Please did i just read? HECK NO!!!
She said
''Our mother's have said more than enough, but just so that you will not think it is olden days advice. Let me join at least almost one year and six months experience in marriage. Don't deny your husband s*x, it is not a lie. Sometimes you can be tired. Too tired that you can't even move.It's not as if you are angry sometimes you are really tired the last thing you want is for someone to touch you. Some days if you don't do that thing it will be as if they want to die inside the bathroom. My sister just lie down and open your leg. You don't need to do any work just make the crooked way straight.
That doesn't mean some days you cannot be tired and say you can't do it. There is how to say it. How to pet him he will understand unless he is a wicked person''
Tiredness and sex hmmm ...
ReplyDeleteVeekee has always been a tirelessly girl,aside fashion design, she always has strength to do everything other thing she finds interest in and sometimes I wander if she has time to rest for at least 2hours. I won't be surprised that she will still have little strength reserved for sex even in her tired state but she should know that not everybody has the type of energy that flows in her. In some people's tired state, they need to be left alone if not they'll faint when they are being pressured to perform some taxing activities.
DeleteSlim shady , it is "wonder"
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Ok dear, noted😁 and thank you 19:51
DeleteSlim Shaddy
Xes is not food.
ReplyDeleteIf you are tired rest, the thing no dey run.
@Miss Aboki, after being married for more than a decade, sex is everything to most men. What Veekee has said is the truth. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Just that can break a marriage especially when a wife doesn't know or understand her husband's appetite.
DeleteIn a discussion, my husband's friend said sex is food, the way he even said it, made me know it was a serious issue.
Pls this is a friendly advice. Be wise.
Study and know the effect when a husband is turned down. And when you indulge him. Pls it is serious.
However, men ought to be understanding with women.
Madam na just last 3 weeks you marry o! Which one be sex is not food? Better cure your mind of that mentality and know now that sex is FOOD before food in marriage.
DeleteBetter change this mind set ooh
DeleteFor Men sex na food.
Any day l turned down my husband,he is not always happy. The best is just open the crooked way straight.
No be una go tell me wetin i go do.
DeleteShe nailed it oh
ReplyDeleteMy mum has been telling me that if you want a man to fall yakata for you just make sure that you always open leg whenever he comes for it. My mum could be old fashion but she said it, now I understand better.
Hmmm
DeleteChia... And you followed your mum advice? Even when you're very tired? Thought you should know better 🤷♀️
DeleteI don't care for her advice. Na she sabi
ReplyDeleteHer outfit is really nice.
But this lady does not have ikebe nor full hips nah. Why is she so voluptuous in the suit?
Ask Google.
DeleteShe padded the cloth. She pads most of her clothes. Most designers do it these days
DeleteLol😂😂😂😂@ask Google
DeleteShe wears bum pad.
DeleteOh thanks 19:52 and 22:36.🤗
DeleteHehehehe😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteIf you are tired, then you are tired. Which one is just lie down, and open leg.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you stubborn, eh fine girl? They said you should open. Open it at all times, in fact, crucify it open on your bed. When you're tired from home and office chores, open. Even when you're sore all over from constant ramming, just mepee the thing. Jaghee ya well.
DeleteA wise newly married lady up there said it will make your man fall yakata.
Abi you no want? Ah, me I want o.
Castle, abeg leave me oooo. 🤣🤣🤣🤣. I will tie my legs to my windows.
DeleteLol @at 'mepee' na 'jaghee'
DeleteCastle the thing tire me o! What is the point in having sex when the other person is dead tired and not in the mood? Na wah o!
DeleteVeekee, you know I like u but u see this one ehn, you shit for church!
ReplyDeleteWhen I saw her comment...I was like...even Eka will not like this ooo😂
DeleteNo matter how you try to like her she dey fall hand.
I was scrolling down looking for your comment 😂😂😂
DeleteI'm actually laughing out here .
I was scrolling down looking for your comment 😂😂😂
DeleteI'm actually laughing out here .
But you sef check am. Why woman go wan deny husband sex in the first place?
ReplyDeleteHer single job description is to keep his belly full and his balls empty. That's what she signed up for.
I'll never understand why they'll plaster you with sex when you guys are dating and then you wife them and they start giving you all manner of excuses.
*pester
DeleteTueh 🤮🤮🤮🤮. This is how some of the people women are married to, reason oh 🤮🤮🤮
DeleteIf this is how marriage is, then it’s best not to marry because what the fc*k is this?? Your comment is ridiculous! So men are babies?? They don’t have an understanding that women maybe some day tired and not in the mood! Do you know what it is caring for kids and household responsibilities?!? You naija men are the most selfish men I’ve come across! I pity naija women because their brain is also wired to take sh*t all in the name of marriage. Why are so many scared to be alone and allow these men treat women anyhow??? They are NOT God! Women raising boy child need to change somethings because these men are too entitled! Y’all are raising entitled and crappy men! Shior. 😮💨
DeleteIs it every damn time the woman will be in the mood for sex?
DeleteThere are times she just needs some time alone, sometimes she wants to meditate and not get distracted.
When you are tired, you are tired. A compassionate and sensible man would gladly give you space when he gets to know you are tired, that's where understanding comes in.
Lord have mercy 😭😭😭
DeleteTueah!
DeleteShe's not "denying" her husband any sex, she's just tired and need go relax her body and rejuvenate. Do you mean even after a soar marathon sex lastnight, the next day evening, that same husband will demand for sex knowing fully well she's tired and exhausted you will expect her to open legs for him?
DeleteThat's a selfish and self centred man.
Why are you all surprised by his comment? His name tells it all. Nigerian women, una doh ooooo.... Some women are really suffering.
DeleteWarrisdis??😵💫 Thank God I married a kind man..marriage is not supposed to be bondage abeg.
Delete15:47
DeleteNigerian men are entitled!
Nigerian women are not entitled?
Abeg I no fit laff.
Nigerian men are raised to be entitled by Nigerian mothers/wives (sorry, Nigerian parents) who very well believe they are entitled and fully demand their entitlement from spouses and children.
See the cyclical connection?
We just like to blow big grammar on small issues without referencing our socio-cultural-economical context.
Hehehehehe
Marry your husband the way it let you..
ReplyDeleteEverybody's husbands are not the same, people are different in their unique ways..
Don't start what u cannot continue..
Stop comparing your husband with others..
Marriage is not about s*x,but s*x is very important in marriage..
My marriage is 9years and these are some things I've learnt..
Good advice
DeleteThank you.
DeleteEvery marriage is different, although there is some standard advice that applies to all.
ReplyDeleteNow this advice ……..Sex will not keep a marriage.
There a number of women who subscribe to this mentality. One Christian actress who does a lot of Hallmark movies says she has never said no to her husband, whenever he wants to she always does it. They have been married for about 25 years now.
DeleteAll intimacy is not the same, some have nothing to do with love or bonding, some is just for stress relief and to get a better night’s sleep. When a couple gets used to each other’s bodies a quickie can be done in 10 mins or less from start to finish. If husbands are not going to get any action during the monthly period, which can last up to a week, should wives be a bit more accommodating when they are tired? Perhaps nature created periods so women can get a rest cycle from intercourse🤷🏽♀️
Please anon 15.31, this sex for ‘him ‘ whenever is not for every marriage. Only men and their enablers stress this warped advice. Sex is important but each to their own. One lady being a Christian actress does not buttress your point. Also, why use another person as stress relief when they are severely tired?
DeleteCassie was giving sex everyday, did that make him love her more? Okay, they weren’t married but still her absolute service didn’t mean anything to him.
Marriage is more complex than just sex and sex shouldn’t be seen as a way to show that you’re serving your husband. It’s to be enjoyed and although both parties may sometimes compromise, Veekee’s advice shouldn’t be taken as gospel.
I’ve been married 24years and I can attest to the fact that sex comes freely when the spouse is supported and respected.
And when will the world stop advising only women. It’s clearly not worked for generations hence so many divorces and issues. Men also need advice.
All these back and forth on a simple advice THAT, IF Y'ALL BOTHERED TO READ TO THE END, would've noticed she emphasized UNDERSTANDING YOUR HUSBAND'S APPETITE and also adviced women on being wise in turning him down and the men to be more ACCOMMODATING. A fair advice if you ask me.
DeleteThose that aren't comfortable with it, and continue doing the 'open-close' till you carry the wahala you create for yourself.
Understand your husband's sorrowap and accommodate in wisdom.
And all these things depends on how often the man demands for it. They keep saying that they don't deny their man sez until the meet the one that will want to do it 6 times every single day. Like no day passes by without him doing it up to six times. Let them continue using their own marriage as a yardstick without considering the fact that there are men out there whom if they are paired together, they won't be able to march their energy or meet up to their standard on matters like this.
DeleteI can imagine a woman somewhere doing "not denying may man of seks" with a man that is not romantic, or a man that doesn't give her very special treatments 😫 to add that the man is not even faithful 😫😫😫
Please leave out Cassie and Combs from important discussions like this. We are reading the examination and cross-examination Qs & As from our palasa phones in our Villages in Nigeria where this advice was given.
DeleteWho takes all advice literally?
DeleteJust like expecting a woman to always behave towards her husband as she did at her marriage receptions.
We read where a father told his new son-in-law not to expect his daughter to cook everyday for him but presented it as if she would not cook at all.
People advise men and women everyday at wedding receptions. Women only raise fists at those pieces of advice they do not want to hear and then magnify them as if only women are advised on marriages every day.
Only women whose husbands have small gbolas have sex everytime, cos dem no dey feel am say anything enter
DeleteOnly women whose husbands have small gbolas have sex everytime, cos dem no dey feel am say anything enter
DeleteLol @ make the crooked way straight.
ReplyDeleteVeekee have spoken...
ReplyDelete"even if you are tired just open ya nose yen yen yen yen "
Taaaaaa! If I hear..
*has.
DeleteThis advice is something you pull someone aside and give quietly. This is not for a speech at a wedding.
ReplyDeleteWhy give such advice in public?
DeleteEven privately sef, abeg no!
DeleteYou mean it would have been more feasible if the advice was given in private?
DeleteWhat an advice! Please marry a kind man. That's what I will advise any lady that wishes to marry
ReplyDeleteThank you Madonna, that trait is critical.
DeleteTell your brothers and male relatives to marry kind women too. It is very critical. Men tend to believe women are naturally kind as some pretend to be during dating and courtship.
DeleteI don’t see what’s wrong in her advice. For some men, the way to their heart is food while for others, it is sex. The most important thing is to identify his most important need and fall in line except in a case like illness,especially if the wife had been active in either one during courtship.
ReplyDeleteIn most cities in Naija now, most women (and men) are tired by the time they get home every evening, does it mean no more conjugal rights for men?
What are they doing to make their wives LESS tired? Women are humans, not robots.
DeleteMost men like their food and their sex.
DeleteThe way to a man's heart is sex, therefore the man should turn blind eyes or be insensitive whenever the woman is weak? It made sense to you that way? Wow!
Delete"What are they doing to make their wives LESS tired? Women are humans, not robots."
DeletePlease tell what the men should do if you know. Lol.
Motigbetional speaker isonu 😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteEverybody should do what works for them. If you are tired, say it. Xes is not running.
ReplyDeleteSo one year and a couple of months automatically makes you a marriage counselor and adviser?
ReplyDeleteThis one no follow at all.
Just wait,as from 5 years upwards,then you must have had some experience to enable you give advice,you hear.
For now,enjoy your marriage in peace Vekee.
I only came to see what she wore to the wedding...
ReplyDeleteThe advice no concern me!
This advice will be sure banker if SEX can keep a wandering man whose little John makes the decision for him.
ReplyDeleteEvery partner is different, and a blanket advice won’t work for all men and women.
When a win is tired, she tired, there is nothing like “just make the crooked way straight “.
Aside her craft, she annoys me with her constant show off with her spouse.
I'm mortified that her husband still proceeds to knack her when she's tired and cannot move (her words, not mine).
ReplyDeleteYou mean this man still manages to demand for segz when his wife is so tired and cannot even move (again, her words, not mine), knowing how hectic and demanding her job is?
Only you no dey flush toilet
Only you no dey give head but dey ask for it
Only you dey demand make dem cook for you by 4 am before she goes to the airport.
Now same you dey knack a bone-tired woman that cannot move sotey she lies there and waits for him to finish.
Again, her words, not mine. Everything here, she told us unprovoked.
It's either Veekee married potị or she dey intentionally set that man up for drags to trend cos every time she opens her mouth to talk about this man, it's always giving gwomputus and repus.
Honestly, it is now easy to see that her husband is not all that, judging from everything she has written about him.i don't even think she is enjoying her marriage like she ctriee to protray .
DeleteWhy can't he cook or order when she is rushing off to the airport at 4 ?
Why can't he flush his poop?
Sometimes some of these men just seem like a burden. But it seems she indulges him so as long as she is happy good for her
Prof mgbeke what do you mean?
DeleteIt's called content creation.
Same thing you do on Facebook live broadcasting. Chill abeg.
She hooked brass and trying to turn it into gold. She has no filter and truly believes her husband is heaven sent.
DeleteAs is Veekee James as is Miss Gadus up there ☝️ lol.
DeleteShe wan come dey give advise after two weeks of marriage.
Anon 16:31, clap for yourself. Well written.
DeleteSo embarrassing!
DeleteSometimes just reading all these start stressing one out. So when you are tired you still have to perform another duty isokay
ReplyDeleteNo, you don’t, nobody has to listen to anything advice from anyone else. Everyone knows what is right for them
DeleteThere are a few women who follow this but I wonder why of all the things to speak to a newlywed at her wedding she chooses to speak on this. Not every couple is even very physical, some couples rarely engage in physical intimacy and consider their marriage great. She is a highly talented and skilled person but she comes off as someone who is annoying.
But she didn't lie naaa. I can stay with my hubby for a year no stress all fun and guffing around simply cos enough activities under duvet but say no today I am tired tomorrow omo you are inviting wahala and malice keeping ooooo
ReplyDeleteGoofing
DeleteYou veekee just indirectly tell us say your man dey demand this kind of thing from you.
ReplyDeleteThis makes her hubby look bad na
ReplyDeleteWhy say this out loud
This lady mis-yarn at times
ReplyDeleteFrom all indication, she is the one 'marrying' her husband. No wonder. She is the type that must have a 'man' and ring in her hand. Marriage is not sex and sex is DESSERT not the main course in marriage. But when people settle for anything in the name of 'love and marriage, they always find their kind. Aside, sex, what else is on the table of these 'Nigerian' marriages? And they are the ones with the loudest noise on social media. Sit with couples with enduring unions and your brain will be reset forever. Because a man who must have you when you are TIRED, must have you in your period, right after birthing (and even when CS is yet to heal), when you are sick (and even terminally too), and when you turn away for a second or travel for a few hours, another hole is wide open, because 'SEX IS FOOD.' No wonder we have the kind of couples on parade these days.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm! That's Nigerian marriage for you.
DeleteThank you 18:16
DeleteIt's that type of man that goes sleeping around when the wife is not available for sex. No self control!
What is it with this Nigerian marriage tags.
DeleteIf you are Nigerian, go flush out your blood and bone marrow and transplant with others from anywhere else in the world.
You guys are gone from being Nigerians but you would not let the rest Nigerians be as if we do not read and see what people from all races in the world do
One Nigerian woman is now all Nigerian women.
A swallow now makes a spring or how do the English say it again.
I laugh when i see some of these orisirisi marital advices flying everywhere. Almost 2 decades in marriage have taught me it's never a one size fits all kind of thing. Every individual, every relationship is different. So how it works for/with A is not same with B. Maybe that's how it works for her in her home. Not all men will even want you to just lie there,whether out of tiredness or something else,maybe there are some that'll go ahead despite seeing you dead tired i wouldn't know. But mine wouldn't, i say no when I have to,my husband will be like; it won't even be fun if you're not up to it so why bother. Though most times he'll make me promise to make it up to him which i usually do. There are times that it's not even fatigue but you just don't want it, I believe a matured man should know and understand that. I'd say the way and manner you refuse matters though because no matter how we want to look at it sex is very important to most men and their ego is kind of tied to it.
ReplyDeleteIt's what works for her
ReplyDeleteThat's why there is courtship. The moment you agreed to marry a man who LOVES SEX, then you should be prepared.
ReplyDeleteThat's why there is courtship. The moment you agreed to marry a man who LOVES SEX, then you should be prepared.
ReplyDeleteI never desire marriage for once because of sex. I normally pity married women, because I am like: does it mean the man would demand for sex anytime he wants even when she is not in the mood? God forbid. That's slavery.
ReplyDeleteMe that I don't like sex before. You are now saying " When I am tired, l should just open the legs..." for a man because? Is he a baby that needs to be breastfed? I kuku don't rate marriage before. You marriage lovers, The Lord is your strength. It's not easy; you guys are trying o! I jump and pass slavery and suffering in the name of marriage! 🙏
ReplyDeleteBut I don't like sex. And I don't desire marriage because of that sex aspect of it. If I should decide to marry tomorrow, I will never go for a man that likes sex. It won't work
ReplyDeleteMe that I don't desire marriage. I can consider having kids but marriage? 🤔🤔🤔
ReplyDeleteBut women are trying o, all in the name of marriage. This very advice just made me cringe! The man that would want to have his way even when the woman is clearly tired is an animal. God forbid! I reject such a man in my life🙏
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