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Tuesday, June 30, 2020

Couch Convo - This Thing Called Marriage.

What is your opinion on Marriage ?





•Why did you get married?
Love?
Comfort`? 
Societal fulfilment? 
Age? 
Good s#x?
 Other reason?, please state:

•Are you proud of the reason you got married or you now regret it?

• if you were to turn back the hands of time, will you choose same partner?

• If you were to turn back the hands of time, will you bother at all with marriage?

•Have you done it and never will?

•have you done it and are happy?

•Do you think marriage is worth it?

*If you are single,will you get Married?

133 comments:

  1. Marriage is a BIG thing...o, it can make or mar you.
    I'm glad where i am today

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    1. Very true and that's why marriage should never be gotten into lightly. He is handsome,he is Rich ,he is educated etc should not be the main reason you are marrying that man or woman. You have to know who you are and the type of man that will complement you.

      I had to pass up a couple of proposal when I was ready to marry( it was the right time for me and I was ready to start a family) and married my hubby for so many reasons and I am happy that I did. Lieis not perfect( we don't have kids yet) but we will get there by God's grace.

      Conclusion: marry the person who is right for you and half of the work is done.

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    2. I married for love. If I could turn back the hands of time, I wouldn't have married this man but I would have still married for love. He turned out to be a pretender, hiding his true personality till after the wedding. My only question to him is, why marry me when your whole life's ideologies negate the marriage institution. Only response he gives all the time is , how will he have beautiful and intelligent kids if he doesn't marry a beautiful and intelligent woman... If only I knew early enough... So much details Stella...

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    3. Marriage is sweet and sour.just ride the storm in both experiences,it's an unpredictable institution.you think you know your partner very well but marriage unveils those tiny annoying attitudes,learn and adapt IF it's not physically, emotionally and sexually abusive.

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    4. I married for companionship! Mehn i was lonley, buried myself in my career yet cry myself to sleep at night.

      And yes, I married a man who was also going man with loneliness and almost on self destruct mode when we met and to puzzles just fell so perfectly in place.

      Yes, I will do it over and over again with him. He is the best I ever met.

      It is so worth the 36years long wait for me.

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  2. It's beautiful when it's with the right person.

    I believe if we follow on this path we've started with, there would be no regrets whatsoever.

    God help us.

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    1. Calm down..there is no such thing as a right person..stop it..the earlier we understand this the better.what if he changes tomorro ? Will you say you with right person ?
      The only person that can use the statement right person is God..because he had loved us even before we are born..when you start loving like Christ then you can say with the right person...even if they change in the next decades your love and the way you see em is that from a love perspective.

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    2. Anon, is it ur right person??? Me that said he is the right person know what I'm saying.

      Did u see my last sentence..... God help us. God helping us, he won't change and I won't change, if we must change in anyway, it will be for the better.

      You have every right to believe what u must about ur marriage and so do I, I married the right person....

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    3. What?! Of course there is such thing as the right partner! A good person can be married to another good person and they are not compatible. You can marry someone who brings out the witch and jezebel in you while someone else can marry Karishika and bring out the mother Teresa in her. My husband said he never dreamed he could have half the quality of life we live today till I came in and arranged his finances and highly rewarding investments. He has never been healthier nor more productive at work.

      So yes, there is such thing as wrong partner.

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    4. Anon 14.52, Eka Joy sounds calm to me.

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    5. I thought I married the right person. This barely six months since we got married and God! I pray it only gets better.

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  3. Honestly if I could turn back the hands of time I should have walked away rather than being manipulated into that sham marriage.

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    1. You weren't manipulated ..you failed yourself by not developing mentally...spiritually...financially and physically for the task ahead..marriage ..same with your husband too..so go back to the drawing board .

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    2. Anon, where did she say she's not financially, mentally and physically sound?

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    3. Anon 14:16 get the fuck off. Sometimes, people just need a little empathy.

      Look at how daft you sound talking like you know the poster's story. Acting like you've never made a mistake in your life.πŸ™„

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    4. πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„@anon 14:16

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    5. 14.16 Is it your manipulate? Some of you just enjoy kicking someone that is already on the ground.

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    6. Anon 14:16

      The only one with the best marriage on this blog

      We recognize your OKACHAMARA handwriting ...YOU AUNYTY OVERSABI CAN NEVER CHANGE

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  4. Done it with someone who gave me reasons to hate MEN. Regret ever going into marriage with him. A man that thinks marriage is a way to get an overgrown maid who washes. Cooks, sweeps and most especially sleep with him any moment he wants. Receive beating if she says no. She should also contribute to the family financially. A man that feels he is doing a woman a favour by allowing her bear his name. Oh. If only l knew. I will not have entered it. Am out. My self esteem is restored. My heart is open for a second chance in marriage with someone whom l can kneel down with and pray to God. I am a love addict. I promise to love him like no other. In all. Marriage is a beautiful experience with the right partner.

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    1. πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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    2. Honestly , men are really doing women a Favour by marrying em.you know why ? Women by default year for a relationship ..trust me they need someone to support and do th dirty and hard work..that's that...

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    3. Anon that had better be sarcasm

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    4. Really?? Must I get married? No, I dont think I must...I am selfish like that...Marriage is not everyone, dont be deceived by what society says, dare to be you, and be different. I wont judge you for getting married so please mind your damn business and dont judge me for choosing to be single!

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    5. I pray to experience real love before leaving this earth I’m a love addict too just loved the wrong one God please

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  5. When married to the right one,its a lovely journey even though it's not a smooth ride all the time but you'll have someone to ride with you.
    I don't have a rich husband but I have a rich marriage.
    God has been the third cord holding us together.

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    1. I looove what you said, you have a "rich marfisge." May God continue to bless your union.πŸ˜˜πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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    2. I love your mindset on marriage ..I feel you and your husband prepared for it.congrats.God bless your marriage and always stay true to your reality.

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    3. Marriage o. I don't know how I typed marfisge. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  6. I think people go into marriages for different reasons best known to them

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  7. Over to the married BVs

    Yes I would love to get married soon sefπŸ’ƒπŸΌπŸ’ƒπŸΌ it's a beautiful thing and it's God's institution

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  8. 🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢🚢

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  9. I'm Single but MARRIAGE scares the F outta me...
    I pray to God everyday to get it right, so many scary stories!!!

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    1. Take your mind off the bad marriages, you see and hear about. There are some good marriages out there.

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    2. I love the fact you truthful ..work on yourself and everything will fall in place .best of lucks .

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    3. Thanks @Candy and Anonymous 14:21
      God will help us all @Rhoda

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  10. Looking back,I'm glad i got married when i did.

    There has been up and down no doubt but nothing bigger than us thankfully and i pray it remains thay way.

    True, we no longer feel that tingling feeling we felt when dating but we cant do two days without seeing each other.. even a day and our communication is on point.

    Most days i get tired and stressed, i mean we have our differences but no regrets.

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  11. All I know is that it is erroneous and naive to think you can be sexually attracted to your partner for life!!

    Also it's naivety to think your spouse cannot be sexually attracted and even aroused(This is for both gender) by another, simply
    because he/she said they love you!

    It's also funny to think, your spouse who is crazily in love with you,cannot love and have a good life with another.

    Whatever are your dealings in life, make sure you have a leverage.

    Don't ever put yourself in a position whereby you will be at the mercy of your fellow human being. Never do that to yourself!

    Money and information gives you power and leverage!


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    1. Kai, this resonates with me so bad.

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    2. Ha! I dont belive another man can ever arouse me o. Abi? I cant imagine it. I might not vouch for my husband o, but me...yuck.

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  12. I believe marriage is worth it. Companionship, love,and support I believe should be our motive for marriage. Money and sex can be achieved collectively..

    There are so many bad representation of marriage these days. Dv,cheating,maltreatment.inshort horrible things are just attributed to marriages these days and it makes me wonder why people get married.

    I don't want to regret getting married, or after getting married I discover my partner is the opposite of what i believe or thought it was.

    See ehn. I have so many questions so many what ifs. So many fears.

    But YES I want to get married. I just pray God helps me. Give me the right partner and the grace to be the right partner also

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  13. Very single, I believe in the sanctity of marriage, I believe that there are happy marriages and the key is mutual respect, love and understanding. I believe in gender equality and in marriage it has to remain so. If you believe in what I believe, fantastic but the real problem will come when you agree to something and midway you change your belief. PROBLEM!
    The space where I am at now sef *scratches head* I am wondering if I will do this thing sef. I want kids more than I want to get married.

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    1. siiiiss i get d drift. Marriage to blackman with ego na die. Im very comfortable,have a good business nd a son. I don't see me getting married anytime soon.. nd if i do;not to a blackman. I believe in unending gender equality nd freedom. But no, marriage in nigeria na bondage. I dont even want more kids. More money and peace of mind will do.

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    2. Anon there's nothing wrong with marriages in Nigeria.what exactly is you people's problem with Nigeria or black people ,so what White's are better because of what exactly. What brought Nigeria into it.there are bad marriages everywhere .I've learnt that you can always look at the bad and act accordingly or look at the good and work towards it.

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    3. Thank you Malley! Well said

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    4. @14:10, I'm married to a Nigerian man in Nigeria and my marriage is pure bliss. Please stop the stereotype! There are very good black/Nigerian men.

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    5. I have lived with both Nigerians and whites (Americans) so let me state my opinion. Stereotypes are not untrue, just that they are not the only story. Nigerian women are raised to respect/honor men, especially their husbands. Nigerian men control/maltreat their wives because they can get away with it (the constitution doesn't protect women) but they will spend on you. On the other hand, white men have less masculine toxicity - they support their wives careers, they don't get threatened, and they happily help with housework; however, they expect the woman to contribute financially. White women are free birds, they love deeply but get bored/divorce quickly. Black men enjoy dating white girls cos they get sex easily (which they don't easily get from black women until there is a commitment), and white girls split bills during dates without being asked. However, they marry these women and see they can't try rubbish with them. You cheat, she cheats back. Chores must be shared. Plus she is ever ready to file for divorce, walking away with half your money.

      My verdict: Marriage between a Nigerian woman and white man has a high likelihood to work well - they will both respect and help each other in the home.
      Marriage between a Nigerian man and a white woman is less likely to work - the white woman wouldn't tolerate the mess the Nigerian woman will tolerate and the Nig man can't exert the control and dominion he wants. Try rubbish and they are gone with the home and half your money.
      [All assumptions made on likelihood]

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  14. Hmmmm!marriage.i got married cos of love, hubby is not well to do yet (we are hopeful) but I married him because I loved him. These days, I question if he really loves me as much. Just last night I found out he was still chatting with a female friend I warned him about. He is always behaving like he wants to compensate her over something. He initiated convos that are full of suggestions. I have warned him that if he is not careful, he will do what he thinks he will not do. I cried my eyes out last night because I know I don't deserve such a man but because of love. I have a son and I won't trade him for anything, I miss my family(parents and siblings). He has been begging but I am wary of forgiving because he has done this twice and apologized over this same girl but he did again this night. I am ready to walk away because marriage is not do or die. I will still get married again in my next life because I am a sucker for love. I regret mine.

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    1. Madam better learn to toughen your heart and stop the tears. Its good you warn him and what not. But dont give any man dat power to determine ur happiness. Put ur happiness towards ur kids instead. Marriage is a beautiful thing,im married myself and i got married at an age i was mature, aware and knew myself. So i had it at d back of my mind not to put my happiness in anyones hands but myself. We came to dis world alone and we shall leave alone. Lets stop making our parters the reason we exist.

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    2. Good..but just know this truth ..you weren't prepared for it ..you and your husband weren't prepared for it

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    3. Madam theres more to life than marriage. What will it profit you to stay sad to retain mrs? Grow a thick skin and die slowly inside...later you'll start looking older than the man that troubles your peace. I think you should follow ur heart. Breathe a different air. Travel to see your family,clear ur head and make up ur mind on what to do. As for me, i always choose my peace and freedom over set rules and societal titles. You are the CEO of your life and you choose who to fire,hire and retain.

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    4. Madam theres more to life than marriage. What will it profit you to stay sad to retain mrs? Grow a thick skin and die slowly inside...later you'll start looking older than the man that troubles your peace. I think you should follow ur heart. Breathe a different air. Travel to see your family,clear ur head and make up ur mind on what to do. As for me, i always choose my peace and freedom over set rules and societal titles. You are the CEO of your life and you choose who to fire,hire and retain.

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    5. You are ready to walk away from your marriage because your husband is chatting with another girl? Are you for real? Madam,marriage is not for children oh and it's a lifetime commitment. The man you married isn't perfect,as I am sure you yourself are not. You better toughen up and re-orient yourself about what marriage is all about and how you will make it work.

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    6. Anon 14:40 she is the one who will make it work abi? See do what make you happy and if anyone must that marriage work it should be both of Nigeria women can carry marriage for head, and that is the reason the men treat them like they are doing them a favor.

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  15. I am single and will definitely get married.

    Marriage is a blessing but we must seek the face of the Lord on whom He has chosen for us however, that doesn't mean there won't be challenges - challenges will come but it takes the grace of God and understanding of two different beings to overcome it.

    My prayer is that everyone facing one challenge or the other in their marriage may the Lord help you overcome it.

    To the married ones oya over to you, make I go carry my note pad πŸƒπŸƒπŸƒ

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  16. *love, companionship, procreation
    *Yes
    *Yes
    *Yes
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    *Yes
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    To God be the glory.

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  17. I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I believe in the family unit

    Marriage is a beautiful thing between two people that seeks companionship in the bosom of each other.

    I have done it before and I will do it again.
    I am not one of those that sees marriage as something unworthy of respect and honour.

    When you meet the right person for you, and you for them, everything just start falling into place no matter how long it may take sometimes.

    I don't believe in marriage of convenience though.

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  18. I got married because of love.
    No I'm not regretting it.
    Yes I will choose the same partner, but he would have to come from a different family.(they are fetish).
    Yes marriage is a good thing when you are married to the right person.
    Yes, I'm happy being married,but I'm always sad because I'm still TTC. 😞

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    1. Baby girl so sorry about what you are going through, this is the third time am reading your talk about you Ttc. Just keep trusting God,He will come through

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    2. God will come through for you BooπŸ€—πŸ˜πŸ˜˜πŸ’–

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    3. God will grant you what your heart desires. Keep trusting HIM, do the necessary things to get pregnant, one of which is making love often, not just when you're ovulating. You will testify. 😘😘😘

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  19. Not married yet. To be honest, the idea of a forever commitment is daunting.

    Also, I don't want to get married and end up trading down my lifestyle like yesterday's chronicle poster.

    I'm very protective of my happiness and general well-being so any appearance of dodginess sends me running for the hills.

    Perhaps I'll think differently about marriage if I meet someone that I completely am in tune with.

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  20. These days I find myself really praying to God to help me get it right in marriage. I feel I'm ready to get married and I don't want to ever make a mistake in that area. I know it's not a bed of roses, I know there will be ups and downs but I believe with the right partner, we'll scale through

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  21. Marriage is a beautiful thing.
    I'm glad i married mine and have no regret whatsoever,4years and still counting.

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  22. I regret marrying,if I can go back in time I would choose a different person or remain single. I got married because I didn't want to go back home after NYSC,cuz my mum is troublesome.i loved him no doubt.but I regret marrying him every day.

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  23. I regret ever getting married.my husband believes that he is my lord. So therefore controls everything about your life. Controls the way you dress and everything. Our love making is wack.

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    1. He controls everything about your life he has contirls everything about the way you dress. Was he like this before or he pretended and turned 360 after marriage? Don't let him stifle your spirit. Try to put your feet down little by little. You both did not come to the world together. You only met him on this earth don't let him dictate your Destiny.

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    2. You married him like that stop pretending. I know your type, you pretend to like his lordship during courtship them want to act independent when you finally get the ring.

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    3. 15.04 @ KNOW YOUR TYPE...Noah

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  24. Marriage is good but i think i settled cos i didn't really know what i wanted. I found out i even settled for lesser than i thought. Being Naive doesn't save you from a bad marriage which was my case. I didn't really believe people had such temper and hit others. I didnt know much about physical and emotional abuse or i just expected it not to happen to me. I also allowed a religious leader influence my decision , despite being weary of the relationship( My spirit warned me that the relationship was becoming toxic but it wasn't yet physical but i was told i am being either too choosey or looking for faults after all igbo men have Ego). I am divorced with a lil daughter. i have equipped my self with so much knowledge about men and marriage for myself and my daughter. I think marriage benefits the men more cos they start acting handicapped and so entitled once married. Talking to an adult like a child, humiliating you. A lot of men have low self esteem and destroy anything good in sight to make themselves feel better. Now i drive an SUV and doing a little bit better than i was, People say "oh! your car will drive men away or you have to tell the guy its your fathers car". i never even hammer and see their mind. with all the bad roads in Lagos, you think an SUV is a luxury? Marriage is worth it if done with the right person (hardworking, respectful, honest and peaceful). I would never have married my ex. Never!.

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    1. I'm glad your doing well for yourself. Please don't mind people o, follow your mind and the one who's meant for you will surely find you. Even if you drive a Lamborghini πŸ‘πŸ‘

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    2. Yes driving an SUV will drive men away. Men with low self esteem and insecurity issues and it will bring male golddiggers close too. So be careful.

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  25. Marriage is a beautiful thing when you marry the LOYL,When you marry someone that gives you peace,when there is companionship and a little bit of ego(money), of course I will marry,singles pls look well before you leap so you won't enter into a second marriage,above all it's grace,onye chukwu goziri

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  26. I'm married and I'm very, very happy. I have a great marriage( thank God) If I could turn back the hands of time, I'll marry my husband again.

    I was really, really scared of marriage because of my parents marriage but I married a man who is totally different from my dad.

    My husband LOVES and FEARS God and he comes from an amazing family. His parents have a great marriage and they've been married for about 37 years. I wanted a man who grew up in a family totally different from mine. He grew up in a model home and saw what it feels like to have a good marriage. This has really helped ours.

    Marriage is beautiful when you're married to the right person and if both of you are intentional about making it work.

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    1. Keyword: INTENTIONAL about making it work. It's a continuous decision.

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    2. @onyinye, it definitely is a conscious, continuous decision by both parties.

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  27. I'm glad I married my own, my best friend.

    I married for love and no regrets whatsoever.

    Every now and then, I love to always thank God cos He alone made it happen and it has been His grace alone that everything has been the way it is. Honestly, I will always ascribe all glory, praise and honour to God. Na God abeg! Ore ofe ni mo ri gba. Ope ni fun Oluwa!

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  28. I am single, and YES, I want to get married, when the right man for me comes along. I look at my younger sister marriage, and I want that and more. She and her husband are friends. The way they gist, and yab each other is funny and sweet at the same. He's almost 10years older than her, but he respects her. Their love is priceless. And oh, how they adore their boys, my cute nephews. 😘😘😘

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    1. 🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭

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    2. Phoenix darlin, 😘😘😘

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  29. i plan on getting married but i just pray itll be worth it...and i'll do my best to make it work

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  30. I am on it,few days to my wedding anniversaryπŸ₯°

    I had marriage phobia,I wish I had gotten married early though as it isn't as scary as I thought.
    My major concern before accepting his proposal was his family.
    I had to meet them first, I didnt want any inlaw brouhaha.
    They are fun,we respect each other and genuinely care for each other.
    we stay far from each of our family so no family member has ever stayed with us or slept over for one day.
    The first few months was a bit tough on me,the sharing of bed🀣,hubby has mild OCD,the arguement of why cant I put things in order(I scatter things alot).
    we have grown to know each other better so arguement became less to non existence.
    I can remember the 4th month,I told hubby I wasnt doing again abegπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚he cried ehn.
    Married to a chef is fun,new recipes,no stress of being the only cook.
    Hubby cleans,cook extremely well(he has colorful aprons)can do market runs and so emotional and romantic(he says I am not romantic,I say na lagos upbringing cause am🀣).
    I married a yoruba man but born and bred in delta.
    I am delta but born and bred in lagos.
    I speak yoruba fluently but hubby can't.
    we use the language we know to yab each other🀣🀣.
    for now,we are a English speaking couple.
    I hope to learn his delta language though.
    I am blessed and grateful to God that despite my negative thoughts towards marriage, I am loving itπŸ₯°
    Happy wedding anniversary in advance to me and my mon coeurπŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°

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    1. Awww lovely story I laffed at your you-no-do-again

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    2. Awwwww, how I love this!!!
      Happy anniversary darling.
      One of the best things I love about my husband is his ability to cook, he doesn't mind at allll..
      Being an only daughter, I cooked ehn, Γ³lΓ³run!!!.
      I sabi cook but I don't enjoy it raa raa, it just feels so good to be taken care of in that dept..my boys will surely learn how to cook so they can make their wives feel the way I feel.

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    3. Happy Wedding Anniversary in advance to you guys. 😘😘😘.

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    4. I also scatter things a lot and take forever to arrange them back while my husband is the direct opposite. He has learnt to just accept it.


      His side of the bed is so tidy, but come and see mine, I even put one chair there where I can dump things. Make e no vex, I'm still working on adjusting.

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    5. Awwwww,your story made me smile.πŸ€—πŸ˜

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    6. Congratulations. .. and happy anniversary too. God continue to strengthen you both

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    7. πŸ₯°@Phoenix,we stay in a 3bedroom flat,so lot of space for me to go sulk🀣but hubby never let me sleep alone.i was so childish then,chai.
      πŸ₯°@Onyinyechechukwu,we are enjoying.
      πŸ₯°@Candy
      πŸ₯°@Eka joy,we are soul sisters,God bless our husbands.
      πŸ₯°@Raquel
      πŸ₯°@Odunayo,Amen.

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    8. Ok so I am not alone in scattering things. πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„

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    9. Eka, you got me laughing. I like you a lot and I think if we knew each other, we would make good friends. I always look for your comment. Happy Anniversary poster.

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    10. Aww 😍
      This is sweet.
      Happy anniversary in advance dear.

      Please teach me how to make organic soap naπŸ˜‰

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  31. The only time im getting married is when i meet my white soul mate nd if i dont, ill stay single. Blackmen ove met have black behaviour and think women need them like no mans business nd cant survive without them or marriage... slightly true for women who dont love themselves genuinely. The 2 white guys i dated were the best in my life. The love they gave was just it. But life happens. Marriage to a blackman is slavery not love.. if you think im lying, try marry make u no born, see weda dem no go make ur life hell. Him or his family. African marriage na transaction. Women dat wants to marry... make money before u marry ,while married nd if u decide to leave. Your money is your security and 95% of nigerian men esp dont like financially independent women.. they like doormats.. it boosts their egos.

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    1. Nobody cares. Stella didn’t ask for your opinion. Carry your low self esteem and low self worth de go. Marry white but don’t bring down any black person. None of them has asked you for marriage for a very good reason obviously.

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    2. So sad youve met wrong people does Not mean every black man is bad. So if you don't see a white man what will you do. You know the body is just a container there are whitemen that do worse to their partners than black men . please don't stereotype so you don't make mistakes.

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  32. I believe in love,i believe in the sanctuary of marriage. The person you marry is going to be the most important decision you make in your entire life. It determines ur happiness,ur wellbeing,ur way of living,even ur health. Cos some men can give you mental health issues dat will affect ur overall health.
    Choose wisely,choose a man dat respects u,choose one in ur socio-economic class; it makes ur marriage easier cos u live each others lifestyle before and after marriage; and u have same expectations.
    Im happy about the decision i made. It took me time to find d right person and we are not perfect in any way but we understand eachother most times.

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  33. Marriage is an institution created by God and I definitely want to get married to a good man later.

    One prayer I pray though is that,if I will marry the wrong person,God should just make me remain single cos it won't be an easy ride at all.

    I pray God will help us all in Jesus Christ Name

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  34. I got married for love.
    If I had my way, I'll delay a little. Work on myself financially.

    Experience the outside world before I got married. Bought properties, opened a shop and a whole lot of other dreams I had.

    I was naive

    If you're still single, work on your finance. Love only is not enough. Marriage is in a dimension of it's own.

    I didn't see myself like this 10 years ago.
    I married a good guy.

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  35. Marriage is pure bliss 🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️
    But wait, that is if you involve Jesus every step of the way. 🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️
    Some people involve him only in their wedding but shut him out of
    their marriages 🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️
    And they go through marriage groping in the dark and stumbling and 🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️

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  36. I believe in marrying right, I try not to settle for less, but it's like only men without values are the one coming my way, and most times they act like I should be grateful. Being physically challenged and a woman in Nigeria is not easy. I am a focused and God fearing human, God please bless me with my own husband.

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    1. He will, dear. He surely will. πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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  37. Hmmm marriage requires great work and no interference from any third party. I lost my marriage due to third party interference.
    Oh I tried to save my marriage but he wasn't co-operative. We parted ways and he abandoned his son. I have now become a single mom against my wish. I adore my son very much but i regret marrying his dad, he caused a lot of sadness in my life.
    I have moved on but I believe in love and I will remarry once I meet a great guy who will accept me and my son in sha Allah.

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    1. πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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  38. There used to be a segment on here were people told stories of their great/good marriages/relationships. This was a few years ago. I can't seem to remember what it was called, and using the search-engine without having the right key-words has yielded nothing. Can anyone, please, help me out?

    @Stella, why did it stop?

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  39. Stella , i thought i married a God fearing man , didn't know he is a closated faggot,whi will fuck his partner on our matrimonial bed. Hiw did i find out? I snooped! He denied it at first when i showrd him evidence of his chat with his lover , he started apologising, how me and the children are Hiv negative is GOD.5 years after marriage he was diagnosed with hiv. Went for prayers and his pastor said he should inform me , that is the only reason why he told me . The bastard never told me he been sleeping with men before marriage and while married. 13 years in marriage, i am just thinking how i will inform the children i have to divorce their father..when i look at him i hust see evil ,all this while pretends to be a Christian yet furking men . I will send my story one day .im broken beond words . Sorry i did not proof read . I am devastated i would have killed him if not because we have children together. Pls i need advice and words of healing

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    1. Please, avoid becoming a murderer, because your children will be all alone. Dead father,mother doing time. Walking away seems likr the best and reasonable option. When your kids are older, maybe you explain to them what went down. Be safe dear. πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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    2. I'm sorry

      I know your pain is raw and fresh .....I'm sending you comfort darling

      I wish I were your sister...I would pull you away from this mess by just letting you rant your heart out...

      I'm sorry this happened to you.

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  40. Marriage is a beautiful experience, especially if you are opportuned to be blessed by a mini you and great inlaws.

    I married him because I felt a connection between us, we both have similar attributes and that has made this institution a wonderful one for me. Over the years, We have grown from strength to strength, built a strong love as best friends, deals with our challenges with so much patience and faith, and has never regretted coming together in 7 years.

    If I could turn the hands of clock, I would have waited to become financially stable before venturing into marriage, the burden is not for one person alone. But will over and over choose the man in my life right now.

    NB: Remember, no marriage is perfect, and no author has the magic tips for a successful marriage because what works for Mr A might not work for Mr B. πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒ

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    1. Nice one dear.
      May God continue to bless your home 😊

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  41. I am single and believe that marriage will be sweet for me. God from my mouth to your ears.

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  42. Mine is opposite of a beautiful marriage. Married to a community dick including househelps. Married to a serial and bold liar. Married to the biggest hypocrite of our time. Married to man with a very high but low self esteem. Married to a very rigid and unromantic man. Married to a very strong as in hard hearted man. Simply put, My husband is not a good man

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    1. Marriage can be a little slice of heaven (if good)or little slice of hell(if bad) got my own slice of hell. Pls God give me my own slice of heaven in marriage again πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ™

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  43. As a Christian young girl,my opinion is that marriage is good!...

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  44. Yes,I will definitely be married. Firstly, to one whose God given purpose aligns with mine;thereby making my falling in love with him so effortless.It's more of a soul connection..

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  45. I married for love.9years down the line with three beautiful boys our love is string waxing stronger.
    I have no regret what so ever.
    I will pick him again and again.
    Marriage is sweet when God gives you your own wife/husband where him (God) is part of the home.you both will understand your selves better and always work hard deliberately to please one another.

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  46. I believe marriage is a beautiful thing 😍
    I'll get married for love πŸ˜˜πŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒ

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