I was driving one day and recognised a pregnant woman from my street and I gave her a ride.
She was quite a jolly fellow and we chatted away, told me she got pregnant before her wedding and that hurried the whole process (I no ask am o) and we talked about other pregnancy related stuff .It was a fun ride and after that day we became acquainted.
But nothing serious, when we ran into each other it was "Hope my baby is kicking? " "How are the twins? "
Then sometimes she might need my advice about something, still pregnancy related. Like when her legs were swelling etc. All this was when we meet on the street I have never been to her house.
Then I day I heard she had given birth, I called and congratulated her. The naming was during the week so I couldn't attend.
I had plans to go and visit her but I just kept procrastinating. Then one day I saw her in a shop and I went to greet her, I asked after baby and even joked that she was already looking hot. I noticed she wasn't her jolly self and I just assumed it was the stress of taking care of the baby.
Another day I met her and I could have swore she snubbed me, I started worrying abi na post natal depression dey do this one?
Then one day the owner of the shop where she normally sits told me that that lady have been talking about me. That she said since she gave birth I haven't given her baby anything.
I was so angry, walking home I started talking to myself.
Na me give her belle?
Are we mates?
Are we even friends?
When I had mine who I beg?
Then one day the owner of the shop where she normally sits told me that that lady have been talking about me. That she said since she gave birth I haven't given her baby anything.
I was so angry, walking home I started talking to myself.
Na me give her belle?
Are we mates?
Are we even friends?
When I had mine who I beg?
This young girl that haven't seen anything in life, she got married early no prayers made, got pregnant without trying. No medical treatment, no painful HSG, no going from church to church, no tears. Every thing just happened for her quickly
Why would she think I owe her.? Truly I was thinking of giving her baby something but now na to your tent oh Israel.
What is your stand on entitlement mentality?
Nawa for her. Shuuu!
ReplyDeleteTo ya tent oh Israel no be small..
Lmao na to your tent oh Israel sweet me pass for the full story oh. Poster u even try to be asking after Peoples children. Me i dont ask oh..even when u ask me about mine i answer fine not to be rude.
DeleteBut i never reply with how are urs. Wetin consign me with overload. I have enuf issues of my own, cos if u tell me say ur pikin never chop since last night do i have money to give u? Nope! So y ask?
I also dont make that stupid annoying request when eating: come and join me!
Wtf!?!! I cant be eating one plate of food and say come and join..makes on bloody sense.
If u really want to share buy two plates.
Hahahhahaha what if u don't have enough money to buy 2 plates?
DeleteShe felt u were friends already...maybe.
ReplyDeleteNo vex, buy her diapers n baby wipes...don't add money.
Daipers and baby wipes for wetin? Iya Ibeji doesnt have her own issues abi? Abeg make everybody face their basin for the market wey dey so.
DeleteShe has taken you as a friend in her mind maybe that’s why she’s angry
DeleteVery common with the Yoruba's
ReplyDeleteWith my name you will know that I am from Yoruba tribe before you people come for my head
Don't tribalise. Its common with Nigerians. Greedy set of people. Fear no g
DeleteFear no go let person travel out in peace. What did u bring for me na them go dey sing for ur ear...no sense at all
DeleteAs if u travelled with a basin of money to buy something for every one.
Pisses me off!!!! o
Not only yorubas, Ibos too. Key is minding your biz and not engaging in idle talk all in the name of forming Mr/Mrs Nice!!
DeleteMost Nigerians in general feel so entitled to other people’s success
DeleteWhy you no give am. Oya you started it, so finish it.
ReplyDeleteMy stylist self I always procrastinate. May be when I'm ready to do my hair. .
Na small pikin dey worry her
ReplyDelete..I don't get her vexation sha. Anyway, if you can just buy the baby something thereafter cut off.
ReplyDeleteWait oooo, her issue is not that you haven’t visited;her ishhh is that ‘you have not given baby something ‘
ReplyDeleteBrings me to the question;must we ‘give baby something?’ Can’t one just go visiting with goodwill? I’ve seen cases where people don’t even go to visit because they are broke and can’t get anything for the baby;keeps postponing and before you know it,they will be invited for 1yr birthday.
For me, I don’t stress it... I will definitely visit but bringing anything for baby depends on my financial position....
I can understand her pain. She felt that you guys are already friends. There is no harm in getting her baby a gift. You can cut her off after that.
ReplyDeleteIs not by force to gift a baby something, I had a friend who kept complaining to me all the time after my wedding, that she bought aso ebi for the wedding, that she bought cloth for bridal shower, that she left her shop and attended my wedding. She said I must buy her isi ewu with beer else anywhere she sees me she will disgrace me.
ReplyDeleteI tot she was joking till she started disgracing me anywhere she sees me, mind you during the wedding she was the one that made my hair, I paid her 20k not as if it was free hair, she ate enough during bridal shower, during the wedding she ate and also got gifts, so how come she is saying I am going to still host her?
For peace to reign and for her to stop embarrassing me, I called her one day took her to a joint closet to her shoe, with some of our friends, I bought the 5 of them plate of isi ewu, pepper soup and drinks, I spend more than 10k, after the whole chopping, I then asked her sabi I am now free to move around, you will now allow me to have peace of mind? I forgot to include that when she gave birth, I bought expensive gift for her baby, yet she keep asking me for isi ewu cos she bought aso ebi. I still make my hair at her place, some people are just like that expecting much from you. Buy gift for the baby and forget about opening teeth with her.
hmmmm........ It's a major issue that is tearing relationship apart .it's worse among Yorubas, and yes I'm Yoruba... No sentiments here. It's a mindset thing and upbringing definitely plays a role... parents will have six kids and can only cater for the first three children, once they are out of school, they start sponsoring Their younger ones..... Most siblings are at war with their elder brother, especially the first born of the family, all because they expect too much. They transfer the aggression to their brothers wife and kids. It's very unfair, plan and have d number of kids your resources can cater for.teach your kids no one owns them anything, if anyone gives you 5 Kobo appreciate it, don't feel it's your right, except it's your salary. Your elder ones can only support you at their own will, you are not their responsibility.....they go out their and act like everyone own them a lot . Life is peaceful when we expect less from others..
ReplyDeleteSo i used to drop off my neighbour at work daily until i went on maternity leave. When i put to bed, she called but never visited. So I resumed work after 4 months and its to your tents oh Isreal.
ReplyDeletePerfect.
DeleteIya Ibeju et al. I believe your position is because of the bad economy. But as Yoruba people its two ways. Nkan omo is never too small. Just 1k inside envelope will settle all this. Plus when you visit a yoruba family wey just born they feel compelled to entertain you too. She spoilt is by reporting you and also giving attitude. Nor vex.
ReplyDeleteMe nko, just because I travelled last year and I didn't buy anything for anybody, people are sending me messages saying I must buy something this time o. And I am calculating....if I buy a bag or item of $20 for 20 people, that's $400 already o. More than 100k naira. Did anybody contribute to my ticket money or even give me shopping money?
ReplyDeleteSame with Car too. You will change car, people will be disturbing you to come and wash it, but they won't be there when you are spending money to do papers and other things. I just tire for Nigerians.
Iya Ibeji, I enjoy reading your series.
ReplyDeleteMy next door neighbour that I did a lot for before my wedding,pregnancy n birth of my baby did not offer my baby one biscuit self.i was so angry but hubby told me that I should forget it giving is not by force lol then I almost stopped giving to her n her kids too but hubby continued
ReplyDeleteThis is my pet peeve. If I start writing, I won't stop so I won't even get into it. Why do people feel that you owe them anything? My rich uncle should send me for masters abroad, my rich aunty should get me a job in their organisation else they are wicked.
ReplyDeleteLet me stop here before I really go into it.