Please think about it but also know that some things do not apply anymore and then some mind sets are different..I am one of those people who believes that what is broken should be thrown away not fixed or patched...
What is your mindset?
Friday, May 06, 2016
Marriages Of Now Versus Marriages Of Before...
This is where the answer to whats going on now lies....
Please think about it but also know that some things do not apply anymore and then some mind sets are different..I am one of those people who believes that what is broken should be thrown away not fixed or patched...
What is your mindset?
Please think about it but also know that some things do not apply anymore and then some mind sets are different..I am one of those people who believes that what is broken should be thrown away not fixed or patched...
What is your mindset?
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Abeg stella leave that thing,if na rotten de thing rotten nko, u no go troway am?
ReplyDeleteMost Marriage nowadays are no longer broken, they are rotten,and rotten things aren't good for health.
If two people are IN LOVE with each other, I don't think there is nothing they cant fix. The problem is when the love wither, zero patience for your partner sets in. This is where most people reach a BUHARI- a state where they no longer care.
DeleteThis cracked me up..
DeleteLmao @ state of Buhari.Thing is,sometimes love isn't always enough to keep a marriage going.You need a lot more than just being in love with each other for the marriage 8 work.
DeleteMy dear if it's rotten it can be recycled. Nothing goes to waste in this world absolutely nothing. @ a point in time it becomes useful. Rubber could be turned into clothing and rotten stuffs could be turned into compost(manure). Whatever you believe works for you. Am all about making it work. Recycle till I get what I want!!!!!
DeleteLmao @ reach a Buhari - state where u no longer care. Hahahaha Nigerians are something else
DeleteYour comment cracked me up but that's the plain truth...
DeleteI can't type jare,will rather read comments.
Delete@Precious I have really reached a Buhari on some issues
DeletePrecious you're not laughing o. Lol
DeleteLool
DeleteOur parents were too busy marrying themselves thereby forgetting to train there kids well!!!! The problem is originated from our parents!!! Train a child well and he will go d way of d lord! But MBA, them face husband 100%,and r having 70yrs of good marriage. Meanwhile d product (children) is bad!!!! My point, d parents failed simple
DeleteOur parents were too busy marrying themselves thereby forgetting to train there kids well!!!! The problem originated from our parents!!! Train a child well and he will go d way of d lord! But MBA, them face husband 100%,and r having 70yrs of good marriage. Meanwhile d product (children) are bad!!!! My point, d parents failed simple
DeleteStella love, my mindset is, if I place sooooo much value on something, and it gets broken, I would try my best to fix it. The keyword is value.
ReplyDeleteMy parents would be 34 years in marriage tomorrow...and eveb though I am not married, I try to learn whatever I can learn from them.
DeleteSo far, the problem with most marriages I see these days is SELFISHNESS, we date for selfish reasons and get married for selfish reasons.
The foundation of marriage these days is no foundation at all or worst still sinking sand, so tell me how would marriages work?
34 years together wow, you ve awesome parents jare. Wishing them more beautiful years ahead.
DeleteMarriages in the olden days were better because the economy was good not great, there was sex and prostitute but now, we have porno, toys, sexting, homosexuals, lesbianism etc so a lot has changed with marriage!
DeleteBipolar...spot on!!!
DeleteBipolar... Pls learn all u can.
DeleteAlso pray that the one u fall in love with is learning all he/she can.
Cos tomorrow, u will b practicing all u saw ur parents doing and find dat u have a an idiot dat will potentially give u HIV or is angry enough to want to maim u.
Values have mostly changed and d Internet has brought home a lot of heartlessness.
People had self respect and were not as selfish as they are now
DeleteBoth couple should stay together and endure each other if children are not involved.
ReplyDeleteBut when when there is no child joining them. They should go their separate ways
Humans priority seemed to have changed drastically with every passing generation..... Now, ladies look out for big dick, wealth, Idris elba look alike, tribe, family name etc. That's the reason why over 50% of marriages end in divorce today..
DeleteThey were born at a time when it was just "mummy and daddy style". A time when mom dint even know des somfin called fillatio.
DeleteA time wen mom did everything and dint think dad to help with house chores
A time wen it was a shame to leave ur husband, so u had to live with his shortcomings.
Today, we expect "ladies first", I must come before he comes.
Today we complain bout hubby not helping with house chores.
We complain bout sex, like u dint thirst d waters before marriage.
Abeg, sexy lady with hot curves, u dey wear flattering dress n jeans. U marry fine boi, born pikin, u kon turn iya with ur wrapper and oversize kaba. Abeg no send "koniku" that "im sexy n hot" but hubby wont touch me.
IyawoAlhaji
And when a woman is constantly battered its still ok to endure ' cause of the kids?
DeletePls read through your comment again naa. Does it make sense to you? Hian!!
DeleteWe are living in a crazy jet age now. Everything is on the fast lane.. My parent's Been living together for over 50 years now and I wonder what's the secret.
ReplyDeleteI just want a replica of their lifestyle, even better than them. God help me.
Let's forget our parent talk jooor...my dad pummeled my mum lik mad....mum isn't a talker she is a quiet person...dad was a drunk. just dat den women dnt hv guts to leave husband..odiegwu
DeleteNow if u look at dem u will think de are d best couple Eva liveth..imagine mum saying I Shud remain single dan marrying Smone dat beats woman..am married now n I kept breaking up wit potential woman beaters. Until I met dis peaceful soul hubby...5yrs now not even a fight dat last for 2hrs..we de argue lik any oda couple. but apology comes
Thrown away cos even now we try to fix it b4 throwing away.
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Delete*threatens
DeleteThank me later,
Well for me it depends , I'm very considerate if I make an effort to fix it and it still gets broken again I'll throw it away and I will never look back
ReplyDeleteMy opinion is marriage can only be sustained by the originator God. So two hearts must submit to the manual of life the bible so you can have an "unshaken foundation".
ReplyDeleteElse the storms of life will blow you away, I mean far far away.
Gbam
Delete@ Uriel (Freshdew)...my respect for you just got skyrocketed to the possible exponential form. Truthfully, how will people expect to be successful in marriages when its Originator, whom the Bible calls the 'Third Cord' has been untwined away? Its like failing to follow the set instructions contained in a manual for an automobile and expecting the machine to run well. Utter failure.
DeleteFor those experiencing one thing or another in their marriage, Ephesians Chapter 5 is your solution. Also lay your hands on the book "The Secret of Family Happiness" for real life advices on how to make your marital life a model for others. My 1kobo advice.
cc: Fneshman
One million likes for this comment Uriel
Delete936 comment 2016
You are so right. What we know, have learnt or love is not enough to keep a home but God. Even when we wish everything should just be smooth it is never so but with God we can over come.
DeleteYou have only spoken the truth Uriel. Check this out:
DeleteJesus is “ ‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.’ Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.”
Acts 4:11-12 NIV
http://bible.com/111/act.4.11-12.NIV
The sooner we begin to understand that God needs to be involved in all areas of our lives, including married lives, the lesser we'll have broken marriages. "Wisdom is profitable to direct".
Some menn of the are days are animals and monsters in human form..nobody will like to stay in a violent marriage
ReplyDeleteSince we make elaborate wedding our priorty, we lost the true value of marriage.
ReplyDeletePeople are now more concern with the less than 8hrs event than the everlasting marriage, hence, more plans on wedding than marriage.
Also, over exposure, social media and gender equality has ruined most nowadays marriages.
*Larry was here*
Gender equality? Are you for real?
DeleteTrue talk
DeleteMiss Biko
Only people who don't understand the true meaning of 'Gender equality' would say it's part of the reasons why marriages do not last long these days.
Delete@Exotic, whether we like it or not, wife cannot claim 50/50 equal rights with her hubby, 2 drivers can never be inside one bus and control it successfully. Mind you, that's my opinion.
Delete*Larry was here*
True talk, Na so!
DeleteLike the idiot that sent in the chronicle of today, instead of fixing his problems by forgiving the gf is dragging issue, if married I wonder what would ve happened, packing her thgs out straight away. So I just think now adays marriages so need the spirit of forgiveness and endurance to stay married for long and always invite jesus into their homes.
ReplyDeleteForget about that broken and fixed talk. I'm a man and can tell you that materialism is on the rise, especially when it comes to women, marriage and relationships.
ReplyDeleteA lot of women want a ready made man, rich and successful. Now there's no harm in that, we all like ease, but we all know that money can't buy you happiness or respect or love. It's reached a point where I go average whenever I meet a lady I'm interested in so I can see their real character because whenever a lady thinks you're rich she'll do what she thinks you like and you end falling for an actress.
Side note - if you follow a man because of money and the man knows and encourages it, just know that you have effectively been bought. You're now property. He'll treat you how he wants and do what he likes because he knows it's all about buying another model. No respect.
The day he gets broke, you are also welcome to treat him anyhow since you're no longer getting what you came for but till then, accept your position as property.
So my dear what will you say when you loved and trusted someone so much, believed in his dreams to the extent of lending him money when he lost his job and wanted starting a business only for him to turn against you when things got better and in his own words he said the money was what I sacrificed for the friendship and cos of that he can't pay back. Now it will be hard for me to suffer with any man that isn't my husband yet.
Delete@anonymous 17:33: exactly, you sacrifice and build with him and once he makes it big you become irrelevant. I am so hurt, wasted 3 yrs plus of my life
DeleteWow...Anon17:33 that guy was so cold. Pls don't harden your heart, something good will locate you.
DeleteAwwwww! @anonymous 17:33, my darling, I actually felt your pains reading this. Betrayal hurts more than actually stabbing someone at the back. So that idiomatic expression doesn't quite do the feeling justice.
DeleteI want to appeal to you not to allow this experience make you lash out at other men that may come into your life. That dude already broke your spirit, please don't allow him steal your right to love and be loved genuinely. No man is worth turning into a lesser version of yourself.
So he steals your joy and dictates how you relate with other men while he goes his merry way frolicking with whichever lady meets his fancy? You live a life of misery while the one responsible for your plight moves on with his life, probably oblivious or indifferent to your heartache. Honey, isn't that giving him too much power to keep messing with your head?
Take the time you need to grieve, do all it takes to heal but put a time limit on it. Even if it takes you a couple of years to heal, allow your heart mend but as soon as the time limit lapses, gain control of your life again. Take back the power he has to hurt you by making a conscious effort not to allow that ugly experience determine how you lead your life.
Learn from it but don't be consumed by it. Never make the same mistake twice but give enough allowance for the next guy to prove himself. Don't slam the iron door to your heart because some selfish dude was ignorant enough to let a real woman slip away. You will get better and you will love and be loved, just try to remove bitterness from your heart. He wouldn't go scot free, the repercussion of his deeds awaits him.
#e-bearhugs.
17:33 if u were not fucking other men to gather d money. If u were clean and d money wasn't wrongfully made. Nemesis will deal with him. B patient GOD is still on d throne
DeleteYou will fix Nigerian men sotey you cannot even afford plastic surgery to fix yourself thereafter
ReplyDeleteLol
DeleteMiss Biko
Fix fix fix till it no longer fits
ReplyDeleteA tough one
ReplyDeleteSame here.
ReplyDeleteThe only time I'll wait to fix things, is if it can be fixed and the damage done already didn't cause irreparable ruin.
With the way relationships are set up these days, if someone isn't willing to change, staying back to manage them, will only give you hbp in the long run.
#WhiteDiamondOut
Well said Whitey,couldn't have said any better myself.How are you hun?
DeleteDon't I just love u? No homo biko
DeleteLove you right back, Asoge hun. :D
Delete#WhiteDiamondOut
Well said dear
DeleteWell said dear
DeleteLet me read comments biko
ReplyDeleteChews bittercola!!!!
Those days even bathroom slippers get repaired but now who repairs bathroom slippers. Times Av changed. But I still believe in fixing broken relationships.
ReplyDeleteGod forbid bad thing though. I/we will try and fix it but if I didn't see any changes my dear na to trek away ! Who walk help?
ReplyDeleteSome things can't be fixed but then you ve to try before you give up.
ReplyDeleteit could be managed.....
ReplyDeleteA torn dress can be mended but a broken mirror can never be the same...
DeleteSimply put not all cases are fixable but if its worth it then by all means fix it!
Cellotape kwanu or pick 1 pis up and manage it
DeleteI believe in fixing things,except on exceptional cases.I believe in fighting for wat I want.
ReplyDeleteWhat if what you're fighting for doesn't want you?
Delete@Nora den she will let go. God will know she tried.
DeleteHello Nora,i sent u a mail about online bizness but u haven't replied.pls help.
DeleteExactly
DeleteJet age ti take over. Pity on failed marraiges
ReplyDeleteWith this generation of OXBANDS we women can't be fixers and prayer Contractors all the time.Women in good marriages may their marriages last forever but if the man is not making the marriage easy n happy for u y not press delete?mschew
ReplyDeleteI believe in fixing and not throwing away when broken. We all are not perfect so dont expect your partner to be except he or she doesn't want to adjust. Team fix it
ReplyDeleteI believe that when it comes to marriage your resilience should be 101 percent.
ReplyDeleteYou just don't give up because something bad happened or is happening.
You work to fix it together.or you work to not allow such things affect you as much anymore.(I practice what I preach and I am happier for it )
Now sometimes not eveything will be fixed but that's the beauty of marriage,it's perfect in its imperfection.
If we all throw away our marriages becuase of one "break it"matter then I am certain that many marriages will be no more today.
in marriage you have to have thick skin and know that love is when you love a person even with the bad things the person has done n will do. that is true love.
the problem nowadays is people dont love truly anymore or even come to equity with clean hands for many reasons.one of the foremost reasons been that they are not sure how the spouse react or see them after certain knowledge.
In marriage you forgive non stop, you love non stop, you grow, you mature,you set priorities,goals and work to keep them.
It is easier to throw in the towel but I believe it's lazy people who do that,if relationship wasn't easy ,why will marriage be easy or easier?
marriage is hard,so hard that it feels good to quit sometimes, but working through things makes you stronger and better.
PS: this is if both parties are willing to work at it,and its not a case of DMV.
food for thought: why don't we throw away our cars if broken/bad?
D Devil is out to destory so many homes,married couple should learn how to pray together every single day,for catholic homes,the rosary shld be said everyday. Marriage dey said is between two forgivers expect in a case of DV..no one is perfect,but when we learn how to forgive and forget,things will be alot easier for us.may God give us all the strength to conquer the devil.
DeleteWhat about in the case where ur husband goes about impregnanting women outside. Or has another woman with three kids in another city with out ur knowledge ? Not only that, a lady calls you from America , that ur husband also fathered a child with her and has stopped paying child support . What will u do? Can u also mend this? Mean while u have three kids with him.
DeleteGod bless u for this balanced thought
DeleteSo true.
That's why ur not married
ReplyDeleteThat was when people get married out of unadulterated love, not for some selfish gain.
ReplyDeleteUsing Tiwa and tj as a case study....i think anything broken should be thrown away..a girl on my facebook that got married just 7months ago,was seriously bashing Tiwa, saying Tiwa fucked up.that she should have still not said anything after d serious bashing tj gave her d previous day..i was mad,but couldn't say anything because I don't want to have issues with her because of Tiwa and tj's marriage.her mumu husband drop a comment hailing his wife,praising her for being an exemplary wife.i laughed!!!😃.
ReplyDeleteIf tomorrow he starts beating her now,or starts taking advantage of her like tj did to Tiwa will she be able to open her mouth to talk about it not feeling guilty about what she said about a fellow woman?
Times have changed..things that worked then cannot work now.
What if he doesn't beat her...the reason y relationships and marriages break up easily in this our generation is intolerance, lack of love,marrying for financial or sexual comforts...etc...that's y if one partner fuckups the world will fall down...I look at aging parents and marvel..how they made it thus far with so much love still burning... In plenty and in hard times,in failure and in success,even when they quarrell give them 24 hours you will never imagine they quarrelled...Couples of old...not the end time love we profess these days on basis of gains...
DeleteAmadioha grandson
I am not praying for him to beat her but shit happens..don't judge anyone,live your life,spoon feed your husband if you want but NEVER judge another woman..
DeleteFree tiwa case...u get married to a man with plenty negative relationship history...what do expect...tell me tiwa doesn't know he takes hard drug she criticised him for before marriage... Who takes hard drug that is not violent...
DeleteFree tiwa case...u get married to a man with plenty negative relationship history...what do expect...tell me tiwa doesn't know he takes hard drug she criticised him for before marriage... Who takes hard drug that is not violent...
Delete@chijioke 1000 likes for your comment
Delete@chijioke 1000 likes for your comment
DeleteHeybabe u r so right. Neva judge any1 no1 knws tomorrow, it may not b abuse physically but human beings can change, what if he falls on hard times and his character changes how can she voice out her frustrations or things become really bad, she wld gv ppl ammunition to mock her. I am not 1 to flaunt my marriage, not d 1 dt anyway u hv quarrel with ur hubby ppl wld knw cos of ur behavior on social media. I think d main thing killing marriages is social media, ppl hv a false sense marriag
DeleteThrown away. Some ain't worth fixing.
ReplyDeleteA wrapper once torn wil neva regain its full length. But den patience z 4givness is key to lasting in everything, nt jst marriage.
ReplyDeleteI believe what is broken should be fixed except if fixing it will endanger ones' life, otherwise we shouldn't ask God to fix us when we are so broken and drowning. Life is not always about self.
ReplyDeleteLet us tell ourselves the truth. Most marriages fail today because
ReplyDelete1. Most people got married on a foundation of lies unlike our parents.
2. Getting married and expecting a Cinderella story...even Princess Di and Prince Charles no last.
3. Finance...most especially lack of it.
4. Lack of patience by both spouses especially the women...yeah you read me right
5. Irresponsibility on the part of the men...they do not provide like our fathers did.
6. Gender talk on the part of the women...he works 9-5, I will also work 9-5 thereby leaving the home front open to human pests and rodents.
7. Infidelity...most present day couples have had btw 2-10 pr more lovers and most are insatiable.
8. Man love ur wife, woman thou should submit. This term does not in anyway make a woman a slave.
Anonymous 17:31 on point especially on paragraph 7....after couples have had over 10 to 20 bfs/gfs before marriage wetin u expect....spirit of in satisfaction will reign now
DeleteSwallow ur pride and learn to say sorry.shikena!
ReplyDeleteSterra that one na oyibo mentality. Things can be fixed it's all about maturity.
ReplyDeleteThe modernization/civilisation is fast melting things in our continuent and we call it TREND.
what if it is broken beyond repair? Biko I cant deal, marriage that will not work will not work if u like use thread and needle plus super glue.
ReplyDeleteI feel women are becoming more financially independent, as such there is no reason to be as submissive as our mothers. i believe that tiwa would have endured her marriage if teebliz were the breadwinner.
ReplyDeleteThere should be mutual respect for each other. In d times of old,men were more responsible. If they cheated,it would be as coded as possible. But now men sleep with wife's friends, housemaids,etc.
ReplyDeleteAlso,now a lot of men are not as hardworking and family oriented as our fathers. They want to keep up appearances and laze around while the women work. How does a woman respect a man that "womanizes" unashamedly and laze around? Its not rocket science. Women were more submissive in the past. They depended on their husbands.ladies should stop marrying for money and wealth. After a while,the money wont give them satisfaction.
These days,both parties have to agree that the excesses of the world wont affect their marriage and that they will work together as a team to make d marriage work.
I am tired of hearing Nigerian men complain of how materialistic women are. They keep blackmailing women with "build with him"
ReplyDeleteYou are building with a guy thinking you are his all and all but five other ladies are somewhere building with him too because they have all been emotionally blackmailed into the whole fad "build with him now and reap later" . At the end of the day, the guy has built offices on their heads. One thing men have to understand, you can build yourself up by yourself and marry someone, so both of you can continue from there.
There are more women than men building themselves up by themselves these days. Why can't men do same. The days of our fathers, the men get established to an extent and marry our women. Now, most women are breadwinners and co-breadwinners.
Longevity does not mean happiness. The fact their marriages lasted does not mean they were happy. Most of our grandmothers were second wives and third wives. Men were allowed to be polygamous to cover up their cheating.
Let us quit comparism. That generation beget this generation. If they were perfect, I am sure this generation would have been perfect.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
A good marriage is a union of two good forgivers...
ReplyDeleteWhen a man nd a woman come togeda to bcom husband and wife with expectations,such marriage will face face a lot of strain when those expectations are not met.But,wen they come togeda with genuine love for each oda and with a soul purpose of companionship then evryoda good thing that comes will be a bonus from God and d marriage will definitely work.Let d word of God guide us all thru marriage bcos like my mum told me bfor i got married dat i shuld understand dat my husband isn't me so cannot act or be exactly d way i want him to be which i found out to be very true.Let us learn to tolerate eachoda and make God our Author.
ReplyDeleteMy parents have been married for 44yrs. And in all my life av never heard my parents raise their voice at each other. Sometimes you notice friction btw them but they always sort it out amicably.
ReplyDeleteThe thing is, there are things that are totally unacceptable and if you value someone, there are things you will never do cos u cant afford to lose that person. You cant be hurting someone you love and then tell me you love them, rather you hurt yourself so the one you love can be happy.
The biggest reason for me why people get divorced is cause they marry for the wrong reasons.
See, you can marry someone you dont love but like and be happy and loyal, as long as you dont have someone you have feelings for. If you choose to marry anyone and can bring yourself to respect them and their feelings then you are good to go.
Av noticed alot of girls in 9ja dont even like to be treated as the queens they are, they want to be lied to, disrespected codedly etc. If you want to talk thrash under my comment, feel free but if not how can you explain all the chronicles you send and yet u go back to the same monster again but if its a guy, he will send you parking and you will never return.
I saw a comment this week and i was soo ashamed. I think its the chronicle if the girl that said shes engaged but she knows the guy will definately cheat and all and someone commented : you arnt even happy that of all his babes he chose to marry u.
I was weak. All the good guys get treated like thrash, used and then dumped 4 the demons that will insult, beat u, etc.
Make i leave matter for mathias
Lol@Stella.I trust you,you no get time for nonsense.
ReplyDeleteAbeg who is watching Saloni?
ReplyDeleteWhat a Virtous wife nd partner
*wipetears*
I am ooh
DeleteAs some 1 said earlier,It's not every situation that can be fixed. Marriages these days don't last bcos of d shift in responsibility to the women. In those days d man was d breadwinner and d woman d house-managers. But now d women work so much and still do all the house work,therefore frustration wld set in and then impatience and on and on. I wld advice women,pls don't take up d responsibility of ur hubby,let him pay d school fees of ur kids. If he says he can afford only 30 school put ur children in 30k school. Don't do super woman and take up such responsibilities na dere trouble dey start from sumtimes. Pls let ur hubby provide d main things and u can argument him,but don't take full responsibility of anything. Also men pls don't say my wife is working let her take sum of d burden. I wld advice every man to think like he is the sole bread winner, even if she earns more gv her money for food and provisions. Make sure u pay ur kids school fees solely. Provide for the home front and let her just augment a little with her money. U wld earn her respect. But once she starts to take equal responsibility with u, see finish go enter. My opinion though.
ReplyDeleteStella stop this biko. Try to fix first and when you can't, u throw it away
ReplyDeleteI'm 28 this month. Deep down I know I don't have the qualities of a good wife. If you don't have money, I don't talk to you. I do not sacrifice for people. I always put me first and go only where it favors me most. All the people I dated, called them sweety or sugar only when I receive alert. Hate cooking, cleaning or doing any domestic thing. Heck I can't even wash my clothes to save my life. I'm rude, Impatient, proud, etc. Did I forget to add I'm a professional liar? See guys, the list is plenty...
ReplyDeleteTell me how I want to start adjusting now. Really. I asked God to let me getting married by December this year but honestly... I really do ask myself... 'Are you really prepared?'
Tell u what, you have hit the threshold of "CHANGE" already. For u to be aware of all of these ill-attitudes, that means there is light at the end of the tunnel for u already.
DeleteMy advice: make friends with sincere people who will not be afraid to reprimand u when you're going off course. Deprive yourself of some silly pranks you've been playing before. Invite God fully into your life. Make his friends you friends too. Lastly, yeild to directions as they come, bfr u know it, you'll be the better person you so desired
The underlying question is: whoever said we needed to "fix things" what happened to prayer? We get tired because we've have so much confidence in our ability and when it's not yielding fruits, we get frustrated. Bottomline: we cannot fight spiritual problems with physical methods.
ReplyDeleteYou can fix it if your partner is willing, if not find your level. No be by force to stay married. If staying married will turn you into a bitter person who will probably wake up one day and kill it is better you leave.
ReplyDeleteMost marriages don't stand the test of time because the man/ woman is they type that gives the appearance of "the more you look, the less you see".
Wot if he took d kids frm u & now wnts u bk aft marrying another woman & wnts u 2 to stay 2gether do u go bk cos of d kids or move on than live with another woman in d same house still trying 2 place d pix.if I dn't go bk will my kids ever 4give me in d future will dey understand my reason or I shld just go bk happy or nt dat our lives is 4 our kids
ReplyDeleteWot if he took d kids frm u & now wnts u bk aft marrying another woman & wnts u 2 to stay 2gether do u go bk cos of d kids or move on than live with another woman in d same house still trying 2 place d pix.if I dn't go bk will my kids ever 4give me in d future will dey understand my reason or I shld just go bk happy or nt dat our lives is 4 our kids
ReplyDeleteGo back and scheme on how to run away with the kids. Let him have kids with the other woman. Meanwhile, you should be financially stable to Carry out this plan.
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