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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

DEAD END!

Your blog sure entertains me. And I'm sure you know you're loved, so, here goes... My husband cheated on me after our court wedding, I forgave him. He doesn't treat or talk to me the way a man would talk to a woman and she will calm down. Yet he expects a whole lot more from me. Fact is he doesn't take me serious. My dreams and ambitions are all almost dead since I married him. I might get things muddled up in my chronicle but please bear with me. I can't write everything because my head is so full. I have come to realise that he never truly loved me but rather the idea of me and the family I come from. Thanks to my family for the pressure mounted on me that made me marry him. That is BTW. 

Did I mention he is my first everything man? I know I'm also not perfect but the difference between us is that I am open to change and willing to learn but him, he's so set in his ways. People get married and grow by virtue of both parties helping each other but that is not my case. We have sex not 'lovemaking'. It's a very cold marriage and he has told me severally that he can't be my friend but just husband. Even his brother told him to learn to be friends with his wife but no, he says we can't be friends. I've tried severally but he doesn't want to, so I gave up.

I'm pregnant with our second and he treats me like... All I do in my pregnancies is to cry. He's got no atom of compassion for me and any little thing he does he does not do it out of love but out of obligation. Countless times in different ways I've asked him what I'm doing wrong and he says "nothing, you are ok" Yet he treats me horribly. I have sought help and counsel but we know how African society feels about women and marriage. He doesn't physically abuse me except for this one time I pushed him hard to talk to me and yet he wouldn't.  But Stella the psychological and emotional abuse are as bad as the physical. 

So about the cheating,  I kept it to myself till he started acting up again...long story...so I opened up to the people who ought to help me caution him. I opened up not because I wanted to be mean but because I was already one foot at the door and I needed wise counsel. Stella darl, you won't believe what they said to me...another long story...and that was how I went back and now the trauma is better imagined. 

Last year I could count off on my fingers how many times we got intimate and this year alone we've only gone twice. My libido is non existent anymore and no it's got nothing to do with my being pregnant.  I feel nothing for him anymore and really don't care what he does. He cheated on me the second time and he thinks I don't know, but I really don't give a thinkers cuss. Now he's about to do it again and he don't even know it. Maybe this time with a man. They speak to each other first and last thing everyday and hang out every evening. Suddenly the tiredness and complaints have all vanished.his birthday was recently, they went out as usual and dude got him a very expensive designers footwear and other stuff. I saw them and said nothing. Truth is I feel nada for him anymore and I'm even encouraging him to go ahead. I'm done praying for him so dear BV's tell me nothing about prayer or religion.

I have decided that someday I will take a long walk and not look back. My eyes are blinded by tears as I type these and this isn't even half of it. This is someone I had always gone out of my way to do things for but what do I get in return? I should stop here so I can sleep tonight and the gynaecologist won't have to keep asking me what I'm thinking about. I'm not even on a crossroad,  more like a dead end, could someone just please give me a huge cyber hug? I'm slowly getting to the height of depression. 

*Cyber hug*

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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

JUMPING FROM ONE CHANCE TO ANOTHER ONE CHANCE?

i have been married for 2years and some months to a Benin man who lives in America and totally has no value for marriage. He verbally abuses me, he took my ego away with his words. I married this man when I was 31, and truth is he would never have been my choice but menh I needed to get hooked.

I have a good job paying me well. I should live a good life but my husband makes sure I'm always without money. He is a control freak.

I was very open with finances with him but he abused it all. We decided on investments and I kept making the transfers from my office, while he was sealing the deals on our behalf. To my greatest horror, those documents had his names on it as the sole owner( I realized I had entered 1 chance)

He keeps malice for Africa. He can go for weeks without picking my calls.

He is so flippant, that I know only God can heal him, but I don't intend to wait around for his healing!

I recently miscarried, and when we had a squabble, he went like women give men children and not money or investments.

THE TWIST

I made up my mind to leave him and start a new life. I told him already that I'm leaving and as usual he cursed me out, saying he can never beg me and I should leave his house ASAP! 

I have informed my family and asked that his bride price be returned. I met a guy who adores me. Who is so supportive. He knows all about what I'm going through and wants to marry me. I need a relocation so I was thinking of taking a study leave and the new guy is willing to foot to bill. He insists we must get married before he pays my fees.

i am willing to marry this new guy already. I think he's my get out of jail free card..... If you know what I mean. I'm not living in a fantasy world like he is my knight in shining armor, I understand he may just act out like all men do. Also y'all need to know he's semi illetrate. 

Advice required!

Babe take it easy,at this rate you might end up with someone worse than the one you are running from..how can he tell you he wont pay you bills until you marry him?anyways if you decide to go ahead,make sure you are ready to settle for more conditions and dont run out again.

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NARRATIVE NUMBER THREE
COUPLES KNOWING EACH OTHERS PASSWORD

Good day Stella Kork,may God continue to bless the works of your

hands-AMEN!  Straight to the matter. I am a lady in my mid-thirties. A

man in his early forties was introduced to me by our family friend at

the beginning of this year,we get along well. He's cool,calm,ready to

listen to what I say but the ish there is that he said he can never

give me his passwords(facebook,e-mail,etc) but am ready to give him

mine.I didn't mind but while we were discussing again,I asked him

maybe he can give me the codes of his ATM when we get married,he said

he can never that its a big issue. I was like I am disciplined and

can't spend your money anyhow.I told him that since we will be one and

when there's trust,there's no need hiding things.I also observe that

if I don't ask for things he doesn't buy or give me.one other thing I

find amazing is that he said he can't load my phone that he'll be

calling me.  Am not working but learning a skill since no job is forth

coming. He didn't call for some days and he was accusing me why I

didn't call,I told him I don't have credit on my phone.Please,married

women and men in the house,my question is:

Is it good to for couples to know each other's password and codes for ATM?

Must I always tell him to buy things for me before he does that? I

think surprises on little things isn't bad.

Lastly,is it a crime if he helps me with a little recharge card?

Thanks and awaiting your comments.

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