Hello Stella,
I am a fan of your blog and I have a true life story to share with you, cos am at cross road and I feel like harming my Dad.
I am from a very happy Christian home and the first born in my. My Dad, a Pastor in the Church and My Mum a Medical Practitioner working outside the Country to assist the Entire family.
She is a Loving, Caring, Diligent and the Best Mother anyone would pray for, really trying her best to make the whole Family happy and she comes around yearly for her Holiday.
I got married early this year to a God-fearing, Lovely, Beautiful and Understanding lady from a Christian home. Last week My Dad called my Wife to check on him after work, as we normally visit him occasionally, becos my place is not to far from my folks house.
To her greatest surprise and shock, she met my Dad having sex with a woman we had been suspecting of having an affair with him over time. She was puzzled, perplexed, shocked and had to run out of the house un-noticed.
She called me immediately and could not tell me exactly what she saw due to fear. She couldn't sleep for two days until the 3rd day after waking up in the middle of the night, seeing her restless i had to pester her to tell me what the problem was. She Opened up and told me how she saw my Dad in the act of infidelity.
I really need advice on what to do, I cant tell my Mum now due to health issues and she is presently at work. Probably when she comes for her holidays.
I HATE HIM SO MUCH FOR THIS ACT.........WHY DO MEN CHEAT ON GOOD WOMAN ? SHE DOESN'T DESERVE THIS
Thanks.
LEKAN
*Lekan,why don't you confront your Father man to man?If you tell your mum would it make it better or worse?
I am not saying he did right but in most long distance relationships one or both partners engage in casual sex just to satisfy the sex urge.
Talk to your dad and when he is done explaining,counsel him if you can.
I agree with you, Stella. No need telling your mum.. Just because your dad is a pastor doesn't make him super man.
ReplyDeleteIn Other news! Obama's twitter account Hacked!! "I hate waking up 2 bad news"
DeleteWell, if I wer in ur shoes, I'lld spill d beans. WTH. Pastor my black ass. Den wat does he preach on d pulpit? Wen he can't even use his own lyf as an example. Am sure its one of dese mushroom church pastors. Even if u don't tell ur mom and u confront ur dad she may still know in d end so tell her. U can't keep quiet abt it. Its not fair on ur mom's part. B4 she'll ignorantly collect HIV frm him one day. U neva can tell so in my opinion, tell her.
DeleteLekan how old are you? You sound like a baby. And your wife couldn't sleep for three days? On top this matter or another?
DeleteYou people are wicked, enjoying dollars at daddy's expense. You too send your wife to the US and let's see how you will fare. And with no disrespect to your mum, I hope you know godly women have sexual urges too? The only thing is that the will to overcome it is different for daddy and mummy. So first of all, there is nothing wrong with your dad needing a woman. But he should have told his wife that woman this arrangement is not working. And if he had told her, it doesn't mean she will agree as she has her own mind. Then he also did bad by bringing the woman home. But think about it, sex only in December. Look, most women that do that know that their men cheat, your mum is not clueless.
First you have to remove that judgmental condemnation from your head and tell your father you know and you understand but for the sanctity of his ministry and the impact the revelation might have on the church members, he needs to stop and rearrange things with your mom, whether he will go there or she will return home. It doesn't stop there, call your mum and tell her to come home and that it is not good for a man to live alone. Lastly tell your wife to spy on HER daddy too and to get some damn sleep.
Anon 5:12pm, God bless u, she could not sleep for three days, over what? Does she visit this blog just like u do? Cos if she does she would av known there are families with crazier issues, ur dad cheated on ur mum and he s a pastor, confront him, talk to him father to son and let him confide in you, u dont know what he s been going through since your wife caught your dad, and pls dont forget to correct your wife's impression about ur dad, let her know that men of God too fall so she shldnt feel like a saint. Pls remind ur dad to go for tests, who knows he might have been doing this for a long time. Let mama come home too, once in a year? Why? The man has sexual urge too now, and am sure that december period will av enough activities for you guys so much that they might not even have enough time for themselves. God bless your family
DeleteAnon 5:12, I love you. You said it all. Mr poster look no further you've got the perfect solution here
DeleteU nail it! What is d gig deal?Body no b firewood abeg
DeleteGood talk, brother cos I know this came from a man.
DeleteVery apt analysis of the situation,doesn't mean its right but it is what it is!
DeleteLet ur wife chill joor,its not like the world came to an end.
Talk to him and let him know the implications of his indiscretion.
@ Anon above, FYI, I'm a woman, not all women are unrealistic as insinuated by you ☺
Good talk, brother cos I know this came from a man.
DeleteAnon 5:12
DeleteI've never read a more sensible comment on this blog. Won't even bother reading other comments. Lekan you got your answer. Best!!!
If I have a son like you I will be ashame of you, woman wrapper, you sound like a baby, so you think your mother only have sex in december? I live in atl, all the women who claim to have a husband in 9ja always have a helper. We are all humans, your father did nothing wrong, he took care of his needs, live your own life and let him live his. As for your wife that can't sleep over your fathers issue, tell her to take a valium busy body
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ReplyDeleteDon't worry give urself 15 years in ur own marriage before U judge ur father... It will get to a time ur wife will have flat breast, flat nyash and will not be able to arouse U sexually again .. It is then U can Judge if ur dad fucked up or not .. Tur wife has perky breast now that's why u de wonder nonsense
DeleteIts viceversa, men do have saggy scrotum, weak penis, low strength,saggy pot bellied when they get older, but do we women complain? No
DeleteSo the women get to have changes in their body which is a very natural thing and the men don't? What happens when his balls shrink and he can't have a round of sex without grunting and spewing his rubbish after 5mins eh? What happens then?
DeleteNa me talk am, you call sperm rubbish but I'm sure you enjoy swallowing after blowjob.
Delete@ AnonymousOctober 29, 2013 at 2:24 PM,
DeleteYou don't age abi?
Btw,I pity your wife! ☹
Its nt a new tin my dear. Such tins happen everyday. U just av to learn to deal with it bt pls don't tell ur mum.
ReplyDeleteOh really he has to learn to deal with it? If it was the woman now we won't hear word, but I guess it's ok for the man hiss!
DeleteTalk to your dad, boy. Keep ya mum outta this
DeleteDo you know what the mum is also doing over there???? Meeting your husband once a year, is he a carved image?
DeleteYou and your pretty wife are rare species of earthlings.Am shocked you two are devastated like a couple of 8 year olds.Your dad is alone.Your mum is far away! You think he doesn't ve needs? Your dad is first of all a Man and then a pastor.Like every other man,he can fall many times.Being a pastor,means half your work is done,because he knows his excesses are at variance with what he stands for publicly.My dear poster,ve that talk with your dad.Pls,do not tell him who saw him banging away, cos that would scar him.You don't want him to resent your wife now do you? Let him know the secret is safe for now,but he should avoid sins against his mobile temple.Pray for him too.Don't hate him;he's a man like you.He needs a woman to fill that gap you and yours can't cover.Don't forget thst it is not good for a man to be alone.why do you think Widower pastors marry before the dust settles on their wives graves?No one wants to miss heaven for burning with lust! Mama needs to close that gap sooner than later.In the meantime,you and your spouse should see life for what it is.People fall!
ReplyDeleteLive and let live. ...
ReplyDeleteStella, I agree with u on this one.
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ReplyDeleteU sound like a learner, I mean a baby. Tell ur mum now, who is beging u not to. U will end up making ur mum unhappy and distroying their marrage. Men cheat every day, old story.the only thing u can do for ur mum, is to pray to God for ur dad to never disrepect ur mum coz of another woman.
ReplyDeleteTalk to your father first beyond you tie him to the stake and have him shot. You need to validate what you heard from your wife, just saying.
ReplyDeleteWhat is wrong with all this men who doesn't recpect their age! It will be a mistake telling ur mum,just confront ur dad like Sterra said man to man but be rest assured that he will continue with the affair,its hard for men to stay without sex for that long. Long distance relationship isn't healthy
ReplyDeleteWoa, Stella, your blog is fast becoming an Agony Aunt column. Getting boring joor. There's gist out there to give us nah. All these fake fake problems people post here sef don dey tire person.
ReplyDeleteThat is why she is stella and not other blogs! Are u lyk ur siblings or fwends? Noooooo!
DeleteMy younger broda of 21yrs saw text messages of our dad's woman lover who happens 2 b our neighbour and my mum's friend,I don't knw hw he did it bt any text my dad recieves 4rm her,he gets it on his fone too,one day my bros drove my dad out,jst stoped suddenly and started threatening popsi,said he'll kill him,hw cld he come so close 2 hv an affair,so my dad started sleepin wit iron rod by d side of his bed oo,I wonder wat my bros did to him,he got so scared,cldnt take it anymore,he called 4 a family meetin includin my mum,dat my bros wants him dead,dat he's not datin d woman bla bla bla,my bros now spoke wit evidence,hmmmm,u needed 2 see my mum in action,chaos everywia,oh wat a day,it went on 4 a long time bt fada and son later settled,maale 4gave paale and barned her fwend 4rm comin 2 her house,d woman sef didn't even feel remorseful,no shame watsoever,I still suspect she's still seein my dad.whew!can't belive I typed all dis,4gv my typos(wink)
ReplyDeleteA son invading a father's privacy and still threatening him? Insult upon injury. Children of these days sef. That's why they don't live long anymore. And father forgave him because he's a father. Thank God for fatherhood because that's what's still keeping most famillies united. Whatever you do in life, never you lay a finger on your father cos you'll live to regret it.
DeleteWow!!! Stella and Oluyomi odukoya, I hope you will be this understanding to a woman that cheats on her husband who lives far away!!! God himself did not give any excuses for adulterers, in James 4:4 He calls them his enemy. So why is it a cheating man is given excuses especially by stupid women like yourselves and a woman is called a harlot and everybody wants to kill her??? CHEATING IS WRONG!! That poor woman is working away from her family to put food on their table and this BASTARD is f*cking away at anything in a skirt, THIS IS SO WRONG!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you, your the only one with sense here! If it was a woman they would have killed her by now. Nonsense!
DeleteYes u are but try to be realistic atimes! A man wil 4eva be a man just dt our males (hubby, bros, etc) nid prayer
Delete@ AnonymousOctober 29, 2013 at 2:17 PM
DeleteThe "poor woman" didn't do her maths well, she ought to know her husband has needs. We women know most me can't resist sex so much,therefore its our duty to do our best to keep them out of "harm's" way!
Still not saying what he did is right sha
All this nonsence this guy is talking about like a small boy,one kweshion i want to ask u mr man what makes u think that your mum don,t have someone over there were she is who is f.u.c.k.i.n.g her,abi u think say tohtoh no dey scrash her like most women?your wife no fit slumber 4 3days for watin?sleep no dey cach am.as for u wey dey act like small picken,why can,t u speak to ur hipocritical pastor of a dad just to let him know that u understand as a man but he should be careful for the sake of ur mum and his congrigation.why do u even consider telling ur mum about what ur dad did u no be guy man?ewu gambia,u want scater ur family mumu come and suck breast cause u sound like a jew man and a little boy to me.
DeleteStop saying a man would be a man like women do not have needs
DeleteWe hear of women whose husbands can't perform well and they do not go about cheating, what is wrong is wrong
Do not make the poster feel like cheating is ok, b4 he starts cheating on his wife as well.
Dear poster I understand, cus you aint a young man anymore meaning your dad is old and it could be really disgusting to find out that sex is still his priority, instead of serving God or doing other things, sometimes it shocks me that my own dad still has sex...but that's the truth, I think you should call a family meeting, excluding your mum make him see reasons, cus he is also cursing himself as a man of God by commiting aldultry
You should also warn that woman 4rm coming close to your dad, if possible threating her...cus the purnishment for those that do not respect tha matrimonial bed is even worse
Talk to ur dad nd mk sure u don't tell ur mum, he's flesh nd blood nd nt above temptations mind u.
ReplyDeleteYour mum visits your dad yearly! I.e ur parents have sex once in a very long while...lol puleaseeeee don't even think of telling ur mum instead warm up to his mistress. Your dad is human an only helping himself...EEE!!!
ReplyDeleteThink about it, telling your mum would only do more harm than good. In fact there is no upside to telling your mum. Talk to your father man to man, what good that would do though, I'm not sure. Truth is, it's not really your business, face your marriage and be that model husband to your wife.
ReplyDeleteVALERIE.
Do not use your own hands to tear your family apart, you are the man and you just have to handle this issue in a very matured manner so it won't grow into a big crisis. Keep the women out of it, have a heart to heart talk with your Dad, Pray to God for wisdom and calm your wife
ReplyDeleteIt is so pathetic but i will not blame your dad. Your mum leaves your dad for a whole year and comes during holidays. What will he be doing. Yes he is a pastor but he is human too. Instead of telling your mum, talk to your dad and see how this situation can be handled. As long as your mother is away, there will be still tendency to cheat. so you guys should work around it..
ReplyDeleteStella well said..u wouldn't have said it any better..
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile my brother I tell u,u dnt haveto hate him..u see life has a way of making us experience what we normally can't see..for eg such cases are seen in families.all u have to do is talk to him,live ur life and do ur best to make ur mum understand cuz I know its not gonna be easy but do wat u can to keep d family together..
Sorry to say this bitter truth to u Lekan, but your mum is to be blamed for your Dad's infidelity, though not justifying your father's acts but despite the fact that He is a Pastor, He is Human too, you described ur mum as "Loving, Caring, Diligent and the Best Mother
ReplyDeleteanyone would pray for, really trying her best to make
the whole Family happy" ..but how diligent is she to her husband's sexual needs? U said she only comes home once a year? Haba, ur father bodi no be fire wood o, he has needs that can't only be meet yearly pls, let's be frank. Take my advice tell ur mum to increase her visits to at least every two months n see if ur Dad will be a different person. Meanwhile, talk to ur Dad, man 2 man, let him know what he's doing or did is hurting the family n equally a sin against God, let it be ur little father to son secrets never disclose this to ur mother if u indeed love ur mum. But ur mum has a major role to play here, No career is compared to that of husbands needs pls. I rest my case!
LIZ
In other words ur mom should resign and come stay with the family cos he does not understand her hustle. He should be the one struggling to bring in money and she should be chilling and lounging just like he is doing with the other woman
DeleteHow is she to blame that the man cannot control himself, men are so typical evrything we blame the woman folk for, nawa o...are you trying to say if he were a pastor who wasn't married yet, then it is also ok for him to commit sin...don't we insult pastors who sleep around, why is this mans own different
DeleteWhat if its the father that told the mother to go and work there nko, if he knew he couldn't control himself, he would have given her a phonecall and explain why he needs her home
I dnt think your father is cheating because she isn't home, but because he like FUCK
Lekan, do you want to be told the truth? Your dad did not do well but do not close your eyes on your mom part in it! There are questions to answer; how did your mom end up working in the US; by mutual consent or . . ? I live in the USA and I know that for working class people, the annual vacation is just 2 weeks (as in 14 days). Lekan, you are a man and let's say you have your wife for even one month of the entire 12 months of the year will you in all sincerity tell me that you will not enter between another lady's thigh? Oh I forgot he is a pastor . . . When God created man at Eden, did he tell the lady to go to another city (well continent in this case) and work while the man stay "at Eden" to tend and pasture? Lekan, did not the Lord say that the woman should help the man that it is not good for man to be alone . . .So if the Lord says that it is not good for man to be alone, did your mom do what is good by leaving your dad alone? If you tell yourself the truth, this problem will be 70% solved. Folks, no matter how far man runs from God the creator of this "machine" called man and the giver of "the manual (Bible)" to run this machine, man will keep revolving around his problems without solving them. Now all of you (Lekan and brothers/ sisters) were enjoying the dollars being made by mom and forgot that your father needed company of his wife. Let me tell you something you did not know, who knows if your wife would have been the victim if that "emergency wife" (concubine) of your dad's did not show up (just my hunch if you like). Yes, he called your wife to come and see him after work. The truth is that your mom left the man to be alone for more than 90% of the year and the serpent had a wide gate not a "loophole" to enter #weeping. The destroyer, the killer and the thief has stolen, killed and destroyed your dad's ministry. I pray that his soul will not be destroyed. It is a pity. I also hope that your mom's "health issues" have nothing to do with chronic STI or some psychological problems as a result of "being lonely". If you've been in the USA you will know (Stella can tell you about the developed world); it is a very lonely world. Who knows if your mom too has not been tempted? I pray she has not fallen into the same thing #weeping seriously. O Lord, save Lekan's dad, mom and restore joy in this marriage and may they not miss the eternal party; in Jesus Name; amen!
ReplyDeleteYou need to start giving talks on this blog, tank you for this epistle i really enjoyed it, gbammest
DeleteI clicked d imaginary like button for this comment.
DeleteHmm, Lekan, you might just be dissapointed when u tell mumsy and she no surprise o...for all u knw, she's aware of popsy's lil way of letting out steam....
But d matrimonial beg thingy sha.....e go pain her sha....ouch!
Who knows, she too fit don fall sometimes....women controls d urge better though...
Go and hv a heart2heart with ur active old boy joor and stop being judmental
Btw, una neva grow reash? Why is mumsy still huzling far away? Is she also huzzling for her grand kids ni? Is not fair o ahn ahn...,ko da rara!
Oya president Jonathan.I hear sey u dey carry anointing...oya and troway advise as oga at d top.Welcome bk frm Jerusalem......hia!
ReplyDeleteOya president Jonathan.I hear sey u dey carry anointing...oya and troway advise as oga at d top.Welcome bk frm Jerusalem......hia!
ReplyDeleteI posted the first one without a piece of advice: Lekan, do you want to be told the truth? Your dad did not do well but do not close your eyes on your mom part in it! There are questions to answer; how did your mom end up working in the US; by mutual consent or . . ? I live in the USA and I know that for working class people, the annual vacation is just 2 weeks (as in 14 days). Lekan, you are a man and let's say you have your wife for even one month of the entire 12 months of the year will you in all sincerity tell me that you will not enter between another lady's thigh? Oh I forgot he is a pastor . . . When God created man at Eden, did he tell the lady to go to another city (well continent in this case) and work while the man stay "at Eden" to tend and pasture? Lekan, did not the Lord say that the woman should help the man that it is not good for man to be alone . . .So if the Lord says that it is not good for man to be alone, did your mom do what is good by leaving your dad alone? If you tell yourself the truth, this problem will be 70% solved. Folks, no matter how far man runs from God the creator of this "machine" called man and the giver of "the manual (Bible)" to run this machine, man will keep revolving around his problems without solving them. Now all of you (Lekan and brothers/ sisters) were enjoying the dollars being made by mom and forgot that your father needed company of his wife. Let me tell you something you did not know, who knows if your wife would have been the victim if that "emergency wife" (concubine) of your dad's did not show up (just my hunch if you like). Yes, he called your wife to come and see him after work. The truth is that your mom left the man to be alone for more than 90% of the year and the serpent had a wide gate not a "loophole" to enter #weeping. The destroyer, the killer and the thief has stolen, killed and destroyed your dad's ministry. I pray that his soul will not be destroyed. It is a pity. I also hope that your mom's "health issues" have nothing to do with chronic STI or some psychological problems as a result of "being lonely". If you've been in the USA you will know (Stella can tell you about the developed world); it is a very lonely world. Who knows if your mom too has not been tempted? I pray she has not fallen into the same thing #weeping seriously. O Lord, save Lekan's dad, mom and restore joy in this marriage and may they not miss the eternal party; in Jesus Name; amen!
ReplyDeleteAdvice (wept): please Lekan, Like Stella said, tell your dad the truth (man to man truth) and let him take the necessary steps like;1. Stay away from the so called ministry; he has been injured in battle. What can he minister to those souls?
2. He should confess to your mom (1 John 1:6-8)
3. He and your mom should go for counselling. See a minister in the USA that it happened to and how they overcame;
. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBiXscaaUMo
really wish I can find the full episode. note the role the wife played in restoring this minister to his faith and work.
I like your advice but why weeping weeping. Are you pregnant?
DeleteLmao @ are you pregnant, very funny
DeleteTalk 2 ur dad cz its not easy when distance is involved.......hmm, he's a pastor?
ReplyDelete'Congi' na bastard shaaaa....
ReplyDeleteLMAO......
DeleteLoool and dick na MUMU
Deletepls dont tell ur mum, makes no difference... d fact is that not many men can control their sexual urges, it doesnt mean he doesnt love ur mum..and u will just break her heart and make her miserable for nothing. just talk to ur dad in confidence and make sure u dont add ur wife's name to d story before he will start hating ur wife....all these nigerian pastors....smh 4 dem
ReplyDeleteSomeday you might find yourself in your dad's position. No man is perfect. Let them be, its their marriage. You dont have to tell your mum anything (on the other hand you'll be surprised she knows) but you can confront your dad about it. Shit happens. move on. There are bigger problems to worry about in Nigeria.
ReplyDeleteShit happens. move on. There are bigger problems to worry about in Nigeria. Really? Pray your family does not experience such
Deletetell ur mom but confront ur dad 1st cos, nt tellin her even afta finding myt cos more heart breaks n u dnt wanna do dat so u av 2 find a nyc way of telling. Dats if deres a nyc way sha
ReplyDeleteNo bE today! Body no be firewood. I dnt blame d man. It takes a very very strong man to endure wat he endures(wife comes during d holiday) I guess dats christmas. U as a man shld mke ur fada ur gee nt report to ur mum.
ReplyDeletecall a meeting between both parents and tell thgem together. your dad no be wood. there are plenty women that have lost their homes due to travelling abroad to fend for the family. when you tell them together, you must also advise ypur mum to come back and work on the marriage. tell both of them. If you tell only your father, he'll just become more coded or he can even become more brazen after all you know
ReplyDeleteMama lekan leaving abroad whose son just got married, your husband the pastor is cheating on you. Well if she reads this blog,now she knows
ReplyDeleteWow! Pastor dad? I can imagine your wife's disappointment. A pastor and someone people should look up to. Well, I'm sure that your wife will start doubting your fidelity too. Just try as much as possible not to give her any reason to suspect anything. Your father's case sha, please talk to him one on one
ReplyDeleteYour dad is prone to temptation when his wife isn't around for a long time. Men are not women. Confront him man to man, tell him face to face that he committed adultery. go talk 2 him
ReplyDeletethat anon saying he or she is tired of agony aunt stories,lemme suggest something really nice..open a blog and lets see how many stories you can post in a day..i love the agony aunt stories and i will not stop,if you get tired go to sleep or go to the stadium and take several seats..lol
ReplyDeletepeople have real life problems and they enjoy getting advice on this blog.
sorry you are disappointed oh.
one love..mwah!
stella grow up!
DeleteLive your life dear poster.
ReplyDeleteLekan how old are you? You sound like a baby. And your wife couldn't sleep for three days? On top this matter or another?
ReplyDeleteYou people are wicked, enjoying dollars at daddy's expense. You too send your wife to the US and let's see how you will fare. And with no disrespect to your mum, I hope you know godly women have sexual urges too? The only thing is that the will to overcome it is different for daddy and mummy. So first of all, there is nothing wrong with your dad needing a woman. But he should have told his wife that woman this arrangement is not working. And if he had told her, it doesn't mean she will agree as she has her own mind. Then he also did bad by bringing the woman home. But think about it, sex only in December. Look, most women that do that know that their men cheat, your mum is not clueless.
First you have to remove that judgmental condemnation from your head and tell your father you know and you understand but for the sanctity of his ministry and the impact the revelation might have on the church members, he needs to stop and rearrange things with your mom, whether he will go there or she will return home. It doesn't stop there, call your mum and tell her to come home and that it is not good for a man to live alone. Lastly tell your wife to spy on HER daddy too and to get some damn sleep.
Are u sure ur mum doesnt av someone dt she is sleeping with over there. Let her come home n take care of her husband.
ReplyDeleteIf i may ask..
ReplyDeleteAre you an idiot?
Tell your mum and kill her nah.
Your wife cannot keep her wide mouth shut.
Don't even try telling her your secrets.
There's nothing new under the sun.
Keep it yourself or confront him.
But have it in your puny mind that your wife would become his closest enemy.
I will say this as it is and women will scream blue murder on me, but a man (and I am one) was created a "sampler". For men with discipline or genuine men of God, it is significant grace from God to remain disciplined in the face of the abundance of pretty and available women. Where long distance relationships are involved, the time lag between desire and availability of partners will put significant pressure on both men and women thus leading to situations such as this. I know of several cases where women who go to work abroad and come home annually also have second families with children abroad. So, you cannot hate your father, but talk to him as a man so you can appreciate what might have been going on in his life unknown to you. Can you swear that, sorry to say, that your mom too might not have yielded to the flesh?
ReplyDeleteYou are just married, I hope to see what happens to you over the next few years. Be blessed
Is your dad a fool? Why would he call ur wife to come check on him when he was about to shag another woman??
ReplyDeleteThen is your wife alright? She couldn't sleep for 3 days because of what??? Is it her husband she caught cheating?? Or is it her father?
Finally Lekan, how old are you? Why would u even contemplate telling your mum??! For what?? What good will that do? Except make her unhappy? Go ahead and tell her na, gbeburun, tatafo, aproko, sabi sabi.
First of all, why dint your wife knock the door, she's married to you, yeah but that's not her house!
ReplyDeleteSecondly, for hating on your dad, wtf? He's human and you dont even know what mum is doing out there.
Thirdly, There's no infidelity here, dad needed to change oil.
Smile over it, don't counsel your dad, forget and forget or else you'll just give yourself unnecessary blood pressure.
PS:1(a) Your wife is an aproko for telling u
(b) She's next!!!!
Remember life is too short and you're a man, I'm also a man!
Eeehhh! So Lekan, you and your wife carry me, your daddy rubbish in this blog. After all I did for you in life. Someone informed me. Ok, why don't you send your own wife abroad? You're enjoying the money and I'm suffering for it. Because I'm a pastor, I don't have a penis ehn! Go and tell your mother. I for fuck that your wife sef. After all, there's joy in sharing. No be all of us de share the dollars?
ReplyDeleteHa, here we go again with leniency on the male folks. If na woman now, more than half of una go don shout: drive am for house, she is a disgrace.
ReplyDeleteWhat is good for the goose, is good for theeeeeeeeeeeee ...gander.
My dear poster, pray and seek direction from God. Meanwhile Pastor Papa has no excuse o. Let him know you know and maybe it's time Mama comes home.
Ok, oh. I will go and take several seats at the stadium, as you suggested Stella. Lol.
ReplyDeleteComment number 18 you are a beast! I feel like strangling you, so cos his wife's breasts get flat he should get ready to cheat after 15 yrs of marriage? May God forgive you. What abt your big stomach and erectile malfucntioned dick? So I guess ur wife is free to cheat on your ass then! Why do we all accept cheating by men? What is wrong is wrong! Get lost you asshole comment 18
ReplyDeletena today..next page jare
ReplyDeleteGod will keep ur family, that is why distance from home is not good.
ReplyDelete@ anon 4:57 PM, u are a very crazyyy fellow, ah ah u really cracked me up wit dt comment 'ar u pregnant? Why weeping'
ReplyDeleteBt seriously why is she weeping? LMAO
May God have mercy on future marriages in Nigeria. Look at foolish women and their stupid men defending this cheating Pastor when God has specifically said it is wrong. And you are all the same people shouting "Jesus" every Sunday. May God forgive you all
ReplyDeleteThanks for all your comments, the good , bad and the ugly. I'm in my Early 30's and that shows they have been married for more than 30 Years. This Woman struggled hard since we were kids till we all finished University even in the overseas. She has been the Pillar of the family working very hard to make ends meet and she doesn't deserve a Man like My Dad, that squanders money she works (24/7) for and indulge in infidelity. Mind you, she is a role model to her Nigerian colleagues over there I have come across with and she spends a month in the country for her holiday. So his infidelity is inexcusable, doesn't justify any case here but Adultery, Unfaithfulness & Cheating, he is a bad person and I leave him to God . A Woman who has suffered so much for him in so many ways.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate all your advice and will act accordingly. Thanks.
Seems lik u alredi made ur conclusions b4 comin 2 dis blog!
DeleteIf U re hatin on dad cos he cheated,wot shud ur mom do? Kill him den.............(Not sayin wot he did is ryt o)
Let go,talk 2 ur dad man 2man n advc ur mom 2 come back home! Am sure u all re grown ups now so she need not hustle dat much.. Ur dad myt not hav cheated only cos of sex,he needs companion too!
Thanks for all your comments, the good , bad and the ugly. I'm in my Early 30's and that shows they have been married for more than 30 Years. This Woman struggled hard since we were kids till we all finished University even in the overseas. She has been the Pillar of the family working very hard to make ends meet and she doesn't deserve a Man like My Dad, that squanders money she works (24/7) for and indulge in infidelity. Mind you, she is a role model to her Nigerian colleagues over there I have come across with and she spends a month in the country for her holiday. So his infidelity is inexcusable, doesn't justify any case here but Adultery, Unfaithfulness & Cheating, he is a bad person and I leave him to God . A Woman who has suffered so much for him in so many ways.
ReplyDeleteFor those who supports his attitude, I pray you don't experience such, cos the end is DESTRUCTION. We need to show true Love and Respect to our Wife's especially when you have a good one......
I appreciate all your advice and will act accordingly. Thanks.
Lekan you must be a saint. Wow where did mummy get you from since Daddy is definitely not a saint.
DeleteYour mum is a medical practitioner you said? She knows her physiology and she knows her husband is helping himself out. Wake up to life, shit happens. How do you think you children were conceived. Daddy DHLed his sperm to the US? No they had sex. So unless your mum has a very low libido, she is also helping herself out or she has a sex toy. Sex is a reality of life. You yap so so much about being a Christian, Do you know this verse? If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.
DeleteThat shows you the importance of a couple being physically together.
The thing that makes me sad is that you are 30+?????? Also if your dad is squandering money, you nko? You are 30+, why is your mum still working 24/7. You no get job? At this time, you too should have traveled to the US, leaving your wife to take care of the home front here, so your mum can retire and come back home. Shame on you, you this self righteous agbaya.
@70 & 80, You talk like fools with your atrocious and icky comments.Definitely, it is people like you that end up having a broken home with naughty, mischievous & black-hearted Kids.
ReplyDeleteThis blog is for matured minds and not kids.........fools
Lekan, pele jare. But that is life o!
ReplyDeleteI know how you must feel being let down by your Dad and its good that you've decided to leave him to God.
Please concentrate on being a good father and role model for your wife and children. You have to really reassure your wife not by words but by actions that you will never behave like your father.
Theres nothing wrong with letting your Dad know that you found out about the affair - leave your mum and your wife out of it so as not to create more upheaval in the family. That he is a pastor does not make him an angel but hopefully he will still have conscience and knowing that it is no longer a secret, he might be persuaded to repent.
Ignore all the people insulting you - only he who feels it knows it.
Shalom! It is well with you in Jesus mighty name.
Lekan, please ignore all these people with low self esteem who are condoning this infidelity. What your dad has done is double wrong and you have every right to be deeply hurt. Do you people think his mum is okay being away from her family. His dad is a full time Pastor and she is doing the needful to cater for the family. Give your dad a taste of his own medicine. Tell him your mum is cheating and let him feel the pain of having a cheating spouse for a few minutes. Then come out and tell him the truth that he infact is the adulterer, just like what the prophet did to David. I think he'll get the message better that way. He needs to confess to your mum and seek forgiveness!
ReplyDeleteTalking to your Dad is good but why is your wife over reacting? The action of your father is condemnable but what if Mum acts the same way overseas? You and your wife should learn to concentrate in building your own home! Your wife should learn to knock on people's door before entry; not just your father's! If you want to destroy your Parents' happiness, leak the 'secret' pls!
ReplyDeletelean plz advise ur wife also not to use day incidents to disrespect ur dad,and talk to ur dad abt it and end it there,also advice mummsy to come home more often,like 2_3times a yr, my I law too his wife work abroad and come home 4month interval,
ReplyDeletelean plz advise ur wife also not to use day incidents to disrespect ur dad,and talk to ur dad abt it and end it there,also advice mummsy to come home more often,like 2_3times a yr, my I law too his wife work abroad and come home 4month interval,
ReplyDeletelekan plz advise ur wife also not to use day incidents to disrespect ur dad,and talk to ur dad abt it and end it there,also advice mummsy to come home more often,like 2_3times a yr, my I law too his wife work abroad and come home 4month interval,
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