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OVER REACTED OR NOT?
Please BVs am I over reacting or not?
Please BVs am I over reacting or not?
Some days back , I went to a shopping mall with my husband and kids, my husband saw a female secondary school mate that didn't even recognize him and he introduced himself to her.
They chatted up In my presence and my husband requested for her phone number. I felt embarrassed. I later told him but he's still insisting that's nothing. I mean how can you be requesting for another woman's number in the presence of your wife?.
*What is all this? Dont you have self confidence or trust your spouse? what is the big deal about what he did? He did not do anything to make you feel embarrassed, it is your mindset.
*What is all this? Dont you have self confidence or trust your spouse? what is the big deal about what he did? He did not do anything to make you feel embarrassed, it is your mindset.
Please take it easy and be more flexible cos this behavior will ruin your marriage...if you dont want him to do it in front of you, he can as well do it behind you.
Women sef. Okay what if he collected the number behind you?
ReplyDeleteNa wa. No be u say e classmate?? Obviously they hv not seen for a long time. U are obviously insecure.
DeleteEhemm, sorry poster but you are petty. Would you have reacted in that way if it was a male colleague he met. Nne, once again you are petty.
ReplyDeleteMy own husband go bad mouth a woman in my front, tomorrow you will see his chat with the same woman "baby babying" her.
Delete15:57, you are in a situationship. That is not marriage
Delete😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry that I'm laughing, but this is funny ,
Hey ma'am it's not a big deal to be honest, I mean they were school mates, you didn't tell us if he acknowledged you as his wife .
But i have a question for you, would you have preferred if he asked for the number behind you ?
It's really not a big deal and yes you are overreacting, except you don't trust your husband.
I think she’s more concerned that the lady didn’t recognize him from onset so why ridicule himself by going further to ask for her contact like he’s desperate for her attention. That’s what I interpreted sha.
DeleteYeah I agree with you White Enchantress...I share your sentiments Poster but don't allow that get to you..I won't say that you are over reacting...Just focus on you and your kids...He clearly embarrassed himself...
DeleteEnchantress there is nothing like ridicule in such situation.. Some people are not good in remembering faces while others change drastically. So your submission no follow.
DeleteEmbarrass himself as per asking for phone number he probably may not call..
Choco I agree with you..
Lovelace
I agree with you, TWE Baibay. There’s something there..for a classmate that doesn’t recognise him, he really wants to stay in touch with her. Almost like he’s fangirling
DeleteI totally agree with you.
DeleteI agree with TWE. I asked hubby the same question and he said her grievance were right ! She didn’t recognise him so why is he pushing for relationship?
DeleteWhere was he pushing for a relationship. You people will just be projecting your insecurities on others. Hissss
DeleteMy dear, let me join you hissssssssssssssss
Delete😆🤣😂 Insecure much? ZUKWANUIKE!
ReplyDeleteIf your girlfriend does this, you will accept it?
DeleteUncle, no answer?
Delete🤣🤣🤣
He can't answer definitely
DeleteHe didn't do anything wrong. I just don't like the idea of male and female friendship especially when one or both are married.
ReplyDeleteInsecurity.
ReplyDeleteMadam take a chill pill.
Yes. Bandits, terrorists everywhere. Pray for Nigeria.
DeleteYes, you are over reacting. He hasn’t given you a reason to be suspicious.
ReplyDeleteNot every man cheats or wants to flirt with other women.
They will chat on WhatsApp, from there it may go haywire, especially if your husband cheats on a normal day.
ReplyDeleteI love you for this. Unlike all these people that their husbands cheat and share with them stds
DeleteI just like the fact you don't mince words.. she's over reacting because she knows her husband better than we do
DeleteVery possible
DeleteThank you nne@ giftmoesha
DeleteThank you BB
DeleteAll these people shouting, if it was their wife or brother's wife that did that, they will call for her head.
15:19, I do wonder, why would a woman remain with a man that cheats and gives her STDs?
God forbid bad thing.
If the reverse was the case, will your husband remain with you?
That is how he will give you the one that will kill you before your time, foolish women everywhere.
Personally, I don't think what he did is bad. He's just reconnecting with an old friend. Are you saying he should not have female friends or what? You should have a problem when he has crossed the line.
ReplyDeleteFrom clap, e enter dance.
DeleteMust they reconnect??? Just say hello and bounce, if reverse were to be the case here am sure the husband would have been calling her names by now
DeleteFemale friends? What is a married man doing with female friends?
DeleteSo married women are also free to have male friends?
Women can over stress things...
ReplyDeleteDidn't he introduced u as his wife?
Did he leave with her?
Your picture can be their DP n they still cheat.
DeleteBlackberry, you seem VERY experienced nne, Phd in man matter.
DeleteWell said Blackberry! Once they constantly post their wife and family on their DP, na them.
DeleteLol Stella don't blame her it's because men, especially Nigerian men are ashawo hehehehehehhe...
ReplyDeleteOk madam der is nothing wrong in that he might just want to catch up with his friend and NOTHING else, I know you might have your reservation ABOUT it but do you know how many numbered he has collected behind you? And the ones he will still collected in the FUTURE? So pls don't take it to heart. What if you are not der? The lady is his friend so it's normal to want to request for her number but the lady in question the did not recognize him...which means der are not close friends back in sch so I wonder what dem want discuss...hmmmn
Just take it out of your mind, be happy but be CAUTIOUS.
Be cautious?
DeleteThere is no "cautious" where Nigerimen are. If he wants to cheat,he will cheat and the wife will know, nothing will happen. Our women are foolish. I'm sure the poster's husband has cheated in the past, reason she is worried. They tolerate there men and swallow nonsense all in the name of marriage
I don't see it as a big deal. Anyway, you know your husband better than we do.🤷
ReplyDeleteThere's no harm
ReplyDeleteNa wa o..Be calming down abeg madam
ReplyDeleteIf your husband is promiscuous, then you have reasons to be worried. Taking the number in your presence implies some level of innocence sha...
ReplyDeleteMaybe they were really great friends in secondary school. Those times carry a lot of joyful memories for many people.
ReplyDeleteTo answer the question of whether you are over reacting or not depends on whether he is a known cheater or not. If he is a known cheater then I can understand the embarrassment, but if he has never given you any reason to question his fidelity then yes you are over reacting.
Take his phone and delete the number,na from clap e dey enter dance,why did he collect the number mtsheeewwwww,in your front for that matter,delete the number ASAP.
ReplyDeleteNow this is funny🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteOshey! Baddest!
DeleteHow many she go delete. Abeg let us rest... If the situation bad like that make she sef collect number in front her husband, so the equation go balance. Kapish
DeleteLovelace
If she deletes the number, the lady may call him and introduce herself all over, so?
DeleteIf she deletes and blocks her number, they may run into each other again another time, so?
You can't stop a shameless man from cheating, we should all pray for a God-fearing man as husband, that is the best. You won't even worry about anything.
The issue has two sides.
ReplyDeleteEither
1. Your husband has cheated on you before, so you don't trust him.
Or
2. You have cheated before, so you feel no one can be trusted.
If not, I see no reason why you should stop your husband from taking a phone number from an old school friend. Do you know what elevation that number can bring for him in this life? What if he had collected it behind you and saved it as Stephen? Wetin you for do? You for know?
Or are you saying he's not allowed to relate with any other female because he's married to you? Are you also saying there's no male number on your phone that isn't a relative's?
Madam calm down. Your husband did nothing wrong. For the fact that he even collected it in front of you shows he has no ulterior intention. He knows her name. He can chat her up on any of the social media platforms and take it up from there and do that thing you are afraid of.
On the other hand, did he introduce you to her? Or he just kept chatting without recognizing you. If so, he did wrong. And for that, sorry if you feel slighted. If he didn't, then, that should be your main annoyance. Tell him, next time, he should introduce you to people you meet together.
Sorry ehn? No vex.
Saved it as Stephen 😂
DeleteYou've articulated the main points really well. 👌
I guess I’m also very insecure because I’m pissed on her behalf as well. It’s disrespectful asking for another woman’s number in front of your wife period! Imagine it was the other way round, if the wife were to ask for another man’s number in front of her hubby or a man asks for her number in front of hubby would it not be disrespectful? Nah fuck that
ReplyDeleteWeak heart
DeleteAlex answer her last question? If a man asks for your wife's number in front of you or she asks for another man's number in front of you, how will you feel?
Deletechop kisses.He totally embarrassed his wife. I am sure he can't take what he dished out to his wife.
DeleteUncle Alex, you no answer? 😆😆😂😂😂😂
DeleteI can now see that you me cannot take what you support
Old school mates have WhatsApp groups these days. My set WhatsApp group was created by two people who accidentally boarded the same plane 4 years ago. We are celebrating our 40th anniversary of leaving school this year because of the two men who created the WhatsApp group and made effort to search for their classmates. Body too dey pepper some women,learn to trust your husband and don't create unnecessary problems in your matrimonial home. Collecting phone numbers from a schoolmate doesn't amount to disrespecting you. People like you no go even allow Una husband go old boys association meeting, dinner or reunion. Na
ReplyDeleteShe has a reason for being angry. Most of you here if it happens to u, you would act an opposite of what you wrote. Leave her to vent abeg, which man collects a phone number of an old friend who has forgotten you, and u still insisted to collect her number. For what exactly? Let call a spade a spade, y d number collecting? was it to call her and start the remembering process? Abegi. As a lady you cant do that and get away with it, while your man is standing right beside you.
ReplyDeleteNo stress yourself abeg me I just know that most people bashing the woman will do worse
DeleteYour husband is still a learner, my own husband dey toast girls in my front sef
ReplyDelete15:53, and you are still "married" to him? Like you are still calling him horseband?
DeleteSo this is what you all are into and calling "marriage"? Yet you mock single women living their lives without any man giving them heartache. Keep enjoying your "marriage"
16.21, why are you against marriage? You jump on every post that has to do with marriage with so much bile. Calm down abeg.
DeleteA disrespectful man indeed
DeleteHe has no dignity for himself or respect for you toasting women in your presence
Stella my husband is a cheat so any new female contact he gets e ends up fucking them so she has a right to be paranoid
ReplyDeleteAll of una dey go under Anon dey confess... Wow wow wow.. But who are those giving advice women to pack comot for house
Deleteif their husbands are serial cheats and refuse to change. Look at the comments of ladies still staying with serial STD distributors.. Okay ooo
Lovelace
Lovelace leave them o. That Mrs title is their life. They will be mocking single girls living freely without worries from a randy man yet they wet their pillows every night due to the way their men are disrespecting their marital vows, sleeping around and giving them STDs. Leave them let them keep enjoying their "marriages"
DeleteAll of you saying she is overreacting, if it was the wife that did that with a male secondary school mate, will you say the same thing?
ReplyDeleteSo because he is a man, his wife is overreacting?
Those men up there blaming the wife, if your girlfriend or wife does what that man did, will you overlook it?
To the ladies, if your brother's wife or girlfriend does what that man did, will you overlook it?
They will never answer this your question except they want to lie. People like Mark Morgan and Alexander.
DeleteChike is conspicuously Missing on this post 😆😆😆
Soapy
ReplyDeleteSee this one too. He cannot come out straight and condemn or commend the man. Soapy ko, mad o ni
DeletePoster, did he recognize and introduced you?, if he did then you are OVER reacting.
ReplyDeleteI wonder why no one has deemed if fit to answer the question of if it were a woman who did this in the presence of her husband,wouldn't it have been termed disrespectful?
ReplyDeleteMy husband would have been embarrassed if I did that and I know he will never collect an ex-schoolmate's number (female)in my presence. He would have left it at exchanging pleasantries and introducing me.
Every human being male/female should learn to dish out exactly what they can take abeg.
Thank you
DeleteEven the females are dodging the question and blaming the woman.
If it was a man that posted this, both male and female bvs would term it disrespectful. Some would even say maybe they dated back then and want to continue, they will call the woman names and ask what she needs the number for. They wi call the poster a weak man for tolerating the action.
See them all, even those whose horsebands are community pricks are talking down on the poster. Those ones their horsebands sleep with anything that has holes 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 they have accepted their fate, they see nothing wrong in the man's action.
Nonsense!
Poster, did he recognize and introduced you?, if he did then you are OVER reacting.
ReplyDeletePersonally ,I will be offended especially when she did not recognize you and my hubby knows this.
ReplyDeleteWhether cheat or not,what do you want to chat with someone who did not recognize you.
These are the kind of women that make marriage look like prison.Some women need to chill out with the possessiveness and give men room to be free(not talking about cheating o)but stop making it look like a do or die affair.This is typical of my wife and I don kuku tire sef.
ReplyDeleteIf it was your wife that did what that man did, will you overlook it?
DeleteOga, you sef ignore the question?
Delete😂😆😆😆😆😆😆🤣🤣🤣🤣
Lol some men can not take what they dish out to their wife's
DeleteIf u stay in Warri suspect all ur husband female friends o cos they no dey know married man for here ,some wil even ask my husband for his number in my presence ,see Stella I Dan really suffer for Warri girls some wil want to be my friend and from there they start trying to fuck my hubby ,I regret living my life in Abuja to live with this man in Warri ,Warri girls wil even pin pregnancy on a married man e no even concern them if the man is married or not ,ashawo girls too full here . If u see any uhrobo man especially the one way base for Warri if e toast u run Abeg o .
ReplyDeleteI see absolutely nothing wrong in collecting a school mates number.
ReplyDeleteYour network is your networth. Those of you who know how to make money will understand.
Anyway I didn't marry a dog and he has proven himself in so many ways.
I will also collect a good school mates number infront of my husband if I genuinely wish to stay in touch.
I can understand your fears if your partner is the lousy loose type.
A man married to a woman who work for herself in some sectors of the economy can never complain. Your wife is a party caterer. You see collecting cards from Male old school mates and you are vexing?
DeleteAbi all female Bvs asking that question are school teachers on salary at month end? Apologies for any offence by my question.
Thank you
DeleteEven without business purposes, who knows tomorrow
And even if her hubby is Randy, do you think all women sleep with married men?
Does the old school mate want him?
She may just have given him her number out of courtesy.
Is it every woman a man desires he can sleep with?
I really don't see a big either ways.
Thank you jare. I'm shocked at the responses. Infact I started wondering if my own marriage "no follow".
DeleteMy husband and I both belong to our different old school WhatsApp groups. Infact, we share gists and puctures and laugh. What if he collected her number to add to their WhatsApp group?
Well, poster, you know your husband better.
Not fresh!
ReplyDeleteThere's nothing wrong with this... yen yen yen! Let her trade places with her husband and do the same thing.. he would head home and leave her & the kids in the shopping mall! Mshew..
ReplyDeleteDon't mind them. Hypocrites!
DeleteAll the males up there who said he did no wrong ignored the question when asked if they can take that from their women.
I see no wrong in what the man did. Just because you are a wife or husband every minute dealings you must involve the other party. So long he is true to himself and the union then no biggie. But if you are pained that much reciprocate period and see how it plays out.
ReplyDeleteAll of you supporting it cannot take it especially the males
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