Ms Odogwu, 36, who also works at the company as the human resource partner, in a leaked letter personally addressed to an individual identified simply as Opeyemi, recounted how she found herself naked in a hotel with her private area “sore”
As Odogwu bravely shares her ordeal, she calls for justice and the urgent intervention of authorities to hold her alleged assailant accountable.
She wrote
Dear Opeyemi,
My name is Ogochukwu Odogwu (formerly Temitayo-Omotere), and I am 36 years old. I work at ARM Pension as an HR Business Partner. I would like to officially report that I was sexually assaulted—specifically, I was abducted and raped by Abisola Onigbogi, the Executive Director of Technical at ARM Pension, on the night of July 18, 2024, during an office party. Abisola Onigbogi, who works at ARM Pension, No. 5 Mekuwen Road, off Oyinkan Abayomi Drive, Ikoyi, had penetrative s#xual intercourse with me without my consent.
The assault occurred at a hotel where I woke up to find myself, called Limeridge Hotel at Chevron Drive, Lagos.
On the evening of the office party, like every other staff member, I had food and drinks. I mixed a small amount of Jameson whiskey and Coke. The whiskey bottle was opened by Francisca Azie at the table where I was seated with other colleagues. However, being part of the planning committee, I had to stand up from my table at intervals to coordinate the serving of food and, at those times, left my drink, food, and other personal effects in the care of Damilola Oluyori (0708*******5), a colleague and friend.
My last memory of the party was around 7:30-8:00 p.m. However, Dami claimed that I mentioned to her that I was tipsy and could not drive, so she offered to find a way for me to go home. She then approached Abisola Onigbogi to drop me off since he lived around the same area as I do. I live at Femi Okunnu Phase 4 Estate, Jakande Lekki. Along with the Jameson whiskey, which was about ¼ of a plastic cup, I had one cocktail from the bar—that is the last I remembered.
I lost total memory of every conversation and activity. My last memory of the night was from 7:30 p.m., and my entire memory was wiped out, which was very unusual, even for someone who might have drunk excessively, which I didn’t. I have quite a good alcohol tolerance from precedent.
The next thing I knew, I woke up and realized I was in a room, fully undressed. I looked around and realized it was a hotel. I found my clothes in a pile, along with my wig, phone, and handbag. I checked the time, and it was around 3:00 a.m. My private parts were sore, bruised, and painful. I have also formally reported this incident to the Head of HR, who is my boss, with the Managing Director and another Executive Director in copy.
This incident has badly disrupted my life. I am a single mother with two kids, and my mental and physical state has been significantly impacted. I need to take care of and show up for my kids in all of this.
I sent Abisola a message that Friday morning asking why he didn’t ask Dami or any of my other colleagues for my address if he truly intended to drop me at my house, to which he had no response. I did not have any conversation with Abisola Onigbogi or give any consent to be involved with him in any personal way. At the party, he asked me to come sit with him, and I refused, preferring to sit with my colleagues, with whom I was comfortable.
He took me against my will, most likely spiked my drink with the help of someone or by himself, took me to a destination I didn’t know or want to be, and raped me. It is beyond sad that I could not be safe at an office function, and instead, my whole world has been overturned.
I am on very strong medication given to me at Island Maternity, including antibiotics and HIV Post-Exposure Prophylaxis, and I have requested some time off work to recuperate. I believe he is a serial rapist, and I might not be the first person he has done this to.
I am requesting that the Lagos State government takes this case up fully and that this predator, who has tried to ruin my life and caused me this trauma, be prosecuted to the full extent of the law, along with whoever aided him.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.''
I have a two cents on this but i will wait until the unvestigations are over
This investigation should be easy, check the hotel cctv. I believe her, because Nigerian men once they have money miss with power always believe they can sleep with anyone. Very useless man, how could people not be safe around you? What of if she died in the process? Evil man. No one should ever condone rape, it is heinous crime.
ReplyDeleteJust Imagine, so the lady should run away because he's working there. Assuming this lady die in the process of taking those drinks maybe they will accuse the MD of that company, not knowing that it was someone else., who knows the type of hard drinks he mixed for her 🙆🙆🙆🙆 . What if other bad boys get the opportunity to see this lady in that hotel all only and helpless, what do you think could have happened to the ladyl?
DeleteAter raping the lady, you still abandoned her in that hotel all only even with the situation on ground. Chai, what kind of wickedness is this. How do people sleep at night after committing a wicked acts.
Licious Babe
As much as I don't condone evil, for objectivity and fair trial it's better to wait till end of thorough investigation and find out the truth. If this story becomes reality, they should castrate the man and his accomplices.
DeleteThe hotel Manager said two somethings significant about this story. The manager asked the questioning reporter to come check the cctv monitor to confirm or contradict one of the two things said by the Manager.
DeleteLike Stella, me too go wait for the update on the investigation
I pray she gets justice
ReplyDeleteThey go dey run women down. Yet they no fit leave them alone.
ReplyDeleteI hate rapist and pedophiles. Tuehhh 🤮🥴
Rapists and pedophiles don't deserve to live
DeleteWhat an ordeal. May justice be served. So even at this level. men in high standing are out here drugging and raping women😱
ReplyDeleteAnyone who would do this to a work colleague at a work event has been doing it their entire life. For most predators marriage is simply a cover over to grant them respectability in the eyes of the public while their base, predatory nature remain undetected. This woman needs to fortify herself in divine protection because she will need it. Nothing a predator hates than to be exposed and they will go to any lengths, ANY, to maintain their image.
Date rape if she couldn't remember anything, so sad.
ReplyDeleteThis triggers negative memories...chai, those HIV Post-Exposure Prophylaxis have terrible side effects, you will just be dreaming nonsense for the first week, living in fear and panic. Thank God for healing, I hope she gets justice.
DeleteRapist in coat. One day is for the owner.
DeleteYou lack so much self control that u will use ur own hand to ruin ur entire life?
ReplyDeleteI doubt this will ruin his entire life because such cases are rather difficult to prove and evidence can disappear or go underground: take for example the tape of Cassie being assaulted by Sean Combs which he then buried till his cup ran over or the lady who had witnesses among the staff of Dbanj who alleged he 4aped her and without even as much as an alibi, a judge concluded there was nothing there. Others who were shot, even fatally ,
Deleteabused and taken advantage of in other ways have no such luck.
Princess is still going through hell because, of all criminals, sexual predators in these climes are very helpful of one another till one person points fingers: look at the comraderie of Epstein's boys who got him off and gave a soft landing till they feared he would talk and then snuffed him out. Even the confidence of his partner tells you these guys band together. Remember the boldness of that rapist doctor's mother when talking to the man's wife. She had been assured.
I doubt the accused was the only one who did this and I doubt that hotel still has videos from that night to show the survivor was in no state to consent. To be roaming around Lagos with the drug that makes this possible, it's not his first rodeo. For this letter to even leak with no one, even the press, protecting the survivor, it's already set in motion for only God to squash.
A procedure will happen, the limited evidence will get him off, his wife and mother will praise their God and he will be out roaming, even more brazen than before, boasting about being backed by his fellows in licentiousness and everyone would just have to be careful till his cup is full.
I really wish it wasn't so but I pray for God to arise speedily concerning the is case and in the meantime, give this woman fortitude and His peace that passes all understanding.
Thank God she is based in Lagos and the Lagos State Government has zero tolerance for sexual abuse if reported. If found guilty, this man will suffer disgrace like that CEO of Optima Care Center. We all should trust no one, the days are evil.
ReplyDeleteHow do you even enjoy sleeping with someone that's unconscious? Which means you can sleep with a dead person.
ReplyDeleteExactly anonymous,what a weird and wicked fetish.🤨🤨🤨
DeleteOfcourse. They are the ones that will open mouth wiiiiide like the grave on what women should or should not do. Animals.
DeleteOne day I would tell my story. These Nigerian men have ruined a lot of women's lives. Corporate clown
ReplyDeleteRape is evil I condemn it totally & from what a security officer share I do hope that .....
ReplyDeleteThe Most Complex B
God knows I won't take that drink again. I hope proper investigation is conducted so she can receive justice for being raped.
ReplyDeleteAnne K
Is so sad that women are not even safe in the midst of men these days even female children are not 😢
ReplyDeleteInvestigating this should be easy I think, because most hotels and big event places on the island have CCTV.
ReplyDeleteCCTV footage of how she left the office party and with who. CCTV footage of how she entered the hotel and with who. Also testing of the semen found inside her ( if any) to determine who the rapist(s) is.
I wish her strength and healing.
Hope they don’t tamper with the cctv. This type of people do all the can not to be found guilty.
DeleteInvestigating this should be easy I think, because most hotels and big event places on the island have CCTV.
ReplyDeleteCCTV footage of how she left the office party and with who. CCTV footage of how she entered the hotel and with who. Also testing of the semen found inside her ( if any) to determine who the rapist(s) is.
I wish her strength and healing.
Look at him dressed like a human being. Animal!
ReplyDeleteI don’t like people delegating important sensitive tasks. The friend should have taken her to her own house if she couldn’t take her home
ReplyDeleteI wouldn’t leave my friend that’s not looking okay in the custody of another coworker especially a male coworker
Probably the friend also fancied the man and didn't see anything bad in what the man was gunning at. There are freinds like that in the workplace they will even advise you to have an affair that its nothings after all he is rich. 🤮
DeleteThis is painful!
ReplyDeleteSo painful😢
DeleteSad news. But even as a man, I watch my alcohol intake in parties. Don't drink to the extent that you and or your judgment is impaired. She i s very careless for a lady.
ReplyDeleteSome of you will make excuses for anything. Had you read the article you would have learned that she did not drink to excess and the allegations are more in line with her drink being drugged. If a worker cannot trust the ED of their company then who can they trust.
DeleteI think she was careless, you dint drink like that at parties because one can be an easy PREY for the VULTURE
DeleteShe was drugged. She said,she drinks.
DeleteIs it that you people don’t know how to read?
DeleteYou don't get it. Date rape drugs also work in orange juice.
DeleteTrue. She was careless. But that doesn't justify the alleged action if true.
DeleteThere are fuzzy parts of her story. Again, no justification for the alleged action.
The hotel they visited must have a CCTV camera. Investigators should check the CCTV camera to confirm if she came in without any sign of intoxication or not. Then we can know if it is a blackmail or not. Since she claimed that her drink was spiked in another venue and was transported to the hotel in an unconscious state
ReplyDeleteThere's is a CCTV footage, she said she viewed it. The hotel staff has shown her. She said he held her shoes and supported her seemingly drunk form into the hotel, they showed her receipts. Time stamp from the footage showed when they arrived and when he left. She has evidence.
DeleteWow! Anon 17:13.if that's the case, he should be punished severely😩
DeleteThis is a touchy story. I trust LASG to do the needful, as long as it happened in Lagos. I blame her friend for not taking her home herself when she saw that she was tipsy. What a trauma that she will be going through right now. I pray that she heals fast emotionally and physically as she seeks for justice.
ReplyDeleteTouching not touchy.
DeleteTouchy story: sensitive story, it’s correct
DeleteI have worked with my organisation for more than 10yrs. The first 4yrs was with top MGT, especially Expatriate & all these govt big whips. I have always being the one organising MGT meetings & retreats but you see that retreat, I must attend with my husband or else sick leave go show. I deliberately learnt how to protect myself in the event of any misbehaviour. I grew up in a house of boys so I know alot of their tactics. Even when I had to work outside my location, my Bobo na my handbag, if I work late he is my personal security. All the benefits not withstanding, when I had the opportunity, I left that place for another department. My slogan in life is dont put yourself in harms way because of belle, God will always make a way. I feel for her, it is not always easy to recover from rape. May God reward the ewu mpa .
ReplyDeleteYou do what you need to protect yourself. It is sad that women have to live in a world where they have to take so many precautions just to try be safer, even in places where their safety should be assured. There is not one place that a woman is 100% safe from the possibility of sexual harassment or assault and that speaks volumes about the world we have to live in.
DeleteWomen need to create a device that women can insert and on and forced entry it cuts off the penis. Unless women get vigilant about their protection these events will continue. All the women out their selling pleasure you would think these men would use them instead of resorting to rape. Mtsscchhwww
This is an allegation until proven guilty.
ReplyDeleteWomen are easy to believe on cases like this. I will not judge him until the court gives it verdicts.
There are many sides to the story, how about if someone is also trying to set him up.
Stella I dropped a comment and I’m sorry I did. Matters of rape and sexual assault trigger me for personal reasons so when you said you had your two cents I got very triggered and defensive.
ReplyDeleteI’m really sorry for my words.
This is bad how do you enjoyed this with an unconscious woman,?wickedness of men ,may you find justice on your side because corporate assault is not easy to proof except other staffs are willing to speak up but many don't because of fear of lossing their jobs and their reputation.
ReplyDeleteIn an abnormal toxic hypocritical dysfunctional society is where victims are afraid for their reputation
DeleteThis is bad,upon all the money he has, truly bad character cannot be hidden for too long,I pray she gets justice.
ReplyDeleteMoney cannot cover the rottenness inside of such creatures
DeleteAbeg ooo this Rape matter should not be slept Under The Carpet o
ReplyDeleteJustice must be served
Hello iya Boys
I wonder how you enjoy doing this with an unconscious woman
ReplyDeleteWith all your exposure and money see how you have use your own hand to ruin all
So sad 😢
This is so sad to read.
ReplyDeleteI pray she gets justice cos this is not fair at all.
Thank God it's already reported and actions taken. Rape is dehumanising and traumatic. 😔😔😔
ReplyDeleteWho is the idiot that leaked this letter
ReplyDeletePls women never leave your glass or can or bottle of drink at any event. Carry your glass of drink about. Date rape is still common. She's one of the few that spoke out. Lagos state will get to the root and culprits won't go scotfree.
ReplyDeleteYou see parties,I no dey go,if I go,I don't eat or drink anything,my motto has been trust no one,I don't even allow you to serve me water,I will tell you am observing a personal fast,I really feel for this lady,it is well.
ReplyDeleteYou see parties,I no dey go,if I go,I don't eat or drink anything,my motto has been trust no one,I don't even allow you to serve me water,I will tell you am observing a personal fast,I really feel for this lady,it is well.
ReplyDeleteI just hope it's not a false allegation, because what many laddies do these days to tarnish a man's image when they don't get what they want from him is unimaginable. They do these things making people not to believe the original rape victims anymore.
ReplyDeleteI wish I could type what I experienced. Some of these rape issues are relationships gone bad. I experienced this first hand and this taught me to be very careful and objective before supporting rape victims. I'm a woman but the trauma I experienced because it happened very close to home made me change my stance on all these corporate rape allegations. Dig deeper and you'll realise they were dating. She has nothing to lose but his name has been tarnished. All ill say is this: let jarrah deal with the guilty party. You might say karma does not exist but it does.
DeleteWe had a team bonding also in my office last week Friday, I made sure my drink was with me all through and left the party at 7:30 pm to avoid this kind of event.
ReplyDeleteHave heard stories of how they have sex with each other during team bonding parties, am not up to a year in the organisation I went home when it was getting dark.
It is well. The way people use beautiful suits and corporate looks to cover rotten behaviour. I hope its not a case of someone's cup being full. Cos if it is true, he didn't just start doing such now. Someone in d past may ve cursed him that he would be caught on a monumental shame level. Imagine! A whole ED? Top of a career for crying out loud. And someone who can have most ladies he desires. It is welli o. I hope she finds closure with d truth coming out
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