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Tuesday, March 10, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
EDUCATIONAL AND FINANCIAL GAP



Stella, pls  I need an advice.


 I am a female of 26 years. I have a good job but have been looking for a serious guy that would commit to me thereby leading to marriage.


 I fasted and pray on this issue. After completing my fasting and prayer, a guy chatted me on fb. He said he is interested in me. I was happy thinking at least my prayer has been answered. But the issue is the guy is an OND holder while I have my M.A in view. 


I am feeling the educational gap is too wide. He is into photography and cinematography biz where he earns peanuts. 

He has a godly character but I don't want a marriage where I will be the sole provider. Love is sweet when a guy and a lady are both financially OK.

 He said once he is financially buoyant he will continue his HND. And I wish to get married latest by late next yr. Pls should I continue with this relationship or I should beg God for another guy that is well educated and financially OK?.

 Pls note that i am not looking for Ned Nwoko type Cus i am financially comfortable but I don't want gold diggers or leeches either.




Wait oh,did the guy on facebook propose to you already?If the Educational and financial gap is too wide,then let him go and keep praying.it is better to be single than to go into a marriage that does not compliment you in all ways.....
With this your mind set,i don't see anything other than just being friends possible...

115 comments:

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    1. When you're not the one that would marry yourself, you just sit down and be telling yourself that you want to marry latest next year. How will anyone that comes your way not look like a husband material?

      Hanty calm down.

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    2. Firstly God does not give anybody husband or wife.

      Secondly,you don’t sound intelligent and with that you can hardly end up with a guy that has all you want in a man.

      thirdly OND is a degree too and who says he can’t go back to school and later earn far more than you? When I met my wife and took her out for the first time,I was scared she was going to order for what I can’t pay for,but to day we eat in 5 stars resultant.

      And finally, nothing wrong if you provide for the house as long as he does his bit he after all what are you making money for? Godly character is not same as godly action.

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    3. Anonymous you are very wise,what you just said is the best, and dear poster what matters is your happiness

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    4. He is not your husband, move on

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    5. That he chatted you up on facebook after fasting and prayers doesn't mean hes the one God sent to you. Be wise. When you meet the one God has chosen for you, even if hes a secondary school holder, you will be at peace. This one you already have a troubled mind is a red flag. Continue praying and open your eys my dear.

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  2. All these Facebook love, my dear your husband no dey Facebook.

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    1. Shebi una day husband dey Facebook

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    2. Yori Yori, you echoed my thoughts.
      Facebook this Facebook book that....with all the chameleon characters lurking there.
      I wonder how people hook up on SM.
      A man who can't talk to you in real life will hide online to ask you for a relationship. Alien life!

      Never been on Facebook or IG.

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  3. Dont be faster than your shadow,calm down, he hasn't proposed yet, and judging from his post, he isn't thinking of marriage coz he is not buoyant enough.

    So keep looking.

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  4. You are quite desperate that if care is not taken you would jump on the next available person you can find. Why give yourself a timeframe? Are you God? If you don't get married next year, please what is going to go wrong?
    Just pray for God's time so you don't make a wrong decision due to unnecessary haste.

    You have some qualities you want in a man why thinking of settling for less? Or is it because at the moment he is all you can find? Why limit yourself to this young man?

    Devil too has his own candidate and can package something in contrary to what God has in store for you if he sees you want to work around your own time. Be patient why are you in so much hurry though?

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    1. You spoke exactly wats on my mind, no need typing.poster you are still young, stop being desperate. dnt allow the devil package one of his cousin as husband.

      SEXYHIPS

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    2. Sabella,so articulate.😍💖

      Poster take her comment to heart. That's all you need.

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    3. I agree. Sometimes when we are too desperate for something we are praying for the devil can send his own person and we think it is God answering prayer meanwhile it is devil taking advantage. And God also allows it to happen because he wants to test our patience , faith and trust in him

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  5. No No Please Madam You are not to look for a guy but the other way round..Lolzz you prayed and then a guy chatted you on FB that's it..No woman you were looking for fleeces..Please go ahead and achieve more in life..You are still young..Love finds you when you are not looking..Live your life to the fullest and Marriage will come in..My dear them no dey register latecomer for marriage..Take it easy oh make your case no be EGUNGUN BE CAREFUL NA EXPRESS YOU DEY GO..

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    1. Most men are like sharks they can smell desperation from a very far distance just like sharks to blood in the might ocean..You own man will come inugo

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  6. If that he has mansions and is well to do his OND wouldn't be a problem right.. Just saying...

    Anyways, he's not what you're looking for.. Keep searching and love will find you. The reason why you're considering this guy is because a more suitable person is yet to show you love. Save yourself the situationship of being in a relationship yet not fulfilled and enjoy your singlehood till someone better comes. Good luck.

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    1. Before nko..as long as a man treats you well and takes care of you and kids financially what does degree matter. The problem of going for man that has OND alone without funds is that you are falling in love with potential. How has that worked out for you or any other woman?

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  7. You seem a little bit faster than your shadow; but it's good you are clear on your desires. If he isn't ticking the buttons, bail out!

    A friend of mine took her chances to manage some guy below her and kept pushing him to rise. You know what he did when he rose? Started trying to please girls that didn't do jack for him and calling my friend disrespectful and below him.

    Be wise*

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    1. BABES ARE WISER NOW

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    2. Well that is men for you. STOP falling for a man's potential or supporting and building up a man. That won't make him loyal If you're not his original spec and esp if he's just using you for the meantime. There's no way of knowing for sure because men lie so save yourself and go for a made God-fearing man that cherishes you. Yes. They exist. Hope you learned from your friend's lesson

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  8. Hmmm. Egungun be careful na express you dey go so o

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  9. Never settle for LESS, cos eventually, you'd realize you made a mistake doing that.
    When a guy don't meet up to certain standards, it's not advisabl to move forward with him. sometimes, you have regrets.
    Don't know why you are desperate for marriage at 26. Right now, you don't even know what you want....anything goes.
    How long have you known him? Does he know your educational background? Would he settle for you if you were in his shoes? Let him hustle real hard to get something better, before talking about marriage.

    Sluttychic.

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    1. Please,just be his friend. He's not your spec. That guy may not further his education

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  10. Why do people think answers come immediately after prayer and fasting. Jesus fasted immediately after which he was tempted by the devil.
    Anyways, don't be in a hurry. I for one believe in marrying someone of a higher status (all round including looks). However, I'm not you. If he's what you want then go ahead but don't give him any false hope.

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  11. You need to be patient and wait.. You never reach bus stop with this one o

    Take your time!

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  12. God help ladies and husband wahala. That's how i met one via Facebook, we exchanged numbers.

    He will call video call just to view my room and know how I'm living, "let me see your kitchen, bathroom etc.

    I suspected he saw my Facebook post ( I'm not fashion) and to him she's rich yimu! He travelled from ota to ajah to see me feb once and wanted marriage by oct.

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    1. Everybody won upgrade nah..
      Country hard and the hustle is strong..
      Chizzy Jane.

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    2. And your mumu self was doing video call showing him your kitchen and bathroom right ??
      Who do una like this ? 😂

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    3. @Don, after let me see your room, then bathroom hmm.. my antenna stood oh. When he said i haven't seen your kitchen, i form network and cut the call and that was it.

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    4. 🤣🤣🤣🤣@souljagal

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    5. Souljagal you is wicked 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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    6. Yes o. Babe. Stop telling these men so much about anything that can reveal your financial situation. Your job, where you work. where you live, how you live. When a man starts asking that "what do u do for a living question " on first encounter or first date I get very anxious and turned off. I'll rush thru it and then ask him about himself and allow him to talk. After all it Is the one talking more that has something to prove and is being interviewed. Make sure it is the man talking more because many men out here are looking for help and not love. Lol. Also it will allow him to accidentally reveal his intentions.

      If I rush thru and the man so much as continues to bring up what I do for work again, I move on. A man should not be too concerned with what a woman does for a living and whether it brings in enough money or not. As long as it is not illegal or immoral work and she can take care of herself it is not his business. These men out here caring about what a woman does and how much she earns are really fishing to make sure she can be useful to them for going 50/50 or paying the bills. They are not really in love with her

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  13. Go and sleep. Is he the only man you'll ever meet? Mtchewwww

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    1. She sounds so desperate.

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    2. You wake up.
      Sometimes the right man comes along just once, and you'd encounter plenty fake.

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    3. Anon 15:37 keep lying to yourself sweetie. You can settle for the first fool that toasts you if you want and see what happens. The rest of us will be vetting for the beat possible candidate

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  14. The man should be looking for the lady to marry, not the other way round

    And it seems you are more interested in marrying 'educational qualifications and money"
    than marrying a husband?
    Okwa ajuju oo 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️
    And what I tell my Sisis that Jesus taught is that believers should fast as a culture
    (because he the bridegroom has been taken away Luke 5:35)
    not only when they are desperate to get married. Once desperation sets in, you will see
    every dude that tells you "good morning" as your husband 😮😮😮
    When I knew whom I will marry, six years before I met him, I wasn't
    praying for a husband, I was a teenager then, just observing my regular fast.
    Live like Christ taught and this life is lived in abundance.
    let me drop yarns mic for ndi uta 🎤🎤😘😘

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  15. If you’re doing well, you can also help the guy if you love him. It’s not everyone that is destined to be married to a rich guy. Him been God fearing is very important.

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    1. Dem only fear God when they are poor, help them small you go hear nwii.

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    2. Oh I didn’t see where you said you met him on Facebook.please stay away from Facebook and internet love and focus on the people you meet in reality

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    3. My dear even the ones you meet in reality are terrible. There is NO humble poor man. They are just calm* because they are hungry. Once they harmer, forgerrit*. Building up with a man is the biggest risk ever in this life!

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    4. Shw should stay away from internet and Facebook relationship but you will still tell her to participate in the next single and mingle.
      You guys are amazing.

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    5. I celebrate you too @Shantelle's empire 😂

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  16. You guys are not even in the same wavelength. You are already considering marriage whereas dude is talking about getting a degree when he's buoyant enough.

    Do you honestly think marriage is in the cards for this guy right now?

    If you aren't in such a hurry, i 'd say he sounds promising and to give him a chance but since you ain't got time to waste..unto the next.

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    1. Even if she is not in a hurry. I don't think she should wait on this guy o. Trust me I was in her predicament and waited for the guy to get nysc and uncle was telling me after he gets masters gets good job and business is booming. He will marry. Omo. 2 years later guy had a good job and all, but still no masters and now I'm in late 20s. To make matters worse the guy started scoping other women and using that excuse to call me rude, disrespectful and naggy. I wasnt all those things when I was managing and supporting him, chasing other suitors away. Finally he told me he wasn't ready for relationship again. All those years wasted waiting on someone that had no plans to marry me but led me on. So pls let her move on. He will be so nice and humble now because a poor man is only as loyal as his options. Let her not take her chances especially if she wants to marry before 30. Pls don't be like me. Almost 30 and starting from square one and knowing the game late. Have options of men, and be platonic with them. You don't have to sleep with them. Also ensure that they cherish you and are not dependent on you financially to make the home work. As in a man that allows you work but doesn't NEED your money to make the house run smoothly

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  17. This one no get case, everybody wan write chronicles

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  18. This is one of the annoying piece i have re this year.
    Giving yourself time frame on marrige? you are totally under influence of alchohol.

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    1. Many do so and it works for them, our destinies & fate differ, some people have that strong spirit to speak life into what they want and when, it works for them.
      You need to be sober to understand life and grace on some people.

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    2. Then she shouldn't propose to herself on behalf of the guy or any shadow of male species flits by.

      He who finds a wife... (not she who finds a husband) ... finds a good thing and obtains favour from God.

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  19. I find such questions funny.
    How do we know what you can tolerate?
    How do we know your compatibility with the guy.
    How do we predict the future if hes the right one or not??

    Some women have married "lesser" men and it eventually worked for them, your case might differ, who knows??!

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  20. You're fasting and praying, looking for husband ?
    Desperate move all the time

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    1. Hahahhahahahah, but she wan marry naa, before it's too late, no be una dey go marry under 16 this days😆

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    2. Na them Ned Nwoko dey marry 16 years old girl. 🤣

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  21. You want to get married latest by December ba? Odikwa serous. Desperation at 26.

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    1. The way the world is moving, e reach to be desperate biko

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    2. Yoruba mothers at work putting pressure on their daughters to marry before 25. At 25, you're considered too old for marriage in yorubaland. That's one of the reasons why married yoruba men Cheat so in discreetly. They are made to feel like a prized possession in high demand. And marriage is made to seem like something a woman needs to do to be respected so many women are made desperate enough to trap men with pregnancy or charm or pressure. Men that wouldnt have married them in the first place. Lol And even when yoruba wives catch husband cheating they are always too scared to leave and rather face side chick not husband in case he runs away and faces side chick fulltime.

      Source = I'm Yoruba and also watch many yoruba films to see the culture.

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  22. The Original ShugarGirl10 March 2020 at 15:32

    Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

    Baby girl chill now, your time will come na them go dey rush you sef. Breathe and enjoy you present age and life while you still have it.

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  23. You will not leave him alone now that he’s not up to standard by your measurements o. Wetin marriage no go see for Nigerian girls hand.

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  24. We women sef, na real wa. A guy chatted you on Facebook and you're already thinking of marriage. I'm sure this guy just started chatting you up less than 6 months ago. Have you even met in person? Abeg this is 2020, Facebook love don pass. You are too desperate. Work on yourself and the right man will come along when the time is right .

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    1. He's probably chatting 10 other girls too and hanty is calculating marriage 😂😂😂

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  25. Why on earth would you give yourself time limit when you don't even know God's plan for you. Giving your self unnecessary pressure. You prayed and someone chatted you on face book and you already concluded his the one, oh goodness you sound so so desperate.

    Calm down and focus on other things, love will find you.

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    1. Old Town Girl where you dey since? Hope you are good

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    2. Phoenix I'm doing well. Just tedious work lately. Thanks. Hope you good hun.

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  26. You are 26yrs, dont be desperate. Take your time so that you dont regret.

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    1. 26 is overly qualified

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    2. Thank you oo Adanne!

      All these ones saying 26 is "just" like say 26 young. Kmt! Before you know it she's 30,40...

      Poster pls don't be desperate. This one no follow at all, you'll meet better men ahead

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  27. Why is it that when a woman wants a man that is doing well financially,everyone sees nothing wrong in that but when a man seeks for a woman that's able to do financially,they tern him a "gold digger ".
    Mtcheeww.

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    1. Because it is a man's job to be the provider not the other way round. When a man starts seeking a well to do woman, he is afraid and wants to dash her his responsibilities. When he finally gets one, he will still turn around and blame her of being controlling. You know why? It is natural* for who is bringing cash to look like the decision maker. That is why God gave that role to the people he crowned head of the home.

      So it's very ok for a woman to seek out for a rich man. I mean if you are to be a head for me, let it not be in poverty.

      But a man seeking otherwise is pushing up the woman to be the head and still wanting to be the head. That makes him a *gold digger*. There cannot be two captains in a ship na...

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    2. The man is meant to provide while the woman is meant to be the helper.

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    3. Because it is in a man's place to provide for the family...this is basic knowledge naa

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    4. Anon 15:58
      Yes,it is the man's duty to provide for the family as it is the woman's duty
      to also take care of the home in terms of chores.
      However,women of today wants a man capable of doing his manly duties but they don't want to also do their parts as home makers.
      They will start shouting "wives not cook"
      "Wives not slaves"

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    5. So you all think a man shouldn't set a standard for himself ?
      Something is wrong with our all..

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    6. @Don we didn't say that.

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    7. Don,don't start!

      Anon 15;58,the truth!

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    8. 15:58 you got that right.

      man's not nice, if you provide 100% of the money for your family, then your wife can do all the house chores. That means you must not think of getting married to a career-minded woman.

      However, if your wife works 9 to 5 and contributes 30% to 50% of the financial upkeep, please enter the kitchen or hire cooks and helps.

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  28. Be patient and wait,also go to God in prayers for direction.

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  29. Stellakoko, nne you have said it all.

    Madam, allow the friendship to blossom first. Must every relationship ends in marriage??

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  30. 1. The academic and financial gap - Would you want a situation in future where your man will turn against you and anything you do will be interpreted as you being rude and arrogant, just because of your academic and financial strength? Some women have married men who are well beneath them and it worked well but that number my sister, is very small. It doesn't usually always end well.

    2. That you prayed and someone chatted you up on facebook does not mean that someone is the answer to your prayers. Yes, social media connection is possible but do not look for love on social media. If it happens, fine.

    3. Do not set a deadline for yourself as to being married. Marriage is beyond two individuals living together as husband and wife, and rearing children.

    4. marriage is not a decision made on 'he has a godly character'. What is his spiritual stand? How many churches does he attend? Some men will tell you they attend Winners or RCCG but they have one Seer/Prophet/Prophetess/Alfa by the corner who rules their affair. Does his fear of God translates into an honourable character- one who honours commitment?

    5. How about his family?

    With marriage, you can never really know what you are going into unless you are led by God for God will never take you where his grace is not sufficient for you. Pray and pray some more. May you be find favor with God and man.

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  31. Poster, you need to exercise a little more patience so that the right person will come. Sometimes, after doing a fast, the devil will rear his head by bringing what looks like an answer from God.Don't rush into this since you have reservations from the signs you have seen about the chap. Just calm down, don't rush. I am sure the right person will show up..

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  32. Godly character indeed. That was how my husband and his mum deceived me with Godly character till we got married. Horrible people.

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    1. One chance candidate
      🤣🤣🤣🤣

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  33. 1. You don't look for men, they look for you. But when you are on the lookout you have already put yourself on the spot to be taken advantage of. Men can sniff desperation from afar and they know what you want to hear and they tell you what you want to hear to get you where they want you.


    2. What exactly did you fast and prayed for? Any man or a certain kind of man. Did you mention the qualities you desired in the kind of man you would want to be your future husband and the other of your unborn babies?Did you bring every single concern of yours in relation to the kind of attributes you seek in him even to the tiniest details before God? If yes? Then does this particular guy tick the boxes? Does he seem like a reply to your prayers? Does he match everything you describe to the lord when you got down on your knees? Mind you, He doesn't have to match 100% but at least to an enviable degree he is up to par. Think about it then you will figure out if God was the one who sent him or your sudden encounter is just a coincidence.


    3. You seem to fancy men who are well read. It's fine considering that you strive to be better yourself academically. However would you be fine if he makes it known that he doesn't forsee himself going beyond his HND qulification in the future? Would you have a problem with it or you would just let it slide while you progress onto getting your PhD? Though have it at the back of your mind that success in marriage has nothing to do with educational level of your partner sometimes yet I know sometimes the peace that comes with being on the same wavelength cannot be emphasized.

    4. How sure are you that he is godly? What promoted you to think that way? Though I know people's definition of "godly" differs. You didn't state how long you have been in a relationship to come to that conclusion.

    5.I don't think you are right for each other. That man isn't ready for marriage at this stage of his life, believe me. He needs to get his priority straight and your presence in his life would be an added pressure. You are quite obsessed with being married that I am here wondering what is your reason behind that. Is it your age? Family pressure? Or you just want to be someone's Mrs.

    6. You are already in the relationship but your heart and mind isn't there. I honestly feel the peace you lack was a a sign from God to soft pedal and wait some more. The anxiety you are feeling is enough to tell you something.

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    1. *prompted* sorry.

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    2. Thank you very much Gates

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    3. Thank you @Gates.

      "Let peace be the umpire"(from a book by Joyce Meyer).

      Poster get acquainted with the way God leads you or uniquely leads you.

      Mine is God's spirit speaks directly to me like an audible voice, through peace or unrest, dreams (revelations) , Bible verse(s) pops into my heart or I see same scriptures everywhere within that situation.

      This marriage, I am far older than you, but I don't let anything pressure me.

      God blessed me with a good job (though stressful) and an easy-going approach to life.

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  34. am very sorry to hurt you,am not seeing you as someone who is intelligent.

    all men that you will come across will surely look like ur husband cuz u have set a time limit for ursef.

    aunty,just cool down and wait for God to finish his work and also, dont be too focus on the educational gap

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  35. You have been praying and fasting, yet you give God a timeline.. Pls desperation leads to disaster especially in marriage.

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  36. So now in your mind you think God answered your prayers right? Have you not heard that the other god most people worship answers prayers too after fasting and prayer?Sister better watch out, when you get desparate and set a time limit on yourself, you more often than not, attract the 'devil's gift', Did that your FB friend propose? Man contact you for friendship on FB and Gbam you are thinking of marriage, this mindset is flawed....

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    1. The guy wey never know where him dey go sef
      🤣🤣🤣

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  37. Poster, calm down. Why are you giving yourself a time frame to get married? Except you have "issues" which you don't want to discuss. Calm down and take the relationship one step at a time.

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  38. Ask yourself these questions
    Do you like him?
    Does he geniuely love and respect you
    What kind of person is he?
    Don't be in a hurry honey, May the good lord answer your heat desire in Jesus name...amen.

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  39. Darling, this is how it starts. A young lady who is desperate for marriage and has a set time frame for it, would invariably see every Tom, Dick and Harry as a potential mate regardless of the fact that there are glaring live issues of incompatibility. How can a guy who knows little or nothing about you, chat you up on Facebook, claims he is interested in you, then you, on the other hand, are already gearing up for marriage if only his finances are in order? How extraordinarily injudicious of you!

    Have you no standards? Does it mean any guy who voices interest is worthy of your time? Honey, by the time you settle for less, how would you respect him as your king, as he ought to be? This is one of the reasons we read the type of caustic and infuriating chronicles ever prevalent here. Out of sheer desperation, you marry a man of questionable character who treats you like trash. A man who feels he is doing you a favour by marrying you. A couple of years later, you'll write in, telling us what a creep he is and how you want out of the marriage but you wouldn't tell us how you met and all the warning signs you elected to ignore and rushed in with blinders on.

    Sweetheart, the question I keep asking is, who buys an undersized pair of shoes just because he or she desires footwear? Why do you want to force your feet into shoes that are clearly not a good fit? So which is more important to you, getting married by next year or being married to the right partner? What if the right partner doesn't show up next year, you think it's prudent to say "I do" to the only available guy just so you marry next year? Don't you spoil for choices? The only man on your case isn't necessarily the right one.

    Please, never marry a man you don't respect. It will be hell for both of you. Allow him find a woman who would respect him, regardless. You should know what you want in a man and have the patience and fortitude to wait in a dignified manner. You haven't even seen the ugly side of him and you are already looking down on him. Sweetie, concentrate on building your career, a good man who is a perfect fit for you will show up. If you keep up with this desperation, you will certainly end up with the wrong partner.
    e-hugs and kisses.

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  40. It's very unfortunate that in our society th moment a woman is in her twenties approaching late twenties she begins to get this jitters and fear of settling late thereby thinking any young man that says hello could be her husband,*sighs*the society we find ourselves in,Relax girl at least you got a job,focus on your career and self development,breath and stop feeling like a granny ,yes!!that's how most of you naija girls feel,when the right guy comes you will know,ever everyt will be perfect,don't stop living,what about ladies that don't have a career,have you even taught of upgrading yourself to leave naija if you can,true happiness and satisfaction lies in God and you before any human,man man man tufiakwa

    P.S have a different mindset all you naija babes bikonu,the way you lots thinks is repulsive😒😒😒😒

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    1. I no blame them - it's difficult being single in Nigeria. It's a society you have to constantly fight against, once you are different. Only few women have the guts to keep their head high above it all.

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  41. Just calm down... Whatever decision u take make sure it should be in line with God's plan..

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  42. relationship wahala......

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  43. But why is it that guys who do not have any savings,not even up to 50k are always so quick to want to get married citing faith as their yardstick.if u object they say you would would regret not marrying them.i mean why should i am struggling on my own to get a future and you just want to add more suffering to me.
    poster please do not rush into any marriage.better take your time as marriage to the,wrong person can leave your traumatized for life

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  44. Poster why are you rushing the young man?take things easy with yourself before you rush out.

    If you have any Complain with any guy then you don't need to continue any relationship with him.

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  45. o boy
    see me just rambling on and on with enough jargons.ok na

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  47. @poster, you seem confused and want to confuse me as well. You said you prayed and asked God for a hubby, then fiam, a guy contacted you via FB, so why not go and ask God if he's the one?

    Meanwhile, you are TOO desperate to get married, YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED YET. You must prepare yourself and learn about marriage. You are just placing money/finances as a major CRITERION for marriage.

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