Hailings eeeeeeeeh..
Shout out to all the Blog visitors who live in Countries where today is Fathers day...
Today is fathers day in Germany and it falls on holiday and as soon as i post in house news, the Bambinos are taking their papap out for Lunch so i go excort them...LOL...
It just occurred to me that i dont see comments alleging that i am divorced again or married to old man...dem don tire!LOL!
Wa wa aight!!!
'***Tongue click'***
Shout out to you Angel KOOF...................You rock!
The person who spelt it as ''koofo'' yesterday ,please note that it is KOOF........I dont know whats all this talk about me not having money and aint ding giveaway. please if you have money send to me and stop bad mouthing my efforts...did i show off wealth at any time?.......Please let my kpekus breath in and out oh....
Enjoy the rest of the day and remember that i love drama so anyhow you bring am, I go enjoy am but also remember say if you be scammer na you lose, nah you shame, na you thief, nah you lie....NA ME WIN!
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OPEN AND CLOSE CASE
Whoever it was that helped me respond to this anonymous eh, na Baba God go hammer you with plenty Blessings in Jesus name.
The best decision I ever made in my life was the day I ended my marriage.
I know this may come as a shock to many people, but yes — I freed myself from a toxic marriage, and till today, I am grateful I did.
While everyone is talking about Ilebaye’s situation, let me say this for free — hitting an adult for any reason is never normal. It is traumatic, damaging, and something no human being deserves to experience.
For 17 years, I endured violence in my marriage. Seventeen years of pain, fear, emotional torture, and silent tears. Till today, I still cannot explain how I survived it all.
Sometimes I look back and wonder: if I had stayed because of “what people would say,” would my life have ended like many others whose stories became headlines after dèath?
I chose to leave so I could live.
Out of respect for him as the father of my children, I will not share every detail of what I went through. But I will say this, one of the biggest reasons many women remain in abusive marriages is because of our culture and society.
We are taught to keep enduring.
To keep praying.
To keep managing.
To keep hoping things will get better.
So you smile outside while dying inside.
People judge you for leaving, but they rarely ask what you survived before making that decision.
Sadly, it took the déath of people like Osinachi to liberate many women mentally. Her story forced many of us to realize that silence can be deadly.
One thing people don’t understand is that abuse does not only destroy you physically. It damages you mentally and emotionally. There was a point I almost lost my sanity completely. The trauma, fear, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion cannot even be properly explained with words.
And the children? They suffer too.
Growing up in a toxic environment leaves scars on them, even when they pretend to be okay.
I had to withdraw from many people because of their insensitivity. Some people will blame you for leaving but will never survive one week in your situation. Society has kept many women trapped in violence simply because of fear of judgment.
Let me say this clearly:
Leaving a toxic environment does not make you weak.
Sometimes, leaving is the bravest thing you can ever do for yourself.
I am not speaking up because I owe anyone explanations. I am speaking because I know there are women silently suffering right now, women who cry themselves to sleep every night, women who have lost themselves completely in abusive marriages.
To every woman going through this: you deserve better.
Love should not come with violence.
Marriage should not feel like a prison sentence.
And to the men reading this:
If you cannot control your anger…
If you cannot communicate without raising your hands on a woman…
Then you are not ready for marriage.
No matter how much a woman loves you, consistent abuse will eventually turn that love into fear, resentment, and emotional disconnection.
Avoid going close to someone’s daughter if you are not emotionally mature enough to handle disagreements without violence.
Honestly, the kind of men I see these days makes me fear for this generation and the next.
And to the good men. the ones who lead with love, patience, kindness, and respect, may God bless you. The world desperately needs more men like you.
If my story can help even one woman choose herself, choose peace, choose life, then speaking up was worth it.
At the end of the day, no woman deserves to live in fear inside the place she calls home.
A broken marriage is painful, yes… but a broken woman is even worse.
I did not leave because I was weak.
I left because I wanted to live.
I left because my children deserved a healthy mother.
I left because peace of mind is priceless.
If you are silently suffering, I pray you find the strength, courage, and support to choose yourself before it is too late.
And if you have never experienced domestic violence, please be kinder with your words. Some people are fighting battles they can barely survive.
May healing find every wounded soul.
May peace find every troubled home.
And may no woman ever have to lose herself just to keep a marriage.
Feel free to share. Someone out there may need this message more than you know.
By Ugbede Balogun
In case you are reading this and your spouse dey abuse you in any way, nah only you fit know whether to run or stay oh...
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Your Tone Speaks Before Your Words Do!
People often remember how you made them feel more than the exact words you said. Your tone, expression, and emotional control communicate far more than you may realize.
In difficult moments, calm and thoughtful communication can preserve relationships, restore confidence, and redirect conflict toward resolution. A leader who speaks with composure creates stability for everyone around them.
But when anger, fear, or frustration dominate your tone, those emotions overshadow your message. Others respond first to what they sense emotionally before they process your actual words.
Leadership requires emotional discipline.
If you love someone because they love you, its empathy.
If you love someone for their looks, its obsession.
If you love someone for what they have, its interest.
If you love someone for their kindness, its admiration.
But If you confuse why you love someone, its definitely love.
Real love is strange. It doesn’t always make sense. It goes beyond logic, benefits, beauty, or convenience.
Sometimes the deepest love is the one you can never fully explain… you just feel it.
Copied
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A MEMO TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE PARENTS AND GUARDIANS
One day, your parents will need you the same way you once needed them.
That realization hits differently as you grow older.
The people who stayed awake when you were sick, sacrificed their own comfort, and worked through their own struggles to give you a chance at life won’t be strong forever.
Time changes everyone.
One day, they may move slower.
Forget little things.
Need your patience.
Need your presence more than your money.
And many people don’t realize this until it’s too late. They get so busy chasing life that they forget to spend time with the people who gave them one.
Call them. Visit them. Appreciate them while you still can.
When last did you genuinely spend time with your parents or guardians?
#copied
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LITTLE THINGS THAT MATTER
1. ----You might be wiser than who is advising you, still listen.*
2.----You might be stronger than who is leading you, still follow.*
3.----You might be older than who is teaching you,still learn.*
4. ----You might be more experienced than who is guiding you, still pay attention.
5. ------You might be richer than who is correcting you,still be humble.
6. ------You might be busier than who is calling you, still respond.*
7. -----You might be more educated than who is speaking, still listen.*
8. ------You might be more successful than who is advising you,still consider their words.
9.-----You might be more popular than who is mentoring you,still submit.
10. -------You might be more spiritual than who is praying for you, still say Amen.
11.-------You might be more disciplined than who is correcting you,still accept it.
12. -------You might be more skilled than who is instructing you, still obey.
13. ------You might be more aware than who is warning you, still be cautious.
14. ------You might be more advanced than who is teaching you, still take notes.
Humility is not about thinking less of yourself
It’s about knowing your worth and still staying calm.
LIFE IS A LEARNING LESSON. NEVER BE TOO OLD OR FULL OF YOURSELF TO LEARN.
Copied
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WEIRD FACTS
----Changing how you walk affects your mood.
---- People usually forget to thank you when you do good to them, but they never forget to blame you if you did wrong to them.
---There is always that awkward moment when you have to get over someone you never even dated.
---Alexithymia describes a person who has a difficult time expressing their feelings to others.
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OPEN AND CLOSE CASE
Whoever it was that helped me respond to this anonymous eh, na Baba God go hammer you with plenty Blessings in Jesus name.
I have passed the stage where i am in a hurry to do breaking news oh...I wait for a reason!....continue monitoring when you should face your life hustle.
....please send me your account so that i can send you money to relocate to where the news breaks faster........Make i send you 200k? send acct.....Orue!
Please note that i hear most news first but experience has taught me to wait...
I dont rush to post, i don tey for this game....I can redo old story to look new...i can rebreak a breaking news and collect credit....
Sometimes i get tired and frurated cos there are too many unscooled bloggers out there spoiling our work......
Someone yabbed me the other day that na why i no dey get comments again.....i am not after comments sef, if i see fine, if not i will continue posting....As you are monitoring me so, i hope your life and dayjob is perfect?
ANONYMOUS COMMENT
ANONYMOUS COMMENT
ANONYMOUS RESPONSE
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The best decision I ever made in my life was the day I ended my marriage.
I know this may come as a shock to many people, but yes — I freed myself from a toxic marriage, and till today, I am grateful I did.
While everyone is talking about Ilebaye’s situation, let me say this for free — hitting an adult for any reason is never normal. It is traumatic, damaging, and something no human being deserves to experience.
For 17 years, I endured violence in my marriage. Seventeen years of pain, fear, emotional torture, and silent tears. Till today, I still cannot explain how I survived it all.
Sometimes I look back and wonder: if I had stayed because of “what people would say,” would my life have ended like many others whose stories became headlines after dèath?
I chose to leave so I could live.
Out of respect for him as the father of my children, I will not share every detail of what I went through. But I will say this, one of the biggest reasons many women remain in abusive marriages is because of our culture and society.
We are taught to keep enduring.
To keep praying.
To keep managing.
To keep hoping things will get better.
So you smile outside while dying inside.
People judge you for leaving, but they rarely ask what you survived before making that decision.
Sadly, it took the déath of people like Osinachi to liberate many women mentally. Her story forced many of us to realize that silence can be deadly.
One thing people don’t understand is that abuse does not only destroy you physically. It damages you mentally and emotionally. There was a point I almost lost my sanity completely. The trauma, fear, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion cannot even be properly explained with words.
And the children? They suffer too.
Growing up in a toxic environment leaves scars on them, even when they pretend to be okay.
I had to withdraw from many people because of their insensitivity. Some people will blame you for leaving but will never survive one week in your situation. Society has kept many women trapped in violence simply because of fear of judgment.
Let me say this clearly:
Leaving a toxic environment does not make you weak.
Sometimes, leaving is the bravest thing you can ever do for yourself.
I am not speaking up because I owe anyone explanations. I am speaking because I know there are women silently suffering right now, women who cry themselves to sleep every night, women who have lost themselves completely in abusive marriages.
To every woman going through this: you deserve better.
Love should not come with violence.
Marriage should not feel like a prison sentence.
And to the men reading this:
If you cannot control your anger…
If you cannot communicate without raising your hands on a woman…
Then you are not ready for marriage.
No matter how much a woman loves you, consistent abuse will eventually turn that love into fear, resentment, and emotional disconnection.
Avoid going close to someone’s daughter if you are not emotionally mature enough to handle disagreements without violence.
Honestly, the kind of men I see these days makes me fear for this generation and the next.
And to the good men. the ones who lead with love, patience, kindness, and respect, may God bless you. The world desperately needs more men like you.
If my story can help even one woman choose herself, choose peace, choose life, then speaking up was worth it.
At the end of the day, no woman deserves to live in fear inside the place she calls home.
A broken marriage is painful, yes… but a broken woman is even worse.
I did not leave because I was weak.
I left because I wanted to live.
I left because my children deserved a healthy mother.
I left because peace of mind is priceless.
If you are silently suffering, I pray you find the strength, courage, and support to choose yourself before it is too late.
And if you have never experienced domestic violence, please be kinder with your words. Some people are fighting battles they can barely survive.
May healing find every wounded soul.
May peace find every troubled home.
And may no woman ever have to lose herself just to keep a marriage.
Feel free to share. Someone out there may need this message more than you know.
By Ugbede Balogun
In case you are reading this and your spouse dey abuse you in any way, nah only you fit know whether to run or stay oh...
******************
Your Tone Speaks Before Your Words Do!
People often remember how you made them feel more than the exact words you said. Your tone, expression, and emotional control communicate far more than you may realize.
In difficult moments, calm and thoughtful communication can preserve relationships, restore confidence, and redirect conflict toward resolution. A leader who speaks with composure creates stability for everyone around them.
But when anger, fear, or frustration dominate your tone, those emotions overshadow your message. Others respond first to what they sense emotionally before they process your actual words.
Leadership requires emotional discipline.
The higher you rise, the more closely people watch your reactions, your attitude, and the signals you send. Learn to manage not only what you say, but how you say it. Calm strength inspires trust.
“Self-discipline begins with the mastery of your thoughts.”
—Napoleon Hill
#copied
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WHY DO YOU LOVE THE PERSON IN YOUR LIFE???
“Self-discipline begins with the mastery of your thoughts.”
—Napoleon Hill
#copied
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WHY DO YOU LOVE THE PERSON IN YOUR LIFE???
If you love someone because they love you, its empathy.
If you love someone for their looks, its obsession.
If you love someone for what they have, its interest.
If you love someone for their kindness, its admiration.
But If you confuse why you love someone, its definitely love.
Real love is strange. It doesn’t always make sense. It goes beyond logic, benefits, beauty, or convenience.
Sometimes the deepest love is the one you can never fully explain… you just feel it.
Copied
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A MEMO TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE PARENTS AND GUARDIANS
One day, your parents will need you the same way you once needed them.
That realization hits differently as you grow older.
The people who stayed awake when you were sick, sacrificed their own comfort, and worked through their own struggles to give you a chance at life won’t be strong forever.
Time changes everyone.
One day, they may move slower.
Forget little things.
Need your patience.
Need your presence more than your money.
And many people don’t realize this until it’s too late. They get so busy chasing life that they forget to spend time with the people who gave them one.
Call them. Visit them. Appreciate them while you still can.
When last did you genuinely spend time with your parents or guardians?
#copied
*************
LITTLE THINGS THAT MATTER
1. ----You might be wiser than who is advising you, still listen.*
2.----You might be stronger than who is leading you, still follow.*
3.----You might be older than who is teaching you,still learn.*
4. ----You might be more experienced than who is guiding you, still pay attention.
5. ------You might be richer than who is correcting you,still be humble.
6. ------You might be busier than who is calling you, still respond.*
7. -----You might be more educated than who is speaking, still listen.*
8. ------You might be more successful than who is advising you,still consider their words.
9.-----You might be more popular than who is mentoring you,still submit.
10. -------You might be more spiritual than who is praying for you, still say Amen.
11.-------You might be more disciplined than who is correcting you,still accept it.
12. -------You might be more skilled than who is instructing you, still obey.
13. ------You might be more aware than who is warning you, still be cautious.
14. ------You might be more advanced than who is teaching you, still take notes.
Humility is not about thinking less of yourself
It’s about knowing your worth and still staying calm.
LIFE IS A LEARNING LESSON. NEVER BE TOO OLD OR FULL OF YOURSELF TO LEARN.
Copied
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WEIRD FACTS
----Changing how you walk affects your mood.
---- People usually forget to thank you when you do good to them, but they never forget to blame you if you did wrong to them.
---There is always that awkward moment when you have to get over someone you never even dated.
---Alexithymia describes a person who has a difficult time expressing their feelings to others.
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All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.
ReplyDeleteRaining Day here.
Courage and determination...
DeleteMay the Lord strengthen us all
Any delay, laziness fire fire fireeeeee
DeleteAfternoon good to you all
It's a sunny afternoon here. How is your day going? Enjoy the rest of today
ReplyDeleteNo swallow comes close to "Akpu"
ReplyDeleteFufu na baba of them all!😁😁
😅😅 you know right 👍🏼
DeleteNa only u understand this one oo😂😂😂😂
DeleteNot this one am seeing in this market ooo
DeleteStella is doing her job at her own pace. That's her style and we love her like that.
ReplyDeleteShe is actually doing her job o. A very good one at that. I mean na only she fit write this kind thing wey make me de laff like idiot so.
DeleteWhich one be "Please let my kpekus breath in and out oh...."?
To think say I wan try dey holy for one week I come read dis kind thing.
People don't understand that, you need to creat ur own style and be ur original self if you want to last long in a competitive market
Delete14:06, I noticed that your asslicking has reduced. Why?
Delete@ Dogedity, no bi everything nonsense you read you must talk about.
DeleteWhat is actually funny in that sentence.i know what's going on in your mind
GOOD AFTERNOON MY SDK FAMILY 🌹
ReplyDeleteList of little things that matters.
So on point 👍🌹
I greet u
DeleteGood afternoon my good people of SDK blog.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy the rest of ur day beyen
DeleteCustomer satisfaction over money, that’s my standard. I tell my team this often.
ReplyDeleteWe don’t eat today just to go hungry tomorrow. We eat today, stay connected, and keep delivering the quality that brought us food yesterday.
Anything worth doing is worth doing well. Excellence in service and construction.
©️ TEEJAY
You no take a bow from the blog again uncle???
DeleteAlways threatening Stella asif she gives a damn about you 🤣🤣🤣
Abeg man up and stop those things
Bye for now 👋
Teejay I'm so happy for you at least you are heading somewhere and not how you used to be.
DeleteSee the way I dragged that "orue" 🤣🤣🤣🤣 the anon na real orue 🤣🤣😂 they are complaining no comment but this is the best place to read comments with sensible comments and also hilarious ones.
ReplyDeleteI don't think men understand how brutal a woman who once loved can be when she's doesn't feel that way anymore...nobody check out mentally pass women..you'll be doing best in silent treatment buh you babe no even dey see you again...She don move ooonnn😂
ReplyDeleteChai 😂 stray bullet hit self acclaimed king of malice😅😅
DeleteNever be to old or full of yourself to learn 📌📌
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon everyone 🥰
Good afternoon my people, how are y'all doing my SDK villa people??
ReplyDeleteGod has been faithful!!
WE KEEP MOVING!!
Good afternoon y'all
ReplyDeleteI'm doing Stellz. Hope you are doing okay too?
I didn't sleep well last. Now I'm in the office fighting sleep cos I need to submit my report today.
Enjoy the rest of your day people of Sdkville.
You must be half asleep while typing this comment.
DeleteWhat is 'I'm doing Stella '
' I didn't sleep well last '
Hello everyone 😍 😍
ReplyDeleteToday IHN full of wisdom...
Running a business in Nigeria today is not easy... Sometimes sales will be so dull that you will think that your village people are after you
Thank God for my 9 to 5 Job and a supportive partner
I for don hear weeeen
Adulthood no easy...
Have a great rest of the day
True talk dear.
DeleteIf you know you don’t have any supportive system please, don’t do business. You may not know when you have eaten both your capital and your profit.
Na oha soup dem dey feed that man abi egusi? 🙂
ReplyDeleteE resemble ogbono 😂😂
DeleteB like ogbono
Delete😀
DeleteWellcomeee Innnnnnnnn Houseeeee Newssssss
ReplyDeleteHello Everyone ❤️
I Greetlicious Everybody ooooo
Hello iya Boys
😂😂😂😂let my kpekus breath in and out....
ReplyDeleteLittle things that matter...So so so deep ajeh..
This is why I listen carefully and pretend not to even know anything about the topic of discussion because I need to learn, unlearn and relearn things..
Ire oooo
Lovely afternoon amazing people. How Una dey
ReplyDeleteI recently got a tote bag that has a small teddy bear dangling in front. The bear is so beautiful and I wanted to remove it and use as a keyholder but I saw that it beautified the bag, so i left it.
ReplyDeleteToday at the bus stop, a baby started crying to have the teddy oo. She sighted the bear and immediately pointed and would not stop crying even as her mother pacified her. Everyone was looking at me to see if I will remove the teddy and give to her but I no do am ooo. (I just hope I did not disappoint them) I dont understand why kids will choose to put elders in very difficult situations like what I faced this morning. I was still thinking in my mind if I should do a transfer to the woman to get the girl a toy and then my staff bus came.
...and then I hopped in. (Escaped) Lol.
Welcome IHNs
I would have given it to the baby out of shame 😆, not from my heart o. I also don't like how some babies and toddlers innocently put one in difficult situations.
DeleteActually, you were under no obligation to give the baby the teddy. If you felt like giving it out, that would have been kind. And if you decided not to, which you did, that’s perfectly fine too. The teddy belongs to you, and you like it on your bag. Children can innocently put adults in difficult situations sometimes, especially in public places where everyone starts watching and expecting a certain reaction 😄
DeleteI would have been dangling it in the baby's face to make them cry more 🤣🤣🤣
DeleteHello everyone...
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon everyone
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely correct 👍 @ 2nd weird fact..
ReplyDeleteI once said people should visit funeral homes more than other parties.
ReplyDeleteI still stand on that.
It gives you opportunity to reflect on your life and prioritise.
Especially planning for the life hereafter.
Alexx"s d.eath has really been an emotional one for me. Not sure I have been touched by any actor's de.mise like this. Spent almost all day, going through all testament of him from various people. (These I have been doing for days now). His charming smiles, plastered everywhere.
Everyone mentioned his kind nature and how he was a good person.
So glad his last moments were spent in solitude, with closest loved ones, and probably working out his salvation
Death might not give a long announcement via sickness, as in his case. If it happens suddenly, What would you be remembered for and WHERE WILL YOU SPEND ETERNITY?
YOU should be visiting funeral homes more than parties, that's good for you, leave others alone. It is not by force.
DeleteIt's only when you die that you will hear good things about you.
DeleteAm I the only one who saves funny lines or posts here?
ReplyDeleteE get how I dey use am flog people for this side ehn...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I saved this one:
"Face like mashed beans...."
"Mouth like kerosene funnel..."
"Fold mouth like envelope"
"Dem call Edet, na Akpan appear."
"You never tire for all these FABUlous stories?"
".. mouth wide like shower curtain..."
It was here I saw mkpi, ezi bida, afofogbemu, elemu shalanga, elenu gboro gboro, elenu lamba etc etc
Then one comment during the hot slap Bianca gave that woman (can't remember her name) I saved that comment since that year, any time I want to laugh, ikwa kwa kwa, I pull it out🤣🤣🤣
Smoh breeze wey uncle abionko say make e for take as e open window, na so dem knack am turn garri for head, madam bedsheets collect, mr excess something collect, anon collect, online bush rat collect, 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is the latest one I saved..."Na xxx own dey make me laff like hyena, looking like wetin oyibo fisherman dey attach to their fishing line to catch fish."🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Una mouth no good I swear. Loveee eeeet.
There's one I saved in 2014 or 2015 on my phone. One verrrry long one so funny. I think it was a boxing ring post. It ended with emjay stealing chikitos wig and dashing off to Sakpbonba road or New Benin Market. Unfortunately, that phone is long gone. I've searched for that post enduessly. If anyone can get it for me, I would be greatful.
If you have any funny lines, please share them here. I use to use it and flog people well well. Na only violence some people understand, so na to give them to woto woto.🤣🤣🤣🤣
A lot to learn here today.
ReplyDeleteI salute your courage to choose life and live...@ Best decision writer 👍
My own is why is it difficult for men to be faithful? my kpekus is itching since last night. i know this man don gbensh somebody outside. na to go get dildo to dey help myself now. I'm tired of treating myself all the time.
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon SDK and BVs. Oluwaseun. 🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteBeen having a lot on my head for months now, I haven't recovered from the loss of my father in February now my friend is shot dead in the US, she was robbed of $25k she ran after them and they shot her😭 oh God please take care of my heart before it bleeds out. I am just tired 😩
ReplyDeleteIt's well with you. 🤗
DeleteO dear 💔
DeleteWhy can't they just steal and go their way?
May God grant her eternal rest and comfort her loved ones.
What a tragedy! May God rest her soul. Stay strong, Neatcut.
DeleteMehn! The world is becoming scary 😨
Good afternoon everyone,the sun is seriously stunning over here
ReplyDeleteBreathing kpekus activated..😅
But waitoo SDK kpekus dey breath so🙄
Nti mbu🤣🤣🤣🤣
Good afternoon BVs
ReplyDeleteYou can't please humans
Well-done Stella
Lol @stella ,leave my kpekus to breathe...
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon my people
IHN
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon everyone 🥳
"God is not asking you to be perfect, He's asking you to be consistent.