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Tuesday, June 11, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative.....

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

THE CONSEQUENCES................


Good day madam Stella.
I don't need to be crucified because i am ready to turn a new leaf.


I was married for 12 years and the marriage was very toxic.It has been "do me i do you"between me and my husband.If he starts his philandering ways, boom me i start talking to guys too.If he calls me a fool; i call him a bigger fool.
My husband is very abusive and i am hot tempered so the home has been fire all these while.


So we parted ways 3 years ago but not officially divorced.

Families have been begging for us to reconcile but no way.

So Oga said he is ready to work on our marriage, that is, go for counselling and all that.I contacted someone and they said 3 sessions is 150,000 naira.

Oga wont pay because he feels it is too expensive.


So now,this is the part i can't discuss with anybody.

During that period we were doing each other,i had protected s#x with a few.It didn't make me feel better tho.
I am from a place in the eastern part of Nigeria where the consequences are deadly even tho i don't believe that such exist anymore.They are asking me to come please the gods so that i will not die mysteriously.


I really don't want to indulge in such as it is very shameful on my part.I have learnt from my mistakes, so i am ready to start all over again with God.


Can i get the following in Nigeria?
A good life coach in Lagos
A good pastor that i can pour my heart to.
Thanks








*Madam ARE YOU OK?

You said very shameful?Its better than dying and taking your kids and husband along....,please leave Pastor and life coach first and go and attend to that thing called cleansing...if you were told to go and do it then go...Or didn't you know when you were swearing you will not be with anyone else?
If you give your body to your hubby without the necessary cleansing,Madam heads will role........please do the necessary and come back...
Hmmm 

158 comments:

  1. Madam leave shame o and go and do the cleansing so that nobody will die.

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    1. Is 12yrs of hellish marriage not enough for you??! How many more hellish yrs of marriage do you want?! Biko rest abeg

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    2. Abi, give to Caesar what is Caesar's and let peace reign. I've seen the consequences and I don't wish it on any family. Three able and fully matured sons dying every three months only for the mother to confess when everything has been destroyed and to think one was a man of God.

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    3. @15:51
      Ceaser you said -yes -that means the government -taxes, tribute etc.
      The Scripture did not mean to give SATAN anything. NOthing belongs to satan
      Satan did not create any human soul.
      Please can you all STOP SUGGESTING THAT THIS WOMAN WHO WANTS TO WORSHIP GOD
      SHOULD GO BACK TO SATAN! 😯😯😯😯😯😯😯😯😯😯😯😯

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    4. We wld all still die one day. lets stop acting like only death happens after something bad is done.
      To the poster,pls dont go anywhere for any cleansing. Ur hubby was prolly with someone else too and i can bet hes not looking for anyone to cleanse him. lets quit feeding this 'traditional monster' that only targets women. Find inner peace with ur actions,accept whats done is done,confess to no one and move on with ur life (either back with ur husband or back to being separated). Selah...

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    5. LOL, Stella and panicking.
      Poster, did you swear before marriage?
      From your story, you cheated while you were still married and living with your husband, Right? No?
      If yes, then what didn't kill you then cant kill now. If No, then find solution. I don't subscribe to native doctor things tho. Try church.

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    6. When you sin have you not become satans? So give him back that sinful nature!

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    7. Go and confess your sins..
      Better to confess than allowing your kids or husband to die..

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    8. @Queen jay i cheated while in the marriage and outside.
      I just did the normal traditional marriage in my place where a drink is poured on the floor and given to me and my hubby to drink.I didnt drink it tho or maybe i took a sip because i didnt like that pouring drink on the floor.

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    9. Ignore the cleansing. Meet a powerful bible preaching pastor for prayers n deliverance b4 u add winch to Ur life. Cleanse ko

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  2. Lol she already slept with him after sleeping with them and he’s still alive

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    1. He is still alive probably because she hasn't met (made love) with her estranged hubby

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    2. Abi o, Anon.
      That's the part she needs to clarify.

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    3. @Dbarezz i have been making love to my estranged partner he said he doesnt want the cleansing,he talked about drawing closer to God but his family and mine are against our decision.

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    4. @Unknown

      Psalm 16: 4Those who run after other gods will suffer more and more.

      I will not pour out libations of blood to such gods

      or take up their names on my lips.

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  3. That thing exist o and I hear it’s the husband that suffers it not the woman who committed the offense. If you want to go with God which Is better maybe you both need to open up to each other about your philandering ways or just go for the cleanse since you were aware of the oath thing from the jump.

    The other thing is do you people even love each other or just coming back together to save face? How is 150k expensive? Won’t the person doing the sessions eat?

    Decide if you want to go for the cleanse or ask God for forgiveness knowing fully well that “you may die” and be sure you still want to be married to this your husband and not just doing it to please the society.

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    1. From what I've heard it affects the husband and the children. If the husband is aware and eats from her without doing the cleansing that's when it affects him. If he's not aware then it affects the children. They start dying one after the other.
      Either way the woman's loss is more. The emotional trauma and guilt is out of this world.

      Poster this is not to scare you but to tell you to do the needful if you've decided to go back to your husband.

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    2. I am surprised that she sensible BV like you would suggest that a woman who has found God and has repented from her sinful ways should go and subject herself to cleansing by a traditional diety

      Can you even hear yourself,it's like saying God can't protect his own and so she must seek redress from the devil even after he has wiped away her sins by the blood of the lamb...I am highly disappointed in this your comment,you half baked Christian.


      LEPπŸ˜›

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    3. Cleanse fire! It will only work for you if you believe that. Good you don't. Only God can cleanse you my dear.

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  4. big fat lie!!! that cleasing/swearing ish DOESNT work!!!! Nobody dies because the wife cheated or sent money to her relatives or collected money from a man......its a 100% lies!!!!

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    1. Says by who @sylvia, poster please do not listen to her advice go and do the cleanse forget about the shame

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    2. Babe leave that thing. It's not lies. Say what you know. This poster is in a dicey situation.

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    3. Be there till one of them or both starts "somansaulting" endlessly 😏

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    4. Some of you are real agents of the devil. Why dont you try it and come give us stories later.

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    5. i repeat that it is LIES - DO YOU PERSONALLY know anyone it happened to?? What you will hear is my mother's friends neighbours cat owner's sister in law ....... or my best friend's sister in laws abroad's cousin sister yen yen yen

      Pray to GOD and sin no more thats all .....but if i were you, i would not return to 12 years of hell!!! for what you say he put you through, 150k is nothing for counselling, those 3 sessions sef would expose the real him to you - because at the moment you are only hearing talks from emissaries but the counsellor would ask hard hitting questions

      Finally, AVOID all these pastors, they WOULD NEVER follow their own advise when it comes to marital issues

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  5. Nawa o. Let me just read comments because I dont know why people still practice such tradition.

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  6. If u are from Edo, u better go for the cleansing or u will die,if u like believe or don't believe... The man can never eat ur food,sleep with u or even give u and the children money...leave shame and do that first...I pray God restore ur home..

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    1. It does not work!!!! I know someone who refused to go to swear, they're ok now leaving happily as a family.

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    2. Madam read the story naw. The man may only not eat her food if he knew or suspects she did as he has done.

      At the end of the day we all die. Non of us is immoral so this if a woman does this she dies while a man goes Scot free is a joke.
      I come from the part of Igbo that practices this but that part of the ritual, many enlighten bride families don't agree to it.

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    3. Only a half baked Christian would believe that they have to subject them selves to a traditional diety for cleansing because their faith or God can't protect a repented soul like this poster...Mrs Sharon you are a half baked Christian if you believe that Nonsense you typed up there


      LEPπŸ˜›

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  7. No b only pastor and life coach, u can only get a few of the real and honest ones. The rest will add sugar to ur problem go for the cleansing, work on ur anger issues, u can start by changing ur environment it is obvious u are in a toxic environment and that is not good for som1 with anger issues , get urself an environment filled with love and care and also delete unnecessary people that calls out ur anger out of ur life.

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  8. If all you did was traditional wedding without the swearing ritual, then you need no cleansing. Most bride families of present times don't allow or agree for their daughters to perform that ritual anymore.

    I believe the life coach thing is not so bad an idea but why don't you get good books and study yourself instead of subjecting yourself to possible abuse and exploitation bypastors or life coaches.

    As for the counselling, once you both have made up your minds to work things out, you can meet him half way with the bill.

    Good luck and don't allow that mental slavery man put on us about negative consequences if a woman cheats. We are all subjects to God and a man can't be Scot free where a woman will be made to pay with blood.

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    1. You mirrored by thoughts Sapphire.
      I cant remember much from marriage counselling sessions myself. Change came when I sat down and deliberately decided to work on my anger issue/ verbal communication.
      Three sessions cant do much. Save your money, buy a good book or two. Read it together and analyze.

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    2. Try "POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING".

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    3. I am proposing the counselling because my hubby also needs to learn as he feels he is entirely fautless.He wont want to read books with me.That means we are back to square one.

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  9. You’d rather have your family ruined than do the cleansing thing?
    Madam don’t kid yourself.
    Tradition is tradition,
    you can’t escape it.
    The earlier you do the cleansing the better.
    You know where you are from yet you decided to indulge in such a messy thing. See what “do me I do you”has caused you πŸ’πŸΏ‍♂️
    When it comes to things like this, the men go free.
    For the sake of your kids, set shame aside and go for cleansing.
    This will serve as a lesson to other aspiring “do me I do you” who think paying their husbands back this way is the best. In the end, na yourself you dey do.

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    1. SATANIC traditions are not traditions but rituals into the dark world.
      Stop this mess from continuing.

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    2. Thank you Anon..

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    3. A married woman fucking other men is not satanic?

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    4. Tradition is tradition you can't escape it meaning what? Oro nla!
      You can't escape it but we escaped killing of twins, throwing away special needs children, figuring out that abiki and ogbanje is nothing but SS kids?
      On Sunday you will all go to church and be deceiving yourselves!
      Culture and traditions is different from satanic practices please!

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  10. you are plying with fire, hahahhahhahhahahhaha

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  11. Please know that the "cleansing" is initiation into a deadly cult; sea an air -witches.
    I know someone that became a witch after that "cleansing". Satan has many
    tentacles.

    You are making the right decision but what you need first is not a pastor.
    You need to confess your sins to Jesus and begin reading your new testament and fasting/praying daily.
    If your husband is ready to rebuild,
    tell him that you have become a child of God and will not appease any deity.
    Believe God, in the course of time, he will join you.
    Please do not yield to their "cleansing" demands.

    And please my Naija ladies, when someone you are married to decides to
    destroy himself through sexual immorality,
    cheating back is never a solution. If you can forgive,if you can't stay
    leave but don't join a destroyer of self
    to destroy yourself.

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    1. I totally agree with you.

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    2. Most people don't know that the devil never does anything for free, she would go for cleansing and then leave the place with other demonic spirits...I pity the poster all those telling her to go


      LEPπŸ˜›

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    3. @Tohtoh chopper
      mmmhhhh
      This one wey we enter same door today?
      Ncheghari gi don dey reach o.
      Amen!
      You no go chop tohtoh again -Amen!
      You go be mother of godly children -Amen! πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™
      You go marry a good godly guy wey go love you -Amen!
      πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜Š

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  12. Why is a woman the one to suffer consequences? I know there are laws but the man too should be made to swear. All I can say is pray and fast then move on.

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    1. Nothing will happen to the woman. She will loose her children.

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    2. Is it not better she die than loosing her children. I will advise her to forget about that toxic marriage cos that husband will never change,NEVER.

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  13. Why e be sey na only women dey do cleansing?

    Men no dey cleanse with all the pot holes dey dip their rods into?

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    1. God bless you. The man should go cleansing too.

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    2. right from time immemorial the rules have always been set not to favour women...

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    3. Enter your reply...bcos women always bring problem upon men.

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    4. You never hear say dem say it's a man's world? That no be mouth oh. That's why dem men dey feel too important.
      This my pidgin is something else. I'll read comments on this one cos it's heavy.

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    5. @Niklaus
      The reason is that Satan needs the womb of women to incarnate his
      demons to live on earth as humans. Go and read Genesis chapter six and
      see how spirits married women.
      Even when God wanted to come to us as a human, he needed a woman; Virgin Mary
      to be able to do that.
      People -especially women should be as wise as the Serpent and reject his advances.

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    6. Please I am going to be 24 by November. Will be coming done with nysc by September. my mom's keeps hinting that aunt who's son helped with my school fees casted a spell on me so I won't get married, sincerely as a kid I never wanted to be married, started dating this guy and the way he cried after I Decided to abort my pregnancy made me start considering marriage again. All through last year prophesies were flying from pastors that I would get married, by April last my mum blackmailed me to go bathe at a shrine and all that for good luck and marriage. No show now this year I she has been blackmailing and abusing me to repeat the process as she claims my aunt jazz me not to marry and if I do this according to her 3 men will come for me n the native doctor will choose one.
      Personally I have not envisioned myself at a wedding and all so God is yet to show me, the last time I did which is also the first my boo's business never remained the same and he started saying he is waiting for his elder brother 🀦 at 36, I decided to make platonic friends but it's either this men are very much older, married, claim to be divorced or Yahoo boys. I believe when I start working and living in a good environment I would get married to the type but my mum won't let me eat with out blackmailing me to do the cleansing and sacrifices. I don't want life to be tough for me again, I am also trying to retrace my steps in christainty at such I can't cohabit with le boo. He doesn't talk marriage anymore but takes it personal anytime I talk about a guy that did propose to me. I am not selective I just need some smart, level headed, educated business man, and neat. Is it too much to ask for

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    7. Anon 18:36, don't go to any native doctor please.
      Retrace your step in Christianity and depend on God only. Go to a good church for deliverance.

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    8. Ur mom is a witch and she is playing ten ten with ur destiny.. seize ur life from her and LIVE it! If anything happens to u donyou think she will kill her sef? No oo she will only cry for some time while u suffferr.. pls try amd go back to christianity and fortify! Ur bathing d first time is a big mistake.. mayb dats why nothing is happening with that guy again.. i have heard stories of these pple bewitching innocent girls to marry them.. pls run to MFM amd stay there! Ur mom in her folly will destroy you and say had i known.. while u bear the brunt!

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  14. Promiscuous woman, So you thought you were hurting anyone when you opened your legs for some boys in your hood?
    If you like go to ten pastors and hundred life coach, they won't be able to help you out of the mess you're in right now.
    It wasn't shameful when you hanged up legs on the window but shameful to do cleansing? No wahala, wetin you dey hide go soon blow out of proportion.
    Married Ashewo.

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  15. Both of you slept with other people.

    Both of you should go do the cleansing.

    Both of you should pay for counselling fee.

    Someone neutral will favor both of you for counselling else your story might enter Sunday service.

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  16. Poster, please will your husband also do the cleansing?? Cos you were not the only spouse that cheated on the other..he cheated too....

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  17. Ok ma, won't it be better you both go your seperate? Cos' apparently you are still hot tempered and pompous.

    I can bet its still same with your hubby.

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    1. Them still love themselves but the woman needs to chill.

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    2. My own is that she should forget about the marriage because things will never be the same between them...she's just going there to be miserable.

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  18. Please ensure you go for this cleansing, no matter how shameful it feels at least you should have thought of all these before engaging in such sinful act.if you like go and see life coach and visit any pastor ,that cleansing is very important.thats how I lost a family friend because she feels such things wont affect her.biko do the needful except you don't love your kids and yourself .

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    1. That is cleansing into witchcraft.

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  19. All the people advising her to go for cleansing , would still be the same people to quote the bible when it suits them.

    CINO= Christian in name only .


    🚢🏽‍♀️🚢🏽‍♀️🚢🏽‍♀️

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    1. The accuracy in this comment. ❗❗

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    2. Anonymous you are very correct, you see Bv's here are only Christians on Sunday and when money is involved...they are all half baked devil worshiping Bv's.
      imagine telling the poster to go and bow down to a traditional diety,kai😑😑😑😑

      LEPπŸ˜›

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    3. Perxie and L.E.P
      It's so bewildering the quality of todays Christians

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    4. I am gobsmacked.

      That's why I would never say amen to all those copy and paste prayer points they post on SP every morning.

      Y'all are architects of your many problems.

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  20. Abeg madam, go and get yourself delivered by God. Forget all this deity nonsense. If you go God's way, you would only need to change your ways and follow Him and of course come clean and tell your husband all that. Don't entangle yourself more. You can simply attend Bible school WOLBI anywhere you are in the country. I also know a therapist who would give you more sessions for less.

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  21. Nne leave all these village threats. That was how my husband threaten that once he keeps one of the bitter kola they used for my traditional marriage, and I meet with another man outside I will face some disasters. But his own anything that goes in skirt will never pass him, he flirts till I decided to have an affair then, nothing happened, and nothing will happen. Though now I am a changed person.

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    1. Chai clap for yourself Anonymous 15:27. Olosho like you. You should be ashamed of yourself.

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  22. Someone I used to know went about asking friends if they know anything about Nsukka people because if they marry a woman and she sleeps with another man, she would run mad. When she asked novice me then, I asked her if she planned cheating on this man that loves her very much and has gone out of his way to meet her needs- rented her an apartment, monthly allowance etc but she her nymphomania no be here. Long and short, she didn't marry him after he caught her with ... As she wild reach, she ended up with her kind of man. The marriage's foundation no pure as both she and the man saw nothing wrong in partners cheating on each other after marriage. I hope say no be she dey yarn this nonsense here, because I warn her well well of the implications of her actions and attitude, one midnight she got a call from...From that day, I became a sworn enemy, she turned round and started bad mouthing the only person who told her the truth about-sex and gifts from men. I just hope she is not this person asking for advise her... Better go and do the cleansing because the last time I saw her she wasn't looking like a baby oku anymore. No be everything 'pastor' and counseling fit solve.

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    1. Devil no dey read English oooh. People play with satan but forget he is anointed and his power was not taken from him. Many things go down spiritually and runs into the next generation without the innocent children knowing. She knew there was pastor. counselor and blood of Jesus before cheating to get back at her man. What makes you think she would not go back to her old ways knowing that grace would always abound for her? Ekwensu get power and the consequences will always be there. If she actually is remorseful, she will not be here writing trash after 12 years of marriage as a mature woman? To Caesar oooh

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  23. Nah, i'm not buying this hogwash. The only cleansing she needs is from Jesus Christ.

    So after the cleansing, she will still go back to church. Lol
    I don't know about you poster but I don't play with demons. πŸ‘Ώ❌

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    1. Perxian you just said mind "I don't play with demons" like I am super shocked at hearing Bv's who come hear to quote bible scriptures telling her to go submit her spirit man to a traditional diety....Abeg poster Jesus is the only one you show bow to,every other diety is a concerted bullshit to draw you back into destruction

      LEPπŸ˜›

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    2. God Bless you
      Even the ones that quote scriptures are advising her to bow to the devil , I weep for them.

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    3. LEP and Anon, people perish for lack of knowledge.

      Castle baibay. Love you 😘😘.

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    4. Wow! Perxian, you just earned my respect with that comment! Always thought you were something else but now I know, You Are the REAL deal!

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    5. Same here..Same two faced people will come here shouting "Praise ye the lord " Upandan..Thou shall not bow down before any other God except me..
      That's from the bible..Will mark all their comments n wave right back at them when the right time comes..

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    6. I'd be on the look out tomorrow morning
      To see them respond Amen to a scripture that suits their present situation.

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    7. God bless you. We magnify the power of Satan over the power in the Blood of Jesus.
      Fear is a greatest tool of Satan.

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    8. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

      Anon. 19:45. Just same thing I said up there. πŸ‘†.

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  24. Will d man do cleansing? Or he too wasn't banging around?

    Since u did d do, has he died?
    Did his business fail?
    Have u died?
    U dey sick?

    There's someone who deliberately slept out just to punish her husband, but d man no gree die, both of them live apart n she's busy servicing small boys in isiokpo.

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    1. Thanks BLACKEY
      for yarning truthful yarns.
      Satan needs the wombs of women to bring in demons into the world.
      I know someone who after cleansing became initiated into witchcraft.
      Make una shine eyes o. Satan cannot cleanse you .... what did Jesus die
      for, why did he shed his blood if not to cleanse us from sins?
      Madam poster, plead the blood of Jesus and waka go your way with your eternal life
      if the man does not want marriage again. If he wants marriage, he should accept you
      back as a child of God. 🀷‍♀️🀷‍♀️

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  25. Madam dont waste any time at all ,go and do the cleasing and all the ritual and be free. In my area here in onitsha where i stay a young lady of about 30 years is runing mad because she slept with another man ,her husband found out and asked her she denied it then the oracle struck her with madness

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    1. The young lady only ran mad because she had not confessed her sins before God and repented...MADNESS FROM AN ORACLE CAN NEVER ENTER A BODY THAT HOUSES THE SPIRIT OF GOD IN IT....please what kind of Christians are you Bv's sef to be believing all the nonsense cock and bull story of a diety cleansing you after you have giving your life to Christ

      Anonymous you need to start attending Sunday school again in church because you have no idea who God is


      LEPπŸ˜›

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    2. LEP, wow! your comments are amazing on this thread. πŸ‘

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    3. LEP is on a roll today and hopefully, folks will learn a thing or two.

      Only Jesus saves. Period!

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    4. L.E.P I'm truly amazed by your comments
      Honestly I have a big smile on my face
      May God Bless you .

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  26. I wont judge you for having flings but you have to do the needful.
    Seeing a pastor or a life coach wont change anything.
    Let me ask you;
    Will you tell your husband you cheated and how do you think he would react?
    Do you think your husband is worth the humiliation you would face if you do the cleansing?
    What if he goes back to his old ways or leaves you for good?
    By the way,how did 'they' know?
    Only you can provide the answers to these questions,so figure it out!

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    1. I cannot tell him because of his kind of person,besides this man has been living with a woman but nobody talks about his because he is a man.
      Its not as if they know but they suspect because we Have been apart for a long time and issues pertaining that arised while in the marriage.

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    2. Why do you want to go back to him? Is it for financial security or because of the kids?

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    3. Unknown....For 12 years you lived in a toxic environment with a man, is it really worth going back into such a union.

      Has he changed and do you see him as someone who will treat you better if you go back to him.

      As a person can you now control your temper? Do you see yourself as someone who will do better as a wife to him?

      Again I ask is it worth you going back...if you have made up your mind to go back to him i suggest you take up the mantle of your marriage to God and seek his face...Pray until God gives you a go ahead to return to that union.

      You can also enlist men of God to join you in prayers,Make sure that the only reason you are returning to that marriage is because God gave you a go ahead to return or else if you return without God sending you there, your suffering will be more than the one you had in the past.
      I pray God leads you in doing the right thing.

      LEPπŸ˜›

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    4. The truth of the matter is this...those advising you to do 'strong head' are right, BUT IN A WAY. Yes, as a real born again Christian, if you indeed live pure and holy life and are sure to continue that way all through your life, you can call their bluff. BUT, Don't dare call the bluff of these traditional, satanic rituals if you are not strong or ready to be strong in the Lord's ways. It's not by mere saying, to sound like a good Christian. Even Jesus warned about sitting on the fence, or being neither hot nor cold. If you are not sure of your stand in God now and in future; to strictly follow the right path and be constantly covered in Jesus' blood, then go for the cleansing.

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  27. Life does not favour women at all. The man went outside and the woman went outside. Now the woman is the one tradition is asking to do the cleansing while the man is as free as air.

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  28. Poster if you are ready to make your marriage work again, go for the cleansing. Forget the shame and do the needful.

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  29. Madam since you are dead uptill now, nothing will happen.

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    1. A Ghost sent in this chronicle?😱😱😱

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  30. Jesus said,”Render unto Caesar the things that are Caesar's, and unto God the things that are God's". You had a traditional wedding, you seek for advice and you were told you needed cleansing, will it make you less of a child of God, and when he cheated, why don’t you take a walk, do me I do you, does it resolve the problem, the way women think at times and the type of advice they give each other beats my imagination, and that Doppel up there, 150k is a lot of money, if it’s not, why don’t you shell it out na, help a sister or what’s wrong in being your sister keeper?

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    1. Render unto Caesar the things that are Caesar's, and unto God the things that are God's".

      This quote can only be applied to someone who hasn't changed or given her life to Christ.
      Once you have repented of your ways before God the devil has nothing to hold over you...so she does not need to do any cleansing with an diety as she has decided to focus on God...if God has forgiven her then No traditional diety has no hold over her



      LEPπŸ˜›

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    2. You all just love quoting the scriptures to suit whatever you want at that moment.
      Jesus made that statement to admonish Peter and the disciples on the importance of paying tax and other state mandated dues and not claiming because one is under the church is now exempted from state laws which that time has Ceaser as the King. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with if one should go and start tangling with demonic forces under the guise of cleansing.
      Moreover what does traditional marriage got to do with going to shrines to bow down to the dictates of the devil?
      The fact that you are even asking if the cleansing will make her less a child of God is alarming! What has light got to do with darkness? Is there any correlation between the two? How can you claim to serve God yet be doing stuff like this and also see nothing wrong with it?
      You all need to study the scriptures and allow the Holy Spirit minister light and life into your lives because I just don't understand.

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  31. If you really love your husband,go for the spiritual cleansing and also be submissive so as to make your marriage work. If you are no longer interested in him,walk away and never look back.

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    1. Don't go for that Cleansing...U won't like the outcome..

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  32. Nothing like shame,if you like fat from now to next year it will not change your tradition. I will advise you go and do the cleansing and turn a new leaf after that. You have already made the mistake already. You want to cover your sins so that your innocent children will suffer for your mistake and you will still die at the end.

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  33. Hmmmm... Oh well, My life coach is waaay cheaper than that. If you email Stella I could get you her contact. Trained abroad and born again christian married mother.

    For the rest? Good luck!!

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    1. Chikito I'm not the poster but I'd like to get in touch with your life coach I really need one.

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  34. Naa Stellz, i dont agree with U here...
    Nne U said U didn't discuss that part with anyone, how come they re asking U to come please the gods? I mean how do they know U about that? Did the gods reveal it to them?
    Anyway, dont do it. Those practices dont exist anymore...
    U re on the right path, seeking for good counseling, & i recommend a life coach, leave Pastors alone for now, inugo?

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  35. I am very surprised that even Bvs who are first to recommend the church to people are here supporting that you go subject yourself to a traditional diety all in the name of cleansing

    Poster please do not go for any cleansing...If truely you have changed and now on the righteous path with God then God should be the only one whom you subject your spiritman to...Dont let the devil and these half baked Christians who call themselves Bv's advice you into surrendering yourself to the devil ever again.

    As for the counseling I suggest first of all you have a heart to heart talk with your husband and table all the issues you felt made you guys separate and try to come to an agreement on how you fix it together.if you cannot come to an agreement on how to fix these identified issues on both your part then I suggest you forget about reuniting with him and both of you should go your separate ways


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    1. John 14:6 King James Version (KJV)

      6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

      King James Version (KJV)


      Dear Poster do not be deceived only Jesus can sort this out , the blessings of the Lord adds no sorrow please do not go for cleansing seek God there are good men of God out there
      Pray for the spirit of discernment and direction.
      The bible says the footstep of the righteous is ordered by the Lord , ask the Lord to direct your path.

      God Bless you .

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    2. LEP, I love how you stand for God,
      .... for I am not ashamed of the gospel,
      .... with my heart I believe and with my mouth, I confess Christ unto salvation.

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    3. @Pretty rosie
      She has to stop eating pussies and confessed that she is no longer doing so.
      For God cannot be mocked . . .1 Cor. 6:9

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  36. See them advicing her to go do the cleansing claiming tradition is tradition but you wanted to roast the man that was mad at his wife for preparing his food with snail even though he told her the consequences before hand. If you people believe a man can suffer the consequences of his wife's cheating, why then did you downplay the other chronicle poster's concern? Bvs una I hail ooo

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    1. I dey hail them too. See double standards. I was telling my husband about that chronicle on Saturday and he was shocked as to how people think

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  37. My husband is ishan, I'm Igbo, during our early years of marriage, he travelled, I kind of strayed in d first year of marriage, my husband came back,we did d do, I found out I was pregnant, now I have 5 kids, my last daughter is in her final year, now, if those things really work, why are we all doing fine after donkey years? I'm a recent grand ma,n my dear husband is in his late 60s, I'm even doubting d paternity of my first daughter who's married, but time has passed.
    Thank God for mercies.

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    1. I hail thee!!!
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    2. @16:25

      So the God you are thanking "for his mercies",
      have you acknowledged him -Jesus as Lord?
      Naija girls, unu ji tohtoh dey cause tsunami o.
      I have always said it and keep saying it, a lot of
      pikins no belong to the husbands.
      A lot of madams them vaginas na traffic toll gate o.

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    3. Was ur husband aware?NO
      Ones he's not aware of it,then it will not have any effect on him or on u and ur children..
      Poster,are u born again?is ur husband aware? Have u confess ur sins and ask for forgiveness from God and ur husband? Do u have a relationship with God?are u a changed person? Have u forgiven ur husband? Ask ursaf all the questions.

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    4. U people are very funny..No, confess to him for what?..Will he also confess to her about his sexcapades?? Ask for Forgiveness from God ,Sis n sincerely repeat.

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    5. Please don't confess anything to your husband, confess to God and repent genuinely

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  38. Make I read comments abeg, this one pass me.

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  39. Dear poster, just in case you are not aware, 1John 1:19 says 'If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness'
    Go ahead, kneel before God in your space and confess to God, then ask God to help lead you with wisdom on how to let it out to your husband while He works on your husband to accept your mistakes and forgive. May God heal your marriage.

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  40. Madam, pls go to Rhema Deliverance Mission along LASU/IBA Road, Church Pole Bus stop, Iba, Lagos. His name is Dr Anene Nwachukwu. My advice as a married Christian woman is to go to God and not the lesser god. But you must go to a true man of God to break the myth and I know Rhema is one as their father Bishop Arthur Nwachukwu is still alive and committed to God's work.
    Infact, I know your husband and yourself would need deliverance while counselling is going on. I wish you luck and God's grace.Nkmama

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  41. poster I repeat DO NOT GO TO DO ANY CLEANSING AND YOU DONT NEED A PASTOR...you did not mention anything about giving your life to Christ. if you are truly repentant then start by giving your life to Christ aka born again...pick your bible and start fasting...if you cant do 6-6 then stop at 12 noon....

    1) repentof your sins
    2) ask God for mercy
    3) ask him to make you a new person and also touch your husband
    4) plead the blood and tell him you do not want to go for any cleansing and that he should protect your family from harm...

    God is a merciful God and we cannot ask him to step into a situation when we are dining with the devil. cleansing or whatever is satanic and you should not involve yourself with that. no need to confess to any other person, husband or not except the holyspirit expressly directs you to. lastly find a bible believing church and start worshipping there. you can speak to the pastor to pray along with you. God can restore your marriage, so don't let anybody bully you. DO NOT GO FOR ANY CLEANSING

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  42. God forbid evil. I can't believe some of you are advising her to go and do cleansing at a native doctor! and tomorrow, y'all will troop to church and be lifting hands in praise. Make it make sense please 😩
    Poster, if you are looking for where to run to? Run to God! Ask for forgiveness and genuinely repent of your sins and nothing will happen to you. There is power in the blood of Jesus and it has been shed over your life, it has cleansed and purified you. Don't succumb to any demonic thing that will subject you to bondage I beg you. If he's willing to work on the marriage, he will go for the counseling with you. Go on your knees to God in prayer and you will be able to stand before any power and make any decree concerning your life.

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    1. Na dem and the scriptures says confess to one another.madam confess to your husband,he also should confess to you.

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  43. Which nonsense cleansing is that one? Do not go for any demonic cleansing oo. you and your hubby should together go to a bible believing church for deliverance and that's all

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  44. I can't believe many people are this ignorant in this 21st century. Stella your advice shock me.I dint expect that from you.

    Madame,ONLY JESUS CAN SAVE YOU..!

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  45. Thank you, LEP.

    The woman should confess to God and her husband.

    But if she is not a believer, I would suggest she turns her life over to Christ and go for deliverance.

    I wonder how a born again person would feel comfortable with adultery!

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  46. Do not go .confess your sins to God,accept him as ur lord and savior.go and sin no more.

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  47. It only works if u believe it... Go for that cleansing at ur own peril..And u alone will be the one to bear it's Consequences.
    If u genuinely want to repent,I see no result why u should require to face whatever god or traditional cleansing.
    Is that marriage even worth all the stress n future outcome hovering around you ?
    Why u so sure u estranged hubby will accept u back wholehearted after finding out u cheated?
    The Humiliation , insults,side talks and posterity sake,nko ?? Or u think this won't pose as a hindrance to your female daughters getting married in future ?

    The best thing u should have done immediately you realized say body no be firewood was to divorce that man officially before knacking.
    No marriage is worth running mad for, or bearing the stigma of an adulterous woman tag on your forehead .
    Use your head.
    If u don't stay married to that man, won't you be better off?
    If u lose your life or run mad in the process,he'll replace u within a twinkle of an eye.

    No Pastor in his right mind will advice you go through that Cleansing bullshit.


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  48. Poster if you love yourself like I assume is either you confess your sins and do the necessary cleansing or better still leave that marriage because when your eyes go clear, you go don land for inside market de dance the consequences maybe very brutal. One word is enough for the wise

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  49. This poster is from Obollo Nsukka in Enugu state. They are the once that still practice that archaic law of women dying mysteriously if they cheat on their husbands

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  50. I am surprised @ Beevee including Stella.
    So she shld go for CLEANSING?????
    so what happened to all the Go on your knees and Pray kiaaaaaa, Beevees are #Fair weather Christians abeg.
    Even you Stella!!!!!
    Naaaa waaa 4 this Blog. The Hypocrisy is Crazy.
    You guys criticise LEP and mock her 4 her Sexual preferences but Surprisingly she is More Christians than all of You put together Stella inclusive.
    God forbid bad thing.
    You guyz in the Blog are Indeed Pretentious and I Pity whosoever takes Una advices.

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    1. Thank God you people are seeing what I saw since.
      Very pretentious people.
      Highest form of hypocrites.

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  51. I beg you with the name of God, do not go for any cleansing.
    They may do other things to you that you will never understand.
    Please don't.

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  52. please if you can, come to Salvation Ministries headquarters in Port Harcourt and request to see Pastor David Ibiyeomie or log on to www.smhos.org and request for prayers by narrating your story

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  53. Chai, Christians, it's a pity

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  54. Poster, thank God you’ve realized your mistakes. Pls do not go to the devil for any cleansing. The BLOOD of JESUS has cleansed you from EVERY SIN ALREADY. One sure genuine place you can hear the truth is Throneroom Trust Ministry Int’l. The head over the ministry is Apostle Emmanuel Nuhu Kure. You do not pay to see him. He is a humble servant of God. If you can’t see him. Attend their services, you’ll get solid teachings of God. Above all, draw close to God. You need God more than any pastor please. Theirs is to guide you. But you also have the Holy Spirit who guides you from within. Please do no go for any satanic cleansing. God bless you.

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  55. Darling, if the reunion comes at the cost of contaminating yourself spiritually, then that marriage isn't worth it. True, you've compromised your spiritual standing in the eyes of God and man but is there anything that cleanses better than the Blood of Jesus? The problem with christianity today is, we know about God but we don't know God. If we claim to know God, we wouldn't make certain comments nor believe certain things.

    Sweetheart, DO NOT even contemplate going to any shrine do carry out any rituals under the guise of "cleansing". Once you go, God's grace will not be with you and you can easily be manipulated. Some vengeful spouses can arrange with the priest to afflict the erring spouse with all sorts of afflictions. How can you make mockery of the Cross by bowing down to idols and bring yourself under their authority? What a travesty! Honey, no marriage is worth that compromise.

    It's sad that the church is full of hypocrites! They see Sunday services as routine outings. That zeal to know Christ and the Power of His resurrection, is lacking. You see so called christian women looking for the fruit of the womb, pray in church then go to one "baba" for backup. They do that because they truly don't know the God they claim they serve. Yet you hear them shouting "God is good all the time and all the time, God is good".

    Go to God in true repentance, confess your sins, not just adultery but all other sins, believe in your heart that God is able to forgive and deliver you from all curses. Whom the Son of Man sets free is free indeed. After that, draw closer to God and IGNORE people telling you about cleansing. Don't underestimate the power of suggestion. The more you hear, the more you will begin to believe the lies of the devil. Please my love, don't allow tradition make God too small in your eyes. He is the King of all principalities. That shrine you think will help you is an inferior altar. As a christian, the Altar you kneel before is the superior Altar.

    Don't fall for the tricks of the devil, he waves your sins before you so you keep feeling guilty and unworthy. Run to Jesus Christ, His Blood will cleanse you of all your sins and never hold your sins against you as long as you truly repent. You have to be brave, God has not given us the spirit of fear.
    e-hugs and kisses.

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    1. Gbam!!! Each BV is unique but Ronalda is the best when it comes to marshalling out her points. I don't always agree with her but here, she's taken the words right out of my heart.
      I love this. It spoke to me as well. God's Alter is indeed the superior alter. Every other alter should smash to pieces for all we care. Life and death are in God's hands poster. If you believe otherwise, then satan will play Russian roulette with your life and soul. This is how many have perished for believing his lies. Then those who don't know God will clap and be in awe of what he does because they subjected themselves to his power instead of God's. Be wise!

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  56. I don't know about the cleansing or the rituals or whatever but pls, don't waste your time going to any pastor o. Pastor ko, pastress ni! If you know what most of these pastors are in their closets, you won't dare. Most of the life coaching you want to go and pay for are freely available on Google and YouTube. Why waste money? All you need to realise first and foremost is the the Bible's ultimate law regarding marriage. Men are to love the wives, while women should obey their husbands. OBEY your husband woman. Do your part and leave the rest.

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  57. Don't tell your husband you cheated on him.


    Please go ahead and do the cleansing for your kids' sakes.if all those advising you against it had such great anointing and are willing to wage the war on your behalf, then by all means don't do it .


    Whatever you do, pray constantmy to God. So you won't go into another 12 years of toxicity.


    And people that encourage couple to divorce, I smh at you all.


    You only heard one person's side and you are all giving advice for an incomplete story .


    Poster, I wish you the best .

    May this 2nd time around be better for both of you. I wish i had the cash to help pay for your counselling .


    Check some people out on IG.

    Please ff me on IG and i would tag you on some marriage counselors I see.

    Poshyoruba is my handle


    God be with you and yours .

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  58. The sad truth we will all die someday. Why are you bent on staying married to a man who is not remorseful.
    Mistake made already but then going through a ritual you don’t know what generational problem you bring to your kids.
    Save them the stress of breaking generational curses.
    Don’t go through any ritual. Speak to God cry out to him at least for your children’s sake.

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  59. Poster your heart and mind are already in the right place. Don't be wary of seeing a pastor or counsellor. They can both help you with guidance on how to handle the spiritual and psychological aspects of your problems You are on the right track already so please don't allow anyone derail you by putting fear into you. Ask the Holy Spirit to lead you to the people who will help you. I promise you He will. Ask and you shall receive. God sees your heart and He will never let any harm come to you for believing and trusting in Him SOLELY. I'm sure you know what I mean by that. He has promised it in His word. It's left for you to open that word and begin declaring it over yourself. Jesus is Lord! Now and for eternity. His is the name that is over and above all things in the heavens, earth and sea. Don't be afraid of any tradition that seeks to set free only to enslave more. Seek Jesus ONLY for the cleansing you need. Goodluck and God bless

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  60. Poster why do you want to go back to him? Is it because of the pressure from family? The sex? You said you have been having sex, or is it because of you both still love each other?
    You said in your reply up there that he has been living with a woman since your separation and according to your post while you were living with him he was a chronic cheat. Your marriage was also toxic, no peace.
    Now you want to go back, why? Are you sure you will be happy and have peace in the marriage this time? Note that your peace of mind and happiness should be paramount in whatever you do. I wish you well in your decision.

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