Emergency Room Series: NEGLECT

Dont ever Joke with matters involving kids.........

Hello everyone and happy new month. I hope we get all we desire from this new month.

I have shared posts of children being exposed to all kinds of Sexual predators and molesters and It is important we know who we are putting our children in care of. A good majority of people just leave their kids with their neighbours especially after school and with the hope that they would pick them up afterwards and most times we do not really know who these people really are and we can only tell from what they want us to believe about them and children are very delicate and vulnerable and should not be trusted with strangers or even family members sometimes as well.

A young girl of about five years was brought into the emergency room. she was brought in by the police and Her father. She had cuts and bruises on her face and arms and she would not want to make eye contact with anyone. She kept crying and upon getting the history from her parents, it was discovered that she had been sexually molested by their neighbour who she spends time after school hours with before her parents get back home from work. 

The parents had dismissed their nanny who looks after the girl when she gets back from school and for some reason they felt it was okay for her to wait at their new neighbour’s place. Unknown To her parents, the man was an offender and had just moved to their neighbourhood because the court had told him to leave where he lived before because it was close to a mixed public school. He had been released recently from prison where he served three years for kidnapping a boy and him.


The parents of this girl had no idea who their new neighbour was and what he was capable of. They noticed he would give the young girl treats and waves whenever she was off to school but they felt it was just him being kind to her and they did not suspect anything was wrong with that. They would allow her to spend time with him after school hours and initially the girl would tell her parents that the man tried to hug her and hold her but they didn’t suspect anything because the man looked ‘responsible and calm’.


Within a space of 3 months that the man moved to their neighbourhood, the girl would sometimes come home with a new cut and claim she fell in school, she became withdrawn and sluggish and wasn’t her usual self. She wouldn’t say what was going on.


The girls parents only discovered there was something wrong when they would go to pick the girl from the neighbour’s house and she would always be sleepy or even fast asleep to hug or greet them. She had lost appetite and the school called the parents to ask if there was something wrong at home especially when they noticed the bruising too. The school denied it was in their watch she fell and got the bruisings as they were always in class with cameras around. The school threatened to call the police as they thought she was being maltreated at home. After pressuring the girl to talk, she said it was their neighbour who would tie her up. 

The neighbour was immediately arrested. I doubt he would be remorseful because people like that have had their human conscience shadowed with evil lustful ideas.

In the emergency unit, she had her blood taken for drug testing and it was discovered the man had been drugging her to sleep so he could take advantage of her or maybe putting it in her drink I don’t know. Or maybe he drugged her to mask the pain. It was shocking. The girl kept crying because she was in pain. 

I was glad the police mentioned that the parents were going to be arrested too. I can’t imagine what the girl would have being through. She was showing the signs but the parents were probably too soaked up in their busy life to notice. The girl was later taken to the paediatric ward where further care and referrals would be given.


The parents thought that because the man was calm, respectful and maybe always wore a smile that meant he had a good heart. These are often the characteristics of a s#xual offender or predator. They are jovial and welcoming, they are unusually calm and friendly and would like to offer ‘help’ especially when it involved a child so as to gain trust.


As a parent, it is important that your child or children are protected. You don’t really know who is who. That uncle or aunty neighbour or tenant that you think is a good person might have another intention towards your child. They may not molest your child but might say certain words or make them do certain unspeakable things that at their age would leave a psychological scar. Even nannies at home and play schools are being seen abusing children in dangerous ways, these are people being paid to care for children, what more can a total stranger do. Poor children are being gagged, assaulted, stomped and beaten.

 This is heartbreaking and inhumane. Children are to be loved and protected and it is the responsibility of everyone of us, whether or not it’s your child.