Guilty of any?..or you know anyone guilty of any?.....na wah...i didn't write this but it makes a good laugh if you are in the mood!
1. Snatching a friend or relation’s man. All is fair in love and war! Rumour has it that women have resorted to locking their phones, hiding their men and coding their gist from so-called friends cos it’s a jungle out there…
2. Re-inventing themselves.
Pretence is the order of the day. No man wants to tame the shrew or teach the inexperienced or make an honest woman out of a dishonest one so once marriage is desired, women package themselves in pseudo, ready-made, easy-to-use, highly desirable packages. After marriage, what you see is what you get!
3. Trapping him with pregnancy.
This used to be the old school method of getting a man to propose. From skipping the pill to seducing the man or getting him drunk when she was ovulating, a woman usually knew she had the man where she wanted him once she missed her period even if there was no commitment. Now the guys are saying YES to baby mamas and YES to child support. Are the girls deterred? NO! The girls have stepped up their game by involving the parents and you know parents don’t like scandals.
4. Praying and Fasting. This would presumably be an honourable means of obtaining a husband but sometimes the prayers are offered up to deities other than God & other times it becomes a song permanently on repeat.
5. Taking his photograph to Cele church for a prophetess to pray over or a powerful Alfa. Heard it works like a charm…does it last?
6. Taking his sperm, hair or personal effects to Baba. Guys disposing of your condoms yourself is not such a bad idea…
8. Putting love potion in his food! This is classic and timeless but shouldn’t it be called a ‘compelling’ potion? Because in this case, love na by force!
9. Saying YES to a man you despise! A woman has two classes of men usually on her case. The ‘correct’ guys and the ‘disgos’. The disgos usually end up as magas or rebounds but many a woman has shocked a despondent toaster with a sudden ‘Yes’ and men have agreed that truly there is nothing God cannot do!
10. Proposing to a guy! Yes it does happen… (Who wears the engagement ring?)
11. Toasting a man’s family so they make the decision for him! A friend complained that a girl he detested had over the months gotten close to his family. Lavishing on them, cooking for them and basically being their ‘go-to’ girl and now his mum had put her foot down that he had to break up with his girlfriend and marry little-miss-went-home-to-mama depending on how much power the family wields, their word may be final…
12. Asking daddy to get you a husband! If daddy’s a big shot, arranging a husband for you is usually as easy as pie and some men would sell their souls for a large chunk of daddy’s money so both parties are happy…
13. Being your man’s maga! Some women believe that when you finally get a man to be interested in you, spoiling him and overlooking his every fault would get you into a white gown faster than an okada chased by LASTMA! Some men don’t mind a woman who houses them, clothes them, feeds them, gives ‘em pocket money, never gets upset with them even when they misbehave and cleans up after them with little or no contribution from them… Living the dream???
14. Giving him unlimited freedom as long as he proposes. “Tell me I’m number one baby, tell me I’m the future mother of your kids and not Amina, Bisi or Ngozi!” Women used to wanna be the one AND ONLY in their man’s life, now being the number one is good enough…
15. Polishing up a low class, barely educated brother in exchange for a ring! The deal is simple, you send your cleaner, gateman or driver to night school, you give him language lessons, you take him to buy some new clothes and deodorant and teach him to call you honey instead of madam and in exchange, he gets to marry you, share an expensive bedroom and never worry about his bills ever again!
16. Revamping yourself. Change your ward-robe, lose 20kg, buy a truckload of brazilian hair, studythe karma-sutra, do a vaginoplasty and change the age on your birth-certificate to read 22. Botox, plastic surgery, a compulsory gym membership and ‘body magic’ also indicated!
17. Becoming a worker in church! Rumour has it that men go to church to marry, the same rumour also reveals that ‘Greeters’, ‘Ushers’ and ‘Lead Soloists’ have the best exposure…praise the Lord!
18. Moving to a new town or part of town so that you are the ‘new girl’. This always peaks the men’s interest and at the same time you get to run away from your past and the ‘old maid’ labels! Combine this with number 16 above and ooh la la!
19. Going for ‘deliverance’ from a spirit husband and sowing a big ‘marriage’ seed in church! Giving your possessions to the poor, giving a sacrificial offering or just giving one thing to God that would make you weep…
20. Abandoning your hopes, dreams and ambitions! I’ve heard people say that women looking for a prince charming live unrealistic dreams, virgins are old-school, overly educated women are proud, rich women are not submissive, ambitious women are conceited, women with demanding jobs won’t have time for their families, women who want a faithful man are deluded and women who don’t get pregnant before wedlock have something wrong with their plumbing! So forsake the masters, don’t even dream of a PhD, quit your job, give away all your money and surely a husband will come… And if all else fails…
21. Marry a married man! He could be your friend’s husband, your sister’s husband, your cousin’s husband, your colleague’s husband, even your mother’s husband if you like! Can you blame these women? The average guy has commitment phobia or is out to play till he is all spent before he settles down or is waiting to make his first ’5 million’ before saying ‘I do’. Even a man with no future ambition or class, much less finances still knows he could have his pick of the best women out there, once he announces he is looking to settle! The last census showed a female-dominated demographic with more women per eligible bachelor. Family and society constantly put the woman in hot water making her personal successes irrelevant till she bags a man.culled
What do we do with this article?
ReplyDeleteStudy d article n knw wich numba applies to u.
DeleteStella I'm even angry as I'm typing now... A frnd of mine has been parading for one guy untop marriage, he has made it clear to her that he cnt marry her cus his anambra and she's imo, she stil doznt wnt2 listen
DeleteYest I got a call by 10pm concerning them that she locked the doors and switched off the light that he must tell her werr they are headed anh anh man don tell you say he no want na by force
I'm so angry enh, I'm even tempted to call her elder sis, and get her family involved, she has been in his house now for more than a week
She's been calin me, I'm not even intrested in hearing what she has to say, I have told her ot leave the house
This particular guy doznt care about her o, she would travel all the way from abj to lagos to do what I don't know
I'm soo sooo angry right now, I do not want to be a wicked friend but this is just too much
Haha haha!! Dis ur name tho. Got me laughing out loud! Una nor go kill person here
DeleteYes o Stella, most ladies r guilty of 1 or more of the above. But what of the crazy things men do to hook the lady of their dreams? Lmao, tick tock, tick tock, waiting for the confessions to begin
DeleteClick my name for all your celebration cakes and cupcakes, cheers
Print it out and distribute to ur fellow witches...
Deletefool, go back to your demonic coven and loosen your husband you turned to mumu
DeleteAlmighty witch ke? Lolzzz.Nor let actual witch test your strength o. Meanwhile,husband na Race o. Only the violent takes it by force.Therefore,Ladies,on your marks,get set,gooooo!
DeleteI tireoo
DeleteUse it to cook rice in your kingdom, ode buruku..
DeleteICY
Chai! SDKers ehn!
DeleteHian! SDKers ehn!
Delete@ luskii...LoIz Print it out and distribute to ur fellow witches...Hubby na serious mata 4 ladies.
Delete@ luskii...LoIz Print it out and distribute to ur fellow witches...Hubby na serious mata 4 ladies.
DeleteSo so true. But do you blame the girls with all the pressures from every corner, desperation is now some ladies middle name.
ReplyDeleteKai! We women are going through a lot because of societal pressures and cultures.
DeleteBut I also notice that most gals claim they are looking for husband,meanwhile they are still very Choosy and mean to Guys that are not rich,the race(as wide eyed said)is only aimed at catching gold trophies which is d rich guys!cos I know a few single struggling young men dat don't even have a galfriend in such big city.huh??
DeleteBabes too get their own for body o!
Pleas not guilty of any.
ReplyDeletefacts of the moment.
ReplyDeleteYou see Stella. It is because of the list above that it becomes harder for some men to choose whom to marry. It is easier for a lady to put up the 'am a wify' material, as only her knows her heart and who she truly is. But for the man it is very difficult to see tru her.
DeleteBeyond the facade and made believe..the man has to scrutinise her before he takes her home to mama. I think that choosing carefully to know which lady to propose to is harder than a lady who's waiting to be proposed to. The decision is the man's, well..as we are used to. Except that in recent times females have started to propose to men.
However, while some females love to sound 'victimised' by a supposed time waster. Yet many of us are the reasons the man will never pop the question. Why? Because of the list above, which reeks of desperation absolutely.
Ladies, be yourself, as no one is better qualified.
Lol I tink the list is complete,the pressure frm the society on ladies. Concerning. marriage is something else.most ladies rush into marriage becoz their friends are all getting married their junior etc,some ladies don't evn go home for holidays bcoz of the shame of being single and parental pressure.most ladies feel being single is a curse to them they feel they are under a curse,being single is not a curse its a stage evrygirl passes through.a friend of mine use to cry dat she had no man in her life ,fast and go to mountains stil no man came until she removed her mind from it and started enjoying her being single then came her husband she's married now.so u see ladies just kip calm what would be would be @d appointed tym.
ReplyDelete1000likes 2 this ur comment. Chop kisses!! Gbamest! What will be will be, that 's my ' motto'
DeleteStella u ve killed me with laffter
ReplyDeleteMine is so funny, I might just have to resort to number 9 if nothing happens between now and March. Fervently Praying that something good happens, so that i don't settle for less.
ReplyDeleteThe comment section will sure be fun, lemme sit down, relax and read away
why March?
DeleteLMAO...'Beware the ides of march'~William shakespeare(julius ceaser).
DeleteStella on no.1, GUILTY. I dey code my gist wella, even wen my bf takes me on trips, spoils me silly and buys me stuff, i no dey show anybody nathn. these bitches are treacherous o!before u no it now pesn go open ur mouth carry food wey u don start to chop. i no fit. i remain guilty and unrepentant.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaaa @ person go open your mouth carry food wey u don start to chop... You almost kee me wuth laugh. Lol. But you are right.. with babes of this days, you needs Binocular in her handbag always.
DeleteLol. True talk @ Duchess. Going solo all the way. Experience na the very best teacher.
DeleteSad but so true!... I don't even know where to begin my gist • • • Buh av been a victim of overlooking faults n even overlooking d greatest of lies....WOW!..I marvel at how I survived. I wake up every morning to say, thank God am out of it.
ReplyDeleteTrue true true
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahahah....LMAO.....I trapped mine with pregnancy and it worked.....hehehehehehhehehhehehe....who no like better thing.....feel free to die under my thread...not coming back to read them.....*FlipsHairAndWalkAway
ReplyDeleteLinda sha!
DeleteU too dey tlk,
N dis yeye blog visitors no gree u rest.
U shldnt av sed wat u sed
U neva even recover frm d smellin mouth saga.
Na wa u oo.
@Linda Eze, I like your sincerity abeg. If he's goodlooking, well to do and his flesh is not ready to settle down but his spirit is, why not do it. Most of us are Hypocrites. Two - faced human.
DeleteHahhahahahahahahha.....it worked for u dear!....advice ur daughter not to do it, its no longer in vogue.
DeleteHahhahahahahahahha.....it worked for u dear!....advice ur daughter not to do it, its no longer in vogue.
DeleteWow. You must have been so limited in choice concidering - - -
DeleteNo wonder you are married to a man that his mouth smells, i see
DeleteHonestly I like U̶̲̥̅̊ and is Good to be real but stop giving ppl reason to cyber bully/insult U̶̲̥̅̊. Plz nwannem nwanyi
DeleteI so love love dis comment. U don craze dis babe. Lol @ feel free to die under my thread.
DeleteOturugbeke
Ladies the pregnancy route no dey work for everybody o, make sure d guy gbadun u wella b4 u trap am with belle, otherwise na ur gobe oooo
@Linda eze you?
DeleteU wen dey ''spy'' ds blog everyday
Taaaaa...i no say u go read ds thread again n again
@Galore
Really? Not surprised anyway
Deletebabe i dont blame you jare...i'm glad it worked for you cos it could have backfired.
DeleteKai Linda Eze u can lie 4 Africa!! The you I know will refresh this page every 5 5mins. I know my people.
DeleteWell, am guilt of 2 or 3 on this list oo. Lol! Dnt bother am not telling...duh!
You forgot to add,
ReplyDeleteLadies wu don't date men atall,
The same day dey meet the man,
Kia-musa dey marry him. E.g M-amie
And very typical of the igbo men based abroad who com hom to do arangee marriage n marry a nurse.
The last tin I wld eva do is to toast a man's family.
Am not a VERY friendly individual!
I no dey send person wey no send me.
And I no dey pretend to like person.
Like som of u do to ur family-inlaws wen dey are around,
Una go dey open teeth like yomslaw!
No offence to yomslaw!
Lool @ una go dey open teeth lyk yomslaw.
DeletePink Shell....don't let me bring my cane..
Deletebuhahahahahahaha
Delete@yomslaw teeth na loGo i swear
hahahahahhaha
@Galore
Spot on! M exactly like u..i dont kiss ass..never ever!..i hate it!
DeleteHahahahahaha Pink shell,as funny as this is, you said the truth.
DeleteVery funny and childish comment,so if you eventually get married you would be hostile to your inlaws inugo? Already you sound like your daggers are drawn against your prospective inlaws whom am sure you have not even met their son,your would be husband. Grow up child i dnt pray you experience delay in choosing a life partner,because if you do,am sorry baby you would have a different story to tell.
Delete@ anony 3.33
DeleteU don take my mata personal!
Are u my future inlaw?
Who is tlking abt being hostile ere?
Am tlkin abt being cordial n civil.
Gud morning mama, my dauta gudmoning.
I no dey do buy cloth, buy gold etc, or plz the whole family.
My dear keep ur prayers for ur dautas cos dey mite av delays in their marriages ooh.
No dey conduct free prayer sessions oo.
Be biz oriented! #Cheers
@ Memphis
Wetin I do u?
I no mention ur name na.
This anon 3 :33 park well abeg....read what she said, digest am wella before you begin yarn
DeleteLol so you are scared of delay pinkshell?thought you are thick skinned and fearless?yeye dey smell,pls take one of those Stella`s seat and be well seated,yeyenatu.
DeletePinkshell ur comment is on point! ass kissing doesn't get u anywhere if they would like you they would,nowadays if you are not careful you would be two doing the same ass kissing and they would pick who they want.anon 3.33 you are the kind if they want to marry your relative they would come and wash plates for u.abeg who would settle down with you would,irrespective of what anyone think as long as he knows who you are and what you are worth.
DeleteAnon 7;26
DeleteI say dis quick praya for u if u aint scared of delay
Dear God, if anony 7;26 isn't married yet, I pray dat sh neva finds a man wu wld love her, be wit her tru trying times n warm her bed.
And if she is married alredy, I pray dat dis fate follows her 1st dauta. I help u say a big amen.
pepper body. see as her blood dey hot, yeyenatu obviously you are soooo scared of delay i bet its your nightmare muhahahahahahahhhahahahaha,fear not inugo,so that what you fear most wnt befall you pinkshell. Am sooo having fun you are getting ruffled. Done with you,mission accomplished cést fini,its too much trouble coming back here to check for your hot temp muhahahahahahahaha,oya call me out tmao would have your time then,mumunatu gel!!
Deletepepper body. see as her blood dey hot, yeyenatu obviously you are soooo scared of delay i bet its your nightmare muhahahahahahahhhahahahaha,fear not inugo,so that what you fear most wnt befall you pinkshell. Am sooo having fun you are getting ruffled. Done with you,mission accomplished cést fini,its too much trouble coming back here to check for your hot temp muhahahahahahahaha,oya call me out tmao would have your time then,mumunatu gel!!
DeleteLol, very funny but true to an extent.
ReplyDeleteI thank God for my life...
Hmmm! Application for licence marriage!
ReplyDeleteWell all these things do happen in women's life.. As for me I have do da fasting nd praying stuff (not juju oh) but it didn't work so I'm just waiting for da will of God to dwell in my life.. Don't want to bother myself with marriage no more.
ReplyDeletewhen you walk in ignorance and your motives are wrong then you will think prayer and fasting doesnt work........first of all prayer and fasting is not meant to twist God to answer ur prayers, it is meant to subject your flesh so u can hear from God.....secondly are u born again? do u think prayer and fasting is juju that u just name it and claim it? capital no.......some people do not give their lives to christ, go to church or live holy then cos they want to marry just begin to pray and fast and expect instant solutions....God can never be mocked.....during fasting u are meant to be praying, listening to God as well as renewing your mind in his word.......so please there no such thing as prayer and fasting does not work, if your motives are right God will surely answer one day........marriage is not a do or die matter.....
DeleteU answered her correctly @ anon 1:20
DeletePlease where is the like button for this comment!!! You are a blessing to your generation
DeleteGod bless u
Where is the like button Biko? God bless u
DeleteHahahahaha Looooool. SDK you no well ooo. No 17 is soo funny. I believe in 18 and 16 though. If nothing is working change of enviroment and life style is ok by me. 19 is so true. If as a single babe, and all the men around you are married men then you need deliverance. If you re pretty and every day you step out, no brother turns to say hello, babe you need deliverance. And if as a hot chic, the only people who talk to you are the Agbero's, Molu drivers, bus conductors, well the lord is your strength. Deliverance should be your number one priority. No 20, I don't believe in single ladies having PhD's for what?. I know someone with PhD, in her mid 30's, men run away from her, and she's very pretty. Having a Masters degree is Ok but not Phd except when you're married. Why should I quit my job bcos of a man? Men love independent woman.
ReplyDeleteYou this goat that lacks respect and have no home training, do you know that Stella is old enough to birth you?
DeleteStupid girl. Telling Stella "You no well". Idiot.
Ara gba gwuo kwa gi dia.
princess charming you are so daft.....what kind of low life unambitious people do u surround yourself with?......so u would refuse to be the best u can cos of a man? do women only have phd,s to prove a point? very shallow and stupid comment.....its thinking like this that still put women and i dare say have put your type at the bottom of the ladder.......a PHD is like specializing in a chosen field of study and its not meant to be a status symbol so if any man or as most African men think its way too superior for them then it shows the level of inferiority complex they have........
DeleteWhat century do you live in? I'm thinking about going for my PhD and I'm so single. My boyfriend has a PhD too and he has encouraged me to apply. So it's only men that would have PhDs? Good thing about me is that I'm very strong willed and ambitious, any body that runs from a lady cos she has a PhD is not meant for that lady simple. I remember when I was driving my dad's car, some friends were scared that guys wouldn't talk to me, you know what I told them? Guys would talk to me, just a different set of confident and intelligent ones.lol. You live only once abeg.This marriage thing ehn, women need to realise their purpose on earth here not just men. I was talking to a friend who lives with her bf, I said leave that house. Go and visit but do not live with a man you aren't married to, why dash ur self to someone who hasn't paid any money on your head? I'm old school in that aspect sha. Women should learn to live, breath, dream and achieve targets. Marriage is good but with a good man whom you share same values with. Btw, my bf is my number 1 cheerleader. Yaaay!
DeleteDon't reach for the heights, be waiting for marriage to achieve your dreams. Hear yourself...a Phd only when you are married. Naija women, look your mates o..na them dey happily married, na them dey achieve and move and shake pass, you are there saying I will reach my heights after marriage. Upon all the stories you stay on SDK blog reading, you still don't learn. Men don't run away from a woman that has achieved...lazy men do and that your mid 30s lady is blessed, while you and your small mentality will be sitting alongside waiting for husband, she is achieving and making a name for herself. Watch and see, she will marry one day and be happily married. She will also marry a man who is up to snuff because he knows she is nothing to joke with. You are there restricting yourself because you are not married hahahahaha.
DeleteYou think the insecure man you marry will allow you to continue to climb?? (God forbid sha for your young sake, I pray your eyes open to the reality of men and life). You better wake up and smell the coffee. No one is living for a man anymore, better get on the bus.
.. They can't handle her PHD...their loss! Those sorta men will kill her when they get hitched. They run because they have confidence issues. Thank God for men like my father who married that kinda woman and gives no spoons about it!
DeleteNdi ara!
@anon January 28, 2014 at 4:47 PM the liar
Deleteguilty lol
ReplyDeleteThis stupid idiot called Girl next door,fool
DeleteFunny but true facts u raised SDK but am nt guilty of any of the aforementioned o, I am a princess n I believe a worthy prince shud d "chasing" n make d efforts t make me his royal wifey..
ReplyDeleteAnyways, parental pressure, societal Pressure, biological clock etc r some of the reasons dat make women go d xtra mile to get d men of our dier dream. Also most men r scared of commitment esp d "ready made" ones so they push d ladies to do wot dey do.
I couldn't stop laughing.
ReplyDeletecheck out www.queenspicey.blogspot.com for naija music critique.
Too much pressure is the cause.
ReplyDelete@Princess Charming, so you mean single ladies should have go for PhD until their married??? what? pls ask God to re-arrange your thing order! hope your dont advice singles to abandon their dream cos of a man! or telling them not to buy car cos their singles?
ReplyDeleteOh c'mon... Don't be naïve. Most of the girls with PhD are still single.. They wanna settled down but the guys are not forth coming. As per buying a car, I won't advise any single girl not to have one to her taste cos its a Necessity not a Luxury...
DeleteYou with your BSc what have you achieved? Women are their own greatest enemies fa, I can't believe you are saying this. When you have female children, train them to primary six and the boys to first degree level. Those PhD ladies I am sure earn better than you, you are here on a blog talking nonsense with ur bad English. U won't advise abi u will advise. Smh
DeleteY'all should stop insulting princess charmin abeg, everyone is entitled to their opinion, I kinda understand wat she means... Besides, hw many of u ve a phd sef
DeleteWow! Clap for yourself! Welldone! What have u gained by posting this? Longing for marital bliss is a tough and trying stage in any woman's life. Awhile ago u posted stories to encourage singles and today u post another to diss singles. Stella, u are woman and u should know better. Well, no wonder everyone is running to Linda Ikeji, a true blogger to the bones. You shld check out her blog and learn! You have just 16 comments while she has 368 comments. Linda, would never post a thing like this. I don't care if u post this or not , am good that u read it.
ReplyDeleteWalahii you no get work. Get busy.
DeleteThis is Stella's blog, not Linda's so she can put up any post she likes. If you are not happy, then by all means port to Linda's.
DeleteComparing them is quite unnecessary and there are better ways to show your displeasure.
PS- this is the nicest reply you will get on this blog. Other Sdkers will tear you apart!
Who is this derailed sick person? You just displayed what a fool you are effortlessly. Except Linda is as foolish as you are, she will only red this and shake her head. U better see a psychiatrist.
DeleteYou're confused. .... no need to insult you...
DeleteWaka dey go...
SDK is my number 1 bloglord
Ms
May almighty God scatter ur teeth and dislocate d bones in d fingers u used in typing such nonsense! Too bad uve done all of d above Stella wrote, and still no solution 2 ur depressed, miserable and confused life becos u go abt comparing every man u meet like u jst did nw,Fool! no wonder u re bittered and pained cos all she wrote is true abt ur life!. Foolish fool! Go get a life! And a hubby too becos m sure u re a 45yrs old pained sex starved spinster! Instead of u to beg for helper to shine ur pekus, u re coming here 2cause catastrophy. Love dis blog cos she is real! Stella doesn't try to be faake to pls any fool! And d blog visitors! Oh lawd! Dey make mmy day anytime, erryday, feels lk aa fam here bt Linda blog mks me feel like it's a business venture. Hustling tinz
DeleteI'm sure dis is Linda Ikeji under d guise of anonymous. Abeg respect ursef n face ur bzness n let Stella face hers. She's not ur mate in any way. I've bn reading Stella since her days with Encomium magazine, so if e pain u say she still dey, go drink relaxer....ndisime mkpor!(4 ur info, I ran away 4rm LIB 2 SDK's blog cos SDK is so real n I don't see posts of ugly women captioned 'STUNNING!, like dats d only word I know in d dictionary.
Deletedumb idiot, you cant compare lib to sdk, do you really read the dumb comments on lib, very stupid set of people that comment there. Sdk is very educating. This blog has really helped me to be a better person like knowing myself worth. LIB is rubbish is just for hustle.
Deletebull crap men aint worth all the drama moreso we see a lot of men also doing stupid things these days.....i did not do any of these and i have been married 9 years......
ReplyDelete@sdk TRAPING will PREGNANCY that one na ''yoruba'' pple trade mark
ReplyDeleteI just tire for ds pple faaa
@Galore
Stella this list is endless o.
ReplyDeleteEvery time women this n dat.
For me I was real!
As in I even incorporated some unbearable xters but my hubby bunny still stayed.
I'm quieter now n more focused n it suprises him every day.
I just hope that one day, I'll believe any single thing you say. You just ooze LIES and FAKES. Sorry. Just my perception.
DeleteHow come he stayed when u both got married same day u met? Stayed where? Fucking hopeless liar! Abeg shift
DeleteI know a frnd who decided to try #2 lol... duno if it worked for her though.... pm,fb updates etc all chc tins hehehhe
ReplyDeletePoint number 3 is correct, but Stella these men also 'trap' women with pregnancy. They say 'if you don't get pregnant, I won't marry you'. Alot of the time, mothers also pressurise their sons into doing this.
ReplyDeleteSad but true.
True talk, my fiance is insisting on it. I am a single mum(35) he is a single dad (44).
DeleteIt's true talk oh!! Women r desperate and men r scarce!! It should be 1 man :5women ratio . No b small thing oh!! Men don't commit nowadays while women find different scopes to make them commit!! Cunny man die, cunny woman go bury am!!!
ReplyDeleteMy ex-fiance's mum wanted me to get pregnant so badly but I put my foot down that I didn't want to put the cart b4 the horse. 3yrs later, I'm ready to trap my new man wiv pregnancy. I pray God says YES to it. #make una talk Wetin una like o
DeleteAnon 12:01 u see urself? Shebi u for don do am d first time by now ur pikin for b 3 Mayb wit anoda on d way? U dey form selfrighteous u see man wen e mama even wan trap wit belle u nor go give thanksgiving for church u dey form not puttin cart for horse front, now wen u dey find d belle to trap anoda person u nor see say horse don carry cart for head finish so? LWKMD madam horse
DeleteLoool @ Anon 8:51am abeg no wound me with laugh... correct response!
Deletepls i need to hear from those that did no 5. i want to know their experiences, repercussions and if it worked at all... thanks
ReplyDelete10 happened to me!!!! A female friend invited me to dinner once, all the works, then proceeded to toast me. First time I will be tongue tied. Me baba player!
ReplyDeleteHmmmm stella i have seriously started no1,cos sisters aint friendly,if istart my story here eh,e go b like d letter obj give gej.jesusssss frds ehhhhhhh fear dem.
ReplyDeleteLol Very funny.
ReplyDeleteThe moment ladies start enjoying their life, be happy and stop being anxious, what they are looking for will come to them.
ReplyDeleteIts simple, enjoy every moment. Take urself out to a fast food, shop for urself, watch wonderful movies with a bottle of vodka, listen to wonderful music. These are all I do.
I am going 2 b 24 by april n I don't feel the presure. Enjoying my life.
Well I'm married and did none........my husband was my friend and confidant and we started dating from there till marriage....but I knw babes do a lot to get married esp babes 30 and above....
ReplyDeleteStella,abeg no kill me with laughter oo.This article is so so true!God help us women.
ReplyDeleteNo 1 oh. I have realised that no friend is truly happy for your relationship. Especially when urs is going better than theirs. The truth is that we all posses that trait, it's just that some wish for bad things to happen to ur relationship while others pray for their story to be like urs or even better. Babes are not smiling now, desperate babes looking for various ways to snatch their friends bf.
ReplyDeleteSo I don't even tell my friends wats going on in my relationship. Even if they ask, I'll just say fine. I don't want any friend escorting me to my bf's house cos he's loaded. I don't even want them to familiarise. One of my nosy friend's was even complainig that she is not close to my bf, ahn it's better like that cos she loves to destroy people's relationships. She is never happy about anyone's relationship, she always sees something bad. So I keep her far away from my bf before she will bring confusion to us.
I only confide in my younger sis and my mum then my older bros n n elder sis. I know they can't betray me cos they are all married just my younger sis. Babes, protect ur bf to avoid stories that touch. Kapish
Please where is number 7...well sadly this is a Nigerian thing...its so crazy same marriage they will run away from,women nigerian women please discover yourselves what u want in life stand on ur own and a man will come,create in u a good character but if finally a man doesn't come please get urself one or two kids and live ur life we all need companion it must nut always be marriage
ReplyDeleteAm surprised at just reading the post and even de comments confirmed dat dis is what girls pass thru to get a husband. Well, am seriously looking for a wife material for a relationship, but I think my criteria is too much. She must be God fearing, active member of a living church, working class and not upto 28. And must be based in phc. Pls email me jarret4all@yahoo.com. Thanks. Stella pls am serious.
ReplyDeleteChuchu nwam! I nò ebe a acho nwanyi I ga anu? Winches and wizards will reply your mails
DeleteSo girls should start applying? Huh?
DeleteStella, pls this boy is just looking for ladies he will end up sampling and sampling. At the End of the day, he will pick up a girl at the club and marry.
Go to churches in PH and look for a wife. see your face. You didn't even state your pathetic features.
Kk now,all rise to the most eligible bachelor and d last born of men!#rolls eyes##rubbissh#
DeleteNo be ur fault sha Chuks,walahi!i don't blame u.smh
@ chuks
ReplyDeleteSo girls should start applying? Huh?
Stella, pls this boy is just looking for ladies he will end up sampling and sampling. At the End of the day, he will pick up a girl at the club and marry.
Go to churches in PH and look for a wife. see your face. You didn't even state your pathetic features.
Hw do u know?,I know you want to apply o,just apply and stop making noise
DeleteStella na ah ah..post my comment..aw far no 5? E dey last Abeg victims enlighten.
ReplyDeleteladies pls talk about no 5 pls. i really want to know...
ReplyDeleteI no send jawe cos i'm sure God is still on the throne so why i go worry? Evn if u jump from the highest mountain to prove ur luv to him and behave lyk house maid for his family if no be him e no fit be am *singin* He's Able
ReplyDeleteMiss Somerhalder
I no send jawe cos i'm sure God is still on the throne so why i go worry? Evn if u jump from the highest mountain to prove ur luv to him and behave lyk house maid for his family if no be him e no fit be am *singin* He's Able
ReplyDeleteMiss Somerhalder
Stella I think there should be option number 23 on your list which should be " consult Stella" . As you obviously know so much about what ladies go through to get a husband, you will land a lot of heavy though if you set up a discreet match-making facility. And with your obvious no-nonsense demeanor you can easily separate serious singles from jokers to make successful hook-ups.
ReplyDeleteAnon 2:02....you are so right. I have been thinking about this match making thing as well and I think Stella should look into it. Pair up those in naija and those in uk/Yankee as well.
ReplyDelete"Even a man with no future ambition or class, much less finances still knows he could have his pick of the best women out there, once he announces he is looking to settle! The last census showed a female-dominated demographic with more women per eligible bachelor. Family and society constantly put the woman in hot water making her personal successes irrelevant till she bags a man"
ReplyDeleteAbeg explains dis o Stella
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