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LOOKING FOR WAHALA WHERE THERE IS NONE
I'm a pregnant and very picky when it comes to foods/fruits, most especially fruits. Days back, my husband made a statement that got to me, he said "if any complication arises while being pregnant or during delivery that's when I'll know the kind of husband I married" the statement sent a cold chill down my nerves.
Since then I've been thinking of what to tell him that will piss him off for days or even weeks but i can't really think of anything.
I feel terrible, I'm supposed to be seen, heard and pampered, even more but it seems I married a man who is verbally/emotionally abusive ..
See how body dey do you to look for trouble where there is none.....Please take it easy and let it go.....Seems he wants you to eat right but you are picky, not a big deal....Nothing will happen to you In Jesus name but eat right to avoid stories that touch....
the man is worried with the way you have been picky. Just don't allow this statement affect your relationship with your husband. Allow it to slide, just look for a way to eat those fruits that are good for pregnant women.
ReplyDeleteHe said it because he feels your eating habit might potentially affect his offspring? Why won't he be defensive? See the way you said it acting like the victim. Women !!!
ReplyDeleteLet me quote the OP
ReplyDelete"Since then I've been thinking of what to tell him that will piss him off for days or even weeks but i can't really think of anything."
You can't think of anything because none exists. I think you have a good husband by all indication. No use your hand scatter wetin no get problem. Na dat time you go actually get chronicle to write.
ease let it go. You can gently tell him how the statement made you feel. But you don't need to harbor any resentment towsrds him and Please, speak positively about your delivery.
DeleteMay God help you.
Better chronicles. Please madam try dey eat if na north I for get you kunu geda and lots of fruits
DeletePregnancy sha
ReplyDeleteI hope you are able to your routine drugs???
Don't mind him, sorry you hear
Don't mind him Poster, forgive and forget ok, just try to focus on yourself and baby. He's just been concerned about you, but he said it in the wrong way.
ReplyDeletePoster. Please your husband means well. He wants you to eat right. Force yourself to eat well,so that,you and your baby can be healthy. 🤗
ReplyDeleteWhy do women like drama so much? So, an adult can sit down and be looking for troubles every where for weeks where there is none?
ReplyDeleteLife itself is complicated, do not use your own hands to complicate it.
Did the husband say something good
Delete17:07
DeleteYes. Maybe in harsh tone, but yes. Most short chronicles are written to present selves in good lights.
Too much of social media is the cause of your issue. There are lots of fake counsellor on social media now that are messing with people's minds.
ReplyDeleteSo she’s deaf abi
DeleteShe didn’t hear him
Well said @16:19. And most of the counsel are bad aura for bad aura; never good for good.
DeleteLet it go. You can let him know what he said hurt you but also try to eat right cos your baby needs it. You will be glad you did when you hold your beautiful baby.
ReplyDeleteJust try to eat the needed meals and fruits.
Yes, you deserve to be pampered! And yes, he can say that in a kind way without hurting your feelings. Just find a good way and incorporate these picky meals, okay? Save delivery, Momma 😘
ReplyDeleteYou get time continue if na people that doesn't care for anything,you for see yourself
ReplyDeleteHahahahahaha
DeleteLol. Sorry, my dear. Hubby is only concerned that your eating habits might impact negatively on you and the baby. I'm sure he doesn't mean bad. So biko sheathe your sword.
ReplyDeleteAnd try to eat well, I know you're not doing it on purpose, but just try. It will end in praise
But what is wrong with being picky about what you eat during pregnancy. Some fruits are known to carry worms easily and things taste and smell different to pregnant women. Maternal vitamins are there for a reason. I have never met a pregnant woman who was not turned off by certain foods during pregnancy, they induced nausea and vomiting, sometimes it were things they loved before pregnancy. Same way some women crave things that makes no sense when they are pregnant, one bucket of ice daily, pickle and ice-cream, raw flour.
ReplyDeleteYour husband needs to read a book to better understand pregnancy. Do not tell him anything, give him a book.
Leave story.
DeleteShe is not eating as she should. If you have experienced the consequences of her action, you would not write this. Those who have seen an underfed newborn know what is. You cannot know more than her husband who lives with her. She is not concerned about what was said. She is only about how it was said.
19:37, be real, have you seen any underweight newborn that not eating enough fruits or a variety of fruits caused the baby to be underweight. I have never seen it. There are women who could not keep a thing down and vomited right throughout their pregnancy and they gave birth to perfectly healthy babies. One of my cousin was premature with low birth weight and he is completely healthy today, and met all his developmental targets growing up. Nothing is going to happen to the BV’s child because she is not eating lots of fruits.
DeletePregnancy doesn’t mean you have to eat like an elephant to guarantee a healthy baby. Most women were not getting enough folic acid through their diets alone, even when they ate like a cow, and that is why all maternal vitamins have it today. As long as she take the fruits she can handle and eat her meals that she can manage and take her vitamins, drink pure clean water, and do her pregnancy exercises she will have a healthy baby.
Pregnancy vibes.
ReplyDeleteHe meant well for you, though his utterance lacked grace. A wise woman builds her home... Please, try and give him the grace he lacked while reacting to your picky attitude towards foods. Find the right atmosphere and communicate the hurt his words have on you to him.
ReplyDelete"...even more but it seems I married a man who is verbally/emotionally abusive".
ReplyDeleteExpressing concern especially about something that affects your health and the baby’s is not the same thing as emotional or verbal abuse. Accusing him of abuse over that is extreme. Be careful about escalating a situation by mislabeling it.
What he said was bad abeg
DeleteWhat or how he said it?
DeleteNone is bad because an innocent child's life is involved.
Even if bad, revenge is the best option? If the man is bad would she not have found so much to tell him?
18:07 you don’t know Nigerians! They will excuse and justify anything
DeleteThis is such a non issue
ReplyDeleteYou guys are not serious. Someone is giving her soft threats and y’all are saying it’s a non-issue?.
ReplyDeletePoster , no need to fight. Just make plans. On how to manage him.
See how they are all excusing such an utterance! I’m a picky eater too and struggle with fruits especially! Pregnancy will not suddenly change that!
ReplyDeleteHe could have kept convincing her or even help her turn fruits into juice (that’s the easiest way for me to take fruits) but no, he had to threaten her!
And watch my dear Nigerians excuse that away!
Poster, I’d suggest having a conversation and stating in clear terms how that upset you! Why does he think it’s okay threatening someone, a pregnant woman at that!
It simply means if, God forbid, something goes wrong with your pregnancy, whether it’s as a result of ur picky eating or not, he would definitely pour the blame on you! He should better stop thinking that way!
Thank you so much Eka..
DeleteYou want to be pampered abi? See , marriage is not a holiday resort! Marriage is a full time job with 2 adult who have chosen not just to love , care but also to be responsible and accountable. Madam, you need to eat for the well-being of you and your baby. The guy must be frustrated about your eating habit and he is worried. Take your routine drugs and eat well.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is no darn job. Jobs have vacation days, sick days, pension, health benefits, and promotions. It’s only a job if one person is the boss and the other is the labourer/subordinate.
DeleteLet us please move away from the marriage is a job mantra.