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Saturday, August 20, 2022

Actor Kenneth Okonkwo Gives Important Advice To Couples....

 Your Favoueite Nollywood actor Kenneth Okonkwo posted this great advice on Facebook...


 



''No matter how upset you are, don't threaten your partner with a break up unless you mean it. Focus your anger on what they've done without bringing up the threat of a break up. No relationship is without its ups and downs.


 Don't let anyone deceive you. You will quarrel and you will fight. You will have sad days; you will disagree some days and not find a common ground over some issues. Compromises don't always happen. These are normal things in a healthy relationship.

The key to a lasting relationship is being with someone you can actually communicate your feelings to and have a solutions-based approach towards conversations; someone who doesn't just communicates, but reciprocates the energy you give to them. 


Someone who always bares their mind and accumulate pent-up anger. Someone who forgives easily and reverts to their default factory mode of playing and laughing. This is the key.

Good morning beloved fans''






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    1. Very true.
      When I got married, at every slightest thing, my husband would threaten me with separation and divorce.
      Hian.
      It always got to me. It was a total absolute nightmare. And he knew.
      I can remember one time we had issues and after not speaking to me for days, he calls me to the dinning table and tells me that we have to separate. Citing reasons why we can’t live together.
      It broke me in so many ways.
      I reached out to our mentors and they came and spoke to us and things got okay.

      If I remember correctly, I think he did jt some other time. It made me so apprehensive as I didn’t want a broken marriage and I knew God brought us together.
      Apparently, that was his toxic way of keeping me in check. It was so bad and I also didn’t fail to mention how much I hated those threats whenever we became Chummy and good.

      After some months, we had an issue. He started again with his silent treatment and it got too hard for me to bear and so I went to him and mandated him to talk.
      It got a bit rowdy and confrontational and he said he was getting a divorce. He went ahead to call a divorce lawyer in my presence.

      I just ignored him.
      After some days I went to him and asked him to call his family and my family and involve them so that we can return bride price. J also informed him that I had called some divorce lawyers and he would need to maybe move out or something so we can divorce properly when it’s time.
      He was SHOCKED.
      Omo, my heart was made up.

      My husband that used to carry shoulder up became very mellow.
      I asked out mentors not to call him.
      That I want to show him the marriage isn’t my destiny.

      After some days, they came and spoke to both of us. It was so glaring that my husband was shaken. He looked very dishevelled and rough. I on the other hand was glowing and happy.

      My people, that was the end of divorce and separation threat in my marriage.
      The END END END.

      So issuing of threats js toxic and very wrong. It’s a form of manipulation and shouldn’t be encouraged.

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  2. Absolutely truth. I love this piece from him. Married people take note 😁😁😁

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  3. "The key to a lasting relationship is being with someone you can actually communicate your feelings to".

    Thanks for this great advice, Andy Okeke πŸ‘

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  4. It's hard to control words when angry.That particular breakup threat is my favourite line🀧
    God abeg o.

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    1. I use it a lot, unfortunately they took it serious and broke up with me. I beg tire.

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    2. @ anon ..it must have been a shock to you ..some people don't like that threat at all...you'll find someone who loves you with all your faults

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  5. I have taken note

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  6. Run when there is domestic violence and emotional stress o

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  7. This marriage matter is Draining a lot of people . I wish them well sha.
    Uka

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  8. I remember his marriage then to the young daughter of some daddy and mummy GO.

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  9. I’m so guilty of this may God help me. At the slightest inconvenience I just feel like running away and starting life all overπŸ₯ΊπŸ˜­πŸ˜­.
    I can’t count how many times I’ve done mental calculations of how I will mannage my life as a single mother and even looked up apartments I m likely to rent and move out just because I don’t like the way my husband spoke to me😭πŸ₯Ί. Though I’ve never made any attempt at leaving but I’ve threatened so a few times.
    And from my observations my 5yr old seem to have same tendencies any small scolding he will pack his bag and tell me he doesn’t want to live with us any more, that he wants to go live with his grandma or any where else.

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    1. Children and their love for grandma na anoda mata. Lol!!

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  10. Absolute truth,do not threaten anyone.

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  11. Some one I dated from 2018 to 2021 August, then he stopped talking to me. I thought all sort of things I could have done wrong that will warrant such act. If you are not compatible why not communicate your feelings. Over time God healed me. Then boom August this year he called me I didn’t pick, then he sent me a message to please reach me as soon as possible. I declined. Why can’t people communicate and express themselves in relationships?

    SHYLA

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    1. Keep running. No matter how imperfect you were in that relationship, he is worse news.

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  12. I screenshot this and sent to my hubby.We've enjoyed relative peace lately and a little argument this morning and he goes I'm tired and will definitely travel out next year'.I kuku said amen.

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  13. Very true, life itself is all about patient and endurance. Even siblings fight and settle.

    The truth is that one has to understand that when it comes to a union of Love, you most make sure you partner with patient, endurance and sercrifice except in a case of abuse. God help us all.

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  14. Never threaten anyone! They may just damn everything and call your bluff. You may regret the consequences afterwards no matter the initial grandstanding.

    Control yourself and mind your words during heated disagreements. Some words pierce like sharp swords. The emotional scars they leave behind don't heal easily with some people.

    Quarrel with wisdom!

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  15. Wisdom!!! πŸ”₯πŸ”₯πŸ”₯
    Although to be honest, there are times your spouse can frustrate you to the point where you say mean things that you don't mean. However, we must all learn to master our emotions and bridle our tongues especially when tension is high. Marriage nor easy o. But with the right teachings and the right partner, it is a very enjoyable ride!
    May God bless our homes! πŸ™

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  16. Good advice. Noted with thanks

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  17. Nice one Ken,some will still come out to claim they never argue, deceiving people up and down.

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  18. Nice one Ken,some will still come out to claim they never argue, deceiving people up and down.

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  19. Okay
    Thank you

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  20. Saving this
    Bv ariella

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  21. U are so on point sir.thanks

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  22. πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―

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  23. Saying " I will leave you" na normal terms na,when quarrel dey.even my husband Will later come to ask me after we've settled if I truly meant it.All na threat, nothing dey happen

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    1. Continue. Shebi they are telling you to work on it and you’re saying nothing dey happen. No wahala, ngwanu continue.

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    2. Your belligerence is baffling.
      Why not learn to get better?
      Nawa

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