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Wednesday, February 07, 2018

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DEPRESSED AND NEEDING ADVICE FAST:


Happy new year Stella and BVS..
Please I need your advice house and Stella use your red pen please.
Am 24 yrs,200 level I know am supposed to be through with school but I mis used my opportunity.

I got pregnant in my former uni at a very young age...Gave birth to two kids(not twins),lost them both(ss).
My parent helped me out of the relationship....Am back in school and am doing perfectly fine academically. 

My problem is that I find it hard to go into another relationship not that I don't get advances from male(Am not beautiful neither am I ugly). 

Am always scared due to the fact that the guy will want to feel my breast and even look at my body(My breast is sagged and worst part it is small and my stomach is full of stretch marks).


The ones I tried to show them to ends up dumping me.....
What do I do?
Won't I be able to love and be loved again?
This low self esteem is killing me...

Am ashamed of myself and I regret all my useless actions.I can't even dress up in front of my girl friends.

Have worked on my weight but my stomach is still flabby.....
Am soooo depressed right now.
Am loosing it....
Thanks.



*Of all things to worry about it is this?JOMG,who did this to you?
Maybe the saggy boobs and stretch marks are to tame your wild tohtoh otherwise you would have gone into another relationship and gotten pregnant....Ho behaviour!

Whilst you are learning to deal with your new body,concentrate on your studies please.....

71 comments:

  1. You don't even have a problem
    am sorry for the loss of your babies.

    my dear concentrate on ur studies and stop worrying about showing guys your body

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    1. Poster if that girl in Sosoliso plane crash was depressed and drawned in worrying about her burnt face and body,I hope u her pix wen d accident happened, not even me blved she will survive but look at her today, she contested for AMERICAN GOT TALENT and came 6th!!! Kachi is recognised world wild now, she is yet to drop an album o...my point is, don't dwell in ur breast and tummy,u said it urself,u r good academically, FOCUS!ur brain will take u places and have this men fall over themselves for u. Focus my dear,there r pole with bigger issh and dey live happily

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    2. Dear poster,you are right to be worried about your sagged breast and stretch marked stomach. But right now,your studies should be your priority and buildup your future.Then,your selling point would be your achievement not your body.

      The right man would follow you home when you offer a better package as a Carrier lady.
      Stay focused on the price.

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    3. Dear poster,you are right to be worried about your sagged breast and stretch marked stomach. But right now,your studies should be your priority and buildup your future.Then,your selling point would be your achievement not your body.

      The right man would follow you home when you offer a better package as a Carrier lady.
      Stay focused on the price.

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    4. Dear poster, will not castigate you. In all you have learnt life's lessons, I believe you are stronger and wiser now. The stretch marks will not go but your body will heal, your breast will become abit firmer. Most important at this time is healing your mind. Look beyond what you are now to what you plan to become, build yourself and let God do the
      (I speak from experience cuz I've had a child from secondary school but still got married after uni)

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    5. You aren't being dumped because of your body rather cos your body disgusts you so much. If the owner is disgusted then who am I to love that.
      loook in the mirror dear, you are what you are. A woman who has been through life and has stretch marks as marks of war. Learn to love what you see baby. Most importantly dear, forgive yourself, even you deserve a second and even third chance. Good luck with your studies, it is not how far, it is how well.

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  2. hahahahahaha what a wicked advice you gave stella.

    Chai Poster all you are worried about is your sagged breast and stretch marks and guys to fuck you? Nothing do you at all. Instead of how to think of finishing school, i am just pitying your parents that are wasting their monies to train you. Chai.

    The person that did this to you it will not be better for him or her.

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    1. You are not a serious child, if you were my sister the kind slap I for give you enh, at your age your problem is looking for who to like tilt boobs and tommy, why don't you build yourself financially and academically and watch men chase after you. For now concentrate on your studies, if you feel you are doing good, aim better, after all first class never killed anyone, leave umu nwoke

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    2. SAY NO TO LOW SELF ESTEEM.πŸ‘ŽπŸ‘ŽπŸ‘Ž Something I have NEVER had and dont intend having. God, I thank thee. Of all things to bother about?? It would have been understandable If you are being depressed because of d two innocent kids you birthed out of your selfish interest.. bhet for d reason you mentioned up there, e no follow.. as in, you gat no p at all biko.😎

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  3. The poster need to concentrate on her studies and leave relationship for now

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    1. You will only feel that way if you date school boys.... Your body has aged... Go for your body age mate... They wont blink or ask stupid questions. Thank me later

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    2. chai Sanfa, you wicked...
      So u mean ancestors should be her spec? u no lie sha... she don drop engine

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  4. So if not for d sagged boobs and tummy issues, you would've entered with a bang...prolla get pregnant again..
    Lack of sex n validation from boys is what is causing ur depression?
    u can't do anything about it, either u face ur school work or keep sampling till u see a guy that won't mind ur saggy tits n stretched tummy.

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  5. Stella,
    You have absolutely no right to slut shame a woman who has body esteem issues and came to you for advice. You were very unkind.
    Poster,
    Love yourself, the right man would come when its time. I hated my breast and i am married to d most wonderful man.

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    1. Who made you judge? Everyone is entitled to their opinion esp when you bring your problems to a blog. This is the real world! Advice isn't about rubbing your back and telling you what you want to hear. Truth is bitter, babe needs to hear it.

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  6. Side eyes at Stella's comment! But she rightly says it. You're somewhat worried because of people's reactions when they see your body.

    Just try to see it as an opportunity to concentrate on your studies. When you're done, the right one who would not be disturbed about those flaws would gladly accept you for who you're.

    In addition, don't think you're dump because of your flaws. No! So many ladies experience that even though they are gorgeous. I think the best way not to experience heart break as a lady is to keep your self away from 'wolf's in sheeps clothing men' who privily prey on girls who are somewhat covetous.

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  7. This is a pure case of agbasia Egwu ona na ukwu.


    Don't worry, you will find someone that will love you the way you are.

    Shey na for this blog we read about a guy that love ladies with saggy breast.

    Don't worry, inugo?

    It is well.
    Oga adi mma

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  8. You see what I always tell fellow ladies on this blog. Keep your body till marriage; sexual immorality does not end well. The man does it, he doesn't get pregnant and all the low self esteem and suicidal etc. The girl goes through all these and more ; it is not worth it at all.

    Beloved poster, it is apparent that most of those "men" you still show your body are interested in sex and nothing else! Why do you show men your nakedness, have they paid your bride price? That is the only qualification for a man to see you nude! If you do not desist in doing this, you will keep going through the same circle you've gone through before.

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  9. Just listen to yourself...Insesd of you to work hard to earn good grades in school...you are worried over carnal things like "Sagged breast and immoralities...Please get busy and stop disturbing yourself.




    @ANONYMOUS ORUBEBE

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  10. Poster na wa for you! Instead of you to focus on school & any side hustle that will help your life & self esteem you are busy complaining abt your body & not being able to keep a man? Shame on you,you haven't learnt any sense from everything, better receive sense now, forget abt men for now, get a degree, at the same time learn skill & be active in it, devote all your time to making a better life for yourself & then after you have arrived all those men will lick your ass(if u want). Some didn't get this advance but u have it now.
    Face front joor, yeye dey smell, don't you know that it is when you keep looking for something that u don't see it?

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  11. “Ho behaviour “ you said Stella?? That’s too harsh, because she birthed them? Poster, forget about men. Focus on your studies so you can graduate with good results. Get a job, be happy with yourself because thinking of men.

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    1. Since it's not ho behaviour, you shouldn't have told her to forget about men.

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  12. This is so me... But Thank God, I found my other half who accepted me not for my body but for I am... Work on your sef confidence and try not to hid the truth from any potential boyfriend... God bless u dear...

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  13. My dear I know say body no be firewood but calm down first, if atall u want to do jux open to them I believe ur missing rib will love you d way u are wen the time comes. Lastly Love urself first!

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  14. Kai Stella dt was too harsh...u jus added salt to injury, the poor girl said she has learnt her lesson, d advice she needed from you, you didnt give her...ur words sounded like glass hittin a marble.tek it easy. baby girl dnt let ur past overshadow ur future forget about men now and concentrate on ur studies...u will meet somebody who will accept u and help u overcome ur shame ok.u can use coconut oil on ur tummy and find any suitable physical therapy for ur boobs. nevertheless u r beautiful if u say u r and not wat pple say.

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  15. I overcame self-esteem issues by reading the word of God; the New Testament to be precise. The words of the creator made me to know what he values as "beauty" and what love is.

    As it is, you are still showing them your naked body, you want to start giving sex again and have "ss kids and lose them again; all over?"
    Please value yourself the way you are and allow God the creator to recreate you in your mind and soul.

    The person who loves and wants to marry you will not want to see you nude first!

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  16. Exactly what I wanted to say, nne are you not tired of relationships? you are still very young, concentrate on your studies.

    And please don't go about telling men you have given birth before since you lost both babies.
    Some people have sagged boobs and stretch marks even without giving birth.

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  17. But stella you blunt sha...πŸ˜₯good thing you have realised your mistakes and making amends you should be grateful you got supportive family that stood my you,if I were you the only thing I will be concern about is my academics.please focus on your academics and leave man for now,Shea butter helps with stretch marks if used continuously,you will see result. Drinking warm water will also help with your flappy tummy.set your priorities right and you will be fine.

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  18. Hanhan , what know kind if advice is this me, haba that's too harsh Stella, do u know what it took her to pen this down? Atleast she's realized her mistakes, no need pulling her down the more. The body after birth doesn't always remain the same, I have 2 kids and I perfectly understand what shes taking about. Well poster, learn to love yourself , I'm afraid there isn't anything that can be done except surgery which is liposuction and breast lift, but before then love urself and focus on the bright side of life, cheeers

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  19. What is this nonsense? So after ur bad experience and the second chance u have been given, all that is important to u is boyfriend and sex??? U are a very stupid girl! U aren't even thinking of ur parents Abi? Na man dey do u. U obviously haven't learnt any lesson and u will only end up repeating the same stupid mistakes. What a retarded dumb ass. God forbid!

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  20. Stella oooooπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ biko easy on her.... people make mistakes.

    Poster relax you'd be just fine. Someone would love you with your body and mistakes. Just focus on coming out of school and getting a job, you'd see that there are people who wont mind a saggy boobs or flabby stomach.

    See the beauty in your strength and let go of whatever shame you feel. Learn to walk with your head high afterall those guys walking away from you are not saints, so see them as though they aren't for you and they are not suppose to be in your life and you'd be just fine.

    Most importantly leave men and rather cling to Jesus and let him into your life you'd see that everything would fall in place without stress. E hugs and all the best.

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  21. Gbam! Auntie Stella you nailed it today. Dear poster while I consider your sagged boobs and tommy an issue, I find it more worrisome that at the reason why you are worried about them let me quote you "every man you want to go into a relationship with must want to touch your boobs" I find this very disturbing as it is an evidence of some moral issues on your path. You have been given another chance after several mistakes and instead of focusing and becoming somebody before worrying about men, the men and touching your boobs seem to be the top on your to- do list. I think if you did not have those issues you should be on your way to having your fourth child by now. Please if you don't know you have so disrespected, disgraced and troubled your family that now all you should be doing is thinking of how to close your legs, read your books,graduate, marry properly and become somebody useful to them and showing them they did not mk a mistake helping you out of the other problem and sending you to school again. Please I was close to insulting you but let me save it because you are the type of Children who can me termed black sheep

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    1. Thank you!!
      Don't mind the women on here saying that Stella was harsh. How can a girl, after all her mistakes be getting depressed over boyfriends? No be the same boyfriend land her for wahala b4? The fact that she's depressed to the point of sending a chronicle shows that having a bf and sex is her priority. Should that be?
      BVs, if it were ur daughter who put u thru so much disappointment and u gave her another chance only for her to be saying this rubbish, how would u feel? When I started reading, I thought she was gonna talk about how scared she was of men and relationships, that is what one would expect. Rather this mumu is looking to throw herself in so tey she is depressed. I feel no remorse for u cos u obviously don't feel sorry for urself and ur family.

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    2. U nailed it..i just dont think she has any problem..she is just tinkin her breast is an added advantage in getting a good spouse



      Mc pinky

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  22. Oh my God! Is dis a chronicle too?? Hmmmmmm... Poster pls go and read ur books mbok before u carry another belle

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  23. 'Maybe the saggy boobs and stretch marks are to tame your wild tohtoh otherwise you would have gone into another relationship and gotten pregnant'

    are you serious right now stella? You just shamed this girl and called her a hoe. Sometimes i wonder at your behaviour. do you not know you are a role model to people? is this how to give advice?

    sometines i forget about your upbringing smh

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    1. She needs all d shaming so she can focus n stop disappointing her parents.

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    2. Lol still has never been one to give proper and motherly advice. Save your breathe. She’s just getting old. No diplomatic sense yet. At this point, I don’t think she would ever learn to speak to others politely. Her comment made me gasp. It’s a shame really.

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    3. All these girls hiding under "anonymous" to attack stella are the real hoes/cutlasses/machete and even stray bullets!
      Make una welcome temporarily to the anonymous ghost mode

      Me I don dey anonymous tee tee.

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    4. Thanks Stella for calling a spade by its name.
      admonishing or advising someone does not mean that you don't rebuke the person or tell the person the truth.

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  24. Ho Behaviour?!
    Hot enough to burn.
    Wow!
    Stella's got no chill and she isn't taking prisoners.

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    1. your talk de tire person sha

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  25. for the stretch marks, try using coconut oil. study hard and the problems you see now, you see them no more... Wishing the very best.

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  26. I will advice you to forget anything relationship and focus on your studies thank God you said you are durning well academically. Particse celibacy for now until you graduate from school, after school try to be in a relationship that will take you to the alter straight.For the stretch marks get aloe Vera gel and almond oil (you get the almond oil in a big supermarket) mix the aloe Vera and almond oil in an equal proportion and rub it on your stretch market wait for 15 mins wash it off with water do these 2-3 times daily. May Alimight God be with you Amen.

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  27. Poster face your book, u here me so? The ones running away from you just want to chop and clean mouth. When you become somebody you will see them calling it sexy self.

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  28. Poster, the most important thing that should paramount and your goal now is to graduate with good grades, get a good job and make your parents proud. Avoid sexual relationship for now, any friendship that will lead to sleeping with you should be cut off.
    By the time , you achieved something for yourself, your self confidence will come back. Please, focus on your education for now. Ask God for grace because you cannot do it alone.

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  29. I dont think u have any problem,try and move closer to God
    Simple.

    Forget about ur flabhy wateva n ur soft work breast..so far,a mad woman had good advances from men without not thinking about her dirty kini.



    Mc pinky

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  30. She's 24. Nothing wrong with studying and looking for man at her age. Sister look into plastic surgery or breast lift if you can afford it

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  31. Poster concentrate on your school work and leave boys alone for now.
    Plus must all your relationships end in sex or touching body?

    If you are lonely find someone who is interested in you for your brains and who would help you grow academically and spiritually and nothing more.

    Forget sex and build your life into an independent woman.


    LEPπŸ˜›

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  32. Please how old did she say she is?

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  33. Put all your energies into completing your studies. You are still very young so don't think of any relationship until you are about 28. Focus on school and getting a good job or going into business when you are finished with your degree. Life is not running away and there is enough time for everything in its own season. Stay focused! Having a man is not the most important thing in life, so stop obsessing over it. Obsess over being a good human being, being healthy in mind and body, being a spiritual pure person, being financially successful, being a woman of substance who adds value to the world.

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  34. Well, no need feeling depressed. Concentrate on your studies. You will surely meet a man who will show understanding...

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  35. Hollup hollup. You were with a guy that his genotype is incompatible with yours for that long? And you waited to birth 2 ss kids? You are a murderer please. So, you put those babies in suffering because of your selfish love. Please, lemme not curse you. Just receive sense amen. Because you have not. I even have a friend with saggy boobs and she's never been pregnant. Guess what, she is confident as heck. Please, receive sense, hit the gym seriously for about 2 years if u really want to see changes. Believe me, d six pack will come.

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  36. Sister should relationship be your priority in life right now, one would have thought just coming out of a bad relationship and loosing 2 children would have put your brain till factory reset. You are lucky to have parents who support you in going back to school and straightening your life.
    Must you people have a man in your life to feel significant in life. Its just sad, cant you be single and keep your legs closed. You are already thinking of sex and how a man will react to your saggy boobs and stomach.
    I am a very beautiful woman and I got married late at the age of 35, as someone I was engaged to jilted me. There were periods I stayed years without sex, bcos I was waiting for someone serious. Infact I didn't have sex for 2yrs before I finally had with my now husband. Even he was stunned how tight I was down there due to not having sex at all for 2 whole years. Men asked me out, but I didn't just want to sleep with and date just anyone. You at 24 you already were in a bad relationship with 2kids.
    I have had years I was in no relationship and no sex, simply because I was meeting the wrong men.
    Please calm down, men are not running away. Face your studies, go out and have fun with your friends.

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  37. Poster u no get problem u hear

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  38. Why does everyone think she doesn't need a man in her life, or that she needs to focus on just school, or that people who have been in bad relationships shouldn't seek love. The issue her is not the fact that she had babies out of wedlock, but the fact that she's finding it hard to get her body confidence back! I had a baby in uni too, my body has stretch marks all over, and yes I have had flings even with the stretch marks.

    Most of u screaming focus!focus! Met ur husbands in the university, why didn't u focus? Some of u single mums that never went back to school, why didn't you focus, at least she went back to get her shit together. And stella, u are wrong for saying what u said, u should never call anyone a ho and u should apologise to her. If she feels she is mentally and emotionally ready for a relationship then why not? I haven't been able to get into a relationship since I had my child, not because I was afraid to show my scars or because there weren't men, I just wanted to love myself and come to terms with the fact that I have a child now, and now that I am ready to go into a relationship, I'm not meeting the kind of men I want. Tell her how to boost her self confidence, not tell her to forget men. After school and being "focused", won't she meet men?, won't she plan to settle down and get married?


    Dear poster, just see Stella's comment as one of those that just don't understand what u are going through and ignore her, she's just a typical Nigerian. And what if the men who left u left not because of ur body but because they just wanted to hit and run?

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    1. Nobody has said she should not have a man or not be interested in a relationship, they have said with her history her first priority should be the completion of her studies. Once her studies are completed she should then focus on becoming gainfully employed and being self-sufficient, when she has overcome those hurdles then she can look towards a relationship. Her parents are trying with her yet again at this age, should we tell her to go hunt dick so she can get pregnant again. At least let their money and love bear some fruit. Is the pursuit of dick really of importance with her history? For heavens sake let her parents and the poster regain her honour, and ppl's mouth can come off them for a change. Nobody is condemning her, just asking her to follow her compass towards a different direction for the time being. When has men never been available on the planet? Can she not wait four years to shift back to a relationship, how hard is it to take a few years to focus your energies inward and become the best you so that she can get the best husband eventually. It's better to do the hard work now instead of writing to Stella in your 50s lamenting poor life choices. This universe is ordered and anyone thinking they can have a successful life without order is fooling themself.

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  39. Use aloe vera juice on the boobs constantly for 30days on d boobs and den massage with blue seal vaseline at night befor u go to bed, and u will be amazed. Trust me it works silly. Be consistent good luck

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  40. You can also use d aloe vera juice on ur stress mark and den finish with coconut oil. Thank me later.

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  41. Stella say na wild toh toh..

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  42. The last thing on my mind when I was in the university was man!!! I was busy thinking of how to make good grades, how to smash my courses. The kind of A'a I aimed at were from 80, 70 was failure to me. I was one of the few top students in my class. I got a bank job afterwards, abandoned after two years for a master degree program. Now, I have a good job and married to the best husband any woman would wish for.

    Keep thinking about men you hear, don't focus on your education.

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  43. You are a woman and this are valid problems. Studies is not more important than school. Don't be ashamed of being a woman. Every woman desires a man. Just work on yourself and the right man will come for you.

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  44. hahahahahahahaha Stella you cracked me up. Some women and men are like five and six. You are worried about men at your age?

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  45. Let me laff ho laff hohohohohohoe .

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  46. To think she lost two children to ss. Pele dear it’s well

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  47. Lol! Stella this your advice is competing with angelrayforsdk . Where is she these days? I miss her ‘savageness’

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  48. You need to add more weight that will help your boobs alot...

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  49. my dear, try to package yourself well, wear clothes that make you feel confident and sexy. wearing good supportive underwear is important. best of luck

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  50. What yall should be doing is recommending mediums on how she can take care of her body to make it look better not passing on negative comments, who holy pass, Any how my dear I think you should consider using WAist trainers when your in the gym so ur belly can get firmer and also aleovera for the stretch marks or bio-oil i heard it works it just takes time so u have to be patience and consistent in using it. And of course biko practise safe sex, you are beautiful just the way you are.

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  51. I could feel every bit of your struggle dear poster. please, concentrate on your studies ....go get that wonderful grade, leave them boys for now. graduate....get a high payin job or better still, start ur own business. make money and take care of your self.

    there are tons of skin care and body enhancements products that u can always buy and apply to achieve back that perfect body....vaginal tightening creams, stretch marks remover, and loads of other products to give u back ur confidence.

    my younger has gone thru this and believe me, shes engaged now to her soul mate. be strong okay?

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  52. I could feel every bit of your struggle dear poster. please, concentrate on your studies ....go get that wonderful grade, leave them boys for now. graduate....get a high payin job or better still, start ur own business. make money and take care of your self.

    there are tons of skin care and body enhancements products that u can always buy and apply to achieve back that perfect body....vaginal tightening creams, stretch marks remover, and loads of other products to give u back ur confidence.

    my younger has gone thru this and believe me, shes engaged now to her soul mate. be strong okay?

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