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Monday, May 13, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

Na wah for wah!!!










STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRIED TO A LIAR


Hello Stella,
Please help me post as soon as possible because I have a week to decide and I need opinion of the blog visitors and yours as well.


This is my story, I married a man that I don't know too well especially about his financial status. I am a hard working lady and worked so hard to help my family but at 35 years I was still unmarried. I came from the part of the country where it's a big problem for me to be single at such age despite having a good job. 



My younger ones who I even helped through school all got married and relatives and especially my parents were so worried. Even as a good Christian lady some couldn't understand why I was still single and had to give it so many names. I got tired of even praying and continued with Charity. So when I met my husband,I was convinced God had answered me. 


I didn't want to date him though he proposed immediately too. I had my suspicion on his finance but I was working so I had to over look his lies about his finance. It's been 3 years and I have a 2 years old child. My hubby cannot feed himself left alone feeding us. But the issue now is that my company closed the branch I work and paid off all of us working in the branch. A pastor saw my hubby in an occasion and picked interest on him that his future is so bright and want him to travel outside the country. He even got my hubby rich kinsman involved. The issue now is that he called me some days ago that he need me to contribute 1 million naira to the travel. Honestly, that is all I have now. 


After my child I didn't want to give birth till things change but the same Pastor convinced me to take in again that it's not good to wait till we have plenty money. I will be due in few months for another child and all bill is on me. The rent of about 350,000 is also waiting for me,the hospital bills(the anti natals,delivery bill as I pray it won't been another CS and to avoid that registered in a good but expensive specialist hospital) ,day to day family expenditures including school fees for my child and 7 year old play mate to my child ( house help).


 I haven't even bought anything for the new baby. I intended to use any amount remaining to hustle to take care of the family. I don't tell people my problem so no one even know how bad it is for me. What do I do? If I didn't respond to Pastor who is trying to help, it may look as if I don't care. If I give all I have what will become of me and the kids.? Even if I give up all and suffer what if my hubby disappoints me?

Yes I don't trust him because he lied to me at the beginning and still does. Please kindly advice me.





Hmmm,he must have planned with this Pastor..............Abeg dont give a dime to anyone other wise you will regret it......This Pastor is too involved,how come he knows you have money if he wasnt told?dont give a dime to anyone!

129 comments:

  1. Seems na dem be that. Looks like a planned work.

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    1. DO NOT GIVE HIM THE ONLY SAVINGS YOU HAVE LEFT.
      YES I AM SHOUTING!!!

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    2. MY OPINION!!

      THEY WANT TO RECK YOU..

      AS IN THEY WANT TO FINISH YOU..

      THEY WANT TO SCAM YOU..

      ONCE YOU DROP THAT MONEY, THATS THE END.

      HE WILL RUN AWAY AS FAIL TO TAKE CARE OF YOU..

      DONT GIVE ANYBODY A DINE..

      KEEP YOUR BANK DETAILS SECRETLY, YOUR ATM PIN, YOUR BANK STATEMENT.

      PRAY THEY DONT EVEN POISON YOU. WATCH WHAT YOU EAT, DRINK OR COLLECT FROM THEM.

      IF POSSIBLE TELL YOUR MUM ABOUT IT.

      POSTER BE CAREFUL OOOO.. ONCE YOU DROP MONEY.

      YOU

      ARE

      GONE.

      DONT

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    3. I was one of the people who had doubts about Chris Attoh yesterday so I am learning to proceed with caution...
      A. It might be a planned scam.
      B. The Pastor might have honest intentions but I've seen where Pastors scammed people for visas.
      C. A man who lied to his future wife about his finances is hardly to be trusted. He has no integrity and might abandon you when he gets there.

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    4. Can’t waste my advice because I know poster will still end up giving the horseband all her money. So good luck in advance poster.

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    5. Poster abeg give ya horseband the money.
      I'm sure you knew he was a lazy broke a#$ but you needed to be married, so settle oga.
      No de shift goal post for middle of the match.
      Most lazy jobless broke guys marry advanced ladies to chop una money, so poster pay up asap.

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    6. Travel out to where? As what? He is not going anywhere. You've lost your job and they want to drain you. You got pregnant again your wish because pastor told you to. Go and submit the list of things to buy for the baby to him na. The way people let these fraudsters put them in trouble is unbelievable.

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    7. Why do I feel this is a plan to scam you?

      You say your husband is a liar?

      You cannot believe a liar right?

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    8. From this moment onward, leave that church, never return to that church. Do not answer the pastor's call.

      Most importantly, let your parents and siblings know your financial and marital situation. You need strong pillars

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    9. Be wise!
      It's obviously a planned work🀦. Don't give anybody your money. Your husband is not even considerate🀷. He's not even bothered about what will become of you and the kids when he's away. Na wa o

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  2. I don’t comment often ooo but I beg u in d name of God don’t give pastor or ur lazy husband any money, tell dem u don’t have and act like u don’t pls pls pls be wise cos u would regret it if u use your money to send that man abroad , how would he get permanent stay abroad? He would marry someone or give person belle ooo after u don give an money travel to go meet another woman!! Bible said be wise as a serpent

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    1. Dear poster, if you haven't listened to any advice in your life, please listen to this...
      Do not give that pastor any money, I have heard a story like this in my fellowship, where the husband planned with several people in order to dupe the wife, do not risk it for a minute, your children's lives are at stake.
      No matter how hard Nigeria may be, there are various jobs your husband can do to provide for his family, moving abroad doesn't mean that everything will change immediately.
      Please, do not give anybody one naira, pastors aren't to be trusted either.

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    2. Abroad may even be Ghana where he will be sleeping and waiting for manna to fall.

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    3. See, once i meet anyone and he intoduces himself as Pastor...a wall goes up instantly! I am 10x on guard of what i see, what i hear, what i say and what i feel. I mean to me ALL Pastors are scam. I dont blv God called any of them than He has called me and absolutely NON of them has superior spirtual capacity than i do.

      Poster, your money, kpuchikon! Adushi!!!
      Wake up one midnight screaming u saw the pastor butchering your husband.

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    4. Your husband is sick and a psycho. He can’t work in Nigeria, it is abroad he wants to work. Why are you the one carrying all these responsibilities? Why?
      You have made your hubby comfortable with his laziness. Why on earth are you paying for the hospital bill and baby items? How can you’re singlehandely going to pay 350k for rent? Why can’t he contribute too? You better look for a smaller apartment and time to invest that money wisely, learn a skill and start a viable buisiness with just 100k and see how it goes.
      I have no words for the pastor, but RUN πŸƒ‍♀️ before they start using Jazz!

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  3. You are about to be scammed.

    Scatter DAT money by buying stuff for ur baby n save some, maybe show him just 50k remaining....

    Its a scam..don't fall for it.

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    1. Boy oh boy!
      See broad day light scam.
      Don't even fall for it. Start breaking down the money NOW.

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    2. Don't mind her. At 35 she is not still smart. How in the world do you tell a lazy man you were settled millions at work. I guess you are part of those "i must tell my husband everything". That Skye bank worker was killed by her hubby becos she didn't give him her allowance from work.
      Is your husband disabled? He can't go and do uber and raise his own travelling cost.
      You better go put that money in a fresh account your husband knows nothing about. Put it in fix deposit. Open a private Email account your statements will go. Don't do text alert nor Email notification.
      Keep maybe just 100k with you and look for an excuse how you had a loan at work you had to pay back.
      How can you be feeding a grown ass man. My husband will rather work to the bones than ask me for money.
      I can't stand lazy men in my life. You better lock up and do IUD after this baby and stop letting these scam pastors ruin your life. This is a planned work between them. Don't give that man 1kobo. Save for your kids and your needs only.

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    3. All these karishika pastors eh.
      Ruining people’s lives and homes.

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    4. "Pastor convinced me to take in again". "Pastor saw my hubby at an occasion and picked interest in him". Africans stop allowing people manipulate you in the name of PASTORS.

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    5. Poster, Please if you have an account that you do not have an ATM for, transfer the 1million naira to the account and proudly say you are broke your emphasis on Proud if not the Pastor and your lazy ass hubby will ruin you.

      P.S you are 35 years old, can’t you think on your own, is the Pastor going to help pay for child care or you actually desired to have another child and the Pastor just told you what you wanted to hear.

      If you love yourself and kids put your damn self and children first.

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    6. "Pastor convinced me to take in again". "Pastor saw my hubby at an occasion and picked interest in him". Africans stop allowing people manipulate you in the name of PASTORS.

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    7. @Beds&Roses. Its not all maeriages were couples tell eachother everything that ends up like that skye bank staff. Dont generalise. There are good marriages out there.

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    8. @saphire you see where I emphasized "lazy man". You don't tell a lazy jobless man you have millions. His eyes will be fixed there for you to set him up. That is what happened to the skye Bank Staff.

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  4. Ah! Madam you are about to enter one chance if you release a dime to that man. He would leave you and you would be left with nothing. Start demanding asap. Demand for even soap and pure water. Let him man up as soon as possible. Mark him seriously, no breathing space please. Don't give in to emotional blackmail. You would triumph at last.

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    1. Take Stella's advice do not give that pastor a dime ,is planned work with your husband,you are about to be scammed shine your eyes.

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  5. That pastor is a crook and he has joined forces with your husband to dupe you.
    Do not give them a dime or else you will regret it.

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    1. The advice the pasto gave us not bad. If you’re 37, why wait for plenty money before having another child. The pastor didn’t do anything wrong in advising her to get on with it. Now her husband says he wants to travel. If she can help what’s wrong with that. Many of our Naija brothers seem lazy till they go abroad and can get job
      Job in naija is not easy. Not everyone doing nothing is lazy. Madam it’s up to you

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    2. Anon 16:11,you are a thief,shut your mouth

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    3. Are you for real? Give him her last saving? You must be joking!

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    4. Welcome o fake pastor! It seems the pastor on Poster's case is a BV.

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    5. 16.11 even if she is 37. Both she and her husband are jobless for now. She was let go. Right now is not the best time to be adding to kids,37 or not.
      Their baby is just 2 and she has alot on her shoulders. Bringing in another child isn't a wise move.
      Let's even say she was still gainfully employed,fine. Since she's the one feeding the husband too the last thing she needs is another child in a shaky marriage. But the baby is almost here. Let her lock up after.

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    6. Haba anon,fear God, she should give him her last when she has kids, like you will do same.

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    7. I laugh in Spanish. No wonder some of these men here say they’ll be sending money Homs but they are done with marriage to their wife you mean you can let your husband travel to the abroad without sourcing out every lkobo to help him
      When his family finds the money now you’ll say they supported him leaving you. Keep it. That money is about to be chicken change when he reaches his destination and settles down . In a bid to be careful, better don’t play yourself

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    8. Pastor,Pastor so you're a BV?madam don't give them any dime,because he is aware your company paid you off ,he wants to collect everything and 'jappa',its obvious your husband is with you for the money.

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    9. Beds it looks like she favor pregnant before the lay off
      If my money can take care of my baby I’m not waiting for my man to make money before I get pregnant at 37
      Na simple biology. His money will meet us in the way

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    10. @Anon 17:34. I believe you are the husband or the pastor. You are very wicked. She should give that money to her husband so her kids will starve to death huh? So a man can decide not to send money to his kids, just cos the woman chose to use the remaining money she have to cater to the kids, and not give to him. Why should it be the lazy idiot who travels? Isn't it the woman who is hard working who is suppose to use the money for business? Every lazy person I know who travelled's laziness doubled, especially Nigerian men.Madam, don't give the money to that idiot. Shameless man, how can a man comfortably stay home for a woman to take care of him? So after feeding and sheltering him, she should still give him 1 million?

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    11. Anon 16:11 😨😣😱. Thief.

      Poster don't ever release a dime. Nonsense and Tinubu 😣😣😣

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  6. POSTER THE PASTOR IS A SCAM!!!!

    YES I'M SHOUTING.
    HE IS A SCAM.
    DON'T GIVE 'EM A DIME.

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  7. Poster we have said it on this blog countless time that you guys should stop patronizing all these Yahoo pastor. Ain't you a bv again? My dear DO NOT give that pastor any kobo. Save your money for future expenses. And that your husband is a shameless gigolo, he only married you for financial benefit but then your desperation to settle down clouded your reasoning. I hate lazy greedy men like shit.

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  8. What is in the air and affecting women?
    This marriage and relationship is really a do or die affair for some of you women. So when he travels abroad, he’d go and pick money on the floor or what? What are you even saying? Do you think at all? I’m tired of all of you because everyday people bring almost similar stories and we spend time telling you the truth. Instead of learning from others you’d still bring the same smelling stories for us to analyze. E no dey tire una? If the Pastor means well then ask him to lend you the money to give your husband or still send your husband to the pastor. Tell Pastor to lend you the money and you’d pay back when your husband makes all the money from his bright future. Afterall if your husband becomes a zillionaire (in his dreams) he’d give the fattest offering and tithe.

    Look here young lady just in case you have ears, listen and know that your husband has planned with this so called Pastor to take everything you own and abandon you. That man came into your life to leave you with nothing. So what if your younger ones and even unborn babies are married before you? Isn’t being alive and healthy more important than getting trapped like you are in a marriage? Rubbish, everyday the same bullshit.

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    1. Honestly, I didn't want to comment before. POSTER TAKE DOPPELGANGER'S ADVICE AND START APPLYING IT ASAP! TO ADD TO THIS, MOVE YOUR MONEY TO ANOTHER ACCOUNT IF YOU HAVE ANY....THAT IS IF THE THIEF IN THE HOUSE (YOUR HUSBAND) ALREADY KNOWS YOUR ACCOUNT DETAILS. INUKWA END TIME HUSBAND & SCAMMER PASTOR. ODIEGWU!!!

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    2. A marriage that started with lies, is it worth the risk. I bet you, he will collect the money and still not travel. Tell him to borrow money else where or pastor can help him as well. The man knew you were being compensated so he too wants to reap you off your hard earn money.
      Save your money for your kids. Must you live with a man, after all everyone now knows you are married, let your hubby do his worst if you refuse to lend him the money.

      Summary don't give him the money.

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    3. Respect ojare, Doppel.
      The one wey off me pass na where the pastor encourage her to take in again. Like, WTF!!
      Like the dead-ass lazy husband can shoulder the responsibility.
      Bright future my smooth yansh. Mtcheww

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    4. KAI!! Dopple u get much wisdom. Poster pls don't answer them else you would regret it. Imagine pastor telling you to tk in, the same pastor still wants oga to travel out na wa o. He is not hard working in Nigeria shey na for abroad him go become hardworking ni? Nonsense

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    5. πŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ™ŒπŸ‘Œ

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  9. Do not allow any pastor to control your life!
    Use the money you have to take care of your self and then set up a pretty business after you put to bed.God will give you a better job.
    It is well with you.

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  10. My dear, follow Stella's advice. These people are playing on your intelligence. Play along, but don't give a dime. Inumerate your expenditures and other family financial burden you are carrying to the Pastor and don't stop singing it.
    Damn the consequences with your husband. He might tag you a bad woman, wicked woman or even threaten to leave you. My Sis, no matter the consequence, keep your money.
    What's d probability that if he goes abroad and see a richer babe, that he won't cling to her and leech?
    Be wise.

    Moreso, you have to think of investment or a business. That money needs to keep producing other monies, if not, soon, there will be nothing left.

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    1. Exactly!

      Poster I beg you in the name of God, forget sentiment and 'he is my husband'. Save your own head first! Use whatever is left of your money to start a business, even if it's selling pure water in bags or selling crates of mineral. You need a steady source of income, if not, see you see hunger.
      Your husband should not go any abroad, he should sit in Nigeria and hustle for himself and his family.
      Which kind of wickedness is this for Christ sake?

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    2. Infact if anybody must go abroad, it is you, as you seem to be the hustler.

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  11. Your husband is a BUM, sis. Supporting him right now with all of that financial burden is a lose-lose situation.

    Use your money wisely cos you are on your own. Keep ya head up!

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  12. Madam no too much talk. Keep your money and face your children .

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  13. Please dear poster don't give any one kobo. Why can't the pastor help him source for the fund or why can't your hubby source for the fund else where since the pastor is so sure about his bright future. Please dear they are planning to defraud you of your earnings.

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  14. I only saw the 7 year old house help.
    Na wah

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    1. Me too. Isn't that child abuse? I'm surprised everyone is overlooking that part.

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    2. Poster said the househelp is more of a playmate for her kid and I choose to believe her.

      Let's not read too much into things.

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    3. She said play-mate. Abi una no hear that one. She only put the house help, so you guys can know that the child stays with her, but No you no read that one. See as una mind dey.
      So you cant have a young nephew or niece stay with you?
      Judgnias!!!!

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    4. She said playmate to her child.

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  15. Poster abeg shine your eyes o! Keep your money for yourself and Kids.
    Don't go suffering for man who will not work out things to sort his problems ,he should sort himself out. You don't need all the stress and issues in your condition.

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  16. Invest in yourself as you're your best investment..

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  17. Poster,don't give him any money. Focus on your kids and think of how to move forward with your life as a single mom. One question; your househelp is 7 years old?

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    1. That's why she said her child play mate

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    2. Thank you,she said "playmate"

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    3. If the 7years old is your child's playmate then its disrespectful to call the child "house help"

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    4. Calling him house help is disrespectful.

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  18. Scam! Scam!! Scam!!!

    Woman be wise!


    Lazy men disgust me sha.. can't deal!

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  19. If you release that money for a travelling that isn't certain then it means your village people are indeed after you.Just remember that little boy that needs the mother around and receive sense.

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  20. Keep your money to yourself abeg...and pls downgrade ur accommodation to a 150k per annum rent..

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  21. DO NOT part with your money. Let his bright future manifest in Nigeria. Its a Scam!!!

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  22. They tie up heavy, cumbersome loads and put them on other people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them. Matthew 23:4
    I don't know how you ladies allow these Pharisee pastors to run your lives. The future of a scammer you married is "bright?" and the person suggesting he goes abroad is not bringing a dime?

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  23. Look at what Jesus told these Pharisee pastors:
    “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when you have succeeded, you make them twice as much a child of hell as you are. Matthew 23:15

    Why do ladies always succumb to deceit; why? Why?

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  24. Please for the sake of the future you’re looking up to having in peace. Please don’t carry any money to your husband. Tell him you have deposited them severally already for hospital bills you sent some to your parents etc just find a crucial excuse to give. That your husband is a very terrible person and also the pastor is part of the whole scam some evil people bearing pastor. It’s a title and not a personality it’s only a name that anyone can answer presently which we have attached so much sentiments to. If you give your husband the money or not when he gets there I doubt if he will return or be the same if he can be acting this way over the years. God help you.

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  25. Don't give him a penny...A man who can't take care of his family is worse than an Infidel...so says the bible not mee....Cunny man die,Cunny man bury am...He came for the money and nothing else..why would u even allow an outsider dictate when to take in ...hmm. ..better close ur legs n tie ur womb together. ..2 kids are enough giving that u r the only one in charge right now .Why can't ur hubby's rich relative help him????what's does he do..no business or job???wow..so u didn't investigate properly or what....nawa ooo. .one chance be this oooo

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  26. Here’s your problem. If you say no and he succeeds you’ll forever be the bad wife that didnt support him. Instead of arguing , first pay your rent even if it’s early . That will bring the money they are all looking at down to 650. Next save some for feeding and possible cs. If you’ve had one cs, chances are high you’ll have another. Third ask him to let you know when he’s ready to buy the ticket and you’ll donate whatever you can afford at that time. The abroad hustle is real. If he’s really going be sure to add your few kobo as long as the donation won’t put you on the streets . If you have somewhere to stay and you can donate the 350k then do it . Do all this after making sure he’s really going. No will he br loyal and take care of you if he’s successful there? Honestly only time will tell
    But I’ve seen guys succeed here and then bring their wives just because she stood by them. Yes they slept with others till the wife came but they still brought her and I’ve seen others leave and marry someone else

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    1. SHUT UP!!!posters husband spotted 😏😏😏😏

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    2. Haba the way she described him do u think he can type like that

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    3. Another thief spotted,ode no e

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    4. I pity anyone who takes advice from you.

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    5. Poster , read the above comment..
      Trade carefully

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    6. Some of u don’t read between the lines
      She said he has a rich relative. Her money alone won’t send him abroad. What is wrong with adding to the money when he’s ready to go. Poster think well. Don’t just say I can’t give a man money

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    7. Anon 20:07..Why can't the rich relatives pay for everything? Must she add the 1 million? What would she and the kids eat? Would u pay her rent for her? This man doesn't care how this woman and his kids will even survive. After feeding and sheltering him ever since they got married, she must still contribute to his travelling, how wicked and ungrateful can one be? Did she give birth to him? See all these lazy men, supporting their fellow lazy pastor and lazy man.

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    8. Poster listen to this advise. I am female and not the husband or a pastor. Lol.

      Why should you? Because you don't have to give him everything, you don't even have to give him a lot. Just show your concern while complaing and letting him know about all the money you need for this and t
      hat and that the you are so sorry you can only give this much.
      ( From his reaction you would know if he has you in mind. As he doesnt expect you to sell your blood to pay for delivery fees)

      Really, not everybody not doing anything is lazy. Some ppl slide into seeming or real laziness from depression and lack of motivation.
      Just keep in mind that you are not giving him cos some pastor said he will make it big. Do it cos he is your husband and you want to support him with the LITTLE you can afford. Its should be little because he has no track record, you ARE in need of money and you don't trust him.

      If he does well and remembers you count it as gain.
      If he does well or bad and doesn't remember you also count it as gain.
      At least you can quickly say good radiance to bad horseband

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  27. Madam poster, if you have eyes, open it now and read very carefully. DO NOT GIVE YOUR HUSBAND A KOBO!. I REPEAT, DO NOT GIVE YOUR HUSBAND A KOBO!! That pastor is very fake. He told you to take in this hellish condition you are in and you actually took in for that deadbeat of a man. And bet me, your horseband will desert you once he lays his pathetic hands on your money.

    You had better open your eyes and use your number six.

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  28. Poster,you married a 419 man. Both him n his pastor are fake. They want to dupe you n abscond with d money.

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  29. While you are at it, please move the money to a new secret account that has no ATM card. They will try to come up with another way to take it from you. Open your eyes and be wise.

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  30. First of all, vaginal birth after previous cs is complicated and there is risk of uterine rupture expacialy if previous cs was unplanned. Plus, your age is another risk factor for natural birth.

    Please and please, save that money for yourself and your children while looking for another job. Your husband has cinnuved with the so-called pastor to dupe you. Be wise. Even if he makes it to the abroad, when will he start sending you money? How much will he be able to save to send to you?

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    1. She took in before the first was even 2? Madam please plan for CS for your health and your baby's. Dont risk pushing just to save money. Your life is priceless.

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  31. Madam don't give him any money, not even 1k.. The Pastor is a scammer... Lazy men everywhere..

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  32. Poster use your tongue to count your teeth, it is so obvious that two of them are colluding together to dupe you. Don't give your money.

    Even though it is real, are they picking money in abroad? Probably he married you because of your money. That Pastor is wicked.

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  33. Considering the financial burden on you and the fact that you are currently unemployed, tough financial times are ahead of you. One million naira isn't much poster. Be wise in your spending. Let your husband go and sort himself out. That is the least he can do considering how you have been upholding the family and the challenges ahead of you. He seems he doesn't even care how you and the children will survive. Make sure you keep your statement of account well away from him. Hide your emails and bank alerts well. May the Lord see you through.

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  34. Please madam dont give those 2 ur hard earn money...dont let them tricked you into giving them.they are in it together,b wise.Else u wil come bck here with another chronicle of saying BVs warned/advised u..

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  35. I don't know y we idolise pastors, don't u have your own sense, ure just too dumb can't u see your husband has connived with the fake pastor to dupe you and DT was y he got married to you immediately when u guys started dating, your husband is bloody scammer that feeds and dupes ladies, in short divorce him and rent a room apartment for u and your kids DT kind of husband can even kill you

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  36. Its all a SCAM. Dont fall for it

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  37. Kelbertha vet ventures, 07035694213, 0803484708013 May 2019 at 15:51

    Pls poster I beg u in d name of d Lord don't give him any more. Are u even sure he really wants to travel or he just wants to dupe u of ur 1m and vamoose? Pls take care of me kids and establish a small biz for urself

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  38. He took advantage of the situation and played in his way to wife you. and now, he's executing the next phase of his plan (free finance to travel abroad for his sole ficticious aims).

    When God wanna establish and flourish one in a place he provides the means in an unimaginable way.

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    1. Thank you Emmanuel Simeon.
      How will you agree to marry someone without knowing his source of livelihood.
      Poster please pay up. You 're owing that man ooo.
      I'm sure it's this poster that sponsored their wedding ceremony , coming here to give us cock and bull story.
      Mtshewwwwwwww.

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  39. This is really serious!Pls,let your husband and his pastor know that you can't afford to donate 1million to their abroad dream right away.Like some one already suggested,sow into their abroad dream any amount you can spare to avoid stories that touch.

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  40. People will just wake up and start asking stupid questions , if you like give him all your money na only you go feel the pain. It irks me how in 2019 people still follow pastors blindly. Be there asking mumu questions , would have given you hot slap if where my relative.

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  41. People have said it all, poster, also think of tomorrow, how will you and your kids survive if you don't have another job immediately?, reduce your spending and invest that money wisely, it is better one doesn't have money at all than to have and suddenly it's not there again, it's worse than a deadly sickness, I'm talking from experience, imagine you use to have money and could afford your needs then the money finishes and you can't afford tiny little things again, the feeling is worse than death sef, please reduce your expenditure and invest that money wisely, a bird at hand is worth more than..., pls be wise for yourself and the kids.

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  42. Don't give him kobo, is a planned work to dupe you o.

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  43. Madam, didn't you read the comments on that poster with a lazy boy child husband that want to travel to Canada? You're in the same WhatsApp group, in this case his mom is the pastor. Ok, since you're not a bad person, just tell them you don't have 1 million but you can help with the flight ticket. I mean your husband already knows how much bills are facing you right now, he should understand (if he's a good person). Still plead with the pastor to help your husband out since he even saw the bright future, he can even use from the seeds that he receives from church...

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  44. Do you trust your mum with money? if yes, transfer 900k to her and keep 100k to yourself, so you won't be tempted to give them your money by the time dem go Don use hypo wash your head.

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  45. Poster, please remember to update us with what you finally decided to do and the end result.

    Seriously, DON'T FALL FOR IT!!!!

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  46. Don't give anybody your money, hide all your ATM cards.
    open your eyes, this looks shady

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  47. Madam, they want to scam you. If you want to travel abroad, do the research by yourself and have a clear picture of when and how you will travel as well as what you are going there to do. This one is clear wayo, don't fall mugu. Your money will go and you will do nothing.

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  48. Poster, he lied to you before you got married and you think he has stopped lying. It's very glaring that it's a plan deal between the two of them.
    Don't give him a dime. Except you are ready to suffer.

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  49. I had to comment. Please don’t try it. It will be your greatest regrets. He’s a man , let him work it out. It doesn’t have to be you that will be the money. A word is enough for the wise.

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  50. Why do you ladies do this to yourself? Do you really feel so unlovable?
    Do you really need to be told before you know that you shouldn't give this man money?

    Where do you find these men? Who told y'all that you can't do better?
    Why can't y'all love yourselves enough to hold out for better?

    With all the chronicles we read here everyday? Na wa!

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  51. And the truth is your husband is not even going to any abroad. He will share the money with the pastor and tell you he was refused visa. But if he eventually travels and decide to push you aside because you didn't give him the money... Let it be, no regrets in taking measure for your safety. Best of luck and God bless you.

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  52. help a man at your own risk and moreover your husband and the pastor are working together to scam you, men don't deserve to be helped cs they are like chameleons, they can change at any time, their dicks controls them

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  53. Abroad is not always the answer! Your pastor should pray for your husband to prosper here in Nigeria. Does he know all the wahala abroad pple have? You are moments away from being abandoned with 2 children who did not ask to be born and at that time the pastor will be no where to be found or not be able to help you much.
    Be wise. Plan for your new baby and and encourage your husband to better his lot in Nigeria. If it is Gods will for you to travel, he will make provision for that.
    Stop letting these pastors control your life. Use your head. Haba....I just tire...

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  54. For the very first time, IMO, Stella's red ink is flowing with wisdom. Poster, please heed.

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  55. Madam i was once in your shoes. i gave my ex over 10 million naira for his 'business' He abandoned me and the kids and went and married another wife before we even divorced. DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES GIVE THAT MAN A DIME!!! Hide your money well well!!!

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  56. Madam i was once in your shoes. i gave my ex over 10 million naira for his 'business' He abandoned me and the kids and went and married another wife before we even divorced. DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES GIVE THAT MAN A DIME!!! Hide your money well well!!!

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  57. Your babalawo pastor and lazy husband are both SCAM.
    Use that money to pay your bills in advance now and baby things , let's see which money he's attracted to.
    They both heard of the settlement allowance from your work and plan to cut it.

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  58. Chronicles of these days shaπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Stella, your blog just dey catch fireπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

    Aunty, I take God beg you, no let even your N100 wey tear, touch their hand.πŸ™ That pastor and your lazy hubby, dem be fraud!!!!

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  59. Keep ur money,allow him to source for funds elsewhere.

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  60. They let their pastors tell them whom to marry and whom not to marry. Those same pastors also tell them how to run their homes. I don't know what the problem is with some women.

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  61. I HAVE READ OVER 20 COMMENT HERE THEIR ARE ALL SAYING THE SAME THING, INCLUDING OUR STELLA.
    OPEN A NEW ACCOUT WITH OTHER BANK AND TRANSFER 90% OF THAT MONEY THERE. MAKE SURE YOU DON'T FILL FOR ANY ALET OR ATM CARD. FORGET YOUR HUSBAND AND PASTOR THEIR ARE OLE, PARAWO, NDI OSHI,INO

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  62. I have been wondering , If the pastor really picked interest in your hubby, he should give him the money to travel with. I can't imagine two grown ass men planning to dupe a pregnant women. Please don't fall for their scam.

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  63. Madam 38 years old
    Your only problem is this your pastor pastor life.
    Ride on.

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  64. Stella God bless you and BVs. From the comment, I can see that most of us are free from mental slavery and the bondage of pastorpreneurs, our parents may have made the mistake and led us to follow suit, our kids will not... Thank you

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    1. Hmm, don’t be so sure. Don’t you know that making a decision when you are not part of the situation is easier than making a decision in a situation that directly affects you? These rational comments may not be so easy to make when we are directly involved.

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  65. You're a newly jobless sole breadwinner for yourself and ypur child and you have one more on the way and your layabout husband is getting a "pastor" to tell you to put your last card into a liar?
    If you're foolish enough to give him that money you will see him use it on frivolous things and still be staring in your face with your hand out.

    With your last card, find a cheaper place for JUST YOU and your children to live in while looking for another job or business venture to get into.

    Desperation got you into this draining marriage don't let it suck you dry

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  66. My dear, I pity you if you do. From the word go, you were SCAMMED and that man is on a mission about to be accomplished. You are not the first to fall prey to this kind of men. He and the 'pastor' are partners in crime. A reputable man of God will ask your horseband to go, work and gather first if he truly wants to go abroad. I am very sure you are the talking type revealing everything to your horsband including how much you earn, paid off, acquired assets etc. If he genuinely loves you, he will not allow you carry such burden- house rent, feeding, ante-natal and delivery. Please why did he not ask another man to impregnate you? In this current economic situation, you allowed yourself to enter this kind one chance, had one child and still go ahead with the next? Please how do people think? I am very sure, you are a graduate but your horseband and 'pastor' are not. How do people allow themselves to be manipulated like this just because of 'marriage?' Sorry, I am very selfish about myself; I am a woman and where I come from, men take care of women and their responsibilities, please.If you like give them your N1m na when landlord come for him rent you go know how far, mind you, if you remove N1 from that money, it is no longer million. And if you consider the cost of living nowadays, you'll be making the greatest mistake of your life. Me, don't love like that, I don't love with my money at all. The man is wicked. So he will go 'abroad' while you remain here suffering with his own children? Na wa ooh, is it not better to be single or a single mother than this trash?

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  67. A mature woman of 35-38 years is asking this kind question? Inukwa. I am sure you funded your traditional and white wedding. The thing this 'marriage' issue go cause for this world eeeh. Biko, what will you advise an 18-20 years if they ask you this kind question? This is broad daylight scam from day one, well planned and executing in stages. Please who are the women raising this kind of men?

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  68. What is your gut telling you? Ask God for advice he will lead you and dont be desperate.

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  69. DO NOT DO IT!!!!! Start now to cry that you don't have money and you have a lot of bills to pay. I say again, DON'T EVER TRY IT!!! On a good day, that man wouldn't have married you cos of your age but he saw you as his meal ticket and pay mistress and boom, he married you. A real man would be worried about how you and his children will cope since you have lost your job. It is conspiracy ooooo. DONT GIVE HIM ANY MONEY!!!! Just pretend to care but let him know that you don't have money to give him.

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  70. The pastor that wants to help should go all the way and provide the funds na. Madam, this handwriting is too clear

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