When I got to the reception hall I was blown away and my FBI antenna went up immediately and I started my investigation.
Let me give you a little rundown about this plumber guy, he is in his early 30s and still lives in his family house. This is a guy that I give food stuffs to because I know how tough things are with him.
Let me give you a little rundown about this plumber guy, he is in his early 30s and still lives in his family house. This is a guy that I give food stuffs to because I know how tough things are with him.
So you can imagine how stunned I was when I entered his reception hall and it looked like a celebrity wedding. I began to ask questions...
The wife or her people get money? Answer was no. So how come about all this now?
Summary of my investigation was..
Summary of my investigation was..
Plumber guy has lots of siblings and step siblings,and only about 2 of them went to a higher institution. The others learnt trade and some are doing well. People that have hand work in this country usually have union/meeting. And they also belong to different clubs and in an occasion like this they will invite all their club, union, and meeting members and make provision for them.
Each family member contributed to the success of the wedding, some even cooked separately for their guests. There was more than enough yours truly downloaded 2 plates.
What stunned me was the amount I was heard they contributed, 200k 100k etc.
In my mind I was like so plumber guy hand has touched 200k before? Ok.
After the wedding I went to greet him and I told him I will miss him o, who go dey do cheap work for me again. He said No, he was still very much around.
After the wedding I went to greet him and I told him I will miss him o, who go dey do cheap work for me again. He said No, he was still very much around.
That means he will still be living in the family house with his wife.
On our way back I heard over 1 million was spent for both the traditional and white wedding. So I asked ,is it not better half of the cash was given to him?
why spent so much on a wedding? Some people disagreed with me and said It was better he spent it all cos they wouldn't have given him the money.
So what do you think? In Such situation is it better to have a fairy tale wedding or ask for the money to invest in your business?
What do you think?
So what do you think? In Such situation is it better to have a fairy tale wedding or ask for the money to invest in your business?
What do you think?
The truth is, the family prefers this karimi than give him the money to upgrade himself
ReplyDeleteIya Ibeji what happened?
DeleteIt was as if I was reading one of that uncle's posts on IHN. Too much gbagauns. Pls edit well next time.
Stella this is for her good o, I did not cuss her o.
What about those family members that would only spend the money when its time for burial ceremony?? Or rather at the bar giving you only drinks..
DeleteHe even has people who supported his wedding and i think its kind enough irrespective of the amount spent...
Ask them for the cash and you would know that even the person you are telling your problem have their various life issues too...
Kpam-kpam kakwa njó biko..
@MARTINS ABOY
The Yorubas, no bias please, can do anything to make a party hefty.
DeleteWhether hunger captures them afterwards is a non issue.
They prefer to spend there last cash on the wedding than to give him to invest.let him have little financial issues after wedding,you will see the same people won't be there when he needs their assistance.....iya ibeji na the society wey we dey live ooo
ReplyDeleteAnyways I always enjoy your writes up always looking forward to it every saturday
If he was asking for business money they would not have given him o,some people believe u only have 1wedding day and it must be grand!!
ReplyDeleteExactly my thought... In fact, ask them money for hospital bills they won't give but when it comes to owanbe my Yoruba people are very good at this.
DeleteHello ma'am.
Iya ibeji mind your business and make sure you pay that plumber well. How dem spend the money no concern u or us.
ReplyDeleteMy crush...Stella, I hope I have spoken your mind.
They won't give him to upgrade. So it is better they use it for the wedding
ReplyDeleteYou want plumber to better pass dem
They will prefer to waste it than give it to you o abi when u come be like them na who go come dey answer yes sir, no sir
ReplyDeleteExactly what is happening now
ReplyDeleteThis is how men will buy drink for an unemployed friend but will never give him cash or buy him food. I can't understand why.
ReplyDeleteGbam!
DeleteWhat is he doing in beer parlor without money? Wunt he go and hustle like his mates
DeleteSome Artisans make good money so I don't know why you are surprised. It's all about packaging.
ReplyDelete200k?....common. You really underestimate the guy. That He is charging you small amount doesn't mean he's charging other customers small.
A wise person would keep part of the money for better things..... club people like out doing themselves.
Atleast they helped him. How about the family members that don't help nor even turn up to support their family.
ReplyDeleteNobody is entitled to anyone's money family or not. Either for party nor for setting up. If they do,be grateful.
I live my life in such a way I don't expect much from ppl. Family or friend.
About him staying in family house,so far he and his wife are comfy with it. Even Pastor Paul Adefarasin said he staying in the family house when he was newly married till he found his feet.
To each it's own jare. Just help support the guys hustle and introduce him to ppl that need His services. That is the best way to help someone.
Iya ibeji what do you mean by the 200k statement? How much do you think he would charge to do the plumbing works of a whole building? How much is 200k? Don't be like that pls. Pay him well whenever you give him a job.
ReplyDeleteSo they gave him that amount of money and he blew everything on a wedding? Then that should tell you that he also lives by the same philosophy including the new iyawo.
ReplyDeleteSo he couldn't take part of it to invest into his business so that from the profit can be able to rent a self contain apartment for him and the wife?
And who told you they handed him the money.
DeleteMost times there is a budget. One uncle may pay for hall,another aunty food, another cousin drinks etc. Even the food one may do rice,while another person does swallow.
Then some it may be their trade so it's easier to do the service
My wedding though we are comfortable. My cousin does cakes,her present to us is wedding cake and desert table. My aunt took care of my traditional wares, she sells it. Another uncle does small chops. All these things I got as present from family.
They won't even go that extra mile if its for investing. Instead of giving him the money to get an apartment and also help him in his job
ReplyDeleteThey love party o.
ReplyDeleteI discuss this wedding thing with my guy who is way more than comfortable. Have told him I need only 100 people. My place t. m is mostly open place. Mine I will rent a hall n strictly on invite, everything one day. I always wanted to have the kind of wedding Americans have.30.50 people. I'm a very private person n him also. That why I really want to end with him, he has all I ever wanted. From when I was little that always my dream wedding. Just family n very very close friends
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