He needs advice on where to get free screening for her and on what to do...his friends advised him to leave her and move on but i guess he really does care......please drop any info that can help in the comment section.
read his story.....
My story is a bit long but I will try to make it short.
I met my girlfriend early last year but we were just on an on and off relationship then nothing really serious, but we became so serious about the relationship early this year, but am scared and afraid she might be suffering from cancer of the breast.
I got to know about her case when we were alone together and I saw a mark below her breast and I saw one of her nipple a bit inverted so I asked how she got the mark and she told me about how she noticed something was moving in her breast last year and how
painful it grew over the months, and they had to go to a general hospital and some test were done and a procedure to remove the lump or object was done.
At this point I was eager to know the outcome of the test done on the tissue that was removed and that was where i got the shocker of my life.
After the procedure the tissue they removed was given to them to take to the lab for a test to be done on it but when they heard of the price, she said they just took the "tissue home" and later throw it away.... OMG! I couldn't close my mouth and then i started asking questions...
Didn't you go back to the hospital again? Her answer was No.
Who removed the bandage and stitches done on you? She removed them herself..
How much was the test you were asked to do? N6000 But her mother doesn't have money again after spending a lot during the procedure..
Meaning the procedure was just a waste, there is no way we would have known if the tissue was malignant or benign tumor...
No chemotherapy or any drugs taken afterwards. But she is now feeling pains in the breast now not some much but she does have temperatures at nights and have to take her bath every night even in cold weather to be able to sleep.
Her mum is a single mum with 3 kids in higher institution, to pay her fees of over a 100,000 is an issue not to talk of his little ones. She is the first born of her family so asking her to involve her mum would be another wasteful effort because it will keep been postponed and I guess its still early now to really know if the tissue growing in her breast is cancerous or not.
I am just a laboratory technician earning below 50,000 as a salary in Lagos and where I stay is very far from work, the stress and distance and money for tfare and all that is killing me too, I live from hand to mouth with lots of debts to settle here and there. So there is little or nothing I can do for now.
I discussed this with a colleague at work and what she told me was to let the girl go or is that where I want to start spending now?
But I vowed that even if we won't eventually marry, I will make sure I help her get the help that she needs.
Please what can I do?
Should I let her go?
Is there anyone who can help?
Maybe a free cancer screening center in Lagos where I can take her? She schools in Ijebu but I can make her come since this is about her health.
Please I would really appreciate good responses on how and what steps to do.
Thanks.
God bless u darl...i hope she gets all the help she needs...may God heal her completely and grant you both extreme happiness. Amen
ReplyDeleteI know a Dr in Lagos. He runs free breast and cervical cancer screening. Brb, lemme find the details.
DeleteOptimal cancer care at 118 Bode Thomas. Surulere. Ask for Dr Olaleye. He's a very nice man. He's usually less busy on Fridays. Pls go this Friday. It's free too. And pls follow up properly. May God heal her completely.
DeletePls there is one hospital @ Bode thomas suruler that does free screening every friday. I have Been there myself. He does free breast and. Cervical cancer Screening. Will get d name and get back asap. Kenny Sulaiman
DeleteOptimal cancer care at 118 Bode Thomas. Surulere. Lagos. When u are coming from Ojuelegba, its the first. turning right after Alaka under brigde. Am sure u will get quich help there. Best of luck. Kenny Sulaiman
DeleteLeah Foundation Ilorin. It's very cheap. If you have to pay anything. I'll pay, feed and accommodate you. Google their website and call them. Message Aunty Stella if you want to come down. She should post it and I'll give her my email add privately.
DeleteI'm on the board of Optimal Cancer Care. I've decided to pay for everything from screening to cure. I've told the medical director. We are looking for her. Optimalcancercare@yahoo.com. Send details.
DeletePlease poster,whatever you do don't let her go.
ReplyDeleteStand by her, she needs you now more than ever.
I pray you get the information you seek here.
God bless you for wanting to help her.
You told another female about this and she advice you to let her go? Women are really their worst enemies
ReplyDeleteDat's an understatement. Dear poster God bless u pls help anyway u can. Push her 2 get help I pray help comes her way. Poverty na bastard!
DeleteMy dear.........a point I've always made
DeleteI tire o anon, wicked people. Awa obirin sha.
DeleteWomen r really dier worst enemies indeed.
DeleteAm sure d so-cald female frnd is chucking eye in d guy and is somewhat jealous dat he's givin d oda babe so much attenion. Smh
So sad, hope you get all the help and advice u need
ReplyDeleteFuck her and dumb her.. Don't suck the boobs o.. So u don't ssuck cancer with it. Goodluck boo
ReplyDeleteReally? Are u for real? U need Jesus in your life ASAP
DeleteTiwa, is shall not be well with you. When you go out you shall not be favoured. You shall know lack all the days of your life. The curses of psalm 109 shall follow you all the days of your life. For making such an insensitive comment, a disease, un curable, worse than cancer will be your portion: not unless you repent from your wicked ways and apologise for this inhuman comment of yours.
DeleteJehovah! How do u people find it so easy to curse others??? Curses of such magnitude, knwin fully well dat our words carry weight. Wow. Tiwa has said something wrong (u never knw, sh just might b frustrated herself), but who died and made u judge? Most def not d Jesus I serve. Y curse her? Na wa o.
DeleteI won't judge you. But let God deal with you the proper way. Heartless, hopeless and frustrated being!
DeleteMy apologies for the curses: having lost a brother to cancer I guess I got carried away. Tiwa, I take back the curses and pray for you instead that God will touch your heart to be a better person. He will put a guard on your tongue and thoughts so that u will only say things that will glorify his name and uplift others around you. Have a great week!
DeleteNigerians are damn superstitious. How can the curse catch Tiwa through the internet?
DeleteGo back to the hospital with your girlfriend where procedure was done or general hospital. Hopefully she didn't remove the dressing from the wound before healing and there is no infection. Since tissue has been thrown out, surrounding tissue can be used or lymph nodes.
ReplyDeleteBut is it amala that they'll just hand over to patients like that. It is well God will heal your girlfriend.
They do hand over whatever is removed to ur family or whoever is with u duting surgery, they label it and give u a letter to go to a lab n carry out some test to check if its cancerous or not. Had d same issue although not with pains but after d test it was a normal growth in an abnormal place.
DeleteMOA
My dear, they usually hand you tissues, and referal letters to get test done. It's up to you to do the test or ignore
DeleteHeard too many cases of breast cancer of late. There's an oncologist in lasuth I can refer you to, so if you are serious about this send me an email ASAP with your phone number at oseyithomas!@yahoo.com
ReplyDeletePoster God bless you!
ReplyDeleteGod will grant your heart desire
That's all I gat to say
I think you should help her, and maybe send Stella pics privately with the consent of your gf, Stella doesn't have to publish the pics but ones she's sure it's a real story then she can have a fund raising here on your behalf. God help you and heal her in Jesus name Amen.
ReplyDeleteAbeg abeg abeg! Na evrythn b fund raising? Did he ask 4 money? And it's someone like u dat'll nt drop money o. See mouth like fund raising. Na una dey encourage all dis kain e-begging. No offence to u o dear poster. I'm totally sympathetic 2 ur case. And I'm happy someone has directed u 2 bode thomas. U'r such a good man, God bless u, and heal ur girl.
DeleteDis is a very tough one dear, May God bless ur good heart. Pls you can write to all social media network as to ensure u get help, pls don't give up,May God hear your prayers.
ReplyDeleteListen to Nigeria Info Fm (99.3) on Friday at 8am when we have the doctors from CECP ( Committee Encouraging Corporate Philanthropy) You can also contact them on
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Email: info@cecpng.org or send me a mail at trendysturvs@yahoo.com
All the best to you!
This is my own piece of advice. Tell her to go for screening to confirm this please.. pls tell her to get off junk food And processed foods no meat or chicken . If she wants to eat it then she has to get organic ..she should eat more leafy greens raw and raw fruits.leave cooked food as much as possible.increase her vitamin c intake (original vitc ),zinc, a very natural multivitamin.we have a lot of unprocessed vegetables and fruits in Nigeria .let her start with these for a start while going for screening .MAy God heal her
ReplyDeletePlease give her all the assistance she need's even if you won't marry her.
ReplyDeleteEeeya...God bless u poster.d good Lord is ur strength.hope u guys pull through dis.
ReplyDeleteI know a Doctor, he runs free screening. Brb, I'll drop the details.
ReplyDeleteLet her go to any of the teaching hospitals either Luth or lasuth, their prices re subsidized. She needs help fast, ALLAH SUBUANA TA'ALA will continue 2 b with her.
ReplyDeleteTry this address or call the numbers below breast Cancer Association of Nigeria
ReplyDeleteBRECAN Centre, I hope they can help you.
18 Akinyemi Way (Off E-GT Bank)
Ring Road,
Ibadan.
08166324748
08033331211
I know a Doctor, he runs free screening. Brb, I'll drop the details.
ReplyDeleteGo 2 "stand up to cancer 9ja, NGO in abj, Caleb Egwuenu is d owner, I lost his number bt u cn google him n get info. Bless u
ReplyDeleteOMG! O_o u actually typed all these words? :O I was beginnin 2 believe u'r a computer geek/robot.
DeleteSo sorry to deviate. I am 3months pregnant and since have known I am pregnant, I am experiencing mood swings, I do not allow my husband come close to me cos when he does I always feel as if I want to throw up, even mare hug irritates me, I do not always feel like talking to him, I even started sleeping on the floor cos I just want to be alone, is it that I don't love my husband anymore or its just the pregnancy?
ReplyDeleteIt's preggy hormone. You will get over it soon
DeleteCongratulations on your pregnancy. But don't be selfish... the world doesn't revolve around you alone. a simple "I wish her well" before your pregnancy week rants will have made your comment less insensitive and less irritating.
DeleteThanks for the correction, I feel so sad for the lady in question which I should have acknowledged before pouring out my own problems. I pray she gets help before it gets out of hands
DeleteIf possible take her to a teaching hospital.. the cost of the screening test would be subsidized..n Btw it myt nt be cancer
ReplyDeleteDon't let her go dear, she will pull through, u need to stand by her. You can contact Miss Funmilola James(funmilola.james@yahoo.com), she is an advocate for breast cancer at Luth.
ReplyDeletePls help her, she needs you now.
ReplyDeletePls dis girl really need all our help n I op daddy fresh wit million naira worth wristwatch can do something worth while wit his money. Pls poster stay wit dis babe even if as only a friend. I know people can introduce u to dos who can help. For D lady dat advised u to move on, she a very good friend n. Confidant to u, some truths re just bitter n not fair but guy wit ur status hmmm
ReplyDeleteDear poster, thanks for being nice may God reward u. As for your gf , I dunno cancer screening centres but my dad is a doctor, u can go to his hospital for proper check up. There are two branches in Lagos so which ever suits you best. I will talk to my dad about it and let you know which help he can render. Meanwhile please leave your email address with aunt Stella. It's well.
ReplyDeleteAunt Stella I hail o. U never read my message since.
I think U should look female doctors association. D can handle the free screening. I wish her all d best n God's permanent healing is her portion. AMEN
ReplyDeleteMay God heal her
ReplyDeleteEya God bless u 4 dis. Pls stay wit her and I pray she finds total cure on dis.
ReplyDeletePls stay wit her n God will surely bring help ur way, amen
ReplyDeletePls don't leave ur girl God will send help ur way soon, amen
ReplyDeleteYou should not say she has breast cancer until it is confirmed......not every breast lump is cancer. Let her go the Optimal cancer centre
ReplyDeleteContact Address:
Free Cancer Screening Available For Women
Every Friday (10-5pm) @ Optimal Cancer Care
Foundation's Screening Centre.
118, Bode Thomas Street (Opp Starcomms),
Surulere - Lagos
Phone: +234 808 1076646
Facebook: Optimal Cancer Care Foundation
Twitter: @canceroptimal
ReplyDeleteFree Cancer Screening Available For Women
Every Friday (10-5pm) @ Optimal Cancer Care
Foundation's Screening Centre.
118, Bode Thomas Street (Opp Starcomms),
Surulere - Lagos
Phone: +234 808 1076646
Facebook: Optimal Cancer Care Foundation
Twitter: @canceroptimal
now good man get Dr Femi Olaleye on facebook, inbox him, he's very good at replies and tell him this story, His Clinic, Optimal Clinic in Surulere does free screening for women on days I cant remember now, on ur mark, get set...pls goooo - dont waste time!
ReplyDeleteHYBunny
Dear poster, may God bless u for this, pls whatever happens u were sent to her life for a reason which might be dis. I pray for God's divine intervention and speed help for u guys.
ReplyDeleteThere is this NGO @ Adeniyi Jones. Its called C.O.P.E. Its just beside Mother n Child hospital. Ask of Mrs Ebun Anozie. She did a free breast scan for me years back. I guess she is still into such stuff cos I saw her on TV recently discussing breast CA issues. Pls don't delay. Cancer is a real monster.
ReplyDeleteMy dear I'm going to advice you from experience.
ReplyDeleteMy first cervical screening I was told I was "positive to cancer" my second screening I was told I had HPV and advices to do cryotherapy.
Because then I was still in school I decided to leave the matter just like your girl because all the money I saved from my business I used up on getting alternative opinions at a point u couldn't even pay my school fees or my hostel rent.
Now I could afford to travel abroad to seek medical help I was told that u can't test positive to cancer and I didn't have HPV infact all I had was an abnormal cervix that had the tendency to get cancerous later in life.
They where puzzled and dissapointed that Nigerian doctor would suggest cryotherapy (I don't really know why) an suggested I did something biopsy ( I don't remember the full name) I later had gardasil shots and I go for regular Pap smear test.
To cut d long story short my dear corruption in naija is everywhere. most naija doctors really don't know what they are doing and the few who do are ridiculously pricey! pls feel free to cuss me out in typing from experience. Others will blow little things out of proportion infact medicine isn't practiced in naija many doctors r just out to buy fancy cars to meet up wv their colleagues and exaggerate very simple test.
I would suggest you get an NGO and rally for help send pictures to blogs and well meaning Nigerians and send her abroad for treatment because for all we know it might not even be cancer but something little that looks so big due to neglect.
Sorry for the Long epistle.
My dear I'm going to advice you from experience.
ReplyDeleteMy first cervical screening I was told I was "positive to cancer" my second screening I was told I had HPV and advices to do cryotherapy.
Because then I was still in school I decided to leave the matter just like your girl because all the money I saved from my business I used up on getting alternative opinions at a point u couldn't even pay my school fees or my hostel rent.
Now I could afford to travel abroad to seek medical help I was told that u can't test positive to cancer and I didn't have HPV infact all I had was an abnormal cervix that had the tendency to get cancerous later in life.
They where puzzled and dissapointed that Nigerian doctor would suggest cryotherapy (I don't really know why) an suggested I did something biopsy ( I don't remember the full name) I later had gardasil shots and I go for regular Pap smear test.
To cut d long story short my dear corruption in naija is everywhere. most naija doctors really don't know what they are doing and the few who do are ridiculously pricey! pls feel free to cuss me out in typing from experience. Others will blow little things out of proportion infact medicine isn't practiced in naija many doctors r just out to buy fancy cars to meet up wv their colleagues and exaggerate very simple test.
I would suggest you get an NGO and rally for help send pictures to blogs and well meaning Nigerians and send her abroad for treatment because for all we know it might not even be cancer but something little that looks so big due to neglect.
Sorry for the Long epistle.
There's a possibilty that it is not cancer.about 95percent of cancers are painless!its probably an infection.I am a breast cancer survivor.I would love to support her emotionally and finacially if its malignant.Get back on the blog and let us know how it went.xxx
ReplyDeleteCongrats dear. Your testimony will continue to be a source of encouragement to others.
DeleteGod bless your heart poster.
ReplyDeleteplease help her the much you can.
Thank God I can see free screening addresses posted via comments.
..and to you Tiwa, whatever you wish the poster's gf will be your portion and your advice will be meted unto you.
princess Agatha, you are obviously a first timer. relax hon, your hormones have started acting up-it is all part of pregnancy blues. you may start hating the smell of perfumes, body lotion and even the smell of some food; but you will be fine. just try to manage it.
I wish you supernatural childbirth at your EDD.
I pray God heals her and to the poster do what's your power to help her. And God in his mercy would reward you with blessings from above. Thanks to all those who gave good ideas ,except u who's wishing badluck for someone u don't even know. God help u.
ReplyDeleteGood luck poster.
God bless you so much for your effort to ensure her health is restored. People like you are rare. I pray God heals her complete in Jesus Name...Amen
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