STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SIBLING BROUHAHA
Dear Stella.
Dear Stella.
Compliments and thanks for this platform. Pls keep me anonymous.
Pls I desperately need your advice and that of dear blog visitors. Pls try to walk in my shoes dear bvs as you advise. Thanks.
To my story,Growing up ,up till date, my father has this principle of your older sibling is always right even at your own detriment. And expects us all to practically worship our older siblings.
Naturally that gave rise to a lot of bullying and chancing by the older ones and I personally kept challenging that principle which made me a rebel of sort with my father.
Anyway as we grew older, we all embraced mutual respect and boundaries and forged along with each being the others keeper except an elder sibling whose life motto is "Live and let's die". She does not care if you go to blazes and will personally start the fire.
The holy book said a sibling is made for the day of adversity. So what happens if the sibling is the adversary. To cut the long story short, I have every reason to believe the sibling Na witch.
Now, I am saying that with full conviction, not because any pastor or Muslim cleric told me. I have been shown severally, and I kept thinking it was familiar spirits but believe me, I have strong convictions.
But for the purpose of this story and for the sake of bvs who don't believe in spiritual things like witchcraft,I will give a few physical instances.
When meeting" the one" was a bit challenging for me,my sister said all the places she went, she was told I am not destined to ever get married, so I should not bother and accept my fate.
I got married last in the family, after my younger ones and at each wedding including that of my uncle,my sister slaps me hot slap for no just reason. On my own wedding day,she did not slap me but poured hot jollof rice on me in my bridal gown because I went to ask my colleagues from the office be served as she refused to listen to my bridesmaid in charge of that.
As I was being wheeled to the theatre for my CS 10 years ago,my sister told me to better pray cos I cannot be sure if I will come back alive.
A day after my baby's naming as early as 7am,that 10years ago, my sister was in my house weeping profusely, to ask me to take her to the man of God that made it possible for me to get married and even give birth. She said she has issues in her life, and she needs that kind of super man of God. I told her no man of God oh ,it is God himself.
We are from the north central but my hubby is Yoruba. She also told me that she would have married a Yoruba man but she didn't want to leave home.
My people, this physical instances is a child's play compared to the spiritual ones but I want you people to advise me based on reality that is why I am telling you these ones.
About four years ago, I stopped relating with her cos her toxicity was draining me. I stopped picking her calls and she stopped calling me. I keep telling the family I am not keeping malice, just giving gap.
But my parents are on my neck. First,they both don't believe in witchcraft so I can't even tell them that. They are also aware of all I have said up here but they said I should forgive. I have told them it is not about forgiveness but just keeping my distance, but they will not let me be.
They keep blackmailing me and telling me I want to kill them. My father has threatened to disown me severally on this matter.
my father told me recently he will never contact me again unless I call my sister and apologise. I have been told to call my father and apologise to him but i have not because apologising to him will mean doing his bidding but I am not ready to relate with that sibling.she invades my personal space with negative energy.pls advice me. Thanks.
*what is all these nah?Is it by force to be friends with such negative person?
Is it possible for you to call both of them and apologise but still keep your distance?..tell your sister you are not fighting with her but that you would contact her when you settle down with what you are going through...don't tell her if she asks....just something to buy time whilst she minds hr business...
If it is too much.....just ignore them all for a while.....
Ordinary call not visit them physically and apologize right? Then do that and let it go but continue to keep praying because it could still be a familiar spirit using your sisters image to torment your life. When people say family is not blood this is what they are talking about. You have conqurrred every obstacle set so far, so continue to trust God to always win every battle for you. Call your sister and father apologize to them if that would get them and other people clamouring for it off your back. Pele dear
ReplyDeletePoster, I know what you r talking about. I understand your situation very well. This is my advise...
DeleteIt looks like child's play but never you go against the convictions you have from your spirit.
Also, in the spirit world, the moment you ask your sister for forgiveness, just know that you have accepted or agreed that you are wrong, and for this, whatever happens to you, take it, because na your fault. It could be death, it could be something serious but if you agree to forgive her (she knows what she has done, just know this), what ever she has been trying to do to you that has probably backfired will now affect you because you have forgiven her. Forgiveness here means you have exchanged the repercussions to be carried by you.
Furthermore, you may think your parents are deep in culture that's why they are always saying the senior is right, NO!.. Don't think so, your senior sister has transformed their heart to always be on her side. There is nothing you can do to make them change until the scales fall off from their eyes. Prayer is the only thing now to clear your parents eyes.
Also, your sistwr wants to know where or who be your back up (maybe the pastor or prophet working for you). The moment you tell her (that's if you have), she will access the strength of the prophet or pastor or whoever God is using. So just keep telling her its God.
Never reveal anything to her again.
Never call her for any celebration.
Be prayerful
Continue being prayerful
Just continue being prayerful.
Don't tell your parents anything you want to do because they will relate to her and she will monitor you spiritually.
I can't go on.. Have things to do.
God bless you.
Just to add this... Don't let her use your parents to get you..
DeleteTo add again, if someday she cones to you to apologise, don't accept.
DeleteYou accepting the apology, in the spirit they will change it against you and anything that happens to you, na your own o. So don't accept.
This is what you should do if someday she comes to apologise. Just tell her that you didn't know she offended you. Don't say you have accepted her apology.
If you accept, no blame anyone.
The ball is in your court. Play it well with wisdom.
Anon..this is deep.
DeleteANON 16:04. You have said it all.
DeletePoster, apologize to your father and insist that you need your space for now. Do not be deceived by her weeping. That was real tears from her heart that she lost the battle to you. She only want to cajole you with her tears for you to reveal how you got away from her grip.
Please, be careful, watchful, prayerful and mind what you say at any point in time.
poster, pls follow this anno's advise abeg! kogbagdi
DeleteMadam Estate owner, it's like you didn't get Anon's comment. Apologise to father for what? What will she be apologising for?
DeletePoster, don't call anyone and don't accept any apology. This is beyond the ordinary. Battles are being fought in the spiritual that you are not aware of.
DeleteIntensify your spiritual life, I did not say religious, I said spiritual. If someone cannot get you directly, they will use familiar people to do so. Not everyone walking on two legs is normal.
Do not call anyone, do not visit anybody.
The day you do is the end of you.
Poster; pls take anon comment serious!!!
DeleteMy sister is like that. She is a witch!!! Whenever she's in my space things get messed up
She has ALL my family in her palms. My Dad recently broke off her spell. Others are still spell bound.
There is nothing she has not done to humiliate and destroy my life.
For 8years now I hv not drank water from her hand. I maintain my distance. Always forming fake peace so I will be labelled evil.
Whenever she comes with her fake peace; i tell her i had no idea i did anything. Let God reveal his truth in d family. That is d only answer i gv her.
Pls don't fall for her scam. U will just die like chicken. Dem no get mercy for eyes in dir spiritual world o.
It's ur job to protect yourself. Do that unapologetically!!!
Sister from the pit of hell. She will never change, do as Stella adviced while still maintaining your stance.
ReplyDeleteFace to Face village people... my dear poster, Peace is very hard to find, if you've found what brings you peace, buy a bulk of it and use it wisely.
ReplyDeleteThat witch can kill you!
yur story is quite similar to mine. Very similar actually. But in my own case, I decided to think of myself first and take care of me first. My parents were mad at me for a while but of course now we relate very well and my brother is farfrom me...not because i hate him or anything, naaaa..... life is too short to live your own life for someone else not even your parents.... well, i hope that helps
ReplyDeleteSo far in your heart you hold nothing against her then pick up her calls.You never can tell if she's in trouble and it's your number that comes to her mind.
ReplyDeleteJust use wisdom to follow her and be spiritually alert..If what you wrote is anything to go by then fight the evil Spirit and not her.Help her by praying for her and taking her for deliverance.
O maro uma eme( she fit no dey do am with clear eyes).
I used to be scared of one chick like that cos anything I want to embark on and tell her doesn't come to pass.It also happened with someone else in my family..I felt this people were evil and later realised what i should be praying against is the Spirit of "Near Success Syndrome".
shes in trouble.. i be Police??
DeleteA wise Scadanavian philosoper said to me "One loyal friend is worth Ten blood relatives"... he was right! This is clear & present danger, you've identified the object of destruction, & youre keep your distance like a landmine, yet your parents are trying to play united nations between North Korea and US, youre Gods own country my dear, what can they possibly have to offer, after youve clearly jumped all their hoops, to their utter amazement! Plsss... who should be apologizing to who? KEEP WALKING like Johnny. If your parents dont agree with ur decision, keep walking!!! Its their design.
ReplyDeleteCorrect. Na from clap e dey enter dance na. From "call her to apologise" e go turn to "visit her to recharge her energy". Poster, borrow brain. No be all family be family o. Keep your distance. Get a new number. Stella na mother Teresa so she go want make you call for peace' sake as she dey tell Meghan. Na you know where shoe dey pinch you and nothing depresses like negative energy. Sister that does not want her sister's progress, is that one a sister? Let Meghan's story guide you. Stay on your lane.
DeleteI couldn’t agree more with you. We like to kiss a** and pretend everything is okay in this part of the world.
DeleteWhy would I want something to do with someone that wants only bad things for me , wish me dead and all.
Oxygen, you have said it all.
DeleteOxygen eeeeeeeeh...abeg chop kiss. Apologise for what! yes I am shouting...for what exctly...who wronged who...abegi poster relax..when whoever is tired of thier tantrums they will come back to thier senses. Don't and never apologise because you will have to do that over and over again...don't start what you cant' finish.
DeleteYou are really 'oxygen'. My sister RUN!! I repeat RUN!! don't look back and be a pillar of salt
DeleteHmmmm,this life sha. Same story with yours. My sister tried to stop my wedding by all means but cos of my stubbornnes,I had my wedding.She hasnt pick my calls since i got married and i don put her for BRT lane. I no get time to beg anybody.
ReplyDeletewhy she wan stop am?
DeleteHmmm, just go & make peace.,its simple,it doesnt mean u will dine & sleep with them,just do the needful & mind your business
ReplyDeleteThis chronicle get as e be o. I'm thankful for the kind of close-knit family I come from. Poster, keep her far away from you.
ReplyDeleteWow! First of all you sound religious (I may be wrong) but I didn't notice anywhere where you have prayed for this sibling of yours. In cases like this,let's not deceive ourselves,life is controlled mostly in the spiritual before affecting the physical. After all these years,her rivalry with you keeps manifesting. Apart from keeping my distance from her if I were you I would pray and fast with spiritual backing from your spiritual leaders so that you can get to the root cause of the bad blood between you two. The Bible says,for the battle is not against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers...there's more to this story than meets the eye. For peace to reign call your dad but be as firm as you can. You are now a married woman and obviously old enough to make decisions. His stern approach on matters like this can no longer apply except if you choose to. I just feel you shouldn't just shrug your shoulders and stay away;who knows where it will lead? Pls think about it and also pray.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes.
Do what you like,but remember that every action has its consequences.
ReplyDeleteIgnore all of them. You don't need that negativity in your life
ReplyDeleteYour father created this in the first place - Dominance of which you have become self sufficient and strong willed, thus disobeying him and ignoring your sister.
ReplyDeleteSiblings can be toxic when case of power sharing goes wrong -This looks to me like a case of a jealous elder sister raining on your parade.
Take good care of yourself and your own family - When your parents and siblings really need you, they will do the right thing.
For some reason your sister hates you and is jealous of you. She is a very toxic person and I will advise you to stay away from her. As for your father, phone him and tell him that you love him and respect him but it your life and you will live it YOUR way. The worst that can happen is that he disowns you. Trust me you will not die. He has already lived his life. Yours and that of your children may be at stake because of your sister. Be prayerful and do NOT let down your guard. Your sister will never change. Domineering and manipulative people never give up. They love control more than they love life. I have experienced similar to you first hand. I delivered myself through prayer and VERY FIRM action. They may shun you for a while. In my case it turned out to be the most peaceful and blessed years of my life. In the end they came back and more importantly we are cordial on my terms.
ReplyDeleteExactly!!! I hate fathers that do that whole ‘disown you’ thing. Pray and have peace, poster and if you do, then Do not be bothered by disowning threats, in fact, that will double your peace
DeleteAnd don’t do this whole fighting hard stance. Just portray that you don’t have energy for negativity
Just make peace with her for the sake of your parents but still keep to your distance. She is full of negativity and can't change over night.
ReplyDeleteLife! Poster, run and keep your distance. The day you reconcile with that your sister, the Grace of God that is sustaining you will disappear. God revealed things to you via dreams. Goodluck
ReplyDeletePoster, are you from Kogi? How is her career and financial life? What role is your mother playing in this?
ReplyDeletehow can a sister say such evil words to her sibling? cut all of them off including your parents. if they call greet them well. your parents are evil too
ReplyDeletePray for your Sister. Deeza at 15:52 is right. We battle not against flesh and blood... She's under the influence of some malevolent forces. It's good that you're spiritual and prayerful so have no fear. But you must stand in the gap for her. Remember that the prayer of a righteous man availeth much. There's nothing the name of Jesus cannot overcome.
ReplyDeleteFor some reasons my sister always wants to prove that she is better than me in everything, while we were growing up she and my mum used to take sides and insult me,well they still do. They made sure they poisioned my other siblings mind when I needed help during a financial crises. Well thank God they didn't help then because they would have claimed all the glory. Everything you tell them about your life flops, every plan never realizes, I just decided one day to put them at arms length and not disclose anything about my life to them again. Are they witches? Not necessary but the spirits behind them are evil and they keep the wrong company that they gist with that is never happy with anything good. We aren't fighting, but I have used wisdom to put them in their place and I know they gossip about me together. So poster, please do not apologize because you haven't offended anyone, also forgive her because that is also a weapon the evil one uses against us that we hold grudges so that our prayers wouldn't be answered. Be firm to your dad that you aren't quarreling with her and mind your business always...
ReplyDeletena wa for your mama. she is a witch abeg.
DeleteThis is a very dicey situation because the Bible tells us to ents our paparents that our days may be long but what they are asking you to do is not in line with your spirit so I suggest you fast and pray for God to soften your father's heart so he'll leave you be when you call to apologize to him but please listen to your spirit just keep your distance from your sister as you have done for years now.
ReplyDeleteUse long spoon to eat with the devil
ReplyDeleteWhy must you eat with him in the first place? If you no chop with am, you no go belleful?
DeleteDear Stella and bvs. May the good Lord bless you all real good. Amen. Stella,like you advised, I will just ignore my father's outburst for now. @doppleganger,just like a bv said, my father will never let it stop at phone call, he has already said he will ask me to come home to see her. I stay far from them .Oxygen,thanks so much. Deeza,pray for her to change or pray to God to raise me above her evil? anon 16.10-15, you totally get the situation, even though I left out the spiritual attacks from her in my post because of those that don't believe on spirituality. God bless you all for your advice. I commit my self to God's hand .Thanks so much family.
ReplyDeleteYou captured even the one I did not say.
In my mind everything you've said is not enough to end your relationship with your sister. Some younger sisters take this old sister troublemaking too far. I was gisting with my friend the other day that our older sisters are confirmed troublemakers .It's not just your sister. Sometimes they just do way too in the anger department. I've read what you said your sis told you about praying to come out of delivery alive. That's probably how she feels. Some people fast and pray with pregnancy because they are very afraid of dying. She even cane to beg you for pastor's number and admitted that she believes your marriage is going well and if she'd married from your husband's place, her case might be different .aapologize like your father said. You've taken this fight too far .She's not a witch. She just thinks she's your mother. Yes, you have to teach boundaries as you grow up but these first girls of the family are usually the last to learn. Call her. It doesn't have to be everyday.
ReplyDeleteRed flag!A won members tide.
DeleteIf you want to pray for someone going for an operation, you simply pray for or with them. No need to add that they may die there. It's your type that if your neighbour buys a new car, you will tell them that the car is accident prone instead of congratulating them. If anyone tells me to pray because I may not come out alive, as soon as I survive the operation I am cutting them off. You also missed the part where she took her sister's details to a "prophet".
DeletePoster you're either naive or guilty of what this OP's sister did.
Anonymous 19:18; like someone said maybe you are a member!All the symptoms here applies to me as well, same thing my sister did after I prayed and got a job and relocated to the U.K. My eldest sister wanted to know the Pastor that prayed the prayer! I have been battling all my life, all their kids that I am older than,are all married! I did not know early because I lived in London, Europe and America and I had goose pimples reading this! My dear the posters sister is a confirmed witch! Please stay away from your sister, cut the whole family off! You don't need them, me that I am even single believing God to marry, I have cut my family off! My own is not just the women, all my siblings are dangerous people! Very wealthy but very envious and Jealousy is a demon and operates with the spirit of witchcraft!!! I am even alive by God's power! She has cast a spell on your parents, so stay away from all of them and focus on your immediate family, that is your legal, spiritual family now! Every time they want to know if I have a man in my life! I have had more than 20 proposals, if not that I decided to be celibate they would have turned my life inside out! To be sleeping around , and every time they show concern like they want me to marry, but they are behind my ordeal! I had to fight all the spirit spouse powers through Spiritual Warfare!and I have been an SU from my youth, if not I would have been dead by now! Please love them from a distance!!! Even the witchcraft possessed sister, don't resent her, but let God judge her! witches never change and they have no mercy!!! Listen to Benny Hinns Demonology and Spiritual Warfare!!!
DeleteHmmmm I don't even know what to say, reminds me of when Toni Braxton said she loves her family cos they are family, but she doesn't like them and wouldn't relate with them if they weren't blood. I've had my fair share of toxic family members, my advise Divorce them, cut them off, but be cordial with them whenever you cross parts, after a while may take as long as years, you can all exist on your own terms. Your sister is a controlling narcissists with anger issues. She needs help, I hope your parents realise that and get her to see a shrink. She's also jealous of you, I don't know know the extent she can do and undo but best believe the heart of man is wicked. Keep your distance, but love them from afar. Help if the need be, call on Christmas day,birthdays, pray always! Cheers.
ReplyDeleteDon't fucking apologise for nada. Best you can do is to call and let her know you love her with the love of God and hold no ill grudges towards her,
ReplyDeleteMake a conference call with both of them. Apologize for nothing, it won't cost you a thing to let peace reign but never agree to meeting her physically.
ReplyDeleteBut you didn't offend her now, anyway for peace to reign, call them both and apologise but after then, stay on your lane Abeg. Don't let her know what is happening in your life, tell your parents you have done what they asked. Pls and pls, don't let her near your family or know your progress and be praying for her as well. It is well
ReplyDeleteSome things are better left the way they are, don't stir up unnecessary communications with her. Stay far away for your own safety and be Closer to God that's all that matters ATM. Be Wise and stay rooted in God. God's Grace.
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