us to tell u to dump him cos he hasn't made it yet..
ReplyDeleteposter2,abeg let sleeping dog lie cos if u wake it,Na dog bite u go receive.
U are correct, the problem is not d guy it's her if she moves on to another guy she will still get pregnant, so no matter how much poster 1 runs she is wasting her time except she resets her mind, she needs a lot of reprogramming and counselling, she is a sex addict and needs help,if u rum from dis boo without helping ursef na wahalala b dat and u wud hate ursef more.then lastly crown all this with the word of God, eat it and u will begin yo love itself.u are not a bad person, u just happened to in on bad situations.widen up enn and stop complaining there
Delete*wisen
DeleteN1, pls change environment, bc it's like u are stucked. Relocating will help u a lot to heal, bc that kind of rship will kill u n ur future. N2, don't start a fire u can't change, ur hubby isn't interested, leave it like dt b4 u use ur hand n rekindle an unexisted love. Na u go cry later o.
ReplyDeleteP1
ReplyDeleteChop slap!..and receive sense ijmn!..am not sure u r ok. olorun gbo!
P2
Stop raising unecessary dust!...clearly dh isn't noticing her..unecessary either hav a woman to woman chat wit her discreetly or 4 ever remain silent.
May God help you both in your decisions.
And u r okay? With that lashes u have on? oloriburuku oloshi
DeletePoster one.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how abortion feels but I won't judge u. Pls believe that God can Forgive ALL sins IF you Genuinely repent. Pls ask for God's forgiveness. Also, stop having sex with him or anyone for that matter. I know that I wouldn't want my bro to marry a woman who has had abortion but who knows? God may bring a perfect gentle man your way.
I won't advise telling your next unless its absolutely necessary but why not stick with this guy. Seem u love him and he loves you too. Hmmn. Honestly I don't know what's best for you but God does. So speak to him.
Poster two.
Pls do what Mrs Korkus said, call d Lady and let her know u are d one she had a Chat with. And tell her to go find her missing rib and stop orgling your husband. #Gbam.
Stick with who?...
DeleteOlorun Maje!...
Poster,run oh..
Pamilogeh,mba oooo
DeletePoster,runnnn for your life
That guy is going to destroy it otherwise.
Love kini?
And he has sex without a condom, when he knows he's not ready to have children.
Let him see money now,and he'll dump you immediately, labelling you damaged goods.
#WhiteDiamondOut
A guy dat allows u go through 4 abortions has no love for u o. What do we even call love? Wake up young lady and turn ur life around. Drop that guy like rotten potato. But if he claims to love u and wants to marry u, tell him to prove it by never asking for sex until u guys are married. At least he has tested and knows u are good at it. What is all this???? Hia
DeleteNarrative 1) dem no dey sell prevention pills for naija?, is condoms dat expensive? wat do u expect after kpanshing raw? Shuooo hian 4times is not dat much though compare to how many times some girls abort before hooking up with d right guY.
ReplyDeleteWat kind of advice do u want? Well I will advice u dew to d way I live my life..... I cant advice u to stop kpanshing jst because we are anonymous here,,,, I kpansh but with condom.If u cannot end d relationship please use condom....... SEX IS NOT FOR MARRIED COUPLES ALONE! U will enjoy it if u use ur brain wella!
That's why I like you...
DeleteYou don't pretend like some people here...
See how they are cursing the poster out as if they don't do without condom and abortion...
Oriegwu!!...
@queen samehere I love u for always being sincere. .... I no fit dey pretend to people wey no even know me. Maka y na ? Lolz
DeletePoster 1 dem nor dey sell condom near una fuck venue?
ReplyDeleteHmmmm!poster1.to move out from this, dear, you need to distant yourself from your boy friend. It takes will power baby and that comes from within. Make peace with your God.
ReplyDeletePoster2- I dnt know wat quarrelling wit dh abt anoda "woman" feels like. I av immunity ova such stress coz na me go get hbp if I do n he ll b fyn. Do wateva mks u happy n satisfied!
ReplyDeletePoster 1 pls leave that guy, tomorrow now if u can't give him children he would be the first to look outside, what kind of human being is he that would allow u do abortion that much, what if something goes wrong? Haba nah, hope he isn't a destiny killer biko keep off, such relationship is too dangerous, hope u love your life if u truly do, u won't risk it again, u don't even need advise to make u know ur endengering ur life.
ReplyDeleteAs for being open if u finally end that relationship pls be open, u must not say how many times u did it, its not compulsory but tell the guy u did and it should from the start of the relationship, no need hiding things so it won't come to hunt u tomorrow.
@ poster 2 tell her to come over, tell her what u noticed and that's what prompted the chat, tell her u know all she said and your disappointed, ask her if she wants to break your marriage, tell her to try and move on that love will find her soon and also tell your husband don't keep him in the dark, bcos after discussing with the girl she might tell ur husband who might not be happy with u.
@1, don't even know how to curse u, u are madly in love with with a broke student @25, slap ursef, after aborting all the children in ur womb he will dump ur sorry ass, what happened to condom, to do skin to skin Na sweet pass abi, common smell out of here.
ReplyDelete@2, follow Stella's advice.
25 with a broke student? Lol
DeleteSee this one,..
DeleteYou no dey knack raw?...
Narrative 2) over to d married once....one thing I know is dat women are their own enemies...... Men jst fall victim that's all.
ReplyDeletePoster one, please stop visiting him often and tie your legs as you are going.
ReplyDeletelmao@ tie ur legs as u are going
DeleteLet me read comments...
ReplyDeletea.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said..
ReplyDelete.
One: fool
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Two: pls let ur hubby knw ok....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Not in the mood
ReplyDeleteReading comments today
RE:POSTER 1
ReplyDeleteIS CONDOM SO EXPENSIVE WHERE YOU LIVE????????????? YOU OBVIOUSLY CANNOT HAVE SEX WITH A CONDOM. I WONDER THE TYPE OF STD YOU'LL BE CARRYING INTO YOUR NEXT RELATIONSHIP.WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU WENT FOR A ROUTINE GENERAL CHECK UP IN A HOSPITAL TO KNOW IF YOU HAVE HIV OR ANY STD??? OKPORLOR EYE NOR BE OPEN EYE YOUNG WOMAN.. AND YES, AM SHOUTING!
LADIES, there is no glory in letting a guy know that you've aborted for him. we all know when the person we're dating is capable of responsibilities or not.. when you know this, you should know how to deal with your sex life with such a person. Understand your body and Know how to calculate your ovulation. Personally, i would never let a man know i am carrying his baby except if I AM READY for such responsibilty out of my own independence, and if he is not "marriable" to me, I'll quietly abort it. Ladies, okpolor eye nor be open eye. No man is worth taking such credit except the one that has put a ring on it. That secret will go with me. As a lady, i advise that if your man is not the type u'll feel comfortable wt bn married, always use a condom. common sense is not common.. Routine general checks are not so expensive. at least once in 3 months.
Young woman, run out of that relationship. Stay clear from men for now. you sound too naive to be in an actual relationship. focus on becoming a better person. work on your self-confidence. you don't need a man to validate your self-confidence. when you add value to you, men will come for you.
POSTER 2; JUST let your husband know you're not comfortable with their friendship, and try to explain in a proper way..
***LADY EN***
Poster 1, I feel so sorry for you...
DeleteSo even if you guys have sex morning till night, what happened to buying a pack of condom?
The only thing I'll tell you is run for your dear life before it's too late, that guy might end up not getting married to you.
4 abortions for a guy???
Can't deal abeg.
na wa for you oooo, hian!
Deletespot on
DeleteFor poster 1
ReplyDeleteStella she is not a nymphomaniac just careless ..
My dear pls STAY away from that guy, visit friends or families, avoid him. Pls note he might not marry you. Find your way back to God, keep busy and learn to LOVE YOURSELF.
E hugs
Poster 1 : I feel sorry for u tho.. the truth is that ur so called boyfriend don't love u.... if he does the abortions won't get to 4... pls leave the relationship and ask God for forgiveness. . And move on with ur life
ReplyDeleteD only part i like in ur advise is ask God for forgiveness finish. What do u know about love?
DeleteEyah. I can genuinely feel poster 1's pain. Babe get out of that relationship ASAP. It's toxic.
ReplyDeleteWhy do I feel poster one is Odi that messed up silly girl?I myt be wrong though.
ReplyDeleteNarr1 Pls take a time off for ur self and pray fast if u can and ask God to forgive u cos at this point u need God's grace to overcome ur bf and having sex with him, there's nothing God can not do.
ReplyDeleteNarr2 I think Stella is right when ever she comes around give her the attitude that shows she's no more welcomed in ur home that will make her uncomfortable and she will keep her distance.
Poster 2, stella has said it all. Invite her and tell her u know. If I were u, that's wot I'll do. Stella poster 1 isn't a nympho she just doesnt know hw to say no to her bf. Cut all ties with him and neva go back to him. Wen he wants to get married, he'll remember dat u'v had abortions and dump u, believe me. Start afresh and stay away from sex. Do not tell d new guy anythin as about d abortions u'v had.
ReplyDeletePoster1...sweetie how could you let yourself get so entangled?
ReplyDeleteHave you ever heard about condoms?have you?
You need to take a breather pls.4 abortions for 1boy.!!! Really?
You really should stop being so careless pls.
Sit yourself down and advice yourself.
Do the right thing......you know what to do.
Draw strength from your bowels to see you through......
Start by cutting sex out of the whole drama if you must still see him.
You are so bothered about what the next man would think of you.....hmmm
What do you think this present boyfriend thinks of you?i'm sure hes just fucking your brains out.and keeps thinking why a girl would be so stupid.....
You really think he'll wife you at the end?
Take a deep breathe and advice yourself,ok.?
Poster one if u must remain in dat rship,use a condom please,
ReplyDeleteUpon all this info every whr,u still fuck without protection how r u sure he's not fucking someone else? Poster 2 pls calmly call d woman and tell her u were d one she chatted wit
Narrative 1) if u finally find love elsewhere please don't tell d guy dat u had unprotected sex with ur ex oooo talk less of telling him u ve done abortion more dan ones..... Better. Shut it!....
ReplyDeletePoster 2
ReplyDeleteDo not say anything to your hubby, else you will make him interested in how she feels and in the course of finding out what she feels, who knows.
Don't tell the lady anything as well, don't let her know it was you she chatted with. That way she will think she confessed her love to your husband and he is ignoring her, she will mistake his not saying anything for thinking that he knows but is not even addressing the issue. If she has any self esteem she will also begin ignoring your husband. Hopefully, all the best though
Poster 1: I don't even have strength to start cussing you for your iberibe but please if you get a better offer, Move on and tell the new guy ONLY IF you wanna get thrown out. Most people got dirty secrets...
ReplyDeletePoster 2: Let her know you know...that would send her away since DH isn't part of her silly game
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2. Tell your husband that you're not comfortable with their friendship in a calm manner and don't wear a welcoming face whenever you see her around your home or hubby.
ReplyDelete1. You need to cut off all ties from him before you abort your destiny if indeed you love yourself. LEAVE!!!. Ask God to forgive you, make up your mind to forgive yourself and keep off sex so you don't keep messing your life up. Its well.
Abort her destiny kwa? U r mouthed sha
DeletePoster2.....i didnt think it was right for you to lure the lady into chatting believing it was your husband
ReplyDeleteWomen and paranoia
You should find a way to fix it before your hubby gets to know you'v been digging all the way behind him........i doubt any man will like that.
And give yourself rest.
Nigerian women and man issh........Abia!!!!
Poster 1 - The devil is playing the guilt card on you and sadly you are allowing him to win, you are the first stage of your journey back to God already which is "Acknowledging that you have sinned". Fall on your knees and pray and beg for forgiveness, ask God for strength never to do it again... Stay away from that man, he is the devil's instrument to ruin you. Anytime the devil wants to remind you of your ugly past, remind him of his dreadful future.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - Talk to the woman, peacefully, tell her you appreciate all her help and friendship with your husband but you had a chat with her and you want her to stay away. Watch your tone with her and plead that she leaves your family alone.
May God grant you wisdom further.
I DNT VE ANY ADVCE FOR U POSTR ONE...IF SMTHNG APEN TO U ONCE, TWICE AND EVN THRICE U VE NT LEARNT LESON WEN WILL U EVR LEARN??4 ABORTIONS AT 25, HWMNY WILL U VE IF U DNT MARRY IN DE NXT 4YRS???WU DO U???DNT U KNW DRE IS RUBBER OR FACE COVER CALLED CONDOM??U NID A REALITY SLAP SO U CAN WAKE UP FRM UR SLP...PSTER TWO POLITELY,LET UR HUSND KNW U AINT COMFORTABLE WIT HIS FRNDSHP WIT DE BABE, BFORE DE BABE GO DO ANYHW PUSH U COMOT...TOMJERRYSWIT
ReplyDeletePoster 1 is to make the decision right now of ending the situationship..
ReplyDelete1: stop visiting him
2: block him from all your social media
3:Delete is number frm your phone
4 ask God for forgiveness and be closer to God
5: buildup your self esteem
6 after moving on, it ur decision to tell tell the new guy or not but I will advice that it's not necessary to tell the new guy since you have ask God for forgiveness and you feel peace inside of you
This your boyfriend is a destiny destroyer sooo run as fast as your leg can carry you. This guy will never marry you because he will give excuse that you might not have babies and end the situationship.. so before he those that, flew! A word is enough for the wise. God will help you
Poster 2: have heart to heart talk with thewoman. Let her know you were the one she chatted withand telll her to stay away from your family
Note :next time do not delete that kind of chat without screen shot or munch it and send it to your own phone before deleting from hubby's phone incase of necessity
Poster 1- All i feel for you is pity. seems the enemy has kept you in the bondage of sex/abortion all these while and now you feel you cannot get out.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, there is nothing God cannot do. there are people including myself who have committed worst sin and still receives His grace of forgiveness and mercy.
firstly, you have to break that unholy relationship,go on you knees and ask God to forgive you, ask Jesus to come into your heart, and start all over again.
Let me tell you something, it is never late to make it right by starting again. but if you keep on sinning, and pitying yourself and the so-called guy, you will never be able to get out.
take the bold step first by breaking the relationship, and please while at it, STAY AWAY FROM HIM FOR GOOD!
God will restore all that needs restoration in your life, and leave the future in His hands, let Him worry about the rest for now.
May the peace of the Lord be upon you.
Poster 2-Ask God for wisdom on what to do. It is well.
Her Majesty
Poster 1... . Sorry i wud cuss u still, haba give urself brain na biko. 4 abortions and u keep going back, dude isnt gud for u at all. Do yourself some gud and take a walk. Ask God for mercy and tie ur legs like a mermaid. Work on your self esteem, get busy biko.
ReplyDeleteAnd as for telling any man in d future, better close ur mouth, else you're in for more drama.. Smh @ u, you've got work to do on urself.
God help you...
Poster 2, i think u shud invite d lady and tell her like stella said.
N2, call her over and talk to her. Don't fight her oo.
ReplyDeletePoster 1..i hope u gt to read my comment..met my present bf in part two in skul, we didn't start dating till part 3 but he ws out of d country..he came back in part four and afta my project I left skul got ome to discover I ws pregnant (I had nt had sex with any guy and my bf neva penetrated he just using to play around so d pregnancy stuff ws a shock), I travelled to Lagos and had an abortion and we are still together but I never let him av sex with me without a condom..infact I go to see him sometimes wen i'm on my period if not sex is gonna happen..i do not even allow him play around without condom, cos I can't stand d pain, shame, guilt of anoda abortion and i'm nt ready to av a baby yet..pls my dear stop d abortion and close ur legs and if u can't pls use a condom or get a pill..it is mre dan a year I had d abortion but I still feel d pain, guilt so I will never advice someone to av an abortion..i feel ashamed like u most times, tryin to get back on track with God but d sex fin with bf hinders me somtimes...I feel like dirt but i've promised my slf not to av any abortion..if u feel d relatnship ain't worth u, u can walk away.. and believe me, a better man will come..wish I cld talk to u cos it seems to me we are Almst passing 2ru d same fin..but pls dear stop d abortion so u dnt get to damage ur womb incase things dnt wrk out with you guyz..dnt let d sin we commint leave a deep scar on us
ReplyDeleteThe question poster 1 is asking does not make sense !!!
ReplyDeleteAre u so daft ?how much is a condom? Did it never occur to u, to insist on protected sex? Abi did I read ur narrative well? 4 abortions ?????????????i reserve my comment on that.
Poster 2 o jare
Let ur hubby know , discuss it with him lovingly ...afterall if the case was reversed you would keep away . He is married now and should cut such silly ties .....u said he loves u , well let's see just how much .
@ poster 1: no condom where u are ni.
ReplyDeleteposter 2: pray before u make any move.
make i read other comments.
This is too much! God heal you poster one.
ReplyDeletePoster 1 what happened to taking contraceptives since u obviously dont know how to tie ur legs like a mermaid.
ReplyDeletePoster 1: na love push u like dis? All you have to do is sincerely ask God for forgiveness. Then move on. I would av advised you to keep ur mouth shut even if u enter another relationship but I really dunno wat to say. Seek the face of the Lord
ReplyDeletePoster 2: there's no need confronting ur husband and don't let him know. You r a woman. Find a way to send her off. Haba. Frowning alone won't solve anything o. And don't confront the woman. Just do it somehow biko. Not in a bad way o
#1, Since you cannot resist him and you have risked your life 4 times learn to use CONDOM! Please, keep your mouth SHUT when you meet a new guy, afterall you are the secretive type, so while spill? You think, another man will respect you when you tell him the number of abortions you have had? If it was ONLY 1, he will be understandable because he too MIGHT have done for his own ex. If you have money, better go for a thorough check up to see if no harm has been done, so as to put your mind at rest, and PLEASE RELOCATE FROM THAT STATE BEFORE YOUR SERVICE, OR ELSE ...
ReplyDeleteOk! Off o read the #2
Narrative 1, at this point, what ever measure you'll employ to tackle your situation not excluding regaining your very important self esteem and maintaining your sanity will be a steep one.
ReplyDelete1. Ask God for forgiveness and forgive yourself - not easy but try
2. Destroy utterly/wipe out/demolish/eliminate/liquidate EVERY form of communication/link you have with him - it'll be a painful process but you have to blot out the guy in question from your memory before you become a shadow of yourself or should I say a walking corpse. He will only obstruct your efforts to change.
Turn to God completely and seek His grace cos you can't and won't achieve any long lasting positive result on your own accord.
"though your sin be as dark as coal, he will make you white as snow", find your purpose and live life, fear/worry not things will fall into place for you.
God will honor you eventually. As per confessing your abortion acts...all, I'll say is thread carefully.
@poster 2....what you did was so low and bad. Did you have to chat with her to be sure!!!. well you are lucky you know her, what about others you don't. its not a crime that she loves your husband as long as she or your hubby do not act on it.start praying and stop snooping!!!.
ReplyDelete@poster 1.... Have you gone somewhere and you were told the guy jazzed you? please run!!!. we ladies always have a choice and intuition. If you still have to write in before doing the right thing, then my dear comments here would not help at all because only you can walk out of the mess of a relationship you kept yourself in. You need serious deliverance and prayers. It is well with you. I hope God sees your chronicle here because he is the only one that can get you out of it and not our advice.
1st poster: please get a condom or go on family planning.
ReplyDeleteDon't let a man ruin you.
Abortion doesn't save you from been a parent, instead it makes you mother of a dead child... stop please
2nd poster: Your husband is already aware that you chatted with her, don't talk about it to him unless he does.
Call the lady and talk, make sure you warn her to keep off.
Poster 1, quit d r/ship ASAP, i'm more concerned bout ur health, stay off sex for some time. Make ur uterus no slack due to numerous contractions. U need healing, go do a pelvic scan to make sure everything is ok.
ReplyDeleteTo Narrative numba 1;
ReplyDeleteGet closer to God for He is the only one that can give you that innermost peace,Get busy with something and love yourself.Cut off all forms of communication with the guy if he calls dont pick,if he sends message via social media platform,ignore them
The Lord will heal and restore you.
Poster 1 - first of all u need to cut off completely from that your so callef boyfriend and go for seious deliverance. It is only God that will give u piece of mind and strength to proceed. Once you genuinely repent of ur sin, God will give u a new beginning. You will meet a man dat loves you and you will have children.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 - you shouldn't have deleted the chats. U shld have shown them to ur hubby so that he will see the evidence first hand. Nevertheless still tell ur hubby of ur findings and tell him to chat further with her to see the proof. After that let him tell the lady his position and cut her off. If he's reluctant to do start, u can either confront her directly or give her cold shoulders. Whatever u do, limit her access to your house bfor she poisons u. If she can still be having feelings for ur hubby even after he had married u, then don't trust her at all.
Poster 1:No need blaming you or cussing you out, cos you've done that to yourself already.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, you need to make your peace with God.
You need to go down on your knees and cry to Him for forgiveness.
No matter how messed up you think you are,He will take you, and He'll change you from the inside, out.
You may have had four abortions, but He's forgiven people with worse sins.
All you have to do is ask.
The only unforgivable sin,is that against the Holy Spirit.
Then,you've got to work on yourself, because obviously, your self esteem is at its lowest.
Don't let anyone make you feel they're better than you are.
They're people, that though they've never had sex,they've done worse things.
Get busy
Read: Novels,motivationals, infact,anything uplifting
Go for your service
Quit dwelling on the past ,it's unhealthy.
Forget about being in a relationship for a while.
You've got to be ready first, cos obviously, you're not.
Cut ties permanently, with that guy.
He's not worth it,at all.
And if you can't keep it a secret from your prospective husband, by all means, let him know.
But that's before he marries you.
That way,you leave him with a choice for walk away or stay.
No use living with guilt all your life, you want to let out. It'll only fester and make you a bitter and sad person.
Know your status,considering the kind of life you've lived. You may be lucky to be clean.
May God heal you, honey.
Poster 2 : You've got to nip this in the bud before it escalates into a big problem.
Either confront that woman like Stellz said, or let your husband know.
Next thing, she'll think it was your husband she was chatting with, and she'll go seduce the man.
Na so trouble dey take start.
Wepu aka enwe n'ofe tupu o wuo aka mmadu.
Peace y'all.
#WhiteDiamondOut
P1,are condoms that expensive?must u go raw? If u knw u are too fertile don't u knw ur safe days? N u want to tell d nxt guy u had 4 abortions?nna take that info with u to d grave n leave such relationship Asap! Look for something meaningful to do with ur life. P2 call the lady aside n tell her she was chating with u,let her know she's wasting her time hanging around.some ladies sef dey kolo.. A guy is married u still dey hang around hoping he ll leave his wife for you.nawa..o and madam b careful with her..o she fit poison u to take over ur Dh
ReplyDeletestella na wa oh.how she take be nympho na?anyways,poster one,i understand ur situatn cos i was once like u.i neva wanted to learn d safe time thing,na so belle dey enta.yes condom cheap but u knw how it is.side eyez.when i got marrid sef,na my husband dey calculate for me.but i later found out dat condoms aren't so bad afterwards,esp if u are very wet.there are some nice ones u can try apart from gold circle(scented ones sef dey).so try dem or tie ur legs like a marmaid. instead of self condemnatn,ask God for mercy and take precautn frm getty preggy.if par chance u no marry ur guy,make sure u born first b4 confessing to ur husband say u do dis n dat if ur mouth too scratch u(but u don't owe any man but GOD) dat sef. goodluck. POSTER 2, frm ur narratives,ur hubby loves u and will do tinz to make u happy,so stylishly tell him dat his friend is in love wit him and u're not comfy wit it.even if he may be flattered,he will respectfully steer clear cos he won't want to hurt u his lovely wife.doh
ReplyDeleteSomebody comes here with her burden and she needs advice and all u guys do is open ur fucking mouth and say trashy things, all of u cussing her swear u haven't been pregnant bfor.
ReplyDeletePoster one
ReplyDeleteThe only thing i am very sure of is that your boyfriend will not marry you. He will not!
You are just a lost child.
Just sit down and read comments both positive and negative,it will help you.
Just remember this,God is ever forgiving.
Dust yourself up and forge ahead.
Decide today to practice secondary virginity.
Your lack of self worth/self esteem stems from your childhood which you didn't shed light on.
You will be fine,it is not the end of the world to have this hanging on your shoulders.
Liberate from that wicked boy. Yes I call him wicked because he has watched you go through this painful procedure 4times(give and take) and still claims he loves you..
Someone will find you worthy,don't worry your head about what to divulge and what not to. It is your decision to spill all if you want.
And if you took care of yourself very well during your procedures,i don't think you will have fertility issues,God willing.
That boy will not marry you.
poster 1,l dont know why unmarried people like u dont like using CD,but like to do like we married people do,but end up killing FOUR innocent babies and do u think dat dat u so called boyfirend will even marry u later,if l were GOD when u get married u never hear d cry of a child in ur life again
ReplyDeleteposter 2,call ur hubby tell him to take a covantant with u that if he ever cheat on u he wili go mad so that u can a peace of mind
Judgemental much! Cast the first stone then.
DeleteThank heavens you're not God then. * dancing *
Guess we all woulda been dead by now.
Kikikikiki
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Favour,thank God you are not God...
DeleteNtooorr gi!!...
Wait o
ReplyDeleteIs it that abortion process no dey pain
That's how my colleague was telling me how happy he is for his ex that married last year cos she's pregnant.
That he was so scared for her cos when they were dating in school she did 9 abortions for him
The procedure no dey pain ?
Whom are you asking?...as if you have not done it before...
DeletePretender!..
Everybody cannot be morally bankrupt like u.
DeleteSorry to burst your bubble
I don't know what abortion looks or feels like.
Useless woman
Poster No 1, You are so stupid and dump at 25. What happened to pills or condom when you realised the first or the second time? No advice for you deal with it yorself.
ReplyDeletePoster No 2, I would talk to that lady to let her know that I knew she is in love with my husband. Let her know that she should have done this a long time ago before you and your husband got married but now it is way too late. Thank her for taking care of your husband while they were in school together and wish her well that you know she is a good woman and you know she will meet a good husband.
Poster 1 please relocate out of that place, break up with that guy and move on with ur life. Start by asking God for forgiveness sincerely and pls tie your legs like a mermaid. U have to learn to forgive ur self too. But please avoid that good for nothing guy cos he's a destiny destroyer.
ReplyDelete#2, Send her a very worded message, ending it with; 'I am watching you!'
ReplyDeleteDon't tell anything to hubby yet, whenever she is around, give her a cold look!
If she still does not back down, then full frontal confrontation should be next!
She is the seductress here, trying to capture your hubby's attention, so you have to 'put fire under her yansh' to send her scampering away!
Poster 2. ur body is so sensitive, Since u can't abstain from sex, Why not do Condom.
ReplyDeleteyou don't know your Cycle.
Stick with your bf.
Poster 2. Stella has said it all
Poster1, I am speechless, cos I am not a saint too. May God help u take the right steps.
ReplyDeletePoster2, since ur hubby is not aware, I'll advice u let know u were the one that chatted with her. And tell her to stay off ur dh.
1.that guy is out to scatter your womb and life.better RUN from him.how much is condom and pills abeg?
ReplyDelete2.chat with her thru your hubbys phone again.tell her he luvs only you and will appreciate to keep her distance as he will never be in love wit her.
No na d babe dey scatter her own womb ....we should stop blaming guys over anything. ... she's an adult so she know d consequences comes after knacking raw.
Deletesorry guys but if i can't marry u, i will never tell u am pregnant! and even if i do, just know that u must be worthy of it & i must be fully independent just incase u deny am.. If u try deny am,i will let u know i aborted d pregnancy and break up wt u but not immediately, then give birth to d baby and take care of it like u'r dead.. no guy is worth that credit ,and no guy go use me brag over nonsense...I never advise unprotected sex unless he's ur husband, & I NEVER ADVISE YOU LET ANY MAN KNOW YOU ABORTED FOR HIM! **LADY EN***
ReplyDelete1. O girl. Just move away from that environment. You need to move on with your life to be able to heal. If you are the type that doesn't know how to say goodbye and mean it,just let go of him. I bet you can do it. Stop taking his calls. Disconnect urself completely . You can do it. If you stick with him. U may end up doing more abortions. And when you do leave him, be creative with your time. You'll def get over it.
ReplyDeleteD guy no do bad ooooo na d babe open leg na guy man enter na... abi na me no read where she say d guy dey force her ni?
Deletestella this your comment will spoil show for uni boys @ poster one .... you are not the only one my very faithful, beautiful, loving and caring GF from uni has had so far 5 abortions for me. I can tell you am the first to hit it and the only person that is hitting it. but kinda afraid to marry her cos of our previous acts. do not cuss ursef its all youthful exuberance and you do not need to tell anyone about it. All the girls that have serious bf while in the uni most especially those ones staying off campus have done atleast three abortions....
ReplyDeleteSee your mouth like you are kinda afraid to marry her after using her body,womb and soul...
DeleteJust imagine!!...
Poster 1 I dnt just understand. . Is it that condom no dey sell for ur side?? Ahn ahn. . But why?? Jst relocate for a while abeg until u get ur bearings and reset urself..
ReplyDeleteP1, you are one loyal innocent at heart Lady. You sound so primitive and naive
ReplyDeleteNobody holy pass but the Lord will forgive you. Tell that guy that you would not have sex again till your wedding night. Flee from the devil and he will depart from you. He has has seen your vulnerability and character and he is so enjoying it on you. At the end of the day the painful thing is that he would still or he's even cheating on you. Heal yourself of the guilt with fasting and prayer for forgiveness and lastly if you get to meet another guy please take this secret of yours to the grave. It would be catastrophic if you tell him such. God is not man that he would visit you with your sins, just pray and ask for forgiveness genuinely and he will forgive you. P2, somehow your hubby will know you guys chatted. Tell him you did with her and this was her feelings. Laugh it off with hubby BUT since you have told him, the real snooping just begun.
Poster 1- I hope you read this...
ReplyDeleteI am not going to call you a nymphomaniac because you are not, I am not even going to call you are fool because you are not- you are just a victim of 'yourself'. I sincerely feel very sorry for you and I could feel your pains from your post. You have successfully boxed yourself into a corner where you think your life is worthless and you are better off staying with the guy that is partly responsible for your mess.
I don't know why you are having sex without protection or using contraceptives after-but even then, contraceptive (Postinor 2) has failed me once.
You know what? you and that guy would eventually break up- only that by that time, you would probably have had another abortion. One day, the only thing you are going to feel for this guy is hatred.
You are broken at this point, it is a lot of guilt and psychological burden to have even one abortion on your conscience and not to talk of four but you know what my dear- it is time to take your destiny in your hands. Our people say that it is when you wake up that your morning begins. I believe you have woken up now.
Pray to God, pour out your heart to Him, ask for forgiveness. See, God has not condemned you- some people who are judging you have done worse, some cant even keep track of their body count, I know someone who had about 7 abortions in the university but she has three kids now.
Believe me, if you sincerely confess your sins and repent, God will forgive you. After then, you need to forgive yourself- that is the most difficult part. Your conscience will keep judging you but you have to find self healing- read your bible a lot, concentrate on books that preach restoration, move with positive people and by yourself- realize that your womb is not all you have to offer as a woman.
If you don't pick yourself up- no one will. You need to break up with that guy- determine to make something good out of your life despite what the 'damage', decide to be a blessing to your generation. Find fulfillment in your life and in your career. It will take a while, maybe years but eventually, you will put it behind you.
Don't rush into a new relationship, make sure you heal very well before going into another relationship, otherwise, you will either date the wrong guy or make another mistake. Please no matter how good the love is between you and whoever comes along- keep your past in your past, except the spirit leads you otherwise. It is well with you. I'm sending you e-hugs and if you need to talk more, drop your email address, I would reach you.
Thank you, this is what she needs.
DeletePoster 1 You come across like a foolish person or you are not smart at all. 4 abortions at 25?
ReplyDeleteDo you hate yourself that much?
Where did you keep your self esteem?
Even if you can't use condoms what about morning after pills?
Let me remind you that if anything goes wrong with you, he will move on and you will be the one to go through it all.
Run away from that relationship because it's not love it's lust.
There is a whole lot ahead of you, please don't waste away.
Be firm, know what you want for yourself. Take charge of your life and be in control.
It is well with you.
Is 4 abortion too much for an adult who kpansh without protection for years? ??? If yes dat means she's not fertile enough.
DeletePoster 2. That kind of friendship is too close for comfort. Tell your husband you are not comfortable with it.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, pls be strong. It is not the end of the world and at least your conscience still pricks you that means you are not entirely a heartless person.
ReplyDeleteNow run to any family planning unit or hospital for contraceptives eg pills, IUD. Better still get a doctor friend or pharmacist to help you get Depo Provera shots. Take it to a nurse to give you the shot. Depo will give you protection for 3 months. Remember to take the injection every 3 months, it will protect you from unwanted pregnancies.
Most importantly, renew your relationship with your God , move away from that city and start a new life. You may need to stay off sex for awhile too if you want. You need a breath of fresh air away from all the baggage a and bad memories. If your boyfriend is serious and comes for your hand in marriage, then fine but for now move away from there pls so you can regain your sanity and self confidence.
Pls no more unprotected sex pls. Even withdrawal method does not work. Take good care of yourself and know that the sun will shine again for you.
Poster 1: I think people need to understand firstly that she mentioned she was molested several times; which might mean she is used to having sex. My dear a few things,25 is relatively young some people meet and marry after a year or less, your Frds all saying they were Virgins before marriage Bla Bla bla the chances are actually slim to unlikely. Don't bother or be upset that you aren't a virgin; a lot of us aren't.
ReplyDeleteWay forward/advice: my love the Bible says do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers for a reason. No man is Holy, God LOVES us regardless, being a secretive person I would advise you get one these Christian guides: daily manna, restoration today, open heavens, the word for today etc start again with God, also try to fast for as many days as you can and trust me what to pray about or how to mend fences with God comes automatically and I guarantee you that after this, you'd have new focus, new direction and the strong will to love yourself enough to walk away. I'm not saying the person you're dating is a bad person however, he might be a destiny waster.
Start processing your NYSC, really determine what you want to do with your life, there's sooo much more to life than rship and marriage, life is a journey and the sucess of your future depends on your spouse, my sister PLEASE get busy, if you had a job there will even be no time to go and visit someone and be having sex. Ultimately forgive yourself, we all have sinned and come short of God's glory but the good thing about God is that he uses the ones the world condemns for his Glory. You are blessed darling and also i'm sure when your mind has been renewed, in your new rship you will know how to handle it easily either by telling or not telling... No disrespect to anyone but former runs girls, prostitutes, multiple baby mamas/papas, abortionists find love and live well. Sorry for my epistle
Poster 2: thank God for your husband, I've learnt by watching my parents and older couples that when it comes to certain issues men are totally BLIND(no offense men) I would advise pray away the assundress and don't nag your husband or give him any reason to table your matter to the assundress. Finally and I know you won't agree kill the lady with kindness her heart will melt and she will withdraw. All the best!
Forgive any typographical error.
(This is my first time commenting After like 3+ years being an addict of this blog)
Poster 1,i pity you, because at the end of the day, u will become BARREN! But please, don't call your future MIL a witch. Your boyfriend will marry a better girl later.I shame for you, cos u will contact HIV tru ur frequent ABORTIONS.
ReplyDeleteThunder fire you there!!...
DeleteI wish you whatever you wish this girl if your hands are not clean..
Who told you she will become barren? Funny enough, it is women like you who are goody two shoes who actually end up with fertility issues. Learn not to judge others, you ain't God!
DeleteHian
Delete1- At 25 years you are still misbehaving. How do you know that guy will marry you? Akuko!
ReplyDeleteCry unto God, beg for forgiveness and tie your 2 legs together, stop being a candidate for abortion. (I don't know if your guy's manhood is allergic to CONDOM).
-Break up with him.
-Let him be the one visiting you but it should be somehow open place. Start taking God seriously (go for weekly activities in your church) and He will help you and give you a good man that won't border of your past. "We all have past" and from what you wrote I can see that you really wanna stop doing abortion but not the sex. Sex=abortion, so make up your mind and stop visiting him. Jiri ire gi guo eze gi onu.
2- Don't overstretch it. Ask God for wisdom on how to deal with it and also pray for your husband.
#GodnayouIknow
Stella, that was so harsh and insensitive of you to call her a nymph. A nymph will sleep with anything that looks like a dick at any given time or place and not stick to one guy for years. She has been careless and foolish no doubt, but what she needs is advise and good counsel not outright condemnation.
ReplyDeletePoster 1, it is not too late to pick up the pieces and move on. Find your peace with God. Humans will always judge you like they are any better, but the almighty will not. Leave that guy, he is a looser and has made you his partner in failure. Find something worthwhile to occupy your time so you don't think about going back to him. And who told you there are no good men outside who will cherish you even with your past? The mistake has already been made, no need beating yourself up, just pick yourself up and move on with your life.
And for Christ's sake, if you must have sex in future, use protection!!! and on a side note, there's the morning after pill, or emergency pill if you fail to use protection. You need to stop being foolish!
Poster 1. You have had 4 abortions, while excessive, does not mean you should kill yourself with guilt and heap ashes on your head. It is enough.
ReplyDeleteYour body belongs to you and you are worthy of respect, start by demanding and using condoms for every sexual encounter, two, go get fitted with an IUD. Condom to prevent diseases and pregnancy, IUD to prevent pregnancy.
You might want to take some time out for some self reflection on why you do not value yourself, and if you can, find a sexual health counsellor at a family planning/ health clinic to teach and guide you, it is very easy NOT to get pregnant, very easy.
As for disclosure, everyone is not deserving of your story, just make sure you are able to conceive and you are good to go.
Poster 2. You have borrowed trouble, now you know, now what?
Just be unwelcoming to her and when you husband mentions her.name , make a face. It is normal for married people to drift away from their friends as they are building their new marriage, encourage him to hang out with others and hope she finds someone. If that fails, introduce her to other men.
Poster 1, I just remembered a story. Back then when I just graduated, a close friend of mine, (a guy) told me his gf died. Guess how? She died while trying to have her 5th abortion for him. She'd done it 4times already and felt there was no harm doing it one more time. This girl was very naive and quiet, you wouldn't even believe that she could fuck. Infact, my friend, her bf told me, he disvirgined her and thought her to fuck. Fast forward to 5years later, my friend is married with a kid and has totally forgotten about that girl.
ReplyDeletePlease learn from this!
Post No 1.I feel for u oooo,God wil intervene in ur situation Bt d first thing I tink u shud do,run for ur life.
ReplyDeletePost No 2,am in wit Stella,invite her over.shikena.
This comment is for Poster 1. I hope you get to read this. I was once in your shoes. I had 9 abortions before I finally got married. I had 3 of those abortions for the same guy who I dated for 3 years and was engaged to for over a year before we broke up after introduction. By the time we broke up, he abused me and practically called me a basket. After we broke up, I learnt to be friends with my cycle and my God and I didn't get pregnant again till my husband when I took in within a month after our wedding. I told my husband about my abortions for the ex and my own husband still used it to abuse me when we had quarrels in the early days of our marriage, of which by that time, I was already pregnant.
ReplyDeleteThere are a few things I want you to take away from my story
1. If for any reason, your relationship looks like its not working, please don't hesitate to walk out. No matter how much the guy begs you, put yourself first and talk to your legs. Don't worry about all what you have done with him and for him. Those things are not enough reason to stay in an unproductive relationship.
2. If you are a christian, please trace your way back to your maker. He is willing and able to forgive and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Pray for forgiveness and ask him to forgive you for all the sins of the past and to blot them away with the blood of JEsus. Wash yourself from the blood of those aborted children and ask the blood of JEsus that speaks better things than the blood of Abel and any aborted child to speak for you. Tell God that you want to have your own children at the right time and believe him for those children. I got the names of my children in prayers when I repented from all the past sins. It was a sign that God had truly forgiven me and that I will still be fruitful in this life. If God did it for me, he can and will do it for you.
3. When you finally meet the man you want to marry, study him well to be sure he can handle the information. In my own case, I thought my husband could but it turned out that he was still immature at heart. That is my cross and I am bearing it. I don't regret telling him but I advise you to know him well and know what he can handle. If he can't handle it, please don't tell him. If he asks, you should be truthful but do not volunteer the information yourself. It is enough for him to know that you are not a virgin but he must trust that you are a new creature and not a wayward woman. Of course, the situation may be different if you have medical issues because of those abortions and you are aware before the marriage, please tell him and let him make up his mind to stay or go. I believe God will give you your own man who will be with you till the end of time for better for worse. What I don't advise is you telling everyman you meet. Keep that info for the man you are sure of.
God is able to make Pastors out of armed robbers and hired assassins. He makes prophetesses out of prostitutes. Every one has a past, but God is greater than our past and is able to give us a future and a hope. Let go of the guilt and shame and let God fashion out something beautiful from what looks like dung now. He has done it before and he can do it again. He is still the same God. God bless you.
@ Stella...
ReplyDeleteHow you deciphered she's a nymphomaniac is beyond me!!You're not a psychologist(if am right). Please stick to blogging!
@ Poster 1..
God!..Get yourself together. Having four abortions is just not right(unless you're exaggerating). Not being able to leave that looser is not enough excuse..unless the life of the babies or yours don't count.
Leave his sorry ass and get back some self esteem...and by the way, take this abortion story to your grave!(..comment is from a guy if you care to know.)
@Poster 2..
You don't have a problem..so no comment.
Poster1 I needed to check properly to make sure I wasn't the one that wrote that chronicle. I met him while I was still in sss 3, he kept asking me out for 3yrs but I kept saying no but later I agreed. He is kind to a fault, the nicest person I have ever met, he
ReplyDeletetreats me like a queen, puts my needs above his, will
do anything for me. My friends from sec sch and I
had promised ourselves that we wil keep our selves till marriage, we gained admission into diff universities, and everyone moved on.
When I started dating him I told him no sex and he said Ok but over time he started asking saying it wil make our luv stronger, he was persistent n my new frnds were already doing it and made me look
like I was loser so I just agreed, he disvirgined me.He was in 300l and I was in 100l.In the first year I got pregnant, i had no idea what to do so i
had to tell a friend who introduced me to a nurse
and i had a D&C, I didn't take abortion pills because I read D&C was the safest, I was at home then not in sch so we communicated over the phone. My friend was there to tell me it was a normal thing so I didn't
feel bad too much, we resumed sch and the
relationship continued, the following year I got
pregnant again because contraceptives failed me, I
didn't know when u use it overtime it becomes ineffective, did another D&C, I hated myself, I wake up at night crying, asking God to forgive me, I felt fealty but he reassured me it was Ok,I wanted to walk away but I felt no man deserved me. He reassured me that everything was Ok he was sorry and he wil be more carefully next time, before the year ran out I took in again this time a friend told me 5 days after my period was a safe period that I wouldn't get pregnant I foolishly believed and told him it was Ok to do it without a CD because my friend said so. It was the third time I felt like the ground should just open and swallow me, I was depressed but he kept saying sorry and he was still there for me. We continued the relationship, he asked me to marry him I said Yes, he was so happy, he became possessive and controlling but I stuck with him because I felt I couldn't meet another man with this baggage. He graduated, did nysc and got a job immediately I was still in final year, I travel occasionally to go and see him because if I complain he wil say I have gotten someoneelse, or I don't love him anymore, or he is the only one in the relationship. Will continue they are limiting my post
Poster1 I needed to check properly to make sure I
ReplyDeletewasn't the one that wrote that chronicle. I met him
while I was still in sss 3, he kept asking me out for
3yrs but I kept saying no but later I agreed. He is
kind to a fault, the nicest person I have ever met, he
treats me like a queen, puts my needs above his, will
do anything for me. My friends from sec sch and I
had promised ourselves that we wil keep our selves
till marriage, we gained admission into diff universities, and everyone moved on.
When I started dating him I told him no sex and he
said Ok but over time he started asking saying it wil
make our luv stronger, he was persistent and my
new friends were already doing it and made me look
like I was loser or something so I just agreed, he
was shocked that I was a virgin, and he promised
me heaven and earth that day, he said "I will marry u
I promise". He was in 300l and I was in 100l. In the
first year I got pregnant, i had no idea what to do so i
had to tell a friend who introduced me to a nurse
and i had a D&C, I didn't take abortion pills because I
read D&C was the safest, I was at home then not in
sch so we communicated over the phone. My friend
was there to tell me it was a normal thing so I didn't
feel bad too much, we resumed sch and the
relationship continued, the following year I got
pregnant again because contraceptives failed me, I
didn't know when u use it overtime it becomes ineffective, did another D&C, I hated myself, I wake up at night crying, asking God to forgive me, I felt fealty but he reassured me it was Ok,I wanted to walk away but I felt no man deserved me. He reassured me that everything was Ok he was sorry and he wil be more carefully next time, before the year ran out I took in again this time a friend told me 5 days after my period was a safe period that I wouldn't get pregnant I foolishly believed and told him it was Ok to do it without a CD because my friend said so. It was the third time I felt like the ground should just open and swallow me, I was depressed but he kept saying sorry and he was still there for me. We continued the relationship, he asked me to marry him I said Yes, he was so happy, he became possessive and controlling but I stuck with him because I felt I couldn't meet another man with this baggage. Will continue
Continuation
ReplyDeleteThe character exceeded the required no.He graduated, did nysc and got a job immediately I was still in final year, I travel occasionally to go and see him because if I complain he wil say I have gotten someoneelse, or I don't love him anymore, or he is the only one in the relationship. I tried severally to make the relationship a no sex relationship but for where? He wil talk and talk until I agreed again, I was a slave to love,it was the first time I fell in love and used only my heart to think not my head. In the course of this traveling I took in again because when we had unprotected sex he said I could just take salt and water it was also effective but I guess not for everyone but this time we had already done our wedding introduction, I had project to do, my kind of parents wil not hear of it neither wil his, his church will not wed us, as that is their rule, infact they wil bring u to the front of the church and tell the entire church what u did as punishment, ban u from church group for like a month then u wil come back before the church and say u have repented, and the pastor wil wed u outside the church not inside, so to avoid this humiliation I did another D&C making it 4 or 5 I Honestly don't know which, sometimes I think its 4 sometimes I think its 5 times. Well I graduated last year and we got married this year, I wil be going for my nysc Oct. He hasn't changed a bit, he treats me like a queen, takes good care of me and loves my family and siblings like his own, he paid for my sisters post UTME and transportation, worries about their education like they were his own. We decided not to have children now until after my nysc and when we are financially capable because good schools here no be here, the house rent is neck cutting, but sometimes I am afraid, asking what if God decides to punish me, the guilt has not left me till date, we hardly talk about it, I still feel ashamed even thou he promised to stand by me child or no child but a man is a man, I am waiting hopefully for next year. I have cried my heart to God and he is giving me peace. I hate typing and I hardly comment here but Dear poster I am doing this for u so u don't feel like the worst person on earth, u have a sister here who despite her unworthiness God still had mercy on me, his grace has just been with me, if I want to complain and I look back I just shut up. Makeup ur mind, I know how difficult that is but try your best, get close to God and associate with Godly friends, I failed but u can do it. Sit him down and let him know of the emotional pain this is putting u tru. I am in no position to advise u because we are thesame I just want u to know there is some1here who made thesame mistake u did.
Poster2 :pls tell yur hubby,its better he knws so he will b aware of her gimmicks,v bn in d same situation and I had to tell my husband,d moment he noticed it,he startd avoidn her nd cut off all ties! .....so abeg tll him,my 2cents
ReplyDeleteMiss itchy pants. The guy will not marry you. You are too daft and wicked to be his wife. You lack morals. Which innocent next guy are you expecting. You are indeed wicked. You cannot control your sexual urges likewise insist on condom. Fool. Stop that cancerous relationship. Be celibate and love yourself ode. Next abortion is death or lack of womb. Ode.
ReplyDeletePoster 1. Plan to go for NYSC. Get busy. Block his number or change your line if you can. We have to make a DECISION and stick to it. Would you like to carry your babies in future? Then know that ABORTION for the 5th time CAN NEVER happen again.
ReplyDeleteIf you take this seriously and know that you are at your wits end, trust me you will begin to even hate him. Does he not care about your future, your womb?
Cut all ties and relocate.
You can do it if you set your heart to it.
Speak to yourself everyday and confess positive words. You are beautiful, you will find love again, you have self control etc..
Ask God to help uou. It is well dear.
If i end up marry any lady that had abortion for me before and
ReplyDeleteafter two years of marriage she never born a child for me i will
start fighting her with her dirty past life,,
and if she ever told me about her past abortion i will still doing same too
My ex.gf in nigeria has had 6 abortions plus before we meet and
ReplyDeletehad about 4 abortions with me which i begged,plead her to keep but she refused
cos she wanted to go university but i have helped her finished her education but
now hehehe she wanted a marriage with me which will never happen,
i have given her an education she wish from me but marriage never,,
this xmas her eyes go open
I completely understand Stella's reaction abeg. This poster is sick I swear. You did it the first, second third time and you din't feel bad, you went on for a fourth time haba. I pity you coz you don't love yourself and I doubt that you can change.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, with God all things are possible.
Begin to love yourself first. Your don't have an iota of self worth. I'm amazed that your concern is more about finding another man who will love you despite killing 4 innocent souls. You are wicked I swear. Do you even feel guilty? No man can love you if you don't love yourself. Stay off men for one whole year and pray for God's healing and mercy.
Learn to say No.