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Sunday, February 25, 2018

Sunday In House Gists - When Friends Abandon You..

Hmm.....



I remember when gaining admission into the University was still a problem. I had a friend that was lucky to gain admission before me. Whenever I went to visit her, her mother will tell me she is not at home.


My friend started giving me attitude. She stopped coming to my house. I asked her what the problem was, she opened up and told me her mother had Warned her to stop associating with me because I might not be happy she gained admission, while I was still at home.
Ah I cried Sha.


Honestly I was pained. Fast forward 5 years later, I have gained admission, and even graduated, my friend was still in the University. It was a 5 Years course but she changed department and ended up spending 6 Years.


Her mother saw me in the neighborhood shortly after graduation and asked if I was on holiday. Holiday ke? Ma I have graduated. You can imagine the look on her face. Epic. Lol. I graduated with 2nd class upper,a year later she graduated with 3rd class


Some of us are guilty of this.

*When we have a house filled with kids.... Our loyal friend struggling to have kids becomes an enemy. We push them away

*Once we get married...Our loyal single friend becomes an enemy..We push them away

*Once we get a job...Our loyal jobless friend becomes an enemy....We push them away.

*Once we get to the top... Our loyal friends at the bottom becomes an enemy....We push away.

*When we are happily married...Our loyal friend that is unfortunately a widow or divorcee becomes an enemy....We push them away

*When we have food and water...Our loyal friend struggling to survive becomes an enemy...We push them away.

*Nobody is your enemy, you are only being an enemy to them..We quickly forget... Life is not static. It moves and changes as we experience along..

When you condemn a situation along with the person in the situation. You are only gambling.

At the end, the winner is always the person you condemned, the person you least expected.

This is food for thought. Have a great week....as you ponder on this.

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*I have a friend who got into School before me and i know what i went through with her attitude..Today she is not working and I am not sure she even graduated but I was considered a bad friend because i wasnt on her level and told so to my face...LOL
You got a story too? Or was you that had inferiority complex and thought your friend didnt want you no more?

74 comments:

  1. I never did that, any of my friends who try to give me attitude I will just block your way and move one with my life.

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  2. I have a friend that Just stop talking to me because she is married, someone that I know what I went through for her on her wedding day,at the end am now a friend from distance, I pray for am not angry but I know God is still in the business of doing good, I can't never be jealous of her,because jealousy is for people with low class

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    1. You ain't seen nothing. I barely have any female friends now cos they have married. I'm now ignored. They only wish me happy birthday on facebook. That is if they wish me sef. And it's not like they are happily married o. Problem upon problem

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  3. You outgrow a lot of things friends included. I've never had nasty fallouts with any of my "former" friends, it just that life happened

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  4. My best friend wants us to be together but will not "man up" to say it but whispers it to people close to me.

    We were too close. She went to a medium to make me mad. Her reason, I was too close to my New husband at the expense of our friendship. She wanted to exercise control over my home and I stood my ground and said no. she tried to seduce my husband; but that one was harder than igneous rock; he knew weeks before the girl made her first move. He is a praying mantis and fasts more than he eats in a week. To think that I could have lost my mind, ran naked on the streets etc. because of "a friend" is mind boggling. I was used to eating just fruits at noon (well, that was after I got married) and joined my husband to eat a whole meal with drinks and snacks at night (he eats only at nights for the past decade). When he told me of my friend's moves and the consequences of laxity, I went on 3 days with water and joined him to eat at nights for three months. It was the girl who came to confess of her evil deeds when instead of me running mad, she lost a very dear sibling. Guess that was the price she paid in the medium. Her long luxurious hair was clean shaven the day she came to my house weeping. I wouldn't have allowed her in if not that my husband wanted "my eyes to open" and asked me to indulge her. She told me that if my husband had fallen to her seductive maneuvers, I would have gotten mad the moment I had sex with him. If you hear what was pouring out of her mouth? I have learnt a veritable lesson in my life. You are either a Christian or you are not! Forget about all these giving of vagina and dancing in the church!

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    1. The day I will catch you, I will slap you!

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    2. Oooh God, not this story again

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    3. Have many times will we hear this ur gist

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    4. So HOW many times do you HAVE?

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    5. Stop this Super story. Abeg its getting old.

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    6. The question is, is the story relevant to the discussion?
      The answer is "yes".
      So if you don read am before shift make we read am first time.

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    7. This your story is sooo stale!!!

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  5. Hmmmm! Stella!!! Something happened to me yesterday that got me thinking about this thing you just wrote (Let me put a disclaimer here that I don't care how any angry bird lot interprete what I'm about to type).

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  6. Had a friend that got married before me..was even her chief bridesmaid on her day.she blanked me out after the wedding. Thank God I got married too but neither herself or her husband came for my wedding. Went to visit her once and bought a bag of chocolates for her kids, she gave me one and made sure I ate it before giving her kids, her actions were so obvious....very interesting considering I am still waiting. Now I need a friend in this ttc journey but she's nowhere to be found. Maybe I was her friend but she was never mine.

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    1. Don't worry, you'll carry your child soon.

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  7. Aunty stella I had a friend yes had cause the jealous bitch is no longer my cup of tea.she didn’t attend my wedding Cos she couldn’t understand the fact that I’ll be getting married,well I was expecting it she’s always been a sadist never happy for people,I tried to change that attitude from her but that’s who she is Demon possessed.the greatest joy is that I didn’t carry her into 2018,God help break that ugly yoke called friendship.Dear sister Friend If u r reading this pls get ur acts right leave that old married Man U call husband and pray 2 God 2 give you ur own man that u can have a decent life with.Do I still love u?Never.Do I wish u well? Sure Cos my mama taught me berra than that.Not only married friends abandon their single pals.most times it’s the other way round they r envious n evil.wish others well so urs will come.stay blessed peeps

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  8. I'll go anon on this but I know Stella will decode.
    After I took in for my ex-fiance, he and his family connived and threw me out of his house. I was 2 months gone and moms here know this is a very difficult period. The dizzy feeling, nausea, pain etc. I turned to my sister, went to her place. She abused me one fine Sunday afternoon, called me names, all because I was lying down when they came back from church. She stated she couldn't condone this anymore and indirectly asked me to leave. This was someone who I went lengths for. I abandoned my busy schedules to take care of her children whilst she travelled, I gave her money on so many occasions, I bought foodstuffs for them when things were rough for them, Infact I spent most of my savings on them. She praised me then and acted like I was indispensable. After tongue lashing me that day, I picked my bag and left her house in tears.

    I went to a friend's. She received me well and even sympathised with me. I housed her at one time for 4 months. When she lost her dad, I gave her 15k. One time my ex had four tickets to a show. I invited her and her boyfriend. That was her first time at Transcorp Hilton. I thought I was her best friend, I didn't know it was as far as she could get something from me. I felt so relaxed at her place. But like fish, visitors stink after three days. Mind you, my intention was not to permanently squat with anybody. I just needed a place where I'd stay for a few weeks till my man came to his senses or get my own place. My friend changed. At this point, I was 3 months gone. My condition worsened. I was persuaded to abort and move on with my life but I just couldn't get how I'd be able to move on after abortion. My friend became hostile. She told me one Thursday that she'd be traveling the next day and so I should look for somewhere to put up. That night, I couldn't sleep. I wept. I wept like I haven't done my entire life. It was like a dream. I couldn't believe I was in such situation. I had a good life, now a destitute? I thought the whole night, wondering where I'd go. Going back to my momma was no option cos I would be a burden to the poor woman. I had an idea...

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    1. Continued as anon 15:06

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    2. Hahahaha soul child. It's no super story o. It might sound like one but it's true.

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  9. I have a friend who just stopped talking to me, we were like 5 and 6 from Year1 to when we wrote our final exams, I noticed she just started drifting Away. I asked her what happened she said nothing, I just free her

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  10. My friend that was working in new generation Bank was forming for me now I have gotten recruitment into ministry she is now jobless me too now I am forming for her

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  11. YOU SHOULD NEVER ABANDON YOUR FRIENDS...
    Life is very ironical. Like the post about 20 friends not likely to play together for 20 years, we find out that our circlescl change as we move up the social ladder: be it academic achievement, financial emancipation or marital status.
    Personally, I don't know why, I find it irritating that friends could abandon each other because of a change in their status. No matter the level of education, financial freedom or social status, I still try to connect with my friends and help or get help in certain situations.
    One of my very good friends together is a guy I met during my secondary school days.
    He has not been able to acquire a university education, but it has never affected our friendship. As I was studying for my degree in UNICAL, he was selling footwears to feed himself and we always visited each other.
    During my convocation, he was with my all through and really made my day. There was no atom of jealousy, envy or regret. He made sure we enjoyed ourselves and we are still in contact till tomorrow...
    Another of my friends, a childhood friend from my primary school days, is a carpenter and doing well for himself, but difference in our academic status has never come between us. I was born a twin, but my mum prefers calling him my twin due to the level of our association...
    I have a friend who is far above me in the academic circle. In fact, he was my secondary school teacher and later became a lecturer then a politician, but we are very much in contact. Even before I gained admission into the University, he would call me to do one or two assignments for his students on English and Literature for a reward, and he's currently compensating with opinions on trending political news for publication...
    I have other relationships like that. I always try reaching out: whether you are above or below my social level. It's when you start pretending to be busy that I can engage myself with doing many other things...
    So I don't get it when people change their circles because fortune was able to smile on them. Change if you must, na de same 6ft we de go, inferior and superior beings...

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  12. I have a friend that we went through a lot together. In fact real friend we fight then makeup etc almost like sisters. She met her husband and we started to grow apart which is normal. Then recently reconnected and we are totally different. My husband and I are open minded, don’t worry about class as long as you are good people, live life freely... she is all into class, this one is fake, this one is real, this one she relates with arms length, this one she doesn’t talk to, her and her husband strike me as very sensitive people, at some point I just said to myself you better find your square root and run before they give you a label or they have a small fight and he blames her new reconnected friend as bad influence... that’s how I ran..we just don’t gel anymore. She probably thought she is putting me at arms length while I am running and want nothing to do with her and her family.

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    1. Lol I just found the last sentence funny

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  13. I went to a higher institution in the neighbouring town. I met two girls who took me to their hostel. I was in the hostel for two weeks plus before I secured an accommodation in the outskirts of the town. I registered for ante natal at a health centre. It was the most difficult time of my life but my baby's kicks kept me going. I had a beautiful 3.8kg baby. Very healthy and beautiful. I look at her everyday and I'm overwhelmed with joy. I wonder how messed up my life would have been if I'd aborted her. An old woman in my neighborhood helped me bathe her for two weeks, no Omugwo for me o.
    Right now, I have no friends. I know I'll rise again. Have me in your prayers. Thank you Stella.

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    1. Thanks for saving that little girl that came into your womb for shelter.
      Hope you've committed your ways to God and learnt not to open legs asunder
      in any relationship?

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    2. Thank you dear. I have

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  14. So I have this friend who many will consider a young rich Lagos wife and mother. You know.... married a correct guy, own their own properties and all. Dream wedding things (of course I was chief bridesmaid ๐Ÿ˜)

    Yesterday, I stopped by her house just to complete pending amebor. As she walked me outside, we started talking about how we would juggle SMW coming up this week. A call I had been expecting came through, the person who was supposed to buy something I was selling called to say they changed their mind, and this person had posted me all week. Chai! I now told her my head was full jare that see how this yeye one just called to tell me rubbish after posting me (she's aware of the project I'm handling) that deposit was due on Friday, that I have till Monday latest. That Abeg I've left it to God I can't kill myself if the guys can't wait a few weeks they should kiss my ass. As I was talking to her she was pressing her phone. She now looked up and said, don't worry have faith and believe that by monday you will get it done. I said Amen and left. My phones were in my bag. When I got home, I checked my phone and guess what? She sent me 500k (Na loan ooooh no be dash ๐Ÿ˜‚) I was like wtf?!! And the time the alert entered was around the time I left her house, so she did that without even waiting for me to ask.

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  15. I had a friend. We knew each other since we were little. Went to the same church and school until secondary school. Still we remained friends. Around the age of 24, four years ago I had a mental breakdown. This so called friend used it to insult me and she suddenly cut all ties with me. Stopped taking my calls and started ignoring me. I tried to understand why but she was adamant so I let it go. I was so pained but now I know she was never a good friend. I saw signs before, like she was never happy when I was successful or when things were going well for me but when I was down she seemed to rejoice. One pastor told me she was behind my predicament but since I don't believe in those things I shrugged it off. I lost other friends too. Is as if when they needed me they would look for me but when I was of no use they would stop communicating. Now I don't have friends, not even one and I don't want any until I find a friend who really cares and is really supportive of me. For now Jesus and God are my only friends.

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  16. I called her and asked her if it was a mistake, she was laughing. She proceeded to remind me of some things that happened when we met. And when she finished she said abi you don forget? Truly some of the things she said I did I had even forgotten or didn't even take them to mean anything when I was doing. You see I was a corper, had already gotten my first car and She had dropped out of Uni (pre-degree to degree transition failed) and had even resolved not to do school anymore. Infact, we met in beauty school and she had resolved to be a beauty entrepreneur and ditch school. I'm also a few years older than her but for some reason we became good friends. I used to drop her at home after classes (which was off my route) and that's how we started. She finished and didn't have enough money to start up, I loaned her and when she wanted to pay back I took 50% and told her I was sowing the rest into her biz as seed. At that time I was even job hunting sef. I encouraged her to go back to school, and the day she got admission she called me very excited. When I was doing my masters I can say that she's the one that used to burn all my call credit with amebor. To me she was an amazing friend and it didn't matter if she was still an undergrad. But the way her story changed ehn..... it was a miracle overnight. All the friends that were laughing at her that she didn't graduate, they can't talk to her now.

    Today, she is the one giving me support. Imagine if i looked down on her, Would we even be friends, not to talk of her being able to give me money I didn't ask for. This whole story is within a 6-year period.
    Stella my middle name now is CAREFUL. Let life not come and embarrass me oh

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    1. She's an example of destiny delayed but not denied. I'm in God's waiting room

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    2. You got a good friend chikito. I don't want to open up old wounds, I have been cheated and rubbished by people take as friends. I have moved on.

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    3. Ah Ah! @Castle how did you enjoy my fake gist today? Are you sure you looked at the blog ID? #isokay ๐Ÿ‘Œ

      @Madam B really? it is well oooo. I have also had some not-too-good experiences, but I don't dwell on them. Sometimes you learn lessons and move on.

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    4. Haba Chikito. Check well babe, I've never had issues with you before or called your gist fake. I'm not a trouble maker Nne.

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    5. Lol. That comment really pained you oh? Sorry my dear. I have very retentive memory and it's not my fault. The schizophrenia and paranoia in your lineage is very evident #backtosender

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  17. I have a wide circle of friends and acquaintances..

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  18. I can't relate.
    Never been abandoned by a friend and vice versa.

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  19. I experienced this admission thing too.giving me funny attitude,forming am busy.I had to let her be and stay my lane.finally when I got into school she started forming friendship but I just kept my cool and was observing her,I just knew history will repeat itself
    After she graduated and got a small job,babe started again she won't call,you chat her up she won't reply or I get a reply after two weeks and she be like my dear na work oooo๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ I don chichumchin so I cut her off completely, when she got tired of her pride she called and apologized beign someone that forgives quickly I let it slide so we are cool now but I am expecting anything from her.

    One close pal got married and didnt tell me ๐Ÿ˜ I just saw bbm dp and I wrote a congratulating message in caps and sent to her,infact she is my cousin.
    Funny enough I am the kind of person that keeps an open mind,I expect anything from anybody.
    But girls can be very funny sha.

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  20. Sometimes you have to cut off friends to improve your Christian life. When you are born again but have these friends that lead you to gossiping and you know gossiping is your weakness, you just have to avoid them.

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    1. Madam born again,be careful not to cut off your destiny helpers...they might be wayward now but might be your saviour tomorrow.

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    2. WHAT ARE YOU DOING ON A GOSSIP BLOG???? That one no count ba???

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  21. Hmmmmm, they always remember me when they need something from me and at the end of the day,they will pay me back with heartbreak, but not anymore cos I don't care anymore, ve got my someone who will never let me down....my CHI!!!!

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  22. Had a friend when I was in Uni, we lived together, did everything together. She can wear my cloth, practically uses all my things, like we were so close, she knows everything about me and vice versa. My family knows her and she comes to my house anytime she wants. Then we graduated and she got a small job pending the time she will go for service (she had some issues in school) then she started drawing back, will be the one to call and all that. She will tell me she is busy and anytime I see her call, its either she wants to borrow money or she needs a favour from me. I didn't even count it as anything because we were best of friends. I went for service and I was carrying her along, things she needed to do during her time, I buy her things and make sure she is fine. I even borrowed her money when she needed it for bribing staff in school for her result which I advised her otherwise, well she didn't listen and she felt I don't want her progress. She spent a lot of money back and forth during the process, then after two years she was allowed to go for service. During those two years, I did my introduction and gave birth also, she knew everything but she was keeping away from me, I will call to check up on her and all, send her credit even though she is working ,all those period I was done with my service. Hmmm, then I realised she doesn't want me as a friend anymore, I will chat her up, she will read and not reply. I tried my best to get her back because she is the only friend I have that I share everything with, I cried because she didn't show up for my introduction and baby ceremony, she just sent msg few days after that she was busy. She is serving presently and doesn't call or reply msgs as well and she will be online. Well I let go of her finally last year. I ignored her even though she owes my over 100k, and my things her with her as well. Don't know why she did all that, now she has new friends in Nysc which she post on Facebook. I still like her but I guess she should stay on her own. I don't have any friends now. My son,my mum and my fiancรฉ is my friend. I am just wondering who will come for my wedding when I am ready, don't even have anyone to invite as bridefriends or bride maids. Just living a solitude life. I wish I made lot of friends before now but God knows best.

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    1. Are my friends* bride friend's

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    2. Awww, me too sweets.

      I'll come for your wedding okay?

      And I'll stay as a friend after if you want okay?

      Don't be sad,ok?*adjusts your wig for you.

      Minister of Enjoyment and Social Jollification

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    1. God will select your friends when it's time

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  24. End to frienship (1)
    I met a lady in the university. We both crossed to our new department, although from different departments. She moved close to me and I was always happy to give her my jotter to read. She was a slow learner and also slow to assimilate. So, I do summarize class notes, handouts and textbooks and do give her my jotter yo read for tests,and exams.
    When her boyfriend broke her heart, she was always with me. I consoled her, cook and gave her advice to move on. At one time, I was even forced to speak with this guy and begged him to come back to her life bcos exams was fast approaching. I don't even know this guy, neither have I seen him before. All I knew was that she will leave Ife to Lagos to visit him. She was a side-chick, it was even obvious to my roommates.
    This babe was not that fine but she's damn rich and my case was direct opposite. She met another guy and that one just sa my pics on her phone and was hitting on me. I reported him to my friend and God knows how that went. One night, this guy called and he was flirting. My saving grace that night was that my phone was on speaker and my roommates heard everything he said. I called my friend immediately and told her everything. She kept her calm, only for me to see her hours later at midnight in my hostel. She came to fight me for trying to steal her guy. Only God knows what that guy told her. God fought for me and the guy got married months later. My roomates fought for me that night and she said she was sorry. I forgave her and we moved on. My roommates seriously warned me against her type of person but I didn't listen. She was always using style to tell me that she can't allow me marry or date her bother because I am always "stingy" with my spendings. Lol.
    There was one time our part adviser was toasting her. This babe had to use my phone to call the man and the kan thought my number was hers. I immediately sent a text message to the man, when she left, so as for him to stop calling my number.
    She was always coming for me to explain some courses, thus dragging me back in my readings. I didn't mind. She was on third class when she became my friend and she finally graduated with a strong 2:2. Glory to God. I left school with a 2:1.
    Months after graduation, she told me that her brother friend owns a blog and he needed a writer. She said she already told them at home how helpful I was to her.
    Me and this her brother friend became boss and client. I was supplying him articles and he was paying me. He came down to where I reside and taught me how to become an editor and how to operate a blog and upload articles myself. He gave me a Dell laptop, and he left.
    We actually became close. He was always calling me whenever he had lunch at work. I was also catching feelings. We would chat and play etc. I was also giving this my friend the feedback of everything since I met him through her. I always record all our conversations on my phone and on the laptop. I do listen to them whenever I was bored/missing him.
    The funny thing is that this guy was always warning me not to let my friend know anything going on between him and I. I was confused because anytyime I whine my friend about him, she would paint him all good and a family friend. They live together and that I am even lucky that he likes me. Months later, my friend came to school for her clearance and she stayed with our classmates she started dating when we got to our finals. The guy had extra, so he was still in school for his retakes.
    Then on my birthday, this friend and my so called boss didn't get in touch with me. I couldn't even get in touch with her. Boss changed and he became the opposite of who he was.
    Few days later, my friend called me and she told me that she just got back from the hospital. She said she ate 'efinrin' and she bled so much that she was rushed to the clinic and admitted for three days.
    I told my mum and she was confused how someone could eat vegetable and start bleeding. I concluded maybe the efinrin was poisoned.

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  25. Well..I think I'm going through this friend-deserting thing at the moment. I actually got a job not too long after school. I remember lots of people that were my friends then and the ones I helped. I can't even start counting. Some years down the line, I decided to go for further studies. Finished and have been job hunting ever since. When I call or chat up some of them now, some won't even pick their calls and some will reply chats days after reading. Its funny how life is. I'm not even asking for assistance (financial). Yeah, I know I don't have as much as I used to. I just try to keep in touch with my working friends because I understand how such networks could help especially if you are looking for a job. But then I have a positive outlook and I try not to allow such things get to me. I know we will all meet at the top and of course I would have known who my true friends are.

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  26. There are always two sides to a story sha. U don't know what the mother has gone through or something. ALl the same, what is bad is bad.... i have given up on friends a long time ago. If the friends i had impacted in me the things I impacted in them even NYsc period alone. I know where i for dey

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  27. End of friendship 2
    She said that the efinrin was poisoned. I believed her but was confused. Then one day, she tolde to help her write one assignment given to her by her fashion designer boss. There was nonway I could sent it to her. So, I sent it to my boss' email. He was furious and said that hasn't he warmed me not to bring him close or connect him or do anything that will bring him and my friend together.
    He changed and stopped talking to me. Before those periods, I had some writers under me and I was the editor and the one uploading the article on the site.
    Things became sour and he became touchy. Although he gave me the impression at first that he liked me, and I followed the impression. The calls, chats and everything was "my dream came through".
    On one fateful afternoon, my friend called and told me that my boss reported me to them and that I was disturbing him and pushing myself on him...I was angry. I called him, he didn't pick, called my friend she didn't pick too. She stopped replying my chats and I finally ignored them. I reminded her how I do Carry her along and even send screenshots to her. So, she should tell how I was the one initiating a relationship. They all ignored me. They later decided to call me in the night and I didn't pick.
    A message was sent to me as a threat that my 10k balance won't be sent to me if I refused to pick their call. My people adviced me not to pick. That night was the end of everything. It was October, 2015.
    My 10k is with him and his laptop is still with me.
    I saw this babe two months later on our convocation day and our eyes met once. I made sure our eyes ddnt meet again because I avoided where she was.
    Four months later, I was in camp and she called. I ignored her three calls and she sent me a lengthy message. She said she knows that I know how to keep malice, and that she sees me like a younger sis( she's 4 years older than I am). I didn't see where she apologized or gave me closure to explain what happened six months before that time. I saw no need of replying her messages.
    I have moved on and I am more "sophisticated". I know they will be seeing my updates on my social media handles.
    I stopped trusting people and I still hope that one day, I will really know what really happened. Why she didn't come open or take my sides? I was telling her everything despite the fact that d guy told me not to, yet, she joined them to paint me to be a prostitute.

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    1. Did you say you were an editor???

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    2. Soul child, read the story and shift abeg.

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    3. Soul child what exactly is your problem?. It's people like you who discourage BVs from sending their gists. Strange things happen to people, you know. Let them pour their hearts abeg no matter how long the epistle. We're here to read, learn or be entertained.

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    4. Soul child, please leave me alone o. This is a forum to pour my heart out and I can't be scrolling up to correct/ edit my errors. I am no more a writer nor an editor. I lost interest in writing when that incidence happened. I didn't proofread what I published.

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  28. I have acquaintances , don't have time for friends and I don't want drama abeg, when I wanted to get married, those acquaintances were really helpful, wedding was smooth with lots of help here and there. After wedding I chat them up once in a while .life goes on

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  29. I abandoned a friend, she became overwhelmingly needy, if I no get to give, I become an amosu, if I get, I become an angel, omo, I just had to block her n become a permanent amosu...

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  30. Been TTCing for seven years, had a friend with three children who goes thus wherever I called her" na this children ooo dem no dey let me see road" she does not call but whenever I called her it's my children this my children that. I made up my mind to stop calling and she has not call since then. I just face my lane.

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  31. I read all your comments and could see all your story are better than my own, I doubt I could ever feel the ache of betrayal after being abandoned with 3 kids but I actually felt more and I asking myself if this could be real.

    In all sincerity, I would never call myself a perfect person but I know I am not a wicked or bad person, I have taken home a girl I never knew from anywhere home to live with me just because complained to me that friend threw her things out and she is only in Lagos for her service year, she doesn't know anyone in lagos. I took her home, gave her shelter With one room all to herself. I never even for onice think about collecting Money from her, I even give her food once in a while. I did it beczuse I believe my own children will reap the rewards in the future.

    When my ex abandoned me with 3 kids, I saw no one. Do you know the most bizzarething ? I asked my yoUnger brother who lived with me for 7 years! Whom my ex and I sent to school and paid school fees for through out the duration of the course to pls allow me to stay with him for just a while to get my feet, He said NO, this is someone I fed thru out his years with me. Buy clother for occasionally, pack loads of clothes and shoes for when I travelled out to UK.


    I am now sleeping in my friends sitting room with my kids. I was really depressed when it happened because is someone I trusted with my life and that of my children. I keep repeating his name to myself again and again. This is someone I singlehandedl sponsored when he was in poly while I was still single because our parenta were late and I didn't want him to depend on me in the future so I was very particular about his education.

    I have always been very careful of friends so his betrayal really hit me hard. I keep telling myself I will never forgive but I also know if I don't forgive him I might never gets GOd's favour.

    I'm just struggling hard to feed my kids, I have put them in school just looking towards God for accommodation. Men in their shades have come but I have decided to be ceฤผibate because I want God himself to right the wrongs in my life.

    So I will keep on managing on my friends floor with my kids.

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    1. Chaiiii this your own is so painful. Some siblings na God go judge them sha

      May God Almighty meet you at the point of your needs. Amen

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    2. Hmmm! It's a phase and it will pass. Don't worry keep working hard.

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  32. This my friend told me that she won't be around when I said I would visit her before she leaves campus. We made jests of her not giving me a particular food when I come visiting for days. Then a day before the D-day, she told me that something came up and she won't be around until night time and that we should fix another day.
    She just became a nurse whereas my parent could not afford my school of nursing fees when I had the chance. I passed the exam,; had 76% and passed the interview sef. This particular friend also wrote the exam but she didn't pass. She late came in to study Nursing in the university two years after I was admitted to study another course.
    She wrote her final exams two weeks ago and she was posting my visit to her.
    The painful thing is that I was in her hostel the same day we agreed to see to visit my sister and she doesn't even know that I saw her going to her room by 3pm. Yet she told me that it was when she was preparing for dinner that she entered d her room. Its been one week now and she still hasn't fixed another day for me to come greet her.
    I keep congratulating her sha.

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  33. I had a childhood friend that I slaved for during her wedding some years ago, but she totally blanked me after her wedding, the only thing she does on my fb now is to tell me to goan marry any pictures I post she post same comment, it was just as if she was mocking me, I blocked her Asap for my own sanity...

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  34. I had six friends when I was in school. I wouldn't count their attitude as betrayal I think we just drifted apart. Lives struggles, family, children etc. Out of the seven of us I'm the only unmarried.I still communicate with them once in a while. We talk, gist, gossip.....just name it. I just love them all UNIBEN 2008. Whew!!! ten years after graduation.

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  35. Mehn.. so many stories here to read. I gave up on friendship long time, nobody cares, if you don't have anything to offer. I've had my own share of betrayal and I'm thankful for the ups and downs, even if it was painful to see those whom you thought would be there for a lifetime, end up being a part of your life. Hmmm life I guess is what happened. I wish her the very best in life, God knows I tried My best but I guess she made the decision long before I left her house. To think that the person I've always had her back all this years could do this to me? Now I can tell the whole story without hurting, cause I'm healed.I don't take friendship serious anymore, abeg I no fit again, biko when we see, we see; when we talk, we talk, shikenan, magana ya kare(end of discussion). I feel better writing this here, it feels good knowing God knows our hearts, and the whole story. Guys friendship is a myth,grateful I did not lose my sanity.

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    1. Friendship is NOT a myth.
      It didn't work for you.
      But there are millions who have lifelong friendships.
      Life goes on.

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