A DNA test was carried out and the Judge told him there was zero percent possibility that he fathered the child......
His wife does not want to take the test...
In this follow up post he narrated how he married his wife despite being a baby mama and laments that he had been training two kids that were not his...
I am not writing this story for any gain or financial advice or help or support but for all men to learn a thing or two from my story as a committed husband and father.
I remember a particular week I had to go do labour (bricklayer labour) to get this family going. It is unfair on me and now being homeless is a shame. When you see red flags in any kind of relationship don't ignore it please.
This lady in question already has a child out of wed lock which I know and accepted as my own at the age of 6-7. I did everything she want and wedded with her from Court Registry, reception and then traditional.
I take full responsibility and accepted I am the doer of myself in this whole story. Three months into the marriage in 2016, I got sacked from my job as a Presales Support Engineer in Ajah. My first of many troubles and tribulations to come but I ignored it.
Her pastor congratulated me on the same day too but I still didn't see far enough. Started a photography business with the little I have and I was instructed on how to set up the new business, her pastor supported me with prayers.
And that didn’t work either because in less than two years I didn't have more than 4 customers. Studio closed down with lack of money to continue the rent and we sold the equipment one after the other for crisis and keep the family together.
At a point she was the only one we rely on to put the family together financially. So I decided we need to go back to our drawing board, re-strategise going forward but the same pastor pushed her to start a supermarket with her savings.
And also ask her to resign from work our family was surviving on at the time. By the time we had the child. We were at our lowest and I had to brace up because I’m the head of the family, alot of people will suffer including her child she had out of wedlock.
If I don’t bring anything to the table, two years down the line, the crisis started when the boy was diagnosed to be SS. Let me not bore you with my sad story, at some point things got from bad to worse because we were spending more than what was coming in financially,
I have loaned from everyone close to me that most of my family and friends was starting to see me as a burden, the shame all that brings was unbearable for me and I thought maybe if we relocate to somewhere very far, thing might get better for us in the process
so we decided to moved to Ibadan because we could not pay rent, food and other expenses, every penny I was making was disappearing with crisis. At some point I had to take lapo, Ajo, etc from one debt to the other. I took a hired purchase car too in the midst of all this chaos
but still I have nothing to show for it and eventually the car was stolen and recovered totally damaged. Sold the car scraps and pay for the debt she created, she turned my whole life upside down and to top it all, she made me raised two kids that wasn’t mine for 8 years of my life, leaving me with so much debts, sadness and anger, today I had nothing to show for all the hard work I have done during the past years and I have to rely on family and friends for my daily meal. I am hard working and I will do anything legally to have my life back on track'
I remember a particular week I had to go do labour (bricklayer labour) to get this family going. It is unfair on me and now being homeless is a shame. When you see red flags in any kind of relationship don't ignore it please.
This lady in question already has a child out of wed lock which I know and accepted as my own at the age of 6-7. I did everything she want and wedded with her from Court Registry, reception and then traditional.
I take full responsibility and accepted I am the doer of myself in this whole story. Three months into the marriage in 2016, I got sacked from my job as a Presales Support Engineer in Ajah. My first of many troubles and tribulations to come but I ignored it.
Her pastor congratulated me on the same day too but I still didn't see far enough. Started a photography business with the little I have and I was instructed on how to set up the new business, her pastor supported me with prayers.
And that didn’t work either because in less than two years I didn't have more than 4 customers. Studio closed down with lack of money to continue the rent and we sold the equipment one after the other for crisis and keep the family together.
At a point she was the only one we rely on to put the family together financially. So I decided we need to go back to our drawing board, re-strategise going forward but the same pastor pushed her to start a supermarket with her savings.
And also ask her to resign from work our family was surviving on at the time. By the time we had the child. We were at our lowest and I had to brace up because I’m the head of the family, alot of people will suffer including her child she had out of wedlock.
If I don’t bring anything to the table, two years down the line, the crisis started when the boy was diagnosed to be SS. Let me not bore you with my sad story, at some point things got from bad to worse because we were spending more than what was coming in financially,
I have loaned from everyone close to me that most of my family and friends was starting to see me as a burden, the shame all that brings was unbearable for me and I thought maybe if we relocate to somewhere very far, thing might get better for us in the process
so we decided to moved to Ibadan because we could not pay rent, food and other expenses, every penny I was making was disappearing with crisis. At some point I had to take lapo, Ajo, etc from one debt to the other. I took a hired purchase car too in the midst of all this chaos
but still I have nothing to show for it and eventually the car was stolen and recovered totally damaged. Sold the car scraps and pay for the debt she created, she turned my whole life upside down and to top it all, she made me raised two kids that wasn’t mine for 8 years of my life, leaving me with so much debts, sadness and anger, today I had nothing to show for all the hard work I have done during the past years and I have to rely on family and friends for my daily meal. I am hard working and I will do anything legally to have my life back on track'
If the woman is avoiding the maternity test the judge is requesting then he stop the upkeep of the child, it is obvious she knows the father of the child. Her husband just fell a victim of a bad woman
ReplyDeleteWhy should he stop it. Is the child not human? I feel for that little baby. How can I reach the mother.?
DeleteAnon 11:08. Easy for you to say right? Why do we belittle other people pains, this man went through a lot and has decided on what he wants. He too needs support and encouragement, don’t forget to reach out to him too.
DeleteAnonymous @11:08, I think you are the father of those children he innocently raised.
DeleteYou really needed to find her.
Anon 11.08, why should he not stop it? He shouldn't be coerced into taking care of a child that's not his when he is obviously still struggling to take care of even himself.
DeleteThat woman is as useless as they come, she should go meet the family of the biological father of the child or step up and continue to take care of her kids as a single mama, such a wicked girl.
Anon 11.08 can you hear yourself speak. Please she should go and meet the father of the child,would not be surprised if it turns out to be her pastor.
DeleteIf only he was a Bv, he would have learnt so much from King Dante and Ceaser. Some things would have been avoided and cut off at their early stage.
ReplyDeleteWhat a poor man!!!
Sometimes I ask, who raised these women?
Some women will disgrace their innocent family members by taking their old dirty habits and promiscuous lifestyle into marriage.
© TEEJAY
Many men are not better than her
DeleteTJ.
DeleteTJAY.
TEEJAY.
Hmnnn.
Just wondering at her silence.
Does it mean the man had/has no sidechick and no marital fault to justify the actions alleged against her?
Being a BV, as taught me that only men who have sidechick(s) or have been bad to their wives are victims of paternity fraud as revenge. And there is a strong vocal female Bv advocate for it here.
If this woman is a Bv, surely this man would not have had it so easy showing that the woman did paternity fraud because that's who the woman is and without any fault on his part
How can a man be so innocent and undeserving of being punished in marriage by paternity fraud?
Abeg let's wait for the woman's response. The man may have done or actually did something to his wife that even deserves being punished by a third child not of his.
@ anon 12:29
DeleteBy your logic, the women who were cheated on, abused, disrespected in marriage, were not good women?
They all did something wrong in the past, that a bad marriage and husband was given to them as punishment?
Holy sh*t! Anon 12:29. WTF did I just read? You actually justified this? Ewooooo!!!
DeletePlease how can you be located? You need to be publicly stoned! How do you go about life with a mentality like this! My goodness!
Recognize sarcasm when you see it unleashed on the street and maybe stone it. But its owner may sue you for trespass and assault..
DeleteWhen men complain of badly behaved partners, we always want to hear from the partners. When women complain, we judge head on. Why are we judging this woman without hearing her side of the matter?
And in another post today, it is presented by the post and comments to treat wives well to prevent them from going into adultery. Pushing that logic home, can't we say the man did not treat his wife well hence the alleged adultery abd paternity fraud? And when we flip it, we can also say adulterous husbands were not treated well by their wives?
No need for stones.
Bad husbands and wives exist in almost equal measure.
No treatment by a spouse justifies adultery or paternity fraud.
Any failing marriage should be worked on. If it doesn't work, the spouses should bear without adultery if life is not endangered or use the legal means to get what you want. That may be divorce/separation with or without settlement or spousal support.
If the points are still not clear, make una no vex, English is older than me.
This young man is going through hell.
ReplyDeleteThank God you came out alive,God will replenish your losses 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿. God will also heal your broken heart.
ReplyDeleteSad one. From the write-up, one important thing I picked is "When you see red flags in any kind of relationship, don't ignore".
ReplyDeleteIt is well with you bros. my gender no matter what lets not give to Mr. B what belong to Mr. A. O ga ooo
ReplyDeleteHe must be so shattered
ReplyDeletePaternity fraud should be punishable by law. It's called fraud for a reason. Government should take this serious.
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ReplyDeleteWhat happens to men who bring outside children?
Delete@Anon 10:59 You really cant be this daft in real life?
DeleteAre you equating paternity fraud with a philandering man?
They brought a child from outside, did the man also brainwash you into thinking you gave birth to the child?
Equivalence, logic, reasoning etc are skills clearly lacking in the average Nigerian.
Anon 10:59, Even when any man irresponsibility leads him to do that, he is still sole responsible for the upkeep of the child and still shields the child against the wrath of the wife. Most women don’t accept such child in their home, and when they do, that child suffers for the sins of the man.
Delete@12:16
DeleteA man having a child outside is used to rationalize revenge paternity fraud here.
The argument is that the husband is spending a part of his income (family money) for the upkeep of the child(ren). So, the wife should have her own child too who the man will help her raise from his income (family money) as a punishment.
Thank you for pointing out the emptyness of the idea.
Revenge Paternity Fraudsters have never sat down to think beyond the revenge aspect of the fraud.
One dark side is what the woman may likely face now. Who will help her care for the child
It is well, God in his own way will reward him.
ReplyDeleteHer pastor, her pastor....
ReplyDeleteIts not from my mouth you will hear that the possibility is high that her pastor is the father of the illegitimate child?
Okay keep mumu-ing yourself there.
Abi no wan talk am since.
DeleteLol.
She did him dirty
ReplyDeleteBig time 😌😔😔
DeleteNotice how unusually silent the blog is today regarding this story? Hmmm... I wonder why 🤭🤭
ReplyDeleteLike you dont know why?
DeleteBefore they would have been saying "the hospital switched the baby", but when they read that the mother is dodging a maternity test, they all went mute.
How??? Since yesterday,all the female commenter condemned this act. Please you're supposed not to ginger the gender war,cos it's childish and stupid. 🙄🙄🙄
DeleteBros laff fully. You no be like who go fear replylash.
DeleteYes, the female Bv who advocate this act here the most is very busy attending to her beloved family affairs.
Very true @12:29. Yesterday, majority (in fact almost all women with Blog IDs who commented with their IDs) condemned the action alleged against the woman.
DeleteThe main advocate of the alleged act, however, did not comment. Maybe she would have swung the views in favour of the woman. Or her very vocal advocacy of the act was resonating in the mind of the main commenter as he framed his comments.
But as Brodaman has raised the issue, a Bv (gender not stated) has put up a robust defence for the woman @13:12. Lol.
Just wondering why it is that when a woman is accused of adultery nowadays, it appears the accusation is believed quicker than in those days. Even with the possibility of child swapping not yet eliminated in this case, almost all Bvs (female mostly yesterday) believe the woman is guilty as charged. It was not so in those days. What happened?
BV Blogbrity. Read what I posted and read it clearly. What useless gender war do you think I'm trying to set off? Do I sound like someone who has time for that rank stupidity to you?
DeleteDon't go there with me cos you won't like my reaction.
Oh please stop it, don't fall into the category of the 'dear kings gang', keep being the neutral being you were.
DeleteAnd anon 12:15, if you are talking about Eka Joy (I've not read yesterday's post yet so not sure), she would not be opposing this man in this case because it was already obvious what with the genotype difference that there's a hanky-panky situation being played out here, she is objective on most days about stuff like this and is only against carrying out DNA on zero basis or by default just because you do not trust your wife (even when she has not given you a reason not to).
DeletePlus if the woman is not guilty of adultery, why is she running away in this kind of glaring situation where her husband's DNA is 100% different from the child's DNA? Leave that matter abeg.
You meant to write @14:15?
DeleteLeave matter. The constant advocacy for revenge paternity fraud by the Bv made me write a long comment listing the fallacies of it. One of the points made in that comment is what happened here. The woman is now saddled with a child she apparently cannot care for on her own. She surely needs her Pastor's help.
No woman should in any form support paternity fraud whether revenge or lust or greed or hunger induced. No man should support adultery.
It's well...
ReplyDeleteDon't ignore red flags in relationship.
ReplyDeleteIt's well with you, God will judge the wicked woman.
Men on X app please support this man to get his life back! Some women sha, tell lies about age, paternity fraud, husband-snatching etc Make una repent o!
ReplyDeleteWicked woman,she just turn the man's life upside town..
ReplyDeleteMay God come through for him,the damage is too much..
In all of these,I feel bad for the child.its well
ReplyDeleteOne cannot imagine what this guy is going through at the moment. I pray he doesn't take his own life with the stress of everything.
ReplyDeleteDude na wa for you oh
ReplyDeleteShe has not even done test you’re already talking so much. What if it’s not her child either
You said you took the first one like yours but it’s almost like you want us to pity you for raising him.
Come on getaway you!!
DeleteIf he has to 'make' you pity him, then you have a cold heart of stone...and that's a terrible shame
DeleteGo read the story again. If her hands were clean, would t she be eager to get to the bottom of the DNA test difference? Dey play o.
DeleteThere are many reasons one might hide in a situation like this
DeleteOne is plain old panic and lack of understanding. Let her digest what has happened first
Let her do the maternity test first before I will comment on the issue.
ReplyDeleteI can't imagine what the man is going through now 🥺
ReplyDeleteNever ignore red flags.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmmmn.
ReplyDeleteMaybe she doesn’t want to do dna test so she doesn’t find out the child is not hers
ReplyDeleteMaybe she’s rather answer bad name than have anyone take him fromher
The man has fertility problems. Instead of the wife to tell him so he can go for tests and treatment, she went and brought a burden for him.
ReplyDeleteMen and women, do fertility tests before marriage