She was also alleged to have mutilated the corpse of her husband after killing him.
Offor, while being led in evidence by the Director of Public Prosecutions, Titilayo Shitta-Bay, said, “In the text message to her, I reminded her that our agreement was that she should travel first and take care of her health because she has a thyroid problem.
“We agreed that when she comes back, we will address the relationship with her husband and see if the marriage will work out.
“She sent me a second message that read, ‘I have tried.’ I called her several times, but she did not pick the locals. I sent Udeme another message asking why she did not pick my calls, but she did not reply till I went bed.
“Around 4 am, I got a call from Udeme’s mum that Udeme and Symphorosa had had a fight, asking if she should come to Lagos. But I told her that Udeme was billed to travel to the UK that day that she should exercise patience.
“I called Symphorosa’s younger brother, Andrew, around past 5 am; he did not pick the call. Later, Andrew called back and I told him that I received a call from Udeme’s mum.
“He said he also received a similar call from his mum the previous day that Udeme and Symphorosa were fighting. He added that they were adults and should be able to resolve their issues.”
Offor stated that Udeme’s mum called back and told her that Symphorosa was dead, adding that she started screaming until her husband came to collect the phone from her.
Offor, who said she had known the defendant since 1992 when they were both employed by Diamond Bank, added that Udeme was her chief bridesmaid when she wedded in 1996.
She stated further that since they met in 1992, they had been friends, adding that she knew the deceased at the University of Benin.
Offor said, “I knew the deceased for over 30 years; we met at UNIBEN and he was my elder brother’s friend and was even my elder brother’s best man when he got married in 1998.
“The deceased and the defendant got married in October 2014. I was present at their wedding; I was aware that they were having issues in their marriage and Udeme wasn’t happy. I knew because she confided in me last year that she was travelling to the UK to take some time off.
“She came back from the UK before Easter and she told me that Symphorosa wasn’t eating at home, so she did not bother to cook his food. I advised her to cook for him even if it was a small portion.
“On May 2, 2018, I saw Udeme; she had called and asked me to assist her to pack her things, so I drove to their house on Diamond Estate, Songotedo. We packed the things she needed for another UK trip and we went to a cinema to see a movie.”
During cross-examination by the defendant’s counsel, Oluseye Bamgbose, Offor said the defendant was a peaceful person and that for the 26 years that she had known her, she had never seen her arguing with anybody.
The presiding judge, Justice Asedayo Akintoye, adjourned the matter till October 30, for the trial to continue.
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ReplyDeleteJust like the film acrimony, she had done a lot for him, was probably his side chic for all those years before he left his wife, may have even done abortions for him.
DeleteThis her angry isn’t a days own, it’s built up anger, something must have come over her... anger is not a good thing I swear
Men that refuse to eat at home when they quarell with their wives are emotionally abusive men. They can drive a woman crazy with silent treatment. If you have an issue with someone, talk about it. She was a ticking time bomb. Plus not having kids would also make her a very emotional and mentally volatile person. You don't play around with such a person.
DeleteThe people I fear the most are quiet people that don't talk or make trouble. Their mind is so deep and unforgiving. Trust me
ReplyDeleteInfact run from them,
DeleteLet her face her own judgement that is my own.
ReplyDeleteWhen it gets to a point where you feel depressed and sucidal pls leave....
ReplyDeleteFirst of all am not even familiar with their names: symphorora, udeme,offor...back to the main gist, how do married people with issues allow things escalate to such level? If it isnt working out just walk out of the marriage ,give space ,may not be divorce but give yourselves space, the man can move out or the lady, go for counselling and if u miss each other alot and want things to work out again, u can start by going on dates and all that but once u see each other again and its toxic behaviour allover just know its the end and move on .All these violence are too much gosh
ReplyDeleteThat's the problem with holding back. The day you explode, disaster.Thats why it's good to voice out, even at the risk of being labeled a mad person or a trouble maker.
DeleteShe's a peaceful person why not remain like that now she's a murderer. Anger is very bad
ReplyDeleteHer philandering,community penis horseband would not allow her remain peaceful...now shes a murderer....
DeleteThe friend is trying to make excuse for her.
ReplyDeleteShe should have save herself this mess by walking away. She might not win this case.
ReplyDeleteAnd when some leave, the same world people will not allow them rest. They rather spread false tales of how she left because of another man than accept she did so for her own sanity.....
ReplyDeleteAunty Udeme, I blame you o.
You would have taken a walk.
I wish you did.
Anger is a very dangerous disease.
ReplyDeleteIt's really sad when marriage ends this way.
ReplyDeleteTwo people died that day.
I agree.
DeleteIts just so sad.At this rate, the best she can get is a jail term
How did it come to this. How can you allow yourself to get so angry that you can stab another human being. Why not gather the tatters of your dignity and walk away...now she will have to pay the price. She deserves whatever she gets. Justice must be served
ReplyDeleteHmn.....sound like he must have done something terrible and ridiculed her on top of it.
ReplyDeleteLadies, two lessons from here, if you must marry late marry right. Do not just marry because you must marry. obviously she married her friend's older brother's friend so it was convenient for all of them but then it was not right was her.
second is don't let anger take the better of you, if you find the relationship is not right and its bringing out characters you never knew you had yourself, just take a walk, people will talk for a while, in your front or behind but know you will be fine. You are better off as a free single than a jailed widow trust me.
It easy to blame this woman but I used to be in a bad marriage and I know if its bad its just bad, it can make you do things you yourselve never knew you were capable of....
I found myself in extra marital affairs while in it.
Me that was like a saint before marriage.
But I was young and I felt a lot of relieve being with the other guy because he genuinely cared unlike my then husband who could not be bothered about me. He was cruel, wicked, vindictive, manipulative, he was just terrible. I recently started reading about narcissists and I found that was just him. So I did it. It was terrible until I had to quit the marriage, I quit the marriage and I am at peace now but then I feel bad everytime I remember that I committed adultery but I am learning to forgive myself everyday
It is sad that they allowed things to get this bad
ReplyDeleteI wonder who this blog visitor is. I learnt she is very kind and even did Christmas giveaway last year. Okay, let the roll call begin. Who has been very absent from this blog since after this incident? I just wish she had walked away instead. This is a hard one. I pray the family forgives her. hmmmm!! Where is Ronalda by the way?
ReplyDeleteI have also asked after Ronalda, especially as she is supposedly a lawyer just like the accused.
DeleteSisi Eko too, where art thou?
The thyroid problem explains everything. Anyone having this disease have a tendency of overacting due to excess hormones being released in the body. Too bad it ended that way
ReplyDeleteCould also explain her inability to have kids.
DeleteThe thyroid problem explains everything. Anyone having this disease have a tendency of overacting due to excess hormones being released in the body. Too bad it ended that way
ReplyDeleteEvery people everywhere
ReplyDeleteI don't know why i pity this lady even though she did smthn unforgivable.
ReplyDeleteShe was this man's side chick for a whole 15 yrs. The man probably kept on deceiving her with marriage till she enter menopause. Maybe she is even TTC also at 48. She has endured alot just to be with the man.
Men be careful of these side chick thing, you mess up women pysche thinking you are playing games. Women snap o.
Just like my ex that I gave 5yrs of my life to. Promised me marriage, kids everything. I resigned my bank job just because I wanted to relocate to go meet him abroad. Said i will go for masters. This man was my whole existence,,I lived for him. I found out he got married to someone else abroad. He kept stalling my coming over. I had already resigned my job. I had noticed his withdrawal didn't know he had gotten married there. Until a friend of a friend told me.
Am I not justified to kill such a man?
She realised in the end it is wasted locust years with the man and her dissapointments and sense of loss took a better hold of her.
ReplyDeleteNigerian women please learn to love yourself!!! A woman with self love will not invest or bank long term emotionally, economically, financially, spiritually or even time wise with a man who is deceitful, have crooked tendencies from his past dealings and relationship with other women before you. What makes you think that if you don't fulfill his desires or unrealistic expectations that he will remain happy together with you at the end of the day?
Self love shields you from the temptation and desperation to become available or seriously involved in any self sabotage because you value, appreciate, respect and love your self too much and can never surrender your body, spirit or life to any dysfunctional thing or person.