In a recent episode of The Honest Bunch podcast, the 45-year-old declared that she can’t date or marry a man who is struggling financially.
“I can’t marry someone who is not successful, and here’s why: first of all, I’m not in my 20s so we are not growing together.
A man leads, he leads by selling aspirations to me. I have to aspire to see him lead. And if he can’t inspire me to grow, we can’t be partners. So, success is part of it. Faith and emotional intelligence are also part of it.”
“We will have issues. I’m very pragmatic. sometimes I have to hold myself with my siblings, my friends, and my family members. Imagine if it was a husband? He would get tired. I will be treating him like my child. He would hate me''
Main point, "I'm not in my 20s, we are not growing together"
ReplyDeleteVery apt 👌
As a mature woman above 30, make sure you have something going for yourself and then get you a man who is not struggling too.
Two successful people in a relationship is a sweet union.
Well written!
DeleteI would say, two committed and successful people leads to a sweet union.
She's 51.
DeletePreparing herself for a second or third wife breaking news in case you wake up to it.
See wrinkles on her face. Na wa
13:22, I'm very sure that you are younger than her even if she is 51. Show us your own face. I'm 100% sure that you look older than her in appearance despite being younger in age. Shame on you monkey.
DeleteGo and work hard and take good care of yourself so you stop looking like a old monkey at your age.
Jealous and broke thing!
Successful guy wana marry a single mom ? Easily ? To you? Successful old polygmist are available only or sugar daddies ( fellow women husband) for that , some are lucky though.
ReplyDeleteLies
DeleteShe has a choice
Love is a stranger to transactional empty entitled men
You spoke well
DeleteWell said
ReplyDeleteA man gets to know a woman and her family is poorer than thought after introduction done and are likely to be liabilities. He runs away usually by ghosting because it is hard to tell her the truth. What do we tell most of such women here? Go naked at midnight to prey on him. Never is she told to invest same faith in praying for financial turn around. Truth said by her. Only men/women married to poor men/women know where it pinches.
ReplyDeleteGhosting is cowardly and selfish
DeleteInferior men should work on themselves and stop trying to manipulate women into accepting their mediocrity and traumatic low self esteem
DeletePeriod
ReplyDeleteYour WhatsApp group. Child 30. Mummi 51
DeleteI actually understand where Waje is coming from, and her point may not have anything to do with arrogance, nor rooted in a sense of self-made, it’s in her realism. At 45, she’s not in the phase of life where love alone does not suffice. She’s lived through her storms, enough to know that love without stability turns into resentment.
ReplyDeleteA woman who has built herself has every right to seek a man whose life is already structured, not someone she has to raise - hypocrisy you'd say? But success here isn’t just about money; it’s about mental balance, purpose, and direction.
She wants a man who inspires her, not one who drains her with excuses. That’s some kind of maturity, and not materialism. At a certain age, if common sense is accessible, we stop romanticising avoidable struggle. We all want peace, growth, and mutual respect - not a “potential” that may never manifest - where patience has become worn out.
Let’s be honest: anyone who knows their worth shouldn’t be afraid to set their standards. What offends some people is that she said it aloud - especially some of our men. But truth doesn’t stop being truth because it’s uncomfortable - it was never meant to be!
Her choice, her decision. But practically, is it sustainable without compromise? We all need healthy companionship at some point.