Na wah!
NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE
CONFUSED GIRL IN LOVE
Here is my story and I need advice from my fellow BVS. I know I will get cusses too, but I don't mind.
I am a young girl that had a rough past, I am a girl that came from a home where my mum catered for all of us and my Dad is just there and does not care. I thank God we are all graduates, just our last born that is in school, God has been faithful. When I was in school, I had to do some nasty things to pay bills, I was really not into prostitution but I slept with arranged men for money few times.
During my graduation party in 2012, I met my boyfriend and I was really not ready for a relationship in that town cause I knew I was leaving the town but he begged me and said we should make it work and yes we did and still dating. I opened up to him about my past and he said since its my past he does not care.
Last year June, I snooped and found out he was dating a girl and the girl practically lives in his house, the girl even flaunts him on instagram more than me and I was just calm, I taught I had lost him then and I just moved on without him knowing, he noticed I changed and I told him why I changed he cried and said they were just friends, I noticed immediately the girl deleted all the pix, but I knew they were still seeing, we had series of fight over this girl, that I gave up and just continued with my life.
Last december I travelled to spend Xmas with him cause both parents are aware of our relationship, he siezed my phone one morning and found dirty chats with a particular guy and was mad, just dirty chat not like I had sex with him, I apologised and since then, he suspects my move and all. I don't take calls where he is he just suspects my every move. I must not talk to any guy he feels I am sleeping with them. I used to work in a public office and I meet different people, if I travel to see him and take business calls he will be so angry that I am sleeping with my clients. I try so much to make him trust me, I don't even lock my phone I make it open.
I got admission to further my study in my former school and I was very happy cause I felt he was acting like that cause of distance, though he processed the admission and paid all the fees and accommodation, he made sure I got the admission cause he also said he want me to be close to him. I found out that even with my presence he still cheats. The annoying part is these girls know me well, so of them made me their friends on facebook, when I found out they are people I know it hurt me so much and he will tell me they are just friends.
Now I am confused if I should walk out of this relationship, we are already planning to get married, fixed our introduction for November. Though he is very caring and shows me so much love, our friends admire us so much and they feel we are so perfect, but this guy cheats and does not trust me with male friends. Though he hides his escapades from me but as team snoop I find out. I am so confused.
All i have to say to you is that ''As you make your bed,so you will lie on it''
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NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO
A MARRIAGE FILLED WITH ACCUSATIONS AND
COUNTER ACCUSATIONS
My story goes thus.I am 31yrs old, November would make me 2yrs in marriage and I have a 7month old daughter. Something happened yesterday for which my hubby wants me out of the house.
I started working last month ,Since last year I have been jobless. So I drop my daughter off with my mum. ......So she has been asking hubby and I to get a help to assist her but so far we have been unable to find but 2days ago my cousin whom I told I needed a help called me that she is traveling she has a help and asked if I want to hold on to her till she is back.
initially I declined but yesterday my hubby got an added job for which he would work till late everyday. So I got back to my cousin that I am interested since I will be alone but I will discuss with hubby 1st. Pay would be 15k. There is also my hubby's niece who helps us occasionally but she is a bit busy.
Before now when the niece was free I begged hubby for the girl to come stay with us he said no he doesn't want to take up the responsibility of the girl. There was a weekend she came and me and her were in the guest room and hubby came and stripped there before tying his towel he now said " Oh I forgot Joan is here" I felt uncomfortable in that same visit and on 2 occasions they were gisting till almost 1am ,I just woke up to feed my daughter and I heard shuffling once I opened my room door so I went to them and suddenly they were quiet .
I asked what they were discussing till that late as the TV was off they both said nothing and were just looking at me. I also felt that was weird but didn't say anything. Now my hubby is about to get another job and he was promising her how he would send her to the states to study meanwhile we are tenants where we are with a problematic landlord and we have just 1 car. Stella I know what it means to pay fees in Dollars.
Now whenever she comes I also promised her a fee which I have been paying. After I told DH about the temporary arrangement he said no he has talked to his niece ,I said she is also temporary and she is free just twice a week while the other one is mon-sat. He said no he wants his niece.
One thing led to another and I accused him of sleeping with her.Of course that let to beatings for which I retaliated for the 1st time in 2yrs. He reported me to my family ,now he says he is bringing my things to my parents house because if me and him are in the house he can kill me cos of the anger he feels for accusing them falsely.
Before the girl came today I knelt down and begged and said I withdraw the statement when the girl came I also knelt down crying and begging the girl mind you the girl is 17yrs. Now this accusation of a thing has reminded me of the several times hubby has accused me of cheating for which I have NEVER done to the extent I had a miscarriage last year recently during a quarrel he told me the pregnancy wasn't his so I took drugs to remove it .
Stella that day I cried like never before. After one of the accusations once I had to kneel naked and swear that I should never have a child if I did it. 4 months later I took in and gave birth to my Lovely daughter. He would accuse me at different times and still beat me for it, this is the 1st time I am retaliating other times I run out of the house or I will just shout.
Now why he accuses me is before I met him which is 1 and half years before we married. I told him every single truth about me body count and all. But from when we started dating which was a year before marriage I NEVER slept with anyone else until today. Yet at every opportunity he calls me all sorts of names. In addition he gets drunk like once every 2wks.Please I need your advise as I am now an angry,sad and bitter woman.
Thank you
Meeeen what kinda ISH is this? WTF...a poisoned atmosphere of accusations and counter accusations.
Abeg i dont know what to say cos your story makes it sound like your hubby is bedding his niece.
I am personally begging JESUS TO FIX YOUR HOME.
Perhaps some other BV'S might have words of advice for you honey!
Just Negodu!
ReplyDeletePlsss helpppppppppp,can't comment,when i try opening d comment box,it display d post instead of d comment box.
********** LIVE SDK & SDKERS**********
Poster 1 n 2. If I say I feel remorse for u call I would be the highest liar on earth. This is what I keep telling girls, u sleep with over 15 men before marriage, u do runs, u do all sort of nasty things and except God not to pay u back? Even paul in the bible paid for his sins. Most girls end up been stations of the cross to their husbands because of the attrocities they have commited. Mostly my ibo sister that have a saying that no man owns u until you're married so that gives them d right to sleep with anything. God is wise and trust me, u cannot plant cassava and hope to reap cocoyam. Those saying you wouldn't have told him, nothing is hidden under d sun.
DeleteGirls please learn.
Both posters, how many times have ladies been told to shut up about their past or say very little? Men will always use it to cuss you out, as if they are saints! There is distrust already. Poster 1, walk out of that relationship. Poster 2, you knelt down to beg a 17 year old girl? There is something definitely going on between.both of them! Stay with your parents for a while until his anger cools down and see how it plays out. The truth will come out someday.
DeleteSame here too, I encounter such probs most tyms
DeleteSame here too, I encounter such probs most tyms
Deletethat's the work of chinkology my dearest mj
DeletePoster two, indeed they are having something. Are you sure they are related? People have been sleeping with their cousins teh teh. But why did u kneel down for the 17year old now. If you leave she will take over. You need to do something drastic to make sure that girl leaves that house. You should leave as well. Now that you have just one Kid. Life eh.
DeleteNarrator number 2, your husband is using reverse psychology on you. He is having or about to have a sexual relationship with his so called cousin. Why am I saying so? Not because you caught them discuSsing till late, nor because he wants to send her to study in the US. The reason is that he allowed you to go on your knees to beg that 17year old, dats it.
DeleteMost women pass through what they do in marriage because of the fear of the unknown and the men take advantage of that. Seeing you beg that girl would have given him some form of strength and dominion.
Lastly, girls, ladies Abeg, I take God beg una! All these men you are confessing all yours sins to, are they God? How many of them ever open up on their past? If all the women confess about having an abortion and the men don't, who then is responsible for getting all those girls pregnant? It is very stupid and just a way of giving him dominance over you in the future!!!!! Please stop it already! ALL those virtuous women thing is only written in the songs of solomon (we all strive to be) but saying all that shit will never make you Virtuous!!!!
Leave the past alone.
Poster 2 this is your home and that girl should b the one to leave instead of you Abeg stop apologising, how can he leave you at night to go gist with the girl in fact what are they Gisting about? If you don't stand your ground now and tell him you don't want that girl again believe me this event will still repeat itself. Just let him be stop apologising if he moves you to your parents house then go and stay there, he lacks trust beats you and yet is claiming the victim now, nonsense.
DeletePoster 2, dnt u think u need some time to clear your head and figure out how you will manage yourself with a husband who is physically and emotionally violent and who places the wants of outsiders over the needs of his wife and daughter? Cheki kwa ya o...evaluate it
DeletePoster 2 please I beg of you. Gather the tattered shreds of your dignity. If this man says that if you remain in the house, he may kill you. What else are you waiting to hear. Do you not value your life. Is it really worth being in this marriage.
DeleteWe are not saying divorce him. Leave there first!. I hope your parents will be supportive cod you need to get your head together and get your sense of self back. If he comes to his senses and you are sure that he has changed then you can go back. The whole situation is soo unhealthy. Is this what you want your daughter to grow up seeing.
Why do women suffer so much in this world?
DeleteU r born and treated like 2nd class citizen coz u r not a man
You start growing breasts and have to deal with wearing bras, pants, tights
You have the fear of men wen u start growing breast coz even a relative may abuse you sexually
You approach age 22 and pressure starts mounting for marriage
You get married and there's pressure for kids too
If the kids are not popping, it's automatically d womans fault
If you are blessed, you get pregnant and carry it for 9 months going thru hormonal changes
Then you give birth and start taking care of ur child...sleepless nights, weight gain and all
Then you start looking for ways to loose weight, reduce d stretch marks and look good
After going thru some or all of these, you expect me to take shit from a man?
Mbanu
Let me borrow Annoy sentence
Delete"Men will always use it to cuss you out, as if they are saints! There is distrust already. "
Cocolette well said
Both posters please go back to the drawing board . Check yesterday chronicles and work on your self esteem.
Forgive yourself God loves you.
You attract what you got...
What you tolerate during courtship you encourage in marriage
Marissa question?
DeleteMarissa spot on!!!God knows I can't take that shit from hubby!!after all d stress,then I will also insult myself infront of a 17year old fool!!Chai!!Oriegwu!!
DeleteAnon 18.20 you obviously don't know my husband-type! He doesn't talk much....he is the type that will ask you questions till you say things you are hiding and he will just keep quiet! He will not get angry or anything and the thing will disturb the fuck out of you!
DeleteSee, this post lasan will make some women confess today! If you are with hubby and hubby says the woman shouldn't have told him now blah blah and as the woman's mechanism is built, you agree straight up! BVs what does it that mean?
Have you seen Stella say you should hide anything! She always say we should be plain BUT even she isn't plain. She get things she dey hide from her hubby.
We live in a cruel world, he will find out one or two! My husband knows my wicked ways before we got married! A friend told him so many things that it is only small left that he doesn't know and I know he uses some but then I am cool because he is 70% a gentleman. Lord fix it for both of you sha
Poster 2
Deleteu told ur husband ur body counts and all? and when u got pregnant for ur own husband he accused u of the pregnancy not being his own? and then u went to take pills to abort the pregnancy? i put it to u here and now that ur husband may have been correct with that accusations. because if truly u were pregnant for ur husband that u are legally and legitimately married to, u would never abort a legit pregnancy, the worse any woman would do is have the Child and ask for a DNA test. but since u knew deep down within you that ur husband was right.. hence the reason u took the risk of abortion even while already married. my advice to u is that u should change ur ways... and U Stella, if u like don't post my comment as usual, truth is always bland and raw, it's never attractive.. bye
Poster 1 you are neither here nor there, you need to make up your mind what you want. If you're not sure about someone why kill yourself over it. Anyway your life, your choices.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 this your story get as e be. A 17 year old girl has so much hold over your home. You better start praying cause really you're married to yourself.
Madame Stella you are missing something.poster 2 said she took pills for a preggy that was her husband's.that is very suspicious.that Could lead to the hussy saying 'ok.u did it that time and you removed it so this time u r clean u decided to leave it.clap for yourself o drama queen'.
DeleteNarrative 2 Are u not at all bothered about d fact dat your husband hits you? U sound like u've accepted d beatings as normal.Wow!
DeleteAnd 2 think u even went as far as kneeling down 4 a kid, yet he still wants u out of his house? Na wa!
Narrative 1 Why did u ever tell him about ur past? Truth is he doesn't & will probably never trust u. If u're ready 2 live with dat, den by all means go ahead.
Hold up poster 2 you still took in for a man who doesn't trust you like really? Is marriage by force and he beats you too. Wow sorry but some of you married people are foolish. Bye girl
ReplyDeletePoster one:I've come to realize that when u accuse someone of something, they get angry cos u r right. They try to deflect that by turning the table around...I've seen people sleep with their siblings..such a nasty world.
DeleteBut u shouldn't have accused without proof and u shouldn't have knelt down for that home wrecker...even ur hubby.e be God?
Lay your probs at d foot of the cross...and let God fight ur battles for u.
These chronicles don even dey make marriage fear me sef.
Poster 1 : na long throat dey worry u....it's like u want this to be d preface of ur chronicles on this blog. Use ur tongue to count ur teeth....ur man is a man whore....and stop snooping joor
I think he's sleeping with her,he's probably all those men that are crazy about virginity and all...at 17 most likely she was
DeleteAnd u said you told him your body count *sigh -I bet its alot that's why he calls you names
God is with you hun *praying for you
U sound like u r from a broken home doppleganger
DeleteU sound like u r from a broken home doppleganger
DeleteDopple I have to agree with you on this one. Some married people are foolish. How can you condone someone that beats you up? Are you that desperate to stay married. Women please stop praying and believing that men will change. My mom did the same only to get a divorce after 30yrs of marriage. These men actually worsen as they age so please get out as early as you can, while you can still find yourself another man if you decide to.
DeleteP2 the truth is that 50 percent of men will end up cheating on their spouses. If you leave him because of the cheating you might still marry a man that will cheat on you. That's the bitter truth. The only difference would be that you knew before getting married to him in the first place. While some men get married and stop cheating, some get married and start cheating. So in this case I'll say you pray about it and let the spirit lead you.
*The second paragraph is for p1 not p2
DeleteAnonymous stop monitoring me, it won't get you fed. My family life is not for this blog, smell away ain't gat time for this.
DeleteMarried women should stop staying in a violent marriage. Even if u decide to stay with a man who cheats on u, NEVER stay with a man that turns u into a punching bag bcos one day, he might just kill you. It only takes a second for such accidents to occur.
DeleteNawa ooo.
@1, if u marry dat guy he will never trust u, don't know why women are so stupid to tell a guy dat u were a public toilet before you met him.
ReplyDelete@2, so many miserable married women on this blog, I don't envy u guys at all.
Even if you don't tell yours, he will know eventually. Make sure you come clean.
DeleteMy dear..they make marriage seem so scary. Yet they will be the same poeple to jump on a single girl's status as concerning marriage. I dont envy them o
DeleteI dnt knw y these women wil tell their husband some bad tins abt them. Whereas he wil nt even say a word abt his own. Imagine her telling him her body count. Wen he wil use those word against u. Women make una wise up small
DeleteBiko, what is body count ??
DeleteOdiegwu really oh..
DeleteHian!!! where do you people see all these men from?
ReplyDeletep1 leave that guy abeg. do not go ahead with the marriage. trust is like an egg. Once broken..cannot be regained. The Trust is gone so just leave him n move on with your life. In your next relationship,keep your mouth closed abt your past. you prayed to God n he forgave you bah? that's all you need.
p2. .. i just dunno what to say. You shouldn't have accused him like that of incest. you should a made your findings first. as for him hitting you..i have no words. lemme just follow em Jay today n say Jesus fix it!
But he accuses at every oppurtunity and gets away with it. He knows your mumu button and he knows you will always beg thats why he is treating you like trash. When they tell you people to shut the hell up about your past una no go hear...now negodu
DeleteWhen you deviate from the norm, he will sense it immediately.
DeleteThe next time you have a problem, don't be the one to beg. He will expect you to but you have to disappoint him. He will become restless, confused, etc just remain calm and enjoy yourself.
Poster 2, that's for you.
Poster 2 this is the kind of marriage you get when you are desperate to hook a man. He has zero respect for you and is simply looking for an excuse to throw you out. Goodluck.
ReplyDeletePoster one abeg sort yourself out, stop blaming poverty for your greed
Final say!!!
DeletePoster1: Break up with him
ReplyDeleteDon't go ahead with the wedding plan
Forget about what people will say.
Amie,your advice would have been spot on if two of them aren't cheating on each other.
DeleteHe cheats physically.
She cheats via texts.Tf is talking dirty?
Meaning, she probably would have taken it further if he didn't snoop.
If you ask me, they deserve each other and she obviously can live with it, if not, she'd have broken up with him instead of sending in chronicles.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster one hmmmm
ReplyDeletePoster 2....you talk too much, bridle your tongue.
You've not addressed the issue!!!!! A woman tells you she was beaten and pushed out and all you say is bridle your tongue?
DeleteYou must bea man and a woman beater.
Poster one, he's cheating, u r also doing ur own, why r u crying foul?
ReplyDeleteIf u can't handle d heat, swerve....
Poster two chill naaa...don't know if d girl is really his niece, Don't worry, d girl turn dey come..sit tight...this life is a circle....
Life is a cycle..well said. Many don't know it.
DeleteWishing you both the best in your marriage and relationship...
ReplyDeleteAeegurl...
Pst1. Are u REALLY sure ur bf is cheating with those girls. Nd ur ist mistake was telling him abt ur fmr life. If u feel u Dere is no redemption for d relationship, Pls move on. Pst 2. I can't say u were paranoid abt ur hubby nd d niece,crazier tins have happened. Buh kneeling down to beg dat small geh. For wat nah? I tink u should take a break. Go stay with ur parents or a frend for now till everyone is calm Buh investigate dat 'niece' o sending her abroad hia wenu guys re not really dat wealthy sometin is wrong.
ReplyDeleteOriegwu o
ReplyDeletePoster 1 : wetin dey worry you ???
I wish you well
Having dirty chats and asking us for advice
Jisinu Ike with the plenty sex ...I don't have what to say
Poster 2 : allow God fix yoir marriage
You need time to cleanse yourself and get close to God
You are drained
Leave d house for a while and spend time with God and come bavk refreshed
I join my faith with yours that you won't lose your home
God's grace hun
Much love
These chronicles just put fear in people's minds. The thought of marriage scares the shit out of me when I read some of these them. It is well.
DeleteJust negodu
ReplyDeleteDear Future Wifey,
Delete
Please be put on notice that I shall not entertain any form of confession bordering on your xesual past. I have no use for your body count. Even if I ask you, tell me you are not a xes person. If I catch you in the act, please deny it until it becomes the truth. "Don't come and go and "spoil my chances of making heaven with your confessions.
Yours faithfully,
Kehinde.
Lmaooo Kehinde I swear...I love this
DeleteLwkmd......exactly, sounds funny but truthful
Delete1. You sowed a seed n thought you won't reap it. Slept with married men n you believed yr man won't sleep with others. Fafafa foul. You need Jesus.
ReplyDelete2. Na guilty conscience dey disturb yr hubby. Pray n no allow her come yr house - d niece
Both ladies were too open to their men,men do not deserve to hear the truth about women body count. Lock ur phones,develop a thick skin and have ur own money.most importantly,develop a thick skin,lock ur phones and dnt say too much abt urselves.
ReplyDeleteWord! That's my way.
DeleteA zillion likes 15:19.
DeleteGbam!!! Ur head dey dia
DeleteNo matter how much you say this, a lot of them will never listen. They'll think you're saying it cause you don't love your spouse while they themselves are the epitome of love so they gotta spill every single thing about their lives. Guess who comes back with a Chronicle later on?
DeleteWhat some women haven't realized is that having a great husband and marriage is not because you were celibate before marriage, not because you were a virgin, not because you had a 100 body count before marriage, e.t.c. it is only by the grace of GOD and that's it.
Stop letting your man know that your life revolve around him...even if it does. Stop making statements like, "I'll never cheat on you" to your man instead say things like "Anyone can fall for temptation and cheat...a woman can, a man can, I just pray we won't do such to each other".
If you both read or hear a story of a woman cheating, don't call the woman names especially if your man is around cause knowing how hypocritical and on the same hand promiscuous a lot of Nigerian women are, some of y'all believe that calling your fellow women names before your men makes you virtuous and loving women. You only hurt yourself when you do that cause guess what, men who cheat do not go out and seek virtuous women to sleep with. They cheat with women like the one you both heard or read about. Even if you're virtuous and loving stop being judgemental for pete's sake. When you read or hear stories of a woman cheating say things like, "what she did was wrong but who knows what made her do it. If her man was cheating, well now he knows what it feels like to be cheated on. If he wasn't cheating on her, I hope he forgives her so they'll move on and I hope she doesn't cheat again ".
Finally, always let your man feel like there's a potential that you can cheat...it's just an aura you give off. You look and dress good and Baby, you make your own money no matter how little. That you're married does not mean you should stop showing off your goodies in a sexy way. Now, I absolutely do not condone cheating but there are little things you do to keep your man on his toes. Finally, you BOTH should pray for your marriage even if you're a prayer warrior in your spare time. If he's the one leading the morning prayers, before he starts praying, say something like, "Baby please don't forget to commit our marriage in God's hand, you know that God is the only one sustaining us". At the end of the day, God is the ultimate.
To both Posters, I pray that God gives you both the wisdom to do the right thing. I'll never support being in an abusive marriage.
Stupid hoes
DeleteYou think a real man will marry a secretive bitch
You think we don't read SDK
Lol....stupid hoes
Prostitutes continue to support the comment , when ur time reach, u will always write a full bible of the problem u will be encountering in ur relationship , keep sleeping with married men
DeleteStewie!
DeleteOn point
Everything u said!
Poster 1
ReplyDeleteAll I'd say is remember marriage is just relationship + a ring.Marriage will not change a serial cheat.Go ahead wt d marriage if u can live with him cheating on you
Poster 2
I strongly think ur hubby n d girl in question have something together.I also think you went about the whole thing the wrong way.I believe ur manner of approach made things worse.I'm not on ur Hubby's side but I think a diplomatic approach to the whole issue would av saved u a lot of stress.I pray God touches ur husband and fixes ur home.
Exactly. Poster 1, flee except u wud keep tolerating his cheating cos after marriage he wudnt be hiding it any more. Poster 2, u hubby sure has smth with d grl. I forgot Joan was here, if I hear. Why didn't he strip wia he was coming from?mtcheeww. But then, u wud have got a proof b4 accusing him. And why did u kneel to beg the girl? Anyway, d deed has been done. He wud come around I'm sure. Tread carefully and hand evryth to God, trust me there is no situation He can't fix let alone marriage, an institution he ordained. Go girlie! It is well
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeleteFor the fact that he dosent rub the cheating on your face means he respect you...
Marry him if he is rich and everything will fall into place...
Poster 2,
I hate women that tell their men their body count!...
I see them as Mumu!...
Your mistake is telling him about your past life...most men will surely use it against you...
Don't leave your home oh!.,,if he tell you to leave,tell him you are not going anywhere...
Sit him down and have a talk with him...l don't want to believe he is fucking his niece..
Maybe the girl is his pimp!...I think she introduce girls to your husband....
Calm down and start monitoring their movement...
That's another angle oooh@pimp
DeleteBut nwa 17years old? Hmmm
For poster 2........
Delete1 million like
Exactly
You just said my mind
Please post 2
Calm down
She is 17years o..pimp ke. What do i even know..worse have happened and still happening.
DeletePoster 1 : read poster 2 narrative very well - that's how u would end up . U both have similar narratives ... She's just the future U .
DeleteLook at her now .. Kneeling for a 17 year old cos she doesn't want to cal the bluff of a man who hits her and cheat on her ...
Dirty ho
DeleteGuess you were pimping @ 17
Takes one to know one
Hold this L bitch
Poster 1 carry the cross if u can endure .poster 2 your hubby is sleeping with his niece .pls leave with your daughter. He's a devilish man.who sleeps with their own blood .
ReplyDeleteDid ur mother leave ur dad when he cheated? Ain't u happy u r not from a broken home? Ode kobo kobo
DeletePoster1,that's what you get when you let your man know about your past. Did he tell you the ones he did? Trust is very important in a relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster 2,your husband and his so called niece are suspects. Stop telling these men about your past cos they must definitely use it against you.
May God fix it for you.
N2, stop being too nagging. U can mount a secret camera to watch dia activities without dem knowing. U can't make accusations without a proof. Dts no 1 mistake gals do, dey lash out in anger instead of planning n getting a proof. Even a law court will ask u for one b4 putting someone away. Stop making blind accusations, get busy n stop sulking. Men love intelligent gals so be one. N1, a cheat will always be a cheat. So do d right thing so dt u won't regret tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteChi baby how do one get the secret camera plz?. P1. Your DH is sleeping that girl.
DeleteGod bless u
DeleteMy goodness marriages of today dey fear me. My dear it seems ur hubby is sleeping with his niece and is just using all that as an excuse to get u out and continue. Anyway I think ur marriage is practically over. Leave him. He's an arsehole. And yes he is sleeping with her
ReplyDeletePoster2,sh#t is being going down under ur roof,u are d last to know,and u quickly ate ur word out of cowardice again meanwhile all the handwriting are on the wall.
ReplyDeleteShe's his neice not his cousin or sister for me to say they could be dat cordial cos they are of d same age.its strange he's so close in such a manner to a lil gal like dat,sotey he will forget and change in her presence.?#issorite#
Stop begging him,let him move ur things for now,believe me he's just bluffing and trying to subdue u so as when the issue dies down they can continue their abominable act by then fear won't let say anything.thats d plan!
Ur plan:suddenly change!infact change ur statement again and even insist u are d one going to leave him for sleeping with his neice!as for the gal,threathen and blackmail her instead of begging foolishly!#mtceew#
......dont die nine times before ur death,because of cowardice and desperation to remain MRS.
Btw u said he has always hit u?so u have even come to terms with the violence that it wasn't an issue for u to bring on chronicles?smh
Marriage d bane of african youths in 21st century.God have mercy!
What is it with women and confession... you told him everything about your past??? Why do we feel the sudden urge to confess/air laundry...Can't you just shut up!!! Don't you know these words come back and bite you in the ass cuz these men? They never forget! Every statement about your past determines how you'll be judged believe me!!!
ReplyDeleteYou want to purge??? Go to God, better still a priest!!! Or an anonymous individual not your significant other. That's why we have have shrinks and psychiatrists...
You women never learn.... keep your past to yourselves especially body count, una say no, na una love pass, now see the result... poster2 if u suspected anything you might be right, cos trust me a woman is way smarter than men think, tell your family all the times he has accused you falsely and also counter his intent to send you out, leave n tell him you won't come back until he Learns to trust and respect you.
ReplyDeleteI pity the men marrying these hoes I really do
DeleteStella this your blog is where National Association of Nigerian Hoes converge and compare notes
Keep it real post my ish
Anon 21:06, you are a fool. Self righteous animal
Deleteanon i just tire for all these useless women, dont pity the men,why would any sane man settle for a girl who isnt a virgin.if men demand virginity before marriage,no of hoes will reduce. i just pity the good ones who lost their chasisty through rape,may God console then
DeletePoster one:
ReplyDeleteOgini ka unu n'agwoto ebe ahu?
Abeg,you're in a messed up situationship.
Poster two:
I'm shocked seriously.
You had to have an ago, because he accused you of being pregnant for another man?
You had to go on your knees to cry, even in front of the girl.
Did you marry this man out of desperation?
I put it to you that something is definitely going on between both of them.
You're living in a hellish marriage, really.
I see nothing worth fixing when one marries a serial abuser.
My friend just lost her cousin yesterday.
He said always hitting her,but she refused to leave.
Yesterday, he put a gun to her head and boom!
Her eldest of four children is eight, youngest, three months.
Please, advice yourself, and quickly.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 2: I will just advise you let the two familes come together, pour out your grief don't hold anything back. Your husband is suppose to prove you wrong with such accusations but with such action I can't but think he is actually sleeping with the girl.
ReplyDeleteAnd as for you poster, can't you manage your home without a help? You have just a child isn't it I am not married but I know people who run their home affair without the help of niece, nephew or maid. May God fix your home.
Poster 2: it's not a do or die affair, if you know you can live with the fact that your man has a side chick after marriage pls go ahead with your plans.
Poster 2: That marriage is unhealthy.
ReplyDeleteI pray Jesus heals it but if he insists that you leave for your parents house, please do so and continue your life.
Poster 1: marriage is a big deal, if you are ready to deal with a cheating husband in the future, you can try.
@poster2 : you knelt down like a baby apologising 2 a girl of 17yrs ........wtf
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you hubby is planning to sleep with the said girl that's if they haven't.
Don't you know your rights as a woman?
Please stand your ground and don't let any motherfucker displace you, intimidate u or even lay a finger on you.
@poster2 : that guy is using you.
Ladies, beware of men that wail like a child cause they are manipulative and violent.
Am out.........
@1 better sort yourself out o cos this your relationship get as e be...@2 I really don't know what to say, don't think your husband has the right to beat you though but am praying that God fixes your marriage....BTW what is it with women and baring it all to a man abi na love dey catch una...
ReplyDeletePoster one, if u marry him, u ll end up like poster 2.
ReplyDeletePoster two, don't make accusations u can't stand on. If all u said were true, why kneel down to apologize? Na wah 4 una oh.
Dicey issue @ poster 2
ReplyDeleteDunno what to say, perhaps you caused it by been too truthful.
Well may God fix ur home
P1 don't u ever settle for less P2 get ready for the worse. If dat happens move on for no one is worth dying for.
ReplyDeletePoster 2, the only thing that stood out from your narrative is the fact that you are in an abusive marriage. It doesn't matter that the cause of abuse is now whether you suspect that your husband is having an affair with your niece; your husband is abusing you physically, which is a valid ground for divorce.
ReplyDeleteThe ball is in your court. You can decide to remain an abusive marriage, and continue to tolerate his beatings or you can take a walk. Taking a walk is not easy, especially if you are not financially independent, but you need to decide how much your life is worth to you and your family.
You have sacrificed your dignity by going on your knees to apologise to a girl that you can probably be a mum to. You will never recover from that. Why should an accusation of infidelity lead to beatings and threats of eviction from your matrimonial home? Whether or not your accusation is true is completely irrelevant, your husband is simply a wife beater.
You can continue to pray that he will change or you can take a walk - if you're bold enough and have the means to sustain yourself.
Dr S.
Poster1:men are cheat and they will continue to cheat but since u are getting married soon and he his every tin u claim he his nice, caring and all dat y can't u just stick to him becos u don't know aw worst d next guy will be.
ReplyDeletePoster2:YOu hubby get problem,but u are not meant to accuse him like dat,u are suppose to watch their movement and catch dem red handed before u talk but I assume u were just annoyed DAT waz y u had to talk,pray he changed his mind oooo.
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ReplyDeleteP2, the handwriting is on the wall... Your hubby is sleeping with his niece. Too many clear cut examples; he wants to send a girl who is not his daughter abroad for studies meanwhile you guys stay in a rented apartment... You caught them discussing or doing whatever late into the night and they hushed immediately they saw you... He is persistent about bringing the niece to the house as against the maid you wanted... Hmmm! My dear! He practiced *attack is the best form of defense* By descending on you with beatings and what not when you accused him of sleeping with the niece. Also, we women are used to carrying some dark secrets to our graves in order to protect ourselves so what kind of stupid love or wanting to be transparent will make you tell a man about your body count???. And you blame him for not trusting you going forward??? Nawa o! Anyway, it's ok to be angry but don't let the bitterness in your heart get the best of you else you will start to look old in no time. It is well with you Hun.
ReplyDeleteAnd what's body count?
ReplyDeleteThe number of sexual partners that one has had.
Delete#WhiteDiamondOut
Poster 1, you are such a joker. You are chatting dirty yet coming here to complain of your bf? Seriously? Una fit each other
ReplyDeletePoster 2, Never confess your body count to any mofo, except God. This goes for poster 1 aswell. Wtf is wrong with you people? Why can't you guys learn to keep your mouths shut?
Your hubby is fucking your niece sha.
Poster 2, I dont blame u for opening up to ur husband about the past. The truth is ur husband is just an ingrate cos apologising to him shud settle it. Just be prayerful n ur case will be settled, it is well
ReplyDeletePoster 2: This is the consequence of "opening legs" before marriage (that is bride price being paid), trust vanishes! That was one lesson I learnt from lady Igo and it has worked for me very well.
ReplyDeleteWhat I will advice this poster is to show tolerance, patience and pray. God can do all things. Even if the 17 year old goes out of the picture; there are other problems. Your husband drinks and gets drunk; that means that his pe*is can still wander. Any drunken human can do anything including killing; even killing himself unknowingly, like in drunk driving etc.
Let me share a story with you (yes I copied this story from one of lady Igo's posts during the e-fast period)
I know a lady who was enduring beatings . She began to hate her husband of barely half a year. One day after she was told the truth; that her prayers (which she claimed to be praying for the repair of her marriage) was not going beyond her lips. . . for the scriptures says forgive us our sins as we forgive those you sinned against us. She resolved to persevere in love in the midst of hatred. The next time her husband beat her was the last time. Unlike formerly, she did not utter a word. She did not call anybody to report. She went into the room and lay down quietly on the bed. The man came in and lay besides her; no word. In the morning, she prepared his meals and helped him iron his clothes for work. . . after which she headed to the church and the floodgates of her tears were opened before the altar. The man came back before dismissal and was obviously troubled. She smiled (she have received strength; yes love to overcome her hater) and put his meals in place . . . but alas, the man could not eat anymore. Ma . . .(her name) tell me what happened . . ."nothing" was all the lady told him. The situation continued for two weeks; the man was confused . . . he couldn't predict his wife anymore. It was his own turn to cry and he wept like a baby . . . the lady rested him in her bosom and allowed him to cry, after which she told him; "this is what happened; what I do each time you beat me and go to work". The man admitted that he had endured the greatest torture of his life those two weeks . . .
"BUT IF YOUR ENEMY IS HUNGRY, FEED HIM, AND IF HE IS THIRSTY, GIVE HIM A DRINK; FOR IN SO DOING YOU WILL HEAP BURNING COALS ON HIS HEAD." Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. (Romans twelve vs twenty
my friend stop misleading people i beg you!! this is not the way to go women. Donot endure beating or cheating!
DeletePoster one,your fellow bvs you say? If you were a bv,you would know we have had several cases like yours! Infact a similar story featured here last week or so. Face your studies before you come and tell us that pregnancy has been added to this already bad situation.
ReplyDeleteAs long as you have finished telling that dude everything about you,when the time comes for marriage(leave introduction date ooh) you will here that "mama anyi said I cannot marry a girl that had to raise money in school through men" You wanna bet? I don't trust him and his crocodile tears!
Poster two,your case is what they refer to on facebook as complicated! Gini bu ifea?
How can one man carry this whole baggage? Only him Cheat,wife beater,ogbenye etc
I can imagine you kneeling down infront of a 17years old girl and I suddenly felt so much pity for you #Shudders....This man has put you in a position where you don't even have a say in your own home.
How can you be aborting babies in your husband's house because he accused you of allegedly cheating? Did he even ask of the pregnancy? Is he a demon or human being?
Biko you have every right to want to know what the "shuffling" is all about! The world is sick! Fathers are screwing their daughters.
Some Nigerians call sisters and nieces are usually not related by blood ooh(naija mentality) maybe from neighbouring kindred!
Beating you up is still not proof that he is not sleeping with her. I hope for his sake he isn't.
If you still want to be with this man,a lot of things have to change:
Do not accept cheating as a way of life so you don't die before your time.
Do not continue to take those beatings,you are not his pounding drum!
See a therapist,pastor,elder,Godmother/Godfather(catholic)his father or anyone he listens to and see if you people can still salvage this marriage. Take care ma.m
No, she didn't abort.
DeleteShe had a miscarriage, but the horseband accused her of aborting the pregnancy to buttress his suspicion that she's cheating.
Ok@Quickie
Delete*hear
No Quicksilver & Iphie- she took pills that induced the miscarriage. Sounds like an abortion to me. This story is very sad. Like the story reposted from Lady Igo up, respond to him with love as that's when the Bible commands. If it doesn't work, do not die trying to save a marriage. If marriage was the key to Salvation, all the Holy women in the Bible would have married too. Your purpose is bigger than a bad marriage.
DeleteFix it Jesus
ReplyDeleteThese narratives are heavy... p2, may God fix ur home. and keep ur eyes and ears open. U just might get some hidden info.
ReplyDeletePoster 2 just go to God in prayers,there is absolutely nothin jesus cannot fix,it may seem hard nw,may seem like ur world is comn 2 an end bt wit prayers evrytn wil change 4d beta,i didn't say CAN,i said WILL.go down on ur knees.
ReplyDeleteMake una no dey tell una partners any dirty thing that has to do with una past. Una no go hear
ReplyDeleteRyt on point!
DeleteTell him the basic stuffs like have u ever been married and are u a mother. The number of abortions or ex u av shud never be discussed.
Ive been married for 5 yrs now and i know better than to run ma mouth.
Hubby will tell me bout his family but i never talk bout mine. Whenever we av our moments, he wud abuse me very well n il du d same but des not past or present to use against me.
He hit me twice and i fought back with ma strength, he never touched me again afta then.
Ma hubby n I are best of friends coz i choose to be happy
Dont snoop! If ure not ready to leave ur home, why snoop.
Im not as pretty as a model but I dress to kill. I take him out once in a while and he does d same.
Be sexy, be happy be prayerful abd ur happiness will brighten ur home.
Why shud a man make me sad? If en like make en shag en mama, shag househelp, shag en neice, na en sabi. Transfer d blood pressure, abeg let him worry.
Abeg if u die today, en go marry anoda. So enjoy ur life. Take urself to a bar or eatery.
The genesis to revelation of it all is "know wen to shut up". Ur past is ur past, leave it de. Dont let luv ruin u.
Mrs Ade....
Ma jaye ori mi o....
I like your comment Anon 19:22. No one prays for rough spots in a relationship however if they do happen, you cannot kill yourself because of someone else«s indiscretion. I wish you happiness.
DeletePoster 1. Though he is very caring and
ReplyDeleteshows me so much love, our friends admire us so much and
they feel we are so perfect, this statement is y u still in a relationship with dat guy n y u will marry wrong man
Poster 2 hmmmm he might not be..... With his niece buh she's definitely hooking him up with something. All those bullshit promises he's making to her na cos he no wetin dey sweet am
Poster one, work on your self esteem and make a decision before you regret your entire life....you know what to do.
ReplyDeletePoster two: you made a big mistake marrying that guy when there were signs of bad character.
Both of you have similar problem,trust is lacking in your relationships. For the single you have opportunity of escaping future cry and sorrows.
ReplyDeleteFor the married pray had and both
Poster 2 avoid having third party for now in your home till both of you have forgiven each other and heal from the pains caused as a results doubt since you have no proof he is sleeping with the niece before his family will take it up with you.
ReplyDeleteWomen let's learn to keep our past, let no one not even your pastor deceive you to tell your past to your partner, if they tell you its your past they are lying your man will always remember, not even the so called brother in church, I have seen a situation where a brother that said he received a sister from God called off a relationship because the lady told him she lost her virginity to rape so sisters be wise. Silence is golden its your past.
Poster num 1 is called karma.I'm not cussing you rather let me remind you.think back those your nasty days how many men u had something to do with and there wife or girlfriend might even call when u guys r together.My dear u were eating someone's food.Allow them to eat yours too
ReplyDeleteN1;use your tongue to count your teeths
ReplyDeleteN2;Jesus fix it
Concerning posters one and two today I repeat my usual line that women don't know half as much as they claim and men are wickedness personified. Most men today marrey women that have been previously severely fucked by other men just as women end up with men other women had fucked. So only a man who is looking for a reason to punish his wife in future will want to have negative information about his wife to be's past escapades. This is premeditated wickedness because any man with such in for will perpetually suspect. Yet women are foolish enough to give out such info. Today's generation, men and women are mostly used items going into marriage so the wickedness and stupidity respectively should stop. Men please stop beating your wives. Women bridle your tongues. Having agreed to become married to each other both partners should accept the fact that they are marrying used individuals and start judging with new actions rather than past ones or otherwise go for a man or woman that has not done sex before.
ReplyDeleteAs per my comment that appeared on the birthday post @reemah and tessbaby pls forgive me it was the devil's work. I swear the devil pushed no into doing it
Hmmm.. I was nodding vigorously as I was reading ur comments. U try ;) Lol, u'r forgiven. Go n sin no more.
DeleteOf course you will agree with him. Used item
Delete@Poster one I go with Stella it is really as you lay your bed you'll lie on it. I know your type that find themselves in certain families like yours and then decide to put their all in outsiders, I know you can't leave the guy cause you've placed over importance on him and he's like your life now. Why am I saying this? based on your families situation have you asked yourself if your other siblings slept with men in school too? if no why your own different? Now the guy has paid for your tuition, accommodation and all what else are you looking for? You've known all along that he's been cheating but you're stuck with him because na you love pass abi. Advising you to take a walk would be a total waste of time cause you sure have I must marry syndrome, you blame your parents for sleeping around meanwhile you have siblings that didn't have to sleep around to survive too, yes you all can call be judgmental but am saying all this because this your ish is personal to me, I am from a similar family but I am one of those that is contended and don't think I should sleep around to get what I want. In fact you both have to hold back on that wedding ish and work on yourselves, you love each other be patient and work on your trust issues well enough but I know you go still marry am like that. Smh check to see if any of your siblings is on the same path as you o and call the person to order o, them aboko kus, when your families have issues instead of you to stick with them and carry on you act as though na you suffer pass and value outsiders over them
ReplyDelete@Poster one I go with Stella it is really as you lay your bed you'll lie on it. I know your type that find themselves in certain families like yours and then decide to put their all in outsiders, I know you can't leave the guy cause you've placed over importance on him and he's like your life now. Why am I saying this? based on your families situation have you asked yourself if your other siblings slept with men in school too? if no why your own different? Now the guy has paid for your tuition, accommodation and all what else are you looking for? You've known all along that he's been cheating but you're stuck with him because na you love pass abi. Advising you to take a walk would be a total waste of time cause you sure have I must marry syndrome, you blame your parents for sleeping around meanwhile you have siblings that didn't have to sleep around to survive too, yes you all can call be judgmental but am saying all this because this your ish is personal to me, I am from a similar family but I am one of those that is contended and don't think I should sleep around to get what I want. In fact you both have to hold back on that wedding ish and work on yourselves, you love each other be patient and work on your trust issues well enough but I know you go still marry am like that. Smh check to see if any of your siblings is on the same path as you o and call the person to order o, them aboko kus, when your families have issues instead of you to stick with them and carry on you act as though na you suffer pass and value outsiders over them
ReplyDeletePoster one I Know you! Lmao
ReplyDeleteNa wah oh, Nigeria women really suffer in marriage. They disrespect you, you beg. They beat you up, you beg. He cheats on you, you pray. Hmmmm it is well with you poster 1 and 2. I fear Nigerian marriages abeg.
ReplyDeletePoster one nothing in your story says you've talked to him o...you feel this way and you're planning introduction for November, pressure or what? Marry sef maybe after the marriage your eyes will come down then you'll send a chronicle of how your husband is a serial cheat.
ReplyDeletePost 2: it's true o he might not be sleeping with her, she might be his pimp...I know of one geh that pimps girls for her uncle. Just pray ehn...Pele!
ReplyDeletePoster 1: leave that idiot of a boyfriend
ReplyDeletePoster 2: your husband is sleeping with his niece. Simple
Dopple I have to agree with you on this one. Some married people are foolish. How can you condone someone that beats you up? Are you that desperate to stay married. Women please stop praying and believing that men will change. My mom did the same only to get a divorce after 30yrs of marriage. These men actually worsen as they age so please get out as early as you can, while you can still find yourself another man if you decide to.
ReplyDeleteP1 the truth is that 50 percent of men will end up cheating on their spouses. If you leave him because of the cheating you might still marry a man that will cheat on you. That's the bitter truth. The only difference would be that you knew before getting married to him in the first place. While some men get married and stop cheating, some get married and start cheating. So in this case I'll say you pray about it and let the spirit lead you.
All these women, give yourselves brain. What kinda yeye love will make you spill your dirty past to your bf/hubby? Receive sense Pls, it's not wise. Stop telling your men everything most especially the number of men /relationships you've had.
ReplyDeleteJesus save you all. Amen.
May God comfort and bless you both.
ReplyDeletePoster1, pls go and repent for sleeping with people's husbands if not you will never find peace, what u sow is what u reap! U need to walk out of dat relationship and give ur life to Christ. Repent!
ReplyDeletePoster2, u should have caught ur husband redhanded before accusing him although I believe he is sleeping with his niece because all manner of nonsense happen dis days. Set a trap and use ur phone to capture d moment cause they will fall or u ask God to disgrace them openly, trust me He will if they are surely committing incest. Why did u beg d girl, u should never have and madam plus women on this blog, learn to pray before picking a help, learn to ask God to give u d right one, I hope d girl is not a witch n was sent to break ur home. Take out time to fast and pray, do vigils too.
@anony17:36,shut up if u have no advise for poster 1.Did she sleep with your husband?Are you a saint?
DeleteMtchewwwwww...like you haven't done worse things!
pink lady,your sorrow is waiting for you.
DeleteWen will some women have sense?...
ReplyDeleteLousy chronicles..
Poster1: what goes around comes around. Your bf is your karma.
ReplyDeletePoster2: you are so unwise! You need to smarten up.
*do
ReplyDeletePoster 2, you are probably right about the husband and niece. Hence, his reaction. But the first issue is that you are in an abusive marriage. Is it really worth fighting for? I'm sorry but I can't tell you to beg to stay cos that environment isn't healthy for you or your child. Also it seems like you talk too much/anyhow.
ReplyDeleteTake a break and pray for clarity.
Poster 1,please read the 2nd chronicle very well & assimilate .If you can tolerate what that woman have been tolerating,then no wahala because that's exactly what your marriage would be like if your boyfriend doesn't change.
ReplyDeleteLol 😁 word!
DeleteBreak all soul ties.
@poster 1
ReplyDeleteHow could u be so stupid to tell ur bf about your past?Na wa for you oh!!!
Am sure God is trying to make you understand that he isn't your husband but u won't listen.If you end up marrying him,you will regret it.Just leave him alone and forget about what people would say.Run for your life and pls,learn to keep your past a secret...no be u bad pass!!!
@poster 2
How could you tell ur hubby everything about you..especially your body count?
Let me tell you the truth,your husband doesn't trust you and there is nothing you can do to make him trust you.Focus on your Job and baby for now and let him be.
May God give you wisdom to handle your husband.
Poster2: Your story doesn't add up, its obvious you've enslaved yourself to your husband. How much of your past does he know? What was the basis for the marriage? Have you sold your family to him? If not, I don't understand why a man will call an unborn child a bastard and you still went ahead to terminate it.......(Are you guilty?) Also, instead of nagging and begging like a slave, why not monitor them and catch them so you have an evidence. Women need to understand the difference between love and stupid. Shut your mouth and let your past and family issues be separated from your spouse. Remember, whatever you spill, shall and can be used against you in future.
ReplyDeletePoster1: So despite all your runs, you still wan end up with a scally wag? Abeg dust yourself and move on before you start sending"if I had known" chronicles after your proposed wedding.
Poster 1 you better learn from poster 2...she opened up to her husband before they got married, ,,can you see what she caused herself? beatings,insecurities,etc... better think well before getting married to him so you won't regret all your life.
ReplyDeletePoster2 hmmm may Jesus fix and restore your home...we can't advice you to leave your home ma but the greatest thing you could do to yourself now is to get closer to God almighty.there is nothing to big for God to do,cry to him,go into fasting..i promise you with all this few tips God will restore your home.
You see @poster2 some thing are not just happening naturally their might be some forces that want to destroy ur home...you can deal with those forces if you are not too slack in prayers. my sister had similar problem just 2months after their wedding,his husband turned her into punching bag infact the abuse was just too much..but yet she dint give up,she cried to God,prayed,fasted etc and I must tell you God changed her story.they now have 3kids and they are now living happily.
Poster 1 and 2, terrible mistake. Please ladies don't ever tell any man about your past cos chances are they will use it against you. Dunno if you ladies think telling a man about your past will make him love you, Yinmu, he'll just keep it somewhere in his heart and wait for the perfect opportunity to use it against you. When a man tries to ask about your past, just take style turn deaf,lol. This men ain't loyal at all. That's how my ex kept asking me nonsense questions, thank God I didn't answer any of them cos when we broke up, mehn you needed to hear the rubbish that was coming out of his mouth. Thank God I didn't tell him shit cos he was ready to say more.
ReplyDeletePlease blog visitors advice me Ooo biko...my lee boo said he can't marry a woman that can't suck him (hs d***) se na bj dem dey call am abi big head (dunno Ooo as I be jejesi) and me I no fit do this thing..should I just quit the relationship or I learn how to do it plus he is a very caring man,honest,gives me ego like kilode and every other things a woman wants in a man.. wetin make I do Ooo????
ReplyDeleteGive me his number, let me beg him for u.
DeletePls get ur mouth on that D** ASAP
DeleteWow!...
DeleteYou said he is caring and gives you MONEY!...
You better start learning how to give Bj...watch porn movies and you will definitely learn...
With the stories I read here everyday,his type is scarce...
What to do? Introduce him to me, I'm very good at BJ. That's one thing I can boast of.
DeleteSuck him dry
DeleteNo be igbo babe like you dey give me sloppy bj and deep throat for house
Of course I married her
Give me his number, let me suck my way into his heart.
DeleteLwlmd @Quiksilver........cho!
DeleteSo it's no biggie? I will start that soon.thanks all
DeletePoster 1.psalms 103:10 reminds us that God never punishes us like our sins deserve.He has forgiven you and He has let it go forever.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that you told us about your past life and your current situation means that you think you can get no better man because of your past life; that is so not true. You deserve to be happy your past notwithstanding.
Your confusion indicates that you know you shouldn't be with that man. What is love without trust, do you want to spend the rest of your life pleading with a man to trust you, how can you even feel loved in such a situation; it will drain you emotionally and kill whatever feelings you think you have for him.
If you've read the second poster's post then you'll stop been confused; she had to abort her own pregnancy because her husband does not trust her. What better sermon do you need? Better a broken relationship than a broken home.
You deserve to be happy; that is non-negotiable.
Goodluck
Poster 2. Yours is a difficult situation. Permit me to scold you a little; How could you have terminated your own pregnancy because your husband does not believe it is his?
ReplyDeleteI think you've sold yourself short in this marriage that's why you went to the extent of terminating your pregnancy. He beat you, treated like you like dirt and still you belittle yourself further by begging him and begging a17yr old in your own home?
Now he has asked you to leave, you fall on your knees and plead? Have you no sense of self worth and pride?
You are supposed to be angry at him, be disgusted by him and not be pleading like one whose life depends on a man that neither respects nor love her.
Make him want you, move out of his house, move on with your life, thank God you're working and when he comes begging(he will definitely come begging if you carry yourself with dignity, pride and some self worth,not like some desperate woman)make your terms clear; any form of abuse and violence to your person and infidelity on his part, then the marriage is over. Act like you mean it because you should.
Poster 2. Yours is a difficult situation. Permit me to scold you a little; How could you have terminated your own pregnancy because your husband does not believe it is his?
ReplyDeleteI think you've sold yourself short in this marriage that's why you went to the extent of terminating your pregnancy. He beat you, treated like you like dirt and still you belittle yourself further by begging him and begging a17yr old in your own home?
Now he has asked you to leave, you fall on your knees and plead? Have you no sense of self worth and pride?
You are supposed to be angry at him, be disgusted by him and not be pleading like one whose life depends on a man that neither respects nor love her.
Make him want you, move out of his house, move on with your life, thank God you're working and when he comes begging(he will definitely come begging if you carry yourself with dignity, pride and some self worth,not like some desperate woman)make your terms clear; any form of abuse and violence to your person and infidelity on his part, then the marriage is over. Act like you mean it because you should.
As in the woman ( poster 2) disgust me !!!
DeleteThank you so much for the scolding I appreciate it as I need all the opinions I see here. But to clear the air I had a miscarriage last year. I did not terminate my pregnancy he accused me of doing it not that I did it.
Delete@poster2...do everything anon 18:58 said...Best comment so far....
DeletePoster 2,trust no one,I used to sleep with my Uncle, once upon a time,I regret it now but yes it happened,like I said,ur husband could have reacted like that due to guilt,trust no one.
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DeletePoster 1 if am you I wont marry the guy in question. Mind you once a cheat always a cheat. Move on with your life and pray to God for the right man to come. Poster 2 like Stella said as you make your bed so you lie on it. Like seriously me kneel down and beg my husband niece for what? My dear you sold yourself so cheap to your husband and his so called niece. No pride at all, all in the Name of marriage. Listen you are on your own in that marriage and if the girl in question is really your husband niece it is an abomination for them to have sex. Just cool down and monitor them. Plant camera in the said girl room so that you have concrete evidence against them. Nonsense
ReplyDeleteP1, since you love him and he is nice and all sort no problem, but dude is ready to cheat for the rest of his life and marriage won't stop him. Are you ready? P2, Na wa o.....
ReplyDeletePoster 2:-plz don't leave yet.kip calm and pray.don't leave when u re nt sure.just b calm wit dem and act lyk u re nt interested.i know it won't b easy bt if u want to b in d marriage u av to play d fool.bsides u didn't mid to beg nor kneel before the girl.
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