What the couple did when the Pastor refused to wed them? They went outside the Church and began to snap photos with Family and friends!
The couple eventually got wedded by a Pastor from QIC during their Traditional Marriage ceremony.
What is your take on this?
It really is irresponsible for adults to avoid taking responsibility for their irresponsible actions. Just imagine the narrative.
ReplyDeleteBefore you are wedded in Winners Chapel, you go through a rigorous marriage counselling class that spans into weeks. There, you are severally advised not to take tardiness for granted. Winners chapel is know for timeliness. You will be warned that being late will attract the consequences of not being wedded.
If you can take being punctual on your wedding day for granted, it shows how you'd take issues in your marriage for granted.
Also, in winners Chapel, more than one couple will be wedded at same time, so if the ceremony has begun, you expect to stroll in 30 minutes later to do what?
Irresponsible couple!!!
So what if they had an unforeseen circumstance or emergency? Or you just think that sometimes things just go as planned?
DeleteAnd if you were at that wedding Jesus attended you’d have been saying why didn’t they gave enough wine instead of just performing a miracle
DeleteNo one can meet up to all obligations all the time. Such is life
I actually came over 30mins late for my wedding
DeleteThe traffic was hell, more than I have ever experienced until date in Abuja.
The wedding started without me, and i got there just in time.
The rev father forgave me sha but Walahi it wasn’t funny
Push up (original)
The pastor that refused to wed them because they arrived at the venue late, is inconsiderate. Not that they’re both AS oo
ReplyDeleteHe’s wicked abeg
I have learnt that the most important is even the traditional marriage then the registry to to put it on record. I love the SUNNY SIDE UP attitude of the couple. Lateness is bad but on a wedding day, a thousand things can crop up that was never planned. Thank God they made the best out of the situation.
DeleteHappy married life to them.
In as much as the Church no try,some people don't have value for time..how can you go late to your own wedding? Will they go late to job ,visa interview or airport? Until we Africans realized that church wedding is actually a white man culture and not in the bible the better for us..after all a pastor came to bless their union during the traditional,that's enough
ReplyDeleteThe traditional wedding is the koko + registry. I've always said this. Being late is not good though but sometimes, there are unexpected issues that can crop up to cause lateness. I wish them a happy married life.
DeleteSo registry is more important than white wedding ? Traditional is our culture AGREED. white is foreign culture, is registry our culture too? At what point do you invite God’s blessings to your marriage? WHITE WEDDING. That’s why it involves service. (Church) your traditional is fully tradition. Your registry has nothing of God, it’s just man made laws. But your white wedding, it’s when God is fully involved. The prayers, commitment, vows, promises, etc. whether you keep to them or it lasts is not the issue here but the separation and importance/significance of all three.
DeleteAnon, God is fully involved in your traditional wedding. Well atleast God was involved in mine. There was opening prayer, prayer for the couple and every other thing that was done was not a sin, I'm sure its the same for alot of people
DeleteDid the wedding where Jesus turned water into wine take place in a church? Read your Bible abeg.
DeleteAnon, why is God absent from a traditional wedding when that is actually the true resemblance of what weddings were when the Bible was written? At least the Bible tells us in Genesis of paying dowry (bride price in Nigeria because men pay it) and getting parental consent. Where does it require a church for God to bless it? This focus on ceremony was not in the Bible. Find your spouse, tell parents, get consent and blessings, pay and your wife home is all over the Bible. This your perspective that traditional is demonic is flawed
DeleteAnon 15:09
DeleteChurch building is not God. At the house, when the couple and both parents pray and ask God to bless their marriage, God has become involved.
Your church building is not what is anointed to call on God's presence. Your pastor does not have the monopoly of calling on God's presence. Everyone has access to God and His ears and His blessings. Even the bible clearly states that marriage involves both families agreeing. Nowhere did God tell us to involve prophets, pastors, etc. Or is there such thing?
Church wedding has always been the white man's tradition. We simply copy as usual. God is not in any box. He is in us and for us all. Separate man-made religious practices from God.
Time is a very important factor that should be adhered.
ReplyDeleteHow do we improve this country,if we can't even obey simple instructions.
I support the pastor,Say NO to African time.
I don’t support the pastor
DeleteSomethings take priority always
35 mins is nothing
I’ve seen pastor wait 90 mins and still receive the groom with grace and love
Groom was stuck in traffic
On your wedding day, something takes priority? Waoh. Just when I thought your wedding would have been your priority on that day. And pls don’t tell me things came up. Just like I tell my workers. Call or text. Don’t assume and don’t come and give silly excuses, thinking I will understand. No. I won’t. But if you call or text and put me in the KNOW, I will replan.
Delete15:13 how do you know they didn’t call the Pastor
DeleteWedding is a priority but y’all should follow our master Jesus. Story of Good Samaritan is there in the Bible
This pastor was not a good neighbor
Even my cousin's wife that delayed us for three hours in a town that had traffic still had the wedding when she arrived. It was insensitive of her, but I respected how the pastor handled it
DeleteBetter for them nah
ReplyDeleteThe worst that could have happened is to start the programme without them and they'll come and join where ever the programme reaches
Exactly pearl. That's what Anglican churches do.
DeleteIf man were to be GOD.
Thanks anon
DeleteI wedded in an Anglican church, we were even 3 couples that wedded that day!!
Except u had another program scheduled the period they arrived, it's very wicked of the pastor to have refused to Wed them, knowing all the time, effort and money they would have put into the whole thing.
ReplyDeleteWhat if there was traffic, what if a situation like mine where her white got stained with blood and she went back to clean up. No one intentionally shows up late for her wedding. But once they give these people small power, they want to act like ur Lord and personal saviour
I think If issue like that comes up is wise you put a call cross to the church marriage committee to inform them of the sudden happening than to come at your own time cos something happened which the church wasn’t informed.
DeleteIf I have an appointment with you and I did not show up at the agreed time without placing a call across to you. I think you will not be happy no matter what my reason was. Not in support but we need to take things serious.
For real
Delete@excited courtesy, u think they didn't put a call through because?
DeleteThere is no need being defensive here,if a call had been put across to the pastor,such action would not have been carried out by the pastor, except he is a devil.
DeleteRubbish!!
ReplyDeleteAin't most couples always late for their wedding? I was also late for mine.
Of all reasons to refuse officiating a wedding, the pastor and His likes should all go to hell! Kmt
The way we pride in irresponsibility needs to be studied.
DeleteSo the fact that you went late to your wedding and take pride in it shows that you really need to work on yourself.
Would you ever go late for a visa interview to the US,UK or Canada?
I am a stickler for time please
DeleteEver heard of unforseen circumstances?
Her visa appointment is a one person affair. A wedding... A whole community of different kinds of human beings are involved so all kinds of wahala may just cause a normally punctual person to be helpless. It's ok if the pastor decides that the consequence is cancelling the ceremony. And it is also very ok for the couple to find an alternative and not base their happiness of another human being.
DeleteMs Sapphire it’s not easy to find someone else to officiate in that moment
DeleteI think young ones should stop having weddings in these churches. The rules are getting out of hand
Jesus thought us how to receive and honor people in church but these churches won’t learn
Taught*
DeleteLmao any small authority these people have, they sha just like to show themselves. In his mind he's the only one licensed to officiate a wedding in the whole of Uyo.
ReplyDeleteIf the pastor himself had arrived late for an appointment and was denied, he would start blaming the devil.
Talk of weddings where anything can happen: dress wahala, make-up, transport issues, etc and he could not be patient with then for 35mins.
Abeg jare.
I'm like this pastor.
ReplyDeleteI'm a stickler for time.
You can retrieve lost money a million fold.
You can never retrieve time that has been carelessly wasted.
People need to stop this rubbish African time.
It is indicative of an individual who places NO VALUE on their time or that of others.
Only you will schedule an event, only you will be late for the event YOU have scheduled.
What stupid grand entrance are you making?
How can you be late for YOUR own wedding?
YOUR own child dedication?
YOUR own funeral???
Very dirty mentality.
The people who make efforts to keep to the time they have scheduled for events, do they have 3 heads??
This pastor is me.
I am this pastor.
If you cannot be on time for your own once in a lifetime event, find someone to officiate who will pander to whatever careless time you choose to majestically strut in.
Not me.
Well said..One of the qualities I look forward to in an individual is punctuality,I like you already.
DeleteYou have a great point but most people will be looking at the pastor’s fault than to allow adults take responsibility.
DeleteThey couple gave the pastor the date for their wedding, the pastor has things to do but decided to honor your day. Why can’t you keep to the time of which you both has been warned against coming late.
This will be a lesson to other couple who will want to come late to wedding in same church. Winners do not play with time at all
ECwhat does pastor have to do that can’t accommodate 35 mins
DeleteThat’s poor planning on the pastors part
He should have had a buffer in his schedule knowing fully well that things might happen
These kind of strict requests cause accidents on people’s important day. Once they are running late, rules like this make them rush some more create havoc
The people who are late for their own wedding, will be 3 hours early for their visa interview.
DeleteLet the stench of hypocrisy not deafen those ears that choose to be deafened.
Bride late, groom late, both irresponsible.
15:20 knowing the rules of winners and being members can you honestly believe they didn’t try to be early
DeleteFor this person to report 35 minutes means they were late for at least 1hour. I can bet they are not really members of the church sef. Entitlement mentality because it's a church...like the pastor, choir etc don't have other things they are doing other than sit down and wait for them cos they wanted to get married. Mtcheww.
ReplyDeleteThank God they got another pastor that joined them....they should move on already. Tar
The couple are not serious
DeleteLike what exactly are they all going to do
DeleteAt most rush the rest of the event and still end on time
Did bishop Oyedepo tell them to do that
If you come late to churc, they still collect your offering so why can’t they do your wedding
If they were very regular winners member, they would have known that time is a VERY big deal in all living faith churches worldwide. Dem no dey joke with time.
DeleteEven if you know all rules, you can still be late
DeleteMy friend missed a big interview. Guess what? She worked for that company more than 7 years. They showed grace gave another chance and all parties involved were happy for years.
16.22 Awwwwn ☺️
DeleteThe couple's are not known in the church for big donations. So they are nobody in the church
ReplyDeleteYou lie. Winners put their offerings in envelopes. So no one is interested in your millions or hundreds. They went late because of pictures, if I were the pastor I won’t wed them again and again and again 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
Delete13:35 you think the million naira contributors put cash in envelopes?
DeleteYes they do. No big man. You guys just open mouth to judge what you don’t know, because it’s not in your favor. You forget that in all this, God is involved and you could be wrong.
DeleteHahaha 15:17 na lie
DeleteI attend too
They (we) write checks and do transfer and both are traceable to the owner
Trust y'all who always have something negative to say about pastors to come and display your talent!
ReplyDeleteIf it was visa interview or interview with someone who wants to give you contract in millions, will you be late?
But when it comes to church matters, you act nonchalant yet expect to be applauded.
Don’t mind them
DeleteHow many late visa interviews have you heard were cancelled
DeleteThere was one time m hubby and I had an appointment with a Reverend Father for 12 pm, We drove hours to get there. We got around 12.02 pm. The Rev sent us back. We pleaded and pleaded but he refused still. Some people take time too seriously
ReplyDeleteImagine that
DeleteVery good.
DeleteVery very good.
Next when someone gives you a slot arrive early or at least on time.
SHOW people you value their time.
15:22 so you know more than Jesus that told the story of the Good Samaritan
DeleteJust 2 minutes late? I wouldn't have begged him.
DeleteWhy were they late? Why keep the pastor for 35mins waiting for them? What if the pastor had other engagements? This issue of lateness is a thing of discussion. So many has made it a lifestyle,many has no business with being punctual.
ReplyDeleteFor me, the issue of lateness irks me badly and because we keep tolerating it,it keeps getting worse.Look at some church programs,they never start when they say they will. What about events,same thing.
We need help as a nation concerning this issue of lateness,we need to be remedied. If traffic would delay you,why not leave on time,if it is make up,why not start on time? I detest lateness with so much passion.Except,it is an issue beyond you or an emergency, lateness should never be justified.
That 35minutes late is a lie
DeleteThey were almost 2hrs late
They bride arrived at exactly 11:55 while the church supposed start from 10-11:30am
I do not and will never support ''African time''. My family knows this about me, even at work, always the first to come in at least 20 minutes before 9am, and my first appointment is always 9.30am. But what the pastor did was not fair, at least be considerate. You can tell them off but he could have still done it in Love.
ReplyDeleteMost of us do not know the love of Christ, we just proclaim Christ as Lord. Let everything be done in Love.
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DeleteAre there no other ways the issue of lateness could have been addressed? I need to seriously learn how to keep to time. God help me.
ReplyDeleteIt may seem very harsh for the pastor to cancel the wedding considering all the preparation and resources the couple and others may have made towards the day.
ReplyDeleteHowever, most churches have their rules and regulations. If you don't like it, go elsewhere. If they were late for reasons beyond their control, the right thing to do is to inform the church as soon as possible.
The person did not mention if they called the pastor to inform him the reason for coming late before getting there and the pastor refused to attend to them.
DeleteI guess it will be the woman that came late with make up taking most of the time . God help is women .
ReplyDelete😆😆😆😆
DeleteDon't want to believe their lateness was intentional. Pastor shld have put certain things into consideration too. Shey they Man Proposes, But God .....
ReplyDeletePastor no try sha 🙄. I sure say they even beg join.
Maybe they did not call the pastor ahead of time to inform him the challenge surrounding them. Some people do not joke with time.
DeleteYou do not use a hammer to kill a fly. So many things can lead to late coming by intending couples. I do not subscribe to such extreme measures
ReplyDeleteThank you o
DeleteAh ah
Bride was late? Groom was late? For their own wedding?
DeleteBoth extremely irresponsible.
Nigerians delight in making excuses for bad behavior and it reflects in our dealings with people.
ReplyDelete@Eka yours was an exception and it's only right you communicate to the officiating ministers that you'd be late and why it would be so.
For someone who is now in a civilized system I expect a better approach to issues please.
Bv Agadi na Gwo Oveh
I’m in the abroad. Never ever heard of a pastor cancelling a wedding over arrival time. Never
DeletePlease, you are abroad , not "in the abroad".
DeleteI know someone that went late for his interviews at the US embassy recently....your guess is as good as mine..Oyinbo sent him back...
ReplyDeleteHe will have to get another date if he is still interested in travelling and available date is more than the next 15 months
Kudos to the pastor.
Oyinbo or your fellow Nigerians
DeleteThere are no oyibos at embassy gates.
DeletePastor should have allowed them just walk in without any song and dancing and all that, at least such Punishment is fair enough not totally refusing to wed them
ReplyDeleteExactly
DeleteEveryone is just yen yen yen blaming the pastor. Did you all read Stella’s note? They were late because the were snapping pictures with families and friends. Please always read everything before dropping your comments. 👆👆👆
ReplyDeleteReally anon. Read again
DeleteIt's you who didn't understand Stella 's note apparently....they started snapping with family and friends after the pastor refused joining them cos they came late...next time ,read and assimilate well okay
DeleteYou are the one that needs to read again. English is not that hard
DeleteRead again pls
DeleteWhat the couple did WHEN the Pastor refused to wed them? They went outside the Church and began to snap photos with Family and friends!
13:41 ask someone to translate in your native dialect since those 3 paragraphs are beyond you.
Delete🤣🤣 oh dear!
Delete🤣🤣🤣
DeleteWinner chapel are known with keeping to time, for the church to agree about wedding this couple it means they have been a member of the church at least for 6 months.
ReplyDeleteIf the couple are members of the church for atleast 6 month they should understand that winners do not joke with time . If they schedule any event once is the time they event will start weather you are is raining or not.
The pastor behave like Christ in the Bible with those women that wanted to meet their bride
That’s a story of heaven and hell and not being prepared to meet the bride groom on the last day
DeleteO well I hope parishioners learn to vote with their feet. Go and marry outside the church. Marriage is marriage. These overgrown big men pastor stories are getting too rampant
You can be sure the parents begged this big pastor and he still shut down this wedding even with all the guests present
With traditional wedding that some of you say is not, where have you heard them denying wedding cause of time
Well the couple were wrong for coming late to church,but the pastor should have just join them together and warn them after the service instead of him refusing to wed them at all..
ReplyDeleteIn the catholic church' I've attended a wedding where the bride came late.The priest came out at exactly 10am and started the mass without her,she rushed in late and joined the mass.The priest still went ahead to join them.
ReplyDeleteWinners wed between 2-5 couples on the same service, we need to understand that you can't keep other couples with their guests waiting.
ReplyDeleteThese are the kind of cases I dismiss except you really tell me the full gist...I cannot just come and carry someone's half story on my head and start apportioning blames anyhow 🤷
ReplyDelete1) You didn't tell us what made you late
2)Did you know this as one of the church rules...that anyone late would not be attended to?
3)Did you get in touch with the pastor as regards the sudden delay or whatever emergency that came up?
4) What efforts exactly did you guys put in to remedy this?...did you try calling the church elders or marriage committee to help appeal to pastor on you people's behalf abi you just waved matter off and started snapping pictures like say nothing concern una
5)And the readiness/sharpness with which you both immediately got another pastor to officiate the wedding ehn like say una don already been get back up plan...I just can't help but winwon🤷
Until I hear correct news,una no get case here oooo🚶🚶
None of that changes anything
DeleteEven if makeup made her late, it’s 35 mins and pastor won’t end his life if he weds thems
They went and started snapping pictures,of course e no concern them, as they can always get another pastor.
DeleteFirst Lady pls read again
DeleteWhat if the couple were nervous and it affected their time schedule? Visa and job cannot be compared to wedding day, it is NOT the same. You will all winge and tear them apart with criticism if marriage story goes 🍐shaped. Lateness should not be condoned either.
ReplyDeleteThe couple's marriage will last and it will be a happy one. Thank God man is not God.
ReplyDeleteTrue, timeliness is important. However, what the pastor did is wicked. After all the preparation that has gone into the wedding?
It pays to be punctual, happy married life to them all the same
ReplyDeleteMy sister & her husband & the other couples came late & the officiating man of God wedded them inside a room without a photographer
ReplyDeleteFacebook users/narrators will never narrate it as it was. The same pastor was assigned to conduct a burial in another town by 11am.
ReplyDeleteHe had instructed the couple to be in church on or before 10:30 so that he can join them together while other protocols continue as he moves to the next program. But the groom arrived church by 10:50 while the bride arrived 11:55. That's almost 2hrs late to your own very wedding. The pastor couldn't just wait couple with the fact he had another assignment somewhere. The couples were fully aware of the arrangements. Why didn't they consider the pastor's situation and respect the time they fixed for their wedding. Nobody should blame the pastor.
Thank you for this piece of information. It explains a lot.
DeleteComing late to wedding has made many churches put law, that couple must pay some amount of money down should in case they come late they forfeit it. That is really working and it is making couple to come before the set time so that they will not loose the money.. If that law was in existence, do you think the couple will come late?
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