STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TIRED OF LE BOO
I am tired of my boy friend !!!!
He earns close to 60k and is from a poor background though I dont really ask him for money becus he always tells me he is saving up for marriage. But when I want to see him he will start complaining that he is not giving me transport fare that I should sacrifice..
I am thinking he is a stingy man, I don;t want to get married and be the bread winner. he keeps telling me he is going to take care of me in future.
Pls BVS advice me make my case no be like acrimony own ...
*I dont get this,why will you visit your boyfriend and he must give you transport money?Do you also give him transport money when he visits you?What is this entitlement mentality all about?Geeeeeeeeeeeeez!!!
Even as a married couple,you must bring something to the table or forget that Union..You cannot keep expecting only one person to bring...you are scared he will not take care of you?what about working and taking care of yourself and letting the love breathe and free of heavy demands?
What's wrong with a guy giving his GF transport fare? He should at least do that now.
ReplyDeleteTypical naija ashawo kobokobo shouting feminism all over. Stella please tell them. I married from an elite family. Not this poor girls with poor mentality we see around
DeleteWhat's wrong with a girl visting her gf with her transport fare? She should at least do that now
DeleteAunty stop going to his house, let him keep coming to see you, when he gets tired of paying his own tp he will pay yours to come, or else he doesn’t really care about you
DeleteDon’t mind Stella and others that are yarning trash o. He is stingy and won’t give even if he has. You better borrow brain and leg.
DeleteI don't understand
DeleteIf he cannot spare small now, he will NEVER give when he is married.
DeleteIf you are ok being married to a chronic stingy man, fire on.
@push up, oil dey ya head. There is a difference between being broke and being stingy. But when a guy is broke and stingy, wahala dey o... Poster I think he is both. You better start picking your shoes and run o.
DeleteStella this lady is simply saying whenever she wants to visit him he will always say bring your transport fair ohhh...That's the problem. Entitlement whatever I can never have anything to do with such a person. Nonsense
DeleteWhen I dated my husband he was earning 20k but still he will give me either 500 naira or 300 naira for transport fare.. D only time he doesn't give me is when its obvious he doesn't have..
DeleteSometimes when I'm coming he will buy corn and pear or banana and groundnut and give me to eat.. D day he bought me OKirika pants for me eh,laugh wan finish me..
I do reciprocate too bcos I know his problem is not stinginess but poverty. We managed till life got better..
We are married now and he is earning a big salary plus d one he make through contracts..He still spoils me silly in a big way..
Poster ,Dat guy is very stingy.If ur man cannot spend a little on u during dating,he won't spend during marriage..Dis is how many women are miserable in marriage taking care of the home alone while their stingy husband brings nothing to d table.. Dont listen to Stella oh.. Taking care of ur family alone is no joke and there is no way to know if ur man will start bringing money in marriage.. Ask women that are family bread winners,they will tell u what they are going through..
How can u go to a man's house,after d pressing of breast and hammering of ur tohto,he will clean mouth and tell u thank ma? Ur body is not a charity home.. That doesn't make u a hoe..he must drop something at least a transport fare.. He is not ur husband..Ur body is not his rightful possession...
OK what if u want to buy postinor will u use ur money for that? After all d banging and squeezing,and using ur money to transport urself back home,u still use ur money to buy Postinor? Abi una dey use condom? Even at dat,stop selling ur body for free..
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DeleteAnon 18:49 So she should be selling her body for transport fare abi didn't she also enjoy the pressing
DeleteLol
DeleteAbeg on this I don't agree with Stella. Poster better wear that your sneakers and run with your heels hitting behind your head. Entitlement kor entitlement ni, why won't a woman feel entitled with a man she loves? Na who she go feel entitled with? Don't mind all dem stingy male BVs that will come under my comment to yarn pior or the independent BV madams that are secretly regretting being the bread winners that will come and be falling themselves, mtcheew...
DeleteTorh!@ push up.
DeletePoster that dude is broke and stingy. Better do away with him asap!
18:49 you where speaking sense until your 4th paragraph.
DeleteSo is she selling the fuck?
Is the money thanks for fucking?
The pear and corn and 300 naira etc you were given, was it thanks for a good fuck?
If you are expecting money after every fuck then you are a prostitute.
Simply create your fuck rates, so everyone will know where they stand.
Giving in a relationship shouldn't be based on the sex or any other factor. People should naturally be inclined to give. Should enjoy giving.
Stingy people please hook up with stingy people.
Entitled people should hook up with entitled people.
Leave normal balanced people alone.
Let the world have peace.
Yes she is selling it OKAY.
DeleteIf a lady you haven't married is sleeping with you, giving you her body which rightfully belongs to her future husband and not you.
Her body which you have no claim over as a mere boyfriend that you are, whether you pay or not then she is selling OKAY. Yes She is a prostitute and you are a THIEF for for having a carnal knowledge of a woman you haven't married.
Lets hear word or anything else. Anon 18:49 is so right
Some chronicles deserves this sidon look emoji🙉🙉🙉
ReplyDeleteI dey tell u.
DeleteYou already know his weight, if youre not comfortable marrying a man within that financial bracket, then carry your kaya na... theres always a richer man, na transport be your wahala? If hes stingy nko? with 60k a month, if hes not stingy you think he can do anything?
ReplyDeleteSo this one want to enter poverty with her koro koro eyes!..
ReplyDeleteAny man that can’t give you something as little as T fare go suffer you in marriage!...
Meanwhile 60k is nothing in this present Naija!...
If I am you,I would flee!...
I can’t date a man that can’t take care of me!...
She say the man na from "poor background". She herself is she from a rich background?
DeleteA lot of guys don dey look for girls from rich background to marry. That mean say, she no
go marry finally?
This your yeye advice them putting mumu young girls in trouble, flee whenever the money seems inadequate... those that married billionaires that ran out of the marriage without lookin back, you think its all money abi?
DeleteAny man who can't give u small from what his earning, my dear he won't change in marriage, rather he will become worse. I once knew a guy who was earning 40k monthly, I ran into issues and he gave me 14k tho he was asking me out but liked him as a friend only.some1 who genuinly likes u will spend ooo.unless u can cope with stingy leboo
DeleteI really don't know how much my boyfriend earn but I'm sure its not something huge... When he went for NYSC he gave me 5k from his first salary I rejected it but he insist on giving me through out his service year he sends me money every month. Since he started working he gives me money every month 20k at least from his little salary, After my service year last year he gave me 200k to add to what I saved to start a small business and my parents Payed for the space I'm using .. Now I'm doing my masters he rented an apartment for me and still send me money every month.... What I'm saying in essence is that it doesn't matter how little he is earning if he loves you enough he Will take good care of you.
DeletePlease continue the story...Now I'm 70 yrs, he is still sending me money. #nawah
Delete😂😂😂😂 anon 18:50.
DeleteLoll
DeleteFor this kind gist Queen n boss is always sense making, yes na so. Poster better gather sense.
DeleteMy dear, there is no love without giving no matter how small. Please tell me he is allowing you to stay off sex with him till after marriage.
ReplyDeleteFor God so love the world that he GAVE his only begotten son. Please run for your dear life. Marriage ko. Marriage ni.
Ggbagam. You nailed it.
DeleteVery true. Love is a verb, it is an ACTION word. For God loved ... and He GAVE. It is not about the amount given but the willingness to give
DeleteGo and watch acrimony.OK bye....
ReplyDeleteNonsense story.
DeleteA man should do something for you, no matter how little. Don't end up with a stingy man my dear you'll regret it cos the pressure is not funny, you'll end up fending for yourself and the kids.meanwhile dig deep and find out how he spends his 60k salary, you'll be surprised one chick is somewhere that's if he isn't married.
ReplyDeleteYou jumped into comment without proper understanding of the post. Awon "adivaser"
DeleteLol... Side chick with 60k salary? Lahor ooo... How can he maintain two babes with 60k in this buhari regime? The guy is stingy. Anyway some broke guys are like that.
DeleteSpotlight what did yellow sisi not understand?
Deletelook at this one saying yellow sisi did not understand.na you no sabi wetin you dey talk. do u know some guys are like that, dont earn much but will be giving all the money to a side chick? the poster might even be a side chick thinking she is the main chick...he might be with the poster for free sex or anything else...u will be amazed at what men do so forget....all i know is the guy is danm stingy...some men earn far less but give to their girls. whether we like it or not the male has been wired to take care of the female and will be so world without end. yes never expect your boyfriend to always pay your transport fare or other expenses when you have he is not your father...but a guy who likes you and is not stingy will give you even if you have or not
DeleteHe's earning 60k. From this money he will pay rent, feed himself and other things and you want him to give you inside this chicken change? Hanty, fear God o. If you can't cope, take a walk and look for someone that is willing to even pay for your undies. Namsense.
ReplyDeleteSo if he spares 2k out of 60k once in a while and gives to the woman he plans to marry according to her,what will happen?
DeleteHe will die ba?
Which kain broke stingy story be this? My people talk say na from smell of fart them dey use know how faeces go be. As little as tfare, story dey enter am. Anyway use your tongue count your teeth
ReplyDeleteHahahahsha you sabi am
DeleteI hope not to train my daughter to be dependent on a man. The more independent you're, the more respect you get and in turn, not every man can play with your emotions. Because men respect independent women. This ranter, could even be a graduate who sits and does nothing at home apart from uploading pics on social media. What happen to self independence? Work as little as possible to fend for yourself. And don't be entitled to a man for little things as transport fare
DeleteThis is not about being independent. If you have a woman look after her. A lil token even if it's only for hair goes a long way. You don't have to spend all your income on her but that's how love language you showing care by treating her. It's not rocket science
DeleteAnon 16:35, you've just stated the number 1 reason many black men shun black women. It's not the skin or hair. It's this stupid entitled ass behaviour. A man who is not your father!
DeletePlease of what value or asset is a black man to a black woman? Please Tell me. You people constantly sending black women to mental institutions because of your porus behaviour. If anything yall are the most selfish and entitled to have ever been born. You lot constantly disrespect,belittle,abuse black women, you want want the world from her but cant kill a fly for her FOH please
DeleteAlWays taking advantage of black women because we don't take the bull crap you dish out. We are not entitled we just know what we deserve. My father doesn't sleep with me or pressure me yet he takes care of me without expecting anything in return so no you are not my father. Take girl of a girl who invests time and effort into you end off! Poster you will be shocked that he is spending on another babe I guarantee you #stingymanalert#run.
Chai! See stingy BVs yarning dust. Poster listen to them at your own peril.
Deleterubbish talk...so giving a girl money for tfare is wrong abi? broke arse stingy he goats.....i had graduated and working when i met hubby...he was abroad and i never one day asked him for anything but he usedto send me stuff and even order cake on my birthdays...i was brought up not to depend on men or even others for that matter soi always took care of my own needs.. i knew he was a giver and one who will take care of his family. today 15 years later i earn a good salary monthly but he pays almost 80 percent of our expenses i.e rent, school fees, kids clothes etc..if he travels he buys me stuff and i do same for him...i never ask him for money to buy food or anything personal for myself or for the home i just do it cos i know he takes care of major bills and will always provide when he has. he even still buys food stuff when he sees especially if he travels by road...what am i saying? a good man will always give to his spouse...my friends who are in marriage today paying all the bills saw it from when they were dating...another thing is they all spent about 80 percent on their weddings.if a a relationship and the guy is always collecting money from you run...if he doesnt give no matter how small run....nof said lol
DeleteYou will get it all
ReplyDeleteDear poster, if you can't take the heat, then kindly leave the kitchen. Don't start what you can't finish. Once you start it now you will be end it. I understand what you're driving at. Dating a broke ass nigger can be so frustrating. If you know you know
ReplyDeleteExactly.
DeleteIf you start off as an independent woman in a relationship, be ready to maintain it all the way even up till marriage.
Same if you start up being a needy person.
Do what works for you.
Stella you talk because your not in this country ..forget men are wicked...topnotch#
ReplyDeleteIf men wicked na wetin you go call woman wey gather mind collect apple from devil eat?
DeleteAnd ladies are kind? What is she bringing to the relationship table? Must a guy give her transport like she can't use her money to go see her bf without a refund? If she's an understanding gf she would know 60k is nothing cause it's from that same money he feeds,use to transport himself to work and save for rent. So as she is she can't be able to take care of something as little as transport fare,it's her type that will also ask for pad money. RUBBISH!What is even different between this country when it comes to relationship
DeleteEccl. 7:28 while I was still searching but not finding-- I found one upright man among a thousand, but not one upright woman among them all.
DeleteAnd how kind are those that shoot off babies and suffocate those that escape their hired assassins?
Yes, we ladies do worse. . . kindness or wickedness has got no gender.
Hmmm naija babes and their entitlement mentality, na to just de follow them small small.
ReplyDeleteIt not just babes ooo, most Nigerians have entitlement mentality and it sad. Most families usually depends on one person. They don't care how you cater for your kids and nuclear family. As long as you are an elder brother, sister, or u are abroad... everybody expects you to help them, like it their right....Very sad mentality.
DeleteDey there dey wait for ready-abroad made. Mpama
ReplyDeleteStella YES!!!, He is suppose to pay her transport. here na naija nor be that abroad wey you dey.
ReplyDeleteposter drop that dude like yesterday's raw egg, yeye dey smell, he has nothing to offer.
Which constitution abi bible says that?. If as little as transport is her problem then she also got nothing to offer
DeleteIt is the same constitution that makes men believe they are entitled to the woman's body, looking for how to fuck everytime like generational dogs.
DeleteExactly my sister. How can you visit a Man and then he doesn't even give transportation fare? Haba that is wicked now, such men are stingy jor
ReplyDeleteHope she will also give him transport when he visits like the visit wasn't beneficial to the both of them,after you people will be shouting feminism yet una feminism no dey reach that side
DeleteGreedy Naija girls, always looking for ATMen. Even ATM, you suppose put money for bank before you can cash it.
ReplyDeleteHmmmm...
ReplyDeleteTransport fare?
Madam, I hope he isn't the over-saving type.
I had a guy who asked me out once and we got talking about saving one day and he said "I save a lot, infact there was a time back in school, I had a whole lot of money saved and yet I borrowed to eat, cos I didn't want to touch the savings."
That was a red flag for me. I save too but not that I'll let myself starve or borrow to put food in my very own mouth.
Are there other signs you are seeing that shows he's stingy?
The transport fare thing is dicey though.
Don't start what you can't finish.
loooool !!! BORROWED to eat when he had SAVINGSS.
DeleteAradite flag.
i would drop you like an album mehhnnn
This one pass red flag.
DeleteNa siren dey blow for this one head.
For those kind of people it is a strong sickness.
They can NEVER change.
They have o, but they prefer to beg.
They will have food stocked up o but they are knocking at your door like rodents begging for oil,tomato paste, rice, etc.
What happened to the one they have?
They are saving it for Rapture.
They prefer to eat other people's own and 'save' theirs.
It's when theirs has expired that you will see them reluctantly bringing it out to use.
When it has spoilt kpata kpata, bringing out maggots etc, the 'generous' ones amongst them will look for who to 'dash' or sell it to, even in that rotten state.
I say fleeeeeeeeee if you know that kind person. Na strong sickness wey dey dem blood.
It is that stingy mindset that rules their entire life.
Mind narrow like children's straw.
Noo no no, I totally disagree with you Stella. A guy should be there for his girlfriend. Ah ah even after doing all these things with the guy in his house? This is his duty as a MAN
ReplyDeleteDoing all which things? Is she selling sex that she's looking for payment abi it was only the guy that enjoyed it
DeleteAnon 16:01,When is not only the guys that enjoy it why do you guys act like your life depends on it?.
DeleteWas it not on this blog a lady commented she told a guy she was celibate and he blocked her?. Another was almost assaulted by her supposed boyfriend while being ill all because of sex?.
This argument of both sexes enjoying it doesn't hold water anymore since you guys always act otherwise.
Remove sex from a relationship and you guys will disappear and dont come here and say remove money women will disappear cos thats not true.
I am team celibate dated a guy and didn't collect pin from him because I didn't want him to demand sex even bought him gifts couple of times and lent him money he never paid back only for him to say he is tired of the relationship I said oga why nau?, he said the sex factor, hmmm, that was how I spoke to my leg.
Poster my question is does he show you care in little ways like taking you out and giving gifts though he refused to pay for your transport?,if no then you are dating a stingy person.
If money wasn't the case of girls why do dey stay put in abusive relationships? It's same girls that will call a guy impotent if he didn't make a move on them
DeleteSo you haven't seen girls stay in abusive relationships even where they feed and cloth the guy abi?. It's simply low self esteem abeg shift make i see road.
DeleteThey will say he's impotent,really? stale excuses abeg or are you trying to say, that's why a guy will block a girl's number who says no sex till marriage just to prove he is not impotent?. You guys are just sex hungry like your lives depends on it admit it.
Poster better shine your eye wella. A man that cannot give you transport fair to come visit him, that one na man?
ReplyDeleteIsn't that the mentality of most Nigerian girls?! They think their genitals should be worshiped. And interestingly, men be giving them hot hot since 1900
ReplyDeleteabeg abeg, Stella leave matta, as if you no dey collect money from your guys before you started making your own money. as she de go visit the guy does he not enter Jelusem abi the guy no say now money them the take clear the road to jelusem. girl abeg if u feel say the guy no fit take care of you in future leave him simple.
ReplyDeleteabeg transport fee is necessary joor... if he cant show care while you guys are dating, what makes you think he will change after marriage? hope you are not showing him you are desperate to settle down? so i go carry my two left leg pay my tfer make you come press my breast for free? no be as e dey sweet me, e dey sweet you too? abeg abeg abeg
ReplyDeleteBreast that is like slippers?! And while thinking about your breast, please Google and see how to keep your pussy clean. Most girls with entitlement mentality have stinky pussy. They don't even bathe well! Tufiakwa
DeleteSo transport fare is now care,some Nigerian girls won't kill someone
DeleteEXACTLY MY THOUGHTS....
ReplyDelete*Deep Sigh*
ReplyDeleteHow much is 60k biko?
You people dont understand the difference between stingy and prudent
You, how much do you earn? So you want him to slip 1k abi 5k into your hands each time you visit?
Have you asked of of his plans for the future? 60k is not even enough to take care of himself, talk less of family
You cant even be a breadwinner with this your mentality. You will nag your husband to death.
Are you an invalid? Better go and make money to take care of yourself and remove your eyes from someone's income
Is being a girlfriend a job that you expect reward?
Wait for a rich man that can afford to take care of you and foot cos what your boyfriend has can barely do him.
God bless You!!
DeleteMama Di Mama
DeleteMadam so you can swear on your life that your husband never gave you transport fare when you guys were dating. Make you guys they fear God and FYI they can survive with 60k...cox I never noticed where she mentioned the location of the guy do you know whether he lives in a village....
DeleteYou are right, but his family members must cater for themselves too. He is not entitled to take care of them.
DeleteNonsense
DeleteIt's hard for hungry girls.. To transport yourself too is a difficult thing.. Can't you find your way there and let him reimburse you instead of waiting to get money from him before visiting.. Shameful.
ReplyDeleteNa wa. 60k no go anywhere na
ReplyDeleteShe is obviously not working Stella, It is an African thing. I am a man and if my gf does not have a job it is only proper I give tp once in a while when she visits.
ReplyDeleteDid dey tie her hands and legs not to so something? How would she have been sorting transport fare to places if she didn't have a bf in the first place. Oga m sure you don't earn 60k if not you won't be saying this
DeletePoster na wa for you, all these demands and expectations on top 60k?
ReplyDeleteEven me earning 90k never meet my needs at the end of the month. Abeg leave the poor guy and go look for someone to meet your needs
LMAO. That is how one mumu girl was trying to make me her lover so I can take care of her. And I am a woman who is not a lesbian. I just laughed and blocked her. Like I don’t have things to do with my money, I will work and give you money. Because you are what? When I have not even given my own mother that kind of money. You de craze. Guys try sha.
ReplyDeleteIf I was a guy the moment you start demanding I dump you immediately. I have a boyfriend and highest he takes us out. I take care of my own bills and I earn well. Life is so tough these days that you must be an enemy of progress if you want to leech of someone else. You have a hand, legs and brain like your man. You better work and bring something to the table or he will find someone who is working to do that.
Does his name start with D and ends with an O. If yes then let me know.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how to chook mouth inside 60k salary.
ReplyDeleteLet me keep it moving.
You people are just annoying... Is it not on the same blog you people beg for recharge cards and giveaways.. Now everyone is belittling a man that earn 60k. Mtcheeew
DeleteNa wa. Na so my comment take vanish. Naija network.
ReplyDeleteMadam leave the guy if u can't stomach the lack of TP nah. Everything no be case biko
ReplyDeleteStella this guy is not ready to be a husband biko. If he can't handle something as cheap as a t-fare how much more when they get married. Then am sure he will expect her to split the bills into two for that is how they start.
ReplyDeleteThis is nigeria and those things are one of the things guy sort out in relationships not Germany where they go dutch.
I dated a guy once whose monthly salary was 60k and mind you he always paid for my transport and did a few things here and there without me asking. Till he got a better job and he started giving me money monthly without asking.
Trust me even in lack a man whose is generous is generous and you would still be able to tell the difference.
God bless you
DeleteRelationship is not by force nu, if you can't deal with it now, please walk away or stay and keep praying that he gets smt better, but he should be able to give you tfare once in a while nu and yes you are a Nigerian, so u must have entitlement mentality that boo must drop smt biko.
ReplyDeleteSocialmediaawardsng
To vote @stelladimokokorkus as BLOGGER OF THE YEAR
Text sma18 stella to 33352
It is best for you to leave.
ReplyDeleteFind someone else.
That your boyfriend needs to dream big. Earning 60k and from a poor background yet he cannot date someone with prospects. The only option he has is you.
Na wah
KING XOXO MYSTERY
the shadeeee.
Deletexoxo , are you saying the guy should upgrade ?
I can imagine using my money for salary to visit my boo. Hehehehe. Where I wan start from ??
ReplyDeletePoor people like us, na transport dey rush us!
As in my sister
DeleteThere is no love without giving.. how can you claim to love someone to the point of marriage and not give even as little as transport fare?? That's a serious red flag.. poster am not saying you're entitled to tp.. but shine your eyes! Your man is stingy, if you think you can live with that for the rest of your life.. All the best girl
ReplyDeleteGod bless you
Deleteand if see where the guy is dancing KAREWA on top of the girl you will have pity on her. broke ass. that was how one said am too money conscious, me too I told him that his too toto conscious
ReplyDeleteHahahahahahahahah
DeleteHahahahahahahh! Make l borrow D'Royalty laugh. Ikwaikwaikwaikwaikwaikwaikwaikwa. chei toto conscious ke?
DeleteStella!! Your Blog visitors are something else.
His not a generous person.
ReplyDelete60k no be salary na. its small abeg. make them dey do whatsapp dating
ReplyDeletelol !!!
DeleteYou people should stop Saying 60k is nothing....There are people that survive on less than 60k
DeleteMen should stop dating poor girls. make your money and marry the rich ones.
ReplyDelete@ SPOTLIGHT.....you want to train up your child to bE independent,when she starts dating a guy that is happy she's independent then he too relaxes,i hope you won't complain then....What about my boyfriend that can't account for the money he earns averagely per month cos na handwork him get,as he sees the moni he spends it,doesn't spend on me but can buy men in agbada aso ebi for friends wedding...he will find dat moni,But mine ehn,na to dey use am sing like bird for him ear,at the end I do my thing myself and he won't even apologize for not being able to provide.He'd just pretend like I never asked him anything. Same thing he does for subscription, he'd promise bt not fufil and he won't feel sorry.I will endure as per independent woman but if he doesn't av extra income,I say bye bye
ReplyDeleteAs a practical matter, he should give to. Many ladies are living with parents or roommates in Naija. Which means lots of the visiting is happening at the guys house. You have to help with to then. If not, shells be the one always spending when you guys want privacy. Not good
ReplyDeleteI thought we have established on this blog that broke add niggas don't have business with erection? Go make money first before having girlfriends
ReplyDeleteLadies these days are only about money, sex is almost transactional. High sense of entitlement. Most young ladies now, na men be their primary source of income.
ReplyDeleteYes oh. It doesn't usually end well when a girl or woman pays for going to meet man. He will abuse it!!! By thinking & believing that forever the woman will be cheap, door mat, mop, desperate & easy for him to manipulate.
DeleteEvery girl or woman looking for serious relationship or marriage must delete a man who is:
*stingy
*not willing to immediately include u as priority financial importance today & in future
*man with no action to share, give u any money or things of significant economic importance.
Yes this is a man's world! Better exclude the lazy, stingy, crafty man from marriage or long term relationship goals!!!
Otherwise u & ur generations will suffer poverty, broke life & financial hardships.
Stella, I hope you have read through the comments posted by your Bvs.
ReplyDeleteNow you understand the issues most of us guys have with the ladies on this forum.
They feel juts too entitled!!
You meet a girl on SnM and the next thing is to start asking for money. They won't tell you that part, they'll only tell you the part that paints them in a good light.
WHat are you giving him?
ReplyDeleteThis is just ridiculous expectation. This is the reason why some Nigerian men will throw money at their wives and cheat! Don’t go an hustle on your own, why can’t you see yourself as making more than wanting crumbs from any man! Marrying you will be a liability o!!
Keep kwayet!!!!.
DeleteNa una type dem dey use do window wiper for marriage well well.
Dey there dey form smart and independent. Mumu.
You women don't understand the psyche of the Nigerian man, which is as 'difficult' to understand as boiling water.
Once you understand, everything will be sweet.
Dey der dey form empowered, *yimu.
My opinion is this,when you are dating a typical Nigerian man, it's best you desist from taking the "independent woman" approach. Because if you start, he will feel relaxed and If eventually the relationship leads to marriage, that is where your problems starts. You will see him dodging responsibilities because you have trained him that way. At the end of the day you will see that you are practically footing the bills in the home. Nobody is saying you should be an Oliver Twist while dating but train your man for the future to have a sense of responsibility over you which will extend to your kids in future.
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