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UNHAPPILY MARRIED BUT HAPPILY LIVING SINGLE

Hello Stella and bvs.

I have wanted to send this in for almost two years now. Yep you heard right almost two years. If not more. I wanted to post it as anonymous post but that usually late at night and I dont meet it until the next day. I also wanted to send it in as a rant but same thing I don't meet the post early whenever its posted. I wanted to post the s#x part (more about this later) as a chronicle but I worked that out by myself. When Marriage Dairies debuted, I wanted to send it in as well but I never got the time nor motivation to do so. So this is going to have some of everything in it. I'm going to rant. I'm going to post anonymously. I'm going to try and be as fair as possible. Answer every question that may pop up later right here in my chronicle because I ain't gonna be in the comment section before I may forget to sign out of my I.D.lol



So sit back with your popcorn and juice.borrow mat from those who have. This is going to be a long read I can assure you.


Growing up I was one of those who wished and believed to fall in love and marry and be happy. I always dreamed my husband and I would take crazy pictures like Sticking our tongues out. Flipping the bird. Running on the beach . generally end up with someone you call your best friend. Someone you can't get tired of looking at if you know what I mean. But that didn't happen to me. I didn't have any toasters in secondary school. I didn't mind because at that age I dont know what I will use boyfriend for. In university same thing. I didn't mind as well because I know they will request s#x and I wasn't ready to give it to any riff raff so I kept to myself. But after school no husband hehe hehe. I pushed it to the back of my mind and continued hustling money. (I will come back to this money part).

As you may have deduced by now I dont like sex. And no I'm not gay. Out of the male and female s#xual organ I dont know which I dislike the more. I hate sex with my husband. Even with all my teenage fantasies of ending up with someone I love s#x was never part of my dreams. I probably thought of maybe cuddling or kissing. When I read chronicles of some women saying their husband hasnt touched them in a month bla bla bla I will wonder to myself what are these women complaining about I will gladly trade places with you.



When my husband wants sex I will put him off for as long as I can. Give him excuses upon excuses until maybe like two weeks later when I have run out of excuses and to keep the peace I will just close eye and do the do. I don't get wet. Never have in the six years we have been married. I will just lie tell him not to rub my body to get hard. Shebi he wants to have s#x so he should get hard by himself then come and have the s#x na. I rub the lubricant then I lie like a log dropping small small complaints like have you not finished, abeg dont injure me oh. He doesn't last long Thank God. Without condom like 40-90 secs. 

Yes I count. Im bored out of my fucking mind so I count the secs to keep busy. With condoms he last close to four minutes. Sometimes three. I encourage him to use condoms ( when he wants to do skin to skin) so he can last longer because I absolutely dislike the semen pouring into me at the end.

 I'm absolutely disgusted by semen. I see it as a waste product like you urinating inside me. The whole process of s#x disgusts me abeg. So I prefer three to four minutes of injury (cos s#x is injury to me) than washing of semen. After all these years with my plenty excuses can you belive he deludes himself by asking me at the end that didnt I enjoy it? Are you kidding me? Enjoy what! He is delusional. I know by now ya all will be thinking this lady is a demon abi. Let me finish my story.



My husband doesnt do jack shit for me. I take care of all my needs and some of the house own. A whole year he won't even buy recharge card for his wife then you expect me to open leg and do what when its not like I like s#x before. He was asking me one day which time will I ever ask him to come and have s#x with me. I told him either when pigs fly or when he starts taking care of his wife that the only thing he is offering me now is a dick which I dont need. He was rubbing my body one time like that saying he is trying to get me wet. I told him to send an alert to my account if he wants me to get wet. He is stingy as fuck. 

How can you buy N100 gala on your way from work and in the evening say you want sex? One time he even came home with 30N wafers. Yes you heard me right. N30 WAFERS and you want s#x. One time he forgot to wish me happy birthday (we only wish each other. He doesn't buy me birthday gifts so I don't buy for him as well) two days later he remembered that he didn't wish me and he said he will go and buy a birthday card later. Are you freaking kidding me? A Birthday Card?!!! Not even recharge card? Can you see how stingy this human being is? I thank God I didn't marry him because of money I would have heard weeeen. And before some of you say I love money, who doesn't love money here? What are you working for if not money? Why not collect a hug from your boss at month's end or a bag of rice and keg of oil? See money is bae. If you like say I'm money conscious, na you sabi. Its on this blog I see many persons listing the banks that deduct their money unlawfully.

 If you are not money conscious you wont notice when they take N1000 and come and complain on blogs. See enh I'm pissed. So f**king pissed when I read some comments on some chronicles saying the poster is just asking for money from her boyfriend. Why wont she ask for money? Unless she likes s#x like some few females she should definitely task her boyfriend. He should provide for her. Oh you want her to be giving free s#x abi?

See I hustled my butt off so I never had to sleep with any man for money. Yes. I hated and still hate s#x that much. How much will one boyfriend give me that will make me sleep with him. I know some of you may be wondering what I did. I came from an OK home. Not poor. Not rich. Just enough to see us through school. 

After secondary school I didn't gain admission till like two years after so I taught in a private primary school. How much was my salary then? 5k. Weekends I helped out at a hair salon. She would give me stipends from time to time. So when I finally entered school I had enough money I didnt need to look for boyfriend. And I didn't relent. I schooled in the west. Less than two hours to Lagos. I would go to Yaba, buy good first grade, come to school and sell. After my first year I opened a phone call business. This was the period when Lines were sold for 12k and above and a minute was 50N. I made enuf money from this I employed a young girl to be doing this for me while I faced my clothes business.



See I have worked in this my life. By the time I went to serve I had a good tidy sum that no corper could pose for me. I worked as a sales rep while serving I would also carry my stuff and market along. Thats how I met my husband. I usually market my goods to his office and others. I had friends in his office and I never gave him any eye because I was still hoping for someone that will sweep me off my feet. But as time went on I crossed 30, my company confirmed my appointment I moved on in my career got promoted. My salary over juicy . I made investments so I didn't have to hustle anymore. I needed to give birth so I accepted his proposal. He doesn't know my present position if not I'm sure he would have left more responsibility for me. 

He works in one of the government parastatals so its easy to know his pay. I can just go to NL and type in my question I will get the answers. He only covers rent and food and sometimes part of sch fees. I take care of all others because he wouldn't. Sometimes when his salary is delayed (you know how government can like to owe salary)and I have to step in for food and essentials he will now come and be requesting s#x. If you see the way I chase him enh. I will say oh because I have removed worries from your head you now have power to be demanding for sex? Abi you haven't heard no romance without finance?



He is the kind person that will cheat if he gets small change and knowing that I don't care. Thank God I have my cushion to fall back on. I know some of you may be saying why don't I leave. There is no domestic violence so I actually enjoy being married. There are some things men take care of. Before I got married I didnt have a car not from lack of money to get one but because maintenance of a car and me dont go well together. I cant bother my head with changing oil, brake pads, changing tyres all of those things abeg. I'm not wired like that. That's why the two places I lived in before I got married I ensured they were close to the road junction and had semi constant power supply because me and generator no way at all. I don't have power to drag gen. 

Neither do I want to depend on the gate boy to on gen for me.
So a husband is good for taking the car to the mechanic, putting on the generator, calling plumber or electrician, compound/ neighborhood meetings about security or water (I just cross my legs at home while such is going on) *shines teeth*



So I enjoy being married. I'm not sad. Too bad I didn't get my fairytale. Those that did are the lucky ones. Too bad also my husband didnt get a lady that likes sex. He would have been happier I know. Sometimes I wonder if I'm going to do this for the rest of my life. At what age do I tell him I cant have sex again I don tire. I'm almost 40 now. I wouldn't leave my home so don't bother suggesting that. Unless there Is domestic violence. My boys would be fine. What about my girls? We read here all the time about how females from broken home don't get suitors easily. I can vividly recall bv bitchpls saying back then that he couldn't marry a girl from a broken home.



So we gonna manage like that. I'm working for my kids so they can have a secure future. Not for one husband. He should learn to take care of his wife even if his salary is less than 100k. He has started following Bolanle (from Moments on Ebony Life Tv) on IG. I just look at him and laugh. He is always talking about how pretty she is. I told him she would never look his side. He is delusional. Abeg so many to type but I don tire. Before I go I'm sure someone will ask what I will do if my daughter does runs because I equate money to sex. Well I'm gonna teach her to respect her body and work for her money like I did. But if she decides to have sex before marriage it should be worth it. I mean if you are gonna sin why waste it on someone not worth it. I have nothing against runs girls as far as they don't do juju. All sin na sin. I wouldn't have been a successful runs girl so I didn't indulge in it. I lie like a log of wood so I probably would have been in the 2k range not 18million like Tonto. lol



If I leave this marriage I'm definitely not getting married again. I mean what will I use a second marriage for? To be opening leg for one man to injure me?

*WOW,i dont know what to say again..................