STAND ALONE NARRATIVE..
A MAN WITH BAGGAGE AND ANGER ISSUES....
Hi Stella,i wouldn't actually say it took me a lot of courage to write this because i know its going to be put up as anonymous which i would like cause i wouldnt want to disclose my identity. 'dont know if disclose was the right word to use here'? i would also like to say that i love love your blog, and it has a way of making my day, well my every minute too, i check back every second for updates by you.
I also love the fact that you are so real......... its hard to come by these days, where everyone is a saint.
Thus goes my story, am going to try to be as brief as possible. (real names not inclusive). I met Bola December 2015 or so, we met on a group chat someone started, at first everything was so innocent, he was friendly and i used to call him my brother from another mother, he would always back me up wen there was an incident on the group chat or whenever a guy tries to DM me on the group chat, i would always insist that they spoke to my brother BOLA (mind you he isnt my real brother), anyways I was off the group chat for a while or so and he called me to check on me saying he hadn't heard from me in a while, we got talking and we seemed quite compatible, BOLA by the way stays in the UK while i stay in Nigeria. we would chat on whatsapp,facetime,instagram and so on, he was very awesome to talk to.
I told him of my plans to visit the UK and he asked me to come see him, while in the UK i met him once, not my spec physically but he seemed nice as always, even took my brother and i out for lunch, fast forward to the evening, i decided to spend the night at his place where i found out he had three children, three boys to be precise, and he had started telling me that he would love to settle down with me, (what else would i give him after 3 boys). while at his place i discovered he had some anger issues, which i put at the back of my mind because i still was undecided as to if i wanted to be with him.
After i left the UK we were still talking and so on, he would tell me all his plans and ask for advise which i would give to him, in the cause of this relationship, we had given each other pet names (i wont lie, i started developing feelings for him), but i also noticed he was a bit stingy, which i didnt really bother much about, because i am a working class lady, with a good job and some businesses, (sometimes i would throw something out for example something expensive got stolen from me and i mentioned it to him, and he said ooh baby dont worry i got you, mind you i didnt ask, because i felt i didnt have to ask and i could handle it, guess what?
I had to buy that thing all over again and he never mentioned it, i told him i was looking to move to the island and he said i should so that he can come and stay with me weekends so he can attend meeting, he has never said i cant wait to come so i can be with you, or even take you out to dinner, its always haaa when i come we have to go to the gym so we can look good together).
Anyways fast forward to now, i took some professional exams and i really didnt feel i did good enough and i told him about it, there was nothing i did not hear from my ancestors, of how disappointed he is, how i should leave my businesses alone, stop going to the island etc, this is coming from someone who has never sent a penny to my account.
I stopped calling him or chatting with him because i needed to cool down and wanted as a matter of fact to test his anger management, and all of a sudden he assumed: This is a screenshots of one the messages.
Do i go back to such a person who could send me a message like this. should we say he loves me too much that was why? should i be scared? thank you Stella for posting this. forgive me if there are any mistakes, i did try to read through though...
OMG!!!...I cant deal with people like this.If it was me,i would read this message and take a walk,INSTANTLY...thats me.
I dont know about you and the fact that you are asking what you should do shows you might not be able to walk away easily.
What happened to the Mother(s) of his kids?
This looks like a one chance but i will leave others to advise you accordingly.