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MARRYING INTO A JEHOVAH WITNESS' FAMILY
Does anyone have an experience with marrying into a Jehovah's witness family where your partner has broken out from? How does marrying them feel like as their doctrines is totally different.
What should i expect from them?How do i treat them?
*i Don't know anything about Jehovah's witnesses but i am sure that there are some here that can give you some insight into what you are walking into...
If you ask me,i would say DO NOT MARRY A JW if you are not one of them.....
My dear don't start what you can't finish. Go an see his people first and decide what is best for you.
ReplyDeletePlease do as advised.
DeleteTrue. Poster, you are the assessor. Go visit them and scrutinise them to see if you like them. It's not you that should be struggling on how to get them to like you, it's the other way round. Good your guy had broken out of their faith. Just be nice and don't don nothing extra to impress them from day one. Their son not marrying a JW is already a huge statement that he is not looking back.
DeleteGood luck.
Pls y'all, note that poster said her intended has broken out of JW.
DeleteDear poster, you can go ahead if your intended has broken out but you must be prepared for cold treatment from his family.
DeleteBuild strong bonds with your husband and share same spirituality.
Be ready to deal with bad minds....the most hardened hearts.
ReplyDeleteAnd pray u dont fall into a situation where you'd need blood. Once a JW always a JW.
Not true. Once a JW is not always a JW. Many of their children hold their peace till they are grown to leave their parents the bail never looking back. They will celebrate birthdays, Chrismas, and never wanting any thing to do with JW. Many of their children hate the faith with passion. You can't blame them. The faith and their people are not attractive at all.
DeleteI agree with stella,do not marry a jehova witness if you arent one.Simple
ReplyDeleteWhile it may not be wise to generalize, the few I know are peaceful. I can assure you that if he is a well grounded JW, he will never cheat on you...
ReplyDeleteHahaha haha, I laugh in swahili @ he will not cheat on you 🤣 😆 😂 😄 😅
DeleteShe said he broke out. Go back and read again.
DeleteLmao....@he will never cheat on u.
DeleteShould we tell her? 😁😁😁
Marrying them is simple..
ReplyDeleteJust make sure your handbag,footwear,makeup are too notch!..
No Christmas or birthday celebration
No partying!...
Be ready to trek from ajah to lekki disturbing people in their houses in the name of evangelism!..
Remember there is no hell fire or heaven in their doctrine..
Enjoy!..
Lai Lai. I can never join them. I'm the poster.🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️
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Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Linda you are not well. You've finished me with laughter.
DeletePoster, I don't think you should be worried. After all you said your soon to be husband has broken out of it. I don't think you should write your them off just because they are witnesses. Try and study them to see if they are good people. My grandparents were witnesses. My mum was too until marriage but we never had any difficulty concerning them. Infact, they never imposed anything on my family. When we visit them, they don't take us to their worship centres.
And even if you say he has broken out, he will still never value any celebration. He could even claim it's waste of money to celebrate Valentine's, Xmas, easter, and the likes.
DeleteHhahahahaa Queen you very Funny o... kaiii...
DeleteQueen, u did not add Umbrella. Poster, where are you running to? 😂😂😂. Anyways, I know JWs are nice ppl but they're very rigid when they or their kids are marrying outside their belief.
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DeleteNot in all cases though, am married to a JW, to be honest the journey hasn't been easy but I took my stand and am still on it that I wont become one, I do attend birthdays, naming, Christmas party and d likes but alone; I mean without our kids which I don't have problems with....dear poster no marriage is perfect but take your stand, reach an agreement with him; I mean talk about everything they dont do to know what you are in for; to top it all make sure your are financially secured. Best of luck to you.
DeleteHello Poster, What do you mean by your partner broke out from JW. Did your partner say that they are no longer JW. Which church does the person attend now?. Plenty questions because if he is in acrimony with his family, then things will be difficult, they can choose not to attend your wedding. I am married to a liberal JW family. They are the best in laws and I attend my own church. What ever decisions you make try and avoid causing further division in the family. If the wahala is too much please take a walk. Dont enter a home where there is bitter acrimony. It will suck you in.
ReplyDeleteWell,him and his people communicate regularly. He attends a Pentecostal church now. He left JW since over 20yrs ago.
DeleteHe left JW 20years ago? Please marry him. His family will respect their space. It's not today JW started loosing their offspring to other faith. Less than 40% of their offspring stay and live on in the faith.
DeleteSo what is your own spiritual identity?
ReplyDeleteWhy don't we talk about if someone "belong to Christ or not" (based on their salvation experiences, evidenced in their good characters
and reverence of Christ), instead of
vain emphasis on their denominations
and family denominations?
I have long noted that most of the differences Christians have is
based on the Old Covenant. But the New
Covenant is same and Christ is revered as Lord. Let's emphasize the
things that unite us instead of the things that divide us.
I do not belong to any denomination,
I belong to Christ and I can only advise
a person who is in Christ to marry
within the family of Christ.
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It's better for intending couple to be on the same page.
DeleteRead yourself again. Did you answer her question? Did you proffer any solution?
DeleteANG, I think you watched or listened to RON CARPENTER'S Message today "GOD'S PEOPLE" - because of this part of your comment @"Let's emphasize the
Deletethings that unite us instead of the things that divide us."
ANG you are really improving❗✔️ 👍💞
@18:23
DeleteI don't even know whom "Ron carpenter" is. Does he build benches? 😊😊
I don't have any denomination.
All I know is my bible and my Lord Jesus Christ. My fellowship is in my house.
I don't embroil myself with denominational tangos (@Saphire) and I stated it clearly.
i was born as a JW and my family are still are but i rebel and married a non JW. be prepared because they will make you become a JW by fire by force, you will carry bag weekly to preach everywhere, no more christmas, naming ceremony, birthdays or nothing. you will not get Blood in medical emergency, so be prepared to die or your kids if any emergency requires you to have blood. I mean its a good religion, but the rules are too much. They cherish marriage sha, no room for divorce unless on forbication ground.Aside from all this , if you are prepared, you will enjoy your marriage with them
ReplyDeleteDie fire. So one useless human being will ask me not to take blood or give my kids blood if the need arises? Won ti bi da
DeleteExcept ur spouse is from a troublesome family, he isn't a JW anymore so nothing holds him back. My fathers entire family are witnesses but my dad left. In fact when they met , he never told my mom until after the wedding. He told her she couldn't attend Anglican church anymore. She being the calm woman didnt fight. She just let the matter be. His family never disturbed her. They just kept encouraging her to consider the faith in good light. It wasn't until after 20 something years He went back, convinced her and she joined him. Attimes HE would get aggressive about it but l always stood by her and reminded him religion isn't by force. My cousin who left years ago got married to a lady who isn't one recently and we welcomed her whole heartedly. But keep in mind that his family would keep trying to convince him to return to the faith. And he might. So open your heart and see maybe u might look favourably at becoming one someday. Cos if he returns he would/might want you with him. Keeping family peace and harmony when it happens.(by the way, l don't know how l will react if my partner did what my dad did to my mom. She is 1 in a million.) 46yrs of marriage last year.
ReplyDeleteWow,congrats to them. 46yrs wedding anniversary no be beans.
DeleteI wouldn't want that kind of thing for myself. Today we are, tomorrow we are not plus people whispering every other day in your ears. It's for the strong hearted not me.
DeleteThanks sassy
DeleteLol Stella chilax the partner is not a member anymore. Or is it a scheme to lure u poster?
ReplyDeleteYou are on your own!
ReplyDeleteIf your husband to be is not a mummy's boy and can stand to his desicions then you are good to go,but if not stay on your Lane ooo
ReplyDeleteJehovah Witness WILL NOT you problems BUT DO NOT ARGUE DOCTRINES WITH THEM.
ReplyDeleteYour fiancé has broken off from them but if he DECIDES TO GO BACK, find below what to expect:
Jehovah Witness doctrines differ from Christianity in these areas - 1.)they do not believe Jesus Christ came in the flesh, 2.) only 144,000 predestinated people will go to heaven 3.) a new heaven and earth (paradise) will be occupied by JWs 4.) their Watch Tower publication is the tenets of their faith/beliefs 5.) they do not celebrate Birthdays and Christmas.
The ones I have lived and interacted with mind their business - not fanatical.
Na wa o.
DeleteJehovah Witness WILL NOT you *give* problems BUT DO NOT ARGUE DOCTRINES WITH THEM.
Delete(pardon the typo)
2 out of what you have stated there are not true
DeleteAll four highlighted points are lies@16.01
DeletePlease, what about deeper life too?
ReplyDeleteThey are the best in-law. My husband and his family no get problem at all. Though he is liberal.
ReplyDeleteThat's nice
DeleteHmmmmm,🤔
ReplyDeleteGo and witness Jehova na
ReplyDeleteWishing you luck.
ReplyDeleteHe has left the faith for 20 something years so you don't have anything to worry about, though they make good husband sha
ReplyDeletePoster, at the end of the day, the ball's in your court, as I believe no 'advise'from here would make you change your mind, especially, if you've decided.
ReplyDeleteWhat gives me worry however, is: reading comments about people who 'broke away' for twenty years or more, got married to non-JWs, only to return to their doctrine and somehow convinced the spouses to join them....mmm is this like a tact?
To win people over, you know, like keep growing their followers. No matter how long it took to subtilty or overtly win them? Just asking.
I don't know, but if you can deal with that eventually, and apart from the Church thing, you really want to share your life with this man, then go ahead.
I don't think you have anything to worry about considering he hasn't been one for 20 years. Ensure he has a good character. It's unlikely the family will give you issues.
ReplyDeleteGo and pray
ReplyDeleteFocus attention and hear GOD's opinion
HE alone knows the future