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Tuesday, December 24, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SERIOUS DILEMMA


Good day, please I need advice from the blog visitors , I’ve been a blog visitor for some years now and I can’t believe I haven’t learnt from all I read here, I’m in a serious dilemma and I need people to talk sense into me, I’m hurting, extremely sad and heartbroken.


I’m a lady of 27yrs, an orphan and an undergraduate, I live in Lagos, sometimes ago I met a man who asked me out, at first I wasn’t interested but later on after much disturbance from him I accepted and also I haven’t dated in a long time and I was really lonely . He works in an oil company here in Lagos , I spend weekends with him sometimes and sometimes he comes to check on me in my house , being an orphan he started taking care of me, in fact the first thing he did when we met was that he furnished my room, I stay in a room self contain but I have nothing in my room, he bought me a very big fridge and microwave plus every other thing I need in the house that I’m even thinking of getting a bigger place because all he bought for me has taken a lot of space ,at first I wasn’t in love with him even though we were dating and despite all he’s been doing for me but later on I fell in love with him because he’s a very caring , gentle and understanding man, when I have an issue or problem he listens to me calmly with great attention.


After some months , I was at his place one day and I was just staring at him, my spirit told me he’s a married man, he’s 41yrs old while I’m 27yrs and when we met he said he wants a relationship that can lead to marriage with me and that I’m the lady he’s been searching for all his life so I thought maybe he was taking his time to get married besides there was no trace of him been married and I also did a background check I saw no signs of marriage , I also believe it’s possible for a man of 41yrs to be single...



So that day at his place my spirit started troubling me and said I should ask him if he’s married so I left the bedroom and went to meet him in the sitting room and asked the question in a very calm manner to my utmost surprise he said YES, in fact he responded in a very calm manner looking straight into my eyes I wanted to die, my heart was beating really fast it’s as if my heart wanted to jump out of my mouth, I was feeling my heart in my throat like it will come out, I wanted to faint, after some time I regained myself and asked him why ????? Why did he lie to me and led me on for months why? Why?? Why??? When he knows I’m an orphan and I have no one in this world he’s been everything to me since I met him, why would he do this to me?.


I never suspected anything all along the only thing I noticed is that anytime we are planning about our future he always seems disinterested especially when I’m talking about the type of marriage and how many kids we’ll have , I asked where his wife is he told me the wife is in port harcourt this explain the reason why I didn’t find out anything during my initial background check when we met because how could I have known all the way from Lagos that he has a wife hidden somewhere in port harcourt how???


 The wife is not even a social media person maybe I could have found out , he has a wife and three kids !! ( I’m crying ). The wife is a deeper life member and the three children are really beautiful two boys and one girl, my mother was a deeper life member when she was alive and this made the whole thing to hurt me more. No wonder he always passwords his phones the other day I forgot where I dropped my phone and asked him to unlock his phone so I can flash my phone he refused I was surprised, I was even angry cause I thought he was cheating on me not knowing it’s because he has something to hide.


At that point I wanted to know the reasons why he is cheating on his wife? He told me the wife doesn’t dress well again after she gave birth and she Denies him s#x that anytime he wants to touch her she used to run because he likes sex a lot that even sometimes they can go months without having sex, and that the wife used to fight with him a lot , causes trouble that the whole neighborhood will gather that it usually happen whenever he visits them in port harcourt cause he has properties in port harcourt, I think he used to work in port harcourt and when he became a boss in the company that was when they posted him to the headquarters in Lagos , so he started his life in port harcourt, that’s where he got married , and built houses, I didn’t know all these! 

He even told me the wife has been making efforts to move to Lagos with the kids but he has always refused ! God this man !.


Dear BV’s this is where I made the greatest mistake of my life, after hearing all this I found it difficult to pull out cause I had fallen madly in love with him, I was confused, the most surprising part was that he answered everything I asked him in a very calm manner 

 In fact it got to a stage that I started screaming at him I was crying this man was very calm and was begging me, please what exactly is he begging me for? For the lies? The deceit? Time wasted?


 I invested a lot of emotion into this relationship or is he begging me to come and be a second wife or what? Plus from what I heard the wife is a trouble maker I’m young and an orphan I can’t do these alone ! Who will stand for me?
He begged me a lot , but I started drawing back but I am still in love with him, I just don’t know what to do , I have deleted his number several times and saved it back again!


While I have been thinking about my life and what to do with this “SITUATIONSHIP” the worst happened! Two weeks ago I spent the weekend at his place and on Monday morning he dropped me at home before going to work , at noon he messaged me and told me his wife cousin will be coming to Lagos from Ibadan for a job interview at chevron and the wife called that he will be staying with him, he said the guy is already on his way to Lagos, I was surprised because he just dropped me off that morning and he never mentioned anything like that , it’s not possible that it’s that morning the guy just got the invitation and it’s that morning he informed his sister who now called her husband , everything couldn’t have happened that morning when the guy was already on the way to Lagos, anyway since it’s the first time such is happening plus all the recent happenings I just said okay, then he begged me that I can’t come to his place when the guy is around so that he won’t report to his wife in port harcourt I said no problem


I told him to branch at my place after work to check on me he said it’s not possible because he has to pick the guy from the motor park to the house I said okay. The following day Tuesday we chatted all day when he was at work, then I told him to check on me after work he said no that he has to rush back home after work that if he gets home late his wife’s brother will report to his wife, I said even if it’s just ten minutes to branch and see me he said no, that I shouldn’t worry the guy will leave on Thursday morning, Wednesday evening I called him to ask what time I should come over on Thursday since the guy will be leaving in the morning but to my utmost surprise he said he will be the one to come to my place , that’s where I started suspecting a fowl play, I’m like why can’t I still come to your place after the guy must have left he said he will come to my place first then we will discuss , really? 


We have to discuss first before I can come to your place and since when did that start happening that we have to discuss first before I can come to your place. I said okay no problem.


Immediately I ended the call I took a taxi and went to his house without informing him of my coming , when I got there the gate man didn’t allow me in he said I should call him first ! What? Call him first? Oga you want to say you don’t know me, I have the spare key to his house. The gate man knows me very well so I was surprised at his behavior so he felt guilty and told me it’s because he has a visitor I said I know , I acted like I know and that I just came to drop something so he allowed me to go in, I didn’t go to knock I went to the back of the house and peeped through the bedroom window I saw nobody in the room but I saw a lady’s handbag and wig, ha! I thought it’s the wife brother or is it the sister that came? 


I went to the kitchen windows and heard a lady laughing , for the fact that it’s a lady and not a guy I already know it’s not his wife relative but I just have to let him know I caught him before leaving that was when I now went to the front of the house to knock, when I knocked I didn’t stay in front of the door camera so he doesn’t see me, immediately he opened I quickly dashed in so he doesn’t block me from entering, he was shocked , he didn’t say anything he just stood there looking at me, when I entered I met a lady in the sitting room stark naked, I mean no pant , no bra she’s completely naked and she crossed her legs on the seats, she had several waist beads on, she’s very fair with a very long lashes, immediately I dashed in she ran into the bedroom because she was naked , I saw her panties and undies lying on the chairs, I went into the bedroom and saw her wig, I didn’t say anything to her I just looked at her because I want to be sure it’s not his wife relative like he said , I looked at her closely without saying anything and left.


When I got outside the gate I felt this anger rose inside of me , this man came into my life to deceive me and when I was just thinking of what to do this now happened ?

I ran back inside and started screaming at him, I called him a wicked man, I said is this your wife brother? I shouted and screamed , then I went into the bedroom and sat on the bed, immediately I entered the bedroom the lady left the bedroom and came to the sitting room I didn’t talk to her at all, he came to the bedroom and started saying he can explain , explain what? He said she’s an old friend who came for an interview at chevron and had nowhere to stay that he’s just helping her and it’s just unfortunate that this has to happen, he said she actually came from Akure and not Ibadan but he didn’t come close to me as he was explaining he stood far from me, I left the bedroom and as I was walking out I told the girl I’m sorry for that ( I mean the way I barged in on her naked) and that was the only thing I said to her, I banged the door and left, till I got home this man didn’t call me or even come after me, immediately I stepped out he just closed the door ...


 I cried a lot that night when I got home, I knew that was it, I didn’t sleep overnight I tried to sleep but sleep wasn’t coming, I mean I didn’t close my eyes throughout the night and I couldn’t eat, this man didn’t call or message till the following day, he messaged and said he can explain, he said the girl had left, and he wants to come to my place I told him not to come , I told our gate man not to allow him in anytime he comes around, one sister in my compound who likes me a lot saw me as I was crying when I wanted to go and drop refuse in the bin outside , she’s like a big sister to me and like a mother , she asked me what happened and I explained everything to her, she knows I’m dating the man but she doesn’t know too that he’s married , she knows he’s my fiancรฉ, she was really angry, and told me she can take me to her town in edo state that I have to deal with the man, that they will lock him inside bottle, that she won’t advise me to marry the man cause he’s a useless man but to teach him lesson and get something tangible for the time wasted and emotional trauma, I said I will think about it but I don’t think I can do it, I’m a Christian also I pity his children.


This useless man came to my house the third day with gifts I don’t know how he entered after I had warned the gate man not to let him in, he started begging me and all asking me to order whatever I want online he will pay, I told him I don’t want anything , I told him I want to be alone , when he was leaving he told me he will be traveling to port harcourt for two weeks to see his wife and kids, lols , the wife you just used to lie to me, he said he’s sorry and left, the following day he traveled and since he’s been messaging me everyday begging, yesterday he messaged me that his wife has been fighting him, that he’s tired , that that’s how she fight him all the time , that she’s stubborn and he doesn’t know what to do, that she’s insisting on moving to Lagos with the kids that I shouldn’t worry that won’t affect us , I just nodded my head, this man is a beast and doesn’t deserve to live, my neighbor has been the one consoling me since , and to think I followed this man to go and check out a house he want to buy in lekki phase 1, telling me that’s where he wants us to live when we marry not knowing that where he wants to move his wife and children to, he even told me we are going to do court marriage in ikoyi registry lmao! 

Who does court Marriage twice? Cause he had court marriage with his wife too, 


Dear BV’s I’m in pains , I’ve told him to leave me alone, he refused cause I don’t know what exactly he’s begging for , I can’t be a second wife I want to be a legal wife in my life which is not possible cause he already had a court marriage,I’m in my room now typing , laughing and crying at the same time, please how can I get over this man? no! How can I come out of this heartbreak? ,it’s more painful because I haven’t fallen in love in a long time, my heart is broken I have no shoulder to cry on, no mother or father to talk to, I feel like dying, my neighbor has been the one consoling me, I can’t eat or sleep. ๐Ÿคข๐Ÿคข๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

I need to make up my mind before he comes back from port harcourt next week, throughout yesterday I didn’t reply his messages he kept calling I had to switch off my phone .





*that was a long read.....
you said you are an Orphan?no siblings,no parents,no relatives?you are all alone in this world?
Please dont fall in for this mans lies,walk away and walk farrrrrrrrrrr and move from where you are and change your number,do not let him come anywhere near you and dont let his wife find you out.

DO NOT LET YOUR NEIGHBOUR TAKE YOUR ANYWHERE TO DEAL WITH THIS MAN..leave him for God!

103 comments:

  1. You see men like these? They are the worst sort. They look and study you, realise you have no one and sink u into their web so that you will NEED THEM! Poster please for your sake block him everywhere! He can never be yours! He is already someone else's. You are the other woman!
    I know you may be hurting so bad and it will look like you accepted him as your all, but With time you will heal!!!!!
    Please do not believe his lies ! He will come back stronger! They always do. He might tell you he is serving his wife divorce papers next week, do not fall for it. You are better off without him. Wish you all the best!

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    1. Poster,cry all you want to but pls do not go back to that manipulative beast. I wish I'm close by to offer you a shoulder to cry. This your write up really made me emotional. I don't like seeing orphans and widows suffering bcos even God is very protective of these group of people. He took advantage of your innocence. Take your time to mourn your losses,mourn the wasted time invested, the emotion,physical and psychological aspects all invested. You see in life we gain some and lose some. This is one of the ones counted as wasted investment. Cry,mourn,console yourself and move on. You deserve better than being a second fiddle. Pls I repeat close this chapter of your life once and for all. Do not entertain him again in your life. Wishing you all the best life. E-hugs๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’“๐Ÿ’“๐Ÿ’“๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

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    2. This type is actually nobody’s. He is a narcissist. Evil person. They look for weak and vulnerable people and take advantage. You better run as from your write up I can see you have sense and have reasoned it out. You need to be strong and run fast. The more rubbish you take from him the more he will push. I am talking from experience.

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    3. I was gonna feel sorry for you but the fact you still believe that nonsense of his wife being a trouble maker and all is beyond me. Mumu. Keep doing yourself you hear...men don't need a reason to cheat. Shebi you ma na trouble maker so he cheated on you too nhaa...ode. And pls enough of the you re an orphan. I've seen a lot of orphans with sense more than the those with parents

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    4. @Anon 17:46, my thoughts exactly! I wasn't moved with the whole orphan thingy

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    5. Sorry I am commenting late.

      See, I need you to LISTEN to me. In this whole wide world, you are the most important, most precious and yes, the whole world should revolve around you. My advice to you is to be selfish for now and take a perfect care of YOU, which is the main koko. You don't brake off a relationship and begin to suffer the trauma and pain just like that. You breake a relationship and healfrom it while in that relationship. Don't do it abruptly. It can kill you o. Don't abruptly push him away. A low him beg you, pamper you, make your financial or material requests but make sure your mind and heart is focused on all his weaknesses and shortcomings. Focus on the things that will make him unattractive to you and give it time. By the time you are truly done, you will be so immune to him that even he will marvel.
      You had no business going to burst him. You already know he is married, that is enough for you to start preparing yourself to take that walk with strength and dignity.
      I feel you my dear. It's not easy. Accept him and weave your web slowly, sweetly focusing and having the very time of your life, you know how you set your mind when you want to use something once and for all? Yes. Use him in anyway you find satisfaction till you get a hang of it and discard him yourself.

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    6. Poster u r not innocent too. You know he is married and still expecting his visits

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    7. Sorry I am commenting late.

      See, I need you to LISTEN to me. In this whole wide world, you are the most important, most precious and yes, the whole world should revolve around you. My advice to you is to be selfish for now and take a perfect care of YOU, which is the main koko. You don't brake off a relationship and begin to suffer the trauma and pain just like that. You breake a relationship and healfrom it while in that relationship. Don't do it abruptly. It can kill you o. Don't abruptly push him away. A low him beg you, pamper you, make your financial or material requests but make sure your mind and heart is focused on all his weaknesses and shortcomings. Focus on the things that will make him unattractive to you and give it time. By the time you are truly done, you will be so immune to him that even he will marvel.
      You had no business going to burst him. You already know he is married, that is enough for you to start preparing yourself to take that walk with strength and dignity.
      I feel you my dear. It's not easy. Accept him and weave your web slowly, sweetly focusing and having the very time of your life, you know how you set your mind when you want to use something once and for all? Yes. Use him in anyway you find satisfaction till you get a hang of it and discard him yourself.

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    8. Ahhhh....This story sounds like my brother-in-law, the only difference is the location.

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    9. op you must be out of your fucking mind, if you think you can be left alone to enjoy oil-company dick in this buhari period... legit wives, olosho, sidechicks go follow fuck that oily-prick with you because nigerian men are inveterate ashewo when they have small change fore pocket...

      that lady you caught with him was obviously a prostitute hence her non-aggressiveness to you.

      and stop telling your romantic partners you're an orphan before an opportunistic bastard somewhere uses you for rituals, when he's sure tou have no close relatives to ask after you.

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  2. I feel your pain but at this point it is best you count your losses and more on. The pain will fade into a memory soon. Leave him and his crazy ways to God. One day he’ll jam a proper mami water that will drag him into the ocean. Don’t fight dirty. Just let him be.

    I feel so bad for you but please just cut him off completely and leave him be. Don’t meet with him. Don’t message him. Don’t call him. Don’t do anything to him. Just ghost him. Don’t even respond to his hello messages because you’re still very vulnerable and emotional. Cry your heart out but I can assure you that it will all get better in time.

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    Ivannah

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  3. This is really painful. You leaned too much on him, like you can’t live life without him. I understand it’s just you and I don’t blame you.
    It’s a pity this man played you this way. You’d be surprised this man lied about having issues with his wife just to keep you with him. Don’t believe anything he tell someone you anymore. If gen gives bad you cash/gifts, reject it all. He’s trying to patronize you, don’t fall for it.
    What do you do?
    I know you are heart broken, but don’t ever accept him back. He’s a liar, manipulator and a selfish man...such men are never loyal and they care only about themselves.
    If you have good friends, be around them for sometime and pray to God for healing.
    If you have this mentality of collecting your “retirement” please don’t. He should go with everything that isn’t his...you will find a better man...your own man when the time is right.



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    1. I was about saying the same thing @ having issues with his wife , that too could be a very big lie,
      Men like these r very manipulative and calculated ,
      Their scheme is top notch, there is nothing to think about, you deserve better do not settle for less cut him off and move on.
      Sorry about this .

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    2. I am so sorry for your experience poster but i think with time, you will heal and this experience will give you wisdom that would be useful for the rest of your life.

      One valuable example of wisdom from this experience is that when someone tells you their partner, or best friend is a troublemaker,unattractive, occultic, stingy, etc, whatever they may say to paint this person bad, wonder also about the person that chose such a horrible fellow and is still choosing to stay with them. If his wife is such a hot mess, why is he hiding you instead pf divorcing her and moving on? Why was he still with her before meeting you and why is he still holding on so desperately to his married status? Are you also problematic, with poor fashion sense, a street fighter, troublesome and confrontational that he had to cheat on you? A cheat cheats because he/ she is a cheat, not because of the other person who is being cheated on.

      Another valuable lesson i picked from your sad experience is that we should be weary of people who want to be the one and all such that without them, it seems you cannot breathe- that is false security at the cost of your sovereignty as a person. He seems to be in the position to connect you to opportunities and jobs that would have led to money to buy all these appliances and take you to the next level (as he probably told the woman you met naked in his house) but he wont do that so you can be independent enough to ask questions or hurry him up on your marriage plans. I think this man's tactic is that you rely on him for everything- financially, emotionally and otherwise so it would be impossible to leave him. He is a skilled manipulator, controlling you and his wife so he has you both where he wants you. Don't ever think you can outsmart him. He is bombarding you with texts and calls now from the wife he is lying to so you can resume your victimhood- don't pick his calls or read his messages. Block him everywhere. If it means that one day, he will come and collect his fridge and microwave, open the door and let him pack his precious things- these manipulative liars don't easily take an L. When he starts badmouthing you about town for being this or that, you'll be able to say boldly that you didn't even make a fuss when you caught him pants down and the day he came to collect his fridge of life, you released it with the bread inside so he can eat it the appliance and feel OK. He won't take rejection well. When he starts his revenge drama, kill him with silence. No narcissist or manipulator can handle being ignored or muted. He'll even confess to his wife and somehow claim you are the one who made him cheat. Don't respond to any of them- the wife is nothing more than a submissive remote control for her husband- she will do anything for his attention and he'll be getting your attention through her. Your conscience is clear so ignore both of them. Even block any friends or neighbors who beg.

      Forgive yourself for holding on even after you knew he was married.Forgive yourself for falling in love with a liar, user, thief and time waster-you did not know better. PRAISE YOURSELF for having such a strong and reliable intuition that helped you discover his lies; the composure you showed while dealing with the other woman to the point of even apologizing for walking in on her naked and the strength to confront him, seek help/ advice and end the relationship. I wish you the very best of the years to come. True love will find you and that will be worth far more than the pain of this experience.

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  4. Sap this man well a before dumping him... let him wire u beta cash but don't open legs again.Sorry dear.

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    1. Nezz, I was going to say this exact same thing but the poster is tooo emotionally attached to the man. She man try to sap him well but will end up doing another year of emotional up and down with the married man. Worse she may stab him one day. For her mental health and safety she should just ghost him completely.

      I hate deceptive spouses. Married but living single men and women are cursed until they repent.


      Ivannah

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    2. This is a good girl that fell into the wrong hands. She won't have mind to play the game or even go to that native doctor. It is a good thing.

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  5. When you knew he is married you kept the situationship like you called it. You're mumu woman!!!

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    1. You are the mumu.you think it's easy to move on from a relationship you put all in.You wouldn't know that na cos you have no emotions.Stone aproko.

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    2. You dey mind her.
      So crying to the extent that neighbours are pacifying Abi na consoling you. Ihukwa eshishi!!

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    3. Aproko you're stupid for this comment you made. Where's your sympathy? Don't you know she was emotionally invested already? The evil man deceived her and left her high and dry. Mind you I'm not the poster.

      Anonymous keeping the blog sane

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    4. She's not abeg. Things like this happen to the best of us. Hard woman hard woman everytime

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    5. Mcedar it can happen to you and not me. He lied to her at first, when she found out she was hurt but continued playing lovey dovey with him when the picture is clear in 5D. She even still went back to do what exactly?

      God abeg o.

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    6. I concur Aproko Queen. Yes we've all been heartbroken. Yes we've all done stupid things and learned the hard way but we still have to tell you the truth for your own good. Sister, you did this to yourself. First off, you wrongly assumed that because his wife is not on social media, then he's not married??? You sound naive for thinking that way. Next time, when you meet a man, pray and ask God to reveal his true intentions and take anything a man tells you about himself with a pinch of salt until some considerable time has passed and you can verify his stories. Secondly, when you found out he was married, that is when you should have cut off the relationship but you continued seeing him as lover girl that you are. That was reckless and foolish of you as you know by now. You rightly followed your instincts by asking him and God helped you by loosening his mouth to tell you the truth but what did you do? You ignored it. You sabotaged yourself young lady. Many of us have been down this road and we've been hurt, we've cried, got over our anger and learned our lessons. So, I hope going forward, you have learned your own lessons and will now make responsible choices in guarding your heart. I hope you were even using protection with him. Please go for STD testing and never ever in your life choose to believe a man's words over his actions. He has shown you CLEARLY that you're just a sex toy to him - something he uses to satisfy his cravings since wifey is away.

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    7. Queen, she has fallen deeply that was why she couldn't just leave.

      I've been in this before but immediately I knew there was a wife I left because I haven't fallen deeply.

      Poster, you know you're an orphan and alone in this wicked world, biko forget love and finish his money now that he is begging you. You can't just leave with heart break and broken pocket.

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    8. Imagine crying over another woman's horseband. Shame even gree her send this chronicle...

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    9. How do you people believe she's alone in this world??? I don't believe that shit. She said she's an undergraduate so who has been funding that? Are you the only child? No aunt and uncle? From both sides of the parents? Biko you are not alone anything you are just using that one ganner sympathy and force us to believe that is why you did what you did. Anyway the did has been done, don't follow that your neighbour anywhere ooo because if you start that one hehehe you don't start be that ooo. Just jejely leave the man to avoid more heart breaks and trouble.

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    10. Those two ewobis (annonymouses) up there. Osho gbangban

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  6. I really feel your pain dear. Do not follow your neighbor to anywhere please. Forget the man, he is wasting your time. God will give you your own man.

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    1. Plus she's a Christian

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    2. Christian that is aiding adultery, mtecheeeewwwwww

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  7. Poster. Don’t go anywhere with that sister. Let God fight your battles. No matter how much she tries to lure you, paint reasons why you shouldn’t harm that man, don’t fall for it. What if it backfires on you? What if the man ends up dead? Would you be able to live with that pain and guilt for the rest of your life?
    Think about his wife and kids...it’s no fault of theirswhat their dad did to you.
    Resist every urge to pay that man back. Stay calm and you will be fine. HE IS NOT WORTH IT.

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    1. God already fought the wife's battle. Poster this what you get for staying even when you knew he s married. You think it's only the wife that will be hurting abi?

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  8. This is the reason some men are still inside bottle tii date. Don't believe everything he tells you about his wife. He just wanna waste your time and move over to the next available young girl. Just keep ignoring him. Don't ever reply his chat again. In fact, threaten to report him to his wife. At this stage in your life, you should be thinking of settling down and not becoming a side chicken to a man that still won't marry you at the end. Read between the lines and give yourself brain poster ignore this man completely

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    1. As in! Why can't he just say he is looking for a fuuck buddy from the onset.

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    2. And also the reason some girls are scarred with acid too. You know his married but still dating him...pray his wife doesn't find out about you like you found out about the other girl...

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    3. you this anonymous barking all around this post, who forced you to marry a dog.. now just see how sensitive you are getting, well vent your frustrations out..

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  9. 27 and you're this dumb?

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  10. That man 8s a liar
    The wife seems to be the bread winner and owner of those properties he mentioned.
    Plus if some men want to cheat, they tell vatious lies against their wives just to enter your kpekus.
    Sorry o

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  11. Stella this your good girl attitude done tire me,habaa this your red pen sha**** poster you will get confused reading advice here ooo,find a slay queen#a baby girl for life let them advice you,i swear you will be glad if you listen to them cos you will get the right advice,let me give you just small,don't let go off that your liar married boyfriend,act like you're still gamed but inside you erase whatever feelings you got for him,let the love you once have for this man turn to hatred but stay with him,be pretending,keep collecting his money and gifts,make demands from him all the time,that's all you can gain from this,be wise and compensate yourself for all the deceit,while at that if you meet another guy that you fancy,do abeg, but tell whoever you meet next that you want to be celibate till marriage,try and build another relationship that will hopefully lead to marriage.Don't be heatbroken,yeah it's hard to take in but be strong for yourself,don't allow this your boyfriend sweet-talk you again

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  12. hmm if it is my book now i'll not read like this o. Poster it's only normal for you to feel bad after you found out he's married and you've become emotionally attached to him. Deed has been done dust up,wipe your tears and leave him. He's just one of those cheating men who find excuses as to why they cheat on their wives. You'll be alright. Yours will come don't settle for less

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  13. See this one

    You said you are an orphan?

    All the hard life no give you sense any?

    You better forget that thing called love and plan your future on the guys money.

    Opportunity comes but once.

    Since he is still begging it means your punani is still sweet.

    Forget that lie about the wife being this or that his wife or her family is responsible for his wealth directly or indirectly that was why he married her and that is why he is still with her and she has strength over him.


    What have you been doing with the money he has been giving you?


    Naija girls are too daft.


    Find a way of fleecing him for good money to start business.

    A man like this can grow tired of you at any time.


    Continue to pretend like you are angry so he can buy you a car, start a business for you or buy you a house.


    The fact that he is married is not a problem. Trust me you are better off without a 41 year old. You are still young at 27 and can get a good rich guy if you play your games well.

    Use his money to level up and stop acting like a tata and a compound fool.


    I hate girls that are too slow๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿคฎ
    I dont advice girls to date married men but now that you have fucked him and he was lying all along there is nothing you can do than to make the most of it.


    As you get older he will toss you aside and get a fresher pussi.

    He doesnt want runs girls.

    He prefers naive girls like you because they are very grateful, don't ask for too much and are easy to manipulate.


    Be smart.

    I could have adviced you too let that aunty take you to edo to do jazz that will make him do anything you want.

    In less than 6 months you will have everything. But you really cant trust strangers like that. Tomorrow
    she might betray you.

    Just tell him you want to start a business and inflat the price.

    Aunty, there is nothing special about you o. He will soon get tired of your pussy and dump you.

    Be smart.

    Love kor love ni๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

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    1. This anon 15.34 has sense,gbammmm poster read this comment 3×

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    2. This anon 15.34 has sense,gbammmm poster read this comment 3×

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    3. This sounds like Queen and Boss.

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    4. If you like, follow this witch up there and watch your life take a downward spiral curls.

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    5. This anon na the real slay mama ๐Ÿ˜‚ lmao at compound fool ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿคฃ use your brain not your heart. Be wise if you can ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

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  14. I would have felt sorry for you if you had ended the relationship the moment you found out he was married but you didn't. You're used to the man providing for you hence the reason you didn't pull away. You even almost attacked another lady when you're not the wife. You no serious.

    You better stay away from the man before the wife finds out about you and uses juju on you. She's not going to care about this your long story. That you're an orphan is no excuse, afterall when he met you, you had something even if it was small.

    Women, please learn to be independent. Hustle and make your own money irrespective of whether you have a provider boyfriend or not. Be satisfied with what you have.

    Married men, if you cannot stay faithful to your wife (which you should), there are many women who would date you even with the knowledge that you're married. Go for those ones naw. Stop deceiving women who are not interested in dating married men.

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    1. Your first paragraph is the same reason I'm angry with her

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    2. Aside being independent, learn to be contented with what you have while you grow and aspire for more. It's lack of these things that makes a man take advantage of you.

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  15. Dear poster,i'm so sorry this happened to you.
    But you should have left him from the very first day you got to know he's married,but still,i won't blame you that much cause it isn't easy to forget someone who's been there for you in all ramification.
    Just try to forget him completely and move on with your life. I believe you must have some savings! If you do,please use it to setup your self in business.

    These married men are all liers.
    Believe me when i say he's lying on his wife. She's not who he's claiming to be.
    Think of all the lies said to you and before you know it,hes off your mind.

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  16. If you really cared about his children, you wouldn’t have continued the relationship when you found out he was married. He is lying about having a difficult wife. Men like this are cheaters and emotional blackmailers. If you marry him, he will never be faithful to you. You can’t make a deal with the devil, it always backfires. You better borrow yourself sense and block him everywhere and move on with your life.

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  17. See this one

    You said you are an orphan?

    All the hard life no give you sense any?

    You better forget that thing called love and plan your future on the guys money.

    Opportunity comes but once.

    Since he is still begging it means your punani is still sweet.

    Forget that lie about the wife being this or that his wife or her family is responsible for his wealth directly or indirectly that was why he married her and that is why he is still with her and she has strength over him.


    What have you been doing with the money he has been giving you?


    Naija girls are too daft.


    Find a way of fleecing him for good money to start business.

    A man like this can grow tired of you at any time.


    Continue to pretend like you are angry so he can buy you a car, start a business for you or buy you a house.


    The fact that he is married is not a problem. Trust me you are better off without a 41 year old. You are still young at 27 and can get a good rich guy if you play your games well.

    Use his money to level up and stop acting like a tata and a compound fool.


    I hate girls that are too slow๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿคฎ
    I dont advice girls to date married men but now that you have fucked him and he was lying all along there is nothing you can do than to make the most of it.


    As you get older he will toss you aside and get a fresher pussi.

    He doesnt want runs girls.

    He prefers naive girls like you because they are very grateful, don't ask for too much and are easy to manipulate.


    Be smart.

    I could have adviced you too let that aunty take you to edo to do jazz that will make him do anything you want.

    In less than 6 months you will have everything. But you really cant trust strangers like that. Tomorrow
    she might betray you.

    Just tell him you want to start a business and inflat the price.

    Aunty, there is nothing special about you o. He will soon get tired of your pussy and dump you.

    Be smart.

    Love kor love ni๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

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  18. Poster I feel ur pain,but with time u will get over him..u were supposed to stop d relationship when u discovered his married now but nevertheless u have to move on..ghost him by blocking his line,change ur sim and apartment.. Don't reply to any of his messages or call no matter d plea..
    Pls don't follow that Edo sister anywhere oh,Let go and let God take over!only God can fight ur battles wella, cos vengeance belongs to Him
    Another thing u mustn't do is regret,don't dwell on it! The mistake is done,move on,take ur time to heal but don't ever regret anything..
    All d best

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  19. After he told you he's married, you still pestered yo continue with the nonsense. You have ojukokuro, ateneju. So you wouldn't have minded being a second fiddle. Using orphan to Garner sympathy for your greed.
    Why didn't you let it go as soon as he told you he's married. Mtcheeeew

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    1. @anon 15.40 you are a mad idiot,why you dey hot like this,na your husband she date?Do you think it's that easy to just detach yourself from a relationship instantly like that after you've invested so much emotions in it believing you have reached your last bus stop,so she still stayed with him after she found out about his marital status,so what? Why blame her only,the man lied to her,deceived her and played her,i bet it the man is lying about his supposed awful wife,na dem dem,that's their usual line to deceive girls,20 years from now he will still remain with his wife,these men never leaves their wives oo***(take note)

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  20. Be strong this happened for you to learn life lessons. The man is a Casanova, don't be surprised he is so in love with his wife, nothing like constant quarrel between them. Time heal all wounds, with time you will forget him and forge ahead with life. Sever all relationship with him. At least you have conscience, not the ones that will snatch someone's husband and be proud of themselves.

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  21. Well,its one of those things
    There is a book by Daniel steel 'full circle'
    There r men like that ,who love to destroy young girl cos they have money, the best thing is to stand ur ground , dnt go back to him no matter what.
    Even if u have nothing to eat.let him go.

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  22. babe its time to use your head, i know your deeply hurt and deeply blaming yourself, seems your situationship was a game all along, now its time to win and win you must, keep him in suspense for the two weeks his in port hacourt, start looking for another apartment, buy a new sim card and transfer, all your contacts, open a new account and let the transactions of that account be sent to you via email,give him weighty finacial obligations,let him buy a house or a plot of land in your name, babe suck him like a juicy orange, and dump him when your done, he didnt pity you being an orphan so show no mercy to him,when your ready to dump him change your number and disappear to your new place without a trace,in all this never fall in love with him, never let your emotions go astray,and never be the fool a second time.

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  23. Same thing happened to my sis.
    Oil company big boy
    Claimed he had issues with his wife, he wants more kids
    My sis got pregs and he vanished
    She found him, got the law on him to make him responsible
    He eventually mentioned the child to his wife and swore that my big sis seduced him.
    I feel sorry for the woman cos she's always on his dp, facebook whilst he has numerous babes in town. The annoying thing is that he claims to be born again. They are civil with each other now but this papa still wants to f.ck

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  24. Collect better money from him then ghost him PERIODT!

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  25. Same thing happened to my sis.
    Oil company big boy
    Claimed he had issues with his wife, he wants more kids
    My sis got pregs and he vanished
    She found him, got the law on him to make him responsible
    He eventually mentioned the child to his wife and swore that my big sis seduced him.
    I feel sorry for the woman cos she's always on his dp, facebook whilst he has numerous babes in town. The annoying thing is that he claims to be born again. They are civil with each other now but this papa still wants to f.ck

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  26. Poster what has happened has happened, it is time for you to pick what is left of you and open a new chapter of your life come 2020. You didn't know he was married at first but when you find out you should have take your leave but no you continued to push showing you are despirate. I will say you should end it up with that man, he loves hi wife and children. Forget all his lies, his wife has been fasting, praying, for both of them to come together. Do not fall victim the second time.

    Now that he is begging you, asking you to order for anything, babe the best way you can pay him back is to pretend that you are hurt, that you want to give him second chance, go and look for good shop, in a good location, ask him to open abig shop for you. Tell him to buy you a car. Get anything good you can get from him and move away from that dangerous man. So not listen to your neighbor, so not travel with her to anywhere. Please comeback with update.

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    1. Dear Poster, please do not listen to those advising you to collect money from him and then disappear. Please and please you claim you're a christian, let God be who He is in your life. Cut off from that demon without looking back. Now that you've come into the truth of who this man is, a liar and a deceiver, don't collect anything from him henceforth because you'll be collecting from the devil. Many of us want to eat and dine with God and satan on the same table but it's not possible. God did not send that man into your life, the enemy did to steal, kill and destroy you. Don't plant the harvest of your future with corrupt seeds. Anything the enemy gives you, he will come back to collect tenfold. Don't be deceived because you're no longer ignorant.

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    2. This is where you guys miss it. She has been deceievd by a master manipulator, not someone desperate to leave his family and wife her. The best she is going to get are SMSs, phone calls and portable gifts that he can take back since he has all the receipts. Did it skip his mind all the time they were together that she would like a big shop and huge wads of cash? Of course, he wont give her any of that because she would then be independent enough to assert herself, demand they get married or even confront his wife or leave him. If she goes back to him, he'll make sure she doesn't get away a second time NO MATTER WHAT. Shebi she still has the strength to send chronicle now. By the time he is done mentally caging her and defeating her spirit, she would be washing pant for his other mistresses while they prance around him naked. Every venture has the risk of loss after all, the man's wife is sharing her bed with at least two side chicks and there may be a number of step children and STIs in her future. The poster should take this setback as a silver lining and ghost him eternally without looking back. Her future is bright and love is always possible.

      Even if it means him getting her pregnant and denying paternity so he always has a say in her life- taking her in and out of court, her begging him to be responsible for the child and being seen by society as the woman who broke the home of an innocent Deeper Life parishioner whose husband was posted to Lagos, this man will do it. It was never love for him BUT CONTROL and such people never want to lose. The only joker you can play against a manipulator is to disconnect all your buttons by ghosting and blocking him now and forever. In wanting to outsmart narcissists, you give up yourself for indirect control.

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    3. For some reason I don't pity this poster. She knew he was married and continued the relationship based on all she was getting and her supposed emotional investment. So tell me, what would make her leave him now? Poster search your conscience and do the needful. 2020 is around the corner.

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  27. OK leme leave this here, orphan should be for a child of 10... 20, if you 27 please you are grown, even if your parents are alive, it won't still stop people from treating you like they want to... Leave the orphan story, you are grown

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  28. This na the real Okoto meow meow skrrrrr.. Abroadian bv where u dey come and see meow meow.

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  29. All i can smell from your write-up is the oil money, else you should have Known what to do next immidiately that you found out that he is married. If he is a broke Ass, will you still be crying like this after the whole discoveries? He lied to you about his marriage status, as if that is not enough, he still went ahead and cheated on you with another girl and you are there still professing love for him and undecided on what to do? You are not serious. Take it or live it, that man will not marry you even though you carry yourself dash him, he will only chop and clean mouth. That man does'nt see you as his girlfriend but he take you as someone that quench his sexual urge hence the betrayed for the second time. Whatever he told you about his wife are all lies to enable him have his way, dont take it serious, he loves his wife and can never leave her to marry you and he can never marry you as a second wife. Just go and face your life and utilize whatever you have gotten from him judiciously. I wish you best of luck.

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  30. When your spirit told you that he is 41 (very specific) & married and you confirmed both to be true, why didn't you walk away? You're still spending weekends at the house of a married man and even acting entitled! Babe, you're bold in your iniquity. You want to go to a jujuman and finish what is left of your life.

    A lot of Nigerian females, when y'all claim to love a man "cos he's caring", it's actually his money you're in love with. I won't blame you for that cos I don't know what happened in your life before so you probably didn't know better. But from the point where you knew and continued to screw another woman's husband, you became as guilty as he is. Probably even more cos you had ample warning. But no, illegal penis and cash won't let ye be great.

    I don't care what story that man told you about his wife; he is married and your spirit warned you for a reason. I've lived apart from my husband and not even one person in the place I was, had any idea of my true marital status - cos the assignment I was on at the time, demanded those. My husband has also had to do a similar assignment and had to live in an apartment that wasn't really a home, so there were no pics of us there. My point is husbands and wives live apart for different periods of time for different rreasons. Work, convenience or even the health of their marriage so they don't kill each other. Whatever it is, you have no right to get in the middle of that. Get out of someone's marriage.

    From your admission, you have been the one pushing for a marriage describing your fantasies to a man you say was distant during those discussions. When a man wants to marry you, he participates fully in such discussions and might even be 10 steps ahead. Dude has never wanted to marry you. You're the one who keeps saving his number. What for? You've gone and formed a soultie with a man that is in covenant with another woman, and you're talking about love. He's mean but you're also wicked TO YOURSELF.

    His wife is a Deeper Lifer; they're not getting divorced. She go just carry your name and picture go Kumuyi end-of-year programme before you and your juju friend can say "Edo". And they'll use you to give testimony. She's probably already holding vigil on her husband's matter & that might even be why you heard what you heard in your spirit. Many wo/men know what their spouses are doing or capable of - even when they seem to keep quiet. You will just be collateral damage.

    But ignore what I've said, go to Edo or even Cotonou. And see how 2020 will be for you. As sad as being an orphan is, you don't get a free pass.

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    1. You echoed my heart and oh, very funny too ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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  31. My dear, This too shall pass..... I totally understand how u feel and what you are going through, mine was that I never knew he has engaged a girl and kept leading me on. I got to know on social media, saw his pre wedding photos on a friends phone bcos he had blocked me on all his social media platforms... I was hurt, my heart was broken, I was on sleeping pills for months but then I realized that each day that passes, his memories started fading away, but am thankful cos what's mine is mine and what's not mine isn't mine.. so my dear, don't worry, time they say heal...Avoid him and try not to have any sexual ish with him But if he gives u money or gifts old by all means collect.

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  32. you are not smart at alllll.... young lady calm down and bill that man wella... you can't loose on all sides. keep your emotions aside and use ur brain

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  33. When a guy Is broke, ladies do not really have a problem with moving on but when he is rich they try to find excuse to hang on and when it is not working, they feel heartbroken and try to paint the scenario more than it happened!

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  34. Ikechi! I remember when this evil happened to me! This men prey on lonely women who need attention. I was so vulnerable. They know that a little care and love will change you and you will stay. It is a game to them. My dear, count your losses, shake your head and move on. Cry oh, wail oh, i promise you, he feels nothing! You are dealing with a silent demon of the worst grade. Your tears and orphan story will never move him. I begged this animal to tell me what i did to him to deserve this wickedness. I gave him EVERYTHING. Time,love, prayers, money, sex, name it. The only thing that can heal you is TIME and honesty to yourself. Tell yourself, "bitch you lost" Deal with it. Person wey mumu once na student.

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  35. I no pity you o. Never, I can't pity anyone like you. You already found out that he was married but you remain with him, all because of the material gains.
    Stop telling me you're orphan this and that, it has nothing to do with what's on ground, you take style greedy..
    If you like be waiting for us to tell you to leave him alone and move the fuck on.
    I no dey for pity party..

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  36. When will women learn that a man that cheats on his partner with you will not waste his sin, therefore there will be plenty of you on rota!! Poster you even said you were a Christian yet you were fornicating with an adulterer. if you were truly a Christian, you would have refrained from pre marital sex and you would have taken him to your church for at least one service. If I were you I would walk away, block him on every front and face my life. You were NEVER his fiance. You NEVER mattered to him. You were just an itch he had to scratch.

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  37. Dude lied, he has no beef with his wife, he's cheating on you too๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€ he's not loyal o, marry him as second wife n you will wish u never did, u even went to fight another babe on top a mare d man, hahahahah, his wife prayers must be working, make una continue to jam heads until someone will kill u over him for free.

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    1. Did you read the chronicle at all? Where did you read that she fought the babe? I must comment syndrome. Read to understand next time.

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    2. Alika, she went there to cook n play chess abi? No bo to go make trouble? After d man warned her not to come, she still went, no be trouble she go find?

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    3. Zeezah did you yourself read? Hian!

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  38. Poster substitute this fraud of a man with something far above man's love. Focus on the love of Christ.
    Being an orphan made you vulnerable but even a mother can forsake her suckling child.

    Be a Christian in spirit and in truth.
    Build up your relationship, study God's word, fellowship with the Holy Spirit - talk to and listen to Him in everything.
    In no time, this hurtful experience will fade away.

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  39. Obviously you were his Lagos/work ‘wife’. All that talk about his wife being troublesome is pure lies, that’s the oldest lie in the book of adulterous men.

    What’s done is done. You have to move forward. It will hurt, but you will not die. One day you’ll look back and you won’t be crying about it

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  40. Sorry about the disappointment. But I don't see what you invested in the relationship. It seems like he is the one that lost a lot of money dating you. You can reginger your emotions in a month. Can he recuperate all that money in a month? Why would a man spend so much money on a lady?

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  41. The only mistake you made was not running away when you found out he was married. You can still redeem that.
    You will heal, forget the monetary gain and cut off from him. Have a fresh start in 2020. You'll be fine.

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  42. I think I know the poster. Does your name start with A ends in O? Does his name start with A and ends in M? If so, you didn't tell the story the way it is. However, I'll say just hang in a bit more and chop some money. Beware of STIs!

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  43. You are not a Christian. You don't know Christ at all. If indeed your mother was one like you said, you threw away all the morals she ever taught you once you began to fornicate. I like the advice Stella has given you. One thing I will add it that you need to repent. If you don't, you might see yourself going with that big sister to tie your soul to the devil finally. Stay away also from that bini girl as she means no good for you.

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  44. Sorry about your ordeal...Forget about the man..if not because of poverty 14 yes age difference is too much.Most painful part was you weren't double dating...Who does that dating only one man at a time? You better start keeping harem of men but you dont have to sleep with them...At 27 you should be in a serious relationship..Best of luck

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  45. You are just greedy. Stop playing the victim. Had it been the man was broke. I am sure u would have moved on with ur life. Although I blamed the man for deceiving you bcus u were naive. But immediately you discovered that he was married. U should have left. The truth is once I know a man is 41yrs, I will know he is either married or a dirvorcee. Between 30-35 yrs most Nigerian guys are married except for a few.Orphan engaging in fornication. I am not judging u had it been u have close ur kpekus before discovering it won't pain u.

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  46. He's a useless man. Block his number and stop letting him feed off your energy.
    You will find true love when you have space for it, but now this man is taking up that space

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  47. Poster pls go and check your HIV status, men like this manipulative and convincing are out to destroy ladies

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  48. This guy is really on a mission, a dangerous one for that matter!He is seriously using u spiritually and gaining so much that's why he doesn't want to let go. He's not in love with you in the first place , neither is ur vee that sweet. He's there for the kill. He will keep having u for as long as he wants and u have no power over it. In ur mind, he lavishes his wealth on u but the ratio of the money u get compared to the one he makes from you is like 3:3m Go for deliverance cos he's taken a lot from u believe me. I wish u the best.

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  49. Let me make it 100th comments. ๐Ÿ˜„

    Poster, you will be fine with time. If you truly cut off from him, then one day it will just be a memory from a distant past. Time they say heals most wounds.

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  50. My dear, try to get 5m to 10m from him for a business. And get occupied with something doing.

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  51. Dear poster, I can almost understand how you feel I have experienced something. It's not easy but please run away from such a toxic man. I can't assure you everything will be fine but trust me you will heal with time I'm still healing, I'm sorry but this deeper life men are horrible! Don't go anywhere with your neighbor let God handle him.

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