Don't leave for anybody..if at all try and co exist harmoniously and give peace a chance...he actually wanted you to give him the go ahead and now trying to use ot against you...it's well o
Men sef what do they want..?

You gave him a chance to go for second wife..hmmmmm.

Anyways, he never fell out with his side chick. Both have been together for long and also in love
This is why the second wife issue came up ma.

God will see you through because I don't even know what to type. I understand how you feel though.

Don't forget, she must not move in with you guys, else, they will send you and your children out of that house stylishly.

I wouldn’t be surprised if they already have children together. Don't be surprised if a five year old boy shows up in a month. You want to leave? You better stay and stockpile your pension and your daughters’ inheritance. When son and second wife appear cultural rules going to take over. Stockpile today and leave in a couple years. At the end of the day, you told him to get a wife, so what does it matter if it is someone old or new. And yes, this means they never stopped seeing each other.

Be wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove.

This kind of betrayal is really really painful. Kai, I really do not kmow what to say o. I am pained on yiur behalf.
Some of these stupid men want ro always be in charge and keep taking and taking, but when you decide to focus on yourself, they won't have it.
Poster, so sorry about this.

You supported him to get a second wife.Whoever he wants as wife doesn't matter.

This is 2026, people do sex selection ivf.. with high success rate… no guarantee 2nd wife will have boys…..

Madam, If you know you are not financially capable of taking care of your children, don't leave that house but make sure you deprive him of everything, your body, food, care etc. Let the new wife take up from where you stop no matter where she lives and try not to feel any emotions at this time. Note that your staying behind is only just for him to raise your children and if you can get hold of any documents of his properties, find a way of changing them to your kids name. Now is time for you to plan and execute your plans with wisdom

Dear Poster,
Don't leave your marriage, what is done is done. You are on the loosing end of you do. Hold your head up high and be strong.
The side chic thinks marriage is easy until she moves in 🤣🤣
You need to find other hobbys to distract yourself because some nights are going to get really cold.

My God!

Leave him and find another man
This marriage is for them
You are the outsider
Your husband is a liar
You never gave him permission to marry just anyone
You said pick someone from the village and he agreed

In this age of medical awareness, imagine a husband wanting to marry a second wife simply because he desires a male child.

Science has long established that the mother's egg always contributes an X chromosome. It is the father's sperm that contributes either an X or a Y chromosome, determining whether the child will be female (XX) or male (XY). In other words, the sex of the child is determined by the father, not the mother.

So blaming a woman for not giving birth to a son is not only unfair but medically inaccurate.

If a man insists on taking another wife under the guise of "looking for a male child," one has to wonder whether that is the real reason—or merely a convenient excuse to legitimize a relationship he already wants to pursue.

If he chooses to marry the other woman, that's his decision. But if she eventually gives birth to a son, it would be prudent for him to confirm paternity through a DNA test rather than assuming biology worked in his favor simply because the child is male.

It's only in some Nigeria marriages you will see people telling women who are cheated upon not to leave for anybody when the man had already left the marriage by stepping out. I wonder if the men are given same pieces of advice...

Poster, You would leave eventually, after all people married to cheats always do (and the ones who don't, the cheats eventually leaves them)...but take your time, don't rush. Clear your head and be very wise .

I repeat be smart and take your time.

And you are right, he never stopped seeing her all those years you thought he did. Cheats don't change, they are very sick and hard to cure. If your spouse cheat once just know he or she will cheat forever or you can delude yourself into thinking he or she stopped.

If you find out that you are married to a cheat and luckily you don't have kids yet, once is enough to run from the creature and never look back again but when you have kids leave but not immediately whether you are a man or woman.

The deeds been done so pls stay.. it is well..

why will you leave because of her, stay put since no threat or the man is not abusing you. Make sure you have plan B for tomorrow, since you gave him go ahead to marry a second and never mentioned he should not marry his sidechick. Your husband too trick you into his game plan since 19000, just let it be but never trust him blindly again. Allow them do what they want to do as long as it will not affect you, the lady in question want to have a memory to keep for other time, allow her and her friends.

I dey wait to read from juju whorstin fans. Nde home breakers! Madam, I hope say you no dey support watermelon, if not pele. Your peace will come, but if you support her, this is just the beginning.

You Have The Mind To Give Your Husband To Go i Ahead To Marry Another Wife Cos Of A Male Child
Madam Congratulations..👋
What You See
Please Take Ittttttttttt And Dnt Think Too Much Cos Of HBP

Hello iya Boys

He knows you are not going anywhere;you would only rant and raise thunder but at the end of the day he knows deep down that you are going nowhere;and that exactly is where he got the audacity to want his sidechic as a second wife.

Then you made another error;which is accepting to have a co-wife..which means two things;you are not going anywhere and you can compromise your standards to retain your stand as a first wife.

We men are very logical;and everything is well calculated before executed.we know the wife that can take nonsense;and the one who would move on without blinking or crying..

You gave him the go-ahead;he made his choice,just that unfortunately the choice isn’t comfortable for you..but it’s his choice,not yours(harsh but the truth).

Before a man thinks of marrying a second wife;just know you are already an option in his life;so whether you leave or stay;it means nothing to the man.

Hope this helps.

@MARTINS

We die there. Stay put.

I would have loved to hear how he is taking care of his girls. Does he take care of them?
You should not have given him the permission to get a second wife. You are not even barren, but are blessed with wonderful children; only that their own father doesn

You should not have accepted the second wife option on account of a male child issue.

If you still want to stay in the marriage, fast and pray for the finger of God to work on your behalf.

If you want to leave, plan your leaving so that, at least, your finances will be taken care of

Can prayers and fasting work in your favor? Yes. You can do it if you still want to live with him.

My sister, it is training, yea right training that constitute what could be termed child, children, offspring, and not gender. If the girls are trained to walk in the way of the lord and they become successful, everyone will be proud of them and of you.
On the other hand, a badly trained male child is an cesspit, an eyesore, and one that frequently causes the parents to regret ever having them.

You should have sought for advice when he started seeking for your consent to marry an additional wife.

Like some people have written, there is ivf and surrogacy, which of these has your husband tried before landing on this second wife issue?

Remember this, whenever want to take important decisions, consult your trusted persons. Tell the person you are dealing with that you will get back to them. Then, take that time to do consultation. It helps a lot.

Your chronicle needs more details of the efforts you and your husband have made through other means of getting the baby with the sex you want.

I am so sorry you are going through this. From what you shared, I don't think the biggest issue is even the second wife; the bigger issue is the dishonesty. You agreed because you believed he was marrying someone from the village, but if this is the same woman he told you he had ended things with, then you were not given the full truth before making that decision.

Also, please stop blaming yourself for having only girls. The sex of a child is determined by the man, not the woman. A woman contributes an X chromosome, while the man contributes either X or Y. If he contributes X, the baby is a girl; if he contributes Y, the baby is a boy. So my sister, you did not fail your husband. Na science be this, no be your fault.

If you had known this, maybe you would have made a different decision about accepting another wife. What hurts here is not just polygamy, it is that your trust has been broken. Please take care of yourself and don't carry guilt for something that was never in your control. Go on a retreat and have a clear head to decide the way forward.

But in all you will be doing, never allow that woman to live under your roof!!

Madam, what kind of mistake is this in 2026? What happened to IVF and surrogacy? What's the guarantee that this woman would birth boys for him? It doesn't even make sense