Hmmm.....
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ADVICE NEEDED FOR AN ADULT SISTER
I need advice from you all cos I am really stuck with what to do and scared to make a wrong move that might change the Narrative between me and this person......
He is older than me alright and I am in my very late 50's, i have never been married but i have been around, if you know what i mean...
We both are CEO's with offices in an exclusive Office complex.....
I have been watching him and he has been watching me and i know that we both like each other but i dont know why he is not asking me to be his woman when he is officially divorced...Could it be that he is now scared of women because of his bitter divorce? He celebrated the divorce with champagne among his workers some years back...
Our offices face each other in a very big complex and we are on the same floor.....I have stopped all my sugar Daddies from visiting me at work cos of him...LOL
Should i visit him at his office and invite him to Dinner ? Should i tell him i like him? no use pretending please cos i do and we are both in the same financial class......
My birthday is loading soon so i want to use that as an excuse to take him out..........
If i am your big Aunty or related to you or even your friend, would you advice that i do this or just keep waiting? Nice Blog you have here Stella, I read all and sometimes comment when time allows me.
Hmmmmm.....Abeg go for what you want, if he turns you down, face front and do your thing....You aint got nothing to lose and its the kind of thing i can do....lol
Thank you for the Blogliment...LOL
He is probably scared of commitment. And who knows, he may have seen your numerous sugar daddies , e nor want wahala, lol.
ReplyDeleteHe might have sugar babies too.
DeleteSorry for being too real, he is very likely not looking at ur age group, npt even ladies up to 40 except as a pro bono chef or mother figure. Men with experiences like him always goes for twenny somethings self proclaimed tailor or make up artiste or jambite sef. in a bid to hype himself up.
DeleteWith the way u describe urself, as an O S. shuo, u should know this.....
15:30, well, we are talking based on what she wrote. Na so una go dey do senseless competition.
DeleteAnonymous 17:39 you really do not know elite they can settle down with any age category if you meet a particular need lol it's not nollywood movie but transaction what do you have to offer them regardless of age...
Delete17:39, nothing but the truth! He’s sees her as old
Delete19:59, keep deceiving yourself
Madam pray about it.
DeleteListen to Stella, you have nothing to loose.
ReplyDeleteThe worse that could happen is he knows one of your sugar daddies and I am sure you know how to handle that too.
You have nothing to loose but he has everything to loose, please free the man and face your numerous sugar daddies. Afterall you should be satisfied with your sugar daddies, why complicate your life again by adding relationship. Later you will be complaining that he his not allowing you to continue your crooked ways. You have been living la vida Loca since you are young, now you want to rope a man into your life, you will either complain of him not been able to satisfy you because you are use to been satisfied by many men or you will say he his not allowing you to live your life. I pray the man See's the real you and reject you outrightly if you approach him.
Delete@15:28, your comment is rude. Yes this is a faceless blog but come on you can give your advice with some respect or zip it and keep it moving.
DeleteNever give up on people. If you were in her shoes, how would you want to be spoken to or advised?
She wants a committed relationship not what she has been doing. And this is what you come up with.
Anon 15:28 who hurt you? You sound so angry, please chill.
DeletePoster please don't ask him out outright if you have to. You can include him in your birthday dinner. Make your guest list in a way that, he knows no one and would have to talk to you by all means.
However if I were to give you a proper family advice, I will say forget about that man. A man who will celebrate divorce looks like a red flag. Moreover, it seems he wants you to do the chasing. But if you insist, I will tell you to invite your male friends to the office. Men usually will chase a woman other men want to win the "trophy". It's an ego thing. However make sure the people you are inviting are impressionable.
Everyone deserves to be happy, what if he's scared too? Please go for it, it doesn't matter if he turns you down,
ReplyDeleteWhy not give it a trial, you never can tell but don't make him think you are desperate.
ReplyDeleteI say never chase men, but good luck.
ReplyDeleteCan never be me
DeleteHmmmm throw caution to the wind and go for it but, I am bit concerned of your state of mind if he turns you down because it seem to have been on your mind for a while now. But, you could just chill till your birthday and have a little party where you get to invite him amongst others. During the party, step back from the crowd and observe. Try not to make it quite obvious. Wish you luck mami 🙌🏽
ReplyDeleteDong sugar daddies at almost 60 is wild. Well done ma 🙌
ReplyDeleteIf you are lucky , you ll get there
DeleteI can imagine Her sugar daddies will b like 70s 80s 90s. Make nobody kpai for your hand o
DeleteWhat do you want him for? He may like you but not want you for the same. Consider that before you move.
ReplyDeleteFinancial equality is not a guarantee of good match. It is not needed for some men to be interested in a woman. Typical Naija man (assuming he is Naija) does not want a financially equal woman. Not when his financial status can make more younger and ... women dance like kosso all round at his whims, which you are not likely to do except in Oza Rome if you are so inclined.
If your Sugar Daddies were heavy weighters, especially than him, that is a discouraging limitation for some men. Most men do not want to be step-downs for a woman even if they and the woman are equals.
Stella says shoot your shot. Fair. Shoot.
But instead of the direct Dinner shot, why not the traditional old school ways of gradually easing into each other's company? Stepping into his office to seek his opinion on this or that, inviting him for some business related programmes where you have to be in each company but not focused on each other, then move to the dinner date(s).
Sometimes, the old ways also give you an opportunity to know whether or not you are digging into a vein of raw gold or coal.
Best wishes on your shot.
Mr. Mann
See ? I m not the only one suggesting this.
DeleteI m a sapiosexual and this would hook me . But then I m a woman
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DeleteWoow! I love this..
DeletePoster go with Mr.Mann's advice..gives you a chance to form friendship first and then you can take it from there...all the best!
DeleteI think you shouldn't be too direct by asking him out, I advise you just get close to him, invite him for dinner and events you can even invite him to your house if you love cooking, if he's interested he'll be the one to ask you out. All you need to do is to strategically position yourself well so he can see you but don't be direct.
ReplyDeleteFear is a torment ,make the move and free yourself from the torment after all no matter what he said fear will be removed from your torment
ReplyDeleteYou are not a 10,on a scale of 1-10
ReplyDeleteNo diss just want you to remember
Approach cautiously
The dating arena is not what you used to know it to be
It’s changed
Tell him it’s your birthday,if he does nothing that’s your cue
If he comes to you,remembers or send a card that’s when you can follow up with a date
If you jump on him you scare him and he flees
Then you become gist
In other news I’m so impressed that women in their 50s is staying rumped up in the sheets
Yoooooo
Blowing you kisses
My big sister is in her 50s and my goodness,she recently bagged a fine ceo who loves her silly
Itd beautiful to watch
Kudos silver beauty
Shine❤️
Hey my silver foxes
If you are on tjis page and havr sweet 50s stories
Tell us
I love to learn about “old” love or escapades
E dey sweer me
It demystifies the whole menopause and no need coochie meet and greet stories
Love you all💕
Men too
Sending you all sunshine and bliss
We're here o . My coochie is still dripping like in my 20s.touch wood). ♥️
DeleteOmo
DeleteHello sweetpea 💕
DeleteAnon 18:06 you know I’m rooting for you
Thank you for keeping it real
Thank you for bringing your amazing self under my comment….you rock and are all shades of gorgeousness
Dripp that thang girllll💕💕💕
Enjoy life
I love to see happiness
Wishing you all blossoming bloom
Soar💕
Long hisssss
DeleteWell, if he says no or if you give it a try and it flops, will you be able to see him daily and remain cool and unaffected? If your answer to that question is yes then go for it.
ReplyDeleteThe reason he has not asked you out is likely because he has logically thought it out and may not want to deal with the drama of a flopped office romance and having to see you daily. While it may go swimmingly and you have a romance that is talked about long after you have both departed earth, consideration must equally be given to what the work life may be like if it is a disaster. He may also be seeing someone else. There is nothing wrong with going for it but just give consideration to everything and if you can handle rejection or a failed romance.
Invite him on a date.lf he accepts .lt means he is l interested too
ReplyDeleteSince you like him that much,you can subtlely approach him without appearing desperate. He maybe scared from his bitter divorce and not want to use you as a rebound.
ReplyDeleteNo time..
ReplyDeleteHe's not married so u are good to go ma'am..
Go for it please..
Why does it have to be him? All I see you are doing is building castle in the air...You are just assuming and confusing attention with attraction....Must you have something to do with him? He came out from a divorce:allow him be...He is processing everything in his last marriage but you are just after your selfish desires...
ReplyDeleteLeave him alone and reach out to other responsible men before it will end in tears and you have yourself to blame....
All the best 👍
Give him a try, you never can tell, it might work out for both of you.
ReplyDeleteYou have your money,why wait for him? Take ma'am Stella advised,best wishes 🙏🌹🥰
ReplyDeleteBoth of you are matured, but pray about it first.
ReplyDeleteInvite for your birthday
ReplyDeleteYou're in your later 50's and you stopped your sugar daddies from coming to the office? Abi I don't know how to read again? How old your ancestors, sorry sugar daddies come be?
ReplyDelete😁 wuckeeeeed!
DeleteThe man has numerous sugar girls that satisfies him.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how in love you are with him, please do not approach him first. Many occasions ladies approach a man first, it’s either he loses interest (if he is interested in the first place)or he will remind the lady how she was the first to approach him later on in the relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou will never hear the last of it if you ask him out. You are a lady in your fifties, no one should be lecturing you on her to get what you want. I am also in my fifties and I can get the attention of anyone I want in the most articulate and discreet manner. It is only experience that can teach you that, so get your cards out and play them well.
Sis, life’s too short to sit by the window hoping someone notices the light in your room. You like him? Then stop overthinking and move gracefully. You seem very open-minded, why patronise a condensed thought? I like that you realised you’re not too old to love, like our normal, typical stereotypes. But what you are yet to grasp is that you’re too wise to play blind. Attraction’s not a contract - it's a dance. So choose your song, and shake body - lol.
ReplyDeleteUse your birthday as a soft bridge; it’s not desperate, it’s strategic. A birthday dinner’s fine, but make sure you keep it casual and without emotional investment. Don’t confuse being watched with being wanted. Men like him may admire from afar but fear entanglements, especially post-divorce, especially his own silent fears with someone who obviously knows what he knows. However you want to play it out, don’t go charging in, but don’t stay in the shadows either.
Ease in with charm, not pressure - like steam rising, not smoke choking. The problem I see is the silence between you two. But you’ve earned your class and confidence; don’t shrink for anyone. If you can handle the awkwardness if it backfires, then flirt with subtlety, not desperation. Who says you will die if he declines? You’ll dust off, smile, and keep your crown steady. Silence doesn’t build stories - actions do. Write yours. You're a CEO, not a teenage schoolgirl.
You’re too old for him. Focus on your zaddies
ReplyDeleteLol...shooter!!
DeleteShoot your shot.
ReplyDeleteMen like him will prefer a mature woman than a young girl that will give him issues and headache. You are mature and you have experience on your side.
Invite him to the birthday dinner, don't ask him out but give him cues that you like him. Don't push too strongly. Do it coyly.
Pls give us updates. Older women deserve love, don't mind these BVs talking.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
He doesn't want another woman "wahala", someone that celebrated his divorce with champagne.
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