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Friday, January 18, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE...
MARRIAGE BEDEVILLED BY EX


Good afternoon everyone!
I write this with tears in my eyes ...

Please advice me accordingly.

I am a married woman with a daughter ,my marriage is 2years old. 

I'm going to leave out the details of how my hubby is a chronic cheat...let me talk about what happened on Monday. 

Lately,my husbands phone rings almost every morning from different girls, now on Monday, a particular ex of his called ,due to the fact that I am familiar with that name, i picked, I answered the call and asked her if she has any message for my husband her ex. Next thing she was like its like i don't have a job and that I don't have respect for elders . that response got me mad and insulted her ,ran to the room to wake my hubby up so he can hear how his ex is insulting me,all my husband was on about was why I will pick his call in the first place , he dressed up angrily and left the house .



 I called my older brother to report the issue to him and also tell him I am tired of the marriage. My brother called him and spoke to it very well ...you all won't believe that up till now, he hasn't waked up to me to apologize of even say a word to me...


Just yesterday, he posted his 10year challenge picture and the girl was in his comment replying his friends just because they have some mutual friends, that got me pissed and I blocked my hubby everywhere I have him on my fone.


 I went to Facebook to search for the girl and I insulted her very well which she did too...yet my husband has been quiet and we both have been living like strangers . due to his attitude towards the whole issue and for the girl having so much confidence to insult and getting away with it, I decided to stop cooking ...cos there's actually no point cooking for a man that's after his ex . 


Since that Monday i have not been myself...I love him, but my heart and spirit is done with the marriage due to what I've been through and also this recent issue of his ex.please what should I do?



*I am not supporting your hubby or his cheating traits but it must be hell living with you in same house cos you sound so troublesome.....I might be wrong!

Why would you take the fight to the ex instead of facing the cheat you married?
you confronted her with insults and now you have stopped cooking?so where do you think he eats now that you have stopped?
He might be wrong but you are not making things any better babe geh!!!
This is my two cents and if you disagree with me,please do not be rude about it

155 comments:

  1. Was she supposed to be quiet whilst you insult her?? Madam ur hubby is a cheat, redirect your anger and frustrations to him and No one else.
    Those girls ur hubby is with owe you nothing!! No explanation , apologies, they didnt exchange vows of loyalty with you, your hubby did.....and please quit calling her his ex, shes clearly his current girl and you appear to be on the path to be called his ex

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    1. She owe her distance. She should carry her water water i**u gbara mmiri and stay away from A MARRIED MAN.

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    2. You got in a fight with a pig and you expect not to get dirty abi? U must be kidding me. Guess what, pigs like dirt.

      U sef, why would u pick his call at all? U went looking for trouble, now trouble come you dey shout again.

      When u took that decision, I thought you are a type that have a hold on your hubby, but the rest of your chronicle proved otherwise.

      You are still expecting sorry like if sorry will erase his cheating past, delete his girlfriends from his life and chart a new beginning. Unfortunately, sorry won't give u any of these.

      So wake up and be real. If you are so tired of the marriage, seek a counselor and help yourself both psychologically and emotionally.

      A word is enuf.

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    3. All these women sef. It's like you don't want long life for your self. What is my business with picking my husband call when his not there. Won't he come back and see his missed calls?
      Pls I want a very long life for me and my beautiful kids. Let him keep working hard while I am flexing his money going on expensive vacations and driving nice cars. I don't have time for bullshit. Whether my husband is cheating or not I don't know.
      He takes care of me and the kids,gives me my due respect,comes home at due hour from work and spend time with us. I am too busy and pre-occupied with my life,kids and job to be inspector gadget with a man. I intent to live long, see my children's children.
      Poster keep making a man turn you mad. You have not yet started. Grew hair will soon start with high BP monitor and medication while he is looking young. Atleast try cook for your babies if you don't send your horseband. Issshhhhh

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    4. Nawa for some ex’s o, isn’t it bad enough that they dint even marry you, imagine me replying people on an ex who moved on from me�� so demeaning
      You shouldn’t have gone to her page but I guess you needed to get the anger off your chest. Well everything has gone sour
      If he chooses not to talk fine, cook his food and let him be, even if you choose to leave later in this marriage you need to start growing a very strong heart, marriage isn’t child’s play, you have to be always one step ahead, make them feel like they don’t exist and you will control their lives.
      Your hubby has seen you finish, it’s time to be scarce, cook his food o but get busy with honey

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    5. Because of Stellas comment see rubbish advice everywhere

      Poster don't mind them. You reacted accordingly. Nothing is wrong with you

      Pls if he doesn't care how you feel, take your emotions off him and love someone else abeg n watch him start crawling around like goat.

      All these yeye pple here are sidechicks supporting their ministry.

      D secret to making a cheat change is taking emotions far away from him n letting another person love u well well. Unfortunately u must b gd at ur game cos if he catches u; they re worse than devil when served thesame medicine.

      Goodluck

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    6. Since you don't care about what Your husband does. Please don't cry you he infects you with HIV

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    7. Are you sure your horseband actually loves you? And I have a feeling that the lady was even an ex wife not ex girlfriend

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  2. Nne calm down. You are over reacting. Instead of exchanging words with a theif,why don't you hire some people to go beat her up? Oh yes it's my opinion!!

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    1. U keep showing yourself here, razz wife. Re husbands properties to own? They should be fighting for the attention of their wives just as much. Mind you, this kind of attitude doesn't stop any man from philandering. Earn his respect by choosing to love yourself in spite of it all, even when he stops loving you.

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    2. Me sef like coded things, i would never call u sef so u dont suspect anything, you wont see it coming, i'd be like a thief in the night without warning! That pain u chose to cause me, you'd bleed externally while i bleed internally.

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    3. Anonymous I am not one of the people that deny marriage is an achievement. It's one of my greatest achievement so I have to protect it very well.

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    4. Anon 15:44, how many you wan bleed? Vengeance is of God. Do U even know what these husbands from hell tell these other women? They always go back to exes crying wolf, that thei wives want to kill them, al to buy sympathy. Mtcheeew!

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    5. Nne calm Down, advice her to face her horseband, While will she Send people to go beat her horseband EX.. Madam face ya horseband and Leave that lady alone she's not the issue here.. Didn't you know He was a cheat Before am Sure you were Seeing the Signs but your Decided to put head and hoping you can change him....

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    6. 16:08 have you 'achieved' anything else in life?

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  3. You people will not hear...tackle your husband and not d chic cos it's d guts your husband gives to d chics dat make dem insult yu. Imagine quarrelling yu bcos of his side chic. After now yu will still end up apologising to him for peace to reign.

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    1. BLAH BLAH tackle your husband and not the side till you wear the shoe. I would do exactly what the poster did by picking up and insulting the hell of out of her and then I will face my husband.

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    2. Don't mind them,every one shouting deal with your husband blah blah blah,wait until you get married.

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  4. women don't get it.
    What's your business with your husband's ex? You did not tell us you caught them in any act etc.
    Focus on your husband and if you are a good natured lady, the man will be yours and be proud of it. But as it is, you depicted the picture of a nag and that pisses men off a lot.
    Ok, you aren't cooking, who is complaining?
    Of course, the man is not starving and he is definitely eating from his exes' and co.
    come down from your high horse if you still value this marriage and work it out with humility and no nagging. Bringing in you brother was way too far, you killed his respect.
    Push a little harder and the man will vacate that house for you.

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    1. I agree with u

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    2. This is how we condone bad and irresponsible behaviour from men and allow them get away with rubbish. So the emotional turmoil and abuse she is facing is nothing. She should just be grateful he hasn't sent her packing and manage to make him happy while she is dying inside. In fact, she should apologise for upsetting him. Abeg, leave that one. I stand with her. That he is not ready to apologise and commitment to do better, it means she should prepare herself for permanent emotional turmoil. Except she is able to detach herself emotionally from the marriage.

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  5. 2 years is small for drama. Try and be mentally matured on certain things that do not have weight.

    I pray things fall back rightly for you guys.

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  6. I no too agree with Stella. The husband is being very annoying and disrespectful. The environment is already toxic and na this kind issue dey cause untimely death. Men should be careful. You offend someone deeply yet eat their food. He get luck say no be me he marry.

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    1. If nah you He marry wetin you go Fit Do.. This is reason some woman have BP..

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    2. Chika she will poison the man, didn't you deduce that from her post. Evil thinking women always get what they deserve... Evil treatment!

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    3. Or rather, evil thinking men get what they deserve. Slow poison.

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  7. Poster,you just like getting ursef worked up.If your husband is into an ex,try to get a good ex that is into you.Don't develop Hbp cos of a cheat that will never change.That ex is angry that he married you and you acted to fast when the call came in.
    I don't pick my husband's call,unless its the sister and maybe she had called many times.
    Forgive your man if they are really still dating but if not,forget wht happened and reactivate your marriage.
    And please stop involving your people with your family issues...that should've been a secret.
    #cheat..icheattoo

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    1. See advice πŸ™†‍♂️

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    2. That is it, cheat I cheat. Look for ur own ex too. Chat with ur friends, be happy so u won’t develop hbp.

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  8. Personally you did not commit any crime by picking the call. But your offense is the insults. Most men don't stop dating their ex no matter what you do. Your actions has made their relationship stronger. They will settle with a good sex and laugh over the issue while you are busy getting worked up.

    As you still love the man, please let it go for your peace sake. Your current actions is not good for your health. The man will be alright las las.

    And that so called ex forgot she is a lady. Let her hold on. Her own days are coming.

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  9. Women learn to tackle your hubby instead of sidechick, as for the cooking part na you sabi...

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  10. This is serious. Please just try to act your usual self, keep cooking for him, do things that he will not expect you to do. try not to bring up the issue of the girl and act like everything is normal. Try to have normal conversations with him, definitely at a point his conscience won't let him rest because he will be scared of you acting all nice when there is fire on the mountain. Just my opinion.

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    1. If a woman cheats on her husband will you advise him to keep giving her money and doing his bit at home? This is EXACTLY why Nigerian men cheat and cheat so recklessly. All the advice on what to do encourages them to cheat because they feel like prizes and life goes on for them as usual. If he has a conscience he wouldn’t be cheating and keeping malice in the first place

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    2. Don't have a conversation with him, but don't be angry if he starts talking to you. Act like nothing happen. Stay on your phone for long...Ignore that man...gain your respect back.

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    3. Easier said than done...have a normal conversation and all. you guys are watching too many movies. Give that advise to the cheating husband.

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    4. Anon 15:27... that's not how to earn respect. Poster don't act like nothing happened because indeed, somethng happened & U re hurting from it. If he talks to U, do not ignore, listen & react appropriately.. No one deserves to stay angry for long, only to keep hurting another

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  11. move out with your daughter, don't go to family. don't go anywhere, make sure nobody knows where you are. switch off your phones too,after two weeks go to your parents house and tell them what you want. by the time he gets heat to provide you, his head will reset. Unrepentant scum

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    1. Please don't take this advice ooo... Unless you are TRULY tired of your marriage.

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    2. Do this...I did this too when my husband was like yours. He kept sending threatening messages. I ignored. After everything I didn't say nothing, he asked that we both unlock our phones from that day on lol. I'm like the boss now...

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    3. ..... And watch his ex move into your home with speed.


      Una see this kin advice? It should end with 2018.

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    4. I moved out for 2days. He kept calling. I didn't take his call. He came looking for me at work and was pleading.since then he arranged well. Although mine wasn't a case of cheat but numerous misunderstanding. Ask God for wisdom. Marriage takes God's grace and abundant wisdom. Cheers. Wish u well

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    5. @monkey face, this your comment reminded me of one woman who commented on this blog. Chaii her story sweet die.
      Her hubby was a chronic philanderer, she prayed,fasted, cried, insulted side chickens, cursed. For where, hubby was living the single life. That was how the woman left the marriage oooo... guess what happened next? Yes you guessed right.The side chicken moved in with swift alacrity. Thinking her own pu××y would make the man be faithful since it was laced with diamomd... but na lie. The wife instantly made her self the side chicken of her former hubby
      On purpose, while the former chicken became a suffer head. The table turned on her ehn, it was like film trickπŸ˜‚.
      The former wife started enjoying trips, money and the single life while still sleeping with her husband while that one experienced pain, heart ache and developed HBP. So stop all these comments ie." the woman would move in ooo, the man would marry her if you leave, bla bla bla". Yes she would move in to suffer she go hear whinnnnnπŸ˜‹πŸ˜‹πŸ˜‹

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  12. My dear you have every right to be angry buy you are going about it the wrong way. You have no business with that Ex but with your husband. Stop going around and insulting the Ex because she is enjoying causing you harm and your constant reaction is an evidence she is winning. I don't know the right solution to give cos men can be so annoying sometimes. Please cook food before he uses it as an excuse to leave kpatakpata that's if you still want to keep your home. It's not easy since you have evidence of his philandering which he does not hide. Distract yourself with your baby and if it proves too much for you to bear instead of dying of high BP on top two years marriage. If you can leave do it for your sanity as the man don dey make u mad so sotey u dey pursue side chicks up and down.

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  13. I don't like men that keep malice. It's childish. Grown ups talk. Make ona talk abeg. Since your hubby I s being childish, aunty initiate the convo.. Imagine having an ex that insulted your wife and you are there carrying face nd silently supporting the ex. Abeg Stella leave that her being troublesome it can be painful when you are not even regarded. The hubby is wrong.

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  14. 2 bleesed 2 curse18 January 2019 at 15:15

    That lady is so shameless,you werent good enough to be wifed yet you are busy chasing him with calls like fly.

    Madam you were wrong to talk to her i know your blood was steaming at that moment but you should have control your temper.
    As for your husband he has rebellion spirit that makes him feel he is the man and get away with anything.

    Please have rethink on how you are acting now cause it will only complicate issues.

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  15. If cooking for your husband stopped cheating no Nigerian man will be cheating by now. If not confronting your husband stopped cheating no Nigerian man will be cheating by now. If praying and fasting for your husband stopped cheating no Nigerian man will be cheating by now. For years we’ve been inundated with words of advice on how to stop cheating, and yet here we are. Nigerian men cheat boldly because they can, because it’s the woman faced with all the advice on how she should do x or y or bend over backwards to please the man. And still they cheat. If a woman cheated on her husband and the man was angry and confronted both the wife and the cheating partner people would understand. That he’s hurt and angry and doesn’t want to talk to the woman. Imagine asking a man why he’s not giving his wife money even though she cheated. Yet women are robbed of their emotions everyday and their right to feel hurt and betrayed. He may not be using condoms and putting her at risk of HIV and such. He may be wasting family finances on other women. Time he should spend on his children is spent outside. Neglecting and emotionally abusing his wife. Yet women are not allowed to be angry. Told to apply fake wisdom for someone that has never stopped cheating. I’m sorry that your husband is cheating on you and I wish you the best. Please surround yourself with people that care about your wellbeing and not people that will heap the blame on you or put the onus on you to stop the cheating. Because it doesn’t work. Most Nigerian cheats will cheat forever because nothing is stopping them. But if he dates a white woman he will suddenly know how to stop cheating or conceal it very well and learn to apologise when wrong. And it won’t stop until we learn to value Nigerian women and not see them as people who were created to endure rubbish

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    1. Let me add fullstop. Your mama born you well

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    2. This is the first sensible comment on this thread @ Anon 15.16. You deserve a standing ovation. Very rarely do I agree with Stella's comments and this is no exception.There is actually nothing left. It couldn't have been put better.

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    3. Anonymous 15:16 I love you so much. A million likes for your comment.

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    4. Toh Anon you have said it all.

      He does not value you ... Lemme type in Pidgin because it’s as if I am about to carry the anger and be a angryiing πŸ™ƒ

      See, you monitor his life, invested so much emotionally, and now you are bothered one hanty is licking outta your chocolate. Your public chocolate.

      He does not respect you! Reason why he was only concerned about you picking his call instead of answering the Goddam queshion. You are his Wife! Of course you can pick his call if he is not available.

      But shouting at the Side chic? Hanty! You are a noisemaker. Men don’t take noisemakers serious. Sometimes you earn respect by being silent and giving out strong Signals that you can do anything!!!

      Reduce the noise and act!

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    5. Let me add to this your wise advice. If the marriage will kill you, leave. By the time the first wife leaves, send leaves, the man will learn not to cheat. If you still value the marriage, pretend as if nothing happened, cook for him and direct your attention to things that make you happy. Go out with friends to movies, gymn, parties, etc. Don't let marriage kill you. Please don't confront a side-chick directly, deal with her codedly, they don't deserve mercy.

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    6. Oil dey your head

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    7. Thank you anon. And you know why same men respect white women? Cos white women do not condone cheating. The law supports and protects their rights. Cheat and lose your house and half your fortune to your wife. Ask Jeff Bezos. That is if she doesn't shoot you down while smoking a cigar. So cheating is not just an emotional decision but an economic one as well.

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    8. MostNigerian men dating white women will never dare cheat on them.

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    9. You have said all and beyond what I wanted to say.abeg take 5!

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  16. You shouldn't have picked his call,or you should have just picked and told her he's sleeping.There was no need for insults,you don't have any business with her.Its your husband who made a vow to you.Learn to pick your battles,marriage is a lot of patience and maturity.Going to Facebook to insult her just shows how insecure you are.You said he is a cheat so how many women do you intend fighting??And it's not every issue you report to anyone,I have been married for five years and we settle our issues on our own .None of our families has ever settled any fight.Choose your battles

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  17. I'm not supporting evil, but if any woman calls or texts me with insult I will certainly fire back. Where you expecting the lady to drink your insults or cook with it?
    If your man is cheating you should face him squarely and stop giving oloshos the opportunity to talk to you anyhow. Now see your situation.
    Your husband's lack of remorse is striking. It's because you have turned yourself into a toothless bulldog in the house, all bark and no bite.
    Since you say you are tired of the marriage( which I doubt) then just move out already.
    In any case you need to do something drastic to shake him now. Cos it's obvious that he has mastered all your old tricks.
    Maybe you should go somewhere for a while. Note however that the move could be the end and steel yourself.

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  18. Your husband has given her mind to insult you, i'm sure he says all sort of terrible things about you to the ex, thats wat'd give her that kind of mind, he doesnt respect his marriage at all... you shouldnt have traced her to facebook to insult her, if hes not eating, no need cooking but he should know ure not cooking cus he doesnt eat, instead of it wasting.

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  19. When we say face your cheating husband and leave the side chick,this is what we are trying to avoid. See how you allowed that girl to insult you free of charge.
    Please anyone who knows he/she is not ready to get over an ex shouldn't marry an innocent person and suffer him/her.

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  20. Madam poster you get time ohhh. All these cos of a man? I salute your energy shaaa. Why not channel this energy into doing something productive? I bet you won't even have time to go on an abusing spree. This is 2019 no time to waste time kinji ko.

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  21. They say two wrongs don't make a rightπŸ’€πŸ’€

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  22. I never support facing the side chic. Sorry to be saddled with such a useless husband. He has empowered the side chic to feel like she can insult you. For the side chic to even be commenting on his page she must be very silly. The people she’s chatting with will be wondering if she’s even alright and will perhaps insult her behind her back. Treat her like the shit she is and ignore her. Let her feel even smaller than she already is. Whatever you do with your husband just have it at the back of your mind that you’re a valuable queen created by God. If you’re going to live your life with him, live it to the fullest. Let him know that he will never determine your happiness. He will be tortured by his lack of self discipline and the fact that his emotional abuse and absence have no effect on you. Whether he’s at home or not, be happy. If he’s ignoring you or not, be happy. If he apologises or not it won’t matter because you don’t care what he does and he’ll know and it will torture him. Watch tv, go out, read, watch movies, reunite with old friends, travel. If you separate or divorce him, also great. Live your life to the fullest, husband or not. Don’t let people guilt you into living a life based on another man. A secret is that these cheats never stop. All the advice on cooking and losing weight, how many men has that stopped from cheating. Do you, do what is necessary but don’t go overboard. He is definitely not worth it

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  23. Girl, don't be angry. Act like he does not exist in that house, and be happy please. Start checking your phone, and laugh whilst at it. Stop being bothered by what he does, and u will see change. I know you are hurting, you are not a terrible person, your husband is. Calm down, live like that man doesn't exist. Don't show him love anymore. Leave your email under this comment for proper coaching.Your husband has no respect for himself.

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  24. This marriage thing na wa ooo, e dey tire me oo. Poster I know how you feel right now, the pain from your husband's actions and the side chics.
    From what you explained up there, u said you picked the call cos you were familiar with the name and the said ex girlfriend and she insulted you and your Husband isn't being remorseful. Well since he's giving you the feeling that he's siding the girl from what you told us, why not ignore him

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  25. Please how old are you? I will never marry a woman like you. 1. You answered your husband's phone 2. Insulted the caller based on assumptions 3. Woke a tired hustler from sleep 4. Nagged him 5. Reported him to your not even his family member 6. Made home hell for him 7. Started starving him. Madam, you ain't matured for marriage. These here are the easiest ways to end your marriage in disgrace. There are a thousand ways you can approach this issue and get public support and your husband's apology. And if you may know, your elder brother cheats too and understands the guy code. Stop feeling entitled and start fixing the mess you created. Never forget, the option of divorce is always available.

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    1. How did she create the mess?
      The husband who speaks with his ex and other girls is the mess creator,I agree she should have handled it differently!!

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    2. Can you imagine this? What is wrong in answering your partner’s phone? Should there be any call that you can’t afford to have your wife answer? Is that tiny mobile device for communication such a den of iniquity that it determines the maturity of a person? Gerara here men shit!

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  26. But all these babes that would be pestering a man even when they know he's married is what I'm not understanding, especially the ex that thinks because she has de be she can now behave anyhow in his life. Bitch please leave these men alone it's annoying as fuck.

    Madam I don't know what to tell you because advise is sweet in the mouth of the adviser. Me I might even do worse if I find myself in your situation.

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    1. Don't mind them hoes. A man dumped you and married another, yet you're still calling him shamelessly

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  27. So,you think because you are married to your man you have the right to abuse his Ex?. You are on a long thing. You have seen and known whatsoever you desired to achieve, right?. You want to be respected while you are rude to someone, cut the crap, it won't happen. You are not just rude but arrogant as well, with no self esteem. Let me tell you the truth- You will lose out in the end, so grow up.
    Start preparing his meals again and make your grievance or point known in another way- polite and sensible. Best of luck.

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    1. Thank you.. I hope she listen to you. Arrogant woman

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  28. You are angry, he is angry, be patient and wait for him to calm down then you guys can talk. As for the ex, she's actually the current, she owes you no explanation. Ur hubby does. You were not suppose to pick the call and even as you picked, she has no right to insult you. She could have easily hang up. I mean, accord you some respect even as she's screwing your man.

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  29. There is no justification for cheating..However, some women are the reason some men cheat. If you are "atawewe" in the house how do you expect your husband not to look outside for his sanity....
    Moving forward, learn to know what he wants or he wants to be loved. And if he continues cheating, send another chronicle and I will tell you to boil hot water, mix it with cameroun pepper, add some red chilli and pour it on his sorry ass...

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  30. You need to apply wisdom in this matter, fighting your husband will only drive him more into the hands of the stranger. He is wrong on all level, you have to be the mature one here. End the malice you both are keeping and talk to him, keep doing your duties as his wife and leave his ex alone. Lastly, keep praying for him, it works.

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    1. Why should she pray for him? Smfh. Y'all will be treating these foolish idiotic shameless backwards men like some mini god's.

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    2. Enter your reply...Thank Cynthia for that last point. So many have relegated prayers to the background and made it the last option. Prayers work, tell God about your husband's philandering ways. Still be the good wife and watch God change him and you'll be amazed and thankful.

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    3. The most useless and foolish advice I have read so far. You have to... you have to...
      Did she marry herself????
      What is the responsibility of the man here?
      Treating men like toys.
      Tell him to decide once and for all if he wants to be married or living single.
      What is you have to do this, you have to do that??? Zero self esteem.
      No wonder your men treat you lot like rags, because that's the value you place on yourself. Nonsense.

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  31. Where are men like this found? I don't just get it. Poster did he started cheating after marriage or he has been doing that while dating? For two years of marriage he is into this lifestyle means he was cheating even in the relationship. I feel for you but truth is that you overreacted. You went too far. The person you should have talk to is your husband and secondly I believe you started so rudely with the side chick that got everything messed up. I have seen where a married woman politely discussed and begged a side chick about her husband and the lady gave up her affairs with him. Thread with caution and finally, don't starve him with food else you will push him into eating and sleeping outside if all he hasn't started. I learnt while growing up that starving a child food that disobey or is stubborn only but hardened the heart of that child. It's not easy but if you feel your safety is no longer guaranteed with him, then I advice you can take a bow.

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    1. Woman with low self esteem. Beg a sidechick to leave your husband? This is why many of you will die of hiv and other sexually transmitted deceases. It seems you slept with other women's husband, that is why you will beg a side-chick. Go pick your pride where you left it.

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  32. Sister your man is not only a cheat, he has pride also. You should never waste energy on a stupid ex like that lady. Your husband cannot be eating out and sleeping out. Choose one. I fear STDs but make him dinner. If guilty conscience allows him to eat, dress nicely and fck d hell out of him. I hope you're not suffering from post natal loss of libido and depression Sha. Be a better wife, get a job or get busy

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  33. Just 2 years marriage and all these drama.May God help you.

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  34. Poster,you just like getting ursef worked up.If your husband is into an ex,try to get a good ex that is into you.Don't develop Hbp cos of a cheat that will never change.That ex is angry that he married you and you acted to fast when the call came in.
    I don't pick my husband's call,unless its the sister and maybe she had called many times.
    Forgive your man if they are really still dating but if not,forget wht happened and reactivate your marriage.
    And please stop involving your people with your family issues...that should've been a secret.
    #cheat..icheattoo

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  35. Me i dnt understand stella's red pen these days,a man is a chronic cheat,how will the husband tell her she doesn't have the right to pick his call and not even apologise , its shows he isn't ready to stop ,there is nothing more painful that someone offending you and still not remorseful, it shows he doesn't care whatever happens,poster may be you should pack your things and moveout for sometime,just to see his reaction may be when he sees that u r ready to leave him if he doesn't change ,may b that will make him be more reasonable and remorseful

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  36. Dear u have every right to be angry!but pls take a deep breath, calm yourself down it’s not dat deep. Give yourself peace of mind,commit your marriage to God and take good care of yourself Nd your baby. You have no business whatsoever with any ex,make peace with ur hubby. Both of u should talk about it, if he is not ready to talk u can initiate it, wen he comes back from work hold his hands , look him straight in d eyes Nd tell him u re sorry. Look for a little business to occupy your mind and stop answering calls upndan. Stay blessed

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    1. I agree with you, she has the right to be angry

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  37. Hmmmmmm see why I am scared of marriage

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  38. My sis, u are wrong to insult her,report to your brother,and stop cooking...u took a vow with your hubby not his ex or your brother...face oga, change your attitude and pray

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  39. If my wife picks my call we already have a problem and yes this wife sounds very troublesome.Your husband offends you and it’s your brother you report him to?This woman is not ready for marriage abeg,if I’m your husband you won’t hear any apologies from me.youve already taken away the remorse by reporting me to your brother when you could’ve ironed it out with me.

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    1. This world is baffling, your prick is not private to your wife but your phone is, na wa

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    2. iron it out without an audience from him? what are u even saying? a side chic can call early in d morning but shouldn't be insulted by the wife? she got a little below what she really deserved madam Stella. pls, poster, just try and increase your value, get occupied with things that will increase ur worth, like looking good, appear sexier, try and do things that make u happy, pretend that he even exist, get busy generally and don't mind whatever he does that offends u. he will come begging when he sees u are better than some dustbins outside. u need to keep ur mouth quite to achieve maximum result.

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    3. Very stupid comment. My only prayer is that the stds kills you first and doesn't infect your wife.

      As if Nigerian men will even allow his wife greet her ex.

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    4. You can imagine calling her brother to report her husband. I go bounce two of them.

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  40. I really don't know what to tell you. I think you had reached your boiling point with the cheating and that call just pushed you over the edge. What has transpired between you and your husband is not beyond repair, but I feel you need some time away to yourself before you can start working on repairing the marriage. Please take a vacation on your own somewhere. Do you have a sister or girlfriends who would be up for a trip, or maybe they already live abroad and you could visit. He is a cheat already so whether you are around to see or hear what he is doing does not matter. Take a breather away from him and his energy, go have some good old fashioned girl fun. Get a new hairdo, join a gym, rekindle interest in an old hobby, get a new wardrobe, just focus on you. Start cooking again because unless you are an amazing cook it really won't have any effect, maybe one of his outside woman is even an amazing cook so he is not missing anything. Keep cooking, even improve on it to a level that blows even your mind. Why am I telling you to do all of this? Well, when you start having fun in living again his shenanigans will start having little to no effect on you. Your life will improve dramatically and you will even open doors to greater things. Please always have sex with a condom, don't expose yourself to any disease with a cheat just because of love. Do a relationship accounting and really ask yourself if this is the man you want to be with in ten years. I believe in getting out of bad situations sooner rather than later. If you want him for life then work hard on repairing the marriage, if you realize this person is not for you then move on.

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    1. I agree with u. Am preparing my mind for strong things. I dnt pray to marry a cheat thou but some men are not it. A man cheat and stop of u are saying she should hold his hands and say she is sorry???? Pls for wat???
      Me I will learn not to boil. I will cook for him and make his life miserable till he worship the ground I walk on.

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  41. U say U still love him, yea? Then swallow ur pride and have a polite conversation with him, don't hold back nothing, U will definately know if he's remorseful whether he apologizes or not. Whatever the outcome is, choose peace of mind, always...Leave if U have to, stay if U don't wanna. In the meantime, insist on protection when sleeping with him & resume cooking please, he's not the only one that eats in the house, U & ur child do as well. All will be well

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  42. Poster, don't work urself up too much. It will even make ur husband despise you. Simply, reverse the case. First, look good, wear the skimpiest gowns that bring out ur best features. Apply very seductive makeup. Cook enticing meals, clean up the house. Call him on the phone that u want a truce. Fees him, do shakara and take only urself out, tell him where u are going. If he follows u, good, it he does not, no p. Come back wit take aways. Call a friend of urs, arrangee style and be gistin like u had a good time,make sure its a girl oo. My hubby did same and I got the shortest gown, wore no pants and told him I wanna visit someone, he followed me, I called up a girl to meet us at a joint. Had fun and came back,when he touched me, I gave him the best fuck of his life

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  43. My sister cook, but just for you and your kid .wash the dishes after. Stay in the living room and watch TV ..Chat people close to you. Stay long on the phone. Act like the shameless man doesn't exist. Never start any convo with him,and most importantly, don't pray for him. If anybody needs prayers, it is you. All these useless men..

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    1. waaa gba yiii....i agree!!! well said.

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    2. Ok o. She's on her way out of the house. Thank God she get brother, she go pack go there

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  44. I had a talk with an elderly woman some years ago and she told what she did about her cheating husband when they were younger,it worked for her and it might work for you also.

    She said Everytime you suspect and have evidence of him cheating, she would pay some boys gower husband serious beating.she would let them give him the kind of beating that will keep him at home for at least one week, while they are beating him let them be singing it in his ears that "he should leave other people's women/girlfriends alone"

    Trust me by the time he receives this beating like 3 times he will stop cheating, He will start avoiding women outside like a plague....Poster if you can do it I suggest ilyou try this very effective method

    sometimes the only thing some of these men understand is pain...remember to do it codedly.

    LEP

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    1. Hhahahahhahaha, what if he doesn't survive one beating episode?

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    2. Violence never wins...

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    3. Aye mi oooo. No let them beat am so tee e come die ooo. But I know this will work well because he go think say na the babe them bf send them πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£

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    4. This is perhaps the funniest solution I have ever heard of. I can't endorse this method, but thanks for the laugh.

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  45. Ccook but ignore him .work on ur heart to strong.we are humans.i will do same.ur happiness is in your hands

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  46. It rains everywhere. I am suspecting mine too. But anytime he wants to resume the other room duty I will ask him to follow me for test. Can't come n kill myself

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  47. Leave him. Go to your brothers house. Stop tolerating rubbish. And yes you can abuse zny ex you want. .but sure ex can abuse you too

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  48. Dear poster, you have every right to be angry. You have been dealing with a cheating husband and overreacted but it's okay. Going forward, if you decide to work things out in your marriage, don't pay any attention to any lady your husband is involved with except maybe to pray down fire on their head. Face your husband and trash it out with him. His ex is pained, she can comment all
    all she wants but you're the one

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  49. Am a woman and I don't support poster picking her husband's calls. U are inviting hbp to yoursef.
    Don't you WORK? occupy yourself with something . Marriage these days is full of crap. Make your money and bring him to bendded knees.
    Me, I no get time for any rubbish. My husband used to womanise. I was worried and he wou'nt stop cause he had all the money. I was working too but he was a big boy. Then luck fell on me, had a bounty job with fat package.
    We have a kid. I then put all my energy on my job and child. The job takes me out of the country alot. I have 3 cars to myself and he still on 1. I live in affluence though in same roof. Do my shopping abroad.cook lavishly without his money.

    I insist he uses CD with me and that threw him off balance. It was my own way to let him know i know what he does. I don't query him on anything. He was baffled on why I dnt care anymore. But i still love him as a person. But i dont care what he does with his money, body or time.

    Care what! I live my life trying to get that peace of mind. He has sort of changed and now homely tying to be a good husband. He is stil ding well in life. Spending his money on girlfriends, i dont care. But i have already lost interest in the marriage. Just doing pity party.
    I can do without him and can afford anything I want including sending my child to school abroad
    Pls, cook for him. Still play your wifey role.but don't confront his girlfriends. You are a wife, they remain side chics.
    Talk to him. 2 years is still very young.. I dnt wish any woman suffer the kind d depression I went through before now. But we are trying to work things out if only living in civility.
    God is your strength.

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    1. You will live long, I say you will live long, you are a women with brain.

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    2. Correct woman!

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    3. Long life is yours dear Woman!

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    4. Na wa, is this one you're in marriage?
      I reject this kind for my enemy in Jesus name. So if they call out women that are happily married now you will follow and come out.

      Later now you people will be celebrating 25years of marriage posting pics up and down, not knowing that you spent the majority of your marriage years in endurance.

      Na wa for una!

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    5. Chai madam I love your style biko. You cannot come and kill yourself. Keep being the lady boss.

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    6. Bitter and Jealous Anonymous18 January 2019 at 17:45

      Madam pls be happy. Pretend all is well and be happy for yourself.life is too short to be suffering over another person(husband) selfish interest. The more you go after his ex and keep insulting her the more she believe she is winning. My sister unblock him on fb. If possible add the ex as your fb friend. Dress sexy! Go out! Please get busy and upload. Enjoy your life biko. He is enjoying his already. But insist on condom.

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    7. Pls be happy and insist on condom if he demand for sex. Cook for him and keep him arm length like a bag of shit. A cheat is always a cheat. They will never change.

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    8. You people really amaze me with the comments on here. What's the point of marriage if it cannot be enjoyed by both parties. So you and your husband are basically housemates, yet you stay on for the sake of "Mrs" title.
      My dear you are delusional and lack self esteem. Fear of what people will say is keeping you captive, to a man who is a cheat.
      Until women learn to value themselves, men will continue to treat you as crap.
      Faithfulness marriage is & should be a non negotiable fact. Until we learn to value ourselves, our menfolk will never us seriously.
      As a society, we have failed our women. Men are raised with no morals whatsoever, yet women are expected to bear, support and tolerate.

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    9. 18:50

      Your comment is all I see.

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  50. A sensible lady would always know what a man is capable of before marriage to some extent especially in the area of infidelity,you people blind your eyes to these things before marriage as if they don't matter to you, after getting married and you start seeing signs of infidelity in the man you start running heater smelter,madam you ain't handling this thing well,no time to advice you,read through get a good advice here and stop being a fish brained wife!!mtschewww

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  51. My dear poster, things like this silence is best, ignore him despite how hurting it is. Your silence will make him restless. Don’t ever call a follow woman and insult her because your suspecting she’s having an affair with your husband, she will insult you and leave you feeling miserable. I will advice you forgive your husband and don’t divorce. Your revenge is not having his time, don’t give him attention.

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  52. My dear not to support Stella but you really sound troublesome.
    Focus on your hubby, think before you act and pls keep cooking no matter what. Also pray

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  53. Women, when ur man keeps cheating, remove emotions n feelings from d MiX n regard him as a mere man, protect urself n face yourself, be selfish abeg, let him stew in his ignorance.

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    1. Shikina!!!

      If he behaves like a dog πŸ• treat him as one. Don’t comman die because of another woman’s child ooo.

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  54. Since you have access to your husband's phone why no send message like I cant talk now wiffiey his here even on the girls social media accounts
    Do things to make the ex jealous so she feels ur hubby is wasting her time and u be loving to ur man.
    When the ex confidence has gone u can now deal with ur husband

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  55. .instead of blocking ur husband block the girl from his friends list
    and Barr her calls
    send her message can't talk now home with madam and baby
    The ex go sad that way she will feel your husband is playing her and loves you alwasy delete the evidence ok
    Change ur hubby status movie with wiffiey
    Shopping with my family
    I love wiffiey
    Kikijikikikik make the ex jealous tooo

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  56. CELLGEVITY Lagos ...0818006888618 January 2019 at 17:10

    @poster, you shouldn't have answered the call in the first place but from my guess you know the ex and probably waiting to abuse her.
    You need to be patient and talk to your husband since he refused to man up because you cant continue keeping malice. Your husband did bad and you shouldn't have stopped cooking too. It can be painful though but calm down, pray to God to direct and lead you and talk to your husband.
    It is well

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  57. The power lies in your hand. Option 1 - If you are one of the I must die in this marriage put up with his bull and overlook whatever he is doing, Cook and serve, if he doesnt eat thats his business, get yourself a vibrator (to avoid STIs),focus on you and your daughter. Be playing happy family on the outside . You knew he was chronic cheat all along yet you are giving yourself high blood pressure answering his calls -_-!. Option 2- simply put walk away..

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  58. All these stupid advice that most of you women that have nothing else but man to live for give sha, it's alarming really.

    This why you people get no atom of respect, because you don't present yourself as deserving of it.
    Your Nigerian men will marry and treat y'all anyhow, but marry and respect their oyibo wives.

    May God help all of you, and bless you with self worth.

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  59. Enter your comment...hmmm poster. so many advices to pick from. just pray for wisdom to choose the right advice. pele

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  60. Very troublesome somebody oo. You insult people upandan and expect to be praised for it? If you like leave the marriage na u know. Rubbish

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  61. When I found out my ex husband was cheating on me , I saw all the chat and prove. Since I cannot fight or make trouble, I know I can never forget it or love him again, I just respect my self and got separated from him and soon I will seek for divorce. If you cannot take it just walk away.

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  62. Poster do you not have an ex? Start calling them too make everybody kuku get HBP

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  63. Can someone tell me why a woman can't pick her husband's call anymore?. So a wife can't take her husbands call to say sorry oh my husband is sleeping call back later.are you guys kidding me?! This world is messed up!! when did we get here. what's the essence of the marriage when you both are divided; with ugly secrets.The bible says for this reason a man shall live his parents and be joined n they shall become 1. you get that?,1.
    If you are 1 with someone,then they will never be bothered about you taking their call. A man who is 1 with his wife ought not be bothered that his wife picks his call in his absence. We keep tolerating evil, we see black and we paint it white just to soothe us. This kind of ugly world we are all helping to build, i hope 20years from now the earth will be habitable. because i see it filled with all kinds of evil and wickedness.

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    1. God bless you.. Loud it! Most of these comment are so annoying.

      And madam Stella's comment is nt left out too

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    2. God bless you

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  64. Who are we to judge a woman scorned? Hell hath no fury... Most people here asking why she called the side chic are the very ones who will fight and tear cloth when it's happening to them. This Chronicle is the reason why I must marry a man with whom I have shared values. A god fearing man. A man who respects marriage. A man who values trust and fidelity. Yes, they will fall, they will make mistakes and even exercise poor judgement sometimes. They are human. However, even when they make mistakes, they are more inclined to apologise and try to make amends. They are more likely to want to be better and to right their wrongs. They are sensible. But see this one? Foolish, proud and unrepentant. He's even keeping malice with you for calling his side fool. I won't judge you for calling and insulting the heck out of her because I understand how emotions can become uncontrollable when one is hurting. I will only advise you to sit down, determine the outcome you want (which is for hubby to stop cheating and respect your marriage) and only take actions that will give you that outcome. If you don't know what they are, ask God in prayer. Only HE can show you because you know what?? You can't change anyone. We may think the ideas we have are the best but they may worsen a bad situation when we act on them. If you like break his and your head, you can't change him until HE DECIDES to. You can't force him to decide either. In the meantime, take the practical advice some have given you here like ignoring him, protecting yourself and making yourself happy in the house. You need to value your peace of mind now above all else to be able to make good decisions and to even hear the instructions God will give you regarding this problem. Cease fighting, quarreling and keeping malice. Stop worrying over his misbehavior. Stop reporting him unnecessarily. I know it's easier said than done but you want to save your marriage right? Go to the one who instituted it. Report Him to God and let God handle Him. By the time God is done with Him, you will be left wondering what happened and be amazed that you didn't need to lift a finger to warn any side hen. Goodluck

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  65. Easier said than Done... Wait for ur turn and see what it feel like to be cheated on. Besides she only asked her if she has a msg for her hubby, and d ashawo kobo kobo called her jobless for picking the call.

    If it ws the other way round na hope u wl all be saying the same thing?

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  66. This was me just a few years ago!
    I centred my happiness all around my husband and dedicated myself to him, all I wanted was to just to be a good wife! Sotey I forgot myself in d process.
    Nothing more, as long as he was happy.
    I was so excited to be married and tot hubby too was, so I never even imagined or suspected he could cheat on me, at least not in d 1st or 2nd year of our marriage.
    I left my comfortable job and relocated to where he was, all for love...hmm
    I got d shocker of my life when I saw d msg a girl sent to him thanking him for d night out and gift, and many more msgs like that. I even got slapped once for picking a girl's call on his phone.
    No one taught me to dust my certs and start job hunting, cos I knew myself dt I was too less busy.
    Thankfully, I got another job after some months with a bank.
    I had too much to do at work, but I didn't mind, cos it took my mind off him totally.
    I changed my wardrobe and took more care of myself dt people began to comment on how better I looked.
    I've totally ignored him to d extent that he's now d one wondering what I'm up to and is now very possessive suddenly!
    But unfortunately it's too late cos I no longer love him. At times I wonder how it got this far.
    I don't even mind separating from him now, cos my peace of mind is more imp than one make-believe marriage.
    So pls poster, get busy and make ur own money. Thou not easy, but forget he exists and leave him to have fun with d exes.
    Don't have high BP cos of a mere man.
    Don't mind my epistle, d thing dey pain me seriously.

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  67. Madam, your story is one sided. I cheat on my wife bcoz she has always cheated on me even though she will swear she doesn't cheat.
    She wants to go through my phone but don't want me to go through her own..
    She reports me around but she will never tell them what she is doing. You sound like her.
    If it is you my wife, Abeg I dey serious about the separation .
    Come dey go oooo. I cannot come and kill myself.
    And no need to lie about your infidelities cos I know about all the cheating

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    1. So why are you still with her?
      Abi is she the one feeding you and paying for rent and school fees?
      And have you prayed, have you committed it to God? Nothing God cannot do. Make sure you fulfill your husbandly responsibilities. Don't quarrel or fight with her. Just do everything you can to ensure her attention is on you. It is well with you.

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    2. Dont mind her with her one sided story.

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  68. Youre a jobless woman. That's all I see here. Go get busy and stop running after your husband and his ex.
    Nonsense.

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    1. Chauvinistic pig....stupid idiot, pity any woman who will marry you

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  69. My dear poster, I must appreciate you for your openness - you say it the way it happened but things like this are best handled with understanding. Why not calm down, show your husband more love and pray out home-wreckers/ strange women out of your home. This's more spiritual than physical battle. By my personal research and experience, the devil is all out there to create more havoc in homes. Most people fell victims of his devices, not that they really want to cheat but, there are evil influences beyond their control. This calls for every couple to be more spiritually sensitive and pray more for each other be wise, fight to win and not to lose.

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  70. Nigerian women give men too much power

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  71. When you reason with your pussy.How can you love a man who does not respect you! Your husband know you don't have dignity as a woman.Must you marry to anything just to answer mrs

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  72. chai God see me wey dey look for wife to marry all these years I no see, come see person wey get wife come dey mess her up like this. chai.

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