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Wednesday, July 11, 2018

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

Hmmmmm.....




STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BETRAYED BY HUBBY

What a long night. So many thoughts of if?. If? God please show me mercy. How can someone I call a husband be so wicked. How can people you love so much stab you at the back. What?.


 JESUS!!.


 This is too much. Who do I run to. Where do I start from here. My 10 years in life has been wasted, just like that?. OMG!! JESUS!!I need you more now. No child, Hubby is now for another, No money, old age?. God please watch over every step I take these days so that I don't end it all.


 What if this woman did not die?. What if? What if?. My people. see me ooooo. God where are you?????? Someone tell me its a dream!!!!Mum in-law died, I traveled to the village two days ago with plenty burial things as an assumed good daughter in-law. When every one saw me, people started rumoring, I did not know I was the cause of the side talks o.


 Thought they were mourning o. Hubby has married another woman traditionally five years ago and the woman already has two daughters for him. Heeeee. She and her children were present for the burial. Very well represented in the burial brochure. No wonder all these negative dreams, No wonder all these frequent travelling. No wonder ooooo. 


Jehova Lord!!!.


 Everyone knows except me?. Five good years?...You claim its your job that does not allow you visit my base as before. You still allow me invest in everything you do. 

Your people still collect from me and call me good wife. You refused me from asking for posting from work to your present location claiming you will soon be posted back where I stay.God all Almighty!!!!!.


I have built for another to inhabit. I have planted for another to eat. JESUS!!!! where do I go from here. Everyone is saying calm down. Sorry. Sorry for what?.



*I hurt reading this...........Too painful,I am lost for words.May God comfort you.Please do not resort to revenge of any kind OK?
I know someone this happened to but she wasnt my friend,it was the hubby that was my friend that told me the story..i even knew years before she found out...

He only told her cos he was in an airplane that almost crashed and he said if he had died,his kids from the hidden wife would have gotten nothing so he needed to come out clean.....horrible story.

139 comments:

  1. Jesus!!
    what did I just read? His people are wicked, very wicked, as in extremely wicked.
    They will collect from you and say good wife.
    Madam don't end it please, they are not worth ending it for.

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    1. Typical story of Mr O. Oloriburuku somebody.
      Madam, hold ur peace, God will fight for u, maybe not now but He will if u dont fight for yourself

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    2. Poster, no matter how smart or experienced I am I can not comprehend what you are passing through and I can advise you enough. I can only imagine holding you and telling you to cry, yell, hit objects, throw things away, ask all those WHY questions, hide, roll on the floor, then sit down and embrace the discovery. The heart of men is wicked including both gender. The deed is done. You are not going to reverse it. He is not divorcing a woman with 2kids when you are yet to have yours. This is very blunt but the truth. Are you a looser? No! Are you going to revenge? No! Will you harm yourself? No! You have been betrayed. Just release yourself to God and ask him to do with you what he wants. Ask God to open your eyes to see your mistakes, maybe you were carried away by work, making money, being a "good" wife by solving everyone's financial need. He and the whole family used you as a money machine. Maybe you were too busy to notice his distance from you. Maybe you were too engrossed with yourself that you forget to see yourself as a couple. Understanding where you erred will help you heal. Take a leave from work, take a vacation away from where you leave, have a time to yourself, do not be a hero in this hurt, get emotional, let it out but then I believe that the prayers of people on this blog will help you pull through. This battle is for the Lord. Even if you are the worst wife on earth, nobody deserved to be treated in this manner. You have invested your time, heart, money and all but when you go to God in your nothingness, Mark today, the God who made this universe, who sits on the throne will wipe away your tears and restore all that you thought are wasted years. I am not a prophet but I know my God is a merciful father. Your part is to let it out, do not hold back your tears, cling to God and watch him fight your battles. Like I said, you are not blameless, ask God to open your eyes to learn from this hard story. I will remember you in my prayers. Do not harm yourself. Do not seek revenge. Do not allow them to win over you. Embrace God and watch this story take a turn you never envisage. One day, you will come back to testify of God's goodness. May the peace of God envelope you now and forever in Jesus name. Amen!

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    3. My dear, de is no place in d bible where it is written DAT marrying two wives is a sin. It just says its better to be married to one wife n if u want to hold any position in church u should be some1 married to one wife. The greatest men in d bible had multiple wives n concubines so poster relax cos God thought u fit to carry dis cross. Accept it withdraw all d privileges u gave ur hubby n in-laws let dem kepp d one u have already given or continue to share d sharable n wait on d lord. He will fight for u. In d mean time be quiet n don't complain silence is d loudest noise. Only encourage him to join u @ d hospital to check y u can't have kids if u haven't done DAT already who knows by d time u both do d test he might realise he has been sleeping on a bicycle since n DAT those kids might not be his own pls check DAT both of u r OK fertility wise n if d problem is from u do something about it instead of self pity.

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    4. Anonymous donor11 July 2018 at 17:29

      Zikora, you must be daft.
      Who told you she is not blameless?
      Stupid people steady making excuses for Badly raised men.
      If you like, remain in your hellhole and suffer till for ever, some people have self respect and self love to not let themselves be treated like trash. Nonsense.
      It's people like you that raise men like posters husband.

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    5. If I start to talk my own , una go cry bucket loads of tears. My saving grace is the two children I had for him. Men,Men,Men!!!!!

      My sister, move on and get rid of everything that reminds you of him. Ask for a divorce and get your share of what is rightfully yours. Adopt a child and pour all you love and attention on him/her.

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    6. zikora you were on the right path with your advice, but you veered off and muddled things up.

      She mentioned that she hasn't borne children yet. That means that he most probably left because he couldn't trust God enough, he failed to understand that the vows he made were for better or worse.
      It was in no way her fault- NO!!!!!!! She didn't get too engrossed in making money, she made no mistake whatsoever.

      If he loved her as a husband should, he would never hurt her this way, he will support her and seek ways to get through their challenges together as a team, not marry another woman and keep it hidden for five years.

      Zikora I am hurt and disappointed that you could imply that her MISTAKE led to hem husband's betrayal and deceit for 5 long years.

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    7. if I say, never give a man your money, you will call me wicked. Not even my husband obtains anything financial from me. I keep my money for myself and my children.
      A man can leave at any time, invent all sorts of stories why you a bad wife and move on to another woman. I will not work for another woman to chop.NEVER!!!!

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    8. At anonymous donor and anonymous 1841, yes I am daft and that's why I said I can't advise her enough. No one is perfect. What I meant is that she may have been engrossed in herself that she never noticed that something was wrong for 5 yrs. My understanding is limited and I never intend to make her suffer more. Some people are ever ready to jump on others to show their wisdom. Poster, may our good God lead you to the best solution. For those who felt disappointed with my write-up, I am only human. Never supported the man. Go back and read it with more understanding.

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    9. Zikora, chai, I am pained in my spirit. That woman will read your post and start blaming hersel even more. I hope she doesn’t harm herself after reading why you wrote up ther!!! Lao, see why people don’t tell women their problems... no matter what, they blame you!

      Behind their effusive words of supposed encouragement, that blames creeps out. No matter how they try to conceal it. It is Nigerians cannot help it but blame a woman when a man misbehaves!! It is saddening.

      I hope you don’t ‘advice’ people often!!’

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  2. Oh Lord!!!!! how wicked can the heart of man be!! comfort her Lord,give her a new song to sing,turn her story around...only You can do this Jesus!

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    1. And the dead mum knew didn't think to tell her before her death .madam I know is not easy but find comfort elsewhere please so you don't end it..wicked man even stil collect from her

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    2. Exactly what is marriage about again? Sigh I'm to angry. I hate deceits. What you don't is really bigger than you. Sigh

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    3. Oh my dear, so sorry, that you husband is very wicked and can kill someone, Jesu!!! Who does that? This is pure evil, 5 whole years, sheybe if someone stabs him and remove his penis they will say she’s evil (I don’t support it).
      My dear, God will see you through, please get out of that village and delete his number, don’t even wait for any explanation just adopt your own child if you decide you want to continue

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    4. This type of man can conveniently kill somebody.

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    5. That is why you should SNOOOOOOP!!!

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  3. God have mercy.

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    1. You see why they encourage people to snoop. Snooping would have saved you from this surprise. Take heart.

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    2. Madam,sorry for your loss.it means that you haven't visited your hubby village for 5 years.No contact with your nwuyedi?(mates) you were busy in the city while he travelled and got a second wife.
      You would have been informed by the village parrot if only you were communicating with anyone other than your immediate in-laws.

      I would advice that you divorce him and collect your share of investment..
      God will comfort and bless you with a child. Hold God firmly.

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    3. All of them have wronged you o, I still can’t get over this, sheybe his mother will go to meet her maker? She will have to explain to him how she followed her son in deceiving his wife

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    4. Azzziiinnnn, the whole family. I wouldn’t even be able to take it. Pack your things and quietly leave that burial. How can even pay last respects to that kind of woman? And divorce that man before he or the new wife kills you. Keep telling yourself it is not worth it. The Lord will restore joy to your heart

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  4. Stella that woman is really experiencing one of the worst betrayals. She should move on and cut off everything about this man.

    God will judge him when he least expected.

    Too much pains everywhere

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    1. So sad, to even think u re so prepared for ur mother in law's burial, dat woman is getting a duplex in hell because she's part of it

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    2. Anon, some MILs are evil o while some are real children of God.

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  5. It is painful; yes
    But you have not lost your home.
    What he has is a concubine; that is if you believe in
    that name Jesus you wrote up there and follow his teachings
    You have not done wrong here, he has
    Look inwards and trust God. Confess what you should, mourn what/how
    you should, fast/pray as you should and watch the movie unfold.
    Watch God defend the institution of
    marriage which he founded.

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    1. Can you hear yourself? You actually want her to continue being with the man as if nothing happened? Just because of marriage? People like you are what is wrong with society. What kind of low self-esteem couple with slavery mentality is This?

      Dear poster, you have no business being with a man who could betray you this way.forgive him, yourself and anyone involved and move on please. Adopt a child if you can and remarry if a good man comes your way.

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    2. The fuck are you saying!

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    3. Well said! As long as it hurts go ahead and grieve,mourn if you want but please dont REVENGE...Try as much as you can to forgive this wicked man and his wicked relatives. If you cant bear living under same roof with him,you can seperate.Every day you kneel to God in prayers cry,tell HIM how hurt you feel,trust me in no time HE will comfort and console you as long as you dont bear any evil grudge against this wicked man. Step aside and watch the defender of the defendless,defend your case. He will cause you to smile,laugh and roar in joy...the time you think youve wasted HE will replenish,all the canker worm stole HE would give you double portion. Its not going to be an easy one but stay focused on The author and finisher of your faith( this is hoping HE truly is. if HES not,please do make HIM your LORD).You will come back to testify....

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    4. A woman has two kids for him, the man married her 5 years ago and you are saying poster has not lost her home yet? What does she need to fight for pls?

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    5. Am sure you have a big mouth and lips...so she hasn't been fasting and praying all this years??she hasn't lost her home you say??that man didn't entirely leave cos she was relevant to him financially....pls move on and adopt a child that you will give all your love and attention pending when true love finds you cos it will surely do

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    6. Nigerian women and "Living in Bondage"...chei wetin religion don cause for dis continent. Na by force to forgive,madam abeg move on, u forgive u no forgive everyborry will move on...inugo

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    7. This kind of man can kill..and u want her to still stay...smh...

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    8. Kai! This is painful. Don't even know what to advice this woman. It is well with you dear, may God direct you on the next step to take

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    9. Are you for real? Ypur advise is for her to pray for her marriage.. Like seriously? Dumb advice like this is why women want to die on top of marriage. My dear please tell me what shes praying for? For the man to come back and make her a what now. .. Abeg sonetimes nigerians make una borrow small sense.... Pray ke? For what now... My dear, marriage is over. Time to move on. I wont advise rebenge o but the best form of revenge is success.

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    10. If I say my own story nkorr many of you will cry. But the ever faithful God turned my life around.

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    11. Lol anon 16:44. The forginess is for herself so that she won't do what she might regret later.

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    12. I believe God answers prayers and all, but personally, even the sight of him would provoke me. I doubt I would want to have ANYTHING to do with the skunk.

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    13. 17:34 why not send in your chronicle? Thanks

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    14. Team snoop all day everyday!!! Too many women are caught up with being nice girls and not rocking the boat. You can't be nice all the time, and justified anger is justified. All this keeping calm and being dutiful is not helping most of womanhood. This man has spiritually divorced himself form the union, he has physically moved himself to another state, spends most of his days there, and barely comes home or communicates with his first wife while using her funds to enrich himself and his new family. She needs to fuck a nigga up seriously where it hurts most, in his pockets. In the words of Rihanna, Bitch betta have my money. Worst thing she probably stuck around with him all these years and could have gotten pregnant with someone else, could have gotten a wealthier man who would be around to shower her with everything, could have had a good life with no regrets. We women stick around too long in bad situations, sometimes we know in our guts things ain't right, but we try to convince ourselves it's our overactive imagination. We need to start trusting our intuition more and feel no shame in leaving a bad situation.

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    15. Exactly the man had moved on, she just hadn’t caught on! Reason why the woman and her kids came to the burial. That is his wife. Madam, you better leave quietly (but with your money) and go find your life!!!

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  6. Ir is well with you. Thank God that you even got to know about this while he is alive. At least you can start doing things differently now. God will comfort you and wipe away your tears. It is painful but don't ever think of hurting yourself, it will end in praise for you.

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  7. Shebi una de forbid snooping... ok o, you'd be fine

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    1. I'm sure she was on team no snoop side eyes @ SDK, she would have know 5 years ago if she had snooped I'm sure but guy was smart to even live away from her, which is one of the reasons they didn't have a child I'm sure.

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    2. Dont mind them. Snooping saves you from all these surprise packages.

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    3. Exactly. They want to bury their heads in the sand like the ostrich. Nothing beats knowing where you stand in life. That is when you can make the right, timely decisions.

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  8. Na wao! Some family in laws can worry o!hubby is wicked!!!

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  9. This is definitely a Y-demon

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  10. Please, my sister do not end it. There will be light at the end of the tunnel. Pity!!!

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  11. This is not fair o...
    This is mean...
    Madam, don't let them take everything u have invested in from u...and yes...take deep breaths n try to be calm...its painful but hey..do not be d loser...yes, you can live and win...there s hope when there's life.

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  12. The heart of men is evil
    ur inlaws are wicked
    karma will visit the one afta the other
    ur husband will live to regret it
    karma will serve "it" hot to him.
    madam GOD will confort u with sons and daughters.amen

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  13. Hmmmm. It’s painful but just move on. Or do you want to kill yourself? The heart of man is desperately wicked. Don’t listen to people who will say secure your home. The marriage is broken. Divorce him and MOVE ON.

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    1. The marriage is broken already nothing to secure there.

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    2. Exactly. Of course the man knew she was gonna be at the burial and didn’t care. This woman was in a marriage all by herself. That man no send am. Maybe he used to but e don tay. He couldn’t even hint her before she got the shock of her life! What if she was some people who can’t stand shock? Na so she for faint? On top man? Prick wey everybody and their brother get

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  14. Am short of words...May God comfort you.

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  15. BEYONCE HAND 👐👐👐11 July 2018 at 15:30

    Wow! Some men and wickedness are 5 and 6. You want her money only Kai take it easy my sister may God's wisdom fall on you now.

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  16. Na wao o.wat a wicked world take it easy madam

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  17. This is really sad. But in all of this, don't end your life. Find a way to distance yourself from all of them and start all over. God is always there for you to rely on. It is well.

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  18. What!!! Wooow I would have told u to do something that will give u mind blowing peace but awon holy Marys will come for my ass.

    NNE don't be a dullard deal with him till he regrets the day he was born. Me ehn I won't even think twice before ensuring I strap him to a wheel chair for life. Useless men everywhere if I talk now the angry married women will come for my neck simply bcoz they hate to be reminded of their wahala.

    If u like go and be a good Christian woman and don't shine ur eyes.

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  19. Jesus Christ, this is the worst and most wicked chronicle I hv ever read on this blog. Most men are very wicked. Plz madam I feel ur pain but leave everything to God in prayer. I will advise you to adopt a child, divorce that man and move on with ur life. May God Almighty Strengthen u at this time,.

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  20. Are you still menstruating? Do you still have money?
    More than 60% of your problems have been solved if you answered yes and yes.
    Now, what did your husband say to you after you found out?
    You should settle down and look into every legal documents and assets. Remove him from next of kin of anything. Be discrete! Step 1.
    Step 2. Go to the hospital for a full screening for STDs. Stop having sex with him for now. Also, check your blood pressure, blood sugar, etc. Make sure that you are healthy. This is important. This can cause you to develop high bp. The dangerous type that makes people to just slump or die in their sleep. If your bp is high, get prescription and do light exercises to bring it down.
    Again, what is your husband saying? If he's throwing it in your face, pack and leave immediately. If he is apologetic, you will stay. Not to stay permanently o. Just to buy time in order to prepare your way out. Make sure you have removed his name as next of kin or beneficiary of any life insurance policy!
    Step 3. Go and check your ovarian reserve. What did they say is your problem gan gan? If you ovulate and below 45, God can still work his miracle.
    If your problem is miscarriages, you may need a surrogate. Just go and start egg stimulation first. Freeze the egg. Next, contact a lawyer. Leave your husband. Sperm can literally be found anywhere. It can be a bank or someone you know!Find a surrogate and implant yourself and the surrogate to double your chances. Yes, this is quite radical but not as radical as what your husband did to you. If you don't have money, you adopt. People will advise you to stay and pray for pregnancy and for God to "restore" your position with your horseband. Me I won't.

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    1. Your head just dey there.

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    2. Ajebo has said it all...Please follow her advise.
      You can cry and let it all out but not for too long because only time can heal you. Don't let him sway you with sweet words or let him get to you through your weak point. This is a time to be strong and make quick and precise decisions.
      It is well with you!

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    3. Well said.Move on with your life

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    4. Best comment I have read in a while, poster don't mind those saying relax God will fight for you,that's how my grandmother was fervently praying till she died and the other woman completely took over. Divorce his ass and before you do that make sure you are leaving him with nothing,the other woman should suffer to build a home with him like you did. Be strong.
      There is karma,there is karma and this old witch is still alive enjoying the money my grandmum laboured for, my grandmum is dead and the one that caused her so much pain is still alive.This life sha

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    5. Best advise yet.......

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    6. Ajebo God bless you for this post
      I am tired of hearing "woman pray and fight for what is yours"...thing is her husband is a douchebag who doesn't give a hoot about the marriage and so she has nothing to fight for.

      I was talking to a male friend some months ago about him been faithful to his wife and he said to me:

      "if I cheat she will only cry and beg me,even her parents and pastors will only beg me to rethink my decision, no one will ever tell her to leave me so I have nothing to worry about"

      This is how men now think,so they can't be bothered about how the woman feels.

      So poster take the above advice,plan a clean exit,make sure you take everything that own or contributed to financially and then walk away from that evil man and his family


      LEP😛

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  21. Madam plz don't think of ending ur life, try and stand strong, God will see you through

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  22. My dear,
    Please don't kill yourself...oh or turn to any regretable action like harming someone.

    Please move on & trust in the Lord! Leave revenge and God to take control.

    I am one living example of family evil plot and hate that is unspeakable. I am still shocked till today, but I survived and left God to be in control.

    You can adopt a child from orphanage, you can still get pregnant through IVF if you are interested in that kind of thing.
    You can make more higher income, have successful business, investments, great career and very fruitful and happy life, ONLY IF YOU STAY ALIVE & KEEP YOUR MIND, SANITY, HEALTH & SPIRIT INTACT.

    Every Nigerian must by now know that it is not every family that is caring, loving, accepting and protective of their relatives, children, in laws e.t.c
    It is a common thing nowadays for some people to sit down for many years and be plotting how to waste, destroy, wreck and finish their close family members toil, sweat, life savings and wealth.

    Today, I am one such person who forbids talking to, going near to, associating in any way at all with my direct family members. I consider them even less than shit inside toilet. To me they are eternal enemies.
    And God is revenging well on my behalf. Upon all the money they stole from me, they are having serious tragedies, untimely deaths affecting them left and right, backwardness and shame. After over 5 years that my family members plotted and stole and destroyed my estates in Nigeria and sold off all my inheritances.
    My own life story is something!
    Please..please trust in the Lord God Almighty & leave revenge for God to take control!!!

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    1. Nawa. Immediate family baa? You should write your own chronicle.
      Humans can do anything for money.

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  23. Dear poster this is one of the most painful thing to ever happen to any woman, but i want you to know you will be fine. It feels like someone stab you in the chest and ripped your heart out but trust me you have not known the extent of your strength until now. Hang in there just a little bit more and watch the Lord bring you out of this. It's well may the Lord heal your broken heart i assure you this pain can pass.

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  24. Vengance is mine says God. wipe ur tears and wait on him.

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  25. The part that touched most is not even the betrayal but the fact that everyone knows but they hid it from her. It's really painful.
    Madam, it's only God that will comfort you. I'm short of words.

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    1. They see her as a conduit pipe of provision. Can't this kind of people plan to get rid of her for her money and property?

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    2. Exactly what I think too! They can kill her... she better gets out fast

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  26. When you have left the man, cut off all communication with your now ex in-laws. Some of them will come and lie to you. They will tell you that they were against the plan and have always been on your side. They can even tell you terrible things about the woman. Don't believe anybody. I mean ANYBODY.

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    1. Ajebo you get sense nor be small! ✋

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  27. Your hubby is wicked and can even kill
    He's married to another woman for 5 good years under your very nose.
    Kai,this is the worst form of betrayal
    It's well with you madam

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  28. Awwww that's the height of deception. I don't even know how to advice you poster, pls take it easy and don't do anything irrational to yourself. Just change your environment and go for counselling, maybe one of your siblings or someone close should stay with you. I don't even know how to comfort you sef. Haba, even family members too, so if the mother didn't die, that's how the deception will go on for years without you knowing.
    Lord have mercy, only God can comfort you and also pray for inner peace from God. Thank God you found out early enough, you can still change things and rewrite your story. Maybe you should try IVF to have your own child or you should adopt but I pray for the best for you. This is really disheartening.

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  29. This is really painful to be betrayed by the one u called your missing rib. Madam for the main time you need to stay away from your hubby and his family. Please be strong.

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  30. Please ma'am just move on and pick up the pieces of your life. You owe yourself to be happy! They are all not worth it!

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  31. Madam, please don't end your life because of this act of wickedness. You're far bigger than this mess they want you to wallow in. Please, encourage your self. You can adopt.

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  32. Madam, try to make yourself happy. Your hubby hid it from you because he didn’t want to hurt you the way you are hurting now. That says a lot, he cares about your feelings. Try to focus on other things, don’t let this thing consume your happiness. Be brave, this is the time to be courageous.

    Where there is life there is hope.

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    1. Lady T/ am worth more than a thousand dollars11 July 2018 at 16:19

      He didn't want to hurt her? Or he wanted to eat his cake and still have it. By her still contributing to the family purse.

      If he didn't want to hurt her he could have tried ivf or other things instead of getting another wife.

      Just pray. I am sure he wants male Child. He will not have it.

      Happened to someone I know. Married 9yrs no children. Under her nose. As per no snooping went to pay someone's dowry. She would not have known except her Hubby's Friend could not take the deception as per nice and good Lady. He told her.
      She divorced him. Remarried and has a child.

      Poster, This is meaness personified.

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    2. Did you just say he cares about her feelings?
      He deceived and betrayed her this much and you say he cares about her feelings???
      Wow!

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    3. I hope when she sells off all his properties without his knowledge, you will confidently say she hid it from him because she doesn't want him to hurt because she cares about his feelings.
      What a nonsense thing to say.

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    4. Did we even read same story? Did u just said he cared about her feelings by having 2 children, marrying someone else, living apart from his wife and starting a family somewhere, pretending all these yeara and keeping it a secret from her making her a laughing stock to the family, until the burial when she saw them herself, all the while she kept contributing to investment in the home? Some of y'all need hot resetting e slap.

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    5. Did you just shamefully write 'he cares about your feelings? You are sick. This is the talk of a lost, co-dependent abuse victim. Don't give such advice here lest you further debase the minds and esteem of our younger BV's. Shame on you!

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    6. He cares about the benefits he is getting from her, or else she would have been discarded a long time ago

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    7. Na did kain one’s men de bring women come house and will tell them, you know you’re the one I love, that’s why you’re the one I married lmao....

      Self esteem zero

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    8. He didnt want to hurt her you say????? He his a heartless man and God will judge him accordingly.

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  33. madam, find a way to start collecting your investment back oh. And pry for God to give you a son since she has girls

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    1. Gbam...codedly collect ur investment s with a fake smile.

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    2. Madam poster the reason why you must calm down is so that you can codedly strategize and do what is best for you. It is not the time to vex, do gra gra and be making noise upandan. When you deal with the devil you must use a long spoon. You can get your life back.

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  34. From your write-up, I feel your pain. I'm just speechless. This is a terrible thing to do to someone you love😥😥😥😭😭😭😭🤧🤧

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  35. Wickedness. Madam leave matter ,start saving up again, adopt a child if u have reached menopause. Or find a way to get ur own child. Shit happens,dont dare take ur life, move on, act like he doesn't exist, let him no longer come to your base, let him remain with them. If u can take back your investment on him without too much trouble that will drain you do it or let go, you don't need too much drama. It is well. God hasn't forgotten you.

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  36. Poster take heart. Do not take your life ooo. Nobody is worth it, in all you'll be fine.

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  37. We all know after all these talks, you will still be with your hubby.

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  38. I'm so pained. How can one be this callous. Poster,cry all you want but tell yourself that you will get through this. If you can get all you contributed on fine,if not no wahala. There is a God in heaven and he will fight for you. If you are not comfortable with him,move out. Whatever you do,LIVE your life! I'm so sorry for the pain,God will heal you

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  39. This is super sad.. may God heal you but I wanna encourage every woman (actually everyone) to please have shock absorbers. I never have super high expectations of humans, reason I am never overly shocked when people show their true color.

    Please take heart poster, if I were you I’d be planning a very smooth exit. It’s hard but excuse yourself from this mess over a period of time, in this time be saving and have a good plan and direction.
    Jeez!!! I’d rather a man that will outrightly break your heart by breaking things off with you and start with someone else than an evil genius like this one. God be with you poster, I pray that you’ll get comfort and strength from above and may you meet your soulmate along the way.

    #somemenatescum#

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  40. Jesu,,,,,,,Story like dis breaks my heart so much, It's well.....Madam put urself together nd move on with ur life, i know its not easy but u have to cos he's not worth it. The Lord is your strength

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  41. This is really bad and painful i must say kai!!!!!

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  42. God please may i not find myself in this kind of situation, if not ahhhh! there will be blood shed, them go see wetin pass craze!!!

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  43. i am crying uncontrollably at work how can humans be this wicked ? why on earth will you do this , how do we even advice her , what are we going to say that will pacify her .
    if i say let go its really hard . I pray for you today that the strength to keep your head above waters God in his infinite mercy will give you.

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    1. I tell you. Super story come to life

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  44. Poster please give yourself space, stay away from friends and relations while thinking of the next step to take, please do not involve yourself with any irrational act/decision, avoid committing suicide and do not get yourself into trouble in whatsoever way. Please follow the advice Ajebo confidential gave above. It's well my dear, this is just a phase that will definitely pass.

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    1. In this case Ajebo is the real shiz niz. 👍

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  45. So sad reading this chronicle.Poster,it is well.

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  46. Tears could not allow me finish this write up. God please give her reasons to smile again.

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  47. Does your family know about this, confront him and decide what to do next.

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  48. I heard of a Couple who had 2 daughters, One fine morning, d Horse band told d Wife ofa Widow who was homeless/ leaving in d Church.
    As a Good human,she invited the widow 2 come/ leave in her BQ and been generally good 2 d Widow/ her children.
    Monthssss later,she noticed that d Widow's 1st daughter was not around,as usual d Good Human that she is,she asked the Widow 4 her, in d Widow's Words" My Pikin don go Village, becos I no fit train am 4 Lagos" also as the Good human she is,she asked Why the Widow didn't tell her b4 taking such a Decision, Widow, Madam u don try,I been no wan disturb u again.
    Good People of SDK blog Guess wat went down/ has been going down??
    Horseband impregnated d 1st daughter,Widow didn't tell Oga,until she was fully gone,did Scan and wen it was revealed that it was a Son,that was wen she finally told Oga.
    D Goat,devil of a Man took,d Girl 2 America 2 deliver/ as I am writing this,Young Girl has 4 Sons.
    Widowed Woman kept going 2 America 2 b doing Omugwa( excuse my Spelling) and fo each time she travelled,she will tell d Good Human that she was going 2 d Village.
    All her Kids finally left 4 University courtesy of Horse band but Widowed woman didn't,that the house was her in law's house and she needed 2 stay 2 keep an eye on her Grandchildren's Inheritance.
    Hmmmmm,Good Woman finally found out thru Horse band's good friend,developed HBP/ died.
    Her 2 daughters were taken by Good human's family.
    So BVs Indeed the Heart of Men r DEEP/DESPERATELY WICKED.

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    1. O chim! And here I thought I had heard it all 🙆

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    2. O Chineke nna! What will i not hear? Please i want to join team snoop asap. How do i start? I need to up my curiosity level.

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  49. Dear poster I wish I know I'd give you all the guy you need,Please cry all you want, scream, shout, drink do anything you want except suicide. Next step is follow @ajebo confidential comment. I have said a prayer for you. You will come out strong, look back at this moment and smile. REMEMBER DO NOT CONTEMPLATE SUICIDE NOTHING AND NO ONE IS WORTH IT. You will be fine

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  50. Dear poster I wish I know you I'd give you all the hug you need. Please cry all you want, scream, shout, drink do anything you want except suicide. Next step is follow @ajebo confidential comment. I have said a prayer for you. You will come out strong,you will look back at this moment and smile. REMEMBER DO NOT CONTEMPLATE SUICIDE NOTHING AND NO ONE IS WORTH IT. You will be fine

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  51. Poster we go through things that we sometimes feel God is backing us. We sometimes go through pains we can't explain why, we sometimes go through agony that pierce through our soul. Right now nothing anyone will say will make you alright absolutely nothing. He has deceived you, the whole family has, the betrayal and everything. Have seen men stand by their women for years of ttc. Sorry will never be enough, he kept you cos of the money you were bringing in, if you had nothing he would have informed you of wedding another.
    Be strong, be of good courage n God will visit you soon. Amen

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  52. @Anon 17:38, are you for real?????
    We need public records in this country. Birth records, marriage records, death records.
    They should all be made public.
    Nigerian men disrespect women a lot. The best bet for women in this country is get educated, or start a business. Just be very financially sound, that is your insurance.

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    1. Marriage in Nigeria or for Nigerians must no longer be tied up money with husband or family members, because at the end of the day NIGERIA WOMEN LOOSE!!!
      IN THE END THEY R KILLED SPIRITUALLY, PHYSICALLY BY THEIR HUSBAND, FAMILY MEMBERS & IN LAWS!!!
      NO NIGERIAN WOMAN IN THE RIGHT SENSE OF HER MIND SHOULD BE TOTALLY DEPENDING ON " MARRIAGE" OR FAMILY MEMBERS OR HUSBAND AS "ASSURANCE THING"
      NIGERIAN FAMILIES R PURE EVIL!!!

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    2. Thank you. Some Naija men wahala nor be for here...

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  53. So sad about your story poster, but pls stay strong. I wish birth, death, marriage and divorce records were made public in Nigeria, it will help a lot bcos this story is not uncommon. Just shocked that it is still happening. There is no way to do background check on someone?
    For the single, take your time and make a good choice. It is difficult but remember its a wicked society. They will mock you if you're single, but still judge if you marry wrongly. Use your single time to grow financially, it is your only insurance in this country of ours.

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    1. Marriage record or open registry information does not make any difference for Nigerians, as long as the laws of inheritance excludes women with impunity!

      Mind u it's a very common thing even for Nigerian men abroad to marry a woman from abroad & exploit her for papers, finances, connections & opportunities etc
      While they will sneak behind her knowledge to marry another girl in Nigeria & start having children in Nigeria!!! While they r involved seriously with a woman outside Nigeria.

      Abroad in western countries, women's right in long term relationship & marriage is strongly well protected. A man ur heart easily, but then if care is not taken, he breaks his life forever from it.

      Women in Nigeria r among the most at risk of such callous behaviors from their partners, family members & relatives to be set up for such doom.

      For me, I am single & not even thinking of marrying a Nigerian man & doing any serious thing with Nigerian people in this life again. I just use them to chop & clean mouth or sh1t & pee upon their head when they come near me.

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  54. madam Pele, the Lord is your strength. Don't worry about it, they all will receive their repercussion.it's painful but just know that God lives. sees and he is a righteous judge. he will judge them.

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  55. Kai,some men r wicked, what 😨😱? Five good years, you keep this kind of thing from her

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  56. This is so sad,may God answer all of us in the waiting room cos shit can happen oh.Madam,don't stay and pray for any marriage,change environment and stay away from your husband and his wicked family members before they will kill you.If you have enough money,relocate to Canada and start afresh.May God comfort you.Men are wicked

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  57. This is really sad. pls Stella make a post of "if karma really exist "because i don't think there's anything like karma.

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    1. Karma ok Karmara ni. Why do bad things happen to good people? What did this poster ever do in her former or present life to deserve this betrayal

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    2. It does. Just like the law of gravity. Thing is, not always in the way or time we expect.

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  58. I use to believe in karma but not anymore.

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  59. My mother always told me a story of a woman in her village who lived with a man, not sure if they were married, but they lived as one. The woman did everything good for him that a wife would, and everyone knew that she was that man's woman. Well, one morning he told her to iron his suit, that he had some affair to go to in the afternoon. In those days, there was no electricity, so she had to use the coal iron and she dutifully ironed his best suit, the seam in the trousers so sharp it could slice bread, he looked respectable and well put together. In the afternoon someone ran to the woman's house telling her the man was in the church with another getting married, she ran to the church and sure enough the suit she had ironed that morning was the very suit he wore to marry another woman in the church. He left her bed in the morning and went right into another woman's bed in the evening without a hitch. The sudden shock of the events sent the woman into instant madness, she remained insane until her death. All of this happened over 50 yrs ago.

    Men are not investments, even if it is your own married husband always save a piece of your soul for the rainy day, as well as a backup plan and cold hard cash. God wiped out the entire earth's population except for one family because of the wickedness in the hearts of men. All I can tell you poster, is to protect your health, both mentally and physically. Protect your spirit. Get a hold of yourself and start planning. You can play double jeopardy, which basically means you act upset for a while which would be expected, but then you pretend to come around and forgive him and go back to your normal self. Then you plan meticulously and you clean him out totally little by little and when you know that you have everything you need walk away. Now, it takes a mind of steel to pull this off, it is not for the faint of heart. It may take 1-5 yrs to pull off this stunt. Now, if you do not have the nerves or the ruthlessness to go that route, then either decide to stay and endure and make the best of your situation or you divorce and go your way. There are three choices that you can make. Make your decision only when you are calmer and the initial shock is gone, do not make a decision today. You must be sure whatever route you decide to go you are 100% comfortable in that choice. May God lift you up and guide you to victory and give you a better story.

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    1. And what is the essense of holding on for five years just for the sake of revenge? That would be extra 5yrs wasted making it 15 years. Not good. If she is moving on let her do just DAT. Salvage what she can of her financials. Remember the man is ready for anything from her so here plans might just not work out. If she can stay and continually live with the thoughts of the betrayal her choice too. Poster do whatever you want to do but don't commit any crime in the name of revenge. Going to jail on top of this betrayal ain't worth it.

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    2. That man isn't ready for nothing real. He already has her pegged and thinks he knows her. It is that comfort that made him able to pull the wool over her eyes for so long, if there wasn't a death in the family the deceit would have gone on easily for another 10,20,30 yrs. She has been married to herself for the last 5yrs anyway, 5 more yrs is nothing. Most men will expect a big argument, tears and harsh words, the majority of them would never expect a woman to make a calculated move that span years. Anyhow, all choices are up to her, I merely deliver the facts, whatever she chooses she will have to live with it and that is why she needs to be 100 at peace with her decision,because many women who find themselves in the same position even chose to stay because they don't believe in divorce. People can be very strange that's why I don't vouch for any, cause you can't even vouch for yourself at times.

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  60. GOD WILL GIVE YOU THE STRENGTH YOU NEED NOW THAN EVER BEFORE.BETRAYAL IS A KILLER,BUT YOU ARE GREATER THAN IT.EXPRESS YOURSELF THE WAY YOU WENT TO LET GO OF ALL THE PAINS.HOLD ON TO GOD,HIS PURPOSE FOR YOU WILL COME TO PASS. ADOPT A CHILD TO KEEP YOU COMPANY AND THE MAN GOD HAS DESTINED FOR YOU WILL LOCATE YOU.WHEN THERE IS LIFE THERE IS HOPE.YOUR LIFE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING RIGHT NOW.GO ON HOLIDAY,TIME HEAL...I AM SAYING THIS FROM EXPERIENCE.

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