STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SELF EMPLOYED VERSUS GOVT WORKER ISH
To my chronicle, I got a govt job in another state, 2 hrs distance from where I presently reside with my hubby. Am a mother of one. I have been on this govt job processing alone for like a year now, and I do travel to the state for the series of interviews.
Hubby hasn't been saying anything all dis while. Now that I have been employed he says NO, he won't allow me to go n do d job. I have a shop that I run but business hasn't been the same. I sell office accessories. This shop was handed over to me by my dad who pays like 360k per year for like 4 years now.I called my dad and told him abt d job since he also know when I come for d interviews( d job is at where my parents resides). He also said NO.
His reasons were;
1. D pay is cheap 19k (I am been employed wt my SSCE but I can still upgrade since I have my BSc n MSc)
2. Am lazy DAT wt d shop he handed over I shldnt av been thinking of another job( but business is very slow n d state I am living is tiring. Data hustle is too much..I can't keep up)
3. Am going to be doing distance marriage ( which I feel I n hubby can make it work)
4. D job is degrading of me ,me wt a MSc going to do an SSCE job (but I told him i can upgrade)
5. Pple will be pointing fingers at him ( because he is quite popular in d location)
Hubby didn't give any reason just said NO.
But Stella am trying to tell them its a govt job ,I can run a side business successfully. Am in a fix right now. Though d pay is very small now but I know I can upgrade. It's my life . Since I sell office items n stationeries , when I start the job I can use d opportunity of been a worker n build my customers within d ministry, which I have every intention of working on.
Pls Stella ur red pen is needed, what should I do. I have to give my yes or no after easter( Tuesday which is d next working day).
*You have a business you should be thinking of building and you are there thinking of entering Federal suffering...who told you that you will be able to upgrade?why dont you mentally concentrate on this business and try to make it work?if your father handed it over to you,then it must have been really successful..
your attitude to the job is probably killing it...
who told you if you are employed in the Ministry you can just go in and start selling?
My dear,you seem to still be asleep...My answer too is NO:
Madam,try wise up ooo,with business,u will have better time for ur kids
ReplyDeletePeople that have their husbands in their houses are having issues. You want to sell your marriage on a platter of 19,000. You can sha if you are tired of the marriage. For you to even consider it, it means there is a lot you're not telling us. Maybe you are managing the husband and is looking for an escape route to breath. Pele dear and please yourself
DeleteI hate it when Graduate with MASTER'S degree type in short hand..
DeleteWhat's hard in typing THAT instead of DAT, or typing THE instead of D..
In fact, I am angry and my advice if for you to STAY put and do your business..
Poster old build your business, going to work in another state and leaving your hubby is not a good idea, because of 19k salary. Plus build your business and you can earn more than that 19k from it monthly. Just concentrate and be patient with the business. Me self say NO. Lol
DeleteLolll, I thought I'm the only one who gets soooooo irritated. Even texts and mails with needless abbreviations or 'am'. The person can resend 7000 times, silence is always my answer. Loll.
DeletePoster, to whom much is given, much is expected.
Why don't I believe the MSc part. Your writing skills is bad sister and it translates to your enthusiasm to organize and build your business. Please remove the idea of federal job unless it's Nnpc or Cnn...
DeleteIf it was same location I could have adviced you to run both. But I prefer you stay put and upgrade the business.
ReplyDeleteWahala
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of stupid job is that? 19k o, asin 1 and 9, that's why you want to risk your life on a 2hour trip. I am not even thinking of your hubby but the job isn't worth it. It's best you write proposals for that your business, visit offices around and not even around your area, most offices have suppliers but you can offer something different. You even have a child that that 19k job would not let you raise well. Even teaching job is better than this, better look for another job. Wait how much is your transportation alone abi you want to move back in with your parents
DeleteIts not easy to upgrade o...unless u use bottom power only then will u rise faster than ur shadow.
ReplyDeleteNot everyone can run a business, yr dad might be right, u prolly lazy, business that didnt shut down is about to go bankrupt since they gave it to u.
There is something about this poster that makes me think she should take the job...hmmmm
DeleteDistance marriage isn't a choice in a case where it can be avoided, just like yours. Face your business and don't enter a state government job where people jazz themselves because of promotion. Please, don't have a distance marriage relationship.
ReplyDelete"Distance marriage?" sic
DeleteYou are too DISTANT from English grammar.
Distance = noun
Marriage = noun
The thing wey suppose follow noun to qualify am na adjetive
You fit say: long distance marriage. You see "long" don become the adj. here
Chai, see as Oyibo dey deal with una
Me I like my pidgin all man language -free
for all. Make I dey nak dey go.
Hahahahahahahahaha
DeleteIf I were you, I will stick to the business my father handed over to me. It's better to be self-employed than to start answering to bosses.
ReplyDeleteApart from this, I don't really buy the idea of disobeying your father and husband, and that of leaving your child and husband because of a government job, that may even decide to owe you for months or pay half salary for years.
If you are still adamant to go for the government job, ( of which I know that you will), get a sales girl or boy to be manage your business in your absence, then you can be going to work three or four times a week.
The ball is in your court.
*to manage
DeleteTo earn 19k a month for the next 10 or 15 years. She's really sleeping. Poverty mentality.
DeleteDon't mind her. She just carried Corp member mentality even though she has Msc.
Delete@Poster: Point of correction, the moment you said yes to your hubby, your live is no longer your own.
The sales girl will get pregnant for her husband. That is what the foolish poster deserves anyway...
DeleteChai, Nigerians hate them counti o!
DeleteSee this Tabitha wey say she prudent
So when God answer prayers come give you
job for government, you go three times a week?
And lie on top of am?
O yes, na lie you go take cover track na
Lmao @ Anon 18:03. Oya lemme alone oo!!!!!
Delete"It is my life?"
ReplyDeleteNo lady, you are married. There is another life bound to yours and that is your husband; a significant other. Please that slave peanut is not what you should sacrifice your marriage and peace for. Pray and work on your business and God will bless it.
Poster I follow your husband on the NO! Concentrate on building your business.
ReplyDeleteHaba poster, you want to live your family for a 19k job? Upgrading in govt work is not that easy. I was thinking I will see N150k/N200k.If it were 150k above, I am sure your husband and dad would have given their permission. That pay is rubbish to jeopardize your family.
DeleteYou travel 2 hours outside your state to earn 19k (naira?) at the end of the month; how much be transport of fuel? Who Jazzed you? I command that Jazz to dissolve in Jesus name!
ReplyDeleteAmen!
Amen!
DeleteI read something in this blog about someone who had exams by 8 am and he woke up 7:45 am and began to cook beans. Na im be this o.
ReplyDeleteNna mehn, e bi like say some women carry vj dey reason o.
My answer too is NO...side eyes@Sdk
ReplyDeleteReasons:
Away marriage is not healthy.
Look for the government job in your present state or ask to be transferred.
Who will raise your child?
Restore the business the way it was when your father gave it to you and maintain it.
Yes I agree with your dad, it's degrading @the job. Imaging having MSc and working with ssce (only in naija)
Since your husband and your dad disagree.... Just forget about the job and concentrate on the business.
ReplyDeleteMadam,focus on your business and make it work. Or study what sells more in that location, service or goods and change your line of business.
ReplyDeleteAlmost every career person might end up owning their business oneday. Start now. Take advantage of social media and spread your tentacles.
My answer is also No. Build your business Mrs and do not do distance relationship. Don't look for trouble
ReplyDeleteDid you just say 19 k salary. Huh! N you have been doing follow up for more than a year for a 19 k job . Ok na . Continue. You wan relocate for 19 k bc you feel your parent house is big enough to accommodate you n u wont have to pay rent.ok continue. I don't have any advice to give u. For this current economy. 19k !!!! I am feeling sick already .
ReplyDeleteWork and concentrate on the business and see it grow. Please distance marriage is not advisable. apart from that, junior staff are used as messengers in the office irrespective of what is written in your employment letter. So it'll not be right as a married woman to be going errands for people. Pleas wisen up.
ReplyDeleteWhat did you said that you have again that you can upgrade with?....
ReplyDeleteYou'll.....
In short I also say NO....
chim-oma aka Miss Kapusu
Did I just read 19k???? Your village people are seriously on your case. It might take you 25 years to upgrade. Who is deceiving You? Better change your mindset and make that business work.
ReplyDeleteMadam...my answer too is No....no1...u have a BSC and u want to accept an SSCE lever job.
ReplyDeleteNo2..the salary is 19k and it is in another state...u will hv to commute between 2 states for 19k a month....how much will u hv left after transportation.
No3...its a state job not a federal job sef
No4..you already have a shop and u probably make mpre than 19k from there montbly...i think u should get another job.
19k???!!
ReplyDeleteYou want to disobey your father, husband and leave business for 19k/month?
All I see is you assuming. Have you made enquiries about you’re being able to do all these things while on the job? Or you’re just assuming? Go and do your findings first.
Accommodation nko? You will go back to your parents to stay? Cos that 19k can’t pay rents oh! Do you have kids? Hmm!
Well it’s not really ‘your life’ you know? Sometimes I wonder if some of you really know what marriage means..... *sigh*
*your being able*
Deleteif the pay was fantastic,i would have supported you but with 19k？no way.Face your business and grow it.
ReplyDeletePoster I think there is something you are escaping. Also did someone promise you that you will be upgraded when you take the job? I also suspect that you don't have a flair for selling. That is not a crime. Infact I wonder why in this country people assume you should either be selling something or farming. These are good but not for everyone
DeleteMy advice for you is to capitalise on your strengths when you discover them. Carefully think of what you love doing then give it a shot. Even if it is a job, try to polish and develop yourself better and apply for good jobs.
Unable Don talk finish, no need adding any other thing. Madam concentrate on your business and marriage oh
ReplyDelete19k is not enough reason to leave your husband and kid, I'm currently not in the same location with my wife and kids cos of a very good paying job. But it's worth it, pay is close to an M monthly. But I miss them so much. Not for meagre 19k pls. Face the business, it will grow.
ReplyDeleteDid you hear that? Close to an M monthly. That is how many light years will you need to save that from your job after paying house rent, feeding, transport, tithe, offering, etc. Better wake up!
DeleteYour village peeps na obonge.......leaving a business for 19k job that you are being taken with your ssce and you are a masters degree holder.
ReplyDeleteBia did you buy the masters cert? Abi school no pass through you?
A mighty NO haba...besides 2 important people in your life have kicked against it. Your dad and your husband ..if your kid could also say a word ..it will still be a no..
Don't sabotage your life for a paltry sum of 19k ...
Na which kain work you land so wey be 19k by the way?
madam, listen to me.
ReplyDeleteI work for the govt too, you can not present certificates which you didn't present before employment else your job would be terminated. So if I were you, I would face that biz and probably look for a job with my qualifications. A good home is better than all the riches you can acquire.
As in!
DeleteVery ignorant, as long as the certificate wasn't in her file at time of entry, and nothing was said about it, she would retire a junior officer.
Please I am confused.
DeleteDo you mean if one comes in with SSCE certificate in 1990 and eventually gets a Masters degrees or PHD, the person will still retire as an SSCE holder in 2030?
Okokobioko, thank God for his mercies o, it is good to ask questions. And I thought the more certificates the quicker your progress in government work.
Madam poster, please face your business. Diversify, sell to neighbouring states with attractive benefits, take business lessons like some people here have suggested. Why not even take a business quotation to the ministry in your state since your father is popular there? Please try.
18:50, if you enter as an save holder and decide to study, the certificate can be accepted only if your course was approved by the HR in the office. NB. rules must be adhered to.
DeleteDon't mind her she thinks upgrade is easy with govt job when you entered with ssce. U will go back and do a degree again before they "may" consider you. Just face it papa biz, it's not that easy you hear. 19k fa! It's not worth it
DeleteNa real okokobioko! Lmao...
DeleteIf you had gotten the job with the degree would have made sense. SSCE is level 3or 4.ur masters or degree might not be accepted unless you go for another program while in service with approval. And upgrading to senior level no be here. check well. Might not be worth it.
DeleteYou can't be serious, 19k? N u want to leave your business. I'm a graduate and I sell eggs in crate and am not ashamed of what I do.
ReplyDeleteSis I would advice you don't take this job, how do you want your husband and child to cope when you're in another state or do you intend taking your child along? Please don't suffer your husband who's already comfortable with having you around. Better still if you wish to take the job, try it out for a month and see if you can continue, if not you face your business squarely. If the business you're running now isn't moving add other business to it.
ReplyDeleteYou will lose your marriage if you go for this job...Biko there are many singles, release Oga make we try our luck...
ReplyDeleteI really don't think she's that open minded
DeleteIf the govt job is in the same state where you reside, I will have ask you to take the job and also do your business. After all na egusi dem dey peel for govt offices.
ReplyDeleteMadam my ansa is a big fat nO. Concentrate on your husband
ReplyDeleteFake story
ReplyDeleteI'll rather work for free where I can improve myself than be redundant for 19k with the hope of which yeye upgrade? In your case there is a shop, rent paid and a husband that supports you. I'll suggest you take up a teaching job and impact on the lives of children while maintaining your shop if you must work while waiting for another government job with your qualification.
ReplyDeleteSo what do you expect someone with this mentality to teach children? Teaching is not for for jobless people abeg.
DeleteMadam your husband is misbehaving abi and you want to go and meet your childhood boyfriend
Risking ur marriage and father's love for 19k?
ReplyDeleteSee me see trouble risk a marriage and most importantly your child for 19k job. Or you will leave your child with your parents and the poor child's life will be disrupted. Seeing daddy only once in a while plus it doesn't look good a lady moves back in with her parents with a child. Because you can't pay rent with that 19k.
DeleteWhat if they start even owing you even that 19k. Even a 190k job is too like to risk a marriage. 900k maybe.
You better keep managing the business and be sending your CV out and job hunting by the side.
I see you are beclouded with the offer.
ReplyDeleteI worked with the government briefly before I relocated, and upgrade is not easy.
To upgrade, you need to have very strong connection, and most times, it's not spelt out.
You want to move from level 1-level 10, it takes time, and you would be frustrated.
Who gave you the silly advice?
Please, work on the business, there's social media and everything you need, nationwide delivery is an option.
Go for business training to build your brand, you have what civil servants are looking for.
You are not even open, level 1 is usually cleaners, and those with incomplete ssce results, you would be fraustrated, with their reasoning.
My answer is NO, get busy and build your brand.
I got a job of basic salary 150k excluding allowance in another state but after so much consideration decided to let go because family is key,even though I lost my present. Job but I have no regrets.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster did you say you want to relocate to another state because of 19k😞😞😞😞! I laugh for you. U want to lose your marriage for that paltry sum. Government workers that are owed salaries for months. Madam poster pls reset your brain.
ReplyDeletePoster.....my advice is if your hubby gives you more than 19k monthly, why do you have to work your ass out to get it.......The money wouldn't even be enough to get a babysitter or pay for crèche......
ReplyDeleteSo I'm giving you a No......
Poster you can upgrade after your appointment have been confirmed. Do not look at the 19k now, just know that the future will be brighter but you must agree with your husband and make see reason and how this can be of benefit to the family. Other wise forget the job, focus on your business and keep applying in the state you reside. Not everyone will understand your point but your family must come first in what ever decision you're taking.
ReplyDeleteBut who tell you that you will even get paid. You don't see how many civil servants have not been paid for years? You want to enter one chance for hopes of making 19k? No!
ReplyDeleteAnd you claim to be a masters degree holder? Who dealt with your self worth? That's why as parents we need to allow our children dream big. You parents spent so much on you, gave you a business to run and this is the only thing you feel you can do to appreciate them? Please grow that business and take it to the next level. If you can blog then you have data to google. Google business ideas, how to grow your type of business, e.t.c.
ReplyDeleteposter Manage your small business,with your qualification you should be looking for jobs that match up with your statues.
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