How does one go about it?
Does anyone have any tips or tricks to go about it?
As a Christian,you are believing God for a husband but do you sit at home and wait for him to drop down from the sky?As in....God will DHL you one?
Come on,let's talk about this cos the mail you are about to read just further proves the waffy adage ''trust in God but tie your goat''
Tying your goat simply means you do it yourself,you make yourself available for your husband to find you but where exactly should you be?
''Please i have a question for BV's ......i am tired of this husband thingy. I leave home 5am everyday and wont be back till 9pm (mon -fri) my house is quite far from the office.
Now to my question... How will one meet a hubby in this situation (biko lets leave God factor from this, i am a true born again and a worker in Gods vineyard) but you cant be invisible and expect husband to show from heaven.
My weekend is never enough. I am tired, plus i can do shakara for Africa so i will need to meet a lot of guys to pick from alternatives, ( i never even meet anyone).
I sometimes fall into depression but when i remember Gods promises, i feel better. Do i need to go out and sit in a fast food joint and be looking to see if a man will come? Lol.
Do i go to parties no one invites me to? I am not social and most friends are married so no one to even hang out with. Please bvs how did you meet your hubby's? Did he just knock at your door? Lolz''.
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This should be interesting!
I never read! Would be back
ReplyDeleteWhere is Sdk Bouncer abi na Stripper? Come and read how to find a husband befor frustration go kill u for ur papa house..aunty gwegwegwe!
DeleteI met mine at work, so urs could be the same, u could also meet smone at church.
DeleteI never marry. Waiting to read other comments as this applies to my life now
ReplyDeleteOh My! The timing of this post is apt. Earnestly waiting to read comments too.
ReplyDeleteDo visit my blog naijasinglegirl.com Thank you.
Where does one find a WIFE abeg-
ReplyDeleteMtchewwww no b wives full dis blog ni
DeleteLol
ReplyDeleteSome ladies are lookin for a guy to date n when dey go out to see movies or a mall dey go in groups...how many guys have d nerve to break up a group to talk to one girl?...dias a tendency dat d guy u wldv attracted if u were alone will find one of ur friends more attractive on dat particular day
DeleteLolz ds is very Interesting, Addup @ SingleLadies for A Serious Date 2bcdd5ed
ReplyDeleteMumu, they are saying serious thing u are bringing ur silly bb pin here
DeleteSdk bouncer come oh..husband don land yakata..bwahahahahaha..fat ugly bitch
DeleteLol, I dunno oh. U need to go out more often I think
ReplyDeleteTry Funerals, Bustops, Inside Keke Maruwa, Molue etc they plenty there I tell you...
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Kai! Ur comment is so hilarious!
DeleteI don laugh fall 4 ground yakata
DeletePeople find love in strange places.
ReplyDeleteLet d discussion begin ohhhh
ReplyDeleteI can't wait ohhh
********LONG LIVE SDK & SDKERS**********
Hahahahahaha,
ReplyDeleteAbeg I never marry, make I see people comments
Let the comment roll in, @ poster was like u but when the right time came, my husband surfaced. It doesnt really matter where u meet him, all that matters is he makes u his queen
ReplyDeleteLadies don't look for husband, husband will find you when the time is ripe. There is no specifically defined way III r place to stay for husband to find you, even in Your place of work, husband can find you there, all you just need to do is be easy to relate with, when you meeting people don't be too stiff, be easy to relate with, smile slot both keep you guards up to to fall in the wrong hands. Keep praying and hopes in God, God help you dear.
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Poster,why are you complaining when you are married to your job....
ReplyDeleteYou need more of going out....
Socialize,go to wedding,birthdays etc....
Don't just sit at home and wait for a man to locate you which will never happen...
Dress well,make your hair,look good and always wear an infectious smile....
I met my hubby in a wedding where I was the chief brides mate and him the best man...
Though I did shakara but dude was all over me....
Do Ashebi for people,that one works too...
Go for vacations....
Stop hiding at home and work biko....
Gbam gbamest linda your head dey there
DeleteWell said linda Eze BUT some have done more than this and still, no man. Some don't do any of these and men follow them like flies! My dear poster, charge your prayer life.
DeleteHusband will find u.
ReplyDeleteU look for husband when u r scared!
U look for husband when u've wasted ur youthful age playing 2nd fiddle!
U go find husband so teeeeeeey teeeeleeeeee
U go become husband snatcher!
Relax n let dem find u!
If dey don't find u, don't turn desperado!
Owner of chelsea is single,(not sure)
He has a fuckmate (domestic partner)
So get a partner but not someone's husband make dem no go teke for ur head n u start pee-ing on bed.
You are somehow retarded oh, just thought you should know.
DeletePoster exactly my tots!
ReplyDeleteVery interesting waiting to read from the wise ones...
ReplyDeleteIf u ask me,i'd always tell Young Ladies ..
ReplyDeleteBe good...it pays!
Have clean fun...
All d While Trust God!
Everyone's destiny is DIFFERENT!
I met the General in d unlikeliest of places.
Just keep Praying for dat special one....
It will happen just like u see in ur Dreams....
General general !! Make we hear word, whether na General of meat seller for Agege sef ,na only God know, u are always full of different lie lie stories, nwunye general ko,nkwobi General ni
DeleteVery interesting, truth is when we pray we expect answers, and we do get those answers but we do not work towards it. No mam, no man gonna knock at ur door step, u have to be available even if u r not sociable there are ways you can make that happen.
ReplyDeleteYou can initiate hangouts with peeps, both male nd female, get urself out there.
Chat with peeps online be more open to new experiences, you can even decide to go out with ur colleagues at work.....live life now, free ur mind, decide to just have fun before u know it u r hooked!
Wow
ReplyDeleteThis post will be fun
In my own caseee,i have 2 suitors asking for my hand in marriage.
One is outside nigeria,and the other one is here in nigeria.
I love the one in nigeria but he is over possessive n am not really that close to the one outside couple.
Am so so confused.
@poster: you have 2 make out time 4 yourself in one way or the other.
When the right person comes, u will surely know.
And you made me look at your pictures...SMH
DeleteLet me explain to the best of my knowledge. There are some people who have problems going out. It is their nature. Some like to be indoors, others outdoors. Now, these indoor people go out once in a while. Do you note that a lady who wants to be approached by a guy in a bar or pool or beach positions herself strategically? A woman who wants men to walk up to her will sit , press phone, roll her eyes, smile, cross legs, make eye contacts strategically. If you doubt me, visit clubs or joints and watch these girls do these. And like magic, men will approach them.
ReplyDeleteBut a woman who is an indoor person does not know how to position herself even when she goes out. She will either keep a stern face or read novels which will scare men away.
Another annoying factor in Nigeria is that women cannot go to cool spots, clubs, or the beach alone. If they do, they are labelled as runs girls who seek attention. I have died and resurrected severally not because i cannot take myself out but because of the stigma that is attached.
To all the people telling all the single ladies to always be going out, look, they do go out. But bear in mind that going out does not work for everyone. At least we have had people who don't go out yet they are married to people they meet on social media or friends/relatives try to hook them up.
1million likes for ur comment. I have a very fashionable frnd who is single. She is very nice but her banking work takes up all her time becoz u can't help itm she is so shy that she hates eating out. She can only buy takeaway and eat at home. She attends weddings and events also but her type of person, hanging out often won't work for her just like you said. People are different.
DeleteU re d best @ Anon 13;10. I even stopped working join, cos I became extremely depressed, yet I still can't socialise. Am an indoor person, I do try to go out but Still.
DeleteLet me relax with swollen labia and enjoy the comment session.
ReplyDeleteNne what happened to your labia?
DeleteReally tho?
DeleteHnmmm I'll have to learn from here today.
ReplyDeleteYou can meet your life partner anywhere including in the church where you worship. When the time comes God knows how to connect the both of you. It could even be through a friend, family member or colleague. Just be nice to people you meet for you never can tell. Good luck 🍀
ReplyDeleteSince u attend church become a worker. Preferably crowd control unit or ushering unit or hospitality. Don't do choir.
ReplyDeleteEvery program in church u attend. Anytime they announce wedding u go whether u kno the couple or not as far as it is in your church.
Go for your post graduate degree incase u have none. Let it be part time because it's mostly those with jobs that attend part time. U may see a guy amongst your course mates
Every time husband finding.....what of wife finding? its not easy to find a good wife either.
ReplyDeleteOya o, married women in the house, come and tell/show us how it is done. The General's wife, Bloglord, Genny babe, Chizoba, Qutie, Iphie dearie, Irene B, Linda Eze, Ezenwanyi (side eyes), Stella Dimoko Korkus (yes, you too), Mrs D, who else haven't I called out? We dey wait, una hear.
ReplyDeleteOluyomi, take your time and delete Chizobas name, hian.
Deletemet my hubby on a radio dating program. Got married 10months aftaa n its bin awesome. ofcos dere wld b hiccups but we always weather d storm. Ur miracle is on d way.
ReplyDeleteLol...chilling to read comments.
ReplyDeleteMost of my relationships have been 'referrals' as per dat good girl. Lol.
Do like my church. Start praying for d will of God and God will reveal him to u and u to him and den he will approach u.
ReplyDeleteDat is d only advise I have o. Abeg no yab my church o. DeeperLifer till I make heaven o...
#signout
Jasmine Kork
My fellow deeperlifer,saanu.
DeleteBefore I met my hubby,i was dating a faceless guy in uk,I met him on one of this social media,we chat virtually everyday but his attitude became unbearable.he became too bossy and nasty for my liking.on the other hand I had a friend who hated the fact I was dating him.one. Day my hubby was scrolling thru her phone cos then he jst came out from a terrible relationship.sso he saw me in the picture and fell for what he saw.since my friend hated d person I was dating,she was too eager to introduce me to this new guy.
ReplyDeleteSo I met my hubby thru my friend and most of my friends met their hubby through friends.so change the type of people you move wwith or get closer to your friends,who knows???
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Very trueeeeeee....lmao!!!
DeleteMy dear if u havnt met him it means God doesn't wnt u 2 meet him yet. since ur a good christian u shuld hav understood God's ways are not our ways. U shuld hav understood dat God loves surprising ppl, he's a specialist @ dat, tak ur mind off it, trust me u'l b surprised wen love happens.
ReplyDeleteLord!!! I need to learn too o
ReplyDeletelet me wait for comments!cause me sef i wan knw!No bf not to talk of husband!Lol
ReplyDeleteUhm lemme sit and read comments..
ReplyDeleteMy sister, the title is VERY wrong. The Bible says talks about 'Wife finding' instead - he that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord. Make yourself available in your office, church, anywhere else you find yourself - cut the 'shakara' thing b/c some men will not approach you. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean NOT on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths. I was recommended (to my hubby - not in same state) by my hubby's younger brother whose shop is close to place of abode. Everything still boils down to God's grace and favour. Pls, you SHOULD NOT look for/find hubby, it's the other way round..... Mrs. Eunice
ReplyDeletelet me give u a hint -weddings!!!
ReplyDeleteIf u like gate crash , I don't care how u do it,just go to weddings , u'd meet eligible bachelors there but Pls invest in some really nice aso Ebis and if possible go get Ur make up professionally done
Also, change ur church..find a new generation church and join a group !!!
Don't forget to make friends everywhere ..on Twitter, Instagram , Facebook ..U don't know where Ur hubby is ...so let social media help u find him ..
Am a bit like you..my job is very tasking and takes up most of my time .but I balance it by having wild friends that give me invites to the best parties !!
But didn't meet my boo there . Lol. One sunny afternoon i went to the bank to make a transaction and a ping came through,
So a distant friend goes "lola can I ask u something ..do u av a bf , I noticed U Dnt use any man on Ur dp..
...I say errrr I dnt have at the moment
Then she says I have someone for you.
..I was very skeptical and told her ,but she says to just give it a trial . And she gave him my pin ..a month later he came to see his fam in Nigeria and yes we saw and just clicked off.. Sometimes when I look back, I wonder and I know God got my back.
Oh ..I had already started praying for a man of my own , and I always felt in my spirit ..that he was near.so I did away with all my *time -wasters * and just waited. When my friends would ask me ,I'd say I wanted to be single for when my man comes. So poster Pls pray ,it may sound cliche but Pls do..and let God lead you
All the best.
Hey STELLA Hows your day going???
Poster, listen to this sister, she knows what time it is..... and good luck
DeleteI just love you for your comment
DeleteAnd I like how you waited for him
Oya chop knuckle
I just love you for your comment
DeleteAnd I like how you waited for him
Oya chop knuckle
True, true...
DeleteHahaha
ReplyDeleteJust so u know,this was a reflex reply
Coming back later to comment proper
Hahahhaa make I sit down, read comments. Am equally single n available t searched for. Oluwahubby provider rememba me abeg.
ReplyDeleteAll I know is potential husbands can meet you anywhere! Be it in church, mosque, workplace, bus, online, at home etc. Just ask GOD to position you at the right spot for him to meet you.
ReplyDeleteI read a story of a lady who meet her husband at her home. The guy (husband) followed his friend to see the lady's brother and that was how they met.
If you like go to all the parties and social gatherings around, if he's not there, you won't be sought after.
Lastly, PRAY! Some are under spells/bewitchment that won't make them desirable to be sought after for marriage. This is the MAIN cause of delayed marriages in this part of the world.
Exactly, met my hubby just opposite my house (my neighbor's)...therefore it can be anywhere and I mean anywhere.My friend met hers at the airport while going on vacation, my sister is married to her high school classmate...
DeleteToh the bible says he that finds a wife find a good thing.
ReplyDeleteNot the other way round.
The man will locate you.
Where he can locate you varies.
@ the bus stop
In the bus on your way to work or on your way back
@ the office. He could be your colleague, your boss, customers etc.
Your neighbor, his friend or his or her brother,etc
@ the mkt,shopping mall.
@ church.
Old friends,classmates,etc.
Stella's blog.
So dear the list is endless. You don't have to go searching for him. He will find you in the strangest place.
Your prayer should be Lord let him locate me o.
It pleases the Lord to give his children good gifts. So tell me why he won't give you a husband.
Use this time to work on yourself.
I send forth a husband. Receive it.
Ehen I met my husband through my friend. And before then my social life was zero.
for me am married to my exboyfriends best friend *we used to f**k in my present hubbys house* dunno how he managed to marry me and hes so wonderful and caring. lolz
ReplyDeletemarried to my soulmate after 10years of seeing me f**k his friend
No words.
DeleteHaha na so life be sometimes
DeleteChop knuckle on behalf of ur hubby...I like him already n his sense of maturity
DeleteI don't believe you...a Nigerian man no fit jare
DeleteIs this Chizoba??
DeleteBuchi na u be dis.
DeleteWow! Wow! wow!
DeleteMadam start attending weddings,try ur best to always be among the bridal train or aso-ebi gals.
ReplyDeletei met mine in school(university). you can meet them anywhere.
ReplyDeleteAm seriously waiting on comments #weareindeedsoomany....pls keep em coming and don't hoard info Abeg.. be ur 'sister's keeper'
ReplyDeleteI met mine at the airport. He came up to me and offerred me a lift. I accepted the lift with the fear of otokoto in my heart. We dated a little bit and he popped the question - I said yes!! Who no want better thing. A couple of years later, we are still waxing strong.
ReplyDeletePoster open your eyes to the options. You may not need to attend parties to meet 'the one'. He might be the guy in the house next to you. Your prayer now while you are single should be to pray to God to open your eyes to recognise him when he appears. That you dont chase him away cos he is not handsome enough or that he does not drive a jeep.
'm seriously waiting on the comments #weareindeedsoomany...pls keep em coming and don't hoard info Abeg, be your 'sister's keeper'
ReplyDeleteLMAO @ Shakara for Africa.
ReplyDeleteMy shakara worse sef.
Mine is that i stay in a state i wouldn't want to marry into, all the men i have met are all from this place.
Tho i work from 7:30 to 5:30 PM, I still move around tho but you would hardly see an ELIGIBLE Igbo guy around here.
I am not desperate for marriage but i am keeping an open mind.
Men wahala too much sha.
I believe that God will send my husband my way. I am not a recluse, i have to work, i go to church, i don't know which other way to "search" for husband.Lol.
Anyways, as a woman, you are to be "found" not the other way round.
While I am waiting to be found, i am improving myself, learning from SDK Chronicles,making that money, furthering my education and commenting on SDK. Lol.
All in all, God hasn't brought us this far to forsake us.
Dis is exactly what I discaused wit my friend last week. If u don't go out u wount meet people.though am married, my friend is single and worried she is a single mother of 1. Yeeee 1st to comment
ReplyDeleteDiscause? For real...I raise yansh for u oo madam first to comment..and don't form autocorrect oooo
DeleteDiscause? For real...I raise yansh for u oo madam first to comment..and don't form autocorrect oooo
DeleteHi Kehinde Ake, I couldn't get your email Addy. Pls I'm interested in the 50shades of Grey Pdf.. thanks
ReplyDeleteI met my husband at a Gtbank ATM. You can meet your husband anywhere especially at unexpected places.
ReplyDeleteChurch
ReplyDeleteThe church and work wen u dey go na women only arrangements? Men no dey work for or visit una office? No men in your congregation? Start there first.
ReplyDeleteFriend nko? Don't u have any?
Poster I understand how you feel cuz this is the same thing I'm going through now. Work mon to fri (7am - 5pm), a worker in church.....so my saturdays are mainly in the church, all my friends are married and I'm not the social type. So I understand you Poster.......na God go help our kind
ReplyDeleteI don't know wia to find husbands oo!
ReplyDeleteBut I know that numba 1 place where u shldnt find husband is in a NIGERIAN CHURCH.
The greatest mistake u can make is to settle for a church WORKER.
My sis, u are done for!
My church for example, I know wia the male church workers(ushers n protocols) do there 2nd main service, na for one garden wey dey 1 corner for my area(I know bcos I know #TongOut!).
Na 4 church dem dey do holy holy.
But outside church? OMG Dem dey cut beer like anytin #YorubaTranslation
Womanizing nko?
Female workers na dem gossip pass abeg.
I know a church marriage counsellor, wu wz askin me out 1 time, a married man oo.
I saw him 1 day drinking beer @ the pool side, in a dark corner of a cool spot #IShock! And ofcos I confronted him later, n e asked me if e wasn't human?
@ poster,
It doesn't av to be a concious search!
I.E u setting out time on weekend to find d guy.
U just need to meet him 1st.
Mayb during a lunch break after office hours.
Mayb at an official outing or smthg.
Just mk sure u look presentable as much as u can, n u av an approachable aura, den leave tins fall in2 place demselves.
Dia r sometins u can't force in in life.
Hahaha this church tho
DeleteI know dis particular church(don't wanto mention d name),if u r a lady dat has money or a good job,dey'l hook u up with a broke ass broda in church who'l be forming spiricoco...av seen it happen on many occassions there
DeleteU dey find husband & u dey do shakara for Africa, c ya mouth, u still ve long way to go, nonsense.
ReplyDeleteYou can meet your husband anywhere, even inside the bus.
ReplyDeleteThe most important thing is try to be friendly and smile a lot to attract people, at the same time, too much of everything is bad, Dnt over do things.
Hi Kehinde Ake, I couldn't get your email Addy. Pls I'm interested in the 50shades of Grey Pdf.. thanks
ReplyDeleteSchool
ReplyDeleteJoin social clubs to attend on weekends or volunteer for a good cause... Good way to meet guys... Let your friends or family members connect you.. It's a gully n grimey world out there but good luck...
ReplyDeleteFirst bring God FACTOR, you can not leave HIM out, cos HE is the DETERMINANT.
ReplyDeleteSecondly focus on your service, I mean the work you do in church, am sure there are some serious minded spirit filled brothers in your church. I met my hubby in church, but after the 3 Ps, i share with people, Prayer, Positioning and PRAISE, the last P did it for me.
So this man wanted to marry my relative then and she was doing guy and refused.. i needed a husband so i went to meet him and told him since she has rejected you Me nko?? He said fine.. After he came to see my father she cried and shouted that why was i taking her reject.. i paid her no mind.. Almost 15 years we've been waxing strong with 5 kids while she remained single and she's telling everyone that am to blame.. See me see trouble..
DeletePls i take God beg una.. if anyone curses me i will come back and return all the curses back to sender..
Rotfl, pls let me come bck n read comment jare, me self never marry mana ife enyero lol.
ReplyDeleteThere is no universal law to follow but above all like you already stated, you have to go out to meet people. Try to be more active in church since that's the only place apart from work you frequent. Don't dress too flashy. Be conservative yet sexy, don't be too loud or foward. The truth is that, more often it is better to be yourself so you meet people who appreciate you for who you are and not what they think you are. Good luck
ReplyDeleteI'm waiting to hear, I trust BVs to regale us wit both real and fake gist of how their hubby located them. The ones that used belle to tie the man won't tell us, the ones that snatched frm existing r/ships won't tell us, the ones that also used jazz won't tell us too.
ReplyDeleteOya let the stories begin
LOLLLLLLLLLL
DeleteOh lord....nelo.. You nailed it....dem no go confess how dem take do am
DeleteMadam me I don't know....o...
Let the married ones tell us...
We are here to read and learn a few....
You make serious brain
DeleteNelo u won't kill me.Laughing seriously here.funny enough u r right.
DeleteNawao! Is it that bad? Thought it was " he who findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and......." And not the otherway round! When you make this Husband 'finding' a biggie, definitely d devil will feed on it in ur mind and make it a nightmare 4u. Why don't you try living first and not be so consumed by this husband 'finding' thingy. It is well o.
ReplyDeleteAt times it may be a ruth(proper positioning) and boaz situation
Deletestella am currently in the same position myslf,my own is even worse as i work in ghana and live in the same building i work owned by the company.i hardly go out.
ReplyDeleteNot married yet.
ReplyDeleteBut I met bae while in school. We were just friends then. Then four years later, we took the friendship to another level.
Awwww poster.
ReplyDelete#Hugs
I think these things has to do with luck and destiny.
My experience :
Before I married, I never for one day prayed for a hubby or went about looking for one ( I married in my early 20s).
In short, my own shakara was out of this world.
I was very strict and disciplined and mysterious with guys.
Guess it fascinated most of them.
Guys were always at my beck and call in those days (not boasting please).
I was never in lack of admirers.
My phone rang more than an international business man' s phone.
That's shit use to get on my dad's nerve like hell.
If not that he respects me, he would have banned me from using a phone, LOL
Around my 3rd year at the uni, guys I never noticed and their families started going to meet my dad even before approaching me.
I'll be one my own and get a call from home that some people just came with wine and stuff to ask permission from my dad to marry me.
By the time I was serving, it was like every 2 weeks I'll get a suitor who comes to meet my parents prepared.
Without consulting me most times, very annoying and sometime s embarrassing.
It was crazy.
My dad drank wine from different guys on my head.
If hubby hadn't hurried (we were dating), I'm sure they would have cajoled me to marry one of those guys, cos dad was being to 'really like' one of them...
Even after my introduction ceremony with hubby, I still had suitors who went to meet my dad, till after my traditional wedding.
Mind you, I'm not Agbani oh, but things just went like that for me.
I'm not an introvert but I won't exactly say I'm an extrovert.
I hardly go out then, but once I do, I must get attention from guys wanting to know me better.
I didn't belong to any group in church, I've never clubbed or gone for wild night parties.
I'm basically an indoor person.
The was guys flock around me then made me lose some so called friends cos they became jealous. Story for another day.
Believe me when I say I gave guys tough time, but that didn't stop them.
Maybe it has to do with my personality or the way I carry myself. I don't just know.
So that's why I believe it's destiny/luck or just grace.
See poster, don't over worry yourself ok.
When your time comes, guys will be following you like flies follow faeces.
Just make sure you look decent and attractive always.
Don't appear desperate.
Know your value and self worth.
Be fun to be around. Be lively. Be witty.
Be proud of who you are and where you come from.
Be humble,respectful, kind, cheerful and free spirited.
Always mark your boundary.
Don't allow guys to be going in an out of your pussy anyhow.
Be stingy as hell with your pussy and body. That's my watch word when dealing with guys.
Don't be dependent on guys for anything, it makes you appear cheap.
Do not take nonsense from any man.
Be yourself.
Do not compromise so you can hook a guy.
Love yourself. Be happy.
Most importantly, hand everything over to God and have faith.
All the best.
Madam u didn't answer the question o where did you meet your husband
DeleteWell said Genny baby. I had a similar experience but got married at almost 28. When men smell desperation, they start fucking up.
DeleteOne million likes for ur comment
DeleteI remember one msg I sent to Stella to post n how u insulted n advised me wt love.....lol
Why will men nt surround u like flies, u got a great personality, am nt exaggerating
God bless u!
GBAM!
DeleteThat is all.
However... Men these days are not ready to commit. You don't see them line up like this again oh. Why have one when they can have many. The onus is on women to value themselves and hold out for the one.
@Stella and poster: I am a lady/Christian happily married . . . joyfully married for more than a decade and with kids . . a graduate/professional. My training and work is such that I work everyday (including sat and sun) and run night duties . . . only have like 1-2 days off after 7 days work; which most times does not fall into the weekend.
ReplyDeleteHow did I meet the wonderful man of God that I'm married to . . . in a gospel fellowship and that was during my training. Just walked in with my sister and saw that smiling face of this ethereally handsome guy.I admired his love for God (yes he taught us Bible study and everybody admired his knowledge and sacrifice. He is this kind of person that would give out all his clothes to less privileged and go on one shirt and trouser until his wardrobe fills up again; usually from gifts from folks he teaches ) but I never knew he would be my husband. We were friends for four years before the Lord revealed to me that he is the one and 7 years after we met, he popped the question and I gave him the answer immediately. All these while, I never tried to "lure him" or "seduce him". In fact at a point, he moved to a different state for a course. He is not (materially rich) but he is okay and gives me peace. Within these period, I had proposals from "abroad guys, politicians, the very rich" and family pressure was rife (I'm from a relatively poor background) and I fought everybody off "politely". Some of those "rich folks" are dead now; and I keep asking myself; "so if I had married them, I'd have been a widow?"
When we got married; 10 years after we met, I was the one working and I footed the bills (yes; it was our money; we have it joint, from the day he popped the question, we began to save together and buy the things we needed not "wanted")I prayed to the Lord that I wanted my kids to be as "beautiful as him" and he answered it to the later. Most times, when I'm with my daughters, my colleagues who do not know him (ladies especially) marvel at how I had these beautiful fair girls while I'm dark.
The problems with ladies/Christians . . . greed, the flesh. What do you want; God's will or your will? worldly riches or peace of mind; true riches. Like the poster who is talking about "alternatives"; I did not have that "luxury"; cos, once I know the person (As a Christian I fast regularly like Christ taught, not only when I wanted to "know the will of God".) I was done and closed my mind to all men. I was a virgin when we married and I was almost 30 then. When I married my Prince, I know from the nature of his work that he does not have a steady salary (being a missionary), I made up my mind from day one that I will take him as he is and support him. Sometimes the Lord gives him and that's okay. As a family, we lack no good thing that "we need"; not "wants" please. The scripture says that the Lord shall supply all your "needs" (not "wants").
Ladies, I can go on writing . . . you don't get a man by "hanging out or opening your legs at random" etc. Likes move with likes. If you are sincere toward God, he will give you a sincere son of his; period. For more than a decade of our marriage and that's more than 20 years since we first met, we've never argued; I mean "no argument" . . . and it's not always been rosy. Remember when I lost my first job . . . and for 5 months, none of us had a salary and I was pregnant . . . yet we had peace. He only fasted and prayed (yes; he does it) until I got another job that paid twice the last one. Finally, I wish I can reveal my identity but due to the respect I have for his work (he is a very private person; he introduced me to this blog) I won't . . . Maybe one day, we'd get to know Stella . . . what he liked most about Stella's blog was; no porn and her charity works.
God bless you for reading my epistle.
Lady IGO
Can I be your friend? I like you already
DeleteLady IGO.. Pls just tell us where you met ur husband.. that doesnt mean thats the only place everyone will meet theirs..My younger sister has 3 kids now and till date my parents dont know she met her husband in a club.. They are still together and waxing strong.. sometimes she puts on herr bum shorts and they hit the club and she will bbm us(my siblings and i)pictures and we'll laff over it. There's no hard and fast rule to these things
DeleteWow,lady IGO,thanks so much for sharing this.
DeleteTrust me when i say i learnt things from this comment of yours.
I want and pray my marriage somday soon by his Grace is built on the word of God.
There's just nothing like inner peace
Wow! Wow!! Wow!!!
DeleteGod bless you ma
DeleteSometimes or mostimes, we want our own will but we have to surrender to God's will and let him lead us.
He always leads us to a place of peace
And for people saying be stingy with your pussy, she isn't meant to give it to no one but her husband
Gerrrriiiit??
Poster call forth your man and watch God bring him
You might even meet him in a danfo, or at a bustop, who knows?
Last year I had a dream where a strange woman came to me holding pens or sticks(cant remember ) she told me(sebi u want to marry,now pik one) which I did.after dat dream,d type of suitors dat were comin,so embarrassing dat wen I mentioned one to ma mum,she flew on d bed n started laffin n d cryin at d same time.It was den I knew I piked d wrong pen abi stick.went into serious prayers n dreamt again,dis time a smiling woman came witgolden pens.was sceptical and was prayin in ma mind.dis time I took d whole bundlees(me choose one,wen its all mine).nt yet married bit av bin blessed.still waitin for him...........
ReplyDeleteMahn! I feel this poster O! My neigbhour adviced me to go & sit at fast food joints or even Raddison Blu, that's not far from my house. That it'd be easier to find someone that way. Na weak I weak O! Cos trully am not the going out type any more. As A Naija/Giddy babe I frowned at such a suggestion. To me it meant I was portraying myself as a lady of easy virtue. But I was told based on his french orientation, that I was being too African. That my dressing shouldn't give me away as such after all how I dress would be the way I would be addressed. That'd just be me "hanging out". How do I hang out all by myself? I have consciously stayed away from friends, after people don almost RUIN my life. Am still standing on wobbly legs by GOD's mercy & grace! Another friend suggested I go to resturants often. Me I enjoy cooking & hosting friends O! Besides eating out is not cheap either. Must one go to weddings just for the sole purpose of meeting a prospect? I'll just read comments on this one. Cos na person wey wear shoe know how e dey pinch. People will come with all sorts of ideas & suggestions for you, factoring in your age & your level of exposure to suit your present situation. Guess the GOD factor can not be overlooked whether one likes it or not as life & fate decides to "ruffle" things up.
ReplyDeleteBLOG ANALYSER: I met my hubby during NYSC, I must say that was the best part of my life coz I also met wonderful and interesting characters. He was batch C and I was batch B. He was also the CLO and also won an award as the best corper in that zone. it is a long story but we began our relationship shortly bfore they passed out nd we dated for some thing bfore getting married. He had prospects, determined and patience. I am glad I waited nd we built that friendship.
ReplyDeleteWill wait 4 comments cos this sounds interesting.
ReplyDeleteI think he will just knock at your door lol
Wch door sef?
Maybe the door of ur house sha.
Guess he will see ur passport in front of ur house(in a dream o) Ãήϑ den he will start searching until he locates u. Lol
*Rmn blessed*
Knock for door ke. You go old for house be that oh. I actually met my husband through my lawyer friend in Uniben.
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella!!!! Just noticed our change of motto... thumbs up!
ReplyDeleteSo my sister called me up this morning that she's worried about me and why I'm not saying anything bout 'Husband' , so she said I should stop using red lipstick, no eye shadows,i should just use nude lippie,light makeuo,oh even said I should stop fixing nd do only Ghana weaving..odiegwu..its not like I'm old sef,stil in my early 20's..maybe after reading this I'll be encouraged..not like im.worried tho..
DeleteYou can meet your life partner anywhere.it could be in your office or on your way to work.I meet mine in his office.The bank I was using before had disappointed me, and I was not ready to bank with them anymore.So I decided to transfer my cash to another bank,after depositing my money in the bank I decided to drop my CV.as I was going upstairsairs,I sighted someone seating in a secluded place from all the other operator.when to him and explained my mission and he promise to help me submite in the head office in Lagos.He gave me his email address and I forwarded my CV.he started calling once in awhile to encourage me not to seat down but to take up little offers as that will boost my CV.6months later he asked me out and he came down to see me for the first time after we meet.4months after that we were engaged and 3months after we did our introduction.Exactly one year after the introduction was our wedding.its been 4years and we are waxing stronger in love everyday.I can't thank God enough for opening my spiritual eyes to see that he is the one and not the numerous time wasters and who knows maybe wife beaters.Once again I say thank God for my husby.
ReplyDeleteAwwwww! Lovely
DeleteAwww
DeleteMy sister congrats
But did he later get u a job?
DeleteI think everything is by God's grace,i am nt the outgoing type....infact at times I use to wonder if i'll ever get married,but @ d right time I met him through a friend,we got talking on phone even before we met and the rest was history.I got married even before my friends that goes out always......so for me it's jst by His grace.
ReplyDeleteI went with my friend to her friend's house and he was there. He happened to be her friend's cousin, we got talking, kept in touch, developed a friendship, started dating and the rest they say is history. I belive that you meet your spouse in the most random places, but it's always nicer through mutual friends Bc everyone is more comfortable.
ReplyDeleteHi poster....i love that you are a good christian....we cant leave the God factor out of it.pray,praise,pray.that said since you are a very busy person,work on yourself...smile more often,initiate conversations,dress well.even when you are at work or in the bus going to or from work,talk to people.the internet is also a great place for busy people to meet their partners...i met my husband to be right here on stella's single and mingle.am an introvert,i can be on my own all day reading a good novel or watching a movie.i hardly go out or make friends but i met my hearthrob right here.lastly pls attend pastor chris ojigbani's marriage seminars.google him and find out when and where the next seminar will be and you will be amazed!all the best
ReplyDeleteSDK ist wedding loading...
DeleteGood product of Stella's singles n mingle
Better stop being anti social and utilize your weekends. Go out, party and keep in touch with the married friends that want to keep in touch with you. Social media? bbm? Ah! Let your friends and brethren in Christ see that beautiful pic and use on their dp and you will see how many people will ping to ask if you are single. Abeg you no get problem
ReplyDeleteHmmm,na wa o....some people with their hateful nature,Stella no mind dem....singing....never mind them onu kuru njo ge ku nma.......
ReplyDeleteI am having the exact same problem... How do I find a decent guy when I don't really hang out cos all my friends are married??? I would like to make intelligent girlfriends who I can hang out with whilst I man hunt 😄 ....anyone interested, pls hit me up on deejack942@gmail.com
ReplyDeleteP.s. I am not a "runs girl" I'm just looking to make friends.
Atimes you get introduced to someone by people close to you, though it works or not. But one thing that kept me going then was, " I DON'T NEED TO UNDERSTAND HOW GOD DOES IT OR WILL DO IT, all I NEED is TO FULLY TRUST HIM And BELIEVE HIM". That was my logo and yes am finally married wch is story for another day. Hope to share after 1 year.
ReplyDeleteHusband will not just come knocking at your door If a woman is indoor 24hrs of the day.ladies should put a smile on their face often and don't snub who ever approach you.just hear what he has to say or not,ladies should make them self happy,go out to event,such as wedding if invited.beach,maybe joint once in w while with frd's such as kind size oregun or Femi shrine.nite club too tho once in a while with frds party too.they can joint group in church as well,all this places one can fine hubby there
ReplyDeleteEfeme !!! Shrine? Lol
DeleteDont visitors come to your office or you dey work inside cave.
ReplyDeletebetter start smiling very well and be courteous to visitors in your office and even to your office guys there. may be 1 dey eye you there.
since you can do shakara, why not go to clubs on Friday. Come to Adeniran Ogunsanya Street, Surulere, you go see your type wey dey look for husband there.
you can stand there by 12.00 a.m. you will see big cars and guys there. i don see them plenty there when i go for vigil
Me and this poster on the same page. I don taya jo. Where are the husband. Where can they be found for crying out loud. Haba
ReplyDeleteWe are in same boat sweetie,ex asked for some space after 6years,been single for a while.No job,always indoors,no money for tfare even when interview comes.Where will I meet Mr Right??? All I do is stay at home,go to church which is on same street with my house,no suitors in church just teenage boys, my age mate all married or relocated for job.all alone with my problems,frustrated, depressed. If only I can get a job,I will start from there.
DeleteLOL.. the post heading sha..
ReplyDeletemy dear poster i understand where u r coming from. Mine is a bit different bcs i don't get to spend that much time at work. I just do work-home-work.. I hardly go out, even to church. I'm not an introvert, I'm a really bubbly person. But dressing up to go out(should i call it laziness?)is just a big problem to me..
My sisters and friends ask me if i expect Mr Right to break into the house and find me..hahahahaha!! I have told myself a million times, "ok from next week i'll start going out every other day after work, atleast to the cinema" for where! Its not like i go with public transport to and from work to say maybe someone can see me in the process of waiting for transportation. Lol.. and its not like there r any reliable dating sites in Nigeria. I have now become open to being hooked up/match made, because if I wait till when i start going out to find someone then it'll be a reallyyyy long wait. Sometimes when i'm introduced to guys by my sisters or friends, the guys always find it hard to believe i'm single. One once said, "if u r this beautiful and still single, then something has to be wrong with u, maybe u r a thief or an ogbanje or something"... see me see wahala!LOL. anyway, nothing spoil. I'm not desperate yet :)
Going Anonymous on this.
ReplyDeleteI had this Facebook friend 4 5 years n counting...then one day he posted his wedding pix and I was heart broken.
I didnt expect him to marry me cos it was never more than hi n hello. But I felt someone how....
3years down d line, I was dating dis Muslim guy n we were cool like dat...o e day I saw a bbm request n it was my Muslim guys name...I accepted n was trying to chat him up like he was my bobo.
Until d day he said he Wasnt who I thought he was but wanted to meet me...I was surprised but agreed.
D question of how did u get my pin came up as expected n he said he switched phones with a childhood friend of his to happened to be my Facebook friend.
O boi.... Thats how I n Muslim guy ended things n me n boob started o.
6months later we were engaged n same year we did all our marriage rites...from court to traditional to church.
Am happy I married him o.... Sweetest guy I dated.
His family loves meclike kilode. ..his mum too. Every1.
Even our thanksgiving service in his home town said a lot.
Ladies, keep quiet sometimes n listen ... I listened n heard n got married at 30_31.
intresting.
ReplyDeleteHusband matter 4 obodo nigeria no b small,God help us.....
ReplyDelete*ears wide open*
ReplyDeleteThis poster is so me , the only difference is I'm not in a hurry @ all to be a MRS. I'm making MY money first then other things might follow
ReplyDeleteChristabel what about your white hubby? I go tell him ooo. Lol
DeleteDnt mind her, to think I've been asking her out all these while
DeleteWell I met mio sposato in Church. He was introduced to me by another brother that was seriously on my case but as the wind later chose to blow, we hooked up since I never liked the other guy.
ReplyDeleteI wasn't an outgoing person either. I believe we all have different destinies.
Try socialising especially in church. Be friendly even when you go out for lunch. Open up a bit and watch that your shakara. A guy might not look it immediately, you might not feel the spark at first glance (as it was with me) but keep the door of friendship open and you'll never know where love will find you
It's obvious some people are jobless. Monitoring spirits. Don't mind them Stella. All is well!
ReplyDeleteWrong post*
DeleteLol..Wrong post...
DeleteYour husband will find you when you least expect it but If you become desperate about it,you go enter one chance oh.
ReplyDeleteThe 1st thing that attracts a man to a woman is her apperance...be sexy,classy and confident.Change your hairstyles often and always look natural.Flee from heavy makeup and Empress's kind of nails(long ,multi-colored and irritating)....If you are fat,pls trim down.
Don't be too tied to your job,take yourself out sometimes,go to classy resturants,cinemas,attend weddings,child dedications,birthdays etc.Be social!
While doing all these,pray to God to make your future husband to locate you!
Yes! The happily married ones should lecture we singles more mbok.
ReplyDeleteTGW,Iphie dearie, Irene B,Whirlwind,Bloglord and Tetrina and the rest of them please we need some clues cause this is nolonger a joking matter.
True talk my sister!
DeleteHehehe mehn this gist go sweet die
ReplyDeleteWell as for me posted, I met hubby when I was coming back from the church on a Sunday morning like that. And we hit it off just like that and look....5yrs later here we are!!!! My dear don't stress it, love will find you in it's own time. Enjoy your single life now cos once you're married, there's no going back again oo. I banye nara i banye go kwa
Seriously waiting for comments
ReplyDelete'If you ask meeeeeeeeee, na who i go ask, the matter way u see soo oo e get as e be. if u ask meeeee d matter 4 ground nah who i go ask'? in Omawunmi's voice. anyway guess lot of us are in search of a hubby(s) so leme sit back nd listen to comments perhaps i will get some tips here too.
ReplyDeleteU can meet ur hubby anywhere, even where u least expected, just look good, smile always and have an open mind.. be friendly.. ur hubby will come in good time..
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster, when it comes to this finding a husband thingy, there's no clear cut straightforward way of going about it o. U could meet him on it way from work, at it office, as a colleague or even a client, at lunch time, at a social event, anywhere my dear. Some of them might graduate from friend to husband. From colleague, from a friends brother, or a colleagues cousin. The possibilities never end. All u need to do is just be ready at all times, be urself, pray about it and leave the rest to God. U never know.
ReplyDeleteMy case happens to fall within the categories I just mentioned. My hubby used to be " just a friend" back in the days. He was my advisor during my crazy years with my then boyfriend. Whenever I had issues with my boyfriend, I tell him, he then tells me what to do. When I commit any sin(lol) with my boyfriend, he encourages me to go fit confession. After almost 8 years of all the turbulence and on and off with my bf, I broke up with him, after which my hubby, then friend proposed. And ta da, here we are, 7years of married life and going stronger. So my dear, dats it. All the best in ur search.
Hmmm how did I meet mine sef? He came to settle dispute between me and a mutual friend so the thing turn to today's love story o. Dat was 19 yrs ago lol
ReplyDeletemy dear,am almost like you. my colleagues and friends are on my neck that i dont even move out of the office to have lunch,im on my seat 8-5pm. weekend nko?husai!
ReplyDeleteGod have mercy.
but i ask myself,bfs bin dey too naa....well, its not abt 'wakaring', God is able to do what He says He will do, dont give up on Him!
true talk about how a lady working long hours can find a man. the hours are not husband-hunting friendly at all, hehehe. and yet most ladies still seem to find a man one way or another. I know someone who never goes anywhere & yet met her man at home.... he literally walked into her living room & it grew from there. that's a one off though, single ladies socialize o.
ReplyDeletekindly visit my very entertaining blog....
"biko remove God' s factor out of these, I am a true born again and a worker in the vineyard". Really!!! are you a born again or just a religious being? No!! i think you are just someone who is highly religious.a very close friend to your pastor,and one who is more concious of her obligations to pastor than to God.
ReplyDeleteIf you are a born again,you will know that those who walk in the spirit are led by the spirit. Christianity is not a religion but a way of life.so it is impossible to keep God out of the life of a born again.When you gave your to christ,you gave everything not half.You can no longer live as the world live.
As per your marriage,the lord orders the footstep of the righteous.yours won't be left out,just stay focused and trust in God.
Salute! Well said
DeleteJust read your comment again! Still impressed :D stellar advice
DeleteThank u for this comment
DeleteGbam
DeleteIn fact, I have a crush on you
DeleteDear poster, God is part of our daily living
He guides us
That your phrase really got me wondering
Remove God???
Hian!
In the same boat. I hate going out sef.
ReplyDelete*sigh* its well.
Sipping on my juice while waiting patiently for answers......Stella u must enjoy me
ReplyDeleteI'm nt the outing type either but i was lucky a male uni friend of mine recommended me highly to his big cousin. He invited me to meet his cousin like three times just for fun o. I didnt know they av finished my talk. I declined d invites cos i'm not social at all. On d fourth invitation, i went and dat outing changed my life forever. Here I am 8yrs into d blissful journey and I thank God for it. Pls poster find time to socialise sensibly. Your other half will locate u IJN
ReplyDeleteReally interesting,I met my husband in a joint while sitting out with friend,it still baffles me till now,he's d bestest. Everyone was skeptical cause he proposed 3months later(he said he knew I was d one) I've all the luxury I need in life and everyone now wants my life. I just keep thanking God cause I went from an ordinary girl to a madam.GOD IS GREAT.
ReplyDeleteThis is so me. Just that I'm very lazy going out and I don't have friends.
ReplyDeleteSome people have told me to to flirt with the guy I like but how can I when all the men who come around me are only after sex? Even the one I managed to tell I like him so much didn't acknowledge it.
So please if there's any formula, ejoo teach us lest I tie my legs and prepare to be a mermaid and wait till God drops Mr Right (or Left) in my laps.
Poster please drop ur email so we hook up n look for him 2gether cus we are in this shit together. Don't have friends to go out with and i'm d shy type. How do i drive out alone n go where sef? I'm beautiful yet i'm always indoors . u go to work every week n come back late. I work In VI and live in Ikeja, and weekends i cook for my brothers n do this n that. tufia. I'm serious oo, u this poster we should be friends. My name is Vivian. drop ur details biko.
ReplyDeleteNNA MEEEEN , THIS QUENTION(LOL) TIE WRAPPER SIDDON FOR EXPRESS OOO.U CAN FIND UR HUSBAND ANYWHERE O, I HAVE A LOT OF FRIENDS WHO MET DIA HUSBANDS IN THEIR OFFICES CARRYING OUT THEIR DUTIES...,WHILE HAVING LUNCH...,BEING KIND TO STRANGERS....,EVEN WHILE SHOPPING FOR GROCERIES...,IN CHURCH(THAT ONE U GO SHINE YA EYES WELLA)AS EVIL BROTHERS NOW PARADE CHURCHES AS ANGELS AND BEING FLEXIBLE.ITS NOT ANY GUY THAT HI'S U, U GO SCRUTINIZE AM FROM HEAD TO TOE AND IF WHAT HE IS WEARING NO IMPRESS U,U JUST IGNORE HIM AND WALK PASS. AND MOST OF ALL TRUST GOD, TRUST GOD AND TRUST GOD
ReplyDeleteI used to have the very same feeling when i was single!..Truth be told,i met my husband tru online yahoo msger chat room...we dated for a few years & fell out....Years went by,dated a few other men but there was no commitment from them.. Then,one day,i just happened to call my hubby,(then ex boyfriend) cos i was always passing this monument that always reminded me of him,..so i called him innocently,to ask how he was doing (cos i was real lonely,now that i think back to it)...that's how he took the baton and started to call and pester,that he never wanted the break up in the first place...Well,i stated out what i wanted; a committed relationship & he gave one up better,(an engagement ring)...It all happened so fast & now,we're married with a child..
ReplyDeleteI never imagined that it would happen this way,i used to be depressed,wondering how i'd ever get married...But looking back,i'm pretty sure that what will be will be...It will surely happen. In the least expected way,if need be..Your hubby could even be your best male buddy. In conclusion,you don't need to feel compelled to go to fast food joints or parties (I used to watch movies at the cinema like every other day in the hope of meeting someone o,the sales guys even knew me as a regular customer..lol) in the hope that you'd meet the one..No..Just keep doing what you've always been doing,be natural.The key factor is GOD(He will surely guide you). It's not everytime you must tie one goat. You will find the goat already tied up for u.
Lots of depression cases in Nigeria yet d medical/health system isnt identfying it. Wow reading ds comments make me shiver
ReplyDeleteStella, "This Should be Interesting"
ReplyDeleteOya Post comments na.
a.k.a EDWIN CHINEDU AZUBUKO said...
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Go to facebook and alway post pics of urself. Thats the magic.....
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***CURRENTLY IN JUPITER***
Woman of the year don come again. Even When she dey poop for shalanga dem propose to am. Thank God for other people and their modesty, goody two shoes no go kee some people.
ReplyDeleteLike the poster,I am seriously searching for a life partner,38 years of age and with biological clock ticking away,where do I start from.I was married and hubby walked away when I couldn't join him on time before papers came through,waited for another 3years to start dating again,met a supposed good man on Facebook with all the promises and introducing me to his family and after 4 months,let's take it to another level,he then developed cold feet and all of a sudden he can't promise no more,walked away last week and since then I have not been myself,been crying my eyes out that when will I ever get it right?I deserve to have a home and children as well,but what can I do,I live in the diaspora where men are not sincere enough,sorry for my rant,just had to get this out,thanks
ReplyDeleteMiracle of God says: (long post don't break my head, didn't know I had so much to say. Maybe it will enter stellas pot chikena. ) TO POSTER abasi mbok Hmmmm I read the story abt the lady whose uncle helped out her man to get an engineering job which could have been hers but man ended up humiliating her. Been there done that well I didn't get the harsh treatment she got and she didn't deserve! May she be compensated. Today thru Stella kork I now read yours and sigh as well I am single, friendly but because my kind of body type is likely to get unnecessary attention I am as friendly as the job demands when interacting with clients. I work very hard, don't socialise much bcos I just can't and even when I meet people i don't seem to meet normal people just ppl who need need need. One evening I wanted to see an old but golden movie (the usual suspects)with a casual friend, (we have watched movies and discussed great works of art before and even discussed little clever details hidden without the need for hug say less smooch or sex ) but I can see times are tough in the course of gisting he stylishly gave me his needs. I ended up watching alone. Everyone needs something or someone but what do you call a situation where everyone you meet, potential partner or not always raaised to power 10 begins the conversation with needing something. A relationship shd build naturally abeg. Sha I have been told I am friendly to a fault and I try to help as much as I can. As God would have it I find myself capable of helping a lot and it's by His Grace. Same grace that locates me the times I need something and everywhere is quiet. Peeps aren't around and where they even listen they are now on 'it is well' mode. By the way for naughty minds as long as I am aware of their status no I don't help straying husbands..!! but it gets tiring and soon we will reach a stage where we resign ourselves to just be content where we are and keep praising God. We came into this world alone and alone shall we leave it. Finally I encourage Poster to give stella's single mingle a shot. Long post. Don't be angry. (back to silent mode)
ReplyDeletePls delete others if it appears more than once. Genuine mistake. Great day everyone. Chin up Poster. Give us your spec let's look out for a sis. JahBLess
ReplyDeleteStella is always putting my comments in her pot of jollof rice.
ReplyDeleteGenny la-baby!!!!
ReplyDeletemy kinda person, I luuhhhhh you babe (plenty homo)
Not the poster but similar experience everywhere .. drop ur email let's hook up 4 a single girls outing ...The poster can join too... tired .... All I do is home..business and travel guess my future hubby no get visa
ReplyDeleteI met my DH at the airport, when he asked if he can pay for my ticket to abj.
ReplyDeletehowever you can meet yours anywhere, just that you have to be able to attract the right person to yourself when the time comes. so the KEY isn't in the where as such but in you been ready for when that time comes, as this may happen when u least expect it to.
You need to love yourself, dress well, smell well, speak well, have great manners esp the simple ones like thank you, please and am sorry, watch what you eat and how you eat it, smile/ laugh often, think positively all the time, learn things so you can hold great/intelligent conversations, have an income/better still a job. The most important will be to ask God to give you a good husband that will love a cherish you.
Goodluck
Met hubby through a friend that was dating his friend. We got married, they broke up. It can happen anyway, anytime, anyhow, que sera sera.
ReplyDeleteI met my fiancé here on SDK. Hes the most sweetest darling on earth and very very religious. and YES its no sex before marriage *sad* but trust me its NOT EASY ...after kissing and high BUT no thrusting.... *sad*
ReplyDeleteWow! What an interesting post. I have learnt alot.
ReplyDeleteCant even remember how n where I met mine
ReplyDelete**side left eye** lol
Poster, ur hubby will come in God's appointed time.
I had known my hubby since our university days but hadn't seen each other in like 7 to 8 yrs. But once in a long while we'll chat on face book.
ReplyDeletesomehow 3 months before we started talking God reveal that he was going to be my hubby and I kept quiet to cut the long story short we married 7 months later. I have no doubt in my heart about him. We are still a work in progress nd God will sure help us.
I am still single but i know going out a lot has made me meet a lot of guys, in this UK sef wey them say better men no dey. I used to be the inside house person. I had to force myself to socialise. As a single girl you go out alone. As in alone no friends ,I go for parties alone, bars alone,carry novel buy my drink sitdown.I go for dinner alone.My friends no dey see me again. Why alone,it is easier for men to walk up to you when you are alone thatn when you are in a group. I haven't met the right guy yet but believe me i go on dates very very often.Looking good also, not slutty but classy and elegant when you go out.
ReplyDeleteMy dear when I was reading this I felt I was the one speaking out my thought cos this is exactly my worries... nd I am super responsible oh. things are not just going as desired when it comes to meeting your spouse or husband material. Bt I belive you don't have to go beyond your will to find a husband...I have just learnt praying for devine connection is very much effective and God to lead me to the right place at d right time. I know a friend her father doesn't let her go out.. a driver drives her everywhere even to d super market close to her house but guess what? she is married, her husband located her right inside her house through one connection, another friend a person referred her to her husband. This thing Called marriage is nt whether u walk round d world or go 4 weddings or parties oh. You can go for all this nd meet ppl that will end up being friends to you, that even the friendship fades off with timw or they end up not being the type u can settle with. If na by outtings many girls would have been long married If you want to meet the right spouse that wil not du wuru wuru and marry you well it still boils down to God, whether u say face reality or not, When God wants to work, you do not need to stress yourself, he doesn't need you( even the seeker) to help him . Honestly I belive God knows our individuality and he knows how to work wih us based on our personality. . How he will do it, please iI won't question but he will definatly do it as I will keep asking and I will be specific when asking Cos I NO WAN MAKE MISTAKE FOR THAT THING OH
ReplyDeleteAnother thing is having an open mind,
Mi I know say e no get how devil wan do am. Na this year I dey marry. Amen
Why are Nigerians so depressed about marriage???!!!
ReplyDeleteLadies, plz try and do something meaningful with your life.. Stop developing mental illness anxiety cuz of marriage plzz.