Nollywood actress Shaffy Bello in a chat with media personality Chude Jideonwo revealed why she quit her 25-year marriage.
She said she walked out of her marriage because it was a long-distance union as her estranged husband, Mr Akinrimisi, was based in the United States.
She said the long distance didn’t help her marriage, so she settled for divorce.
The mother of two said: “He [my ex-husband] was a good father to his children but I got to a place where I wanted more. And I would always travel back and forth. But I knew at a point that if I really want this, it came with a sacrifice.
“It wasn’t a sacrifice of marriage, but then he being there [USA] and the distance didn’t help.”
She said it was difficult for her to cope with the situation, so she chose divorce.
She said it was difficult for her to cope with the situation, so she chose divorce.
from dailypost
*Long distance Marriage is no big deal for some as long as they are married and can shuttle back and forth...
We all can't like the same thing.
ReplyDeleteI can't do it too. Make we dey see everyday abeg.
A man's food is another man's poison. She has done what suits her, good for her.
ReplyDeleteIt's not ideal to me and I wouldn't encourage that for anything or on anyone. Why live separately as spouse? Things like this gives room for cheating and infidelity in marriage. How long will she be traveling back and forth in a year to satisfy her sexual need?
ReplyDeleteWhat happens to the kids seeing their father face every morning or even weekly?
Abegy, I can't deal.
Sex is not everything in marriage o. I have been married for 30yrs, now in my late 40s with grown up kids in different continents. Distance marriage worked for me. My husband is based in one of the gulf countries, I cannot live there, I chose the U.S. he comes to US thrice in a year, that's how we have lived all these while, none of us has fallen sick or depressed because of less sexual activity. He will retire in 5years time, only then can we live together, or if he choses to retire in Nigeria, no problems, cos this US, I aint leaving. Lastly, what works for me is not a blue print for others.
DeleteMadam @@15:01 i tink i know ur hubby.
DeleteFrom akwa Ibom nd works with t**al.
Hummm sweet dic*.
Your husband comes to the US thrice (3x) a year 😂😂😂.
DeleteMadam forgerrit, your husband has someone servicing him.
How can a man not have sex atleast 2x a week and doesn't complain to you😏😏😏. I hope you know all he has?
Some of you are just impossible. Even if you have an idea of the person (presumably) you should learn to walk past this comment.
DeleteShe has been married for 30yrs.what do you think this comment will add or remove from her history, Nothing.
Such a tad attitude 🙄
Same question and answer everytime,they should let her be for once,she is not the first woman that walked out of her marriage.
ReplyDeleteThank you. The fact that she was not chased out with bags scattered on the streets, prevented from seeing her children and seeking women to support women is a huge problem for certain type of egos so she become for them, a long term study.
Delete@anon 9:01,you is very dramatic 😁😁😁.
DeleteE no tire you
DeleteEvery time same questions, boring people
Some is working for them and some is not
ReplyDeleteOgaoooo
ReplyDeleteOne man's meat is another man's shawarma
Na wa o.
ReplyDeleteSome people dey run long distance marriage/relationship fine. As long as they cam always travel without restrictions.
You no just send the marriage again na why you choose acting/business over am.
I hope you are at peace cos you are a successful actress & you can still find love in naija
She is in her 50's with adult children, did she tell you she wants to remarry? Marriage is you people's Alpha and Omega🙄
DeleteAnon 11:22, yes she wants to remarry. She said it in an interview that she still wants marriage. My own be say make she no go marry another person husband sha
DeleteI like her truth ! Really , for her to pick up acting and come to Nigeria in the first instance is a signal of sort that she wants out !
ReplyDeleteAbroad Marriage no easy especially if u r not in the medical , iT line .
You get tired of doing odd jobs abeg 🤷♀️
So only people who are in the medical and IT line abroad are successful?
DeletePoverty is that you?
Anon 12:32 😬😬😬😂😂😂
DeleteWhatever that makes you happy
ReplyDeletePeople say things that sound weird to me sometimes. You ended your marriage,not your relationship oo or courtship because your husband lived in another country. He was a good father to your kids but you wanted more and you knew something had to give, so you chose divorce as the sacrifice you had to make. hmmm.
ReplyDeleteThis shows how little we regard this institution called marriage.
Nothing stopped the husband himself from also sacrificing and moving to be with her.
DeleteThe "regarding" of the institution called marriage does not solely lie on one person.
Everyone knows where the shoe pinches them abeg and everyone has the right to make decisions that make them peaceful and happy.
God bless you Anon 9:14
DeleteHow can one just end a marriage of 25 good years over such a reason.
If na man do am now, dem go drag am like Tiger generator
My dear Anon, it is really sad how little regard is given to marriage. Its sadder still to see people praising her decision.
DeleteSo because she decided to be mature and not say all that went down while she was married, you conclude that her marriage was worth saving? Did you live with her in the marriage?
DeleteSome people don't value marriage shah.
DeleteWhat some are craving for. I mean you can be doing your stuff and be married too.
Her choice tho.
Yimu
DeleteAnon 12:24, we drew our conclusions based on what she said and not what she didn't say. If she wanted to be 'mature' she would have simply said 'I like to keep my private life, private. So I've got no comments on this particular question '. Simple.
DeleteWho told you it was her that ended it. Maybe the husband wanted divorce and she gave him. You guys are just used to castigating women when divorce happens..rest abeg
DeleteAnon 11:25, you are wide
Delete*wise
DeleteWhy blame the woman? Why can't her husband sacrifice living abroad and relocate back to Nigeria.
DeleteI'm sure the man would have been seeing other ladies buy she respects her children and won't be washing dirty linens in public
If she wants sex and companionship daily, would it have been better she cheats around than ending things respectfully so she can sleep with whoever is within reach in peace. Some Nigerians prefer to maintain an image than live their lives truthfully.
DeleteAfter 25 years? She never talk the truth.
ReplyDeleteI tell you. There is more. She is a private person sort of and may decide not to spill what transpired in the marriage that made her choose her career.
DeleteGo and force it out of her mouth na
DeleteHer life, her decision, as long as everyone is fine, there's no problems.
ReplyDeleteShe was just tired of the marriage jare. Probably she couldn't submit again to her husband's demands. It is well, one man's food is another man's poison.
ReplyDeleteokay ... your chioce, your decision, your cross
ReplyDeleteIt's well..
ReplyDeleteOk
ReplyDeleteIs bleaching a part of the "more" that you wanted?
That anon under me the other day, she is different from Kaffy, the dancer, check her name well, inugo?
It's well
ReplyDeleteIt cannot be what made her to end it but some people don't like to wash their dirty linen in public.
ReplyDeleteA good father may not be a good husband.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
This story don do nau! We have heard please. Your story ok. If e pass like this abeg write book join.
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