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Wednesday, August 10, 2022

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE....
THE THREAT


I'm sad ...

 Hubby and I are having issues, we have been struggling financially for a few years now and as the days go by the frustration gets bigger. 

I manage to control mine but hubby is always lashing out, cursing, nagging and making me cry at any little thing. Though he is a good provider when he has money but he talks to me anyhow these days. 

He has never hit me before, never caught him cheating, but these days he has been telling me that I have to separate from him or he will kill me one day. He says I am the cause of his brokenness, he calls me a witch, that he was better off when he married me. 


Same thing applies to me too, I was better off when I married him, I was better than him financially, I footed 70% of the marriage expenses. I was working in a good company. No, I was not desperate, he was my childhood sweetheart, I was less than 30yrs when we got married, he too was just a little above 30.


 11 yrs of marriage with just one child and nothing else to show for it, broke and always struggling, he is now threatening to kill me if I don't find my way. 


I have cried and cried my eyes out. We were so in love, we were friends, we still friends when we are not arguing. I pictured a forever happy old age with him. 

 *Wipes tears*


I didn't plan my life this way, I am not lazy, I sell little things now to augment his own hustling thanks to SDK blog business giveaway last year.

I can't even login to my id to comment anymore, I'm always sad. Now a shadow of myself. Where do I start from? My siblings are struggling too, they have their own families and problems. His own siblings too are not supportive, they mind their business.

 His mum loves me but she can't help out, she is a pensioner and struggling to take care of her sick husband, my hubby's stepfather. His father too is a pensioner with kids he is feeding from his second marriage. My own widowed mum too is in a tattered room in the village. 


No friends as I relocated to this town not quite long ago. If I have to leave now, I will have to move my small business to my new location, it is on our street. Get another shop, pay house rent, I don't know if he will allow me to go with our child. 


I fear for his own life too, he may commit suicide if I leave, he is so frustrated, his blood pressure shoot up recently. He also has a health issue. He says anyone that dies has gone to rest from this wicked world. 

I don't know, I still care about him. I don't know what to do. I never knew this time would come in my life. Feels like a dream, our marriage was perfect ....





*You still care about him is not the issue, I dont want to read that any husband killed his wife cos i will think its you...
He has told you to leave, why dont you leave and see if he can get back on his feet? If a man does not want you around, there is nothing you can do about it...
Be up and about, leave and give him sometime alone.....

Save your life and that of your life and dont take the threats of a broken and frustrated man lightly....
All the best!

111 comments:

  1. Ruunnn!!! He is telling you now. Good afternoon

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    1. Someone said u should leave and u are still asking if u should..do u want to die?

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    2. You guys need a break. Leave him and go with your child.

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    3. Pls poster read and let Stella's comment sink in. Nothing to add except you can go check out the story of the man who killed his wife then drank sniper.

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    4. Please go to his own mothers house if you have to
      Don’t stay and die there o
      You should still be in your 30s, it’s not yet late.


      Push up (original)

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    5. "No friends as I relocated to this town not quite long ago."

      Madam, what happened to your single friends??? Primary, secondary, university, office, business, neighbourhood, childhood etc friends??

      How can someone say he or she has no friends???

      That is the problem with women, as soon as you marry you dump all your single and married friends. The single ones are useless to you lot except you want to beg them for money or you want them to do something for you.

      Do you see the value of having good friends? It is friends that will rally round you, encourage you, house, feed you sef, bring business ideas to you etc, until you are back on your feet.

      I no dey take my friends play at all, and my friends are always ready to fight for my matter. Friends from over 20 years from primary school, 1 or 2 from my work place. You are not an island, the world is still filled with good people. If you go around with the mentality that you are the only good, honest person, you will be the one to suffer for it.

      In the meantime, separate from this man before he kills you. Start applying for online, remote jobs. Or you can dust your certificate and enter the labour market.

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    6. Madam.. please run for your own safety and that of your child.
      May God perfect all that concerned you πŸ™

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    7. Separate from him but discuss with him why you have to leave. Let him understand you well before he commits suicide just as you said. Na you know wetin you dey face Sha. Hope you guys separate without toxicity.

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    8. Sometimes I don't understand women.

      Last two weeks at the Customary court, a man was begging for divorce. The last time the woman came to his place he used police to send her out.

      To my greatest surprise this woman was begging the court to cover her shame and not listen to the man. That she still wants to be Mrs.

      I shook my head and bowed out!

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  2. Madam, he has threatened to kill you, and you're still writing chronicles. Please leave asap if you value your life.

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    1. Please, save yourself now. You can't save both of you. Take your child along with you. You are in a better position to take care of your child than him.

      May God heal your marriage.

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    2. I hope she has read the Niger one

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  3. God please fix this home. Take away the pain and agony. Make them smile and be happy again. Bless them abundantly and take away their shame amen.

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    1. Ameeeen πŸ™ on their behalf - Anyin

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    2. AmenπŸ™ I can imagine what she is going through. It is well!

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    3. Amen. God fix it

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    4. Let her separate ooo.
      If God fixes it, then he xan ask her to come back

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    5. Abeg there is nothing to go back to in this marriage no matter the begging. So the next tough time will be met with this or worse frustration and threats. Poster, chalk it up to “that’s Gods plan” and move out immediately. I am very sure you can contact one of these NGO whose work centre around women experience tough times. The day you leave that house, make sure you take just the things to get by and the things you value. Leave all else with him and find the courage to rebuild. You are a woman, women are builders. You gat this!

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  4. I guess you two are not compatible or so.

    Kindly heed the warning and separate from him at once. Your husband might be battling a demon. Give him the space he needs. While on it, keep praying, work harder and develop yourself. He will definitely allow you go with your child. Things might change for both of you for the better if you give yourselves some space. Good luck ma'am.

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  5. Wow. So sorry 😒 you are going through this.

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  6. This one killing threat has entered, please find your square root.

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  7. If you wanna leave, don't leave your child behind. If you're a follower of Jesus, get your pastor involved. There is nothing God can't do.

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  8. God,please fix this marriage with your financial breakthrough.Poverty can bring the worst out of people

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  9. He is sadly frustrated.
    Ma God see you guys through.
    I think its better you separate from him for a while, since he is already threatening to kill you. Dont ignore death threats please.
    What if he carries out his threat, and also harm himself after? What becomes of your child? God forbid.
    Separate from him and continue to support him with prayers and motivational messages from wherever you are.
    You can also let his mum know about his threats.
    Keep up with your business and dont ignore the power of prayer. Better days ahead for you all.
    Things are really difficult for people these days. May Nigeria experience a new dawn soon. Amen.

    Sista Jane.

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  10. The young man has spoken.

    Leave now!!!

    I pray i don't marry a wife with bad luck. I think about this all the time.

    Even if she no get her own good luck, make she no crash mine.

    It is well!!!

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    1. Also pray you dont have bad luck fall on you too. Not every problem is from women. The same ill luck that affects some women affects men too. It knows no gender. This is how many people reason not knowing the problem is from them.
      Also, u may be lucky today and u lucky tomorrow. This is life

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    2. What's this rubbish you wrote up here? If you like don't hustle hard for your future family. Keep searching for a wife with good luck. And you think you're a potential husband with good luck abi?

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    3. Every marriage goes through trying times. It doesn't mean the woman is bad luck. The man is looking for something responsible for his condition. And pinning it on the woman.

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    4. Also you too, don't go and crash someone's daughter destiny with bad luck, it's both ways. Only lazy people thinks their fall is someone else's fault

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    5. Sixfeeta, pray you don't take badluck to someone's daughter in the name of marriage. For example the chronicle above.
      The husband was less successful than the wife before marriage that was why she footed 70% of the wedding. So he brought bad luck to his wife in marriage and turned around to blame her. Go and wash your own head well o @six feeter

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    6. I hate that you attributed their financial setbacks to just the wife having "bad luck" when she clearly wrote up there that she contributed more to their wedding expenses. Seems to me like it's the man's luck that's affecting them and not hers if we are to judge by that factor alone. However, I agree that there are people whose "virtues/luck" makes their partners' shine brighter and those whose spiritual element (water, fire, earth, wind) works against their partners'. I hope I can put it together and post one of these weekends. Apart from love, that is another reason Innocent married Annie and they both know it.

      In essence, who brings bad luck to one person might be another person's "goodluck charm" if their elements are compatible. Some people employ live-in domestic staff who are hardworking and nice to the kids but the spiritual element they bring into the family atmosphere begins to distrupt things financially, mentally, spiritually and emotionally. Then they tag that staff a "witch". Very wrong. Same with friends etc. Our Lord, Jesus Christ and Judas Iscariot's element didn't gel and he was the one who identified him to be arrested and killed in the end, so to speak. Peter denied him 3 times too but it didn't have any adverse effect but Judas's kiss nearly quenched his fire. The matter plenty but it is not solely this Poster's fault please. As for you our blog brother, watch out for a very simple thing to do to avoid dating or marrying someone whose element is not (financially and other areas) compatible with yours.

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    7. Pray more harder not be the bad luck yourselfπŸ™„

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    8. Can you just imagine your mentality. Better hussle and pray hard and stop looking for wife with good luck. Check yourself too make you no carry badluck affect someone's destiny.

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    9. Imagine! May you not also bring bad luck to your wife.

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    10. exactly @ lady T, the man is looking for who to blame for his failure.

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  11. Madam, i am sorry for what you are passing through.
    I won't say go to church because i have been there and done that.
    Please consider seeking for help through traditional methods, that is, through the religion of your ancestors.
    Maybe there are deities and spirits that are angry with your family.
    Give to Caesar what is Caesar's.

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    1. After seeking for help through this means did things get better for you

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    2. Ahhhhhh, don't mix the two. If you are for God be for him. If you want to go traditional your choice. But don't mix it. Pls. Don't listen to this poster. All power belongs to God.

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    3. Yes, things got better for me. People have a wrong belief that traditionalists don't worship God.
      I am a traditionalist now. I abandoned Christianity after wasting more than 35 years practicing it and returned to the religion of my ancestors.
      I am at peace now. I wish I realised this earlier.
      I settled the deities and spirits and for the first time in more than 20 years, I finally found peace.
      Now, i am proudly a traditionalist.
      I worship Almighty God and I acknowledge my ancestors.
      If you are ashamed to be a traditionalist, you can secretly still go and settle those spirits and continue with Christianity.

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    4. Anonymous 16:04, I hope you don't shed Innocent blood?

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    5. Mba nu! Let her not go to where they will use spiritual Wi-Fi to clear out the remaining megabytes of glory that she's managing mbok. Every Pastor/MOG is not your spiritual parent. Some of you carry more glory and favour anointing that some of these MOGs but you keep kneeling and bowing before them. As long as someone who is "spiritually younger" than you is laying hands on your head, they will keep tapping virtue from you knowingly or unknowingly. Some of you will be shocked at the breakthroughs that'd flood your lives the moment you no longer allow anyone touch your heads in the name of prayers, laying hands and anointing. Jesus handed over his earthly ministry to Peter but Paul didn't need Peter to lay hands on him before he received the power that was promised to the disciples. Jesus himself appeared to Paul because he carried A-grade virtue. Ask anyone to mention the GOATS of the Christian foundation and Peter and Paul will come up before Andrew, James, Thomas etc. who directly wined, dined and lived with the Messiah. Imagine Thomas or Andrew as Pastors that Paul knelt before for laying of hands. Electric fit shock dem join. Paul is not their spiritual mate. You need to first know who you are spiritually and physically, then everything starts to fall in place.

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    6. Poster, don't complicate issues. Do not listen to this traditionalist. There's no help there. Telling you from someone that have tried such ways. There's no hope and solutions from them.
      Face God with your bible. Seek Him . he's your only hope.

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    7. Interesting!

      You abandoned Christianity after 'wasting 35 years practicing it'; right.

      Now that you have gone the way of ritual and settling deities and spirits, have you found fulfilment?

      The Lord Jesus said, "...the first shall be the last; and the last shall be the first..."

      Take this from someone who has engaged demons in a tussle for almost a decade - you will look back and wish you died of hunger than appeasing evil spirits.

      Satan has no freebies. Your soul and that of your offspring (if you have any) are collateral the spirits are going to claim in exchange for the yeye peace of mind and financial well being you are looking for.

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  12. This broke my heart.
    Poster please leave for now and concentrate on yourself and your child. Most times it's not about starting afresh but how smart you go about it.
    There is something called space and that's exactly what you and your spouse need. No matter how small you've got,use it and start afresh diligently.Be strong

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  13. Dear poster.
    Empty yourself to God. Surrender yourself to God - walk towards having a personal relationship with God. The creator of this universal alone has the power to change people and turn your life around. You have to surrender yourself to him. Pray to him, mend your ways, eliminate sin from your life, draw closer to God. Fill your mind and heart with hope and faith that your tomorrow will be better. Profess and confess positivity and goodness in your life. It may be hard to know where to start, you only have to started believing that God can get you out of this predicament.

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  14. Somebody told you to your face that he is going to kill you and you are still staying there.
    Be like you think the stories of those women and even the one posted this morning is a joke.

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  15. Kindly separate first and go with your child, then sort it out later. Double your hustle and don't take in again till you're both ready. I pray for you, may God restore your home and give a testimony that will sound like a lie in Jesus name. Amen

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  16. So sorry about this.. Will suggest you leave for your own good., don’t take the words of a frustrated person lightly as Stella said.. they can do and undo

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  17. im sorry you have to go through this, most men are something else when they don't have money, my fiancΓ© works with ECOWAS but ran into small debt of 131,000 only o, he's been nagging unnecessarily, he even asked me out of his out but im never returning again ...so give him space do as he has said, it will work out if God wills it..ALL THE BEST

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  18. Take the walk now that you're still alive.
    There's nothing like forever ending with a partner, may be it existed in years past but not anymore.
    The dead doesn't live to tell the story of what happened.
    The patches you're envisaging if you take a walk will always be there at the beginning but your future of better years should be your watchword.

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  19. Pls for ur sanity sake... leave this marriage to avoid stories that touch

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  20. I'm sorry for what you're going through poster, kindly separate from him for now since he brought up!! When leaving take you baby along pls...I pray God comes through for you

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  21. Poster, it is better to leave home for a lil time. Maybe the separation will give him time and space to pull himself together.
    Frustration isnt a good thing at all. Since you are the only one that he can vent and put his anger on, he will do it till he beats you one day. Don't let it get to that stage.
    Leave now and give him space, when he is a lil stable, he'll look for you by himself.

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  22. Hmmm it's not easy.
    Poster try and separate for a while, who knows what will happen.
    It is well with you and your family πŸ™

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  23. Have you tried real estate business (rent,sales/ lease of landed property and buildings)??please send me a mail if you're interested .You can market properties for rent online.you can even start with houses within your neighborhood.You can also add cleaning services to it and with time add interior decor ( blinds and curtain) .I can teach you how to take the measurements. Never give up.Your husband can also join you in the business.You don't need any capital to start this business.
    Na mumu dey give up!!

    Evejohn0019@gmail.com

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    1. God bless you richlyπŸ₯°❤.

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    2. A beautiful soul you have, Sunflower

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  24. Sometimes the Chronicles I read looks like it's been scripted, am not mad when someone will tell me to leave or else he will end my life And i will stay put and say it's love. Omo I will run as far as my mosquito legs can carry me...

    He who runs, lives to fight another day

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  25. Nigeria is happening to a lot of marriages and families.

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    1. Nigeria is meeting, insecure, emotionally unintelligent men, fake people and the facades are falling apart

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  26. I think you should go on thr needed break that you need. It doesn't have to end in divorce. He needs space. Pls leave and tell his Mum and his relatives so they can keep an eye on him. But pls. Leave for now. And keep praying that he doesn't hurt himself
    And that this phase will pass quickly and issues can be resolved. But you need to leave. You can only love him and think better if you give him space. I hope you heed to this advice. Love yourself first. Maybe someone told him you are the cause of his problems. So he won't see clearly until you leave. Pls. Give him space before we hear another bad news.

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  27. Awwwn it is well with you poster,I can some how relate, go to God in prayer pour out your heart to him,He will come true believe me,if it is possible give him space for the time being.it is well.i don't wish from grace to grass on my enemy.been there, it's not easy at all.

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  28. PRAYERS !!!!!!!!

    GO TO MOUNTAIN OF FIRE
    TODAY THERE IS SERVICE KINDLY GO
    5 P.M
    YOU CAN STILL MEET UOPBY 6 P.M

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  29. Financial issues can most times put strain on a marriage. We're are seriously financially down at home but I know God will surely come thru for us but if my husband gets so frustrated or depressed as to threaten to kill me, I wouldn't spend one more night in that house. Keep him in your prayers but from afar

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  30. I am sorry for what you're passing through,don't take death threat with levity.what if he carries out his threat,please separate for a while,inform your family and his.
    Most times when a man is not doing well financially people tends to speak into their minds that,it is because of the wife.
    I pray great help comes your way.

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    1. And a foolish man will listen to such thrash and not reason that he maybe a problem?

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  31. Marriage no easy ooh run for your dear life, take your son with u ma please .

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  32. You didn't mention if you seek God 's face through prayers?

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  33. I pray peace into your home in Jesus name. Marriage is hard, most of us are going through one challenge or the other. It is only the grace of God thats keeping us.

    Most men cant handle hard times. They are easily frustrated when they cant provide for their family. I was the one encouraging my hubby when he would break down and cry like a baby, i would tell him its just a phase and would pass soon. Even when theres nothing insight i would just be strong for the both of us..., i would advise you give him space since he has resorted to threatening you. Give hime space but keep in touch and have people around that will always check up on him. Jesus please fix this homeπŸ€—πŸ€—

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  34. Sorry this is surely bad but keep praying and live him

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  35. Dear poster, kindly leave him alone for now and care from afar. Relocate yourself and your business alongside your child.
    It may look too big to do at the moment but trust God,lines will fall into pleasant places for you.
    I was in this situation many years ago,owing rent ,no job for him,I was doing a job that wasn't paying UpTo 50k per month with children and pregnancy as at then. I thought I would not survive without him as he was a good provider when he was working.
    His parents and uncles went to juju house and even accused me of using jazz on him.
    I asked God to make name for himself if I am innocent of the accusations,guess what? He lifted me after our separation and today I have a company worth millions.
    I went for counseling before the separation and was meant to understand that it was not a sin because threat to life was involved.
    He came back after 2 years but I'm smarter now.....

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  36. Sorry you are going through all this,but leave him alone for now,find somewhere to go stay with ur child before he hurts u or kills u out of frustration,if he survives this phase and gets better and wants u and ur child back the decision is up to you to make,but for now he wants to be alone,please give him that space he wants,if he kills u and ur child nothing on this earth will bring u back to life.Wisdom is profitable to direct, be praying for him from afar.

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  37. Oooh Dear poster,

    Please can you find a place to go stay for the moment. I think your husband needs space as he indicated.

    I always advice people before getting married, the both people involved need to seriously pray to break any family evil alters on both ends.

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  38. Try this exercise. Roll your palm into a very tight fist. I mean, as tightly as you can. Next, pour dry garri on the closed fist. Open it. How much garri could get in? Probably none. If at all any, maybe just few grains. Now keep that same palm open and pour garri again on it. What happened? The palm receives the garri till it becomes a small heap and starts overflowing. That's the life God wants us to live on earth. A life of overflowing abundance.

    Let me share something that happened around me sometime ago. I was in the north then and it was the Muslim fasting period. I went to buy akara. The woman selling asked me how much and I told her. She packaged it and gave it to me. I gave her the money but she refused and said "na sadaka ne". Meaning, it was free. She said one alhaji in that area had given her the contract to continuously fry akara every evening for anyone who wanted to break their fast. The contract also included pap and sugar. This lasted for the 29 days of fasting. He had given her money to buy bags and bags of beans, corn and sugar.

    Long story short, few months after the fasting, he got a contract to tar several roads in a particular LGA. This contract was highly vied for by the who's who in the state. But he literally got it on a platter of gold. It was so mysterious then because truth be told, he didn't qualify for it in any way. He just applied casually not even expecting any positive results. I am telling this particular story so you know that wealth has nothing to do with your religious beliefs. JUST GIVE AND YOU'LL RECEIVE.

    Things are the way they are for you because you are not giving. Start giving and in a short while your life will change. Let me give you an assignment. Take a certain amount of money you can afford everyday; look for those beggars, especially those aged and weak ones and give them daily for the next 30 days. After a few weeks or months, watch what will happen to you. Remember:

    1. How much you get is commensurate to how much you give. You can't give 100 naira and expect blessings of a private jet.πŸ˜€
    2. If you stop giving, you stop receiving. You don't lock a tap and expect water to keep running from it. Sustainable abundance stems from sustained giving.
    3. Give time for your harvest. But know that it will surely come.
    4. Don't bother praying about wealth. I'm an advocate of prayer but you see wealth? Hehe. No amount of fasting and prayers will add extra 1 naira to you. None whatsoever. Just give.

    As for our Bros, abeg pack leave am for now. Make head settle first. Because, na who dey alive dey enjoy wealth. You can be praying for him and make your next decisions and moves from the comfort of your safe haven. God bless you.

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  39. Broke men and anger issues. Women make una avoid broke men like plagues.

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  40. Dear poster, this present issues are not peculiar to you in life. Many have walked this narrow and tough part before now and so I am totally convinced that you too will find light at the end of this dark tunnel. First of all, your husband does not hate you; he hates your (his and yours) predicament. His mistake is taking it out on you.

    Please ask him for 15 minutes of his time and I pray that the God who holds the king's heart in his hands will cause him to listen. Tell him to fast with you for 7 days. Breaking at 3pm is fine. Hold hands and pray for those 7 days. Tell him that if things do not begin to change within a month after that, you'd leave as he said. On the first day of the 7, bring out your regular (favourite) wrapper x2 and pray on it in his presence. Bless him with every blessing you can think of and don't forget to add: "When these blessings come, none of us will be dead, sick, despised or forgotten". Ask him to pray for you too and bless you. Then, take one and give him one. Let him cover himself and you cover yourself with the wrappers for those 7 days. Please do not wash or switch your wrappers and TRY not to have sex within this period. Please note your dreams, visions and revelations. God will communicate with you in a way that you will totally understand. May there be a great and excellent alignment in your lives for the betterment and upgrade of your family after this.

    However, if nothing changes after a month and his attitude doesn't change for the better, leave to live and you will rise again like the phoenix by God's grace. When things get better for you and it will, please put your mother in a more comfortable place. What you described up there is not it given that you once had a good job as a single lady. If to say your mom's place dey nice, e for no dey too terrible to go back now.

    ***If he refuses to join you in this prayer and fasting, on your mark, set, GO!!!πŸƒ‍♀️πŸƒ‍♀️πŸƒ‍♀️. Don't let him murder you and blame it on depression and frustration biko. He will just go to prison and goan contest "Mr. Biceps" a few months later. Don't let him become a celebrity prisoner on top your matter o. You have a child to consider.

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    1. Thanks for this. I also need this in my life

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    2. Such a shame that men who are supposed to be the so called heads of homes behave like toddlers at the slightest appearance of hardship and responsibility. To own a penis does not equate headship. So what exactly are you heading? This is such a shame.

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  41. poster no one is saying your shouldn't care about your husband but right now the whole place you call home and marriage is on fire. You need to give him some space while you both fix your self.

    Your husband is filling like you cause his brokenness and you too is thinking the same thing. You both should separate from each other for a while and see how it goes, who knows things may get better but right now that is has threaten to kill you please move away from him.

    you said you love him and him too love you but from your write up is like the love is over from him, all he has for you now is just hate which is the major reason men kill their wives. We just read one story today of a man who killed his wife, he threatened her before and now he has done what he said. If you do not need life anymore please be alive for your child, your parent and relatives. Things will get better soon.

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  42. I smiled reading your story. It was exactly my story. Hmmm.. Madam, this man never loved you. Some babies in grown men skin assume that life must be glossy and perfect all through...... Few months after my wedding, dude started recounting how things turned upside down after the wedding, I almost failed a major exam I was preparing for at that time. .. Afterwards... He didn't give me a breathing space...always telling me to leave and it was worse that him and his relatives were always getting prophecies from ridiculous prophets.. Dude is a Ph.D. holder...listening to prophets that don't know their left from right..He taunted me daily...We had two cars and lived in a well-furnished 4-bedroom apartment. He would always brag about buying a car every year before he married me and how he hasn't gotten a new one since we got married...we had two beautiful cars... Funny thing, he didn't even believe a woman should thrive in any career...All I heard everyday was leave!!!..Get out...l will raise my daughter alone...you brought a curse.. I cried my life out...After three years...he stopped coming home and came occasionally with gifts and foodstuffs. One day..i left a note and packed all my things and left......Three months after he was married to an employee he had denied dating countless times" How can I stoop so low to date my secretary....shes just a slave and nothing more"... I moved on, dusted my talents and credentials...Currently, working in the health sector and another side hustle...I earn welll and take care of my daughter and I. I don't look like what I have gone through. Fine babe!! I fought for my happiness. My family were so supportive too. Mr dude that said I brought curse is still the way I left him...he's worse in fact.. Na polo he dey wear now.. Someone that was always on suits and all when I dey his house.., So unkempt that he runs away when he sees anyone that knows me .. My sis, He has told you to leave.. It will be hard..but please leave.. You will be fine!.. I am a living testimony! Any man that says his wife is the one behind his failures should check himself... If you are true to your wife and faithful to her in all areas, success will never elude you! ...Most importantly, greed is not gender specific...some men cannot go through hard times with their wives. Leave while you are alive please!... So long you were sincere and loyal to him, relax and watch God revamp your life. Be strong. Hugs .

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    1. May God continue to bless and enlarge your coastπŸ˜˜πŸ€—. Maybe it's the adultery he was committing that was disturbing his destiny. It's not every man or woman you can cheat on and go scot-free in life. The number of marriages and families that fake prophets and seers have destroyed ehn!πŸ™„πŸ˜‘.

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    2. My exhubby,also accused me of this even though he got everything he had today while he started dating me.I am glad your life turned out well,this is the forth year after divorce and my life hasn't really changed.How did you go about it....I seriously need help.i will be leaving my parents place very soon and I am enveloped with fear....

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    3. Amebonawork... God bless you o... This man will be traveling all over the world with the babe on official assignment...Lodging in luxurious hotels....when I see pictures he had deleted on his phone and laptop...he will deny and keep saying " why do you keep insulting me....how can I stoop so low to date a subordinate...shes my slave and fight go start again. The day I will see them, I will so laugh and say you finally you finally married your slave.... As for the prophets, I leave them to God....he said a prophet said it was a curse I carried that is affecting his business since he married me... I would cry out my heart and even ask..' Did they say I am a witch?.. How can I bring misfortune for someone that I desire that he prospers... I was such a mess... Another time, when I had my daughter...he said his mum said the prophets said my daughter's head is very strong. I was so angry. I told him you can be taking your head anywhere you like, my daughter is just few weeks old, who takes a little baby name to prophet??...at some point I had to tell him stop bullying me spiritually. I am a child of God. ... The mistake I made was that as soon as I moved back to Nigeria and met him...he was wooing me and kept on saying his prophets said I was his wife...that was the major red flag I ignore...ladies and gentlemen, anyone that is obsessed with prophecies and prophet...no matter how Good they are...run.. The prophets that will say you are good for him today will later say you are his downfall tommorrow. I felt I had issues and was messed up emotionally when I left..the first job I got my superior and bosses were complaining that they were overwhelmed with work...that the moment I joined their organization...more client.. More workload...more profit...its been like that for me for the past three years...The man I married said I brought curse...and every where I stepped when I met him, they say I brought luck... God is not man...

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    4. Anon 19: 04..... You'd be fine. Don't worry... Lots of women have gone through this messy things and are doing so well now. It's just a phase..It will pass. One, don't allow it define you. Make sure you are around enlightened and lovely people.. Separation/Divorce is not a stigma and it doesn't define who you are. 2. Be glad you are alive...Things could have been worse.. When my ex got married...my family danced...they were just thanking God I wasn't poisoned..the secretary was so close to him and they could have gotten rid of me. So, I'm always thankful that I am alive for the other people that love me esp my daughter and excited at what I could be. 3. Restrategize.. I left and walked away, thinking we need to be away from each other and be alone for a while...I was still wearing my ring.. I didn't want a divorce at all. But, mr man didn't reach out for me and my daughter... The next I saw was that he had married his secretary.. It was tough... There were days I will be so dizzy... I was traumatized... I was with my parents...they were supportive financially... My daughter was just a year and four months...my family really did a lot cheering me up... My dad and working siblings gave me monthly cash.... I will be forever indebted to them. Though, my dad felt I stunted the growth of my career because I was with a man that didn't want a woman to thrive./work...I did everything in my father's house.. Started a side hustle, went for interview and the likes.. I started a side hustle ( a remote job online) in my parent's house. ..I was able to earn some good cash...about a year later, I got a job in my field..my parents and younger sisters were so helpful with taking care of my daughter when I am at work....What can you do effortlessly.. Anything..so long it's legal..there are lots of opportunities online...Content writing, social media manager, ghost writing, virtual assistant, digital marketing and the likes... If you have passion for make up, cooking , perfume oil and other stuffs that you can monetize. The truth is that multiple streams of income will go a long way to boost your finances especially if you have more than one child. Even if you have a job...while you at free at work, or on weekends...you can make money......Please, don't seclude yourself...interact with people, especially those younger than you..They have lots of business ideas... Don't put pressure on yourself... Take each day at at time, you may have to sacrifice certain pleasures or make some adjustments.. For me, I had a good wardrobe, so I didn't invest in buying additional clothes.. I maintained what I had and just invested in skin care products...that way I was able to save more....My daughter didn't start school immediately, i got her a sweet lady teacher that was helping with her academics..and I also watched some videos on you tube to learn and teach her too...that way I saved a little then... No pressures.. Take it one step at time... My parents place is safe... We are all conscious about sexual abuse so i educate my daughter daily and my parent and sisters are on the page with me and are super protective...So, if the environment is okay for the kids at your parents... No worries.. Just keep building yourself... Join a reasonable church not judgemental environment.. Work hard at your job and pls get a side hustle( don't be shy to make legitimate money), Look good...even if its cheap, wear it exquisitely and confidently ( our culture is vain, lol...but it will help in building your network), if you have the means/opportunity to further your education pls do.... The tears will still keep coming... I still cry, but its getting better... Lots of love... It will end in praise!

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  43. Poster enter into three days dry fasting, calling upon God. After the three days, pack ur things and go, things will start happening after 3months ur husband will call u back, infact una story go change for the better

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    1. Even if the husband should use trumpet, please Ma, IGNORE!!!
      This is not the type of person anybody should be married to, no matter how desperate.
      That energy you are using to pray, build your life.

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  44. Separate from him for now, so that his head will cool off..

    You two needs Separation for so times and after if things didn't work out normal, you move on with your life..

    But for give hi Space

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  45. Madam for now RUN, don't stay in that house RUN.

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  46. Majority of men all over the world cannot handle hard times. They pour their frustration on their wives. Since he wants you to leave or he kills you, pls leave him for now until he rearrange himself, hopefully. Your life matters most.

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  47. Join NSPPD. Pastor Jerry Eze. Every morning by 7am. Facebook or YouTube. Everything will turn around for you in just weeks. Trust me.

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  48. I'm so sorry for what you going through poster, it's so sad!, please maybe you should move, give him some time to sort himself out. He doesn't understand that every marriage goes through tough times, those who fight /face these times together are always conquerors in the end, you are in my prayers. I totally understand what you are going through but in our own case, we are facing it together, sometimes it becomes overwhelming but we are hanging in there.

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  49. Leave to live,your life is precious.
    May God come through for you.

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  50. I've witnessed first hand that the biggest problem in marriages is finance. It's so terrible especially these days when everything is going downhill. The best bet would be for you to step aside for now and hope for the best

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  51. My dearest pls I know you love this man,the best you can do now is pray,a fervent prayer.Just take your time and move away from the environment and seek God, this is a trying time it happens to anyone.

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  52. Please carry his and your people along in this threat, please don't keep quiet incase and pray from afar.

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  53. Poster, I pray God comes through for you and your family. It's not easy for most men when they are undergoing hardship in marriage. Stop crying and pray about it and see God intervene.

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  54. Dearest poster, sow a dangerous seed to God while you are separated from him and table all these to him. He will help you. Trust me. 😍😍😍

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  55. Is one thing for someone to call you a BADLUCK, But you believing is the PROBLEM. Everyone has something they're dealing with. As long as my God hasn't or my Mother/Father. Who you, who dem be. If you had that much of luck you wouldn't go around looking for who is doing you.

    Can't you see, you were even doing better than him.thats probably why he married you. I don't blame girls that say they can't marry a poor man. Like seriously. They're always looking for who is doing them. Go ask around in your village man,ask some elders,some men be fighting some strange ancestral spirit. You hear ,this person was doing well but just like that, the fail.Almost everyone in your kindred. And first Son's I always say this.They all need to be extremely careful and prayerful.


    What is happening to both of you is LIFE. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS ITS OWN TRYING TIME.SOME CHILDLESSNESS, SOME MONEY,SOME HEALTH.

    HOW CAN A BLIND MAN KNOW THINGS OF THE SPIRIT. A TEST OF FAITH.THATS WHEN YOU HOLD ONTO EACHOTHER MORE,CRY OUT ON EACHOTHERS SHOULDERS,CALL HEAVEN,CALL GOD,REMIND HIM OF HIS PROMISES. HMMMMMM.Say it IS WELL; just a Matter of time,it will all be FINE. BUT NO, MEN WILL ALWAYS BE MEN.

    BELIEVE IN YOURSELF POSTER,YOU NEED NO HUSBAND TO BELIEVE IN YOU BEFORE YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. HE IS TRYING TO BRUISE YOUR ESTEEM. GOD FORBID YOU LET THE DEMON IN HIM BRUISE YOU.GIVE HIM SPACE IF HE CONTINUES LIKE THIS.

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    1. I personally cannot marry a poor man. They have this terrible poverty mentality even when they hit riches that remains with them for life.
      There is one very popular musician, roller coaster of doom, that is a very good example.
      Then imagine marrying a poor man who is NOT enlightened. Somebody that pastors,prophets and herbalists will be remoting like toy. Triple tragedy.
      Same thing with a rich enlightened man. Wahala promax.

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  56. Things in Nigeria are too hard and social media is so fake. Life isn’t that deep. Love one another. Enjoy your life. Your husband and your child. Please money isn’t everything.

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