Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

If you thought yesterday's narrative was 'bad' then you need to renew your mind and read this...........

NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
PUSHED INTO AN AFFAIR....

Good Day Stella and my fellow BV’s.

I’m a regular blog visitor who actively comments with my name....

I'm going to go straight to the point, I’m 32, married, professional with 4 kids. I met my husband at 20 and got married to him at 24, he was actually my first. We have been through the normal ups and downs but I have always been a good, reserved wife. He has cheated on me on countless occasions, the last one was when my house help told me he’s been pestering her for sex and therefore she can’t stay with me anymore but because of the way I treated her she just wanted to tell me and leave.

This event shattered me, I was suicidal and very depressed but he kept saying she was lying. He always says he’s busy, we don’t spend time together as husband and wife and it is by accident that we even make love sometimes, in short I do not get the love and care that I would want as a wife.

 I have tried on countless occasions to talk to him about it but he maintains that since all the kids are boys he needs to build a solid foundation for them. I have talked to his parents about it but no one seems to think it’s a problem.

Well along the way I met a client in my line of work ,he is an MD of a company, married with kids but lives in a different state as his family, about 3 months after I did his work he told me he wanted to have an affair with me knowing my status and me his, I totally abhorred the thought of cheating on my husband so I told him and we were like friends but his constant care, complements and the worst of it was that he would call me almost every night to talk to me to keep me company because my hubby always returns to the house after 12mdnight,did I mention he is an importer who seem to be always busy.

Well after a while I began to feel attached to the guy and kept looking forward to his calls at night, one night we talked and along the line he asked me the last time I had sex which was like a month then, the conversation became kind of erotic and we ended up having phone sex, afterwards I have gone to his house twice, to tell you the truth I love kissing but my husband has not bothered to kiss me in years, he smokes socially and in order for us to kiss I have told him to stop but he isn’t bothered, when I went to the guys house we talked to the extent that I was so emotional, I remembered all the emotional trauma I have gone through with my husband’s cheating ways and when the guy kissed me I just lost control and we ended up making love.

I have developed so much attachment to the man that any day I don’t hear from him I get pissed off, his wife recently came to visit him and I nearly died out of jealousy, he has told me that he wants us to be in a lover-friend kind of relationship keeping in mind that we both have families.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband I just think he has taken me for granted, Stella for the love of God I am just 32,I am crazily intelligent but not geeky,I dress well to suit the occasion I always have on good fragrance and do subtle makeup, why the hell does he have to leave me ‘un-husbanded’ in this age where some men are only attracted to married women, I am ashamed of what I did, I am ashamed that when my kids hear it they might not understand me, I can’t believe that I could fall into the category of women who commit adultery because I have always been a strong willed woman.

 I am however surprisingly not a tad bit guilty when it comes to my husband, in fact I have become more accommodating of his neglect and nonchalant attitude and I do not even bother when women call his phone.

The deal is, I am getting so attached to this new man that I practically yearn for him, I know everyone is prone to mistakes, my husband has made his and I have made mine, how do I extract myself from the feelings I am developing for this guy, or should I continue with him to keep me in my marriage.

Thanks Stella.

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