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Wednesday, June 17, 2020

Couch Convo -Taboos For Married Couples In Your Tribe

This post is inspired by the shocking tradizion of the Ishan people concerning a couple......To say i was shocked is putting it lightly...
It occurred to me that other tribes also have traditions which might shock me even more.....





 What Taboos are tied to Marriages in your tribe?

I am Isoko but i really don't know what taboos tie to Marrying an Isoko man....

I am just wondering why the woman has to pay the price for the same thing the man does and gets away with it...why?
 He cheats,he is free,she cheats all hell breaks loose.....

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  1. I dont know of any in my place

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    1. I am not in the know of any here

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    2. Any thing about Enugwu Agidi? I married there but hubby was born in and brought up in the North. Dude cannot speak Igbo to save his life. I'm sure he knows nothing about their customs and traditions

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  2. Nobody gets away with adultery before God. Only a genuine repentance can spare such a fellow. I guess it happens to Isoko women and generally we ladies are blamed for adultery/fornication because we submit ourselves to men. It is not the other way round. A man does not decide if fornication should take place. If he takes decision and carry it out without the consent of the lady, it is rape. 🀦🏻‍♀️🀦🏻‍♀️🀦🏻‍♀️🀦🏻‍♀️

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  3. I don't even know any taboos from my side really! I haven't heard of any

    Lemme read comments

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  4. There is no taboo attached to marriage in my country. I am a citizen of heaven and "MARRIAGE IS HONORABLE, the marriage bed undefiled for Jesus the president of my nation will judge adulterers and all the sexually immoral" Heb. 13:4
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  5. Its a taboo to take money from men without informing your husband.
    When you cheat on your husband,your first son will fall sick and your man will die if he partakes in the proceed from your infidelity whether knowing or not.
    Family planning is prohibited,until a ritual is performed after having the number of children you both want.
    Abortion is also prohibited whether married or not.

    But the joy in all of this, is if you are in Christ you're at liberty,not to sin though.

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    1. Incest. If not tixed, every male child from the clan starts dying mysteriously. Starting from 1st sons .How to fix it, the party involved will go naked in d present of certain elders , clothing they both wore d day Dey did the do, the bedsheets and mattress will be burnt, a ram is presented to b killed by the man by continuously punching it. Tribe IBo; Ogidi to b precise. Does it still happen YES.

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    2. We also practice the second one in my place.

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    3. Mrs Tee, this family planning tradition is interesting. Please what tribe is this?

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    4. The first one is practised in my tribe in Akwa Ibom State.

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    5. ms tee I think the abortion own is for only married women if not someone I know for don die tey teyπŸƒ‍♀️πŸƒ‍♀️

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    6. Anon are u from benue state

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    7. Ms tee,I don't think it's as effective as the one in OTUKPA BENUE STATE.
      A man/woman cannot give head or receiVe head.
      A woman cannot commit abortion and if she does,it mustn't be money from an otukpa man or her father and she cannot stay in the same roof with her father, and she cannot serve her father/brothers food because its considered a taboo.
      If a woman cheats on her husband,she must confess or she stops cooking or serving him food both on the table and on the bed,and if she does,she must confess and a black goat be bought to cleanse her of her atrocity and imagine the shame it will bring to the family.
      They're so many jare.

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    8. Anony 13:37
      So right.

      Many towns in Idemmili LGAs,the 2 parties involved,brother inlaw and sister inlaw,father inlaw and daughter inlaw,whichever.
      Both naked,with palm fronds tied round their waists,a snail tied round the woman's breast and a tiny bell tied to his penis,they will match from the Igwe's Palace to the market square were cleansing rituals will be performed at the middle of the market to appease the gods,if not tragedies will occur.

      Incest is forbidden!
      Teach your kids on time.

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  6. Lol, I think it's because she could get pregnant & pin it on the man.

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  7. I will be reading comments,I really need to know before I get married biko.

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  8. If you still follow those ethnic traditions that demean women and generally the prime creature of God,
    you are following idolatry. You are "honoring the creature rather than the creator" Romans 1:25

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  9. It's taboo in my place for your husband to f*ckup and you'll be acting passive. The ladies are expected to fix his f*ckup immediately

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    1. Lol.. love this

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    2. Stop this nonsense of half gist abeg. Name the tribe and town

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  10. Does Mbano people have any taboo, I will soon get married to Mbano man.
    Just wondering if there's any strange thing about their culture. Pls anyone that knows should pls help..thanks

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    1. Yes I'm from there.
      In mbano if a woman sleeps with her husband in her period or less than 2days after her period the man would fall sick or and alot of misfortunes will befall the family .

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    2. What's in your mind?

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    3. We don't. You're welcome to the land of Ndi otu ocha. Anwu noo

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    4. No be mbanu wey I no. Hahaha

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  11. There is none in my place, the only general taboo I know is adultery which affects mainly ladies and not the men because they are African men and can sleep around but their wives can't.

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  12. I don't really know what are the taboos in my father's or mother's side. And, I don't believe in anything traditions. I only follow biblical principles

    Committing adultery in marriage is both biblically and morally wrong whether it is committed by the wife or the husband.

    I think generally in Edo state, when a woman commits adultery, it is the man and the children that physically pays the price.
    I say traditions were set up to be against women and the poor.

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    1. Your last sentence is the absolute truth! πŸ˜₯

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    2. Errmm..
      Ms. A.
      You just stated that when a woman commits adultery in Edo state, the husband & children physically pay for it.

      Kindly elucidate how this particular tradition is against women.

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    3. Daddy code, the woman cheats and there are repercussions. What about the man? The men will bring women into his home. What happens to him? What are the traditional repercussions for his act? NONE.

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    4. Mrs A you are right about the Edo taboo.
      It’s like that where I’m from...but only the husband bears the consequence.
      I respect tradition and all but I’m glad people are evolving.

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    5. Na dose days abeg or unless dem take u swear during the traditional marriage day...i just cut my friendship off from a friend,shes Inshan and married to an inshan man she don almost sleep with all the men for benin.she's a dog and nothing don Happen to her husnand or children.i think we should have d fear of God dat is the key!

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    6. Nae dose days abeg or unless dem take u swear during the traditional marriage day...i just cut my friendship off from a friend,shes Inshan and married to an inshan man she don almost sleep with all the men for benin.she's a dog and nothing don Happen to her husnand or children.i think we should have d fear of God dat is the key!

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  13. Ekpo nka owo

    If you know you know

    Gracias

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  14. Where I am married to, Esan Edo state, I heard dy have many traditions, wife nt cheating, wife not collecting moni from a man dat is nt ya husband, a man dat is not married can't seat on ya matrimonial bed, Abeg d list is much. I just read it nd laughed, not dat I planned doing any of such especially d cheating part, bt I don't just believe in such. Cos once u start believing in it, it will affect u.

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    1. I'm from Edo state and everything u listed is absolutely true!!

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    2. I married an esan man, he went abroad, no contact for years, I did thr needful very well, even opened a abig ankara shop in lagos, he returned after good 16 years, here we are today, our child is in the varsity, he still suspects I did backyard runs but ni proof, abeg body no be firewood.

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    3. His parents were probably dead before you opened your unkept ass to other men and risked the lives of your children because of 5 mins sex. It doesn't necessarily mean your kids will die immediately. When they start getting the repercussions of your stupidity you won't remember what you did.

      Alexander

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    4. And d poking no die ? D man no die? Taboo jor Esan ni all na scam to keep women as perpetual slaves

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    5. Dear Alexander I hope you zip up your untamed fly your entire life and stick to one woman

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    6. Alexander the unreasonable, so she should have kept her ass for your stupid brother for 16 years not days o! Haba! Fear God na, why should a man leave his wife for that long? Woman just repent and you are good.

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    7. Alexander you are a bastard. So she should be in naija no comm and no sex for 16 years cos of marriage. Am sure the guy was married fucking women abroad oh... Stupid goat, na your type dey oppress women with stupid traditions. Ewu

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    8. See them justing adultry. There is absolutely no reason for adultry. If you can't wait for him move out . Awon bastard, ain't you the bastard here. I doubt you even know the meaning of what the word.

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  15. It's actually a man's world. Whether feminists or woke women want to accept it is another thing. From Africa to Asia to Latin America. It's only in western Europe that laws work in women's favor.

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  16. Even in the Old Testament, the laws favored men. It's difficult being a woman.

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  17. I don't know of any that is peculiar to only my village....except adultery which is everywhere.

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  18. I'm urhobo it is a taboo for a married woman to go have an affair outside her home while married to her husband....the husband and the children bears the consequence of her action....

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    1. Abeg, no be the same Warri I dey stay?

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    2. I'm urhobo and it is true.

      Anno 14:12,warri is not urhobo,warri is wplace in delta and it a place owned by the itshekiris but it is dominated by other tribes.It is city not a villiage.The urhobos,the ijaws, the igbos,the yorubas,etc all live there.

      So go to typical urhobo village to know if it is true or not. The urhobo women in warri that you feel are cheating on their husbands with no consequences are those that their bride price have not been paid.Nothing will happen because no tradition is binding them together.

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    3. I think wen pple travel to places like big cities, al this Taboos lose effect. I.e the number of married women 4king ard is unbelievable yet nothing happens to there spouse or kids.

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  19. Where I am from, if the woman is engaged in Adultery, her child dies. To avoid such, she can tell the family who will carry out some traditional rites.

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  20. I'm from Esan and married to an urhobo man, we don't cheat or else our husbands or children dies. Same thing is applicable to both the urhobo and ishan tribe.

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    1. Both my parents are Esan, my parents told us so many taboos of Esans but they were not into the believes, they had a beautiful marriage till my mom passed in 2011. My dad still hasn't recovered from her death he loved her too much.

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  21. Hmmmmmm!!!
    Reading mode activatedπŸ™ŒπŸ™Œ

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  22. None from my Side.

    Iam not in support of any primitive tradition that punishes the woman and leaves the man for committing same offense.,Its a fraud on womanhood !

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    1. Don't mind them. How many of these taboos have affected rapists? How many rapists have tied palmfronds, lost kids, died after confessing publicly, etc? Abeg, park well.

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  23. in my place, if women cheat the gods will strike her bad well, i have cheated with multiple men and nothing has happened.....Oga's place, allegedly, its also a taboo for the wife to cheat and he knows ....anyway, he caught me on one of my paroles and reported me to his folks, they did nothing because even with their evidence i straight up denied it and nothing has happened off it - inlaws dont do fetish anyway because they are born again.

    It is my belief that those Taboo's are fables, legit fables meant to scare women from cheating....my first cousin is married to an esan man. Infact, after her traditional wedding she told us her mother inlaw, oldest sil and a relative of her hubby woke her up at night to perform some type of ritual with the blood of a goat that was killed in her presence ....apparently, this is part of their gimmicks!!! she was livid because her hubby never told her of this part nor did anything to stop his folks when she expressed concerns about that ritual. Even to allow her ring her folks and inform them during the process he refuse so she emotionally checked out from that marriage.....his first and second sons are for different men and so far, nothing like repercussions!! can i add she is now a grandma still married.....

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    1. 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲

      Melancholy

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    2. Hahahahahahaa, I am Sean, husband is sissoko, I have an Italian side boo here, whenever I come to nigeria i face my husband,we good like that, I will finish school and return or remain here then he will join me. Who taboo eep?

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    3. Meaning cheating runs in your family. You guys are doing well. Congratulations.

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    4. Anon 14:21 yes it does and guess what, there aint nothing you can do about it booboo!!! anyhoo, tradition only affects those whom belief in it and just because a lady partakes in the silly "rituals" to activate the said "tradition" dont mean it will catch anyone.....they are manmade and will be broken by men!!

      can anyone on this blog physically point to ANYONE they know PERSONALLY that cheated/sent money to their folks/collected money from an outsider and was negatively affected?? I am not talking about the ones that their MIL told them of their friends daughter's dogs owners cat breeder who is now roaming aimlessly in the village ohh

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    5. I hope u don’t abuse or look down on baby mamas or women who r not married, other than dat, CARRY GO.
      Seethe reason I will never condem Baba mamas. Because some of u have soiled ur vows those girls having kids for ur husbands r as a result of this taboos. Instead of killing u or ur child. Continue oooo

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    6. @anon 15:13 ....I love you!!! You are so real. πŸ₯°

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    7. Anon 15:13, you are the real deal.

      Those peddling fear and fables to cage women cannot mention one rapist that has gone mad or an irresponsible husband that has died from chasing skirt or denying his family of funds. Now they are talking of sacrifice, death and other things that would be the portion of their generations. RUBBISH. please if any one comes to make noise under this comment, sleep with their husbands and ensure they are driven out. Palm frond ko, palm wine ni πŸ™„πŸ˜πŸ˜’

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  24. Will have to ask my dad and hubby about this.

    Melancholy

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  25. Our own is if a man slept with you in your matrimonial bed, your sons will die except if the person confess on time and some rituals will ne done.

    Another one is if your husband catch you on bed with another man and he didn't make blood come out from the person's body he will die if you cook for him.

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  26. I won't marry into families that hodl on to this sick traditions. So it's ok for a man to cheat but a taboo for a woman?! I hate adultery and I don't intend to cheat but I hate this stupid traditions. Na to avoid esan and urhobo men be that.

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    1. Na wetin u no like ,go come to you. Maybe na Dem you go marry sef

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  27. See bvs hiding their identity to post their town taboo. 😁😁😁Funny people indeed.

    The people shouting no taboo don't travel nor know about their village culture.most might be born and breed in the city with busy parents..

    In my town Nanka, a widow is prohibited from seeing her spouse corpse. There is consequence of doing so. Some do see, while young widows avoid public seeing.

    Mention your town to help people with the information.

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    1. See my sister ooo,am from Nanka too. Enugwu village

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    2. Biko this is rubbish. I’m from Agbiligba Nanka, my mum is from Enugwu Nanka and she saw my dads corpse

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  28. The stories I read here today ehen..

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  29. None in my side but we all know cheating is bad and immoral. I've heard of some ridiculous ones like women not allowed to use contraceptives and in some families where women must remarry the husband's kin if she ever becomes a widow. I knew that was practised long ago and then it wasn't even compulsory but its mandatory in some families, if not terrible things will befall the widow and her children.

    Let's all investigate and know these taboos and fully disclose them to our intended. Give your intended the opportunity to back out if they know they won't be able to deal with it.

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  30. Who knows any from Ebu in Delta?

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  31. I just don't give a f#$!k

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  32. Adultery, Taboo here and there!
    If there is anything like that in my part of Enugu State, half of the married people there would've been all dead by now.
    Cheating on themselves is becoming like a sport... So humiliating!!
    It wasn't like that growing up but this younger generation, i have no word to describe the kind of acts i hear they commit regarding unfaithfulness!!! Jesus fix them, Amen πŸ‘

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