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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
PREGNANT FOR SISTERS FATHER IN LAW
Dear Stella and BVs....
I need urgent advice to be able to know the way forward in the situation i am in presently...
My younger sister Married into a family with a lot of money and she is the second wife of her husband... She lives alone and get visitations from her husband who lives with the first wife..... They are newly married for about a year but she already birth twins before he married her...
Please note that the first wife could not stop her husband marying my sister so she gave her blessings and her hubby compensated her financially for it and everyone is on their lane and happy... I know this much cos my sister and I are close.
My sister used to joke about me marrying her rich father in law and we would be one big happy family... The thing is that she didnt know her father in law fell in love with me and i agreed to his love advances, oh this old man has spoilt me silly and i am currently pregnant in the early stages for him..... Was this a wrong move?
He has told me to keep it and is very excited about marrying me as his 3rd wife and i have no problems with that as i am almost 50 and never had a child...I will never abort this baby oh...NEVER!!!
How do i tell my sister? will there be problems with us marrying in the same family? I want to relocate abroad and he is OK with my plans....
He can only marry me traditionally as his first wife already secured him with court registry. we are both orphans and my Uncles are in the know and in agreement as they have all been settled well....
The only part that scares me is my sisters reaction... How so i break the news to her?
Interesting. Make I read other people comments.
ReplyDeleteThe mans money entered your eyes😂;congrats
DeleteSo your sis will be your biological sis and also your daughter Inlaw?😂
Wonderful!!! Uwa nkea eehh😂
@MARTINS
Here is one: Poster tell your sister in your simple native language or in simple English language. After all, she joined in sending you on the errand you sent yourself to her father-in-law.
DeleteTell you have the parcel in your hands or in ...
Go on ahead and tell your sister to see her reaction na
DeleteI just pray that she doesn't pounce on you sha
Lol
she is her sister's mother lnlaw
DeleteThe man just saw you and fell inlove abi you showed him you are available.
DeleteHow did your sisters father inlaw get your number?
You dint tell your sister when the toasting started, you dint tell her when sex started, you intentionally got pregnant knowing it would be harder for anyone to disagree or discourage you.
Well inform your sister, don’t abort and kindly relocate cus I don’t think your sisters husband will be angry with you.
Just love abroad
Push up (original)
Your sister didn't tell you anything. If she did, you won't be scared
DeleteCongratulations and safe delivery 👏 🙌
DeleteCome back and tell us your sister reaction
The man is her sister's father-in-law not her sister's husband. Poster, relocate abroad first, nurture your pregnancy and give birth first. After the delivery, you can start the 'war', because I can guarantee you that there will be one. Conserve your energy first as the pregnancy is delicate.
DeleteShe will still find out so tell her. After all, you all are adults. I don't think it should be an issue for her.
ReplyDeleteMessed up siblings
DeleteFan Emmanuel
I am speechless.
DeleteCompletely messed up family, God abeg oo, all because of money even at 50?
Delete🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteBoth of you have no morals so Nothing will happen afterall she also snatched someones love and is a second wife just like you will be. Your kids will be blood relatives to her kids. Weh done to una
DeleteNo morals at all
DeleteTueh
Anon 15:28, exactly what I thought, na the same rope tie two of them. Poster, travel first, then tell her, let your "husband" pay the bride price to your uncles as they have been settled. She and her husband might not like it but they'll get used to it, all of you have the same moral standards...None!!!
DeleteWahala dey ooooo,so,your sister will become your daughter in law and your children will be uncle and aunty to your sister's children while her hubby will be your stepchild....very complicated case.
ReplyDeleteMariam.
Poverty inflicted story
DeleteWhat kind of nonsense is this? Some of you men and women are just so promiscuous.
ReplyDeleteOf all the “old men” in this country, na your sister father in-law you see....cos he is loaded.
Your uncles have no problem with it cos they have been “heavily” settled. Kai.
God, when are you coming???
Sluttychic.
Completely promiscuous with loose morals, tufia!! People will just buy wahala for themselves with their own hands. What!!
DeleteOh Father Lord, this world is not my home.
ReplyDeleteJesus come quickly.
Are you ready?
DeleteMadam pls u dnt have anything to fear abt your sister,since u said she jokes about u and her father inlaw
ReplyDeleteU are almost 50 so i dnt see a bad thing here since polygamy is gladly acceptable btwn both parties so u have nothing to fear.if she loves u, she will be very happy for u.
So automatically, you are going to be your brother in-laws step mother 🤣😂😂
ReplyDeleteSluttychic.
And her kids will be cousins as well as step uncle/step aunt to her sister's kids.
DeleteShe will also be aunt and step grandma to the sister's kids join
See confusion everywia!😀🤣
Haaaaaaaaaaa confusion akaria ooooooo🤣🤣🤣🤣 WHAT !!! Things dey happen for this world oooo
DeleteServes all of them right
DeleteNdi piom piom piom
You people should stop😭😭
DeleteHeadache don dey worry me for the calculation 🤦
🤣🤣🤣
DeleteYour family is very dysfunctional
ReplyDeleteEasy nau...
DeleteNa advice she ask for, no be curse.
Greedy sisters who derive pleasure in destroying homes! Go on and tell your sister, she isn't any better than you. I hope your kids will be proud of the seeds you have sown...
DeleteI'm just wondering the dynamics of the family.
ReplyDeleteYou will be a step mother to your sister.
Your sister's husband will be your son in law.
You will be the step Grand mother of your sister's twins.
Your son will be a step brother to your sister's husband who is his uncle.
Your son will be also be both an uncle a cousin to the twins.
Oh, and the old man will act as husband, father in law and grandfather all at the same time.
What did i miss biko?
Second-hand family! Tufiakwa!
ReplyDeleteIf some of our Bro talk, we go say...
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile, Dante trust you are much better now and doing good.
Ojukokoro and gold digging runs in your family.You get bele for your sister father inlaw?lmao ..I not get advice for you at all cos this one loud pass mosholashi speaker.
ReplyDeleteVery greedy and poverty stricken pair.
DeletePoverty mentality is your problem.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, may it Favour you.
You see people who are born and raised in poverty ehn, fear them o.
DeleteNwaa things dey happen
ReplyDeleteYou’re over thinking it
ReplyDeleteYou didn’t sleep with her husband
Tell her and move ahead with your life
Any how, ya gazie
ReplyDeleteGreedy lots, just after the money, nothing else. Tueh!!!
ReplyDeleteJust when I thought I've read it all on this blog.
ReplyDeleteJisike umu wanyi 💪
I thought bvs said polygamy is against women, please who is benefiting from this now. Just have money anything can happen.
ReplyDeleteLol.
DeleteWell, not all women are against polygamy.
The women who support of polygamy are almost as much as, if not more than, the women who oppose it.
All the single women knowingly having affairs with married men are in polygamous marriages in fact.
Under most Nigerian native law and customs, single women having affairs with men they know are married are regarded by most members of the families of the men wives in the families.
Under the Nigerian Constitution, any child born by a woman for a married man is entitled to equal rights as the child born by man's wife married under the Act (licenced church / court marriage).
And to cap it, we have seen such women drag married men for maintenance and child care.
Let us stop deceiving ourselves on this polygamy matter.
Na wa o. i dont know the specie of human beings crawling on the surface of the earth again o!
ReplyDeleteI think your sis will actually be happy for you especially as she has hinted you on it in the past.
ReplyDeleteTake her out on a cool evening, do some light shopping for her, then movies/and or dinner. During the dinner find a way to break it to her.
You both don’t seem big on morals so I don’t think she would judge you, she may be a bit upset you didn’t let her in on the relationship earlier but just tell her you wanted to be sure the whole thing was serious before telling her.
You and your sis really value material things to a worrisome level but that not the point of the chronicle, so I will just ignore.
Exactly Yvonne.
DeleteThey are so materialistic, but, as you rightly pointed out, that's not the chronicle.
See the way she coined how her sister snatched someone's hubby in a beautiful way.
ReplyDeleteNow the man sense is intact that's why he only visits and living with his first wife.
@Eka Joy is very right.
Your pregnancy will equally affect your sister as the family will see now that you girls lack morals and after money plus can do anything for money
Abeg judge them by their own rules
DeleteThey are fine with it
Tell her and move abroad like you planned. The family blood line is now much too close, as you are pregnant for the father and your sister the son. Ideally, it is not what anyone would have advised, and neither of you are first wives, but at your age and never experienced motherhood, I see why this baby means everything to you. The horse is already through the gate, there is no turning back from what has already been done. Honestly, I would keep this on the low. Apart from your sister there is nobody else you should be informing about this family dynamic. Just relocate abroad as soon as you can and stay there.
ReplyDeleteNothing Surprises me anymore.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm
ReplyDeleteIf you're almost 50, then your sister might also be in her 40s or late 30s.
So...it is safe to say, she took the advice a lot of BVs (as well as society) prescribe.
"When you reach mid 30s and there is no sign of a husband, just find a responsible man and have kids with him".
Since a lot of those men, especially at that age, are married...your husbands could become their baby daddies!! And the women you advised could become your co-wives!
"we are both orphans and my Uncles are in the know and in agreement as they have all been settled well"
ReplyDeleteI'm just curious, why did you 'settle' them? What did you "settle" them for?
To buy their support so they would always be on her side incase of marriage rites and blessings..
DeleteThey are the ones to receive the bride price etc;in summary they have been bribed to remain loyal and support posters greedy course.
@MARTINS
Because of money?
ReplyDeleteNawah o!
Just tell her anyhow. She will understand and even be happy for you, you both have brought riches to your family through marriage, even though it is not straight.
You both should just become strong spiritually because of polygamy war. No woman sincerely likes her husband having more wives after her, even Muslims. I am from a polygamous family. I can tell you for sure that there would be war, it may be silent war.
Leave dem. Dem they don't know what they've entered. First wife dey smile for them and she dey bless them. Polygamy is not beans at all. First wife is smiling with you people but underneath she's working.
DeletePoster and sister, Dey play oh.
God please protect the innocent kids in this mess because they're always on the receiving end.
Greedy bunch.
ReplyDeleteMadam you’ve already stated that she has been joking with you about it, it’s only her husband that might feel betrayed about it though with time he would learn to leave with it. In the family it could likely affect ur sis relationship with her mother-in-law but pls be ready to support and fight with ur sis because they would definitely be battle! To ur sis she might just have mixed feelings but definitely happy because una family don get share for the “bag” Best wishes Ma
ReplyDeleteAnyin……
Wonders they say will never end
ReplyDeleteLike seriously???this is gonna break your sister's heart.
ReplyDeleteBreak her sister's heart like how?
DeleteHer sister that was hinting that she can marry her father in-law? They are both the same.
It would break her sister's husband's heart. His own mum too would not be happy with him and his wife for bringing his wife's sister to come marry her husband.
Poster and her sister should be ready for Spiritual and physical battle.
Pls poster, travel to Abroad and give birth before coming home for marriage. They will wage war against you.
Do you have a sister
DeleteWhy would I care that my sister looking for a kid married my FIL unless I’m thinking of what people will say
Are those people going to dry my sisters tears
Uhhm wonders of this world fear human being you seduced the man based on your sister suggestions period
ReplyDeleteShe seduced the man and his rod fell into her puna. He doesn't have a functional brain abi?
DeleteIs that how they seduce you and you get women pregnant?
Anon 17:21 😂😂😂😂.
Delete"He doesn't have a functional brain?" 🌝💀💀
Anon 17: 21, that's why it's called seduction. Y'all make it look like you've never seduced a man before.
DeleteIt's the man's money you fell for.If the man wasn't rich, you won't get pregnant for him and be sending chronicles up and down.Your uncles have eaten ripe plantains so they can't speak the truth (won ti je dodo, won o le so ododo).
ReplyDelete💀💀 Damn .....
DeleteFrom a doctor’s perspective
ReplyDelete1. It’s safe to conclude that the only value that drives people like your sister and you is money and comfort
2. What happened to values like self respect, human dignity, respect for other people’s feelings and altruism?
3. You and your sister have the same values as regards life. She uses pregnancy to secure the man and then the bag, becomes wife number 2. You do same for wife number 3
4. It may look too good to be true for both of you right now but prepare for the future. Not just for you but the children you are having. What happens if the money is no longer here for whatever reasons? Bankruptcy, relationship failures, death, etc?
5. This is how poor judgement and choices based on selfishness and poor value system births children who are brought into chaotic family dynamics who will eventually become unbalanced adults with different degrees of personality issues and emotional instability
6. Such children become the adults that make relationships unbearable like the narcissist, the borderline, the histrionic, the sociopath and the psychopath etc. How balanced is a family where dad is a visitor in the child’s home?
7. Whatever happened to leaving a better and safer world for your children and children’s children?
I have no words for you and your sister on how she finds out, you telling or not? What does it matter since you two deserves the heartbreaks you bring to other people and families
I wish you and your sister life.
🥰🥰🥰🥰. Please get an ID. We need more break downs like this in the blog
DeleteNo cap at all doc!!!
DeleteCarry go joor. Nothing do you as long as the bag is secured. Who suffering epp? So far it will better your life. Tell your sis, na she Sabi if she took offence, your happiness is paramount.
ReplyDeleteOlojukokoro
ReplyDeleteDon't abort that baby. If you want to marry him, go ahead and live your life. The decision is yours.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, if I see this kind opportunity I go like am o. If you can not tell her face to face, after you relocate call her. I wish you go born twins sef. No shaking, take care of yourself.
ReplyDeleteIf not that you can never say never I will have said this poster is lying.
ReplyDeleteJust tell her that her joke is now reality, I hope you guys would be still laugh over it too. Both of you same same, so no issue ok.
ReplyDeleteMoney Money Money chai, no moral or standards. I give you ladies hand, my only advice is whatever you see in the future carry am.
ReplyDeleteThis life money can’t solve everything o, he get where money go carry you reach, when you ladies get there una go know.
All the best
By the time their kids grow (if they are allowed to grow), and they realise what their mothers did, they will bite their fingers.
DeleteYou are almost 50 and you did not see any other married old man to hook with pregnancy except your inlaw?
ReplyDeleteYour greed will soon come to bite you
You didn't ask us to advise you on any other groud aside from your sisters feelings towards it.
ReplyDeleteYour sister will be happy with you. She hinted it and gave you the go ahead.
Have a good day.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Poster just go with the flow. God just gave you a child despite everything. It doesn't matter where it comes from. Be thankful and keep praising God. How many of your age mates will be this opportuned?
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDelete🙄
ReplyDeleteNo wonder AI will soon take over the world, most humans are vile!
ReplyDeleteHow comes you waited this long before talking to your sister about you and her father in law? You should tell her already and face the consequences. Have it at the back of your mind that she may be happy or may pick a fight with.
ReplyDeleteYou have already made up your mind on what you wanted before getting to this stage. I will never support you to abort that baby especially with your age. Money has taken all your attention, nothing anyone will say that will make Sense to you. Since you are happy to become old man's third wife Goodluck and enjoy.
My darling sis, you appear way too manipulative to be that obtuse. Did you really ask if what you did was wrong? Really? The toga of naivety you're grappling with and forcing to suit you, obviously, doesn't quite fit. You are anything but naive. You plunged headlong into this atrocious "relationship" because of the financial benefits. You had your mind on the money and the money on your mind. Getting knocked up was the icing on the putrefied cake. You were intentional with every step you took.
ReplyDeletePerhaps you wrote in to solicit for support because you've, clearly, made up your mind. Personally, being 50 years old doesn't justify this ragtag move. Having a baby from this mess does not soften the severity of this absurdity, dear sis, it makes it worse in my opinion.
How do you tell your sister? Wasn't she the one who planted this obscene mind virus in your head? Who jokes about her sister marrying her father-in-law? Her sister becoming her husband's stepmum!
I don't know what the tradition is but I'm certain that marrying your sister's father-in-law and carrying his child will be considered antisocial. I mean no disrespect to your family but, my goodness!, you guys sure let a lot slide as long as money is involved. You mean nobody in your entire family can call you out on your bull shittery? Not even one, because their consciences and values have been dulled by pecuniary benefits? At least you know you've goofed big time, hence your trepidation about telling your sister. Why not strut your shameless stuff to your sister's and announce the good news to her and her husband, preferably. I can only imagine the look on your brother-in-law's face when you tell him you are his soon to be stepmummy, his mother's rival.
Have some dignity, dear sis. Trash ain't class and money can't fix it.
Oh my Ronalda.
Delete💯 Apt.
No cap!
I miss you here. Especially chronicles...
Your wealth of wisdom, construction of words, et al can't be found in Harvard.
Warm regards to you and yours
If this is the ORIGINAL RONALDA, then welcome back!!! You've been missed!!!
DeletePoster, read that comment again and again, therein lies your answer!!!
I don't think it's right for you to marry him.
ReplyDeleteShow your sister's husband and his mom (your sis mother inlaw) some mercy pls.
Stop this relationship pls but offcourse keep the child.
For your sister, it's better you tell her before she hears from someone else.
Lastly, try considering other people's feelings while pursuing your happiness (especially those who will be affected negatively)
It will be poetic justice when she marries her sister's father-in-law. Imagine how the first wife to the sister's husband will be feeling right now.... she will be smiling because she knows her husband will be embarrassed. (He brought in ant-infested firewood which is stinging them now) One-big-happy-family. Ndi-ala .
DeleteIndeed anon 22:19 she will have a good laugh and probably ridicule him for life.
DeleteSee how a man's philandering D..k has brought these upon his family and extended.
There are consequences for every action indeed.
Only God knows what the future holds for the members of this household.
It's gonna be a House of commotion
00:32
DeleteAnd you saw only the man in this detailed story.
#misandry
What’s wrong with all these women. Sounds so desperate and low. Money isn’t everything. Morals out of the window 🙄
ReplyDeleteWomen supporting women!
ReplyDeleteThis reeks of desperation to belong, yet at the cost of another woman's tears.
ReplyDeleteJust negodu the easiness of mentioning "settled". My gender ican sometimes be unbelievable, and when additional one is about coming in they'd bring on knifes, daggers and whatnot. Fighting like it was theur entitlement to be the last, while they consciously stole the spotlight from another woman.
Well since your sister jokes about you "marrying her rich father-in-law", you too start joking with your sister about to be married to her rich father-in-law. That way this una quadratic equation will have a concrete solution, no one should be finding any x or y again.
I like your comment
DeleteWhat kind of men settle for these kind of women though? Only men whose sexuality quotients are higher than their intelligence quotients definitely. Some people have not a single boundary and I mean all four adults involved in this sham of living
ReplyDeleteWhen you all keep advising women to have children, if no husband on here! Instead of telling them to chase God! Firstly, it all ends here! So at almost 50, is how to bring an innocent child into a dysfunctional background; is all you can fathom! Always have something going on for yourself! Ifueko Omoigui married after 50! She was already FIRs boss when she married! She married decently! Even Fred Amata’s married at 64, a decent Dr. Nigerian women, please learn to have something doing!you all are now known globally for high level greed and jazzing levels! And now una carry church for head pass! God Abeg o! Who has bewitched you guys with desperation to marry at all cost, to sire demonic beings as children!!! Na wa!!!
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of the song "I am my own grandpa".
ReplyDeleteYou should tell her already, you can't hide this forever. The earlier, the better.
What money will cause, money itself will not be able to handle it. Palapala ilu Apala.
ReplyDeleteI hope your sister's mother-in-law did not support her son getting a second wife, if she did... Well, the chicken has come home to roost.
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